I Thought The Boys Would Fight Over Her But Things Went A Bit Different

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For everybody watching, there are TWO mares in the arena with THREE geldings. Not four geldings and one mare. Here's a follow up video to watch: • Horses Become Best Fri...
I think it's really important to get horses integrated into the herd as soon as possible so they can socialize more and be together so we can all work together to improve. In this video I introduce our quarter horse Roni to the mix and things didn't quite go as I expected... Overall though, I good session for everybody even though I had to step in a couple of times and calm things down.
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@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

For everybody watching, there are TWO mares in the arena with THREE geldings. Not four geldings and one mare. Here's a follow up video to watch: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-6DizMIu8c9o.html

@jillsimmons110 2 года назад

You would absolutely be the one I would want to protect me or my loved ones. We think the world of you.

@sandrastevens4418 2 года назад

She is just a little nervous. Excellent show of horse communication. I am truly amazed by how well you communicate with your horses.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Wow! thank you. I'll definitely take that as a high compliment.

@sandrastevens4418 2 года назад

@@StableHorseTraining You can tell when someone speaks horse language, their horses are relaxed around them, you don't need to use treats or chase them to catch them because you speak their language and show kindness they will just follow your commands without having to a loud voice or worse a whip. A horses skin is 10 times more sensitive than human skin, you can tell that by how they twitch when a fly lands on them. Horses are extremely sensitive animals and people just don't seem to understand that. You don't need big bits and spurs for a horse to move because as you show in the video they will move with just external pressure. Like a dance. I am greatly enjoying your channel.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

@@sandrastevens4418 Thank you very much Sandra :) I agree with all of that except the skin sensitivity part. I've really thought on this as I wonder why people use the phrase that a horse can feel a fly land on them, so can I though! I can feel a fly flying around me and setting down for half a second. Mosquitos, the worst for that! We catch them all the time, especially if they touch a hair. So I think that "maybe" they are more sensitive than us, but at the same time they don't seem to flinch much when another horse bites them, whereas I scream like a little girl if I get bitten :)

@kari8187 2 года назад

You stepping in to cut off Mr Wildie was what sealed the deal for her with you. You have her back and she knows it now. That was great

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

It's quite possible! We'll see over this week if I have an even better relationship

@aileen694 2 года назад

Wow! Lots of action there! You're a brave dude, Graeme...very impressive, the way you move them around. They definitely know that you are the leader. I was surprised at Oscar chasing Miss with such intent! They'd already made friends... I think Roni instigated that mood. And she sees you as her boss and safety, so all that patient ground work pays off. I wonder why Roni is so intensely attached to Lena? Little Miss must have a strong presence, to cause so much agression from the others. Since you've taught us about the subtlety of horse communication, I could see lots of clear talking among them, fascinating.! What happened after you left? So just Yoka and The Firecracker left to go...get ready!

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Not much happened after I left. A bit more chasing here and there but it was quite quiet.

@kayo.cart3 2 года назад

This is a horse opera. Suspenseful

@donnacsuti4980 2 года назад

I've read the leading mare in wild horse herds is not a breeding mare often but the smartest bravest (some times strong also)

@Pink7omy 2 года назад

Her snorting is soooooooo cute 🥰 she’s all like “don’t mess with me!”

@ayeda69 2 года назад

Well that was exciting! She can definitely hold her own - you can tell she has herd experience. Her snorts get me every time :) Also what you did (what you called interference) seemed warranted IMO and everything seemed to settle down finally.

@ravena1441 2 года назад

This was super interesting to watch. I have no experience with horses, but I'm pretty sure once you intervened, she recognised you as a safe space and that's why she kept sort of coming back to you, because she trusted you to step in if the boys kept bothering her too much. Thank you for sharing this moment with us. I hope they are getting alone better now ^-^

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

I'm glad you enjoyed it! Yes, I think it's something like that too and I believe it helps the herd in the end. Yes, they all get along great now :) All of the latest videos here show that and it's wonderful

@caitlinw8351 2 года назад

love how luke just hung out while you chased roni around. interesting how he knew it wasn’t about him even when you got pretty close

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

I find it fascinating that horses can sort out if they are being talked to or not

@mk6945 2 года назад

Miss Wildey moves a lot faster than I thought she would. She has some wheels on her. Luke never ceases to amaze me. He is a smart, sensitive horse. Definitely looks to you for direction, After you intervened, he seemed to be watching you for cues.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

She has wheels! ha... I love that saying, totally forgot about until now. Yes, Luke is really amazing, love that guy

@jeanday9747 2 года назад

You controlled the situation very well. I can tell that you love your horses and you're experience shows. The gray mare will fit in nicely with the herd. Great video.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Thank you so much!

