#isfp #intp #mbti I dont understand ISFPs, here's the video to prove it... Our Patreon: patreon.com/lovewho Want to be a host? Email us on - contactlovewho@gmail.com
That's because in general our thoughts are more nebulous and ppl like hearing brief and organized presentations, not rambling. :) (i am an isfp- not judging, just observing)
It might have to do with the fact that I fell for an INTP but I really like you guys. I love the abstract and theoretical way you guys think, it may be the complete opposite of me but it's fun to try and understand. I also can't get over how you guys are just MASTER PROCRASTINATORS.
I'm an ISFP and the constant conflict is that I want intimate relationships but know that I have to open up to people to get those, and I'd so much rather not do that 😭
Don't worry, at some point, you'll find someone you think you can trust and open up a bit. After that, if you've learned that they actually really care about you, it will be a lot easier to open up, not just to them but to others as well. At least, that's what I experienced... as an ISFP.
Think that is our shared ghost so, when this thoughts come to your mind, remember: the pain is your but we share the roots; the genesis of it. Meaning that you're not alone.
I was like that until I heard that most of the older people that attended our little church didn't have anyone to talk to during the week, so this was their only chance for interaction. That's when I made it a priority to talk to every one of the 60ish people every week no matter how I felt.
thank you for seeing isfps as we are! instead or chalking us up to paint brush wielding nature hippies. the stereotypes are boring & i think that if anyone is confused by an ISFP they should just remember that their dominant function is Fi. it is a deep, emotional, and confusing world externally as it is internally. have patience with them. they mean well and i can tell you without pretentiousness, isfps ability to be emotive as well as non judgemental allows them to make for a supportive partner and friend.
Yes, first video of an accurate way to describe us. Most definitions I hear sound nothing like me. But I've gotten an ISFP every time I take the test....highschool and now 18 years later. Watching this was the first time I actually understood that I am very ISFP.
I work in the ICU and my work partner is an ISFP and the way he handles mechanical stuffs like monitors, mechanical ventilators,… is top notch. We’re on call together for almost a year now and i must say, his Fi and Se compensate a great deal for me, an INTP. He’s a living proof of why not all ISFPs should be artists or musicians.
What I think about ISFP they have the most unique sense of style when it comes to creativity. ISFP type They actually love to spend their time alone. Really reserved personality. They are a timid person. Sometimes demure personality. Patience of at least after 10 years. (The most calm and patient MBTI.) A person of few words. But when you engaged yourself to be friend and become BFF with the ISFP. They may seem to be really talkative. Very neutral personality. Passive aggressive personality. Has a really good sense of style. Creativity is really unique. Very sensitive personality. Very deep emotions on the inside. True extraverted sensing. Love to explore alone and spend time with few people. (friends) Really hate noises and conflicts. Love quite place with good environment. Logical people is good but not too much for an ISFP 😆. Loves history, culture, and art. The most easy going people of MBTI. They don't like being on the spotlight. But because of their uniqueness they can standout and be on the spotlight. ISFP " adds beauty in the world." 💖❤️🎭
Idk why but it just stresses me out so badly just having to come up with a schedule for my day let alone plan or even think about the future... I think, for this ISFP, I might be thinking about how anything could happen and change my life so much that if I decided on something in the future and it doesn't happen, I would disappoint myself and feel like all that time thinking about it was a waste... Also, I don't really care about the future, I care about now.
My long term boyfriend is an ISFP (I'm an INFJ), and he's one of the most easygoing, inspiring, and authentic people I know. He definitely loves the external world -- using his hands in a mechanic shop, engaging his senses, creating music, participating in independent sports, etc. But he's also capable of going very deep with me, especially if our abstract conversations are rooted in history, politics, science, or physics. A lot of our convos stem from me asking "Why/how" and him either explaining to me what he thinks, or looking up the details for us to read up on. His Fi and P functions can lead him to make impulsive decisions for his own wants and happiness, which can be hard for a Fe/J type like myself who likes to plan things and take everyone's wants into consideration. That being said, we have a very loving relationship based on mutual trust, understanding, and patience -- I've never met another sensitive, artistic man with such masculine traits. We really help each other grow in our weakest areas while enjoying outdoor adventures, artistic activities, and other real, authentic people together.
Enfp girl here, I'm into this isfp, but he's very different you know, he goes quiet and distant. He likes me or at least shows that he cares. He was tough and never vulnerable, with me he has toned down to accepting himself as a feeler, which makes me, the enfp, süper proud of him. I just don't know how to tell him that I love him. Three long years, and he respects me, a little more with every interaction. I just don't want to scare him. Or get me wrong yk. It was a war for me, three years, to not have feelings, but now I'm finally coming in peace with my feelings. He's a good person, not as creative as me, nor as eloquent, or deeep in his approach. I love him still you know! He has recently come to know me a bit more and he's a fan of my energy and spiritual prowess, he said this a few times that I was a gem and precious and that he fears I'd fall in the wrong hands and get damaged. He's this outwardly tough kind good strong guy who feeeeels, but doesn't show 🤐. I'm someone who decided to never be in a relationship at all in the past, because of a past trauma and anxiety, but so far, his existence makes me question my resolve, he makes me want to fall in love and settle. And when I told him I won't ever marry, he spent one hour telling me that I'm over thinking and that love is beautiful and that I'll need more faith and hope that I never know I might find the best billionaire loving adventurous guy. He keeps assuring me that there are better days ahead. He keeps being kind. I wonder if that just an ISFP thing or he's being subtle about his feelings for me too. I know he's introverted and bold and brave. I just worry I'm I'm wrong. How do I approach this issue I'm falling badly for all the right reasons. What if he's leading me on unintentionally? The damage I may face will be real. 😔
We're the same. May I know what is the most challenging part of your relationship and how to overcome it and how to handle this kind of ISFP male and INFJ female relationship?
