Don’t let this story or maybe a past similar experience that you may have had dim your outlook on successful relationships. Relationships can work with the proper communication, transparency, authenticity, and just the sole fact of wanting to be committed to each other. I didn’t let this experience alter my opinion. As you can see this video is not to bash my ex wife. It’s just to share my story in hopes to shed light and inspire. This happened 4 years ago, I’ve learned from this experience and leveled up. With that being said I will not tolerate any bashing or negative comments towards my ex in the comment section. That’s not the purpose of this video. Those comments will be deleted 💯🙏🏾
I am so sorry this happened to you..😞 This is not your fault! SHE had a choice to do or not to do. She CHOSE to do!!! May you one day find someone that loves you like you love them and respects you like you respect them 🙏🏾 All ladies do not do that!!🌹
As a black man, who is a therapist and who is divorced, I must say I applaud your skill approach to healing. May God bless you as you move to your next chapter. We men need to talk to each other more.
@Keith D. Jones Everything That You & Corey Jones Talked About Deals With The "Red 💊 Pill".Because In Today's Society Women Want Traditional Old School 🏫 Men;But,They Do Not Want To Be Traditional Old School 🏫 Wives 🆗️✅💯💯
@@USArmyRetired I was talking about this with my aunt. I feel like generations change and then change back. It seems like moms generation were like "independent women'' mindset and the woman doesn't cook regularly, or nurturing her partner. Anyway, I think the new generation is getting tired of the feminist movement and are moving towards the more traditional man/woman connection. We want to love and take care of our man, our love, our air that we breathe... I am grateful to have found someone. But because the other women are more visible and vocal, the loving, nurturing and supportive ones get looked or lumped in with the rest. My advice, is educate yourself, choose a partner based on the RIGHT reasons. Look for substance instead of superficial things. This goes for men and women. Of course this isn't fool proof, losers fall in our laps sometimes. But keep the faith✌️
@Keith D. Jones. Agreed. The healing is a process but to see a black man be so transparent, vulnerable and strong at the same time is encouraging. I pray he continues to heal and let God lead.
Doesn't matter I'm not trying figure out what Vows ppl are taking... Everyone seems to be like these fortune 500 companies taking any loopholes available
True, tripping and falling is a mistake, not deciding and acting. For me cheating is the highest form of betrayal. The intentions, the lies, the deceit, no it can't be a mistake, sorry.
The act AND hiding it, making a fool of him. I know a guy who was cheated on and the wife cheated on him. Made sure to cheat with a guy who looked similar to her husband so if she got pregnant, she could pass the kid off as her husband’s. She got caught, and got dumped. Other guy was in it for sex, so he bounced. Husband is with someone better. She’s alone now and says she regrets it. Nope, she regrets getting caught.
It may sound weird but bro you are lucky you came out of this kind of relationship as early as possible. And the fact that kids are not involved is the best thing.
She wanted the relationship to end from the jump she didn’t disguise his name and left her iPad on YOUR night stand and then told you she had him over at the hotel! She wanted you to break it up she didn’t want to be the one to pull the plug
She never wanted to be married or the relationship . You are exactly right. Him putting her in a hotel was not the right move it gave her the green light for her to be with that adulterer. Smh.....smh.....smh.....smh
As a divorced man myself. I felt how heavy this was on you Bro. I appreciate your transparency. Once you find that one woman you prayed for, you’ll see how much easier it is to love again. I’m a living witness. Been remarried almost 5 years now.
Man, the fact that there are men who really value relationship/marriage is awesome! Kinda gives me hope that one day I'll get married to a God fearing, monogamous faithful man!
@@lefty206 Why are YOU worried about someone (LIKE ME) being worried about her life?..And then you have the nerve to tell me what I should do with my time..? (b*tch please!🤨)…Maybe you should follow your own advice regarding “time management”😑. But hey if you’re going to allow me to occupy space in your mind (rent free) I’m not going to complain.😂
@@TheRTM what's funny is that you call God an "invisible sky daddy" showing your limited perspective and understanding but you're telling her to grow up. Where do you think you came from? What animates your soul? Where did it come from and where is it going? If you can't answer these questions then you have no standing when telling someone their beliefs are unfounded. You can say humans have probably misunderstood God or the universe throughout history because like babies, we can't conceive of something so much more complex than ourselves, but you cannot say with any certainty that God, an intelligent creator of any kind, doesn't exist. The fact that you think consciousness comes from nowhere or appears by some random chance says you haven't thought things through very deeply. I suggest doing some of that before trying to clown people online. To people who HAVE given it some thought you sound juvenile and ignorant. The funny thing is, the ones who are the meanest to others are the ones who don't believe in something bigger. Is that a coincidence? Probably not.
As a woman who will never cheat, i will say this; the moment that you realize that a woman has a tendency to cheat you should run. Not cheating is about respect for yourself and your body as a woman. Its never about the man or the relationship. A virtuous woman would never feel comfortable sharing her body , or having anything intimate with more than one man. A tendency to cheat means when problems come, she will cheat, and problems always come
I agree. I see some men trying to do things to prevent their woman from cheating. If you think that she would cheat in the right situation, oh she gonna cheat at some point. Just a matter of time.
@@jbmiami9010 WHY YOU SAY THAT BOOPIE? I THINK I'M RIGHT. I DON'T REALLY GET EMOTIONAL OVER THING'S TOO MUCH HOWEVER THE DEATH OF MY GRANDBOY THAT I SEEN WITH MY OWN EYE'S WAS HORRIBLE. THAT BRINGS ME TO TEARS FOR MY DAUGHTER.
@@thepr3tty116 I say that because I can tell my painful story without crying but it still hurts. And I think if it still hurts one has not healed, it’s only been a year but I’m ready for it to pass.
@@jbmiami9010 AWWW I UNDERSTAND AND HEAR YOU. GUESS WHAT?? I BELIEVE YOU TOO! MAYBE I SHOULD'VE SAID IT DIFFERENTLY? I'M GLAD YOUR NOT IN THAT SITUATION ANYMORE 😌 🙂
It takes a strong man to be open about being cheated on. Most men in today’s society seek revenge, & take their hurt out on other women. Wisdom and maturity at its finest 👏🏽
No woman wants a man that is weak and doesn't know how to control her. Woman love a man that leads. This person is lying. All the woman that I have do things for me not the other way round.
