@@elhamahmad6892 dude why? Just get a life, he’s done nothing wrong. If he didn’t do anything wrong as well, then the person “exposing him” would be exposing themselves as liars.
I am a revert, and I am happy to obey my Palestinian husband. He is a good man, alhamdulillah he is protective, generous and kind.. may Allah protect our marriage
The only thing my wife and I share is being Muslim. She is from a different culture. When she does something that agrees with Islam but doesnt agree with my culture, I don’t say anything because she is not breaking the rules of Allah, but the minute she does something that goes against Islam, I stop her. I quote Ketab and Sunnah to her. This guy knows nothing with all due respect
@@Hamza-iq6gw Zahir and Batin. The Messenger Alayhissalam focused on both, liberals today claim to focus on the Batin, and place little or no importance on the Zahir.
It works both ways I have been and seen husbands who have beaten the wife when the she put a little to much salt or spice in. She could not taste because she had a cold. I've seen verbally abusive men where the women then silently pleas to Allah SWT, hell I grew up in it. Hence not wanting to get married.
@@zebakhan39 yeah, that’s extreme stuff but this is not a suffering competition. Each issue needs to be addressed in its own time, right now the issue is couples using the Quran and Sunnah. So let’s not change the subject.
May Allah reward you greatly for guiding people to the truth. These days, we have imams misguiding people, very sadly, and I'm really happy there are people like you spreading the truth and busting these unbelievably unqualified imams. Yes, a wife has to obey her husband. A SIMPLE ANSWER. What is wrong with these people?
@@sedamergen your level of ignorance showed. Whatever degree you have didn't save you from stupidity thinking that your degree knows better than Allah. This is why feminists are a curse to all society. This is why you should learn your religion before any stupid degree that ends you up making stupid conclusions like this.
Oh i never new there are imams in islam misguidung people. Just like in religion CLAIMING they are Christians, there are 99% teachers/pastors misguiding it's members.
Compassionate imams: we differentiate GOOD generic values from BAD generic values based on (no, not the Quran and Sunnah) pagan/irreligious societies and their approval! This is necessitated by the fact that they're generic and agreed upon by society. According to callers to misguidance, the verdict of the Quran or the Sunnah matters LESS than what people habituated within their old (pagan) societies!
@@jegganmanneh7462 May Allah bless you and grant you Jannah. May Allah guide us, yourself, as well as the rest of the Believers to the straight path and keep us on it!
@@Rayka96 la ilaha illa anta Subhanaka inni kuntu minazzalimeen Salallahualihe wasallam Amern 1.Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3505 Ibrahim bin Muhammad bin Sa`d narrated from his father, from Sa`d that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “The supplication of Dhun-Nun (Prophet Yunus) when he supplicated, while in the belly of the whale was: ‘There is none worthy of worship except You, Glory to You, Indeed, I have been of the transgressors. (Lā ilāha illā anta subḥānaka innī kuntu minaẓ-ẓālimīn)’ So indeed, no Muslim man supplicates with it for anything, ever, except Allah responds to him.” لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَ سُبْحَانَكَ إِنِّي كُنْتُ مِنَ الظَّالِمِينَ :Arabic Sahih. 2.Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Every one of you will have his supplications answered, as long as he is not impatient and he says: I have supplicated but I was not answered.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 6340, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2735 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ يُسْتَجَابُ لِأَحَدِكُمْ مَا لَمْ يَعْجَلْ يَقُولُ دَعَوْتُ فَلَمْ يُسْتَجَبْ لِي 6340 صحيح البخاري كتاب الدعوات باب يستجاب للعبد ما لم يعجل 2735 صحيح مسلم كتاب الذكر والدعاء والتوبة والاستغفار باب بيان أنه يستجاب للداعي ما لم يعجل فيقول دعوت فلم يستجب لي
Maloon Marwan bin hakkam governor of The Firoon Mawiyah bin Hinda lanati ordered that son of the 1st Khalifa of Islam Imam Abu Bakar (ra) be arrested till he ran inside Ammi Ayesha(as) hujra to save his life on that Maloon Marwanbin hakkam put a lie on the familyof Abu Bakkar as follows 😂😂 Sahih Bukhari Hadith No. 4827 Narrated Yusuf bin Mahak: Marwan had been appointed as the governor of Hijaz by Muawiya. He delivered a sermon and mentioned Yazid bin Muawiya so that the people might take the oath of allegiance to him as the successor of his father (Muawiya). Then `Abdur Rahman bin Abu Bakr told him something whereupon Marwan ordered that he be arrested. But `Abdur-Rahman entered `Aisha's house and they could not arrest him. Marwan said, It is he (`AbdurRahman) about whom Allah revealed this Verse:-- 'And the one who says to his parents: 'Fie on you! Do you hold out the promise to me..?' On that, `Aisha said from behind a screen, Allah did not reveal anything from the Qur'an about us except what was connected with the declaration of my innocence (of the slander).
