You got me. Long time INFP viewer who has never once hit the like button or subscribed. What can I say in defence of myself aside from referencing that going through life mostly observing, ocassionally interacting (but only peripherally), and almost never committing is kind of our thing? Liked and subscribed (we may be indifferent to social norms, but you can reach us with guilt).
I’m an infp and I’d say one of my greatest fears is being alone in my way of thinking or beliefs, and yet, I want desperately to be original. I think this channel has helped me immensely in dealing with this, so, thanks.
I'd say that we are not actually afraid of being alone out there, but that we're afraid that we'd the only ones who'd understand us. we want people to get us, whether they're like us or not.
Agreed. But i'm more concerned with finding people who are like-minded esp now more than ever, which i've finally recently found in a close friend whom i've not hung out with for a few years. That has definitely contributed to lifting my spirits currently!
@@FalconWindblader yep indeed.doesn't help that i can't articulate my inner thoughts verbally very well esp with external pressure.. But i'm discovering that perhaps some alcohol could rly help with that!
Oh man, that INFP inability communicate all the stuff going on in our heads... sometimes it just feels like an abstract coalescence of colours, feelings, ideas, actions... and that can be nigh impossible to then explain verbally... always struggling with people misunderstanding what I am trying to say 🤦♀️🙃
oh man, yeah... sometimes I say something that I think makes perfect sense, and I'm met with blank stares. Other times, I have to write, rewrite, and edit my own thoughts just to know what they are. Then there are those abstract feeling-thoughts... those are the ones I wanna hang on to, but know that I can't... there's no way to properly put it into words.
the accuracy of this... jeez. People are so quick to call us infps disorganized and flighty, but do you have any idea how it feels to have a million different inspiring thoughts at once pulling you in all directions, only to have your mind overwhelmed and choose to just watch netflix instead? I'm a smart person, but sometimes would fail classes simply by disorganization. It sucks to have people perceive me as incapable or not intelligent when really I just have no viable way to express my intelligence in this world in a real way. It can become problematic when you have a credit card bill, some school registration due, a phone call to make, but then you find some incredible tv show that has you spinning about symbolism etc. Most people would do those duties first and make a mental note to check out the show later, but as an infp, when inspiration strikes, it must be acknowledged.
Part of why I’m so sleepless are my conversations I have with myself at night. I’m always looking at my life up until the thought that had just occurred to me, and I’m always pondering who I will be tomorrow, and whether it’s people who change or the knowledge they have now that they didn’t have before. And these thoughts are always fleeting, but the moment they strike, they have my full, undivided attention.
Yes... I have ADHD. :D You might actually want to get tested, it's common for INFPs to have it. the NFs' functions, for the most part... are pretty much a positive portrayal of ADHD in my opinion. ADHD symptoms are emotional dysregulation, impulsivity, inattention (daydreaming all the time more like), poor organization, and poor time management. With love, an ENFJ with ADHD. :D (Warning, you do lose pieces of your dreamland as a cost for making your life easier... I take breaks off of meds sometimes because of it.)
@@whitneyhoustonstan2472 same! I might try to sleep, but then, I think of something and I decide put all my attention on it (sometimes its an idea for a story, sometimes I just NEED to draw, or maybe play and instrument in the middle of the night) and once I’m started on doing that, it might trigger another thought and then I just stay awake until my body cant take it anymore or I notice Id get into too much trouble in the morning if I stayed awake longer. My sleep schedule is an absolute mess but honestly idk if Id be happy to let go of the things I passionately want to do in the moment just because *I should sleep at the same time as everyone*. Oh boi :|
Infj female here. This is gonna be long, but I would like to share my observation. I dated an infp before, we met each other during a difficult time of his life; he moved out on his own, to a new country. I agree with you about them having trouble fitting in with the “schedules” “rules” of society in general, he wasn’t the type to be straight up rebellious but in a way, he always managed to find a way to do his own thing, whether it meant to cancel some work days, or constantly change working areas (he use to work in construction) His bedroom walls would be covered in his drawings too, didn’t care if he had to paint it over if he moves houses (which he often did too). About his values/beliefs... let’s just say it both fascinated and triggered me at the same time. We have some values/beliefs in common, but we almost never agreed on the details of it. There were certain sensitive topics that came up a few times, that we couldn’t agree with each other at all, and during this talk that turned into an argument (I started to become defensive ugh) he always remained calm, collected and never gave in, something I wasn’t use to at all! Crazy, he could have a soft/submissive personality but when it comes to that, he’ll be hardheaded and politely tell you that you’re very wrong lol. The confidence he had about his beliefs was intimidating, I’ll admit, to see someone stand their ground despite telling them opposing facts. Anywayyy, I still love infps, even if they make me question my reality and existence
Wow... with some exceptions about the personal history of the refferred guy, your comment could have been written by me. Damn... INFJ female here, also dated a beautifull and stubborn infp before. A magical soul that made me believe in myself again and also gave me the courage to stand up for my beliefs. With him i healed many scars... And i remembered my purpose and re-discovered my inner strengh that i needed to fulfill my goals. I'll be forever gratefull and he will always have a special place in my heart. INFP's are really amazing people ^^
I love that comment and the others under it. I love reading about infj+infp relationships, mainly because like @Papa Romeo said: "it still brings me a sense of satisfaction to know that two of the rarest crossed paths". I'm an infj, dating an infp, who also brings courage and strength out of me. I used to be scared standing the ground for my own believes and pursuing my dreams, and he gives me the power to do that, not by pushing me to the edge, but by showing me how much great qualities I own. My best friend is also an infp. I feel blessed.
