If you’re tempted to impulse buy, ask these 5 questions first (low buy questions!)

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In today's video, I'm sharing some of the more difficult questions I ask myself before I buy something. I find I ask these when I'm having an especially difficult time combatting impulse buy temptations, or when I catch myself boredom shopping. These more challenging questions have helped me dig a little deeper as to why I feel like I want something. Sometimes I say yes, other times I say no. Thinking about these questions helps me make that decision more clear.
What are some harder questions you ask yourself before you buy?
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Is it the outfit? 2:41
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@Christinamychas Год назад

What are some questions you ask before buying?

@theehannahbee Год назад

It’s so simple but “when would I actually wear this?”

@BeeBaldwin Год назад

“Do I really want this, or do I just want it because this influencer has it?”

@suzanajerkovic7296 Год назад

Do I need this to feel happy?for real....

@daelincameron7572 Год назад

I look at the price tag and ask myself “would you rather have this item or would you rather have $___ in your bank account?” 90% of the time I would rather have the money!!!

@olgasulaeva2845 Год назад

"Can it be combined with my "mom" routine, is it comfortable enough to take care of two little kids?"

@marymeyer6578 Год назад

Fantasy Self… I think I first heard that expression from you. It stopped me in my tracks. So much of what I had purchased and my outfit images in my head were for my fantasy self. Thank you so much for helping me come to the realization of this. Still to this day, when I look at an item, I think to myself, Mary, are you going to wear this or is this for your fantasy self?!? I have determined that Fantasy Self needs to get her own job to pay for her own clothing. I’m not doing it anymore. LOL As always, thanks for the great content.

@jessicaalger4525 Год назад

Back to school shopping was something I looked forward to every year with my mom. We didn't have a ton of money growing up so this annual event was a big deal to me. My mom would always wait outside the change room and ask me things like, "are you actually going to wear it", "do you have more than one outfit in mind", things like that. I definitely use questions like that to this day when I shop.

@fallinlove3210 Год назад

My nana loves telling me a story about my sister when she was around age 6. She wanted to buy a sweater at Macy's and asked my sister's opinion and she said "oh Nana that does look nice, but can you live without it?" Obviously we can all live without a majority of the items in our lives; however, that framework helps me prevent overspending and overconsumption to this day.

@Christinamychas Год назад

Your sister was a sage of wisdom at 6 years old! We could all learn from that. Love it!

@chanelpersaud4597 Год назад

WOW love this

@JK21116 Год назад

The fantasy self and asking ourselves if it's "her" that we actually want to emulate are HUGE for me. I spent so much time hating my curvy body because clothes didn't look on me, the way they looked on lanky girls. I started shopping very differently when I embraced my body type! AND BONUS, I always get asked about what I'm wearing now a days. Dress for yourself!! I saw in a How-The-French-Shop video with Alexa Chung that French women often filter what they buy based on "what they know suits their body, quality fabrics, and what they know their man likes them in." I think the man part can be widened to what other people notice we look good in, not because exterior validation is what matters, but because it can often be an indicator of us exuding comfortability in who we are :)

@glamdragon Год назад

Having chosen a colour palette for myself has helped curb my spending. Now when I see something I like, I ask myself "Does it go with my colour palette?" If it doesn't, it's surprisingly simple to move on! 😃

@danamatsukawa4762 Год назад

I resonate a lot with the fantasy self purchase. Retirement and covid have restricted my social life in the last few years. I buy like I still have places to go and people to see. I need to let that go and realize I have more than I need right now. If my life changes and I need something, the stores will still be there waiting.

@heidimeigs5192 Год назад

“They’re making new stuff every day”. I stole that from a book I read years ago. But it’s true and it helps me to let go of stuff.

@carolcox9443 Год назад

Great questions! Another that I really love is, “Do I already have something that I would rather wear?” Has been quite useful for me 😀

@veeherreraJanecka Год назад

Great question? I usually have my go-tos anyway.

@angelaa.9915 Год назад

Hard agree with point #1, that mindset shift has been a game changer for me and my Pinterest boards 😂 the line of questioning I take is: would I wear this outfit or do I just like this picture? How would I feel wearing this outfit? I usually like the more minimalist aesthetic, but I know that if dressed that way, I’d feel bland and bored.

@justinebarton2931 Год назад

1. Do I already have something similar that would do the same job? 2. Do I like this better than something similar I already have in my wardrobe? 3. Is this the best possible version? I.e. I don't want to buy something and then spot a better version another time and then want to buy that too to upgrade. 4. Would I buy this if it were a lot more money I.e. do I love, love, love it and would be willing to shell out for it, or is part of the reason only because its affordable.