@@inshallkhan6799 Mawiyah bin Hinda lanati had no respect for Omer (ra) cuz Mawiyah was sooodrunk he announced he is more worthy to be Khalifa than 2nd Khalifa Rashid (ra) by keeping quite son of omer was safe & secure exactly like nowadays in Saudia Arabia 😂 Sahih al-Bukhari 4108 Narrated `Ikrima bin Khalid: Ibn `Umar said, "I went to Hafsa while water was dribbling from her twined braids. I said, 'The condition of the people is as you see, and no authority has been given to me.' Hafsa said, (to me), 'Go to them, and as they (i.e. the people) are waiting for you, and I am afraid your absence from them will produce division amongst them.' " So Hafsa did not leave Ibn `Umar till we went to them. When the people differed. Muawiya addressed the people saying, "'If anybody wants to say anything in this matter of the Caliphate, he should show up and not conceal himself, for we are more rightful to be a Caliph than he and his father." On that, Habib bin Masalama said (to Ibn `Umar), "Why don't you reply to him (i.e. Muawiya)?" `Abdullah bin `Umar said, "I untied my garment that was going round my back and legs while I was sitting and was about to say, 'He who fought against you and against your father for the sake of Islam, is more rightful to be a Caliph,' but I was afraid that my statement might produce differences amongst the people and cause bloodshed, and my statement might be interpreted not as I intended. (So I kept quiet) remembering what Allah has prepared in the Gardens of Paradise (for those who are patient and prefer the Hereafter to this worldly life)." Habib said, "You did what kept you safe and secure (i.e. you were wise in doing so).
U know I was misled by imams to such a point I became at one stage atheist. But allah guided me through dreams and decided to read again the quran translated to English and the life of the prophet saw and it guided me back to Islam. I studied all the religions and none of them make 100% sense. Quran and sunna provides the answers for the whole and everyday life❤
The Quran and the sunnah dictates what the base roles and responsibilities should be in an islamic marriage. These base roles and responsibilities should be followed and defined before the marriage takes place. Without any base predefined roles and responsibilities, the marriage is bound to fail as these things then become ambiguous as to who performs what duty or responsibility. So yea, Quran and sunnah are absolutely necessary to remind oneself what his/her responsibility is in a marriage. Things like compassion come after that.
Marriage roles are in Quran and Sunnah. There is no need for us, humans, to define it. Quran says Husbands are Protectors and providers of woman and so we, man, provide and Protect . Quran says Wife should obey the husband so woman should obey the husband. We can look the prophet pbuh 's marriage or marriage of sahabas. You are saying basically same thing as the imam in the video without realizing.
...but women don't ask their husbands for advice. they ask someone else. as a man its very easy to see another woman's words coming out of your wife's mouth. this is the problem...betrayal.
It's husband's responsibility to make her sure that he is the real hero of her life & he will protect her in her advice My husband made this possible in couple of years when keep on developing his trust towards me by telling me everything he was dealing with and it was his intlect then I started telling him everything I was dealing This bound made us realise that we are the best advocate of each other
Well that’s the question than isn’t it? Why does she look up to other women instead of her husband? Why do you look for advice from one person and not another? The person you seek advise from in your perception is either wiser, more knowledgeable, more trustable and/or more approachable.
