My ideal community is one in which everyone recognizes that that we are each 100% responsible for our own experience. And we will all get triggered and project and be human and the community becomes a place to help each other process and figure these things out. And, second, everyone agrees to clean up after themselves 😜
Hello friends, I lived in some comunities during one year when I was a nómad, but after that time, being patience and more patience, I became very tired psicolgicaly and emotionaly, then I came back to the city living and working alone and started a love relationship but after 6 months always in patience and more patience with her triggers, I become very tired also. And now I am alone again but in a permantly state of inner peace and calm.
Loved this. My brother and I have practiced minimalism and sustainability in our city living for a while now, and with everything going on in the world now, we've been planning to join or even start a community.
Very true and real tips. It really is a individual shadow work to understanding oneself, understanding/respecting others and how to relate with them... But i also think its important to bring that to the land and the local community around you so that one isnt just living on a island with a other people. Its all must be connected on a micro and macro scale.
Great video guys, thanks. It brought back memories of my one and only stay at a community. I was so full of hope before going there but I arrived to find the place in meltdown ~ huge conflict between the leaders. It was only the other workawayers that made it a good memorable experience. I still believe in community life but if I try again, I will reserve my expectations.
Good idea, conflicts are quite common in communities especially if people live close to each other or even in the same house. I wish you a new and more beautiful experience next time :)
@@NewEarthlings There is a US commune that has accepted members harassing one another for decades. I've even heard a report of physical intimidation. Yet it makes money and has a steady stream of visitors year after year. It has failed to honor it's commitment to non-violence, in a way. Always ask a place you visit what their rate of turnover is.
Great video. I am a 35 year old man who had a little experience of living in a community in my country (Brazil). The main challenge in my opinion can be the daily human coexistence and also to always keep yourself motivated in individual and group activities. It's certainly not for everyone.
Hey brother ❤️ thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. I read all your comments and see big value in you and what you got to offer, I just get time to answer you. And yes it can be very challenging to live in close distance to other people, we are not used to do that or educated in this way. But it can work and we saw it in one of the communities we visited recently. And did several videos about it. It's called inlakash. Maybe it will inspire you to check it out. Much love
Thank you for your feedback! Yes we have been diving deep into inner work and emotional presence and it's one of the principals that our community is based on. We would love to have like minded people with us. If you like you are welcome to join our Telegram group and channel. Telegram main channel t.me/NewEarthlings New Earthlings chat group t.me/+5TxXJMGe_X8yNGY6 Setup for freedom (learn how to protect yourself, your data, and your privacy from big tech t.me/Setupforfreedom Fb group (we don't recommend using fb but if you are on fb please join to have some positive vibes in your feed) m.facebook.com/groups/354777108474667/ Odyssey channel (RU-vid alternative) odysee.com/$/invite/@NewEarthlings:0
Unspoken expectations really are so important to undo and communicate through. 95% of all conflict with my wife of 16 years has been due to one of us not stating what we expected of each other. Great list of challenges to work through!
This is a really amazing video. You guys seem like great people. I'm very tired of living and working in such individualised alienating capitalist conditions, so I tried searching for alternative ways to live and stumbled across this video. I would love to join a community like this. I saw another comment where you said you're looking to set up another community so I'm going to do some more research and see where in the world you are! One question I do have is, do you ever reassess the principles of your community as a group, to try to make improvements? Or are you very strict with sticking to the original ideas?
It's so important what you are talking about! That's exactly a Video I needed and so rare to find. So Thank you! I like your Videos and topics and style of speaking very much:)
Thanks for this video! I am currently starting up a sort of community on my farm in Sweden, I feel like you covered many important subjects in this video. So thank you so much for sharing your experiences 🌟🥰
That's amazing I just watched your videos on the house you bought and it looks amazing and the plants are healthy. I'm sure you will have a great life there. Intentional community can be very challenging at the beginning. Feel welcome to reach out for help if you need :) Much love. Ram
I appreciate this video. It's informative and useful. A couple of questions: Curious if you still live in community and where? Do you know of any established raw vegan communities? I know of a couple in Costa Rica and Ecuador, but the ones I found didn't seem developed yet. Thank you!