The women praying for a good black man are typically women from other races. Black women, or what I refer to as Kkkeishas, are praying to the Creator, to give them an unnatural situation where they get to be the man or the woman based on which gender is receiving benefits and or conveniences. Kkkeishas should focus on putting an end to their body count while leaving black men alone. Your mothers taught you to despise anything with wooly hair, especially your children and the men who still carry the phenotype of Christ. All that "sisters bring to a marriage at this point is misery and inappropriate compromise.
Lord heal this young man. Restore him so that he will be able to love again. Let him look to you, cry out to you, and love on you as you guide him in Jesus name Amen.
He did what most men don't understand. He took accountability for the relationship as the head. He attempted to bring them into a different space She wasn't mature enough to be ready for him.
Wise words, I was more direct and mean because he needs it. But this is very true. Dudes gotta stop letting females make ACTIONS against them, become optimistic, then make no repercussion for their actions
2 B exact! that is not true! Who told you that? You go through whatever you go through bc of ur sinful ways. If you were to make up your mind to do that which is right in God's eyes, then what things are you talking about going through, other than life? It shows you really don't know Him. The Lord said very few find the Heavenly Father. You do not and cannot find Him just bc you accepted Christ. You must forsake you wicked ways (unless you can say your ways are his ways) and fulfill righteousness. No one can fulfill righteousness on the internet. If you fulfill righteousness by walking with the Lord and taking his yoke(s - one s hidden) and enter his two rests, then he will reveal the Patyr; to you. Why would the Lord introduce you to the Patyr' when you refuse to honor your word to depart the sins you ask him to forgive you of? You are not a teacher. What are you?
This is absolutely BS: life and relationship has nothing to do with God. We are the God's. PERIOD. You have to protect yourself and never ever put a woman above your. Always put you first. Woman fall for men by doing things for her man . Woman love language is different than men. Men love for real. That's why men feel the hurt more. So guys learn and understand women role and men's role. Then you will start to see the bigger picture. Also don't ever ever take advice from women. Don't do it. That's how you get programmed for failure 😂😂😂😂
It’s important who is in your circle as a single person and it’s even more important who is in your circle as a married couple! You are the company you keep!
@@xoangelicaf0523 thank you..I appreciate you & your comment. The side eyes single friends get esp during rough martial patches is real👀However some of us are rooting for all that you are in any capacity.. we know what the other spouse puts up with😉😁plus we’re usually wanting & hoping for our own forever future any time any day soon…
@@xoangelicaf0523 Single or married, you are in good company, that's the premise behind "birds of a feather". Positive people are both married and single.
I went through this for 16-years and as a black man it placed me in a mild depression. I went to therapy, prayed, and moved on. Thanks for sharing 🖤 fellow black men let’s heal.
Fellow humans, I love you but hate sin. There is no club for ya'll as there is none for us. Pffft, Yeah, your narcissism is showing pal, get one, a good one but DEFINITELY..... ......get a bloody grip.
Going thru a divorce now. Met him at 20, we have 2 children. I'm 34 now and he put me thru the ringer. Gave him my 20s and took his excuses, I can't sacrifice my 30s. I felt like a failure too, but in the end I know I did everything I could to only be with someone who did nothing to better the situation. I wish him nothing but success, I will always have love for him but my spirit/ trust/ heart was dead within our marriage. I am not bitter I am better ♥
You’re story is literally my story from being married entire twenties to having two children. Made up my mind i couldn’t do it in my thirties. I was miserable my entire twenties. By time I divorced, I was numb and just desired peace. Wasn’t even hurt or angry anymore. God is great and I’m just being patient to be blessed to marry again and that it will be a TRUE man of God. Blessings to you.
What about the children? My big sister was impacted negatively by the split of my mother and father and it bothers her to this day, and I remember the awkwardness of being around my stepmother whom I never liked.
I always like to share this with people. My mom and stepfather have been married now going on 11 years. My mom came in with 3 kids in tow. Met my stepdad at 36. She was convinced that no one would want her. He didn't have children. My mom was willing to have her tubes untied and do it again but he didn't want to put her through it. One day we were together for Christmas and he said that he was happy that we allowed him into our life. I was floored. Like sir, allowed you ? We are happy you are here. We needed you more than we realized lol. I never expected my moms first marriage to go the way it did, and Ididn't expect him to be an unavailable dad but it happened. But we all got a lot more in return. And my mom and stepfather are still very much in love and going on trips every other weekend 😂. She was proof that even when you've given up God has other plans.
@@chattingwithjojo same here my Mom divorced my Dad ( he was toxic) she remarried my StepDad and he raised us. They are still going strong, my Stepdad has done more for me than my Dad ever has, he is my Dad.
I'm not sure how the RU-vid algorithm recommended this video 2 years later, but I'm glad it did. Thank you so much for sharing your story. This is so healing to many who have gone through this same journey. My story sounds so familiar to yours. 10 years after that divorce, I truly praise God for it. I was able to truly find myself and live in my truth. Blessings to you and hope 2 years later that you're more than well
Idk this man, I'm not talking about him, but men can be like this n still cheat on a good woman. Half way in the video, he didn't say he never cheated. Lol. Just saying.
I was about to say how do you know HIM? Many youtube personalities are playing a role like actors in amovie. This story has holes. They always say "I never hit her, I did everything for her" but leave out the cheating, hiding finances, destroying friendships, constant accusations.
My story is similar… My ex husband and I were newlyweds and he went outside the marriage. I also felt like a failure. I just didn’t understand… We have been divorced now for about 9 years…Let me tell you without God in my life I couldn’t have made it. At one point it felt like I just wanted to die!! Now I’m 37 female; been doing quite well for myself.. Thank you for sharing!!
Praise The Lord.I got married it never worked. All I can say is everybody that got together, GOD didn't put them together. There are times we get ahead of God and things just are not going to work as we planned it. Stay in the plan of God, we have to WAIT ON GOD. Blessings to you trust God. 🙏🏽🕊🔥👑🩸💜🌹
@@furrsmith8131 she weird. A man and woman have different sexual anatomy its not even a comparison when another man conquers your girl glorious guts. Smh
It really hurts, this is what i feel right now. Feeling betrayed, even with the red flags you were still trying to fix things. Your story is a motivation for me.