@@nuggetnougat Probably. I'm very calm (almost unusually calm) when I am in a good mood, but if something ticks me off, I can blow a fuse like few others.
Got this friend who is very likely an ISFP. He's an extremely funny, lively and care free person, but one who you can always count on being in your corner if you need help. I get this sense that he's got the ability to relate to other people considerably better than about 99% of the people I've ever met. Could write a novel about all the laugh-out-loud-funny moments we've had over the years. Best friend I've ever had. -ISFJ
I wish this world was more filled with Isfjs lol ToT I’m always appreciated by Isfjs how they perceive Isfp’s consideration.. I know Isfjs can be pissed off cuz of Isfp’s lack of Si function, but Isfjs would still be there for Isfps because they also value morality very highly. I love Isfjs👍
I’m INFP, husband is ISFP. Being with him is super duper fun, like having a perpetual stayover with my best friend where we stay up late at night cracking up, go on all sorts of spontaneous outings, and create art and music together. He is definitely both super sweet and intensely fiery, and tries to follow me when I muse about all the ways of bettering humanity and stuffing symbolism in to everything, after which he says “I just wanna make people laugh.” Hehe
INFP here and Thank You for this! I am So attracted to ISFP for the reasons you mentioned. Also yes to doing music and art together or around each other. I like the sameness in some ways and the difference - they are so grounding w/o being boring.
@@lilakihn3688 wow I forgot I made this comment! Nothing has changed, in fact as I type this reply, my husband is walking around with a paper shopping bag our cat jumped into yelling “SWEETIE I BOUGHT US A MERLIN!” 😂😂 I wish you luck with your ISFP person, and all the wonder and love us INFPs seek ❤️
I'm listening to you talk about how inferior Te makes me (an infp) scattered and disorganised while I sit in my absolutely chaotic room with important belongings thrown all over the place 😭😭 It was amazing to here about isfps properly rather than just the typical "they're great artists" The last part made me think of a quote my esfp friend likes "time you enjoy wasting is not time wasted"
I have zero artistic talent but my sensory perception and aesthtic judgment are really strong. I can name the perfume you are wearing, tell what spices are in a dish, identify musical quotations, tell exactly what fabric your clothes are. Thing is, when it comes to artistic expression I will visualise a photograph or plot out a story, which is a personal experience, but have no interest in actually making them manifest, which is sharing them with other people. Too busy finding the next thing to experience, which is the Se Ni middle pair. I can't properly explain this because who can explain themselves with strong Fi and weak Te!!! 😉
@@TK-kf8zc Why would you think that ''ability'' would be limited to just select ''types''? Im an INFP, but I have higher awareness than I think most people around me, and a good kinesthetic ability. ISFP's aint got shit on me.
@@ddsbread5673 😂 ouch was that a jab at the ENFPs? Yeah you're right thought, we are definitely not know for our logic. 😂 I'm supposed to be a comedian with no focus or follow through. I mean I was when I was 12 🤸♀️ but I've learned a few things. I think we are not all just walking talking cliches of our types. We grow and learn and develop.
my poor sister (isfp) is always upset by the *severe* lack of isfp content in the community. the rest of the family has the more “popular” types (infp, intj, enfp) and she always feels left out. so glad i can send her this and make her see that her type is an important one! 💕
@@zainsalazar3382 i meant that on the internet usually you see certain types more than others. you don’t usually see isfp memes or media posts was all i was saying.
I wish I had a ISFP friend, to me they seem super cool to hang out with. Maybe they could teach me how to get tf out of my head from time to time lol, I'm so envious of Se
Luisa ISFPs are stuck inside their own mind constantly, especially when alone. ISFP-T is, by broad society's standards, the shittiest personality type out of all 16/32 types.
I, an ISTP, have always thought of ISFPs as my emotional equivalent. Instead of seeking to understand the world through a logical lense, they do so through an emotional version. Where the ISTP tries to understand things, the ISFP seeks to understand the feelings of those things.
I love hearing other’s insights to us. Doing what I love all day, because it makes me happy, is like taking in a breath of a cool crisp fall morning (just easy). I have always looked to life as just being simple, not worrying about the future, not worrying about the past just enjoying the now, because really that is all we have! There is no guarantee we will see tomorrow, and we can’t change the past so just be the best you can in this moment ;) yes, it is so cliché, but seriously I’m not wrong and that is just the way my mind is wired.