@@ruthlessfairy Beautifully stated. I wish an INFJ could feel if only once the effects they have on us. I've had one in my life for about 2yrs now. She has an elliptical orbit around my center if gravity. She comes real close now and again only to fly out into the void for periods of time. If she only new the balance she brings to me. If she'd only let go and trust the stability I bring her. Thank you for sharing...
It's nice when INFPs and INFJs are doing a project together. They share similar values and interests, and when it comes to execution, they balance each other. INFJs need INFPs to stay calm and optimist, and INFPs need INFJs to stay in path and keeping the speed.
This was so correct for younger ones. There is huge difference between developmental stages of infp. As we mature we really learn how to balance life and control emotions. Some of us also start changing our strong held beliefs, letting them go and enjoy life as it is. And trees and spirituality? I think it was always in my bones even before I remember myself consciously. It was great video. Thanks.
Ok this is a really great point. It's not a coincidence now that you point it out that all the INFPs I know are fairly young and figuring stuff out ~ Nathan
(INFP) yes! Carl Jung would say that any of the types moves towards balance as they mature. Always staying true to their type but working with their Shadow functions. Ours being Extroverted Thinking (Te) seeking logic from the tribe outside.
lunophile me too! I’m also 18, also a mess. Balance and controlling my emotions seem very unattainable right now, but reading this comment hit me with and overwhelming warm feeling that perhaps everything will be okay.
Thank you for not turning INFP’s into crying fairies reciting poetry... 😏 Also I appreciate your concise descriptions- don’t make your videos too long! Short attention span here.
I'm an infp and i watched this movie called ' into the wild' a while ago and it turned into a longing or an obsession to move away from society. I also read Walden by Henry David Thoreau which was also life-changing ,and now i just feel like i dont belong here. Like i wanna be free from something, but I'm not sure what.
"Into the wild" is exactly the thing I was thinking when I was talking about INFPs wanting to go off and live in the woods! That guy really seemed INFP to me ~ Nathan
my mom's an estj and she always says that it's painful to listen to me talk because i make a lot of pauses in the middle of a sentence to gather my thoughts or say too much random things (which are very not random in my head) too fast that it doesn't make sense to her lmao
mae po Tell me about it 😅 It’s like a puzzle with all the ideas that we are trying to convey. I just wish people would be able to put them together to understand what we’re trying to say.
Yeah, communication between us and other types can get tricky. I have a sister that's an ENTP and a brother that's an ESTP. Both have a confrontational way of talking and it doesn't help that both like using my difficulties to their own advantage. I honestly don't know how my INTP brother is able to handle them so easily. Maybe it's because he doesn't care enough to react where as I easily start crying.
I always used to think that my blanking out half way through lectures etc was just because I had trained myself to daydream to escape the endless religious sermons I had to sit through as a child. Now I find out that that is what we INFPs do, daydream.
INFPs are so idealistic and immersed in their imagination that most, if not all of our fears come exclusively from a nightmarish interpretation of them in our head. I was afraid of washing machines until 3 years ago. Still afraid of the computer in the dark because of a prank my brother pulled off on me when I was 5 years old. On the other hand, this imagination makes us stronger in times when others would be more afraid. It's a pretty paradoxical relationship.
