If You Feel Anxiety or Shame In Being Single, Melody Ehsani Has A Message For You

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Melody Ehsani, when faced in her early 30’s with the edict of her Persian culture -- seduce a man and get married or you are “spoiled” for life -- said no to these expectations and took the lone and often scary path of staying true to herself. In trusting her deep inner knowing, Melody, despite anxiety, chose love over fear when she dropped out of law school (the career she was told would make her worthy of a man), pursued her calling as a designer and took the courageous path of finding what makes her happy as an independent person without a partner. This commitment to finding contentment and fulfillment alone, which included following the pulse of everything she loved to do and was genuinely attracted to (like taking piano lessons and going to concerts and basketball games alone), ultimately magnetized her the career of her dreams and an expansive partner at 39 that now continues to inspire her to become even more whole in herself.
“There's a term in Farsi for girls that aren't married before a certain age, and it literally means you've spoiled. I was the first woman in my family to break this cycle... I'm never going to force myself to do something that makes me uncomfortable or that I don't like or have a good feeling about because I should be putting myself out there. So instead I just started doing all the things that I loved…I think we undermine love so much. We also don't trust it because it's hurt so many of us so many times, but, I think that if you can trust what you love, you will never, ever go wrong.”
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@StyleLikeU1 2 года назад

Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this video! Go to BetterHelp.com/stylelikeu to get 10% off your first month of professional therapy.

@womenwhodate7643 2 года назад

"Single is no longer a lack of options - but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out." - Mandy Hale

@proxywar99 2 года назад

Copium

@RationallyMe 3 месяца назад

@@proxywar99 Let me guess... you're an incel, right? Right.

@kalinaperie3798 2 года назад

" If you knew what you had is rare, you would never waste it. " Wow

@StyleLikeU1 2 года назад

LOVE this!

@hi-deedee7249 2 года назад

God... I wasted it

@70maral 2 года назад

as an iranian women who turns 30 next year and been single for the past 6 years and getting to the point of being called "spoiled" i needed to hear her talk about being single. tnk you

@BlackBat808 2 года назад

❤️

@Littlewildone0 2 года назад

Honey, I have been married 40 years. I was engaged twice before I married my husband. I wouldn't just "settle" for whoever. Don't feel bad for waiting for the right person. You will meet the one when it's time.

@E_MZ_ 2 года назад

@@Littlewildone0 I think some of this is cultural pressure that you and I can’t relate to. These women are SHAMED in their communities for being single. It’s not about “settling” when you have to deal with the vocalized disappointment of all of your relatives. When you’re treated as defective if you’re unmarried. I don’t want to assume that you come from a western background, but you most likely do (Correct me if I’m wrong). But you and I have the privilege of being able to do what we want and pursue what we want with little flack.

@ThakurVlogs015 2 года назад

Hi mohzi I want to talk to you

@spaces5295 2 года назад

@@Littlewildone0 *If it’s time. The idea of a prescribed notion that people will meet someone plays quite a lot into the “should” meet someone.

@europeanguy8773 2 года назад

Being single is the best thing, especially after you are tormented emotionally by someone who never deserved you. Rather than set the bar lower in terms of what I want, and try to convince myself that going for someone less attractive but more stable is going to be the solution. I'd rather be single for as long as it takes, and if that's forever, so be it! I learned, something that I wouldn't ever have believe 4-5 yrs ago, that I don't need anyone other than myself to feel happy and fulfilled,

@ttephi3667 2 года назад

That is the spiritually aware way. Well done. I feel the same way.

@kani9284 2 года назад

and if you ever get into a relationship you won't have issues breaking up if the person isn't good enough for you because you have gained so much autonomy before even entering the relationship

@peacequeen2579 2 года назад

You are correct. I am done with having to define the meaning and validity of my life by my marital and social status. I invested over 30 years of my existence on go nowhere relationships that were so confining. That feeling of losing myself in the existence of someone else is the worst feeling and i cannot do it. I threw it all out the window at 43 and never looked back. I accomplished more in 15 years not looking for a relationship than I ever did in one. I ramped up my earning potential I bought a 3 family i grew! Almost 60 and it would be nice to find a companion but I know now its not needed.

