Ngyavumelana nobaba uNdabe uma ethi uma umfazi wekhaya efebe bcs of emotional reasons, like not getting support and feeling safe with you, then fanele ihlalelwe phansi leyonto. Men fail to reflect uma efetshelwa umfazi, but focus on the act of ukuphinga. Indoda fanele izibheke yona ukuthi uze afebe nje umkam bekwenzenjan. Self reflection or introspection is important. The same principle also applies to a woman whose husband has febad. Zinuke amakhwapha uwumuntu wesfazane ngoba uzothola ukuthi unolaka too much, awufuni neQge yakho, awuhloniphi, awunampatho etc. Ukuzinuka amakhwapha kubaluleke kabi bcs akekho umuntu ovuka eksen anwaye ikhamda kuverandah athi ngyofeba today.
