My fave is the one when the girl rated a chubby guy a 3...then rated herself a 10, and the next guy said she look like a lizard. I pray she saw that clip and it humbled tf out of her.
Very true. Many women act like they have to see themselves as the best looking to display confidence, but actual confidence is knowing you're average and being chill with it. The latter wins more respect too, so it's amazing that so many choose the former.
"Shout out to my negatives..." and a flash of Hawking across the screen killed me 🤣 I spit my drink all over my phone, now I gotta put this shit in some rice 😭
"you have the right to be average" this is possibly the absolutely most body positive statement I've ever heard. And easily one of the most common sense empowering statements I've heard on this channel.....and I've probably watched an unhealthy amount of yalls videos.
If you start to live by that standard or principle then you'll never be able to better yourself. I was agreeing with em till I heard aba add in charisma and other personality traits. Cos its alright to have that mindset or standard based solely on looks, but when you start to add other things in then it's unhealthy to have that mindset. As a man, you should always be striving to be better. If you adopt the mindset of "average is best" or "its ok to be average" then that's all you'll ever be. This principle should only be applied to looks for men. Edit: This principle should only be used for looks and height. Cos they can't be changed.
@@floki5182 Except there's a huge difference between actually becoming better and faking it for likes. That's the problem with this generation, they're all fake. Because social media conditioned them to be that way and normalized faking it till you make it. Much like your comment, you can give this preachy self help guru stuff all day long, but unless you actually practice what you preach, I'm not buying it.
@Floki I'm okay with looking like an ugly caveman, a solid 2. I dress average, I have great hygiene and I'm laid back. I'm that guy girls swipe left on Tinder but in person they want to get to know me more. I think that's the outlook Aba n Preach are trying to articulate. Be okay with yourself
@@floki5182 you can be happy with yourself now AND strive to be better at the same time. That's almost like saying "don't be content with that A- because you won't study hard or harder for the next test" Or saying don't be happy about this promotion you just got because you won't be able to better yourself and achieve the next one. So also this whole "it's ok to be average" was mostly about looks.. but it can also be more than that. You'll never be happy if you are always needing to strive for better BEFORE you can be okay with yourself.. there would be no end because you can always do better.. So two things can be true at once.. you can be happy with where you are AND have plans to be further in the future. I prefer to not live a life chasing a happiness I can never enjoy because I'm not allowed to until I've reached "the next" step. There's always another step though.
@@floki5182 also knowing you look average vs having a ridiculous outlook that you are some untouchable top ten but you are just average? 🤷🏼♀️ Enough said there. And it's not a men problem as much as it's a lady problem, as you see in the video.
I saw a tiktok where a guy rated an attractive girl an 8.5 and in the comments women were offended for her. Never in my life did I think anyone could be offended over an 8.5/10. That is a great rating! They were acting like he called her butt ugly. What kind of world are we living in where a compliment is taken as an insult? Average people have become way too comfortable with calling themselves perfect.
I always thought 10 was perfect like super fit, perfect chest and bum, like photoshop. 9's are like natural perfect as for 8's super pretty but not a model...🤷♀️
I think a rate of 6-8 leaves room for improvements and betterment, which is better than 9 or 10. 9 and 10s mean you are too perfect and nothing to improve on which sucks to be honest.
@Juci Shockwave I thought 10s have got to have exceptional skin, youth and genetics, I just found out that Melanie go boom chick was 36 and I couldn't believe it, thought she was 22 lol, she got awesome genes lol
I’m a solid 5 lady and I had to work to get this high and I’m not ashamed of it!! I had to work out and get fit to get above a 3. 5 is great. I’ve maxed out my potential💪.
Sometimes rating yourself low doesn't mean you're insecure, it means you're self aware. I'm a 4-5 and I'm confident in that. Confidence doesn't belong to attractive people.
Beautiful girls are some of the absolute most insecure women on the planet. Ive dated them, ive also dated average girls and usually they are much more comfortable in their skin. Disclaimer: This is in northern europe, not america where every girl thinks they're 10's no matter what they look like.
I ask myself the same thing 😂 I'm perfectly fine with admitting I may be a 5, maybe a soft 6 😂 my husband says I don't give myself enough credit, but I feel he has a biased opinion
You know what's weird? How we live in an age where we are supposed to accept that no matter how we look we are beautiful in our own way and yet we turn around and then do everything in our power to change, from lying to ourselves to plastic surgery.