@@sedamergen or more favorable in evilness, by giving justification from islam, just like the imaam in this video is. . Or the shaitaan from the beginning is to humanity, "Shaitaan is friendly with you- but he's not your friend"..., ("he is your open enemy" -Quran)
This is indeed an extremely BIG problem in this day and age! I'll say it again, fathers are mostly to blame with over spoiling their daughters such that no other man is ever enough! Prepare your daughter for a life long happiness with her future spouse; not just the instant gratification of obeying all her demands: whether halal or haram! e.g. taking her on luxurious trips every year, overspending on her marriage ceremony... etc
@@beeps7 especially with the rise of feminism. Feminism is a cancer and even hijabis and niqabis are affected. You can literally put a niqabi and a person who does not wear hijab side by side, and the feminism in the niqabi would be cancerous. Worse yet, the demand their Islamic rights too. Mohammed hijab puts it best. I’d rather be with a feminist, than a Muslim feminist. A feminist is about equality. She will pull her weight. A Muslim feminist wants her feminist rights and Islamic rights. A leech. Edit: Allah has given woman enough rights, and he also complements it with husbands rights in a way that works beautifully together. A man provides, protects, loves, and cherishes his wife. The wife in return obeys him, loves him and cherishes him too. Teamwork. Feminism just brings sadness.
@@zebakhan39 Nonsense, women get married to a man in the beginning of his life and he grows after that and her father was already established when she got married.
This is why i love Islam. No matter who say something. You can always check it by yourself on Qur'an and Sunnah. And you Will and always be find the truth. Even imam can be wrong. We are follower of Qur'an and Rasulullah not follower of some imam. We can always knew when imam gone wrong and we can corrected it. Even in prayer, we can corrected them if they wrong.
I looked at the people With a critical eye And found fault in everyone I looked at myself With a critical eye And found goodness in everyone I gazed longingly At blessings the people possessed And became unhappy I began to gaze at the blessings I possessed And became forever grateful I waited for people to greet me And became haughty I greeted the people first And became humble I expected people to forgive me And became arrogant I began to forgive people And became compassionate I thought others blameworthy And my ego inflated I believed myself blameworthy And my conscious responded I watched those who strived for the world And became complacent I watched those who sacrificed for deen And became productive I looked towards the worldly folk to emulate And lost myself I looked towards the Godfearing people And found myself I looked for a middle road in life And found it in Islam I searched for the ideal Human being And found my beloved Rasoollullah ﷺ I searched everywhere for Peace And found it In the Remembrance of Allah
Many munafiqeen in this times...specially on social media...be careful whom u follow...May Allah protect all the ummah from this fitna..May Allah also protect our brother Daniel and help him with the khidmah he is doing for the deen and ummah..
I remember reading a story about a Muslim woman who asked a scholar that her mother-in-law is always telling her what to do and that her husband does nothing about it so what are her rights in Islam as a wife? The scholar responded saying he can list out her rights if she wishes, or he can give her some advice which will not be easy to follow but will be better for her. She opted for the advice. The scholar requested her to obey her mother-in-law and do as she says, he reminded her that this will not be easy to follow. She reluctantly agreed. After a while she came back and said that her mother-in-law got fed up of her obedience and lack of resistance that she left her and husband alone to get on with their lives!! The moral of the story is that if the wife listed out her rights, her husband would of listed out his rights and it would just become a legal argument between 2 ppl and the marriage would not be going anywhere.
I see no one wants to hear this. Everyone is focused more on getting their rights than giving others their rights. The thing to remember is that you won't be punished for not getting your rights nor will you be rewarded for getting all your rights. Whether or not others treat you as well as possible is inconsequential. You will have to answer for the rights you denied others and not treating others with kindness. If ppl were truly worried about their standing with Allah above all other worries then they simply would not have so much to say about what the other party is doing wrong.