Im Isfp and the glass is always half full But my enfj wife , well lets put it this way , shes jelous of our living in the present and easy going . But i wouldnt have her any other way . .cheers .
@@amandawolfe4097 usually its not about thinking , but feelings . I do things couse i feel like it not because i think i should , . Usually and preferably.
As an Intp, I wouldn't say I worry about the future, just think about it. Ne sees some kind of pattern in the world, and Ti says how is this likely to work out? Using history as well as current patterns, principles to see how things work is really how any large idea is formed and how breakthroughs in science are made. Isfps are way too dismissive of theory or any knowledge they can't experience. Just because you can't experience it directly doesn't mean it's not real. Your computer was just a theory once. But it was also real, because it was a real possibility. And then it was proven to be real when someone made a computer. The theory was always fact, it just hadn't been born yet. Like a developing baby in the womb. Bad theories are like a miscarriage caused by a genetic disorder.
@@Midnight_Rider96 [Warning: wall of text; you don't have to read it if you don't want to. TL;DR: we don't all dismiss others' knowledge. We always take note of it, and how much we internalize it is a case-by-case complex situation and differs based on the individual's beliefs and way of judging aunthenticity. Agreeing with knowledge is not the same as acting on knowledge.] I wouldn't say we are all dismissive of theories or knowledge we can't experience. (Well, what I'm about to say is based only my personal ISFP experience to be fair). I would say that we acknowledge other knowledge as true if it seems perfectly logical/reasonable, but we like to do our thing and see if it works for us or not. Typing it out, that does seem stupid, but it's case by case. If my doctor says the way I sit is ruining my posture, I will believe him/her. He/She knows what they're talking about. Whether/how much I try to improve my posture due to this knowledge is a whole different issue, though as I would guess ISFPs aren't known for their habit-breaking capabilities. However, if someone says 'don't go to see that movie, it sucks,' even if I hear several good reasons why it is bad (bland characters, rushed plot, stupid ending, etc.) but I still have that feeling I might enjoy it, I will probably go see it. That person (likely) knew what they were talking about, and I will believe THEIR experience, but what they were saying was true for them, not necessarily true for me until I find out for myself. What the individual ISFP takes note of more internally (outside of their own experiences) is up to them; we're not all skeptical about scientifically proven stuff or doubtful of others' experiences, but some of us probably are. However, we do like to judge for ourselves rather than just take others' word for it. I know I am willing to learn I'm wrong the hard way if I do something against advice (due to my own 'feeling' that it might work out for me), and I guess this "illogical" reliance on our own intuition over others' experiences derives from how much this mindset has worked for us so far. Although, perhaps it's because we don't have difficulty letting go of our failures as long as we've learned from them, meaning we can afford to rely on our own guts at our own expense than other more wary personalities. After all, since we often self-analyze and reflect as introverts, our understanding of ourselves should not be underestimated. It's just that ISFPs have to be careful not to OVERestimate it. Essentially, we are all too aware that others' experiences and knowledge are 100% right/valid, but we don't always automatically drive their experiences home to ourselves without an undeniable reason why since we like to experience things for ourselves if we are driven to. In short, it's "live and let live" with reference to my vs your experiences. You could say that an item tastes awful, but unless you articulate it's because of x, y and z, (and often despite it) we're going to try it because, well, it LOOKS pretty tasty. I speak for myself saying this, but it's a matter of gain/loss whether I trust someone/something (and whether their advice is well founded or not). Hence, I am pretty trusting of well-known, accepted scientific findings, though I am all the more "behind" it when I see how it works or came to be discovered. I am, however, only 57% feeling vs 43% thinking according to my myers-briggs test results, so note that that would definitely affect my thought process with respect to accepting others' knowledge. Sorry for the wall of text, I just had my characteristic desire to express my thoughts as an ISFP i guess! XD
Yep I'm moody AF. I don't care if this annoys other people anymore and don't care what they think about it. It's rare that I'd be moody around my friends though, that just doesn't seem to happen.
Same, some people get intimidated by my bluntness when I'm in a mood but that's just the way I am at that time. If you're going to judge me off of one bad hour of the day, then you probably don't really know me and I don't care what you think.
you hit the nail on the head. my mood can shift and change so much throughout the day, when ppl ask me how i’ve been, i can’t give a straightforward answer, so i just say “in this moment, i’m [insert how i’m feeling in said moment].” i live in the moment so much that it can feel like i exist in a vacuum, and i cannot believe that the past even happened or conceptualize the idea of a future me. and i hate planning but feels lost and directionless if i don’t have some kind of *intention* as to where i’m going with all of this. i also have a really really hard time talking to people older than me, but feel very comfortable talking to people younger than me. i work with kids but am terrified of speaking to parents lol. i am very sensitive to feeling judged, evaluated, put on the spot, etc. also people seem to open up to me a lot, maybe because i mirror emotions and don’t judge people for where they’re at. i think we should all try to empathize more, it would make the world better. shit, am i an infp ? i don’t like writing poetry or reading fiction tho. i couldn’t make up a fictional story for my life. i like dance and movement and playing music and making art. but i can ramble a lot. is that Ne ? someone help lol
I'm an ISFP, and one of my best friends is an INFP. What you're saying makes perfect sense, you can often tell the difference between the two looking at how their parent function interacts with their hero function. The ISFP will have an almost "aesthetic morality" where good and bad are seen in terms of beauty and ugliness or harmony and friction. Instead, The INFP has a more traditional morality, closer to a philosophical view of the world. These two types can often annoy each other, despite their similarities, the ISFP will be annoyed at the "intuitive leaps" the INFP will make to reach an abstract conclusion, and the latter will be annoyed by the ISFP lack of interest (and criticism) for those abstract conclusions! However, if both parties are able to move past these differences, a truly exquisite transfer of knowledge can happen, they make great travel companions, the ISFP informing the other about the sensory beauty around them, and the latter informing the other about the history and culture of a place.