@vae1019 Год назад

All of this!!!❤️

@33Jenesis Год назад

I have a strong fantasy buying tendency. Since November I have been planning a car camping trip. I bought a lot of cold weather items, camping and backpacking gears, food on the road. Do I want to run away? Maybe but it’s not that strong. I am retired to care for my mother. She’d be ok by herself for a week. It’s more like the longing for open road, audio books, going to the beach or trail; the old self from 20 years ago.

@doglovingirl Год назад

The "Fantasy Life" Buy!!!! The bane of my existence!! I'm finally trying to find the balance and curate pieces I will actually wear (and not just hang in my closet and never look at lol)

@ms.schnapp7415 Год назад

Love these! I also ask if I will be physically comfortable (not itchy, fits me, all day wear), is it easy to put on (not too many buttons, can I roll up sleeves), will I be warm.

@ZeldasMask Год назад

I’ve been buying clothes for years for the ‘fantasy me’ 😭 I’ve finally stopped but I think about all the money I wasted

@Christinamychas Год назад

I hear you! We can only learn from it since the moneys long gone. You can always sell what’s still in good shape that you want to declutter ❤️

@loisbats4972 Год назад

Christina is my spirit animal❤️🤣. You made me realise i wear a lot of basics an a lot of black and that is totally fine. I love how you always play with dressing up with a more basic wardrobe. This changed my perspective on my own wardrobe and what i really need. Fighting against my own fantasy self a lot😅😂. Thank you!

@Christinamychas Год назад

Love that so much for you! ❤

@grazsts3005 Год назад

Purchases for a fantasy self is the reason why I'm in debt right now. Letting her go is work on progress as well as the items that I will never use and wear. Trying to cover the whole and reparing the demage that the fantasy life caused in the real life.

@megandell4 Год назад

Can you please do a whole episode on the fantasy self ? Thanks for your videos ❤️

@jenniferdunstan4794 Год назад

You are the first person I've heard talk about buying to feel closer to someone/an influencer and this was SO me! One thing that has really helped me is to literally say "you don't actually know these people" when I feel inspired to buy something one of my favorite influences recommends.

@Kabast Год назад

I ask if I see myself wearing something and loving how I look in it for the next 10 years. This question very much helps be find my version of “timeless,” and it forces me to choose items that are well made and that I can make practical for many different kinds of situations.

@Christinamychas Год назад

Love that!

@DestinyFerreira29 Год назад

wow, that fantasy piece is really key for me.. i'm slowly disassociating from my fantasy self but its so difficult to let that " ideal" go....i always think i may have occasion someday to wear it...for me personally, i'm drawn to heels and the frilly sort of glam gowns .. case in point about 3, 4 ? years ago i was at a consignment shop and saw this stunning floor length ball gown.. i absolutely had to have... it ended up tucked away in a trunk because i have nowhere to wear it. I'm in my early 50's, single mom, i home school, i'm a full time caregiver for my elderly mom who has advanced dementia/ Alzheimers.. i'm home all day every day, i have the most boring life so i knew i'd never have an occasion to wear it but it was like that siren call.... it made me feel good to have that piece.. it was like a temporary adrenalin high. Well, i was recently invited to this red carpet hollywood themed party so i finally!!! had the right occasion to wear it... and while it was sort of exciting to " doll myself up".. honestly about an hour and a half in, my feet were killing me, the dress was really heavy and cumbersome to walk in.. i was longing for my flannel p.j.s and socks.. i realized my fantasy girl tricked me.. i like being home and cozy, being comfy. I honestly didn't enjoy myself. I'm definitely not getting cost per wear.. sigh.. lesson learned. I guess i'm still working through that whole reality vs fantasy life! It's a process.... I need to swap my heels for birks and converse!!!

@dstern5859 Год назад

I could resonate with your last point. I was buying more dressy clothes as if I had a job to wear them to, but I didn’t. (That was my fantasy self.) Finally it dawned on me that I was wasting my money on items that saw very little wear and I decided to invest in more casual everyday clothes instead. I love your channel and I love your honesty as it helps me to be honest with myself in asking those hard questions when buying clothes. Thank you!

@2PuppyProductions Год назад

I really appreciate the way you dive below the surface to get to the bigger WHY's for our shopping behavior. Helpful and interesting video as always! 😊🙏🇨🇦

@maryana44s Год назад

Fantastic ,fantastic video - thought provoking, deep, honest.

