"I was Sexually Abused for 10 Years" - Rabbi Avremi Zippel’s Story | THAT'S AN ISSUE - Ep 14

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Trigger Warning: This episode may be triggering for some and not be suitable for all ages.
Rabbi Avremi Zippel was born in Toronto, Canada and moved to Salt Lake City with his parents, in July of 1992. He attended a Jewish High School in Chicago, and attended Rabbinical College in London, England. Avremi participated in Jewish outreach and humanitarian missions, in Denmark, Germany, France, Italy, Wales, and numerous cities throughout the U.S. He was ordained at the Rabbinical College of America in Morristown, NJ by the Chief Rabbi of Israel, Rabbi I.M. Lau, in December of 2013. He married Sheina in January of 2014, and together they moved to Utah later that year, when they created Young Jewish Professionals Utah. They are the proud parents of two adorable little boys.
In February of 2019, Avremi publicly came forward about the decade of sexual abuse he had endured at the hands of a childhood caretaker. He is believed to be the first Orthodox Rabbi to publicly speak out about sexual abuse in his past. Since then, Avremi has taken a leadership role in combating sexual abuse in religious communities around the world, and advocating for survivors. Avremi serves his community as the Crime Victim Representative on the Utah Council for Victims of Crime, a Legislative-appointed committee. His story has been shared in numerous formats, and he is a sought after lecturer and mentor to communities around the world.
As the Jewish community takes strides in child safety, it’s often easy to lose focus on the voices of the survivors, in an aim to minimize the access of the perpetrators. In a one of a kind conversation, the Klestzicks sit down with Rabbi Avremi Zippel to discuss the journey of being a male survivor in the Frum community and the twists and turns along the way.
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@brooklynn.y.2507 Год назад

Thank you for being so brave and coming out to talk abt this.

@AnnabelleC0306 Год назад

Great interview and very much needed for those who are going through it, and those who have.

@julieschechter3995 Год назад

Thank you Rabbi Zippel, This conversation was hugely helpful in understanding the aftermath of sexual abuse. May HaShem bless you with success and peace for sharing your personal story in an effort to help others. May Moshiach come immediately and heal us all!

@nesikhah Год назад

Thank you all for this conversation. It is crucial that the messages of hope, help, healing come through. And for everyone to be aware that this is lifelong nisayon. That is why I also believe justice should be justice and not a mock token of it, victims are lifelong victims, there is no 'therapy fix', there is lifelong work. With support, understanding and love we can all have fulfilling lives. I absolutely love Rav Zippel's optimism and pro-active approach to raising awareness of those red flags. Kol haKavod team.

@layasaul28 10 месяцев назад

Another outstanding episode. The questions were direct and helpful, the responses were honest, thoughtful, heartfelt, and most of all, helpful. I am certain this episode is helping many people on their journey to healing.

@elisabethm9655 Год назад

Thank you for opening this door. Light and truth permit healing.

@Life_42 Год назад

Thank you for sharing your story, giving power and light to victims of abuse.

@angeladutchlady6464 Год назад

I am so sorry you suffered for so many years. You are so brave to tell your story. Nothing what happened was your fault. Nothing. Thanks for sharring and wish you all the best for the rest of your live. Hope that others will have the strenght and do the same as you and share their story.

@melchiel4413 Год назад

I cannot imagine what you went through emotionally. I am so sorry.

@claudiayohanna2797 Год назад

Thank you 🙏🏽 it is important to hear because it truly helps plenty of people.

@YosephineAdira37 Год назад

Thank you Rabbi for having the courage to share your story. I was abused when I was 9, during the military, and from surgeons after the military. I recently converted to Judaism and have heard so many stories of abuse in Frum communities unacknowledged. Thank you for speaking up and discussing this important topic. I hope there is more open discussion in the future regarding abuse to promote healing and unity. Toda

@viviannenieves7832 Год назад

Thank you for your story its validating and empowering to hear.

@LearnMarketingChannel 10 месяцев назад

Another inspiring interview. Thank you for consistently sharing stuff that helps people find freedom.

@bracha874 Год назад

Thanks for sharing your story.stay strong!

@remnantsfromczechia8831 Год назад

absolutely understand, i'm 47 and still didn't tell my parents, but God healed me from it... thank you and blessings 😊💗

@dyoung3648 Год назад

Thank you for sharing this 🙏

@isaacallen4582 Год назад

Bless u always, kol hakavod for sharing ur story! May it bring a lot of shalom in the world… עושה שלום במרומיו…

@miralev7396 Год назад

Be strong. You are great. This interview is part of your Shlichus

@eramati Год назад

Thank you! You are absolutely inspiring.