Interesting, I'm an INFP and even though I arguably have more of a philosophical worldview I wouldn't in anyway describe it as traditional, I personally think that trying to ground your morality in something you can't be absolutely sure exists in the way you might mistakenly think it does though useful in certain respects can be a waste of time or even dangerously misleading in my opinion. Since my enneagram tritype has 9 in it and since living harmoniously with those around me not only for myself being a concern but for others with respect to myself I'd say that the aesthetic morality can work for us too! I'm also a 4w5 on the enneagram on the emotional part of my tritype though in the past I'd probably identify more with the tortured poet than the sunny, artistically expressive stereotype that ISFP gets lumped with, though some of that was my way of achieving harmony with the rest of the world by understanding the darker side of human nature through my own creativity and some of it was for the love of the aesthetics. I don't think that INFP's aren't as creative because they can't be, I just think that the Extraverted Intuition with relation to how much we pick up on can more often make us feel scattered because we could be left with a sea of internalised sensory data that we would either remember superficially or wouldn't based upon emotional attachment which for us is more of an abstract internalised and highly subjective vibe which can make being objective in an emotional sense very challenging. That's my experience anyway, I don't know any ISFPs that I could clearly identify but I can imagine getting on with them slightly more than my own type. As I don't relate to them very well, they come across as overly accommodating and judgemental while also coming across as superficial and shallow. I don't think it's that they aren't deep either, it's just that one man's gold is another's dog turd, hence why they often come across to me as fake and that they have an agenda. Not that all other INFP are like this, that has just been my general impression of them, in areas where I have genuine depths of concern philosophically they come across to me as really shallow and unconcerned where I think there is more of a need for thoughtfulness and consideration. But yeah don't really know ISFPs well but from what I read, them and INTPs seem like the most relatable types to me.
My mother's an ISFP. I'm an INTJ. I'm working on building myself a financial plethora, but my mother just doesn't care about that big of a goal 😂 she's the best
My bf’s isfp, I absolutely adore him (im intj). Though I do get mad for how bad his housework skills are occasionally, it is magical to watch him working on his hobbies. We go to the same college, it breaks my heart to see how he is struggling with consistency and getting little recognition at school. I am always amazed by how spontaneous and quick he is at learning about his interests. His genius is something my logic can not explain.❤️
The protagonist in the book I’m reading is an ISFP. He was a young man who sneaked Jews to Switzerland using an Italian mountain pass. The physical difficulties he had encountered required someone with high Se.
Very true! Definitely relate to the moodiness and only wanting to do things because I like them. Duty and obligation makes me feel stifled, suffocated. ISFPs have this powerful rebellious spirit 🔥
"scattered and disorganized" me: *glance at my history homework I was supposed to be doing* ngl this vid makes me believe in myself a little more and want to live in the country side
Thank you for this. I'm in my 40s, I've tested repeatedly and keep getting INTJ, but I know that before the age of 13 or 14 I was definitely not an INTJ. I decided to test again, this time I answered the questions as I would have done as a 13/14 year old and my result was ISFP all the way. People who knew me then, agree I was an ISFP. So I realized that life experiences by the age of 13/14 made me conclude that being myself wasn't going to work for me and buried those parts of myself and I focused on strengthening the weakest parts of myself, which is why I come across as INTJ. Now that I figured this out I'm trying to figure out how to get back to being my genuine self while holding on to the beneficial INTJ qualities that have helped keep me on track thus far. Your videos are insightful and helpful. Thank you
My little brother (14) is an ISFP. We can't get along very well for too long. He can be really angry, or even violent and abusive, but I'm sure it's something that we could work on. I'm pretty sure I'm at least a little bit involved in why he is like that. I made him take this test while he was in a good mood, and to my surprise, he got ISFP. As I was reading him the website's informations, he often said how he relates to it. Now I'm watching all youtube videos on ISFP trying to understand him more. This video was clearly on the most helpful and clear of all. So thank you very very much. I would like us to have a better relationship, and maybe help him get back on his foot. He's such a smart kid, it's a shame that he isn't doing anything of it. I think his violent behavior might came from all of our family issues. I really don't know how I could handle it, knowing I can't make him consult any kind of psychologist. With the quarantine, it's getting harder and harder to live all together and I really hope to find a way for everything to get better soon. If anyone knows anything about ISFP that could help me, I'd be really glad. I hope you're all having a beautiful day.