@@venturer9400 very well said. You expressed a similar situation to mine. Pretty hard to establish harmony within our minds. But I also like the last phrase you said, those downsides can actually aid us in helping others. It's complicated.
I'm an INFP and I'm also sensitive to loud sounds. I'm not sure why but it's especially when there is a loud sound that can be controlled, but it or they are still choosing to be loud. It's annoying.
I'm an INFP, but I also have extreme social anxiety and all human-generated noise is terrifying and overwhelming to me. I fear being trapped or overheard in toilets because I was bullied there in school.
The Star Wars parallel was very interesting. The "Being misunderstood" is very very true. Half the time, I don't tell what I am thinking because people misunderstand what I am trying to say. But I got friends who know me well and can rephrase what I am saying. It's nice. You really grasped INFP type. I'm impressed by that. Are you INTP? :)
@@nkopanelesedilebona9227 I don't really know. It has been years (4, 5 years maybe), but I began to better understand the different types when I began to watch RU-vid videos about it (like one year ago I guess). Why this question? :)
I’m envious, thankful, and resentful that you can explain my personality so accurately and poetically because, after decades of introspection, I’ve only accomplished a fraction of what you’ve done.
I am a cog that does not spin. Do not try to fit me into the machine with the other cogs. i cant do what they do. They help the machine run so perfectly. My teeth do not match theirs and i have an odd looking shape. I will only ruin what beauty there is if i were to be put into this remarkable machine. Instead let me later find the right place, with the right purpose. The place where i can spin, with cogs whom are similarly different.----------------------------------------------------I feel timid writing poetry for people, but just this once i will be bold. Thank you Nathan for the inspiration.
Love this!! You should make a blog (like medium) and just write poetry or whatever and store it there! You never know when it could be used in some way! Like right now, thank you very much for this comment, this makes me feel great about putting content out there into the world when people respond like this! ~ Nathan
I once worked in a factory for a few days. It was one of the most horrible experiences of my life. I felt dehumanized, reduced to function within the rhythm of the a machine, robbed of the essence of who I am. It felt like dying inside.
I always get INFP in all these tests, but I always felt they were wrong because I can be quite aggressive about my beliefs and I thought INFP’s were always sweet and calm and good. I mean, I can be very argumentative when what I believe in is concerned. I am very quiet and friendly ( I try to be anyway) otherwise, but bring in my religious or political belief and holy smokes, it’s like some switch in me just flips and I’m ready to fight. I am all in, and completely absolute in my beliefs. In a very real way I am ready, wholeheartedly, to die for them. I think You cleared up for me why I always get this result.
INFPs are passionate about what they believe in. As one, I know I can come across as aloof, neutral or passive but that's not the case. I understand and respect other people's points of views but I hold strong on my own convictions. I will not submit my fundamentals for anything or anyone.
When I was a child I lived out in the woods. We had one neighbor out of 5 miles of forest. I grew up outside, dreaming. I'd always spy on my neighbor doing work, or my dad doing work outside. I'd dress up in full camouflage, and just "spy" and watch. I got such a spark of excitement from this.. haha. That footprint you see was one of us, at some point. Thanks a lot for the Video Nathan. Love and blessings to you in quarantine!
This comment makes me really happy, if I can reply to this with my own similar experience? I’m 18 and lived in the same house since I was 5. I have this huge window that looks out onto our garden and over the hedge is another house, with a similar big window. I spy and observe the house everyday, watching when they draw the curtains, when they decide to turn the light on, looking out for a figure in the window. These people then had a child and I’ve seen this fist routine within this room grow. I’ve been doing it for a decade but it always gives me a spark, there is this silent connection. A hello and goodbye as we both close our curtains goodnight. I know they dont see the situation the same way, they are simply going about their life but I’m not convinced, I still like to think there’s this silent connection. It brings me joy and excitement, like you said similarly to yourself, and I love it even now as we are in lockdown. I think it’s great that INFPs can find perspective in seemingly normal things and create life, within life
OMG! When I was a young teenager, some people across the street moved out and new people moved in. They were really private (secretive???) and in my mind suspicious. I imagined sneaking out my bedroom window, climbing down the adjacent tree, and skulking into their backyard to look in their garage where it turns out there was this counterfeiting ring. I don't do that as much now, but I still make up stories about what people's lives are like. By the way, they were not counterfeiters. They were probably just introverts. 😀😜
Nailed it again! Long story short, I have literally changed my life - done a complete 180 - to fit the lifestyle that EVERY INFP should have. Left my tech-support job, started boxing and became a carpenter. Learning how to build my own house right now and designing it 100% myself. Cook delicious food, play games, make music, play with my pets, live in the north surrounded by water and mountains. I wouldn't have been able to do it so easily without my wifes support, so i'm genuinely grateful for her. And yes, I still get depressed all the time for no reason lol
Your point on "being misunderstood" - 100% yes. Having anxiety and depression disorders also screw with this big time, on top of having difficulty verbalizing my thoughts/intentions in the first place. It expands that "gulf" between your mind and my expression very harshly. In those times for me, social communication might as well be non-existent.