@toobaniknia68 2 года назад

دقیقا ، i am from Iran , single and 42 years old and at this stage ppl don't ask me :why you are single , yhey just look at me with pity, which i is soooo stupid i am a free soul , if i want to go on vacation i go , if i want to lean a new language or say playing guitar i can , i am not marriage material, love on other hand , ldk anyone as romantic as me ❤

@ameerar8891 2 года назад

Oh what an interview. "If you trust what you love, you can never ever go wrong". I just had to pause the video and cry . Wow that felt like a stab in the heart

@ever7672 2 года назад

Me too 😭😭😭

@yannyyaz9019 2 года назад

So did I.

@StyleLikeU1 2 года назад

Soo happy you enjoyed 💞💞

@NatureFreak1127 2 года назад

What if you love cake or toxic person tho.

@shellywilks883 2 года назад

"I can't seduce anything." She is so sweet, love her🥰🥰

@jennifery5353 2 года назад

What she shared about her husband not allowing her to give up her identity for him, has me tearing up because, across many cultures in the world, including American culture, women are expected to give their lives away for everyone else. I’m single and in my mid 30’s. I’m not purposely single but people have made me feel so bad about myself and my life for not being there already. And it’s as if my life, as is doesn’t matter or have real purpose, to them, because I’ve failed at becoming a wife and a mother, and my window of opportunity to do so is closing. I don’t believe that and I totally understand that I shouldn’t let that hurt me, but I would be lying if I said that it doesn’t hurt. I want to find love but I want it for the right reasons and not because of my age or gender. I hope to, one day, find a husband who has the kind of knowledge to expect me to keep my identity, like that.

@delublink127 2 года назад

“ What’s the point of being a woman if you can’t have kids” - my heart dropped 😢🥺 we are all valuable just because we are.

@goldieh7121 2 года назад

I cried cathartic tears when she said she received more projection than she did mirroring That really hit home for me.

@happygucci5094 2 года назад

💯💯💯

@patriciagomez180 2 года назад

It’s amazing. I used to live really near to her store in LA and was like whoever owns this place is a badass, then I started to listen to her podcast and was like she IS a badass but also has the most unexpectedly sweet voice!!! Now I see her here telling her story, and I’m blown away by how normal and human she is, displaying her insecurities and not focusing on or showing off about all the shiny things about her life. I’m currently 39 and single and childless so I relate to what she speaks about. I’m from Spain and we have an expression which is similar to the Farsi one she refers to. Ours is “overcooked rice”.

@ever7672 2 года назад

I’d like to think of us as Fine Wine. Getting better ❤️

@StyleLikeU1 2 года назад

💞💞💞We are so haooy you loved the interview and resonated with her wisdom! Thank you for sharing and for watching!!

@kani9284 2 года назад

@@tm_3057 what country are those used in? In Croatia they bluntly say "old girl" after a woman reaches a certain age and is unmarried. Interestingly there is no derogatory term for men who are unmarried

@kani9284 2 года назад

@@tm_3057 thank you. So they are used for both men and women?

@GirlCalledKau 2 года назад

We say 'she's been left for vinegar'. Well, fine wine is what i prefer, too.

@ArtemisXV_ 2 года назад

What she said about seduction really resonates with me. I once had a conversation with an ex where they simply said something along the lines of I’m not seductive, I literally said to them “You saying I’m not seductive or can’t be feels like it’s taking away my womanhood, my power” However I know now I don’t need to be seductive, I just need to be myself-or learn what that means to me. I love her words about this💜

@Maria-gd4vf 2 года назад

I hope it didn't affect you so much --'

@BlackBat808 2 года назад

You know how it’s so rare that you find someone you relate to even though they’re in a different continent and life stage? Thank you from the heart for sharing this. It was so comforting

@StyleLikeU1 2 года назад

💞💞💞Amen!

@julieregalado6086 2 года назад

I am in my late 50e and while I was partnered for much of my adult life (with good people) I have been single for more then 10 years and feel it is absolutely a gift because I think that when we are in long-term relationships we often fall into habits of relational dynamics that often keep us from growing. It's not easy - it is often easier to have someone around to negotiate the world with - but it is worthwhile.