I'm INFP. My POV they are truly gentle, warm, caring & soft actually. But they seems to expect others do the same. Like listening without judgment, accept them as they are, consideration, affection etc... But honestly i saw ISFP that often BURRY their feelings, thoughts and emotions, and not acknowledge it (maybe they just don't want to burden others, makes things worsts etc idk for sure). So it makes them frustrated, anger, feel offended, not being "UNDERSTOOD" by others etc. I might be wrong, but they look calm outside but sometimes i just felt they have anger issue burry inside LOL (IMO and once again i might be wrong) They need truly support system that makes them safety with unconditionally love, affection & patience. They will open up little by little and try to articulates their inner world with people they are truly trust. They try to understand and read others needs and wants even without words, so they want it vice versa 😂. Well for me it's hard actually read other needs and wants cause often I'm busy with my inner life as an INFP 🤣👌 ISFP is like gem for me that often can't see it in their self how shiny their are and need input from others.
I can see what you mean when you mentioned ISFPs might mistype as INTJs. Some aspects between us are a bit difficult to distinguish. I had to watch twice thinking, "Well shit, I might be an ISFP." Lol
There are times when I ponder if I might be an ISFP 9w8 but then I remember that I'm actually a 5w6 with a strong 9w8 fix and also score RLOEI on the Big Five test (I'm an INTJ with a 5w6 9w8 4w5 tritype). Is a RLOEI ISFP enneagram 5 even possible?
Lots of protagonists in fiction are ISFPs. What quality is it that makes them such obvious heroes? I imagine it’s the idealisation of the Fi values + the Se physical adaptive-ness. #ENTP
Fi is common in protagonists because it gives an easily understood opposition. Fi is rebellion and Te is "the system". You've seen it more times than you can count. It's best seen in Patch Adams (an ENFP I think but an Fi aux anyway) as he rebels against an ISTJ doctor.
Fi dom users carry with them the very real potential to view the world as a dichotomy of good and evil. This is good for stories, but as an INFP myself, it’s very limiting and inaccurate in real life. People are never neither wholly “good” nor “bad”. This bipolar view of the world does two things: 1) creates a burden on INFPs to live a life that is morally good and just. We all fall short of this in some way or another, and this creates guilt and even toxic shame that may disable the otherwise extraordinary capacities one carries. 2) project this moral scope and expectation on others, and often onto those that don’t care as much for morality and goodness as Fi doms do- no one does as much as them to sculpt themselves into people who are purely good. They will inevitably be let done again and again, and yet keep expecting benevolence and undue integrity from others, and even more so, themselves. Eventually, there is a chance that a cynical view of the world will be adopted, unless a more broader aspect of Fi can be developed. That is to say, one that encompasses both forgiveness and compassion, for oneself, others and humanity. None of us are perfect, as much as Fi so wish we were. The only cure is forgiveness. And possibly a lowering of expectations of others as well. The way Fi drives their bearers to excellence in humanity and concrete good is commendable and honestly quite beautiful, but forgiveness and gentle compassion is essential as well.
now i know why i feel like this. i am a 100% ISFP. i like living in present. i hate thinking about past and future. i always know what i want (very idealistic about everything in life). its very easy for me to shop. alot of people say i am easy to talk to. i like knowing and doing new things.
Well, that sounds like me and I'm an ISFP. Another thing to know if you are an ISFP is if you are curious, easily stressed, extremely independent, and charming.
@@leslieroman765 their isfp is too relaxed and doesn't think about future plans so when a problem suddenly comes it's very big and it makes them stress even though it's their own doing
I think about the past, present, and future.. all in one. I don’t know what type I am, although, I was told I am an ISFP by someone who barely knows me.
Feel free to watch the videos that we have on both of those types just to confirm if you haven’t already! I’m really glad if this video helped you narrow it down in any way ~Nathan
What i really love and feel intriguite about isfp, is their simplicity and fun way to aproach life, also the jokes they make sometimes , sounds very smooth and flowed. Ah! And also their look, like very veery calm, such a inner security that they have. I have some close friends Isfp (girls and boys) and all of them have that
@@Jeireme Ooh man I never thought about that! haha a character mmmm 🤔now i will think of this all day long xd ... Maybe it's a very poor example but what's bring me to the mind right now and more close to what in my own experiencie I would say Murron the character from "Brave Heart" movie , she was the first love of the protagonist (Mel Gibson).
Very accurate. You say you don't understand us, but you were spot on. But I will say, I can be pretty organized, probably because Fi is a judging function.
@S AA First of all, I don't have all the details. Did they drown because in saving them he pushed them down? Also, I just don't go with what others tell me. I'm very stubborn. I would try with all my might to save everyone, or die trying.
"I can be pretty organized, probably because Fi is a judging function." *laughs and cries in INFP* I think the combo of Se and Fi is conducive to creating an aesthetically pleasing environment. Which is something I long to do, but there's too much Ne static in my head to focus on it for long, alas.