@raven8069 2 года назад

My mare is so feisty and wants to be the boss but simultaneously the only one in the herd that doesn’t bully others. Like my other three horses just spend their days trying to figure out who is where and it’s been like that for years. My mare Lil is the only one they took a sniff of and were like, oh she is the one in charge. I haven’t seen any of them test her they just know the moment they met to stay out of her way.

@astronomydemon6312 2 года назад

You're so gentle to them, and the fact you talk to them and let them know what's going on, and letting them interact, but keeping them from going too far. I greatly appreciate how calm you are.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Thank you very much :)

@mikeyangel420 2 года назад

The way she snorts loudly after you step in like "YEAH THAT'S RIGHT. YOU TELL EM." so cute 😊

@GR-dw9nm 2 года назад

"You're in good shape... Relatively" Also happens to be how my doctors describe me.

@suchisthismystery2814 2 года назад

I'm a London city boy and yet I was absolutely asorbed watching this. Your beautiful new girl seems very confident and able to look after herself bless. I was so touched my your gentle, caring, watchful, responsive, loving manner - what a sweet man you are. Thank you for sharing this with us; I really appreciate.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Welcome to the channel and all the shenanigans we get up to around here :)

@DS-ky9dl 2 года назад

Very interesting , the interaction of your horses. Also, the fact that they are so different in personality. I enjoy your explanation of the action and that you tried to affect their actions without interfering. They will sort it out and become a fine little herd. Does the fact that there is an uneven number of horses affect the dynamics, I wonder?

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

I don't think it matters the numbers. I've seen pairs, singles and trios and as such they all just hang out with their bestie kind of thing

@pamcoyer9582 2 года назад

Beautiful horses!! They seem so happy on the ranch. Lots of room to play. You have a great understanding of them. Lovely to watch.

@erikaronnqvist2192 2 года назад

This was beutifull. ❤ I miss when I worked with horses, especially 1 year olds. They try to act like they are big strong independent wild horses but then something scary happens and they come running to you for protection. 😂

@LadyCoyKoi 2 года назад

Wow... definition of an alpha female indeed. 🥰🐎 *sorry no grey horse emoji* She can hold her own. It is like Pre-K, everyone is figuring out everything and each other. Very interesting stuff from a teachers' perspective, but learned a lot from watching this.

@JJ_Jordan0 2 года назад

I've never seen a male horse get protective over a female like the red one did over the paint.... It's beautiful and very interesting..... Weird how powerful love is- "a lot of times I'll hear about how animals don't have souls so they won't act like people" (yet I just seen that happen between horses-)

@katrinaingram7871 2 года назад

At the barn my family's horses are staying there were couple of horses tht are as buddy sour as those 2

@IGot7RevtinyArmyStayOnceBlink 2 года назад

I have horses and other animals in general and anyone who says animals don’t have a soul or can’t do interesting things that we sometimes do are completely lost. Sometimes I feel some humans forget we are also animals 😂. We’re just more intelligent but we are animals too. And I’ve seen some interesting things in terms of love.

@OwlWitch5141 2 года назад

I never realized how horses communicated. This just showed up on my recommended page and I decided to click. I'm really fascinated by how creatures bond and things like that so this was really interesting for me

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Glad you enjoyed it!

@erika7674 2 года назад

As regards her smaller size, she looks to me like a Connemara, or Connemara cross. For those that aren't familiar with this breed, they come/came from the west coast of Ireland and come in all shades of grey. Tough and hardy like the Icelandics!

@prae7068 2 года назад

Ireland or Iceland?

@eilidhmuir9279 2 года назад

The horse I ride is a bay Connemara

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Hmmm... Well, maybe her owner will do a DNA test on her one day and we'll know!

@jfdc8432 2 года назад

@@prae7068 Connemara's originally come from Ireland. Erika is comparing them to Icelandics, which are a breed from Iceland and are extremely hardy. She's saying Connemara horses are tough and hardy like the Icelandic horses.

@osteophagus 2 года назад

Her leg to belly ratio is adorable, she's certainly quick on her feet! 😂

@AL-lz1hb 2 года назад

Well held at the beginning! She was being so sweet and good on the lead, I wasn't expecting that explosion. (Reckon that's we have you doing the handling and not us?😉 ) It's the letting go bit I thought she might just career off but she was good. I'm hoping she and Yoka might pal up. 🤞 She needs a nice chum and Yoka is a pretty sorted sort.

@sheilaedie7408 2 года назад

I love guys who are gentle with animals! Beautiful, gorgeous, horses, …. made my day!