It wasn’t failure, it was a blessing. Thank God you found out the truth before kids got involved because that would’ve made it 121% even more harder to break ties.
What a beautiful man.Strong,intelligent ,kindness and love. You deserve everything good happy that you’re moving forward. Positivity,positivity it works and helps me cope with life.🙏❤️
I know that feeling of being a failure when you put all you could into a marriage but there was nothing you could do. I agree thankfully there was no children involved because that complicates everything.
I KNOW THATS RIGHT! My God, as soon as he sent her to the hotel, I knew what would happen. So sad for him, and so sad for her. She will never be able to trust this new man, because a man who will happily pursue a married woman is not a good man.
Many people love the idea of being married until they’re actually married. Fidelity and respect are rules numbers 1 & 2. Hope you find real love again like I did.
Brother, I feel your pain. My first wife did the same thing to me years ago. I thought I could never trust another woman again until I met my current wife. That trauma followed me into my second marriage until I realized that my second wife wasn't the woman that hurt me. Now me and my second wife, Keshah, have been married for 26yrs. Not all women are cheaters just as not all men are cheaters either. Don't allow that experience to send you down an extreme red pill spiral. There are still some great women in the west bro.
This is my first time on your channel, I don’t even know how this popped up on my feed but You are highly favored by God. In this life, God has a test for EVERYONE to go through so he can use you to tell others about Him. All praises to the most high. Your true queen isn’t far. God knew of this in advance ! Your time is in his hands.
@Elegance A L'Excellence, Wait? What? So he deliberately hurts people so they'll worship him? Why does he need to be worshipped? Why can't he speak for himself? What's wrong with him? Your definition of being favored is for someone to hurt you so you'll tell others how great he is? Sounds like he a sadistic, immoral monster.
I enjoy your story you will be fine as times goes buy it will get better we all have been there before GOD WILL SEE YOU THROUGH THERE ARE BETTER THINGS TO COME ..EVERY THING IS DONE FOR A REASIN JOY WILL COME IN THE MORNING THIS SHELL PASS OVER.
What's sad is that man is going to have his fun with her then kick her to the curb. His action alone by wanting to mess with a married woman speaks volumes about his character. She ended her relationship thinking her and this trainer will be together but he will never be able to trust her. Also he's probably telling her and a few other women all the same thing. It sad.
Nah, she probably just wanted a quick and easy way out of the marriage. He wasn’t making much, they were clearly struggling financially. Women get tired of fulfilling their ‘wife duties’ just to come home to a man that can’t provide financially. Women know that men divorce when the woman cheats. Simple. She wanted out.
I remember, nephew. This was a well made and well thought out presentation. You've released it and will help someone. Keep growing and moving upward. I love ya!
Healing now from a situation. Need to hear this . Thanks .. I was starting to Believe men was heart less . I left comment on this one cause I live the family support though times like this
@@daniellemadison7068 Thanks but I'm feeling so much better. The very think I tried to hold on to was the very thing God was showing me that I didn't need to be happy or complete.
Man your story touched my heart. Your story resonates with me because I’m going through this now. The pain is unbearable, the lies hurt, and your video is inspirational. Thanks for posting this -
Wow, I don’t know how I ran across this channel. But we as women need to hear a male point of view of being betrayed. We feel this often In relationships as women. God bless you brother ❤️
I felt like a failure after my divorce and one day I saw this quote, “Failure is an event, not a person.” An event that occurred in my life that did not work out; the marriage failed not the people. I applaud you for giving it your all and being transparent. I hope other men are brave enough to share their truths. Great video!
Before my husband and I got married, I told him you’re gonna have to be with, love, and have sex with the same person for the rest of your life, you better think about that. No need to get married and waste time if you can’t commit.
What about you? Did you make that same commitment to yourself? Because it's so easy for women to just mess things up for no reason these days. Stupid entitlement.
Just seen this story and it really hit home. I was married for about 2 years. Ended in divorce when I found out my wife was still having sex with her sons father. How I found out? When I had to go out of town on a business trip, my step-son said his dad spent a night and slept with mommy. “He always sleeps in there when he comes”. I questioned her about it and a child at 5 is never going to lie. She finally confessed and I called it quits.
the pain of realizing that the person you trusted and was sacrificing a lot for, the person you thought you made feel safe and you never mistreated, yet is entertaining other people, is the WORSE. you cannot compare it.
How about...you find out That Person put sewage debris into your food / watch you eat it and then also purposely inserted the same into your private parts doing sex. I don't Know...but much can Top that.
Been here except worse he got someone else pregnant and told me on New Years Eve!! Worst feeling ever in life is heartbreak with a side of baby that is with someone else that is not your wife
I went through this in the relationship with the mother of my children. We weren't married but, I wanted to be more than anything. She broke the bond with countless emotional infractions against our trust which ultimately buried my self esteem.....and I stayed and prayed that the day would come where I had the strength to step and when I did, she's never been the same. I literally have had to be her lifeline for survival over the past 16 years and I have the children with me etc etc. Me and my woman of the past 16 years, pray for her and do our best to help her out eventhough she's angry at us alot for doing so. Her guilt of how she did me, makes her feel that we enjoy seeing her go through. It doesn't, it still hurts. Life just goes on ya know. Had it not been for God's mercy, I'd have never survived what I endured in that situation.
I have a son and while I disagree that this woman forcing you to provide for her while with another woman I’d never teach him to do this especially a woman he was not married to. It’s his choice but I do my best to teach him to avoid emotionally unstable women who prey on good men to be their life support. Take care of the child the woman is not your responsibility but you see these women are so selfish and evil they play the victim and manipulate you good men and you allow it. I commend your efforts but yeah she’d have to get cut off 16 years is to long but to each their own!
I am a proud Mom of an amazing young black man. He IS going through the same thing (we all have been here before). Luckily he didn't marry the girl, however, that doesn't make it any easier. So, I am sending this video to my son too, because he needs to know it doesn't make a man or anyone weak, foolish, or a failure when someone hurts you after you have given all you can. Cheers 🥂 to strength, healing, growth, love, and everything else that challenges us to be better.
If ur son had a father and wasn't raised by a single mother, he would be desirable and women wouldn't use him and cheat on him. Single mothers r to blame for everything.