@@appletree6898 It doesn't always mean you're organized. It means you judge things based on values. And you more likely want things a certain way. I know ENFJs who have messy rooms. It just means you need things to be apart of values (yours or others)
when i did the test i was like no way im a isfp but now i see that im totally an isfp, im pretty chill, like to have my time alone, try to be supportive, im talkative with im comfortable and quiet when im in public
I've been noted as an INFP by numerous test results yet there's always something missing like I feel this ain't me, now I think I have re-discovered who I am. Thank you!
I think my wife might be an ISFP. She channels her creativity into her elementary school teaching rather than into what most consider to be 'the arts'. She's extremely creative in how she engages students, gets them excited about learning, helps them with their struggles, etc. She can be quite disorganized and it seems like it takes a concerted effort for her to organize things. The only things in her life that she keeps organized are those pertaining to teaching her public school class and her Sunday School and VBS classes. She says that she appreciates my natural tendency to almost impulsively create order out of chaos. I'm the one, she says, who keeps our home in order and keeps track of our obligations outside of teaching. When we first started dating and I saw the messy state of her car and her apartment, I was like 'what am I getting myself into?' Over the past 18 years that we've known each other, I've helped her straighten up her chaotic mess while she's helped me learn to relax just a bit about being so highly organized. I've gradually become more accustomed to piles and disorganized areas, though I still can't tolerate cluttered floors. The floors of her car and apartment were always cluttered with stuff. That's one thing that I've remained adamant about: everything has to be off the floor and put somewhere. The somewhere doesn't have to be rigidly organized (anymore), but it has to be searchable. Several times a year - at least four times a year, sometimes more often: Spring, Fall, Winter and Summer, beginning of school, last week of school etc. I do a deeper clean and try to get our current apartment as clean and organized as possible. Same with our car, it gets a through detailing about four times a year. Before I married my wife, I was even more obsessed with order and cleanliness than that.
Nathan Glass my laptop is exactly as described. I’m fully aware of how ridiculous it is, but I can’t seem to muster the bandwidth to deal with the behemoth... additionally, I have 142,571 emails and people lose their shit over that when they see my phone. My response is always something like, “I’m not sure why that bothers you. The number of emails it says I have is irrelevant. It doesn’t make me feel any certain way to see that number. I know most of them are junk mail. The idea of going through all that and deleting things actually induces anxiety for me...”
Great explanation. For me it was like getting a massage where the masseuse hit all the right points . With just the right pressure. Very relaxing and refreshing . Thanx heaps . You should b proud of your self .
i'll have you know, my art and music folders are VERY meticulously organized. and i typically hide everything on my desktop so i don't even know what that looks like.
Same. If you look at my apartment or my car I am messy and unorganized. However in certain aspects of my life I'm very organized and OCD, like arranging my phone apps in folders by category. I like my computer desktop clean and organized as well. I think the planning and organizing applies only to things we find important and meaningful.
My brother, a very aesthetic and artistic man, took the 16p test without me even noticing about it and he scored as an INTJ. I watched him straight in the eyes and asked him if he was sure about it. He replied something like:"I always plan, otherwise I stress about things". I think he actually is an ISFP that got mistyped while focusing on his demons. Altought now it's impossible to convince him about so. The thing that makes me laugh about it is his philosophy of life of: "If i don't look at my problems they will not be there." (Fi-Se?) which is not very representative of INTJs
Such a great insightful video, Nathan! Man, I feel so inspired hearing about ISFP's and reading through the comments! I'm an INFP, who always manages to get an existential crisis out of anything and everything (Ne product, probably, ugh). I so love the idea of just doing things simply because I enjoy doing them, that just sounds like heaven to me! You ISFP's are awesome!
Lol my husband is an ENTP and I think he's the only man who's ever had the emotional constitution to let my moods just roll off his back, and funny and lovey enough to quickly get me out of a funk.
These kind of videos you make are fantastic! I enjoy role-playing and forcing myself to use different personalities to make my characters more unique and I have a certain main character that's a shy ISFP and this is super helpful for me to understand things about her. Long story short I especially like how you mentioned they *might* Mistype as an INTJ, because I wasn't sure if making her have a strategic side would be realistic or not. PHEW. I feel better. Thank you :D
I love the logical and analytical way that you look at all the types, while also using past experiences you've had with with the types to show examples.😄
When you said ISFPs could easily be mistyped as INTJ I was nodding my head to that. As a potentially mistyped INTJ, the description of ISFP resonated with me. For now, I will keep INTJ as my MBTI label but perhaps ISFP is more accurate.
I had an ISFP boyfriend for 8 years and I'm INTJ. An enormous difference was that he was always so happy with no worries and I realised it's because he had absolutely zero thoughts about the future, and I'm constantly thinking about what's next, later and the rest of my life.
@@BurgundyandBlue1111 I tested once as ISFP on one of the tests and assumed it wasn't right, so that's why it's interesting he said we can mistype this way. I thought about it for three seconds and then remembered that fundamental difference. I asked him once if he ever didn't have a thought in his head, and he said yes. How does anyone do that? I do a lot more fun things than the INTJ stereotype is given credit for, but maybe it's because I have plans A,B,C and D that could be mistaken for spontaneity. I also get enneagram type 5, about equal with the wings, which fits me well. Have you done that?