@ladydustin7811 2 года назад

Funny indeed

@misscottencandy15 2 года назад

I think Luke is sensing this grey Queen is her own boss 👀 Being a good respectful boy probably is his best chance at getting close to her What a sharp guy hahaha

@tinachippas7075 2 года назад

Held my breath a couple of times. Find their actions and reactions absorbing.

@dylantaylor3599 2 года назад

I love how stout the little gray mare is and lena is gorgeous, looks like a powerhouse who gets all the boys 😍😂😂

@PirouettingFox 2 года назад

Her snorts are the cuuuuutest!!!!!!! I love her so much. I wish the mare Roni was protecting could have had a chance to really get to know the new one. Luke is just, wow, was calm & gentle guy. But what impresses me the most is you. They listen to you, look to you for direction. And you have confidence & just, such an incredible presence. I've never seen such calm order from a human trainer/owner to his horses. Fear is so often what people use but I can tell you are kind & love these horses. This is my first time here but I'm gonna binge lol Also, when Mr. Wildie stopped & turned on a dime, wow!!!! I didn't know horses could do that. I watched that moment 10 times. She is so brave enduring being picked on a bit & still saying "I'm here, back off or be nice."

@PirouettingFox 2 года назад

Als

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

There are other videos of Lena with her and they do ok. 😊 Thank you for such a nice compliment! I appreciate you taking the time to write that.

@PirouettingFox 2 года назад

Ok I know I'm going back to the very beginning so I have a lot of comments to reply to but I just had to start here. It's funny watching this video again as a devoted supporter & observer compared to when I saw this for the first time. But I still mean those words & appreciate you responding to my very first comment. I'm so sad that all this time I never knew. I remember feeling a little left out at first but understanding how incredibly busy you are, I didn't mind. But then hearing you make a point to mention me & the comments I pour my heart into. To know that they have been reaching you, it seriously means the world to me. I've listened to it so many times today. Lol 😅 I did figure out what was wrong & I'm so embarrassed. It's something so simple that I assumed was on but all these years I guess it wasn't. But I fixed it & now I'll know when you respond. And yes, I'm going to find & read & respond to all the responses I can find. So when I blow up your notifications I apologize in advance. You certainly don't need to respond to all or any. But out of appreciation & respect for the time you took to respond to my comments, it's something I really want to do. You're the best!

@graceb9628 2 года назад

Little Miss sure is assertive, isn't she? I wonder if she had more of a leadership role in her wild herd?

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

I think so

@ashleywigger4266 2 года назад

I love how u have full conversations with your horses🤣💜 it’s so sweet

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Some people think I'm quite weird, so.. thanks! I always appreciate a kindred spirit!

@xxashley314xx 2 года назад

@Stable Horse Training so are the slotted one and other together?

@xxashley314xx 2 года назад

@Stable Horse Training spotted*

@martineinfrance 2 года назад

This is fascinating! Roni is chasing her out. I wonder why, because she is a stranger to the herd? I remember 2 years ago he was the lead horse, is he still? Or has the herd dynamics changed due to new arrivals and departures?

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

He's still the high horse

@martineinfrance 2 года назад

@@StableHorseTraining fine !! I like that in spite of the many changes occurred. Thank you!

@kelsiecaswell9845 2 года назад

I like the girls and boys thing you did, reaffirmed your position as high horse being able to remove the geldings from the mares

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Thank you!

@dannycalico7739 2 года назад

Thanks for these absolutely beautiful videos. I am about to retire in a month and a half and these videos have convinced me that when I get back up to my little 164 acre ranch in Montana I will be purchasing a few horses. I have been living in the desert in Vegas for a very long time. It's going to feel great to be up there knowing I don't have to go back. The Christmas video was enough to bring back those feelings.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Now that is really cool. I'm so glad to have been able to make such an amazing impact and I'm positive your life will be that much more fantastic for having horses in it. I hope you'll check in sometimes and let me know how that goes! That's a nice big space to have them on for sure and I wish you the very best for that

@Sofiarivassculptor 2 года назад

I love your facilities very clean and organized. What type of dirt are you using?

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Thanks! The arena is washed sand.

@unrulycrow6299 2 года назад

I love that little grey mare, what I'm seeing so far fits everything I enjoy in a horse, with a small compact build but great energy and beautiful moves, and a gentle eye. Even in this situation when she must make friends with a new heard, she remains gentle and seems very smart with a good sense for quick decisions. She gives me the impression of a very reliable horse.

@phydauex 2 года назад

Fascinating to watch the subtle body language communication. You did a nice job of supervising the introduction.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Thank you :)

@StargazingYou 2 года назад

I love how understanding and nice he is to the horses :)

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Thank you!