We are developing a project in Portugal but we wouldn't exactly call it a community at the moment. However the plan is to make it more like a community in the future. We only know Fruit Haven and Terra Fruits in Ecuador. Both of them are quite well developed, but Fruit Haven is much bigger.
Really good video for anyone to gain some insight into themselves prior to either living in a commune or just simply interacting with other humans. I enjoyed this, tyvm
When did a “commune” become an “intentional community”, and why? Is it to avoid being associated with what political communism/socialism failed at? Or is a “intentional community” something entirely different? No antagonism here… just curiosity…
Anyone starting an intentional community has to decide which subcultures to welcome and which subcultures to reject. To go forward unaware of the role subcultures play is to let other people set the tone for the community you begin.
Great point,yes. Some people have this utopian idea of filling a place with all kinds of different people and somehow it will all magically work...Its nice to have diversity in a way but i would say that being homogeneous in its adherence to core values is also very important
We staid with us for some time and we she found out that she need to be with people who fully committed to being with her and focus and prioritize her in the relationship instead of being open to new people. So she moved in later to a place that fit her needs. And we staid in friendship, but we don't live together anymore.
You said that "this is not the community for you" regarding someone who doesn't want to have connection with others on a daily basis. So you find those who have a different need for connection/privacy are maybe a threat to your community? Everyone in your community is expected to be very extroverted? Do you feel introverts aren't loving and kind? Or maybe just not as loving, kind, creative, resourceful, valuable...as you feel extroverts are? I guess I'm just trying to understand why you wouldn't welcome introverts into your community.
The community space at that time in Berlin didn't allow big amounts of privacy, there where contrary needs, for majority we needed more connection and to contribute to the collective awakening. And that requires hosting events at our place, and because the place was not big enough. Our friends was uncomfortable. If the community would own a bigger house or a bigger land that will open space for all needs. It's important to acknowledge limitations regarding resources also so we are not playing lose lose game. There is nothing wrong with being introvert. We welcome everyone :) I hope that made it clear. Much love. Ram
Also why does it mean that just because someone feels fulfilled and would only like to socialise every few days that it wouldn’t not be the community for them? That’s not very welcoming and actually the complete opposite of what you’re preaching! You’re projecting you’re needs of wanting to be around people everyday on someone that doesn’t need that and saying they’re not welcome because of it! Community is supposed to be inclusive of everyone! If one person doesn’t feel like being social then you should accept that as it’s natural, an you can find someone else to socialise with! Not conclude that this means this isn’t the community for you just because they wanted some peace and quality time alone.
It seems you miss understand the hole point. We didn't say this person is not welcome in community, we said we are not compatible to live together because our community is about expansion and meeting new people. We are not making people wrong for needing some peace and quality time alone. we our-self need that. but in that case we mention our friends want us to stop doing the activity that our community was based around It's not healthy to change the fundamental of the community if a member has a different needs. It's better for them to find something that they can be happy with without creating fractions . It seems that you have a projection of what community should be like, and that's fine you can look for a community that fulfill this needs for you. we will be happy for you :)
When we are both traumatized and acting out our trauma to each other. This is not the case for us anymore. And it will change for you as well. I hope my words give you a new hope :)
So many folks come to community with expectations. If you approach the situation with curiosity, empathy, understanding and self-awareness then you'll be pleasantly surprised at how wonderful it will be.
But also have very clear personal boundaries and don't accept any extreme behavior. I was in a spiritual community where an older guy loved to hug and kiss the younger woman. He was clearly abusing and overstepping their boundaries in the name of love & light. It was ego and lower urges driving him, taking advantage of vulnerable girls with no strong boundaries. I also met some very unstable people that loved to talk and share their problems with me and then other times they completely ignored me as we had never spoken. It can really affect you in a negative way if people around are too unstable and you don't feel safe.
I learned the same things many years ago, in the period of about 6 months. Many are talking about community, but communication is the first step before living together. Well done.