No I don’t think so. I always mention to my devoted Christian wife from the Bible “Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord. “ And it worked like a magic spell for the last 11 years. Al Hamdoulah 😊
To be fair, at least for the first part of it. I think it can be interpreted as that it shouldn't even come to the point where each other has to quote Quran and Sunnah. Both the husband and the wife should already KNOW to fulfill each other's rights PRIOR to marriage and fear Allah when dealing with each other. If one has to be constantly reminded of this. This is clearly a large issue. Not that quoting Quran and Sunnah is bad, but what had led to it. A good marriage doesn't necessitate that one partner has to constantly remind each other of what the rights are. It is inherently known, fulfilled and respected. I think as well it can lead to this tit for tat dynamic where husband and wife start to take rights from each other because each other isn't fulfilling them. "Well you're not doing this so I'm not doing this". And people can easily abuse each other's rights by quoting Quran and Sunnah but not understanding the context. EX: A husband might tell his wife in a rude way to go do the dishes. Wife tells husband don't talk to me like that and refuses. Husband starts quoting Quran about obedience. Wife starts quoting Quran about being a provider, etc, etc and the whole problem goes in circles with no solution because each side feels their rights aren't being met. Point is that yes rights are very important and they should be fulfilled. But also have mercy and patience when discussing issues. Otherwise rights remain unfulfilled. The second part about generic values was a bit confusing. Quran and Sunnah both offer that as well as well as specific guidance. I hope that makes sense.
May Allah protect us from such secularism, alhamdulillah we have a deen that encompasses every single part of our life. Allah Has not left anything without guidance for it, were there to be guidance for only a limited number of issues, we would surely be lost.
The only sufficiently advanced Muslim country is built 80 percent on slave labour and on the backs of the immigrants. Mean while the only places in the world where it isn't a shit hole is mainly athiest look at east Asia countries like Hong Kong and then Singapore and european countries like Denmark and Sweden both are majority athiest so again I ask you what has Islam brought to the world that atheism hasn't casually stopped on the daily
Thanks to the Lord of hosts that I , some ,12 days ago , came across your channel . Brother Daniel , I love you sooooooo muchhhh for the sake of God . May the king of kings bless you. 😊
We should probably listen to sheikh Abu Eesa Niamatullahs talk on this subject in its entirety before making any judgements. We've gotten to the age where we take short clips that may seem to give incorrect information and then base a whole video on this. What was said before these sentences and what was said after? It could be part of a larger conversation where many things have been discussed. I refuse to judge him based on this short clip as he has given amazing knowledgeable talks for decades now and the Al Maghrib institute which he founded has delivered fantastic courses and education for many people. May Allah guide us all and bring us closer to Him and keep us on siratul mustaqeem. Ameen
He don't have any knowledge what is Qurran & sunna obviously he is not Muslim but pretend to be Muslim by what he is wearing or look like muslim in character
I agree. especially after this statement in the video, I don't consider this person a Muslim anymore. May Allah save all Muslims from deception and lies. amin ya Rabbul alamin
@@november4516 really I don't care because I know a lot gus are Muslim or came from Muslim family but they are hypocrisy & Allah mention them in qurran there is whole surra called المنافقون so I don't care if he care or not I just gave my point or comment.
Modern/western "Muslim" woemen love to hear this type of "advice". I've experienced this first hand when vetting not one but several "muslimahs" to marry. That's why I decided to remain single and HAPPY Alhamdulillah.
@@ahnaflfc369 why ?? arent there better "white" muslims then the "defualt" ?? There are "white" revert women who wear the full jilbab and niqab and yet these defult muslims are too ashamed to do so
Actually, he wasn't talking about quoting Quran and Sunnah , he is talking about ARGUING using Quran and Sunnah. He is talking about having a decent discussion based on general concepts before reaching the point where they start shooting one another with quotation. Qouting Quran and Sunnah should be used by the family members who intervene to fix things .. I totally agree with Abu Easa
Thanx... I also understand the Imam that there are husband who only quote from Quran and Sunnah as a threat. Like If you don't do this, the Angels curse you.