@Zeruk 2 года назад

wow this was intersting i thought i stopped liking horses but theyre still awesome

@Desaree1 2 года назад

I LOVE this and couldnwatch all day. I love his commentary...it's so beautiful the horsey

@Ruizfamilia140 2 года назад

She told them WHATS UP

@rich7934 2 года назад

Did Little Miss and Mr Wylde both come from the same area? Wonder if they might have been neighboring herds, and she still has the `smell' of the other herd and he is driving her away to protect his current herd? If this was a few months back and he was still intact, the interaction might have been slightly different...

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

No, they're from different parts of BC

@jenniferbell4571 2 года назад

I love her! "Yeah... what he said!"

@BeyondEcho95 2 года назад

It's so important they know WHO'S the real boss in the arena

@theresasalazar5822 2 года назад

The grey is a beautiful girl

@Senu461 2 года назад

She's like "don't tell me to calm down " lol She's like me when I'm upset

@veronicasmith1147 2 года назад

Bit scary for her no pals yet

@Rubendybs 2 года назад

Its good for a horse to have their emotional support human standing by :)

@meredithgrubb4497 2 года назад

My God, that grey mare is stunningly beautiful. She is adorably rotund. She has my heart.

@mogauthier1000 2 года назад

Little Miss and Mr. Wilde have very similar head and bone structure…I thought they might have been from the same gene pool. I just love her colouring. She’s not a pushover that’s for sure but knows where to go for safety. 👍🏻 Very interesting to watch.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

They do look similar for sure, but interestingly from completely different parts of B.C.

@faithm9284 2 года назад

She doesn't want any of them. 🥺 She is looking for your protection.

@electrictofumuffins6384 2 года назад

Watching human effect behavior?

@Sarah_seaside 2 года назад

Awww I love horses 🐎 ❤️ The new girl is so beautiful and majestic. I absolutely love her coloring.

@wolfmoon9816 2 года назад

Aw i love horses so much they are such magical amazing creatures and have done a lot for humans....they are truly fantastic and i love them so much and they always love me its so beyond sick to me that ppl can abuse animals ur horses look very happy and i hope u help the poor ones who need help

@1_aiartist_1001effects Год назад

it's always fun and exciting to see your videos..thx

@jemmalouisebennett610 2 года назад

Omg she so beautiful gorgeous and is showing the boy horses who is in charge she just so beautiful 😍

@charlieadams1313 2 года назад

Just waiting on that squeal with the mares. Every damn time I’ve been around mare introductions there’s the same behaviour. We always introduce in paddocks or with hay and it’s impressive how many times there’s quick sniff introductions and then grazing

@joshschneider9766 2 года назад

10:58 omg like a millimeter from smashing her face I I'd wet myself right there sir, you're fearless haha

@arctikal 2 года назад

Oh Roni, you jealous and possessive boyfriend!

@trishashton3687 2 года назад

I LOVE this soooo much! I just can't thank you enough for this. You made my day!!!

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

You are so welcome!

@pennylane428 2 года назад

Good Sunday morning Graeme👋🏼 looking forward for a Gracie reacts video! I imagine there’s going to be a lot of vocalization when meeting Little Miss, all three girls excluding Yoka are very good it seems at letting it be heard 🙉 in the herd

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

That video will be out tomorrow :)

@pennylane428 2 года назад

@@StableHorseTraining really looking forward to it. I’ve commented to you on one occasion bc I’ve had a fascination my whole life with Arabians that was thwarted by my parents/trainer feeling that I should stick with quarter horses. I have an established lovely herd of QH mares so I live vicariously through Gracie and her charm.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

"charm", that is a great word for her 😊

@jemmalouisebennett610 2 года назад

Aww didn't know there was another mare in the feal they are all gorgeous

@RiverValleyHolstein 2 года назад

This was great! Love the commentary and beautiful location. What a bond you have with them !

@AshAnimatesowo 2 года назад

Its 12 am and I have school and I'm watching horses :')

@candaceforan4464 2 года назад

This is my first video of yours. I enjoyed it very much. Thank you for explaining as you go, I love but don't understand horses.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Awesome! Thank you for letting me know, and welcome to the channel!

@mamoros56 Год назад

Wow, what a confident fire-breathing dragoness! And she's beautiful! Looking forward to seeing more of her.