Its almost as tragic as fat acceptance Women who openly state they wouldn't date overweight men. Like you can say everyone is equally attractive, but what you do feel actual attraction to is generally the same and based on nature. So look wise you can clearly see diffrences.
let's not forget the hypocrisy of those same "love yourself" people talking trash to other people that don't meet their standard. So it's really: "love yourself as long as I approve."
If you gym up and grow your hair or spike it up in a slick way you won't be average that's a fact. I like guys with long hair, not every girl does but every girl likes muscles. Of course you have the right to be average if you are. Some guys are way to hard on themselves😢 and don't realise they are far better looking than they think. But gym and a bit of hair grooming increases a man quite a bit if he wants to self improve aesthetically.👍🌹
I had a guy at my course in trade school who was and still is 9,9999... Tall, muscular, good face. He knew he could get any girl just by looking at her. And he was humble about it and he hated it. He once told me that he can fool around as much as he wants, but no he can't get a serious relationship because most of the girls who chase him are mindless morons with no personality and moral values. I seriously felt bad for him at that moment.
nah that shit super corny..hate is a burden on the soul. it is a terrible state of mind to have someone living there life living rent free on ur mental.
@Vice Gripp pretty sure he got married before his disease completely handicapped him. He wasn't always wheelchair bound. Edit: yeah there's old pictures of him standing next to 1 of his wives
@@vicegripp Because, on average, physical appearance doesn't matter as much for women as it does for men, especially for highly intelligent people who don't just allow their monkey brain to dominate their life decisions. But these ratings are based on physical appearance alone, so you have to admit that physically he does not have any traits that the majority of people would find attractive.
For people who are just starting to look into skin care and are buying scrubs - please don't over-exfoliate! You have to be very gentle when using physical scrubs, so don't overdo it and when you are scrubbing, especially on your face, be gentle, don't push too hard to not damage your skin and cause micro tears and wounds which could lead to a whole load of skin problems. I know men have thicker skin but I think that scrub can be equally damaging if not used properly.
There was an Instagram thread about people how often do a shower, and some people out here scrubbing themselves to 3 times a day absolutely ruining the skin biome
@@royalacity Yup, NEVER use it daily, let alone few times in a day, when I was teenager who didn't know better I used to scrub every evening and it made my acne so much more worse. Currently I use physical scrub a few times a month but also use C-50 serum every few days, which is more like like chemical exfoliant.
I am average and I know it. But I think it’s hard for women to accept it (me included) because of how many gorgeous woman we see on social media. The longer you watch beautiful people, the more you think it’s the norm, even if it’s really an exception. When you see beautiful people non-stop since you’re young, it creates mental problems such as dysmorphie. Because most woman feel this way, they feel empathy towards their friend, so they try to boost their ego by saying “no, you’re a 10, you’re gorgeous”! I think the emphasis on beauty is even more prominent on the younger generation and it affects everyone.
Absolutely right, we need to focus away from looks. It seems physical beauty is a pre-requisite to success now a days. Even in industries that are focused on talent or education. I’m sick and tired of the thirsting and blind favoritism towards pretty faces
Normally it would be, because women use to have SOME DEGREE of realism. Now even 6 and 7's think they deserve to be treated just like the 10's, whether they think they're 10's or accept they are 6's & 7's. They all want royal treatment. The delusion is a massive turn-off. Hence why we hit it and then ghost.
“You’re not perfect, sport. And let me save you the suspense. This girl you met, she isn’t perfect either. But the question is whether or not you’re perfect for each other. That’s what intimacy is all about.” - Good Will Hunting
An interesting perspective to consider is that they might not be thinking about the bell curve model of 0 and 10 being outliers and 5 being average , but rather the grade point model we're taught in school (10-9 Excellent , 8 Passing , 7 Average , 6 and below Unacceptable).
Where is that grade point model from? Damn, everywhere I have studied, from middle school to university, 3 was the average, 4 was ok, 5 was passing, 6 was a good mark, 7 a great mark, 8 was incredible, 9 was unbelievable, and 10 was absolutely perfect
@@lucasmt.2000 bro if you had ratings all the way up to 10 and the average was still 3, then most of the class was getting 1s and 2s. Bunch of retardeds
@@lucasmt.2000 Average 3/10? I'm assuming at least some of this is for subjects where there are right/wrong answers - how does it work that missing two thirds is considered acceptable?