If I'm not mistaken, It was a simple question of obedience and it has a simple answer as well. I agree with u, bt again the way it was presented was problematic.
His second statement was not about arguing nor discussion. He said that relationships and marriage do not require Quran and Sunnah and are based upon generic values. Which is such a silly thing to say. There is no such thing as generic values. It's all based upon Quran and Sunnah. Generic values change from culture to culture.
I understand what you are saying, 1. Quran and sunna explain what rights are and what we must do. 2. If there is a problem in marriage, it can be anything. Solving the problem requires understanding and finding a solution for that problem. Example: if your wife is saying I can't do this or that. There might be multiple reasons why she might not wanna do it. Quoting the Quran or sunna won't solve the problem. Both know what is written in the sunna and Quran. Having a discussion about it will help more than just quoting words. Educating someone is important, but finding a solution requires work and understanding.
Inna LILLAHI wa inna ilaihi Rajioon. These so called scholars have lost their minds trying to please women or the liberals. Allah’s law through Quran and Sunnah is absolute either you’re in it or out of it!
I think the point he is making is that it's good to discuss things that are open for compromise in a way that takes each other's views into consideration so you're working together to a common understanding rather than try to impose what you want using Qur'an and Sunnah to shut down something that can be discussed. Not every conversation between husband and wife is about fard, sunnah, halal, haram. Not everything is about rights, power, and subservience, subhanAllah.
"Don't prove her wrong because they can't handle it on an emotional level and will destroy the marriage" essentially. No doubt these deviants would the blame the husband regardless.
I mean, he's not wrong. If you're quoting the quran and sunnah to remind them of your rights, then your rights are probably not being met. That's a problem.
I am not a YQ fan or Yaqeen fan or any particular scholar fan. But I will turn off notification for Muslim Skeptic channel because this guy does not teach anything without pointing out errors in others. I do not appreciate making downplaying others as the main philosophy. Dude, who is right in your eye? Only yourself?
Check yourself, brother: This follows Umar Bin Khattab statement when a fat man praised his big belly as a blessing from Allah and Umar Responded no "it's a curse from Allah"
Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him told his Wives the verses that were revealed after they wanted an increase in alimony, and the Messenger of Allah couldn’t do that. May Allah guide us to the straight path.
You have misunderstood what he’s saying. I have been in a class where this was explained fully. The class is called Protect this House and it is all about establishing an Islamic household and how family members should be to each other. It taught all the associated Islamic principles that govern family life. He’s effectively saying that people shouldn’t have to quote the Quran and sunnah to get their rights in marriage. Things are really bad in a marriage if that’s what it’s got to. As the spouses are not even giving each other the absolute bare minimum. On this topic the sunnah mostly defines the boundaries as a reminder and a protection so that we are mindful not to violate the rights of others. Hope that helps.
@@Therebelliousprince001 . He never said you should follow instead of, that's from yourself. Sure. Love for your spouse, sexual attraction, helping each other out, general co-operation in goodness, supporting each other in difficult times. If you marry a person and have no knowledge of the religion, you would still have these generic values. They are not exclusive to Muslims. They may be reinforced in the sunnah, sure but the point he's making is that if you have to ask for such basic things and need to prove to your spouse that it's true, then there are major issues in the marriage. This statement doesn't devalue the sunnah in any way. E.g. If a husband needs to be reminded that he needs to provide for his spouse - yes, the Sunnah confirms this, but it's a disaster if any man needs to be reminded of this. Likewise, in relation to the video, if it's got to a point that a husband needs to quote Qur'an to have his wife cooperate with him, there are bigger issues at play. That's the point that was being made. In our class we were taught all the Islamic principles with regards to each gender. The point being, now you know them - do them, and don't ever be in a position that you are being asked for rights to be fulfilled by you. I hope that helps.