@nancylohe986 Год назад

Huge Respect and Appreciation to this Rabbi 👏 🙌 In my case i felt ' Shame' (because I thought the abuse that I experience was my fault and hated myself my growing up years ) ' ....from my childhood till adulthood untill received God's abounding grace and mercy and come to understand about the truth about my identity 🙏 Knowing Who we are in Christ is the Key to receiving Freedom from identity crisis (shame ,guilt ,resentment, anger etc)

@Etobicoke67 Год назад

I accept and am glad if you genuinely feel better because of it, but Cristianity for me as a Jew did the opposite. Now I know who I am in our Father's eyes, has resulted in me being "born again" or slowly recover my childhood sense of innocence and experience a steady sense of His love and growth in Torah as our Creator's Instructions for life. The relief is real and not "quick fix" which cristian evangelicals expected and who dropped their "unconditional love" they preach when I found the Truth of Torah I was ignorant of because cristians do not know Hebrew and are fooled by lies of the cristian mistranslation of Tanach and Talmud shoehorning jesus into it without reading the whole books of prophets in context. Now I follow the Torah which jesus said to do, just as he said to pray to our Father, not one of His sons, and to know Torah which says no man can die for another man's sins, including jesus. Rabbi Hillel said the summary of Torah, which jesus quoted via the Oral Torah, is to love the L-rd your G-d with all your heart, mind and strength and to not do to others what you would not want others to do to you. The rest is commentary, go and learn. For me cristianity was a stepping stone from ignorance and hyper intellectualism brought up by a caring but abused Mother who hid being Jewish because of cristian society abuse in her childhood and losing so many family in the Pogroms and Shoah, and a gentile Father abused by his Dad and Uncle who were strict cristians and he passed his trauma onto me, my brother and Mom in different ways. So I came from a devout agnostic upbringing. Torah observance from a personal connection with my heavenly Father and a few caring friends and finding therapy which helps for real all works for sound growth in life for me. I hope the same for you and all survivors.

@zuzilezungu5899 Год назад

Blessings and prayers 🙏

@leviyk7 26 дней назад

"So that no one would begin to suspect that this had happened" It worked on me.

@miriamlewin296 Год назад

Wow, you are incredible, Rabbi Zippel. Great episode.

@ChanaShahar Год назад

Thanks was very helpful

@nggrayman Год назад

I had to be in SLC over Shabbos for work and had a wonderful time at the Chabad with the Zippels and the community.

@adinashaina9977 Год назад

acknowedgement would do so much to help with the healing, yes. and stopping the gaslighting. wish i had your therapistm Rav Avremi

@Hacker-kr9vc Год назад

Be strong be brave be freed

@tamarbrown6862 Год назад

thank you

@marjoriejohnson6415 10 месяцев назад

Thank you for calling sexual abuse what it is… a horrific crime against the innocent. Thank you for coming forward even knowing the tremendous additional trauma it would heap upon you especially… and those who support you. Thank you for your determination to get one more criminal justice f sexual abuse off the streets so no one else would be abused. Thank you for your courage, compassion and service to help other victims and their loved ones hear and see he or she is not alone, they are not to blame, there is hope, there is help and healing as we share our pain and our paths to a better place together.🙏💙🙏

@andrewfine2576 Год назад

This is Torah. So practical and beautiful. This is how mankind saves the world with wisdom understanding and knowledge. The hand of HaShem is on us B’H

@mweiss505 Год назад

Wow, just wow

@eugenialesiuk1189 Год назад

It's good see a man reveal his experience with sexual abuse, justice happened .As a woman , this is not always so , it can be complicated .

@shternasarahshulevitz6533 Год назад

Unfortunately the US Justice system is not really justice - I know way too many stories of lack of justice and the most important is our own stories.... our journey of life

@yeshevishman Год назад

This is true, however, no human "justice" system is. Yet Ha'shem still wants humans to have court systems that they set up and abide by. While there are many who don't get what they deserve, ignoring the system gets NOBODY anything. I agree with you that our journey of life and how we view ourselves is the most important, but that doesn't mean we should throw the baby out with the bathwater.

@avieshapiro4607 Год назад

Kol Hakavod for your bravery in speaking out. With Hashem's direction, you will make wonderful Shidduchim when the time comes.

@midishh Год назад

"Meditation" is built into Judaism in davening, in lighting shabbat candles, in feeling the water on our hands when doing netilat yadayim, etc.

@loloput3995 Год назад

Windowless vans that got me😂

@d.rothenberg8295 10 месяцев назад

He's far from healed, still in therapy and confessionals. Truly heartbreaking. Like Rav Wallerstein, he's using doing for others as a springboard. No doubt a great mitzvah too. But expecting the perpetrator to express remorse or even awareness is illogical. Confirmed criminals live in a mentally sick headspace. As does any terrorist. Remorse is not in their lexicon.