@imogenthomas7159 2 года назад

Melody is so self aware, I love what she said about the importance of seeing and understanding your own ‘dazzle’ instead of relying on others ❤️👸🏽

@meggieqin8496 2 года назад

As an Iranian woman who dont want to get married any time soon this video is what I need, the cultural pressure to get setteled as soon as possible is reall and love the fact that she embrace her persian beauty in its most natrual way😍

@vampiredetective 2 года назад

I feel less alone. I see myself in her.

@yb32 2 года назад

I didn't know how much I needed to hear this. I'm 34 and I still struggle with expecting validation from others, it's something I need to work on constantly and she made me feel better about it.

@cassandrastornoway5445 2 года назад

It requires enormous intelligence to be alone, and you must be alone to find truth - Krishnamurti

@fatedfatefulfatal 2 года назад

Flea you are so blessed to have Mel as your wife. ❤

@Ottska 2 года назад

This is deeply touching. I hear so many of my beliefs about myself, experiences, fears and hopes in Melody's words. What a wise and beautiful soul she is. This is medicine to me.

@BlackBat808 2 года назад

❤️❤️

@StyleLikeU1 2 года назад

Reflections of ourselves in others are SO powerful!!! 💖💖

@muddyshoes4517 2 года назад

I ❤ the answer she had for when she feels the most beautiful. "When I'm in my purpose. It's when I know I have value..." Her brain is so beautiful. She's such a powerhouse in her connection to the divine ❤

@SelfLoveU 2 года назад

"If you knew that what you have is rare, you would never waste it."

@kemicecormier5687 2 года назад

Melody’s thoughts on our body as vessels that want to work with us and for us, if only we’d listen really resonated with me. I’m grappling with this right now.

@earthgoddess2468 2 года назад

I was 37 years old when I got married good move

@iBRiDGE380 2 года назад

Whats the point of being a man or a woman and not have kids? A MILLION OTHER THINGS. ...yes, i have a child. But single is something entirely different. Takes time to appreciate it.

@stace_d 2 года назад

I've loved Melody for her style for years, but I think this is really first time I've heard her speak.. Wow, so humble, thoughtful and relatable. I want to talk to her for hours

@Ahealinggirl 2 года назад

This was one of my favorites . She touched on so much that I was feeling . She’s amazinggggg

@nikkiajagbe2783 2 года назад

This is one of (if not THE) best channel on RU-vid. So much healing, and authenticity on display it’s gives me permission to and shows how to live my whole self up in all my scars and GLORY. Self love is the hardest love…love and light to you all ❤️🙌🏾

@tammyleigh21 2 года назад

Wow she is incredibly beautiful on every level.. her energy just literally makes me feel like I've just left a health spa! She is super peaceful and gentle, so feminine, Thank you for posting these incredible humans they really make this world feel like its not such a bad place to live in after all 🙏💗

@paulinehanna2001 2 года назад

This was so good. She’s such a lovely person. I could listen to her all day. Loved this ❤️

@GummyBear4234 2 года назад

I swear she is saying exactly what I feel every single day of my life. It feels good to finally not feel like such an outsider.

@walteriaoseaubicate2128 Месяц назад

If you have one person that you really like , love and trust completely , it's enough 🥺🥺🥺

@christina117 6 месяцев назад

As a foreigner who has dealt with a lot of Iranian women as in-laws who unfortunately drank the cool aid of their sick regime, I have to say: this lady right here is incredible and I have been waiting to hear from women like her for SO VERY LONG! I just knew you are out there, smart, free thinking and liberated women of Persia!! More power to you! Thank you for making yourself known! You have been missed for so bloody long….😭 God, I am getting so emotional. Lol. 🙂

@carlirabon 2 года назад

peacefully spoken wisdom!

@ankitamaheshwari7686 2 года назад

I relate to Melody in more ways that I can count. This was truly looking into a mirror. Thank you so much!!!

@laurenh9079 2 года назад

This woman has such a beautiful soul. 💚

@wendyripley5524 2 года назад

I've never related that much to a stranger... I like her brand but never seen an interview of her. That was beautiful ✨ Thank you 🙏🏽

@gladysdiposo1248 2 года назад

If you can trust what you love, you'll never go wrong 🙌🏾👏🏿

@missethevoice7144 2 года назад

Her voice is such a Spiritual gift!!!