@League Of Rebellio Honestly, I don't know what you are referring to. However, he did NOT say you don't need Quran and Sunnah in marriage. You may have incorrectly inferred that, but I can assure you that isn't the case.
May Allah SWT give us taqwa, so we are conscious of him and also grant our spouses taqwa so we live in a healthy marriage where we can advise each other to better ourselves ameen
Quran and sunnah make spouces respect and love each other, when you are following the deen you will be more responsible and more patient but if you follow the standards of so called modernization you will demand your partner to be more loving person and will become selfish
Those generic values have come from centuries of learning and following the Quran and Sunnah and have trickled down to generations to such an extent that people think these values are inbuilt in humans by default. Not really if u think about it. Majority behaviour dictates what appears to be normal behaviour.
I half agree with Brother Daniel. Some people like to use the Quran as a weapon against others they’re in a relationship with. Somethings, Islam has provided very detailed guidance on some issues such as Inheritance. However when it comes to other things, we have been given general principles to abide by. Yes there isn’t something wrong per set for someone to cite the Quran and Sunnah, but as a person of reason, intelligence and knowledge, I’d much rather have a conversation with my wife about why she doesn’t want to do something and hear her perspective and then maybe as a last resort make it known that she’s violating my right. Islam doesn’t necessarily teach you to be an effective negotiator. However it teaches you general principles to apply throughout the marriage such as having compassion and mercy towards one another.
I am telling, I’ve said this a million times. The threat of Islam is coming from the Indian subcontinent, Pakistan, Bangladesh etc.. I don’t say this lightly. I am saying this because I have seen it many times. These communities have a very bad Aqiida. And honestly speaking, if you look at the values of their families, it’s more based on how to get livelihood in this world rather than Akhira. The majority of these communities are more interested in creating riches becoming doctors, Engineers etc..which is not bad good for them, but they use Islam and change it up when it comes to their own benefit.
صلى الله عليه واله وسلم عليه السلام سلام الله عليها رضي الله تعالى اجمعين رحمه الله Thank you for this video very informative brother keep up the good work MashaAllah excellent 👌👍 job so now and always will be up to individuals to research by themselves without being biased towards any ideology or may I say religion like always all the best to Muslim and atheism love from Pakistan Note Don't stay away from any ideology or may I say religion just do your research and choose wisely between creationist approach and natural selection approach
I don’t think that’s what he’s saying. He is, in actuality, right when he says that the marriage is on the rocks if you have to quote the Qur’an & Sunnah as a man to, say, get your wife to have sex with you. Obviously it’s the right of the husband but if she’s not ever giving it to you willingly, she just isn’t attracted to you, and your marriage is essentially already over. You can’t “convince” someone to love you or sexually desire you, you cannot bargain for attraction.
Quran and Sunnah is guidance. Imam said we shouldn’t follow Quran and Sunnah for marriage. It's false. Quran and Sunnah Should be followed in every aspect. Tell me what are rights of husband and wife? Allah swt decided the rights and we must follow it and if we aren’t getting our right, we must inform the spouse to lead a halal marriage
@@SamirSiraj8542 If he was genuinely saying to forego Islam in marriage, then that’s disbelief. Allah Knows as to whether or not it takes him out of Islam. I say what I say because I know that praying 5 times a day and reading the Qur’an isn’t going to make your wife want to cook and clean for you or make her aroused by you lol and I think this is something that’s universally understood even if some may be in denial about it.
@@SamirSiraj8542 that’s not what I got from that. He is saying when they have to start quoting it to get their rights, then there might be a deeper problem. If you have to start quoting Quran and Sunnah to get ones husband to providing for them, doesn’t it seem like the marriage is already on the rocks?
@@hassanas4816 he also marriage isn't about Quran and Sunnah. Why ignore that part? In Islam, everything is about Quran and Sunnah. And who decides rights of husband and wife but God? Why must husband provide and protect? Because Allah SWT said that in Quran. Many are ignorant so they may not do it. But we understand and fulfil our roles from Quran and Sunnah. We can't objectively decide roles of man and wife in marriage only God can. And we follow.