@StableHorseTraining Год назад

This video is 2 years old and that horse is long gone from here. You can watch older videos of her of course :)

@kyliewilson2280 2 года назад

The grey mare is gorgeous anyone who's lucky enough to have her in their lives should know that they have a little gem ❤️

@tanisetremblay4386 2 года назад

Wow love how much you understand horses love your commentary 👏 ❤

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Wow, thank you

@murphysmenagerie9239 2 года назад

First time watching... Not a horse person, just love them. I was wondering when you brought the gray mare into the arena, she was all wet around the bridle path and her stomach. What causes that?

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

I think her belly was like that from lying down and I don't see the top of her head wet, just clumpy hair a bit due to being wet and a bit dirty from before. Just needed a good brushing probably.

@pattirockgarden4423 2 года назад

The herd starts out telling her she's gotta earn her way into the herd. Ultimately, the horses need to sort it out among themselves. Gray mare can take care of herself, for sure!

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

What does it look like to "earn" a way into a herd? I'm curious as to what a horse would do to reach another horse's goal for entry.

@robincarter5769 2 года назад

@@StableHorseTraining Wouldn't it look like a selfless act or using one's own energy to benefit another? Or bringing a skill others lack, like a complementary skill? She wowed them as soon as they saw her effortless gait. "I may be running away but it's more my choice than yours. You wish you had my coordination and grace." Maybe it's showing she can bring that benefit to the herd. She may have excelled in hoof-eye coordination the way her head stays so stable while her body quickly moves? I know less than you have forgotten, so either your question was for the simpletons, ironic (like how youngsters use the word), polite, or humbleness; and that is why no one replied till I blundered into it like I know something...I may be need to socialize myself a bit more. I may need to gather some herd. I'll have to answer the human version of your question to do that.

@JamScamly 2 года назад

🐎 Horse Dynamics 🐎 will i ever understand them ??

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

yes

@phoebetheoneandonly365 2 года назад

Lol Oreo sandwich

@katzshatz57 2 года назад

Hello,nice channel

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Thanks for coming!

@Bubbleguppie-zn3lp 2 года назад

That’s not a horse that’s a dragon 🐉

@Bananapeelz098 2 года назад

This is a prime example of having horse knowledge. I salute you sir 👏🏼

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Thank you very much!

@lilnh1039 2 года назад

She said sorry, never know what to expect from humans. After a while with you she will be fine.

@rebeccahiggins2369 2 года назад

Excuse my lack of knowledge, but what was the purpose of all this?

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Introducing a new horse to the herd after her meeting them each one on one, now it was time for a herd meet.

@DADRacingYT 2 года назад

what a beautiful horse. that color is stunning

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

Thank you

@mikeimp1965 2 года назад

The male horses probably didn’t want to NAY the wrong thing…

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

har har

@STEPHANIEH70 Год назад

Awww Little Miss, I certainly miss seeing her pretty self. I hope she’s living the dream with her new owners.

@crazyhairsinger Год назад

Did she get rehomed because she didn't fit in with the other horses or something? Sorry to ask I just don't know.

@annelevitt4793 2 года назад

Very interesting, and beautiful horses. . But, why is there a wood board in the middle? Is there a function for it?

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

It's a bridge to train on as some horses get worried about those things

@joshschneider9766 2 года назад

Holy smokes they get faster than you normally think about in a straight line alright! Not really a horse person but this wad pretty darn neat to see!

@mariafont8826 2 года назад

Me encantó tu manera de tratarlos. Me suscribí. Saludos desde Uruguay. 🇺🇾

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

¡Gracias por suscribirse! Bienvenido!

@yolandacastano4321 2 года назад

She doesn't like those horses maybe they're not romantic enough🐎💖🥰😁

@Tumbledweeb 2 года назад

Or maybe she's a whole-ass lesbian?

@gaypreator8547 2 года назад

Geldings, fight for / over what??? They’ll sort it out.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

And they did!

@lenablack9263 2 года назад

Hello Lena from Lena

@1_aiartist_1001effects Год назад

nice grey horse ❤❤❤

@lindalakota38 2 года назад

I must say she is gorgious.

@doonewatts7155 2 года назад

Stroppy mare lol

@tiffanybarfield8911 2 года назад

I have to say I'm only 6 minutes into this video, and I know nothing horses. However as a woman, I feel like she's more interested in the young dark male more than any of the other ones. She has continuously circled back to him, but put her human in front of her and the other ones.

@tiffanybarfield8911 2 года назад

And now that I've finished the video I think Ronie is protecting Lena, and Luke cares less than Mr Wilde and the light mare likes Mr Wilde. Maybe I'm wrong but those are my opinions with fresh eyes, uninfluenced by horse history, or any understanding of the herd whatsoever.

@StableHorseTraining 2 года назад

@@tiffanybarfield8911 Those are great observations! Good for you. That's reasonably accurate in my opinion