@miiiiillyyyyy Год назад

How is it possible that you don't have a million subscribers?? Your tips are so useful and I've been binge watching your videos and they have helped me immensely!

@alisamahler7085 Год назад

Thank you for your honest words. It helps to hear that other people struggle with the same issues 😅 Helps to think about how we consume.

@TheEmzies Год назад

I'd be interested in a video where you talk about your relationship with fashion influencers more. It seems they had influence with you and you would covet their looks and lifestyle whereas for me and most people I know they have no influence. I can't think of a time where I bought something solely because a person online had it. (Although I'm plus size so most fashion influencers aren't relevant to me).

@Christinamychas Год назад

Definitely can!

@kristen2646 Год назад

#1- It's almost like you knew I was oogling Ashlynne Eaton's Alpaca Everlane sweater! Because yes, if I ever met her we would have that in common. Thank you for continually making content that makes me a better ME. PS: You are looking fierce today! You are wearing that haircut well

@angiezeng Год назад

You are so right about that fantasy self! Ultimately the clothes we buy need to suit our lifestyle, and make us feel completely comfortable and confident by fitting us well. Every now and then, however, we do feel the need to express ourselves a little differently with something unique, and if that unique item doesn’t break the bank, even if it’s on a whim, I will buy it. 😅

@tinnahkenza5363 Год назад

Love your honesty, thank you - and great questions!

@theprousteffect9717 Год назад

Ugh, all so relatable. I'd see someone else looking so badass wearing a pair of over the knee boots, a certain pair of earrings, red eyeshadow, etc. and want to emulate them. I would almost fall into a trance and go hunting for and often buy whatever it was. There was little regard for my own body type, lifestyle, and personal aesthetic. Whenever I want to buy something now, I have to answer yes to ALL of these questions: 1) Does this serve a valuable function? 2) Do I already own things that serve the same function? 3) If yes, is another thing serving the same function useful to me? 4) Does it make sense for my lifestyle? 5) Would it flatter me and make me feel how I like to feel? 6) Does it even fit my personal aesthetic? I also recently decluttered a lot of my fantasy self, and love the idea of taking what you need from her and incorporating it into your real life in ways that serve you.

@jessiekelly266 Год назад

Love it! Thanks Christina.

@GaPeach2018 Год назад

Love your channel! I’ve learned so much about myself.

@racheldalziel992 Год назад

So appreciate your candor, thank you for that, as always.

@CorinnaOnTheRun Год назад

Such insightful advice. Thank you, Christina.

@TColoradoF Год назад

I’ve learned lately to wait for the things I really want or need to fill a hole in my wardrobe by setting up wish lists and only buying when I know it’s the right purchase. I often find that I don’t really need or even want many things. Those that stay will stay in my wardrobe because they really work for me.

@ReporterLizAdeola Год назад

I needed this video! Thank you for making me thing a little bit more before making that next purchase.

@moomiekiki2593 Год назад

I love that part when you said you can take something from your fantasy self and apply it to your real life/personal style. Always love this kind of content, Christina. Cheers!

@geng8227 Год назад

Very helpful! Thanks!❤

@amym9834 Год назад

I really enjoyed this video, so much of what I have done for over 30 years of buying was for the fantasy life, image, self. That fantasy woman has a wardrobe FULL of clothes that are collecting dust. I am just coming to terms so late in life over why I was engaged in these bad habits and I love that you are so open and honest about your relationship to buying and sharing the information on how to change for the better. Great questions. Thanks.

@musingsofamuslimah2018 Год назад

Very insightful.. thank you for doing this kind of video again, its been a while ❤️

@Christinamychas Год назад

❤️

@bellonjm07 Год назад

These are the best questions I’ve ever seen!!! ❤ I’m writing these down. Thanks I you Christina!!!

@juleannedawson9287 Год назад

Really good questions to ask before buying. These considerations will definitely help to spend my money in a better way. Thank you so much.

@KA-jo8vn Год назад

Thank you Christina! This was a good one. I’ll rewatch it for sure. You gave my some great insights ❤

@staceyb3007 Год назад

These questions are so profound and, for the first time, I haven't actually heard these things! Very helpful.

@evawilcken8346 Год назад

Thank you for this ❤

@jasminebambury5841 Год назад

Calculate how many hours you would need to work to buy something. Puts things into perspective for me as to how much i want really want it.