The moment you describe, where Darth Vader realizes Luke's conviction just might be right...brought a tear to this INFP's eye. A meaningful, purpose of life-giving moment, to be sure. ❤️
I actually started tearing up when it came to the part about being misunderstood. Probably being super dramatic here, but it's not great when people think you're too weird, too sensitive, too emotional, an over thinker, a hopeless dreamer, etc. instead of actually trying to understand what I'm trying to convey. To me these are in no way bad traits. In fact, most of the time I feel proud to be called these things. But when you hear it so often, and meant in a negative way...it gets to you. Still hopeful though, that one day I'll meet someone who actually gives me the time of day and makes an effort to decipher my enigma of a brain without thinking I'm just loopy. 💜
One of the hardest saddest things for me as an infp is having to prepare my children to live in the world we live in. That they will have to live life most likely as part of the machine and not just be able to enjoy it every day.
This INFP creates because it's enjoyable. It's always been that way and has never gone further than that in my mind really. Fascinated with bright tulips when I was 3 to the point I had to pick them (and was scolded), drawing in church because the little 80 year old man next to me encouraged me and kept all my tiny drawings in his wallet (and the one-sided, preaching style of the whole set-up was not stimulating and boring so I was zoned out anyway), drawing and coloring on the underside of the coffee table at home... all around the same developmental stage (3-5)... I don't care to analyze the whys and mechanics of how it started because it was just pleasant. Contrast that with bossy kids and ppl being mean or being bored... a creative activity is kind of an avoidant pleasure, one of the few some of us ever experience. Plus, if a little man keeps our work in his wallet, to be found by his family after he dies (true story), it helps one feel loved and appreciated. If you're naturally gifted at these creative activities, as well, of course you're going to retreat to them. And maybe, you'll even get some recognition or pay for them one day and be able to get away from all the little pleb jerks, informant, bossy Karens, and backstabbers in this cruel, aggro, offensive world.
I need to process experiences and people and be able to find a way to understand what I see, before I can move on. Crystalising is the perfect way to put it. My professional role as an INFP has been a triage for people with issues . I was recognized at work as having "spidy sense" and was able to refer what I saw to others who could help. A young person said to me" I can BS everyone else but not you" INFPs have an important role to play. Keep searching for it, the world needs you.
If you ever feel misunderstood as an INFP, here's a quote I've found to be relatable. “The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them - words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they’re brought out. But it’s more than that, isn’t it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you’ve said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That’s the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.” - Stephen King
Daaaaammmnnn 😢 I feel that so hard. I often wish we could just feel eachothers impressions and thoughts and feelings instead of having to flatten them out into words that, ya know, what does the word red mean to you? How will we ever tell if it's the same?
This INFP was already subscribed, but loving the length and Star Wars analogies! Also nailed it about the difficult communication and wandering off literal forest paths
oh this came out today xD the part about having many baby ideas smashing together to form new ones was dead on point. Some times I don't know what I'm saying but I know it can lead somewhere if I just spend some time on them and solve one of the many puzzles. World is all about ideas and adding them together and mixing them up!
Thank you Nathan. I really enjoyed this. I'm an infp out in the world giving it my best shot. The worst part for me is often being totally misunderstood. I just believe so strongly and feel so strongly that what I speak comes out as a pipe dream to them. I believe they don't get it cuz they can't see what I see. I believe in people, I believe people can beat their addiction, depression and anxiety. I believe a person can change and should be forgiven and not looked down upon for past transgressions. I've learned and accepted that I may be the only one that thinks that way where I'm at so I have accepted it. Each day I say" Daniel, u know they won't get it, u know they will make faces cuz they can't help it, u know some things ur gonna do and say are just gonna make u seem silly but u got this, u gotta keep that belief in your heart and hope that when it really matters you can be the one that sparked the 🔥 that burns away all that bad stuff.