@@JamesBond-wv9xz cry more. Quran and Sunnah are only way. Go on, follow humans. You are bound to fail. Cry and cope. A true Muslim follows Quran and Sunnah in every aspect of his life and Quran and Sunnah has solution for every aspect of our life. It's a guidance. It's a guidance for every aspect of life. Quran and Sunnah has how to have a successful marriage but an ignorant person like you wouldn’t know
Shaitan will come as some imams. In past he had done this and misguided a banu Israel scholar-saint ( forgot his name) but failed the same trick with Ibrahim ibn adham(r.a) and Abdul Khadar jeelani (r.a). And nowadays he has recruited some so called name sake imams to misguide the ummah . Our Prophet (s.a.w) has warned us against such people. Their audacity. I respect and pray for u brother Daniel for ur efforts and service to Islam. And u also be always on guard of ur imaan, plz, as now u have declared war against Shaitan and his kin, he will do all tricks in his sleeve. I have my own experience and with grace of Allah returned to my imaan before much damage was done, but some damage it did cause. Shaitan is clearly an enemy
U didnt understand his point… he means u r not a debater with ur wife or husband debating about each other s rights, rather be basic and use emotions in this relationship rather than rationale all the time! Women esp dont need rationale or preaching by husband but love and understanding to make her understand her own mistakes too! He is approaching in counselling way as did our Prophet too.. u dont see peace be upon him quoting quran n sunnah to ayesha ra when she was upset several times rather he emotionally dealt with her
That's liberal thinking right there and I'm saddened to see many Muslims applying western liberal values and even incorporating them in their lives. May ALLAH SWT help Muslims stay firm onto his path and religion. Ameen. Sum-Ameen
Agree. I understand his angle and its terrible. "...if you disagree over anything, refer it to Allah and the Messenger, if you should believe in Allah and the Last Day. That is the best [way] and best in result." Quran 4:59. Khalas.
i never understood what is so wrong with obeying your husband 😅 we learned all our life to obey our parents, grand parents, uncle, aunt, teacher (as long as they ask us normal thing to do or avoid) but suddenly it's oppressing to obey the man you choose to live with for the rest of your life?! 😅
Brother don't take things out of context and please reach out to the imams and speaker in person And discuss these matters with them privately before you make RU-vid videos about them. No one is perfect they can make mistakes,in my humble opinion this is not the right way to correct them. I listen to few English speakers and they themselves taught me I don't have to agree with their opinions all the time.
That is a statement of Kufr. May Allah guide him! We live and make judgements in our lives by referring back to the Quran and sunnah. To say it is not always needed is beyond words…
I didn’t watch the full video but my Ustadha covered this in a marriage course before, in which she said it’s good to go ABOVE and beyond the rights that marriage provides the husband/wife on a daily basis, but it’s when those rights are being violated thar you should remind them
I have a problem with your approach brother Danial. You are taking the most negative interpretation of what he's trying to say. When there is two ways to interpret what a Muslim Imam is saying, you should by default give the benefit of the doubt and interpret the more positive possibile meaning. Also dropping a word or two when rephrasing what the person said that changes the meaning to something more serious is Haram. 1. You have changed his words as if he is criticising only the husband quoting Quran and Sunnah on his wife. He said when "spouses start quoting Quran and Sunnah on one another". He obviously means when the two are weaponized Quran and hadith against one in another in a fight or argument. Not necessarily reminders. 2. You are changing his words again as it he is saying you don't need Quran and Sunnah you need generic values are good enough for marriage. That's not what he said at all, he said you don't ALWAYS need to use the kitab and Sunnah for certain situations. Especially common sense. He is right in that there are a lot of general and basic etiquettes and adaab between one another. For example, a brother quotes the hadith about obeying the husband but in a selfish way that dismisses her valid concerns about a situation. Let's say the wife was doing physically intense back-breaking chores and needs a break and literally just needs one hour to rest. Husband comes and asks for intimacy at the moment of her super physical exhaustion..she doesn't say outright now but asks to postpone it so she can get some rest first. He then cites the hadith in response about having to respond to my request for intimacy immediately. In this scenario the man has lost the most sense of empathy for his wife and her feelings and only cares about fulfilling his needs (which doesn't *necessarily* need a Quran or hadith to have that basic common sense and empathy). This is what I understand from what he's trying to say..this is a very likely possibility. Fear Allah brother Danial you have a huge following and if you're not careful a big amount of sins can accumulate on you
Lol. Even for that hypothetical situation there is a hadith. Bottom line is Islam encompassed every aspect of life, its matter of whether one chooses to follow it or ignore.