Thank you for your feedback Adam, living in a community is a great way to learn what we missed to learn in our childhood and school. wish you all the best brother Ram
As a communalist of 44+ years myself, I loved this. One subtle point of pushback, or maybe just a point I'd like to hear more on, is the idea that an individual must become self-realized before being a member of the community. I tend to see this as a dance back and forth... a needy individual is nurtured by the community, then in turn (if s/he finds nurturing) is able to nurture the community as a whole. This ends up not being an either / or but a both / and. And then of course there are those times this simple does not work, for various reasons... community ends up being not for everyone for sure! Thanks for this good thinking / heart thinking.
Hello and thank you. I am interested in the idea of an intentional community. But i am over 50 and disabled with very low income. I hope to find an intentional community run by and for people with disabilities. I do NOT mean a institution. I mean a place that is planned out, by consensus, by the residents for mutual aid. Something like a senior community where younger seniors would do errands to help older seniors. Affordable housing with friends who help each other. No creepy, unnecessary restrictions for being disabled.
Thank you brother ❤️, reading your comment inspires to keep going and share more of our authentic truth :) We are happy to have you around. Much love 💓
Sometimes I wish videos like this could be 2h long. There's so much value in it that I want to be bathed in it. This is my first video into intentional communities but there is so much more to learn such as self improvements, expectations and finding your own needs. I feel like most people could benefit from a session like this so we can become better well rounded people who can live peacefully with even just their partners. Thanks for sharing 😊
I‘m a „little“ late, but your last point of advice confuses me. To paraphrase: Direct and immediate communication, say what you feel and need in a non-violent way. But when someone says something to me or does something that upsets me, I rarely can immediately tell what‘s going on. I usually can’t even tell that it upsets me. When something like that happens I usually get a little bit of distance between me and the other person, calm down and think about what happend, what I didn’t like about it and maybe think of ways to avoid that in the future. This can take several hours or even days (also depends on how often I see said person). During that time I will distance myself from the person, telling them that I need space in a polite, neutral way, but will still work with them if required. After that I will approach the person and, as you said, directly and non-vionlently communicate whatever I need to in that moment. But I really can’t do that immediately. Does that mean I‘m not suited for a community?
Hey Ageamiu, thank you for sharing your process and experience. Actually what you are doing is really great and this is what is needed in community "self reflection asap" What we meant is not to be avoidant and deal with the trigger immediately and share it with the other side as soon as you can. From what you shared you might have enmeshment trauma where it's difficult to recognize what's happening in you regarding others in the moment. We both had that and it gets much better with doing inner work. If you like to start or deepen your healing experience feel free to reach out to one of us and we would help you. Much love 💓
@@NewEarthlings Thank you for your kind words! Yes, I definitely have quite a bit of trauma, however I‘ve never heard of the term „enmeshment trauma“. I‘ll check that out! I do dissociate a lot and flee from reality, which I‘m working on right now (quite a challenge if I‘m being honest). I was just asking if my current conflict-resolving process is okay, so just to know if I need to work that. It really comforting to know that, with a bit of work, I could join an IC. My talents, personality, and skill-set aren’t really suitable for capitalism, they are however, I believe, really useful for an IC. Though I definitely need to work on myself. Much love to you too!
@@TooSickToDressVictorian fir what it’s worth, your process sounds pretty healthy to me. Different people process information and emotions differently and some need more time. It’s great to know that about yourself as long as you communicate that clearly and that you’re planning to reengage after some time to process.
I have very fluctuating sensory needs, like some times I need a lot stimuli, and others I need little to none. And this could cause a lot of issues, but I'm not sure how to get past that. I also have mental disorders that could issues, but I don't want them to drag me down. But I have no idea how to start working on this.
One thing i see sometimes is the pressure,even if its subtle, to enforce values (or at least the leadership understanding of it) on everybody. Also the pressure,again sometimes subtle, to partake in all group activities. You see that often,specially in communities with a religious or spiritual strong orientation.
I think the values should be clear from the beginning and those who join agree fully and share those values. Then there is no need to impose. If there is a need to impose values then there is a serious incompatibility. Everyone should be choosing the values because they believe in it.