Wow this really reminded me of the book "Meditations by Marcus Aurelius." This comment is excellent! I'd recommend, if you don't already, to get some online place for you to write stuff (like medium). You're a good writer! ~ Nathan
I subscribed in another video.....a few minutes ago after watching about 2 dozen videos about INFPs. You feeling sad made me feel sad........tremendous INFP empathy & subsequent guilt...... I'll be churning this in my head for at least an hour.... I think I'll write a Haiku about this feeling. Let me know if you want to read it......LOL
I definitely create in order to convey and make sense of what’s going on in my head all the time. It’s frustrating sometimes to have this feeling you just know stuff, epiphanies, like on psychedelics, so obvious to oneself yet no words to do it justice or explaining it to others...
Okay wow yes spot on. Especially the way you explain the awareness of the gap between the thoughts and getting them out. I think of it as a funnel. If my thoughts are liquid they're either too fast or too thick or both and the funnel gets clogged. I expend so much energy trying to "snake my thought pipes", if you will, for the small fraction of the idea cluster my brain's created that I've determined is a gem. The fear of that gem going unexposed is just greater enough than the fear of A) the exhausting experience of painstakingly trying to actualize the thought exactly how I am, myself, perceiving it, and B) the post-conversation doom that sets in when my fellow interlocutor walks away with what I consider an inaccurate perception of me.
Literally trailed my own path with my dog yesterday, which lead to an area unseen by humans with three large boulders to sit and rest -- alone. The mind is a powerful thing, discovering more about being an INFP just makes me cry. Cry because of how eerily accurate it describes how I've lived my previous 33 years leading up until today, after I've discovered the MBTI personality scale. I dropped out of high school after freshman year; frequently fail to express my introverted feelings to friends that I no longer speak to; created aliases online with a name like "Doots Rednus" (a play on the word misunderstood spelt backwards). Thanks for being a valuable channel to help summarize the methods to all this awkwardness. 😁
"Sometimes things, rather than being seen to be believed, need to be believed in order to be seen. You don't believe it because it's real or true, you believe it first, for it to ... become true." Being a scientistic non-theist, I find that comment very insightful. Unfortunately in today's world it's what people *believe* that becomes truth, what I refer to as "fake truth." Such as, "I have my truth and you have your truth." Absurd. Btw, do you think 'Alice' was INFP too?
That drives me mad, the "truth is relative, my truth is different than yours" line of thought, especially when people use it to justify nonsensical beliefs. If truth is relative, what do we even do science for? Why strive for knowledge? As an INFP I want my beliefs to be based on true facts as much as possible, otherwise they're nothing more than mumbo-jumbo. Actually, one thing I really dislike and almost fear, as it's happend to me countless times, is my ideas/beliefs being dismissed as impractical/unrealistic/not based on "real life". Given how important values are for INFPs, you can see how hard it can be to constantly be told to "get your head off the clouds", "grow up", "you'll change your mind when you get older", etc. It really can take a toll on you self-esteem. That's why truth is so important to me: if what I believe is based on facts, then it stands on its own, regardless of how many people think otherwise.
I believe in Jesus and I think he is the way the truth and the life! I didnt until I was 16 and had a life changing experience. It can happen to anyone, who really believes in the cross. :)
"My truth" is the phrase that most drives my nuts whenever discussing something with someone!!! Alice in wonderland definitely seems like an INFP or ENFP to me! ~ Nathan
I believe Alice was asleep, where belief really does become the truth... until you wake of course. As far as 'Fake truths' in the public domain are concerned, just because a thing is believed does not make it true. Unfortunately, history is more often written by the winners and the battles do not have to be military ones to slay a person especially in a world where sound bites pass for journalism and businessmen pass for political leaders.
With the hating to submit to standardised large corporations as an INFP, I found a retail job at a store kinda like Walmart to be soulsucking. But I also came to like being just another 'employee/cog' because I takes away some of your responsibility compared to retail jobs in small stores. And gave me lots of opportunities to work in different departments, which as an INFP, I don't like doing the same job all the time (thats an INFP thing right?)
Bo Med I would agree with you. I’ve been working at my current job for 2 years and it’s already draining me. I used to work in construction, which I loved, and there was never a day where it was the same. I LOVED it.
YES. these are the same reasons why i did enjoy my job at H&M some years back but also HATED it at the same time lol & eventually still left cuz the bad outweighed the good. &had quite afew jobs before & after that one , my longest being my last job at bout 2 years almost haha.