@@kellietaylor9913 Exactly! Men always cry “single mothers are the reason for the state of our community “, NO! It’s fatherless homes and fatherless children that suffer. Mother’s are abandoned with the children and have to make do while the men get off the hook and can place the blame on women for THEIR failures and shortcomings.
Who said anything about being a single parent? 🤣🤣. The "troll" is hilarious, 🤣🤣. It's obvious someone may have Mommy issues, 🤔. Don't even waste the keystrokes ladies. All Luv
@Tiffany Thomas, it never seems to line up where both people in a relationship gives 100%. Please don't ever waste your time waiting to see if/when things will change or get better. We pretty much know early on that it's not gonna work out but we still..................wait for it............
As a woman currently going through the divorce process, and holding onto an untold story, I felt every word of this vlog! You have definitely given me a greater prospective on what I have gone through, the healing process involved with divorce, and optimism towards what God has in store for me. Thank you so much for sharing!
Dear Corey, one day you're going to find a woman who can love you like you deserve! Those of us who have been betrayed and abused, recognize the amazing man you are--a man you can build a life with! May the LORD continue to bless your journey!
@@ericthered1140 I’m with you. If you can’t afford marriage DO NOT do it. Even if you can I still wouldn’t want to lose half of anything I have. After, I built my life over the years to get there. Bro frfr it’s too many stories of men being divorce raped to kingdom come.
Thank you for this !!!! I was married for 12 years.... I loved him.... lack of communication and his family was the cause of my pain..... fast forward I'm married again.... happily.... please don't give up.... 💜
As a man in this situation, it is the most loneliest position to be in because when your going through it, you cant really talk to anyone about it. Its embarrassing, belittling, and a huge blow to your self esteem. Woman have support groups and they automatically get the benefit of the doubt. But when this happens to men it makes us look weak, feel weak. Through that suppression builds anger and distrust. Sharing this had to been therapeutic I'm sure. More men need to share these experiences because it happens more often than we think.
You are so on point! It annoys me so much when I see the generalization of our men that they are always the one to be unfaithful! And yes, we always seem to get the benefit of the doubt & that is soo wrong! But, things are changing, small though it maybe.
Hope you're getting through it day by day. I know some men who are going through this and I never could stand the constant "man-bashing" that exists in this day and age towards all men because of a man or two who did them wrong. And even though, I myself have been through this with a common-law marriage and, so I always defend men that have been basically taken advantage of by women today who only think of, and aspire to get attention, have her wild a** friends and "the bag" at all costs instead of, realizing they have a "good" man who work hard for their marriages, their money, their children because good men DO exist!! You can always start your own channel, podcast or blog to help you get through this as well as other men. Good luck to you.🙏🏼🙏🏼
bagboy that is BS! Who wants to hear about another person's failure? I don't! It is saying experiences (of others) are the best teachers. tHAT EXPERIENCE IS WHAT IS CAUSING THE NORM WITH RELATIOBSIOPS THAT DO NOT WORK. DMML! What he describes is his contribution to the failure of the norm that he attests does not work. FYI the ONLY WAY women feel superior to men is in da bedroom if she cannot perform to her expectation. It should not be that way, nor will it work that way. And that is bc that is the only place he is permitted to rule over her. Who is their right mind wants to rule over a woman when it is the greatest gift you can give by letting her make her own decisions. Your desire shall be to your husband and he shall rule over you. He spoke similar words to the murder Cain about satan. If he doesn't (rule) then she will feel superior to him (sexually) bc she last longer. This is not the way my Heavenly Father designed sex to work. The problem is, without the knowledge of the woman's sexuality, which has to be taught to individuals actually learning how to satisfy her. This is when experience is the best teacher. Let me enlighten you about her sexual frustrations. It is all bc of what she is missing in the experience. The knowledge tells you how to make her cum. The teacher of all is our libidos. It can only teach you as you progress with it. that progression is always an increase in time spent erect inside her. (this is by both ages) She has no other gauge that is acceptable as reasoning. Again, she feels helpless! Its in my buk! But bc I feel sorry for you guys this is her orgasm system and how it works in terms of her total sexual satisfaction. The different (rite qik) is how men and women are stacked. I am only concerned now about females. She had three levels and the first one is the hardest to understand and deal with and that this why it is hidden even and primarily from her. If women knew how to satisfy themselves, why would they need you? But the truth is they would tell you! Women are the prize guys! And you are letting satan take then away for you. It only was made to work one way. Why should it work any other way when perverted? (rhetorical) The first level is the most profound and stimulating. She has 5 erogenous points that must be connected in the order they are arranged. Each point represents the intensity of that point. Up to the 4th point (1-2-3) she has three steps to each. The 1st point is the clit. (we'll call her doris since she is the door keeper - you heard of the cartoon doris the explorer? Well this is doris the clitoris!) She must get off twice within a minute of penetration and this is where most will miss it before they get There. It is called the violation of the unwritten protocol for penetration. (the secret is 1-3-5-5-3-1) Its in da buk! Anyway, the first level is for the first hour that is supposed to "feels like a roller coaster". The second level represents the time and space for her to be in female superior position. If she is she will never complain about equality. It makes her feel like she is "walking on a cloud". This counters her anxiety in the world called free-floating-anxiety. This causes her to wreck her relationship by displaced aggression. (completely subconscious) The third level is actually for shared sexual positions, whereas 1st is mainly male superior (ruling over in missionary not the whole hour, duh scartty cats) and 2nd female superior positions. (again not entirely the whole time) But third is for lateral and G-spot. (the latter must be rotated into to work the way they should) if you do it right she will say "it feels like she is dying"! That is the pain of orgasms she is seeking and minus what everyone is trying to offer her which is just plain pleasure. She needs extraordinary pleasure with the pain of orgasms which take time. IT IS ALL ABOUT SPENDING MORE AND MORE TIME ERECT INSIDE YOUR WIFE BAREBACK! What's the problem! You finish oo soon when she is just getting ready to get started to cum.
Not to mention, she has more than likely lied and badmouthed you to her family and friends. They will tell straight up lies to become the victim. Even if they are caught cheating, they will somehow blame you for it. For example, she will lie and say you were abusive so that everyone will “understand” why she cheated. It’s sick.