I just spent ten days as a workawayer in a community in New Hampshire, USA, called Sacred Nectar Sanctuary and found your video very interesting. I also subscribe to your channel and start following you, because I have a channel as well where I promote alternative ways of living and ecologically sustainable lifestyle.
Dear Earthlings, very instructive and useful for those that aim to be part of an existing or a community to emerge. We are transitioning to a community. nr. 5 Emmeshment was particularly instructive. And the others are also about how to connect properly in a way that leads to mutual wellbeing. Thank you for sharing. I am on a quest to see what makes intentional communities sustainable. This might help. Thank you again. And greetings from rainy Croatia. Bogata Suma Vojnic.
Hello. Any information at all on how to find off the grid communities living on farms or land in the UK? Any links, personal contacts, websites, hints, etc. Thank you. Marcos.
We don't personally know any communities in the UK but I'm sure they exists. Just try to google and you might find some listings for communities. There are a few websites where you can find communities around the world.
Yes :) now i live alone but will live in comunity again later this year. And will eventually buy land here in Portugal to follow the vision 💓 Hope your project in America is going well!
@@realrefuge Yes I totally get it when the one lady mentioned that our ancestors all had a harmonious working relationship with earth and that we still have it with in us. Im also a fan of working smarter not harder tho. I'm not a young man any more. Still got hard work in me but don't like to flaunt it. Lol. As far as the lady with vomit stories. Well I've got a fam with 2 youngsters and need to be with wholesome, and reliable minded people creating a sustainable environment. Which I'm sure plenty groups exist.
Very good points. This is true in life in general, but is so much more personal in a community setting. Everything you're talking about are the things we all need now to heal. Excellent.
Great video with such good points. I haven't lived in a community before but I've spent time at Findhorn in Scotland, and am aware of the principles of harmonious communal living. That said, I know it wouldn't always be smooth sailing, and as much as my partner and I would love nothing more than to live in a community of like-minded people, it seems to be almost impossible as an outsider. Maybe we'll find one someday that will be open to accepting us.
Hi Shelley :) Thank you for your feedback about the video we really appreciated it. It's true that it all starts love and light but without inner work it can turn bloody! 😁 I wonder what makes you feel that you would be an outsider?
@@NewEarthlings I meant outsider in terms of not being a founding member of a community and hence not having a place in one. The communities we've looked at have all reached capacity.
Wow, I really liked this. I'm Kelly, I lived for a year at Aloe in North Carolina when I was 19 (1979). Back then, Aloe, Twin Oaks, and East Wind founded the Federation of Egalitarian Communities. I loved and lived with the Aloe founders. I just retired and bought an RV, sold my house, and about to tour communities and alternative living areas and the tame nomad life for a while. You two really helped with areas to introspect on. Thanks, and fare well.
Hey guys, great video, thank you for putting it out. The section on enmeshment was really interesting to me, and reflecting I can see that there are areas and moments in relationship where I am / become enmeshed. Do you have any more videos on this topic? Would be great to learn more. Thank you
Thank you for the feedback Gliscor :) I'm glad that this video helped you. We have several videos about relationships and emotional healing but not specifically about enmeshment, but I think this one will help you. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Y6MJ2Q5eL3Q.html
I would like you to share your insights on a few things. How do you meet the needs of all with regard to noise levels? Do you find that there is little respect for silence in this world? Do you offer a place to be for those who need silence to meditate, do art, yoga, read, study...and so on. Also, do you ever deal with someone attempting to discredit someone's need, treating someone else's need as unwarranted, silly, ridiculous? What do you say to that person? Also, what are the rules about children running and shouting inside? Thank you.
I think it's important to consider those things before living together. For example, if there are children, there's bound to be noise. Members need to be clear what their needs and boundaries are and communicate them. If someone consistently discredits other's needs, they are not suitable for living in a community and should do lots of inner work before
i just saw your reply, we don't have experience with children so much but we lived in a community where children respected the common space so i think this is possible
@@poeticposturing3850 I am also a person who deeply value silence, specially for doing my yoga sadhana but also for nature and art contemplation as a meditation path and also for reading. Its a very important thing to cultivate silence at the proper places and times
thank you for the insight! I feel like these tips could be applied to all of life and relationships. I was wondering what communities have you lived in? thank you!