I’m a girl, and objectively speaking, I’m a 5 or a 6 at most. Yeah, I’m not a stunner, but who cares! And no, I don’t think I have the personality to make up for it 😂 I’m strictly average in all fronts, but I’m okay with it. I’m not negating the importance of looks, because in the real world, I can’t deny how much looks matter. I’m just choosing to look past all of that and still be happy. There are more important things in life, and I believe I’m a decent person who cares for others and is kind, so that’s enough for me. I wish people would realize that average isn’t bad. It’s a pretty stable place to be
Awesome that you're happy how you are. Keep in mind you can always improve how you look massively by going to the gym if thats what you want. But yes, being kind and a a good person is way more important.
@@raulinhomaster I’m fit, so that’s not the issue. I just have a very average looking face, so not much to do about that haha. I put on a bit of makeup, do my hair, and I look presentable. Just not “pretty” per se
you'll still get way more guys sliding into your DMs than the average looking guy would get girls messaging him. That's just the reality of being female!
The goal is to feel like a 10 within yourself but accept your average and be content with what you got. If you love yourself then the judgment of others don't affect you nearly as much.
Eh, I don't know about that. I lived in a place where I was treated like a rock star simply because I was a foreign white guy. (I was also in really good shape, but I was definitely no rock star by American standards.) I have to say that my confidence went through the roof. It was awesome. I conducted myself a lot better around people as a result. Then I lost a job and had a major health problem so that even my fitness is gone. I think the goal should be faith. In the end, we all are going to lose everything: money, looks, mental prowess, what have you. So if we base our self-worth on any of that, we're founded on sinking sand as it were. Yet if we base our self-worth on something metaphysical or religious, such as being made in the image of God or being a blood-bought member of Christ's family, then that will last us throughout our lives. It's so easy to die or get hurt and lose everything. We need something deeper than the superficial to last us through the storm, which definitely will come and most likely in waves.
No, its not about 'feeling like a 10' regardless, it's about knowing you're a 4/5 but being completely OK with it. Most people are average, that's why its 'average'.
My issue with the beauty scale is that everyone thinks it's linear. In reality, beauty is a bell curve. In other words many people are 5's. And being a 7 or an 8 is extreme beauty, therefore very few people fall into that category.
Exactly. I think I can count on one hand the number of people that have actually taken my breath away because they were so stunning. It is extremely rare. I once worked with models, saw attractive people all the time. Even then most models are an 8 at best. But an actual 10, it’s been years since I’ve seen one.
I think the mentality behind it is that 5 is a baseline average for someone not trying, for women that could be an average girl without make-up. For a guy it could be a guy who hasn't shaved or put on a nice outfit. So if they have put some effort into their appearance they deserve an extra 1-2 points because of it.
At the end when they were saying you're just as likely to be a 10 as a 0 I was thinking "yeah like 10%, hold up it doesn't work that way, this shit has a normal distribution. Only like .3% of chicks are 10's and same for 0's"
@@kft4764 Literally you know it's 10 when people are blown away by the same sex even if they're straight. I saw Hugh Jackman once and even I couldn't take my eyes off of him, I told all of my friends he's such a beautiful man lol
I grew up with three sisters who were all into fashion, if they asked me if the looked fat they expected the most brutal form of the truth. Other girls didn’t appreciate that feedback 😂
I learned real quick that there are girls, that do not like the truth. I've had friends in the past where they could be brutally honest with me, but if I were politely honest with them, they wouldn't talk to me for days.
Same deal with me, only boy out of three girls and was taught to do the same thing. We were harsh to each other but it helped us develop thick skin and made sure we didn’t look like shit when we went out
I used to care about my "rating" in HIGH SCHOOL, lol luckily at 28, I have way more confidence & I've never struggled with attracting men. But half were losers and vampires who would leech off my money/generosity 🤷🏻♀️ I don't need to be a 10 and I'm happy with my looks! Thank God we all look different and beautiful in our own way ❤️
I think people learn to appreciate their own beauty over time so that they are a 10 to themselves but that doesn't mean they a deluded enough to think they are everyone's cup of tea.
@@apeiceofmoldedclay No that not out it works. if you're average and think you are a ten then what do you call the likes of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie.
I still remember the day me and my classmates were hanging outside our small college and this 8-9 woman who looked like a model walked past, and she ended up having an attitude about something. As soon as that attitude we all collectively thought the same thing and thought she went from a 9 to like a 4 that fast. It don't matter how good you look if you got no substance. A 6 can be someones 9 if they make them feel some time of way.