@@operationsnakeeateri would have expected you to at least post the hadith you are talking about so we can discuss it, not just say there is a hadith for this situation and not show it.
@@Alborzhakimi7010 Ibn Hazm said: “It is obligatory on slave women and free women alike not to refuse their masters or husbands if they call them, so long as the woman who is called is not menstruating or sick in such a way that intercourse will be harmful to her, or observing an obligatory fast. If she refuses with no excuse, then she is cursed.” (Al-Muhalla, 10/40) There you go, simple search from trustable Islamic source would have given you the answer
@@operationsnakeeater you are the one who asserted that there is a hadith for this hypothetical situation, it is your job to provide the hadith (which you did), not mine. Anyways, do you really think that reminding your wife that she is obliged to have sx with you, unless she is menstruating or has an excuse that is deemed valid by 7th century values and traditions, is going to lead to a better marriage? The fact that the hadith you listed included the term “slave women” in it should show how incompatible it is with our contemporary society. Regardless of your religion, your marraige will fail if you do not have basic decency, and view sx as something your wife is obligated to provide. This “obligation” will undoubtedly make the act unenjoyable for her, which can obviously lead to even more marriage issues.
Kitab n sunnah are most needed in a healthy marriage, Kitab n sunnah should be applied in a person's life from birth to the grave,may Allah sw guide us all on the straight path
If you don’t have the emotional intelligence and intellect to understand what Abu Esa is saying then that speaks more about you than anything else. He is not saying bad behaviour is ok, he is talking about conflict resolution strategies that work better in the relationship based on human psychology and empathy
Without seeing the entire video I think what he was trying to say is that if you have reached the point where you have to quote quran and sunnah someone is failing as a human because the quran and sunna are essentially about being good God conscious people. I hope that's what he was trying to say as opposed to trying to steer ppl from Islam. Many spouses use the words of Allah (swt) to abuse and control each other when they are not doing their basic Islamic duties.
The shame here is on you for thinking that you have a right to sit back and denigrate every talib ilm and da'e. Abu Esa is not opposing Quran and Sunnah except in your head! All he is saying is that people should not get to the level where they have to reprimand each other with text. Do not insinuate that he is against a couple learning Quran and Sunnah in the home. This video is a mistake from you and gratuitous. Your point against liberal imams and watering down text is best made showing someone who does that. جزاك الله خيرا
This is double standards. Qur'an and Sunnah must be a guide in every aspect of Muslim life. I think marriage is the best domain to apply Qur'an and Sunnah.
*What abu issa don't know about the "old generic tradition" is, when you researched the "old generic tradition" in itself is based on the QURAN and the sunnah.......the good cultural practice is derived from the sunnah of the prophet Muhammad صل الله عليه وسلم and the qur'an, thus the old generic tradition is intertwined with the sunnah and the qur'an, period!!.*
Daniel, did you ever consider that a couple that don’t feel the need to quote scripture to one another know their responsibilities & fulfil them properly, whereas if you feel the need to quote the text to tell your spouse how to behave, it means they’re falling short & not fulfilling their responsibilities… That’s how I understood his message. Maybe try asking him what exactly he means before blasting him on RU-vid. It doesn’t reflect well on you. I could be wrong. Just a naseehah. Salaam