What you are saying is always on point. It amazes me. As an Infp who is doing the work, I am in the process of not caring that much if I am not validated or if I am misunderstood. Especially when it comes to words. How can I begin to explain the beauty of what is going on in my mind/imagination/emotions/other planes of consciousness all at once, with rational logic? It might not be easy, but possible, as I believe anything is possible. I also feel poetry might have a better chance at it when it comes to words. Also, so on point with the Luke analogy. He manifested what he deeply believes in his core to be the truth. It must be a fundamental truth in order to believe in it that deeply.
This comment is brilliant. Also I agree regarding poetry, people often (rightly) accuse poetry of being too vague and imprecise, but thats often the point, emotional at states are vague and imprecise ~ Nathan
God. This video. I literally felt every single word in it. When you started talking about society and the conventional classroom and the cabin in the woods i just felt like I fit into your description of INFP. Like yes thats me. Luv ur channel :3
Thanks for your videos mate. Only recently discovered your channel. Really great for me personally. Male INFP from relaxed New Zealand married to a female INTJ from the intensity of Singapore. Been together for 10 years with many ups N downs and finally coming to a place of understanding and acceptance compared to bashing our heads. Great to get further introspection into both our characteristics and how they integrate.
This video was actually great. I kind of already knew all of this but it was nice for you to put it into words so that others can also understand. Another fear, which i think can also be added to the first one you mentioned, is facing the reality of the world. Especially in times like these, reality can set in quite harshly and abruptly and I end up feeling insecure in myself because I am not useful or helpful. Poetry and art aren't really in demand when the world is ending.
I sit basically in the middle between INFP and ISFP. Order in chaos, patterns are everywhere, woodland creatures. My mind is crazy enough no drugs plz.
Found out, through a few mbti tests, that I favor the infp personality. And at the end the video, when you mentioned seeing footprints walking into the forest, I died laughing because this morning I went for a run near the woods and I was thinking about going into them but I thought the people around me would think I'm crazy. Plus I'm a tall black male, wearing all black, in a predominantly white neighborhood, on top of that so I know how incredibly suspicious I would look. Lol
Ok this comment is amazing. I have the image of you appearing from the trees ominously and terrifying everyone then saying “hi everyone hope you’re all enjoying the beauty nature has to offer us!” I’ve noticed that there are lots of INFPs on our Discord server, feel free to check out the link to it in description. Also feel free to message me on there (Nathan Glass) is the username. Thank you again for this comment, brilliant! ~ Nathan
Lol now, if I spoke, those words might've come out of my mouth, verbatim. But I probably would've fought myself, internally (obviously), in that moment because my rebellious side would've said, "Are you really going to speak to them to make them know your safe or keep quiet because, you know, f*** that I live here too!" Let their mind do the wo/andering because it was going to do that anyways...I'm a libra as well so I'm always trying to keep the peace, double time, it seems. Sometimes I just wanna say f*** it.
An INFP here and oh boy, these are all on point. I mean, you got me at that part where "They (INFP's) don't want to be (just) a cog in someone else's wheel." To lose my sense of self and identity is the day I truly die", to be honest. Awesome video as always!
For the longest time, as an INFP, I've been afraid that people wouldn't understand me. It's still more or less a fear I have today as an adult, but I listened to a podcast episode about INFP's that kinda changed my mind on what an INFP is really afraid of. Being misunderstood as an INFP is common, but I think that's a surface level issue, or perhaps even secondary to what really troubles an INFP. As this podcast host has said (and I'll paraphrase): "Being misunderstood is actually a common misconception when it comes to what INFP's are really afraid of. The mind of an INFP is so vast and colorful and imaginative that it can be nigh impossible to fully comprehend - even the INFP themselves can't fully grasp it. What they're really afraid of is being marginalized or dismissed..." And that really resonated with me. When he said those words ("marginalized" and "dismissed"), it just opened the floodgates of my memories and I was like "Oh my God... I wish people just gave me a chance, let me talk, let me have a turn to share my thoughts and opinions... I wish people would notice me". I dunno if you other INFP's can relate to that, but yeah, being misunderstood is just as valid. Just know that no one has to understand you completely - if you find people who notice you, see you for who you really are and love and accept you all the same, keep those people around. We are good at being the change we want to see in the world, and people who notice that and care about it will, in turn (hopefully), notice and care about you. Here's the link to the podcast if you're interested :) ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-bSUgYPJ8A0Y.html&ab_channel=PersonalityHackerPodcast
as an INFP... I already subscribe few months ago xD I liked your explanation videos are short but to the point. Especially this video ... I tried to crystallize some of my ideas into comic. But it's really hard to share them. There's something held me like "you are not even have many connections, so why would you hope to be seen", " your friends already fed up with your rabbit-hole, stop it", "don't promote your art to famous artist, they will be annoyed". It drives me crazy, like my efforts and ideas will always be misunderstood. For now I still cannot continue my comic because of this... need a motivation to ignore and just continue to crystallize.