I think the number rating is on looks alone cause often we just look at a picture for the rating, but I agree, like preach says open your mouth u can go down to a 4 fast
The other day I was talking with my girlfriend about this and she told me that many women will always rate theirselves 10/10 because their way of showing that they are happy with who they are. Even if it isn't accurate, they don't want to seem insecure (mostly to other girls) and give themselves a realistic rating. I guess it also has a little to do with pride.
Maybe it's because I'm 28 and I've already gotten over the need to be drop dead gorgeous, but there is no need to be a ten in the eyes of other people. It more important to come to peace with how you look and maximize what you got. Appreciate what makes you look unique, rather than what makes you the same as every 10 on insta
As a guy, I've had girls tell me I'm a higher number than I know I am, but it's not so much of a lie as it is a skewed assessment. It's coming from friends who are taking your personality into account, so their emotional attachment to you muddies the results. I think most guys kinda understand that, and understand that the "rate yourself" question is asking based solely on looks, so we answer more honestly because we know what a 10 looks like and we know it ain't 99% of us.
A long time ago, the site hotornot was just a site where you could post your pic and strangers would rate your attractiveness on a scale of 1 to 10. There was no place to put a comment in or anything. That's about as objective an average you'll get.
Because all these men here who are trying to get 🐱 wanna lower women's self-esteem so that they don't have to put in as much work. When a man loves you/is a gentleman, he'll lift you up. When he just wants to fck/is insecure, he'll bring you down to "his level" if not lower. They won't admit it tho, they aren't even aware or they'll gaslight you into thinking you're "delusional". But I ain't blind, I see it. It's cool to know society's standards, but society's standard is always changing so just love yourself no matter what. You're a 6-7 in society's eye, but a 10 in your universe girl! F*ck these beta ass "men"!!! ❤️💯💯
I'm a 4/10 girl and I've found myself hanging out most of my life with girls that were around 8. It's a very tough experience ngl, especially in terms of self esteem. I've learned to watch all my crushes approach me to approach them. I took refuge in mind stuffs, all of these things that make you an interesting human being, but nothing compares to attractiveness for a girl. One thing I've noticed tho is that the longer a woman knows she's attractive the lower tends to be her sufferability. it's the small satisfaction i get out of this.
As a guy, another self-satisfaction: For a ton of these beautiful women, it's downhill like hell once they start getting older, since their entire world spins around their attractiveness, so once they don't get attention from men, or have them bend over, and society in general bend over for them endlessly, they start losing it bad. If you're really 4, nothing much is going to change really, so you don't have to worry about that and if you invested on being an interesting and good human being that makes you much more of wife material than those other women.
I had a girl call me gay because I said there’s no perfect woman out there I’m looking for the one that compliments me. She said you must be gay if you think there isn’t any 10/10 women out here. I can’t tell you how done I am with this generation.
You do realize not every pretty person wants to be a model right?? Modeling is overhyped, most people would rather do something with a less toxic work environment.
That's a myth though that models are always pretty...most times they need to be skinny...if they happen to have good hair,or clean skin and pretty that's the plus.
Honestly.. This video has been ironically helpful for me. I have very low self esteem, even tho I also think others might be happier having what I got. It's a very disconnected way of thinking, I guess. A lot goes into bullying for being ugly as a kid and my view on myself is now distorted... Anyhow, I don't know if others feel the same, but I always crave to look "perfect". I want everyone to like me. I want everyone to find me pretty. I always wanted to be a 10, because I've seen how 10s get treated and I always wanted that. But in all honesty, this video has hit a sweet spot for me. It's okay to not be a 10. I should just work with what I got and not cry about not having what I want. "It's okay to be average" is such a strong statement. I found that so inspiring that I had to sent this video to a friend of mine. This made my day. I have such crippling perfectionism, that hearing this sentence made me go like "Dang, I didn't look at it this way. This is so cool. I should adopt to this mindset"
I love Aba’s last comment. One of the best things my dad did with me was be brutally honest about my looks as a child. He told me “you’re not the worst woman a man would see, but nobody’s going to stop and in their tracks when they see you. You better develop a great personality, work ethic, and take care of yourself.” I always tell younger girls that there’s someone younger, thinner, and prettier at the party so develop who you are as a person.