@@katee2425 I constantly have thoughts going in my head and have created literal maps of multiple potential pathways to achieving something I want to do. Enneagram tests show 5w4, 4w5 or the 549 tritype, so I am definitely 5 dominant in the Enneagram. Yes, all of that leans more towards INTJ. Thanks for sharing those points of differentiation! Now, to find the stylus I lost for this phone!
"Being an ISFP in a very Te-heavy society is definitely not an easy thing to navigate." *sobs* Thanks for saying that it IS not easy ;;^;; And wow. There are so little videos made about the ISFP, and I wonder if that because you say is true, that they difficult to talk about. Personally I think all that you said was spot on! I'm very flattered about how you view us :'> I've never seen a video talking so in-depth and appreciate our core values like this.
im a big believer that people can change personality types throughout their life. as a kid i tested as an intp, and recently, before this big life change, i was an intj. now having gone through this transition and learning so much and changing, i retested as an isfp, which i feel like makes so much sense, having flowed from intj to isfp. the short attention span of isfp is #relatable bc i have adhd, and im incredibly affected by my aesthetic surroundings to the point where it can even take a toll on my mental health. im also a musician too lol this is just so scarily accurate and my world has been inverted lol
This happened to me as well! I was CONVINCED I was an INTJ, because I like to think and don't care what other's think that much. But my my my- am I an ISFP. I think the confusion might have come from the fact that the two personalities share the same functions, albeit in different orders, and the same "loop" (introverted feeling and introverted intuition): INTJ- Ni, Te, Fi, Se vs. ISFP- Fi, Se, Ni, Te. I also think that because ISFP's are extremely sensitive, they protect themselves by a hard, sarcastic exterior at times, which can mirror the INTJ's way of acting. Under stress, ISFP's tend to plan a lot, which is also what an INTJ does naturally. Because we can sometimes "big ideas" and because we would like to prove others wrong when they say we are weak/dumb, we can sometimes get very ambitious in bursts. I am very good at academics as well, so I might have confused that form of intelligence for a Thinking function.
if youre thinking about letter typing, thats not mbti, its another form of typology masked as mbti called SLOAN, or the big 5. the big 5 can change over time, but actual mbti, based off of cognitive functions, doesnt change.
Loved learning more about the ISFP as told by Nathan! “Superego” to the INTPs. Do you get along with ISFPs usually? For some reason, ISFPs are incredibly endearing to me.
I bet my INTP significant other could say the same. I loved that I found this article about ISFP and INTP relationship and it said, for the INTP, ISFP may be the one you have the most fun around. He said that it was true since he felt that way with me. That was a nice conversation ngl.
the one about not being able to put up enough motivation or whatever IS SO TRUE. also the moody and not too judgmental is true for me, ESPECIALLY with people online.
thanks for this! :) very helpful pointer on how isfps and intjs are sometimes mixed up. I get taken aback sometimes by how emotionally intelligent ISFPs are (as an INFP I sometimes stupidly assume only other INFPs think like that....), which makes them seem like "wiser" INTJs to me (since they're both quiet, quick on the uptake, but with this mask of "dead calm" over them sometimes). Also less "driven" and less "obvious" than INTJs when trying to get somewhere.
Are isfp sometimes mistaken to be extroverts ? Cuz i have a friend who is very much like an isfp every time i read about the isfp I remember him but he is very good with people and he knows how to deal with them , yeah and he is very quirky and clumsy so are these isfp traits ?
Their need for alone time is there but it's very moody. One time they are surrounded by people and others they disappear. You won't sense their introversion from their people skill. They are great with people usually.
@@Sam-bc9ll Its the cognitive functions that make up the isfp. Fi- Introverted feeling , Se -Extraverted Sensing , Ni - Introverted intuition and Te - Extraverted thinking. The first 1 is the dominant fuction(utilized without effort), 2nd is the auxilary(the function you will most notice) , third is the tertiary and the 4th is the inferior(achilles heel). The latter functions become more prominent as you age.
@@spartanoreo5075 hmm interesting! So you’re saying that we’re born with that order, and we become more extroverted thinking later in life? I don’t really know what that means, but you’ve peaked my interest so I’ll look into it. Thanks!
@@Sam-bc9ll It actually gets alot more complicated than that. Because you have 2 introverted functions and 2 extraverted functions. People with a dominant introverted function are most likely to in a neutral state be more introverted ,however when they decide to use their extraverted functions they appear extraverted with the particular function in mind. This helps to explain the whole ambivert situations that usually arrise within people (the same can be said for extraverts acting more introverted). The functions themselves are also drastically different as introverted feeling functions extremely differently to extraverted feeling. Same can be said for the other cognitive functions. So at a certain point it is better to just understand them individually rather than basing the idea of the functions on whether they are extraverted or introverted. In the beginning stages of one's life they are most likely going to be heavy revolving around the first 2 functions with their order of thinking (note this only affects certain perceptions of events based on the functions, so 2 people with the same functions can have very different moral philosophies because of their experiences.) As you grow older your last 2 functions become more ingrained within yourself, making you a more well rounded version of yours self. This just means instead of the last 2 functions potentially hindering you, they become more prevalent in your decision making. For clarification there are 8 cognitive functions. With each type normally only having 4. And 2 of those for are either extraverted or introverted. There is also a weird axis with it where if you were to have an introverted feeling function(fi) you will then always have the opposite thinking function (Te). So you can't have both Fi and Ti nor can you have both Si and Ni. So that's the basics, I hope this helps to understand it a bit better if you are still interested.