that's me and my music.. it holds all my innermost thoughts and i want to sing it to the world but at the same time i'm afraid to be heard.. :/ and my friends and family do get tired of my rambling.. :(
"It's about finding ways to cristalize the chaos. To create things of any kind inspired by their ideas and embude with their values " I've never heard a more well put description of what drives my creativity, I literally got chills
He really does understand INFPs, doesn't he? It's really refreshing to find someone who actively watches and listens others' actions and words, even if it's expressed on a platform like youtube.
So what you are talking about is motivating others by example. For a deeper look into the same principle would be to check out the eastern philosophies on how your own mind is shaping the entire reality around you (aka The matrix) and how you can reprogram the world by reprogramming your mind. That is the ultimate example of how belief shapes reality.
The fleeting thoughts is literally what kills me, I can never say what I want to say. Crystallizing the chaos is literally what I live for. Putting the plan together isn’t hard for me… it’s definitely sticking to the routine.
I'm in an unhappy relationship with a very orderly isfj and I feel like what you explained is one big reason for me being unhappy. I struggle with breaking up though because I fear being way too comfortable living in the metaphorical cabin in the woods. I constantly need days alone in my own living space and she can't understand it, which makes me want to be alone even more... which is so ironic since I craved a relationship before I met her.
I'm sorry to hear that. Mine also had the same case like you, except with istj friend instead. Again... for me it's the lesson for us and significant other, that boundaries actually needed in relationship.
Every time I family member walking past whilst making this one I'd quickly change the window so as to avoid any "is that you in handcuffs?" questions! ~ Nathan
lol when you dont have religion, and dont like drugs or alcohol, and you also dont really want to be isolated in the woods. WHAT ARE MY OTHER OPTIONS heeeelp
I'm glad that you understand our way of doing things, great job! Also we do love metaphorical and symbolics explanations, hence why I think it was a good idea to illustrate your point via the star wars example. And oh do we dream to step out into the wild and lose ourselves away from the noise...
For me, the whole thing about not wanting to be a small piece in a big machinery is due to childhood trauma with community values when growing up - and hence despicing it/avoiding it afterwards. For me, my individuality and need for freedom is both a protection mechanism (I've grown up in a somewhat dysfunctional family) - but it is also a rebellion against everything else the rest of the fuckers are doing (being bullied/freezed out during my entire school period has really cemented my despise for "the band wagon"). So, In my book these "character traits" have their roots in childhood trauma and hence make perfect sense.
This was a most excellent and interesting video. I'm an INFP woman. You really understand us! I refuse to mold myself into anyone's box. I'm an independent thinker. It is so important to me to be free to be my self and express my opinions. I don't conform to standard norms and I feel proud of it.
7:02 so true and I hate it because I therefore cant express myself to others in the "normal" verbal way. I wish I could just have this machine that I can put on my head that reads my mind and speaks out my thoughts and ideas and visions for me so that others can understand the wonders that are swimming in mind.... and eventually and finally understand me. Thank you for the video :)
That tert Fe is a bonus in this pair, it’s like it is helping to bridge the sides together. The tert Si in the Infp has been beneficial to the Entp from what I’ve seen and the Ne makes for fantastic leaps of thought between us. It’s not too comfy a relationship though, lots will be learned if both really want to invest in each other. It’s bridging the Ti and Fi whilst retaining your integrity, maybe that is the main issue? I find this true myself, have been with entp for 6 years, we hit walls but it’s fun to to circumvent them. There’s lots to say about this pairing.
there are so many layers to being able to attempt to get even a smidgen of that beautiful chaos out into this harsh external existence. Even attempting to identify a candidate thought/idea (or even coalescing it into a meaningful form) before I begin to try to organize or even decide to start the process in the first place - takes so much energy. Then trying to wrestle it into verbal form, urgh. It's easier to just leave them in my inner universes where they belong. They're happy there.