Your a real man Corey, I am a RU-vid "auntie"...lol that has been following you for a few years. I am thankful God pulled you through that dark time in your life. I have been married for 23 years and we could definitely write a book. It's good that you did all you could do and I'm sure that gave you peace with the outcome that you really didn't want. I watched you as you went from your apartment to purchasing your home. I'm proud of you! God causes all things to work together and he gets the glory out of it all. Thank you for sharing, Peace and Blessings !
Corey I just stumbled on this video. Am a grown man crying my eyes out. I can feel your pain brother, you're an amazing person. Some people aren't marriage material, and there comes a time when you have to move on. Much respect to you and one day that special someone will walk into your life and there'll be no guesswork. May God continue to bless you.
Young man I have been married for 28 yrs Nov 1 everyone is not marriage material things have happened n the marriage but no infidelity has been involved Im a God fearing woman of God I chose to live a clean life n God the next 1 come into your life 🙏 1st God will not let you down he will let you know I pray you trust again and the Lord heal ur ❤ there is love true love waiting for you dont you wonder about it be blessed my Son Im 63 yrs old it has not been easy but u will succeed there is still hope!!!!
Hadn’t gotten to far into the video and see your comment, but to that all I saw as a young girl was my Grama, Aunts and Mom fix their husbands plates and take it to them not all of them but some and it made me feel good to see it. I saw a family growing up my Father and Mother were married over 20yrs until their divorce once I was grown. And I took my Father his plate more than my mother did and he was an outstanding Husband and Father. My mother never paid any bills he did it all but she had her own business so she basically spoiled the last three of us me and my oldest sister worked, when I got married (divorced now) I always fixed my Husband plate actually in every relationship I have to me it’s just a gesture I love personally and to me it speaks respect, honor and who you are as person.
I been thru this before. I learned to love myself more after my divorce. I refuse to get in a relationship now. I realized I won't be happy and prosper with a new woman.
As a therapist and a person who is single after an 11years old relationship. I love your approach when talking about the past whilst remaining respectful.
what kind of therapists are you? I hope not a Sexual Therapists. That means you are Ph.D. Psychologist. Are you? I hope not relationship Therapist. (NDI)
It’s crazy that we can spend years with a person and not truly know them, or that things can be going on right under our noses and we are oblivious. Hone your instincts. Pay attention to your gut. Be observant of small cues and body language. And never dismiss your own thoughts, emotions, or suspicions. Love smart. 🧠 ♥️
I'm an American man and really appreciate you sharing your story. White black brown yellow... we are all men dealing with the same shit. I really appreciate you taking the time to share your story. To make men feel like they are not the only ones going threw the fire and that there is light on the other side. Thank you sir
She didn’t sound mature enough to be married. Glad that you were introspective enough to think through all of this and to forgive her. Proud of you for keeping the faith. The best is yet to come! 🦋
When you forgive someone it's healing for you and the person that you're forgiving. Never allow your anger too conjure up and build up in your spirit because it could kill you it could turn into a cancer. You are beautiful and wonderfully made and I pray that you find someone that will appreciate the love that you have. You're perfect.
They could’ve worked it out but this generation don’t know how to use all these great resources, they could’ve killed the old them and rebirth a new stronger union
@@LifeWithRoyalet Frankly, infidelity is at least a legitimate reason to divorce. I mean we're not talking about "Oh we just grew apart" b.s. as a reason to divorce or waking up one day having a huge argument and separating because her husband "keeps leaving his clothes on the floor..." Those are petty reasons to divorce. But for goodness sakes she cheated on her husband and then tried to justify her choice by saying "he was on his phone too much," and "he didn't pay attention to her"...childish. To be totally honest, I'm even surprised he wanted to salvage the marriage knowing in his gut she was already gone. Hell, he tried to work it out already when they went to counseling...he really could've just went straight for divorce court and no one would've blamed him.
I understand your pain! I was a stay at home mom for over 20 years, I had 7 kids. My hubby left me and I pleaded with him to work it out. I never felt pain like that before. Well it been 5 years now and two degrees later. My God has truly been with me. Thank you for sharing and when it is time you will find that special one.
My husband and I went through infidelity in 2015 and as you implied it is a pain that it extremely hard to get over. We are extremely fortunate, we both chose our marriage. Trust was broken but we decided to get rid of anything or anyone that wasn't serving our union. Fast forward 6 years later we are celebrating our 17th wedding anniversary this weekend and love each other more as the years goes by. Marriage is hard and God knew it that's why the verbiage in the vows are written that way. Love conquers all.❤
Not sure why this came on my RU-vid things, but very touching story. It’s surprising how some married people are ready to cheat. I am single, with no vows but you find yourself telling them (married men) you will not go behind their wives back. I don’t know what’s people goals for relationship these days, but I pray I meet a man with a faithful heart like you.
I really appreciate a males point of view of divorce. Being a divorce woman who was married for 20 years and had someone leave me without a hint of a real reason but to be with someone else, it gives me hope that there are men who want to work hard in a relationship.
The Lord Jesus can choose the right one. If we trust in him and allow him to choose. Thank you for being honest and speaking in a positive light about the entire situation. Thank you! Jesus Christ Loves you/everyone and wants an intimate relationship with us. He died on the cross and was risen on the 3rd day so that we could be set free for our sins. Turn to him and trust and in him. He will lead our foot steps down the path that he chosen for each and every one of us. He is the Way, the Truth and the Life. No one comes to the father except through him. Bible verse, John 3:16, John 14:6, and Jeremiah 29:11! He has great plans for us all. I'm a living testimony of that.
@UCOISRtcxL-eWf6Ur0Do0OhQ Yh trust me I’ve started to think that relationships are an arbitrary part of life and God leaves it up to us to free-willingly choose your husband or wife. So we all gotta be sensible and use wisdom to pick a suitable partner or else Gods gonna let you fall for that heartless bad bitch and your gonna cry when she cheat. Romantic Relationships are unfortunately the most shallow type of relationship as they involve so many shallow conditions (like physical looks or wealth) that keep it together. However I do believe that God can guide you to a suitable partner for you but it’s still up to you to decide.
Ive been there my brotha! My story is very similar with the exception we owned a home, had 3 kids and were married for 18 years!!! My younger brother told me “do everything you can to get her back, if it doesn’t work, you’ll have no regrets” he was right, i tried alot of the things you did and one day it hit me, its over. I bounced and didn’t look back. Life has been amazing!!!