@judithgottlieb2605 Год назад

Unfortunately, I don't understand many of the words.

@dovidshuchat8806 Год назад

I would like to interview mordichai Ben David mbd if you could try to do that

@daviedood2503 Год назад

Contact him. Do the work yourself don't demand people to just DO THINGS for you ✌️🤣

@tessajetta8146 Год назад

Hello My name is Esther and I was raised in lubavitch in Brooklyn. I was sexually abused by my frum father. Does your therapist see patients from other states? Can you get me a referral to a good therapist? I reside in Texas.

@LivingLchaim Год назад

Hi Tessa. We are so sorry. Can’t even imagine. Rabbi Z will reach out.

@chaimbochner7474 Год назад

Why can’t rabbis and rebbes get involved, heavily???

@mweiss505 Год назад

44:11 I dont understand his point that's its a crime, I agree that you have to report but only because to save the next victim, not just because it's a crime, you are not supposed to report other ppl crime according to the Torah.

@surikatz123 Год назад

if it involves a Rodef, you are obligated to report the perpetrator to the justice system

@ajarnwordsmith628 Год назад

I'm not a yeshiva bochur, but I have some late-in-life experience of being a non-frum member of a wonderful Chabad community at large. Additionally, I have an academic background in the teaching of law (not Halacha, the common law legal system). Within that discipline, I had a focus on certain areas of the common law one of which is 'Sex, Gender & the Law.' Permit me to offer a scenario often discussed in the classrooms of law schools. So, if you, as a regular guy, come across a child drowning face-down in a puddle of water, do you commit a crime (under the Anglo common law system) if you knowingly (mens rea) walk away and let the child drown (actus reus) in a puddle of water? The answer is NO, you don't. You DO commit a crime if you are in loco parentis (standing in place of parents) vis-a-vis the victim. So, teachers, caregivers, babysitters and the like do commit a crime in these circumstances. Likewise, a passing policeman on the beat is also guilty of a crime if he stands by and watches the child drown (criminal responsibility applies here when there is a dereliction of duty rather than a loco parentis situation). Here's where I become an armchair yeshiva bochur. Correct me if I am wrong, but does not the Torah, Talmud and rabbinic sages of the ages instruct us to abide by and comply with the local criminal laws in the Diaspora of the host gentile community? If that's the case, reporting the crime of a fellow Chabadnik to the police would not infringe Halacha, etc. This would be the case save for such fundamental criminal laws in extremis that are the very antithesis of Halacha derived from the Torah, Talmud, etc. But I doubt that Jews would be found living in such a jurisdiction...

@nesikhah Год назад

Rav Chaim Kanievsky z"tzl said to report to the police first. There is a video on RU-vid . . .

@yeshevishman Год назад

Can you quote me the source of this "halachah" being an across-the-board rule? Ever heard of Dina d'malchusa dina? Yeah, it's this little idea that if something doesn't contradict halachah (such as punishment for crimes) we accept it as if it is halachah. I believe R' Moshe Fienstien wrote a few tshuvos about it and what it applies to in America. I suggest learning that.

@elishevarosenfeld6755 Год назад

Sure the brother is evil !!!! Who does that do his sister!!!!!

@chayap.199 Год назад

It's complicated, is he not willing to take responsibility. Was this a one time accurate or more? The fact that there isn't a call for authorities to be involved with frum perpetrators, does take away from the way "the crime" "like stabbing" is described.

@llrrbbmm Год назад

a traumatized panicked one

@estherschwartz874 Год назад

i would love to share my story

@LivingLchaim Год назад

We love stories! Best place to send them are here: www.livinglchaim.com/suggest No promises 🙈

@isaacrodri2280 Год назад

I was a victim in my childhood and adulthood. I thank HaShem for Torah and Judaism Messianic healing for me. I'm thankful for my amazing True Rabbi Shapira and Rabbi Yaron and all True Rabbis. HaShem is my everything and my Rock! Thank you HaShem in the name of Yeshua! Amén Adonai! Baruch HaShem Adonai!🙌🙏🏼🕎🕯🇮🇱😊

@emmunahpodcast702 Год назад

Have careful with those false learning. The Torah and the prayer to Hashem and saving the commendment is what makes us complete. I dont belive in relgion but Just in the Almighty and his Torah. As a podcaster i teach all that because I want to help others with true teaching about torah.

@lioriannamulliner8786 Год назад

Wow.... I'm sorry to hear this 😥....I hope you are doing ok now 🙏🤍✌️

@joanrbelson2441 Год назад

Just to clarify, There is no such thing as Messianic Judaism. Judaism is a monotheistic religion. “Thou shall have no other G-ds before me”. Christianity is a religion that believes in the trinity, the father, son and the Holy Spirit. I don’t claim that one is better than another, but they are not the same. Thank you.