As a child you’re not even developed yet, not only bodily, but not in the face either. Honestly I’m offended for you girl. He could have told you to do all that without saying you’re anything less than gorgeous.
Thank you 😊 I think there’s a difference between blunt honesty and misogyny. My dad definitely had some misogynistic views, but this wasn’t one of them. One of the biggest failures we do for girls today is to put forth this “everyone is beautiful” idea. It does girls a disservice because: 1) If they’re not what society considers beautiful, then they’re going to experience way more rejection and it’s going to cause a lot of unnecessary pain; and 2) We’re conveying the importance of developing other personality traits (compassion, intelligence, work ethic, etc.) that would serve them more in the world. People are always shocked when I say that I’ve never considered myself beautiful, because I’m not. I think when I’m in shape and on my game, I’m a cute woman. It’s just being honest about yourself that I think people really struggle with.
I think what some of these people don't realise is that a ten is the top of the top of the top, basically no one gets to be a ten, no matter how good you look, no matter what you do, you can probably never be a ten, but these people think a ten is as common as existing.
Girls won 't tell the truth if surrounded by friends. If it was just you and her she would be more humble and probably more attractive as a result. Guys do compliment women on social media but a girl knows if she is attractive according to men in real life or not. I think girls feel they have to say ten because women are told to love themselves just the way they are. If men were told the same thing that wouldn't be such a toxic sentiment. But they aren't. But remember looks are not everything and they fade for both men and women.
As a guy, sometimes I don’t think I’m completely honest with myself. I’ve always considered myself a solid 7 cuz it’s a nice number. But I’m probably a 6 and a 6.5 on a good day 😂
This video made me feel good to be an average girl. It's true, girls try to boost each other (unless they are frienemies). Guys tend to accept and go with what they have. It's refreshing to have an objective view and work on being content in your life. Be your own version of a 10 inside and out.🤗🥰
Agreed. I had a "best friend" in school who put me down every chance she got. I was insecure at the time and said nothing but looking back a lot of boys made fun of her looks and she was overweight. She was projecting her feelings of low self worth onto me. I don't think girls should be mocked for their appearance btw, or boys. But she really was vicious to me. It's a shame the way society is without fixation on physical appearance. It makes both genders feel incomplete and erodes their self confidence.
Men don’t have objective views. They give their opinions an inflated sense if importance & claim it’s “objectivity.” Please learn about what attractiveness is.
@@PostInquiry All that money got him outta the negatives and made him look a 1 to his gold digging nurse. As for his first wife, she met him when he was 2 and could still walk.
Don’t forget, everyone can change their “score” to an extent with a little effort, working out a little and a good haircut/shave can go a LOOONG way for a lot of people. The confidence that comes from a cleaner appearance will only further boost that score!
Thankfully my mom taught me it was ok to be average and I've never been insecure about being average. Now I'm not saying there isn't things I've had insecurities about but it was never because I felt average.
Exactly confidence is earned arrogance is just coping. If I throw 20 darts at a dart bored and get 18 of them in the bullseye I can be pretty confident that if I throw another Dart I can at least get it close to the bullseye. These women can't even hit the wall the dart boards hanging on and are 100% confident if you give them another Dart they can get a bullseye. This is why when you tell people just be confident as dating advice you're absolutely giving s*** advice. You should be saying do something that makes you confident because just acting confident is arrogance
I started doing a lot of spiritual work and stopped obsessing over my looks. I mainly care about my appearance in regards to how I can utilize my looks to have a better life without sacrificing integrity. Beyond that, I don’t worry about where I land on a scale of 1-10. Besides, people I think are attractive are ugly to my friends and vice versa. Just focus on mental, spiritual and physical health and you will be handsome/beautiful to those who matter.
@@eastwaters4082 All that shows is the cluelessness of the average person. To quote Churchill, "The best argument against democracy is a five minute conversation with the average voter." That kind of sums things up. Basically a lot of younger guys don't recognize them as the red pill parrots they are.
One thing ppl don't understand is some truly are one "you ain't sh*t" away from crippling depression because so many ppl go out of their way to be douche-canoes for no reason other than to feed their soulless ego.
Honestly, I don't know why that is, but when someone calls themselves a 10, they stop becoming attractive, and when someone calls themselves maybe a 4, 5 or 6, they become more attractive. Maybe it's the brain being defiant, but it might also be that humility is attractive.