@lisajackson7546 Год назад

I love that she is Flea's wife! So sweet

@annettejones1300 2 года назад

Feel ashamed for being single ? I love being single!

@Thrivinginthespotlight Год назад

Her culture shamed her for being single that's why she felt ashamed about it

@mayat7669 2 года назад

this was so gorgeous... made me cry at some points! what a beautiful way of speaking

@ceilidhferguson1890 2 года назад

I luv this woman and her words of wisdom!! Absolutely beautifully relatable!! Your so right! I always reflect on how incredible it is everything is created perfectly not just to exist but to thrive in its environment, from the way the planets are placed in such a way that everything on earth can live and receive everything needed to breath to eat to drink to reproduce to connect!! It's no conquindence! I just adore the quotes so much!! I'm taking so much away from this vid!!

@avril.227 2 года назад

I love the stories. I love the beautiful souls speaking vulnerably and open about their truth. Thank you for this platform. It truly resonates.

@vodkahouse6662 2 года назад

as a middle eastern everyhting she was saying was so relatable to me ^_^ her soul is beautiful

@maryross8903 2 года назад

Is it vital to my well being to know that my husband/partner/ love misses me? No BUT I still like the idea of him missing me. I’m so happy to have found this channel ❤️

@victory-phoenixrising4498 Год назад

Argh i can so relate! I finally married at 42 for the fist time and it was a disaster- he was controlling etc. within 3 years I divorced and it was very costly but now im open to good things! You are amazing!

@margueritebaca3921 2 года назад

Thank you for bringing us Melody. She presents her heartfelt, soulful wisdom in a melodious way. I'm very happy to know there is such a beautiful person in the world. I feel like a satellite receiving her powerful transmission 🙌❤🙌

@TheHergeea Год назад

39 is spoiled? I’m 49 and still single. But it’s amazing! And I’m thankful I don’t have to fight like my family and friends do with their spouse.

@176vrod 2 года назад

Wow Melody has such an angelic spirit.. I loved listening to her share.

@jamie.daugherty Год назад

I love what she said on being single! She enjoyed her love following what she loved. I appreciated this video so so much and I’ve been following this channel for years and years. So happy the channel continues to grow and evolve.

@brideofallunquietthings888 2 года назад

I relate so much. Thank you for sharing I’ve never heard anyone talk about seduction like that. I have felt the same way, like it’s trickery and deceitful and I would rather be friendly and open, kind and playful. That’s the kind of spirit I like and I feel like I will never find somebody attracted to that.

@winter8646 2 года назад

I love her answer towards the vulnerability. Loved this whole interview.

@ever7672 2 года назад

Omg I felt everything she said 😭 this made me cry coz it resonated so much. Thanks Melody for sharing ❤️

@bongi2184 2 года назад

When she said she didn’t get married until she was 39 I was like “HUH?!?? 39?!” Why did I think she was in her late 20s??

@RaisingSerge 2 года назад

I find her extremely beautiful and not just the outer layer.

@heathervelazquez8930 5 месяцев назад

❤Melody Eshani sharing her heart for us women. Love is the vehicle to all good things. God is 💕

@mvh635 2 года назад

You are such a gem. So beautiful inside and out.

@cherylcarlson3315 2 года назад

Like Melody I was raised to be picked but very early on I read, perhaps too much and too widely. I decided I would make the choices and laughed off requests that may have been serious. When I did say yes, it was never with complete submission. I will go braless, wear full tea length skirts or blue jeans and tshirt and that can't be dictated for if that level of control is forfeited what will they demand next? I am 64 , just really coming into who I am and what I can do.You are well on your way Melody.

@SisMaria1 2 года назад

I agree with what this woman said whole heartedly! There are talents and gifts I have that can not be ignored. Some describe it as a calling.

@PatriciaPatricia_ 2 года назад

She’s purely Magical ✨

@joyyu7753 2 года назад

I love the "Trust what you love". That's so true, everything you need is within, and when you start building that temple, you'll attract the people that love you for who you are.