Bro I'm not gonna lie to you, I am definitely afraid, I've been alone and dying an old man by myselfI love the company of the opposite sex I love competition I love to be around someone that I care about, Someone that I can love unconditionally and they can love me the same way unconditionally. I believe it was Chris Rock that said this or made this comment that, Women children and dogs are loved unconditionally, When you start dating that woman and you explain it to your homies what's the 1st thing that we say to each other man has she looked as what we're at about. When a woman dates and starts explaining to her home girls, what's the 1st Thing that they say what kind of Job does he have. Because we think on such different levels and it is tru.
@@melsparks8885 Chris Rock is right and you will be fine trust me. Sometimes I sit there and I'm like "whoa, am I gonna be alone the rest of my life?" but I know better, I have my peace of mind and I can enjoy female company at my choice. I'm 62 and I can go anywhere I want, when I want and if I want female company I just keep it 100 with them about what I want, I know there are alot of "I's" in there but hey, Im love the freedom
This is real. Even when you're logically not to blame for the outcome, it's hard to shake that feeling of failure. Time heals that, but in the moment, it REALLY hurts! That said, when life gives you lemons, make lemonade!
The fact that you mentioned God says a lot! Always remember, God sees what we don’t. He sees the heart! He exposes people in situations for our good even when it hurts so bad. The Lord will never remove something or someone out of our lives if he didn’t have a even better plan. Just keep clinging to God and everything else will work out better than you expected. God bless!
God isn't always the one who's removing everything. Sometimes the enemy is at play. I don't think God had anything to do with her cheating or divorce or removing her from the picture. That was all the enemy, but I do believe his one last effort to try to make it work, God was there to give him understanding that the trust was broken and things weren't going to change. I'm glad he saw the truth in her and left. God will eventually bring the right person into the picture for him . Someone he can trust
@@GameChanger597 never said God was the reason for divorce. The word says let no man separate what He has joined. So knowing the word is very vital when discerning between the two. But God allowed it to happen so apparently if the Lord wanted a couple to still be together they would be. God Almighty always has the final say so… remember that. You’d be very surprised what the God Almighty allows if it’s in His delight! God bless!
@@HealThyLivingQueen It's the people that rejects God word and then when everyone, die they say heaven gain another angle everyone want to abuse God words for their on benefits. God word mean what it say and it say if the person that did the abandonment or cheating can't remarry and if they do they're committing Aldutress
@@HealThyLivingQueen It's the people that don't have a relationship with God they know the word but they reject it and think they're still going to make it in because God is so merciful some people go through so much they have heart attacks and other deadly stuff before they get a divorce. It say God chase the one's he love but do you think that stop! Them? No because they use that excuse God is a loving God he doesn't allow bad things to happen to his children but he sonJesus died for us. It is called rejected God
I sympathize. I filed my divorce from my husband yesterday and how you handle this with grace is amazing. Once trust is broken, the marriage is done. Trust is the foundation of a relationship. I hope you find someone who is worthy of your time.
The disrespect and coldness is what gets you. It’s crazy how good these women can mask who they really are. The sad part is the fact that most men will go through this at some point in their life, because of the culture we live in. Bro, you’re a better man than me for giving her so many chances trying to make it work. Even though things didn’t work out, I’m glad there was a light at the end of the tunnel for you and you’re thriving.
@@Michelle-pn9xt Since there are many more women out there like the one he was married to, I was correct to say these women meaning other women like her. You may not be and that's fine. But lets not act like the majority of divorces are not caused by women or their infidelity.
@@ridewithgw Divorces are caused by issues with the man or woman or perhaps both. It could be cheating. It could be faith in God. It could be an incompatibility issue. It could be financial. You never really know what is going on with another couple. We all have baggage. Some of us simply have more or less than other people. God will always send the right person to you. If you pray and ask God to send a wife, he will send someone who will love you and only you forever.
My brother, this is awesome that you shared, we as black men need to know that it’s ok to show emotions. We lose so much from not sharing what we are going through. Keep doing your thing. I will always share your content.
Why you black man want it too be okay to show emotion I have never seen my mom or no adult woman in my family cry throughout my whole childhood but now these days all you black men want to do is cry be treated like woman say the white men is out to get yall cheat be gay have fame yall wanna do everything but be real men and fathers crying don't make you a men crying and emotions are for children
Can we remove the race card please? Like seriously? Are you trying to promote separatism?? It's okay for men PERIOD to show emotion. Whether your black, white, green, brown, yellow, or red.
@@geelee5273 So we as men are not supposed to show emotions? God himself (or nature if you prefer) gave us humans the ability to show expression for what we feel due to 6 widely accepted basic emotions such as: Happiness, Fear, Anger, Surprise, Sadness. Myself am a 31 year old male that stands 185cm tall with a current weight of 93kg. I have been doing martial arts regularly for the past 10 years or so including a few competitions. Am also a commercial diver Who's away from home living and working on a boat 6 months a year doing all types of hazardous tasks. And although I'm "fairly" big and strong and working in a hostile environment (under water) in a profession that is overwhelmingly dominated by men. I still can cry in certain situations. Mentioned height/weight and work so tell that all type of men cry regardless of who they are and what they do. Soldiers cry and so does firefighters and police officers to. It is a natural biological feature us humans have and always will do 🤷 But then yeah there's also fully grown crybabies (men). And I agree that this group is a tad too much. They cry in all situations.. Scared = cry Happy = cry Hurt = cry Angry = cry Lonely = cry Nervous = cry Etc, etc
This is my first time at your channel and I have to admit this was such a grand presentation regarding your past and you did it with grace and class! I'm so proud of you and your transparency. I felt every emotion when describing your experience. Thank you for sharing and I wish you nothing but the best! Being a divorcee myself sometimes going through these bad experiences prepare us for the love that's truly meant for us.