You get life is all. Someone having to inflate their value typically indicates low self esteem which often leads to other issues. An accurate or more accurate evaluation is more attractive because the person is clearly comfortable with who they are and has high self esteem.
@@DominantBtch fair enough if your life has given you other experience. My life has taught me that little things are indicators of bigger things. My life has taught me that people who need to inflate self worth typically have issues like low self esteem, narcissism, insecurities, dillusional, inferiority complex, etc. Not all of those issues in one person, but one or more issues is often the case. I have over 52 years on the planet and that little thought has been incredibly accurate. Again, perhaps you have been in contact with better people than me and have a different experience.
This is what happens when you're told you're special your entire life and told you just have to look pretty and show up. You end up delusional. But society still pats them on the head. I find it funny that one group is fine the way that they are, the other has to grind, and consistently work on themselves because they're not good enough as they are. Truly fascinating.
Well males have themselves to blame. Telling your daughters that they shouldn’t do STEM subjects or play soccer, and just be good looking and have a husband has done this. Males only appreciate women for their looks alone. Of course you will create a generation of looks obsessed people in general. In this society you need to be relatively good looking/popular in order to open any doors for yourself.
@@mealovesyu ok this argument is pretty disingenuous. It's father's who are taking their daughters shopping for clothes and make up and telling their daughters on how to attract men? No, it's the mothers. I will agree with you that it is fathers who are too over protective of girls and putting it in their heads that nobody is good enough for them. As far as STEM, goes, FALSE. STEM has been open to women for decades. your argument basically is saying women have zero agency and cannot think choose for themselves what they want to do. Which is proven even doubly false considering they have pretty much unlimited freedom where they want to go to college and what they want to learn in classes. You're saying a woman whos far from home, supposedly has her own agency and all those STEM classes available won't go to them because her father said not to? Stop. Take some accountability. I find it funny that women have agency up until it doesn't benefit them anymore.
I always had the feeling I was a 5 or AT MOST a 6.5 in a good day, but friends only tell you that you are a 10 and then I just have to keep wondering and it bugs me even more. Recently I kinda confirmed I was average and I'm a lot happier not havng to wonder. That being said I do think my husband needs to say I'm a 10 in his eyes, even if it's not true because I want the illusion that TO HIM an HIM ONLY I am perfect :)
Actually rating people is extremely subjective. For example my best friend likes guys who look a bit feminine (like Shawn Mendes) and she thinks these guys are 10. Personally I find these kind of dudes extremely mid. I always rate guys who look little bit "rough" in the face a 10 because for me a man is more manly if he looks like he's been through shit. I will never forget the time me and her went through a list of celebrities and she would rate some of them 10, I would rate them like a 2. So ratings people appearances depends on taste, culture and fetishes.
Amen, I agree a bit of nuance I like to add is that within every culture there are basic things we deem as beautiful and ugly. So based upon this generalization of beauty. we can rate beauty. Its just never objective. Like Abba said the subjectiveness comes in to place based on the person that rates others, meaning since we have perconceived notions of beauty per culture you go up or down maybe a point or two depending on who rates you. You see this in studies done about beautiful people all the time on avarage a certain person is a 8 in the states but a 4 in france. Because on avarage we are formed by what we are told is beautiful during out life-time. And ofcoure some people in those studies give different ratings since beauty is always subjective on a personal level . But we do all have box we fit in based on beautystandards. I would like to think of those boxes as this. 4-6, 6-8, 8-10. We all fall into a box. The box just changes per culture and continent.
I feel like a 10 is something that we all agree is a 10 no matter what you're type is, but I'm with you. I have a friend who likes zero fat on women and I find the girls he brings home disgusting because they're so skinny but I'm sure he says the same about the girls I like because I like some thickness.
Because if you are humble you can take good well-constructed criticism and grow from there, but throw some criticism on these "I'm 10" lads and see how they freak out. Confidence my ***, that's arrogance.
Exactly! Overrating yourself is a sign of low self esteem, which often leads to other insecurities. All those women saying 10, I would just walk away from. The one who said 6 likely has solid self esteem and is likely worth your time to at least say hi.