@deborahmac1997 Год назад

Good stuff here. I am a stalwart when it comes to making purchases but I do love making a thoughtful buy. The considerations presented here are in my bag.💞

@LTNZ1 Год назад

Very good questions Christina to ask before doing impulse buying, i need more videos like this 😊❤

@nadnicotinamide9652 Год назад

Great video as always, have been following your videos for weeks and have been helpful with dealing with these shopping decisions!love from singapore

@christinacampbellbooks Год назад

The fantasy self question is definitely an important one! ☺

@mascha9266 Год назад

Great questions, especially the Fantasy Self exploration.

@sandrawright8109 Год назад

I have wasted thousands of pounds on clothes and jewelry. I've been in debt many times . I'm now 60 and stopped shopping a few years ago. I'm now chucking hundreds of things out or selling...donating. This feels so good. What a waste of my time and hard earned money.i have nothing for my retirement...no house only a old car. I love work but will have to stop one day. Trying to save a bit. I like myself as I am now and don't have to keep trying to feel better about myself.Slso I have to try and stop making everything perfect .

@katewalters210 Год назад

Thank you so much for this video! I'm a French "almost-26-year-old" girl and I've been watching your videos and content for a few weeks now. And, since I'm doing this, I'm buying things for my true self. Whenever I choose to purchase things I'm not sure I'll be able to wear often, I make sure I'm going to enjoy the items alone before I buy them. This video is precisely what I needed to be perfectly okay with this new way of thinking!

@kellifolsom9775 Год назад

Thank you for your videos. I’m starting a no buy year now. Therapy and self love is definitely cheaper.

@sheetaldash1994 Год назад

Every word said is so true ❤️

@LucyPooh777 Год назад

Thanks Christina for all these wise videos you’re posting that our society needs… truly! You are way ahead of your young years, which I’m MUCH older than you and yet I’m not ashamed to say I look up to your wise way of spending and shopping. Ironically, we see in the media and influencers how chic it is to dress like French women. I’ve stayed in France several times and hands down, their style is def something to aspire to. I don’t claim to know any about their fashion sense completely but what we don’t know is they actually don’t own much clothes because their clothing storage are very limited over there (at least the regular folks we know of from there). Also they take care of their clothes well and most of the time, they don’t even put them in a dryer. Instead, they hang dry them so they last longer. I think given the limited quantity they can own, they’ve learned to be creative on how to mix and match outfits, and buy only what they need. Unfortunately, we don’t hear much of this. But I get it; this reality won’t help businesses sell clothes. Keep up your great work and I look forward to hearing more of them. 👍

@sigriddjernaes Год назад

Right now the most important question is: Will it keep me warm? 🥶😆 Due to the energy crisis in Europe, the temperature in the office has been lowered, so it can get really cold, but I still want to look professional...

@a-lstahl3643 Год назад

Great questions! Fantasy Self - yep that hit home 😊 Thanks.

@Christinamychas Год назад

❤❤

@BEABE4242 Год назад

Oh great video!!and yes, I started asking myself questions exactly when I was ready to pay. And said: I'm not that tall, I'm not so skinny, and these and that. I'm controlling myself a bit more and feeling more relaxed 🤷‍♀️

@livnicole9550 Год назад

Soooo, needed this video love! Im feelin reeeeal spendy right now!! lol!

@Angie-dx8wg Год назад

You are the best!!

@mariedufour9333 Год назад

Nailed it while looking lovely as always.

@lolaphearse3688 Год назад

I agree with feeling that the influencer you like or admire has vetted an item,and therefore it has to be great. I have wasted a lot of money doing this,usually the color or fit or formula is just not for me. Fortunately I have learned from this,but have decluttered most of those items. Hard lesson…

@GaPeach2018 Год назад

Love audible

@taramixon1019 Год назад

I love these 5 questions. Thank you! Ahh, that fantasy self. I tend to buy or shop for her, not the real me. This has definitely bubbled up into my awareness. 2023 is going to be a year of embracing my true self.

@heatherp7836 Год назад

Ooooh the whole incorporate the fantasy self into your everyday life really resonated with me...if youd give more info on how you do that Id love tips! 😉🖤

@suzanschneider6163 Год назад

Such a great set of questions. Boredom and scrolling online resonates with me. Accepting my body and how clothes fit is also important. My number one question I ask myself while looking at an image I’m drawn to is: How tall and slender is this model? I’m 5’4” and average weight. So, I’ll never look like some of the model’s images I like. And that’s okay.