This is my first time on this channel as well. Wow, I had a very similar divorce story. I hadn't done anything wrong. The ex husband had no complaints. He just simply said this woman wouldn't take no for an answer. After counseling, he was still having an affair. God got me through those emotional stages of divorce. Now, completely healed, I have the most amazing joy and peace ❤
Malcom don't quit yo' day job. A woman chooses a man to give her total sexual satisfaction. (that total is an increase over the decades or she get bored) She does not know what that is but she will know when it is not it. One night stands became more prevalent due to females not wanting a second match. Most men (tell me) they don't do well the first time with a female they meet. You are not suppose to unless you are a great lover and she purposed marriage. (forget about it) When asked (a man) what word would you use to describe getting with a new female? And they all say 'work'. Then I say, then what is your job if she is work? And although a light dawns there it is still no voluntary explanation without the knowledge of it. But the frequent sight of a woman's gender makes it worth less and less. This is what women are facing with their sexuality and their men. She really does not know what to do since "doin' her" was what it was all supposed to be about. And it is!!!!!!! It takes a righteous man to properly stimulate a woman to her full capacity But every female over the age of 20 sexual need is dictated by her age. The problem is there is no real education of knowledge of relationships in the land. (on earth) so it has come to a point that it must prove everything everyone is doing for what it is. And it is out of total neglect of the total pleasure you are supposed to be experiencing with male and female that is missing as husband and wife. I will not work any other way bc it was not created to work any other way then how it works. She is all about sex with her man. Who is she supposed to be that way with, a trick! If she can't find it there then she will let anyone lickit. (that just means she don't like you)
I went through this after a nine year marriage and kids. It traumatized me for sure. Takes time to heal and sometimes it still hurts. But I have primary custody of our son and I’m thriving in life. She is now somebody else’s problem (I don’t wish ill on her, I’m just glad not to be with a person like that) God bless this man for sharing. To anyone going through this now, stay strong and you will come out a better person.
Dope video…I went through a similar situation in my first marriage……the breakup with my first wife left me devastated and really unable to function for a while..but it enabled me to focus and get my career together…so now life is great….wonderful marriage…2 beautiful kids…...great career…..paper is great…God looked out man…the pitfall i will warn you to look out for is trying to shield yourself too much in your next relationship….i did that and wound up causing someone pain who didn’t deserve it…great content…King
My first marriage ended in divorce, single with two children under 5 , after 5 years of struggling I met my husband and I had two more children. Which also added 3 step children. We are going on 22 years of marriage this June. Focusing on how to do things better and learning from previous mistakes is what helped.
As a man who went through something similar, I can testify the Lord is good and His faithfulness endures forever. “Though He slay me, I will hope in Him" Keep encouraging and be encouraged.
Sometimes the breakup is the blessing! The path has to be cleared for bigger and better things. Glad to see you've come out on the other side stronger and have risen up! Continue to accept the success..Stay blessed ❤️
She made that decision on her own. This is coming from a married woman who hangs out with single mother's and women in relationships. That influence had nothing to do with her decesion. My friends are just that and they do their thing and it's understood that we may not agree with lifestyles but nothing is copied or influenced. 🤷🏾♀️
False. No matter how strong we are our associations 100 percent have an influence on us. Some are able to withstand others fault we but the influence will be there
Corey, thi is the first time I've watched your channel. What an introduction. I just want to applaud you integrity and the empathy you so clearly exhibit. Betrayals of the heart are some of the most treacherous waters to traverse. Thank you for sharing your story and happy that you made it back to shore.
The fact that you were still willing to work it out speaks volumes and you gave her a few chances. Hats off to all of the efforts you put forth and look at you now!
As a black man myself, I can appreciate the honesty, pain, and transparency that you are willing to share at your lowest point. I can respect it that you let yourself be vulnerable to help others so they don’t go through the same pain and heartbreak. Much love to you bro
"Be Still " by Gooden and Cohen I've come a long way still have a longer way to go it's been a Lonely Road but I know I'm not alone sometimes the going has gotten tough and I was down could not get it up but when my Sin I had enough Jesus took me by the hand Be still and know that I am God With me there's nothing that's too hard I'll get you through I've left it all behind To find the one above I had to die inside To Forgive and learn to love I've found that letting go Turns faith into a rope and so now I'm holding on to the only one who gives me hope. Be still and know that I am God With me there's nothing that's too hard I'll get you through it! The Music Video ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-MDesuFc-Be8.html
Man, this really hit me! “The Pain”for me of being together for 20 years and all the sudden Done! It’s awful and heartbreaking! Thanks for sharing your story!
I found out yesterday….I didn’t see it coming….17 years out the window. Messaging throughout the day, phone calls. All of a sudden the person I thought I knew, has turned into a complete stranger. So devastating….after giving so much of myself. Absolutely heartbroken 💔. I guess now it’s figuring out what next…..
@@candihernandez5757 My situation in 2016 after 20 years but I remember like it was yesterday. Best advice, begin to focus on you and your mental and physical health.
Dear Corey: Trials can break a person's heart. Being disappointed after putting your heart into a relationship really hurts. Our God is a good God. He sees and hears all. God knows you gave your all. You will be blessed with someone beautiful that will love you. God bless you dear Corey. 🙏 ❤ is waiting for you. You will be blessed far beyond your imagination.
He needs to be alone and what i mean by that is you need to focus on yourself for yourself.. She didn't care for you and deep down she never did. She found someone with good dick and money and she kicked you to the curb because of it.
@@brooklynalldaybrooklynalln4254 nah God had everything to do with it. From the beginning to the end that was the work of God’s great hands. I know it’s easy to write God off especially when a situation seems like it’s the ordinary. Like a failed relationship… But his story is extraordinary and so is the story of those in whom has placed their trust in Jesus. Try having a personal relationship with Jesus for yourself and you too will have an extraordinary testimony to tell. It’s all love I respect your point of you cause I use to look through the same lens as you. ❤️
Know this story all too well... I can still feel the sickness come over me listening to you. I was engaged for 2 yrs and had a child with mine. Went on a week long biz trip. While away for work she literally ran off and married with gym guy she met 2 months earlier. Devastated me.
Years ago, a woman that I worked with made a PROFOUND statement I shall never forget... "It's not always the man's fault!" I thought long and hard about that; only to realize that she was right on so many levels... So sorry you had to go thru this-- Godspeed in all your endeavors; including finding the right person to share your life with♡
It's always fascinating, to me, how Spirit warns you about something going on around you. The "tossing and turning" had me instantly like "🎶God is tryna tell you something🎶". It was an unfortunate event but a GREAT MAN came out of it. Good for you! 💛
My last relationship lost crazy amount of weight, was drinking non stop, anxieties were over the roof, was loosing hair..what was my body and mind not telling me seriously?