These conversations always crack me up. This is what it boils down to.. Girl: Im pretty. I think I'm a 10 Everyone: You ugly. Beauty standards suck... But you still don't meet them. Its a game that if you play right you lose ( ig baddies) if you don't play you lose ( girls that don't scribe to beauty standards) and if you suck at the game you lose. ( Girls that try but it's doesn't look right) Love your self and find other who do too
a lot of women are deluded about what the beauty standards actually are. "insta baddies" aren't as good looking as they think they are, w/ their overdone makeup and general phoniness. not to mention women who think ridiculously long lashes and/or nails are attractive somehow. That's not to say that all ppl on instagram or who wear makeup are unattractive, but 'the beauty standards' women perceive aren't actually what the beauty standards are a lot of the time. Beauty standards aren't bad or good, they are what they are because people are gonna be attracted to something.
Well put, most of the time I consider personality sets the score anyway, I know some chicks that are fairly pretty but they are absolute catches because of who they are. I have seen some vile women too who are definitely in the negatives, amber heard anyone 🤔
@@sub-harmonik Idk how you can say that: Men will say they want an all natural girl but all natural actually means light makeup and clear skin. Men make jokes about waking up to their girl without makeup and "thinking it's a dude" all the time. Like be for real now.
@@Miztique yeah light makeup. not caked-on or done to the point where you're unrecognizable. Depends on the woman too imo. A lot of women use makeup to the point where they don't look natural at all. I do think it's possible to pull off a look with a lot of makeup but 95% of the time it doesn't work
Ooooh, the confidence those girls had. "I´m a 10." And I´m sitting here, thinking "You´re practially a baby with a face plastered with make-up. Go home and work on that 10."
I've never really cared what others see me as when attractiveness is involved there's so much more then looks that makes someone attractive, not to mention not everyone likes the same stuff, I've been told my whole life I'd look prettier if I had natural hair and wore some colour... Well that's not me... And I can just wake up with drool still coming off me and my husband still says I'm the most beautiful woman!! Just because some rando on the street doesn't like they way you look doesn't mean everyone doesn't!!! Stay confident and love yourself!!!
Your husband telling you you are gorgeous is like my grandmother telling me Im beautiful...it doesnt count. I need to know where I would objectively stand if I were to end up divorced tomorrow and if I would likely get any dates.
@@veronicaana Lmao ight well ima say it then, if her pfp is her then yeah I can understand where her husband is coming from. Calling a stranger beautiful is cringe to me so i'll just say it like that and say it like this-- she definitely is not ugly, that is for sure.
It's interesting too because someone's 4 is someone else's 8. A 10 isn't even a true 10 and a 1 isn't a true 1 because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. .. And there's a whole lot of different "beholders" out there lol
You know I do agree with this because my high school sweat heart I genuinely thought she was very pretty, I was infatuated with her, we've been friends since we were little middle schoolers, and even now as we're both 25 24 year old's we keep in touch, but my friends in high school thought she had a busted face and you know how we were as teenagers with no confidence I genuinely wondered if there was something wrong with me for thinking she was pretty.
The sheer audacity of every woman rating themselves a 10... Habibi, you're living in a fantasy world & you're there all by yourselves. Not one of these chicks is even above 7.
Given how much effort and money 95% of them have put into their hair, dress, and overall look, they probably just say it to hype themselves up and feel less conscious about their looks lol.
Also, I think it’s cool having distinctive features. Like I’ve got quite a big nose but it goes with my face shape and makes me stick out in a crowd of people, literally. People also say they don’t notice it when I tell them so it’s not like everyone notices. I used to be insecure about it and people used to joke about it but now I’m older I like it. Plus I can manage it with grooming etc. I think it you look like the stereotypical beautiful person it’s boring to me I’ve always been attracted to girls who have an extenuated feature because it separates them from the crowd and makes them unique. My nose doesn’t make me a 10 but I would consider myself around a 7-8ish because you can sort out other features and I have attractive features on top of the nose. And you can always work on your body to make yourself more attractive.
A 10 is an unachievable ceiling. If you are a 10, you are not a human being that poops and farts and smells if they dont shower. A 10 is a godlike being.
Imo? A 10/10 woman is one that is head turning beautiful with little effort. Like she can roll out of bed. Messy bed head, no make up on. Walk outside to get her mail in her robe and still turn heads. A 10/10 guy is Mr Steal yo girl. Like you think she faithful until a guy like him comes around and expresses intrest.