@allisonfowler2680 Год назад

Your hair looks great that length

@josianest-arnault8883 Год назад

Just on point for me. I was to buy a beautiful sequin Marciano dress. But, you know, just for 1 evening with the girls. I will leave it in my shopping cart 😉 Thanks! ❤️ (I'm french, so sorry for my english !😅)

@HilaryGreen Год назад

This is kind of specialized … I make a lot of my own clothes so I ask myself: Would I put in the time to make it?

@Christinamychas Год назад

That’s so cool!

@ros8986 Год назад

My phrasing of one of your questions is "what am I really trying to buy (and will buying this get it for me)?" and I know that every purchase is an experiment, so the question is "is the price point ok if it ends up being a fail?" On buying multiples, "is getting another one of these a good decision (three of the same shirt, ok because they wear out, three of the same stainless steel cooking pan......) And the question "Beyond the emotion, is this a materially good purchase for me?"

@Christinamychas Год назад

These are excellent questions!!

@robynwells8249 Год назад

Christina, so many things to think about. I’m outfit challenged and often rely on inspiration from “influencers ” only to have the outfit look horrible on me. When I shop or am influenced to shop I’ve started thinking does this balance my body? I’m an inverted V- trivial but it does make a difference, does it suit my real life? I live in a rural area. Color and tone of clothes are taken in to consideration, too. Warm tones do me no favors. Very few “influencers” have outfits that work for me. I’m 63 and most influencers my age don’t dress with the style I’m comfortable. They’re a little more patterned and trend focused. But cobalt blue, which is my favorite color is the one color I incorporate.Quiet, simple, classic with a little edge. Lots of boxes to check and save to later is a great tool.

@sim771 Год назад

These are great questions! Asking why you want something is the key to starting to not shop. For me, i really have a hard time in stores and in quick make a decision moments (like launches). Do you have a in person version for this where maybe you are looking for something while fighting the millions in advertising dollars to resist adding more into your cart. I struggle with the math part and I’ve tried just not having a cart but can hold a lot.. Thanks Christina you rock!😊😁

@Christinamychas Год назад

Actually yes! I just got back from some in person shopping in NYC and gained some insights! I’ll share in a video!

@majussel Год назад

You really feel like this one friend I want to hang out with and talk about life and fashion instead of getting wasted in a club with some randoms dudes 😂❤

@mara_thebookwyrm Год назад

Question: does it still count as an impulse purchase if you added it to a wishlist and then thought about it extensively and still wanted it, but it was a want and not a need? An “extra” piece rather than something practical? Asking because I’ve had my eye on a gorgeous red genuine leather jacket on Poshmark, and I want it for a cosplay mostly, but I can also see myself wearing it all the time with a lot of my closet. But I don’t NEED it, so I keep going back and forth even though I WANT it. It’s a challenge.

@Christinamychas Год назад

Sounds the furthest thing to me from impulsive!

@disciplinado2190 Год назад

Hey Christina, I really enjoy watching your videos. I realize in a lot of your videos you often mention "The Fantasy Self" and it appears you have a lot of experience with this phenomenon. I think maybe you could do more research and write a book on this topic. I suggest looking into Sociological theorists and speaking with individuals on their wardrobe experience. A thought.

@KerryGoldP 3 месяца назад

My fantasy self doesn't feel the cold and is like all the fashion influencers walking around with bare ankles in winter months! Luckily, I know well enough that I need to tale medication for my cold feet for half the year, and so my fantasy self will always lose on that front!

@mariaperez-ie6xh Год назад

One question that I ask: where will I put this? Do I really have space for it? Small apartment, helps a lot.

@Christinamychas Год назад

Same!

@ninam.7754 Год назад

My personal most important questions are: Will I wear it the very next day? (or at least the next week) Am I'm looking forward to wear it soon? If both answers are "No" chances are that the piece will sit in my closet forever and is actually more of something that I will buy for my fantasy me.

@lissaToday5787 Год назад

❤

@AnimalsEtc Год назад

“What else could I use this money for, that I would rather have?”

@kathrynp7595 Год назад

Great video Christina, I have found I want to buy the clothes a u tuber I watch but I will never look like her in them because she is a lot skinnier that me so I pass 🙄

@rachraves4734 Год назад

Should’ve watched this before splurging at the LoveShackFancy sale 😳😭

@doglovingirl Год назад

The "Fantasy Life" Buy!!!! The bane of my existence!! I'm finally trying to find the balance and curate pieces I will actually wear (and not just hang in my closet and never look at lol)