INFP and a subscriber. I think it's the ENTJ that makes you very intense. Took me a while to subscribe once i got past those intuitive fears of cold emotionless logical bluntness. Like you can see the precise pinning of the full-stop to each sentence. Imagine those sentences being pinned to our skin. We tolerate the pain, like a needle of medicine, but it is unsettling. As for the fears, I'd say it's we fear our ideals are wrong and that we are doomed to failure and suffering for our folly. And our suffering is the hell of other people. So in a word. Doubt is our greatest fear.
Ok INFP here. You’ve got a subscriber. One of the most difficult things is to communicate, so much that I think I’ve got pretty god in it. I’m Brazilian by the way, and I’ve never been abroad (not outside South America). I’ve thought myself English to learn better and communicate better. I love using analogies because it’s the best way to make a parallel with something and put people into the thoughts and situations I have in mind. And even so, they still misunderstand me a lot of times. The thing is, now I’m getting to the realization that after something goes out of my mouth (or fingers in this case), it’s not up to me anymore. There is absolutely nothing I can do. People project, people attack, and most of all people try to wreck you to their lvl. And as a good INFP, sry I’m not getting there. Thx for this video. Pretty accurate.
Daaamn, less than 20 seconds in and already felt called out 😂😂😂 It takes a while for me to "commit" into subscribing. But I did, not planning on unsub, for now hahaha I kinda lost track on the star wars analogy because I've never watched it, but in the end I got it. I agree with everything you said, especially the part of feeling frustrated for not being as organized as I'm expected to. And being in this quarantine, feeling restrained, uncertain about the future and all...ya, don't help Anyways, looking forward for the next video. Let's hope this end soon, so we can walk in parks and forest again 🌳🌲🌱
Love your ability to explain in understandable terms. Regarding Luke and Darth Vader, when I saw that scene I thought Luke had connected with something subconscious in Darth Vader (something good) and was able to make it conscious. I like your explanation since I can go further with my perception and say Luke held his belief so strongly and with such conviction (subconsciously held conviction) that he was able to bring to consciousness Darth Vader's good.
I'm so glad I found this channel I was getting tired of those shallow and repetitive "insights" on INFP's that I was so close to give up on pursuing more self awareness through MBTI. Thank you so much ❤️
I've subbed such a long time ago.. this is like my favourite MBTI channel 🤗 Also this vid was sooo accurate.. especially the part on crystalizing our thoughts... now I journal a lot cuz my friends and family are getting a bit sick of me... but the good thing that came out of that was I was able to harness my thoughts and emotions to create songs I really enjoy 🤭 The problem now is taking all these creative projects I've been dreaming about for years and actually doing them... 🙃 Also, lucky you.. I wish I lived close to a forest I can run wild in.. Also never watched star wars.. I'll binge it during this quarantine time.. 😅
Happy binging! Also journalling is a brilliant idea, doing it on some online place would be a good move to just so it's stored somewhere for safe keeping! ~ Nathan
I feel an urge to create something and be exceptional in one sphere. But these past 4 years I did not find my path because I feel that I will loose the freedom of choice that i have now. Want to become musician, film director, game designer, but want to be sure this path is for me. I doubt every small and big decision I make, because I don't trust myself anymore.
Lofoten Forsake I was given advice and I’ll pass it along. But it’ll be in a form of a story. Put on your tennis shoes and tie them. And decide if you want to go outside. If you go outside decide if you want to start walking. If you start walking decide if you want to start jogging. And everyday decided on those small steps until it becomes a routine. You have the power of how far you want to go. Hope that helped in anyway. ✌🏽-Some love forwarding to you!
No one can be more deep in this INFP conversation than you. It was really like if you are talking directly to me about myself. I learned a lot today, thank you!
Your videos are so frk accurate. Not me as an infp going to move to Norway to live in a cabin in the woods and live with nature, while doing a creative study and writing music as a hobby 🌱🌍
These are great! I can often relate enough to INFP, at least the most of the other types. In this one I could relate to all the fears. Could you please do ENFP too though? It's my type and I love your vids but I haven't found much ENFP content. I believe we're still rather introverted and kinda misunderstood as airheads sometimes, so I'd love to hear more of your takes on the ENFP type. :)
Fi is like a double edged sword. It gives you sense of individuality and who you are but makes you disconnected from others. If you spend too much time engaging in society or socializing your individuality gets threatened and you got to isolate yourself to recover. It's constantly moving back and forth.