@@MrLij02 funny how I would even go as far as to call her ugly. Not even joking. Incredibly unattractive to me. I could list some more who are perceived as beautiful by some, but are ugly to me are. Like Emma Watson, Gal Gadot, Anne Heathaway, Halle Barry. I would not even date them for a hundred bucks hahah
I once had a conversation with a female friend about people rating others. I decided to have fun with the conversation. I said "I'm a 6. My wife is a 9." She wanted me to say my wife is a ten and caught the joke mid sentence. She replied. "No. You're supposed to say your wife is a t... ohh.." 😳 Me: 🤣
I’d definitely agree about your rating of yourselves but you are also right about your charisma and you both have beaucoup charisma and personality which gets better with age. Keep on keeping on, you’re both great. And you know it!
I would like to say that other people's opinions do not define you. It does not matter how other people rate you. Beauty is subjective, and people's ideas of beauty are subject to their biases and prejudices. I believe myself to hansom even if others don't. I won't sell myself short, even when others do. The television and Hollywood pushed beauty standard, and we accept and push them on others. I am not concerned what others think other than the one's who love me.
On avarage its based on nature. So being healthy. In old days masculine beauty is being in shape, sharp features etc. Resembling of security as a warrior or hunter. For Women its curvy, and more youthful to represent vertility and health. Being best for offspring. Like its primitive since we were animals once but thats the physical part on avarage. And it reflects what people on avarage go for. Thats not unrealistic things like parts of the beauty industry or hollywood advertise. But natural fitness. It also speaks of self discipline and putting in the work and willpower to get there automaticly. But generally its the package that makes the man. Friends of mine that are less attractive still got pretty girlfriends due to personality.
@@duncanmugambi6213 how is it a cope? Everything they said is correct. You people are ridiculous 😂 the only person who sounded sane in this comment section was this person. Beauty is subjective, there’s no rule book on what’s pretty or not, everyone is different. You guys are so shallow
@@Las645 They are sane because you agree with them? You can agree and its okay..but there are objective measures of beauty. You may not like them but the rating is there. Subjectivity is just added on top of what is real, definable and objective
I’m pretty sure those girls don’t look in the mirror every morning and think I look like a Victoria Secret model . I believe they rate them self that because they don’t want people to perceive them as being insecure. Because if a girl says I’m a 4 or 6 everyone would say no sweetie your are beautiful,you have a great smile and a great personality. So in order to not look like you lack confidence, the say I’m a 10 , which in looks and having a great personality and a wonderful smile makes you a 10, in a non superficial way . That’s just my guess . Where as for dudes society don’t really judge you base of your looks more so your wallet . In which most guys will exaggerate as well.
Except people don't say that, as evidenced in this video when her own friend is like "6? THAT'S RIGHT!" lol. I think this is from people confusing their physical attractiveness with their self worth. Having a great smile or personality doesn't mean you aren't a 4. It's fine to be a 4. When people need to jump in and say "no you aren't" it's kind of insulting to all the 4's who are great people. Nothing wrong with not being the world's best looking person. Don't make people think there is.
@@koolaidjerk People say that all the time, just because that friend didn't doesn't mean other women wouldn't. I have received that response myself when I have rated myself average, other women rush to tell you that you're beautiful because they equate an average self-rating with low self esteem.
@@Elviladia Exactly! Don’t you hate that one pretty / skinny friend that constantly says how ugly and fat she is and everyone has to remind her how beautiful she is . Yeah that’s annoying.
This is a perfect time to introduce you guys to "The O'Connor Scale", so named for a former roommate of mine. You have 1-10. 1's and 10's are basically an idea, for most purposes they aren't even real. 10 is like an angel straight from heaven or something. 5 is the middle, the median. It's average. Woooo lordt, let me tell you the fun we had at the pub when we've met some girls and they ask 'What would you rate my friend?'. "A solid 5, maybe 5 and a half". The looks we would get! It always ended up being a good conversation though, helped set expectations right from the jump. The vast majority of us are 5's, just what it is. Get to know a person, and personality can bump that 5 up or down.
You are using the bell curve model. Which makes sense, most human traits are along a standard bell curve. I think where the disconnect is that a lot of people are thinking on a percentage out of 100 type scale. By that scale, 70% of the population is overweight, so in general every normal weight person is going to be at least 7 or above. And that doesn’t factor in age. So if you asked people specifically to use a standard bell curve the answer might be different. Because if you are thinking out of base 100, the scores would be much higher based on age alone. Young people who are normal weight would all be 9/10 at least I would bet anything most of these ladies are thinking out of 100, not as a bell curve.