i’m an intp but i see a lot of my idealism behind creativity and being, in the isfp mindset. i know people that see me as an artist in some sense as i value the arts, creativity and the thought that goes into it. i somewhat consider myself a creative cousin of the isfp. although not as effortless perhaps lol still it feels like there’s an romanticizing isfp inside of me. i’m not sure if i’m the only intp that feels this way. although i’m very introspective about my feelings as they are something i don’t understand sometimes. thanks for the video!
Excellent and accurate. 🙂(ISFP) Regarding the Te you are right about the computer files but when it comes to their immediate physical environment of course ISFPs need order to relax.
I can agree. I don’t know if this is one thing I can connect to being ISFP but when I’m enjoying something and someone decides to be all logical about it, it can really affect me.
ISFP and i kinda suck at sports. I mean i’ve never been interested until recently when i took up Pilates after a few sessions i’ve mastered it though. I can’t dance to save my life yet i do dance because it makes me feel happy. I am an artist though as i draw pretty Well and kinda have a good voice i also have great aesthetic and display a great concern for fashion. I am a bit of a “daydreamer” though. By The way still struggling to know if i am really ISFP or just a shy ENFP. I do crave a lot of alone time yet i tend to Daydream sometimes(in class way too much) and i can be sometimes two left handed. I am 100% not an INFP though My mom calls me lazy though because i don’t hang out too much(i do hang out but not like my sister she is ESTP) and instead i am on my own singing listening to music,drawing,”daydreaming”.
Dude you Nailed it!! I am an ISFP and as a Manager if a Data Team I use my NiTe AND my FiSe quote evenly all day long and what you said about the files randomly named on my desktop knowing I will need this file again and knowing I need to put this some place I can intuitively find it always nags at the back of my mind but I am always on to the next thing before I actually act on that! 🤣🤣 i was laughing so hard! Thanks for taking the time to do this video.
I'm an artistic INTJ in the first few weeks of dating a disciplined ISFP. We've been friends for most of the year, and I'm sort of struggling to adjust to the change in our relationship status (ugh...change). It has been a grand indulgence in sensory pleasures. Homecooked food beautifully presented, long walks in the woods, wine tastings, lots of musical exploration (we are in a band together). He is very complimentary and verbal and physical in his affection. I've never cuddled with someone so much in my life (after 30 minutes I get over cuddling). He thinks I "like" my alone time, but doesn't yet grasp that it isn't that I like it but that it is ESSENTIAL. My finite energy in engaging with Se for sustained periods of time does kind of make me worn out lol and I find my internal creative world becoming more enriched simply to balance out the experience. He likes my bluntness for now but I do think if it were ever directed at him he would be quite hurt. I am on the dominant side in our dynamic. We can chat and stuff but in-depth cerebral conversation isn't quite there for me as I'd like, thus far. I don't necessarily feel a spark/intense connection yet, but I'm giving it a chance.
My mom who just died was an ISFP. Her finances were a mess but she had the most incredible art show. She talked to trees and took a lover at age 78. She was enraged I used a knife in the jam rather than a spoon.
Lol, my desktop is littered in unorganized files, docs, programs, pictures - overlapping each other... approx 78K unopened emails, 400+ unread text messages... 😅
"over the top artistry" Not always when it comes to the paintbrush or drawing in general. I should know. I'm the worst at drawing. But more so in the sense of "uniquely creative." More so artistic in the way we go about things. As in playing a board game for example. If we find a way to work around the rules without breaking them & just showing off our brilliance, than we will be more than glad to take it. While potentially causing disruptive chaos in the most entertaining ways.
The being comfortable with my emotions thing is something that frustrates me because I know others have a completely different way of thinking. So when I'm having a bad day I ride it out, i don't lash out or anything but people still think I'm upset with them because if the look on my face and my tone of voice. There doesn't seem to be much I can do about it, that's just how I am.
Ever find something you relate to so hard that you just have a full on break down? Life has been incredibly stressful for me and my INTP husband. A bad semester of school has flipped him to his dark side, which has triggered behaviour that happens to be quite damaging to my ISFP type. Having someone reconfirm my suspicions of physically and emotionally needing to reconnect with my natural surroundings frequently...was relieving and felt almost justifying of my desire to suddenly need to “just get away” more often recently. I’ve felt almost insane with the level of desperation with which I’ve been begging my husband that, when we move, we have to go somewhere there is more wildlife and greenery. With the information you have shown here on your channel, we are finally back on the same page. He’s recognized his slip into his darker tendencies and I’ve begun to learn more on how to recognize those behaviours, and help us both to catch it sooner. Thank you for making this video, and your content on INTP’s, you may have just saved my marriage.