@@angecynthia347 Drinking numbs the pain. You didn't want to FEEL. Heartbreak is a physical pain & it feels like a brand new feeling every time. Your body was telling you that you were neglecting it. You were so focused on the pain that you tried to suppress it in unhealthy ways. A healthier way is channeling that pain into passion. Let your heart feel the motions, so you can release it. Pain lasts about 15 minutes, Anything after that is self-inflicted. Your body was communicating with you from the beginning but when you started to drown out everything around you, attempting to help, it began to shut down to get you to put your focus Back on you! 💛
@@PeaceMastered @Cha' Kyha #QueenEnergy i salute u .. that "heartbreak is physical pain and feels brand new each time " IS A BAR 💜💜 A Life Bar.. meaning words to love by 💯..very poignant & prolific ... Extraordinarily Remarkable 🥰cheers 🥂 2 you madam
Man Corey I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video. Your situation is literally identical to what I went through with my ex wife. I'm just not as skilled as you in expressing exactly what happened. That period was the loneliest & most painful time of my entire life & the only person who kept me from going insane was my mother. I thank God everyday for her because even though we live in different cities, our frequent phone calls were so therapeutic. It's absolutely insane how women all seem to go through a phase in their lives where they feel like they deserve better than what they have at home & start looking outside. I understand every single thing that happened because I felt the exact same pain. I'm also at a place where I now feel confident enough to talk about it for the first time in 3 years. All of the best for your plans going forward.
Men make the fatal mistake of building their lives around their partner. Men should live for their purpose and a partner is to share that dream. It is okay if that partner leaves. Humans are fallible and unreliable. Your dream is still there because it is yours and it will never fail you. Follow your dream.
I am currently going through this after a seven year relationship. I am shattered. My family is broken. My child will never be the same. I think people know your ways and move accordingly. I NEVER go through phones and computers. I got a gut check to do so after a spiritual fast and have been cheated on with a DOZEN people over the last five years. Sending healing energy to all who've experienced this kind of betrayal.
Bro I been through this and I had to walk away myself… I’ve recently gotten married and we’re expecting our first child together soon and I’ve never been happier with who I’m with . Like you said God will put you through some rough situations. but as long as you can say you gave it your all and nothing has changed then there’s nothing to look back for…. Keep moving forward brother and always remember to keep God 1st ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
God does not recognize second marriages if the covenant spouse ( 1st husband + 1st wife) is still alive. I have inserted a link that I pray will help in your understanding. Blessings. ru-vid.com/group/PLi0i4ZYG7fW3cr3DTkEnDgb9i5zXQxN-m
That’s not true the Bible clearly says you can divorcee because of adultery and abuse. God allowed divorce because He told Moses “because men have hardened their hearts God allowed it”. It’s not the way God would have it but God takes adultery seriously.
@@emperorofeffectiveeducatio2105 - You are mixing truth with untruths, that unfortunately, have bern supported by false churches and watered down "Christianity". I have inserted a link that will provide you with more in-depth understanding of what God meant "for the cause of fornication". The original text, and KJV, says for "fornication", not "adultery". ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-CMz1wjX9NQQ.html Also, Malachi 2:16: 'I hate divorce, says the LORD God of Israel.
@@emperorofeffectiveeducatio2105 - Here is another link. The videos go through a real biblical breakdown. I pray you are convicted as eternity in hell is nothing to take lightly. ru-vid.com/group/PLi0i4ZYG7fW3cr3DTkEnDgb9i5zXQxN-m
She had no accountability! . You are good king, even at your best it is not good enough for the wrong person. It hurts but is was a blessing in disguise.
This kind of story, is the reason I can’t find a great man. Thanks for sharing your story, sir. I hope by now you’re healed and found someone that truly loves and cherishes you. ❤
Have passed by this video a thousand times and today I decided to take a look. Even though it’s about a tribulation you had to endure, it’s very inspirational and encouraging to see you come out on top and thriving. So inspirational. Thanks for sharing! 🙏🏽 God bless you
I felt something after watching this. I got my divorce in 2018 was separated end of 2017. I feel I am on that path to feeling ok again, talking about the issues that occured in my marriage. It really takes time more than months and or years to be able to accept being divorced, knowing things will be ok and you both have to continue to live and be the best version of yourself👊
As soon as you started talking about the text my stomach started turning, those feelings coming back for me because I know exactly how it feels. You ask them and they tell you it’s all in your head, it’s nothing. It’s now 20 years later divorced and I haven’t dated in more than 10yrs because I can’t trust. It’s hard to put yourself out there and I know you can’t think everyone is like your ex , it’s not fair to them but it’s so hard not to. I can only hope that if God puts someone in my life they will understand and be patient.
Let Jesus heal you so you can be fearless and love again ❤️🙏🏾 Trust that God will take care of you and give you something good. Don’t rely on the men, rely on God 🙏🏾🙌🏾
She had issues way before you, she knew this and got married anyway knowing she didn’t feel the same way you did. She did all that for a man that only wanted some tail from her, that other man didn’t care about her only what he could get and she wanted something new and it cost her.
I just heard about this story from another channel 11 months later, but Big bro I've never heard my story come from someone elses mouth before. You can't talk about it, everyone thinks you did something wrong, but I did the best I could, and now it being exactly 4 years later, I 'm exactly doing what I dreamed of being what I dreamed of and more. I had it easy with my college ex, we weren't married but I wanted to be, and we spoke about it several times. But She started working with this other artist and something changed. She left me for him last I heard. And I was that guy she threw away. Now today I got my first credit scroll in a AAA game as an artist and my career is finally set. I wouldn't have been here without the fire she put in my heart. And I want to do even more.
As a young man from South Carolina, who went through a similar situation, this blessed my heart so much. Thank you so much for your vulnerability and transparency. I hope you’re safe and blessed wherever you are brother! Keep going and growing!
As a young black man that’s just gone through something very similar, I thank you for posting this. It’s funny that the similarities in our stories are almost identical. My mom actually sent me this video, and it was right on the money. Here I am months removed from all of the chaos, unhappiness, and more, yet I feel better each day. Thank you for posting this. You’ve gained yourself a new follower.
Fellas!!!. If a woman ever cheats on you, she doesn’t want you. She’s subconsciously telling you she wants out. There’s no point trying to rekindle the fire. It’s done. Get out of it. Move on!