@yemio1005 2 года назад

She’s wonderful, this was such a gift ❤️

@nordiclights1 2 года назад

So beautiful inside out. Every word of this interview was pure gold. It felt so comforting to listen to it.

@chilloften 2 года назад

I just adore her sweet soft soul. Such beauty. I’m so impressed by women you pick to speak up.

@SpiritHeartsSong 2 года назад

I LOVE HER OMG So much beauty and wisdom!!!

@heyyysamara 2 года назад

I have been obsessed with Melody for years. Incredible interview. Thank you 🙏

@simbaladesignsinsights 2 года назад

Im loving this so much. It’s so nice to be reminded that the pairing process need not be rushed nor prioritized. Self-exploration will magnetize the right people 🙏🏽✨🌸 thank you sis🌟

@shoomoomoo 2 года назад

She’s so beautiful

@TheAPetra 2 года назад

Thank YOU so much for this interview I am in a weird/strange place in my life and this brought such a light to my soul and heart - Thank you again!

@marab4391 2 года назад

I felt as though she spoke what my heart feels. Thank you for articulating so well what I feel inside and can't always put into words. I relate to so much of what you spoke. Truly a lovely woman you are ♥️

@Mary-hn9hd 2 года назад

You are so beautiful.. I am genuinely moved and struck emotionally. I see your vulnerability on the outside. I Learned that that would be considered as weakness. But I look at you and I adore your softness and femininity! It makes me want to accept my own vulnerability, so I don't have to hide my softness anymore. Thank you. 😊

@rosalindjulen8251 2 года назад

I dont know her personally, but I always knew I connect with her.Thank you amazing woman.

@marquel7746 2 года назад

Im 35 and not married but if i could choose i would love to marry a woman identical to her looks, style, and class

@ticklemeplz 2 года назад

loved her since myspace. Forever my top 8

@robertguerrero3318 2 года назад

Yes thank you so much for the reminder to take the time a do what we love , I’m definitely on that road and I get to learn & love myself everyday 🖤 thank you style like you for the reminder to love ourself & journey

@hollanthemusician 2 года назад

Love this episode. Such a sweet soul and a soothing voice.

@anonleeleichner3915 2 года назад

Awe struck by her cosmic words

@Bianca-333 2 года назад

Hearing her speak is medicinal. Thank you!

@beyedoc 2 года назад

As an asexual woman, a doctor, this means a lot to me. I can resonate so much with this. 💜

@galegreyson4196 2 года назад

What a beautiful way to be and live.

@anonleeleichner3915 2 года назад

She is a gem....not too sure about the person she choose as a life partner. But I wish her all the best.

@michellelishman8409 2 года назад

WHAT AN AMAZINGLY INCREDIBILE INSPIRING CENTRED AND BEAUTIFUL BEING................ ......... ❤️❤️❤️

@erinkinsella91 2 года назад

She gives such a youthful vibe

@marieuwimana655 2 года назад

Yess

@cassvanessa5 2 года назад

Beautiful and deep woman. Really inspired me and opened my eyes in my own struggles. ❤️

@norahmartha 2 года назад

I truly want to thank the 'style like u' project, I've been watching for years and it gives me the ability to feel connected to people that i can understand, can identify with and it brings me so much, this project has been holding my hand in life and I'm very grateful for it.

@lulu-jx5gr 2 года назад

One of the most real amazing and genuine words ever .. ❤

@pearlhartney9 2 года назад

Really loved this interview. So many wise words and such a calming voice.

@25kishkish 2 года назад

Thank you so much for sharing Melody your words were relatable and resonated with me. So grateful for your wisdom.

@futureproof.health 2 года назад

Validation is a form of self value. It's kind of how we are. But the journey of.

@elmarwolters2751 11 месяцев назад

Pure wisdom

@onnivision6464 2 года назад

I really like how y’all do the ad at the end.

@mollyhanna1399 2 года назад

Beautiful story and presence. Melody's message of pursuing what you love and letting love find you in return really resonated.

@nervgnom2nd 2 года назад

Your videos are all amazing and incredibly inspiring, but every now and again, one of them comes out and just hits different. This was one of those for me. Thank you once again for your incredible work.