Yes it does, we are making an online course about relationships :) hopefully it will be ready soon We lived in 3 communities in Ecuador, and our community in Berlin and Tenerife.
Thank you so much in the Loving Presence of Yahshua. I deeply honor you beings for sharing these wonderful brilliant concepts which obviously come from a lot of experience in a very clear community oriented environment. I feel like I would love to learn with you in the community living environment. My experience is with utilizing nonviolent communication circles almost daily at the Hale Akua Shangri-La community. You so much for sharing this wonderful informatio. I would like to learn more about what community is a good fit for me, where there's a shared vision. Thank you so much.
Hi there guys ! First, I love your videos, I just discovered your channel which is a hidden golden nugget among the manys...! Second, I would love to know how you find the communities you live in, like in Canaris for example...how do you first get in touch with people there ? Thanks for your tips ! 😁🌷 I have a project of créatine an ecocafe in an ecocommunity, but I just don't know how to meeting with people...do you know some alternative networks which can help ? Love you !!! ☀️☀️☀️
Thank you dear for this loving and supportive comment. We feel your love and appreciate it. We actually are the Co founders of the community in Tenerife. And our friends invited us to join them. There are many way to find communities. Looking online at community hubs is one of them or talking to people who have been to communities. We wish you all the best with your journey 🙏
This is an interesting and informative video on commune living. Emotional support is something I may not have thought about before. One thing I kept thinking watching, maybe bc I've lived with so many ppl throughout my life and worked many farms, is this should already be understood if you've ever had roomates or partners you're not compatible with. Other than that I enjoyed the video and think its a great resource for those looking at this option
Yes unfortunately emotional support is not a given in most places. Even in many communities. It can be a long journey to even get in touch with ones own emotions and then learn to be with others in that.
...and all these are needed to be seen in a simple committed relationship as well...basically do some healing on yourself, spend some or LOTS of time alone and learn about yourself, otherwise you are miserable wherever you are :D
Cleaning up after oneself is an obvious expectation in communal spaces. It's okay to have different ideas about cleanliness in one's own space. Where space is shared by others, basic adulting skills, such as cleaning up after oneself, should be applied. No one should be expected to clean up another person's mess. This is both an unfair and unspoken expectation. In my extensive experience of living with others, asking someone to clean up after themselves leads to resistance and hostility more than cooperation. Showing appreciation is also a basic skill. Wantibg to be apprecuated is not a special need, but tends to be treated as one when the larger group is either uninterested or doesn't know how to show gratitude. Everyone is deserving of it. In fact, gratitude is a show of inclusiveness and social maturity. It is rare where a person can ask for appreciation or a show of gratitude without being attacked or mocked by the whole. In communal settings, large or small, a natural show of gratitude goes a very long way and shouldn't be virwed as special treatment or a special need..
We do still think that it can be valuable to communicate expectations about cleaning, because people have also different standards. We cannot expect that everyone will automatically match our ceaning standards. However often people are open to put more effort if it is expressed. Of course appreciation is a beautiful thing! But it can also be a tricky shadow when someone starts giving, not from a place of generosity, but from a place of expecting to be seen and appreciated. This comes with strings attached and can lead to resentment.
Sorry but I completely disagree that if someone triggers you by doing something stupid and acting like an idiot that this is something you need to look inside yourself to resolve. You should definitely and absolutely tell them and make them aware of this issue because in a community everyone’s feelings should be considered and unfortunately we’re not perfect so sometimes people do stupid things including to each other and the only way move forward positively and correctly is to address the issue with the person or people that caused it not just to look within yourself especially as they’re probably unaware of how they’re acting or maybe they don’t care. This is reality and it doesn’t need to be so deep and introspective! It can definitely be as simple as this. When you try to over complicate problems and make everything introspective you can easy overcomplicate very simple things and cause yourself more stress.
It's always important to look at the pain within and it be the priority and that doesn't at all undermine setting boundaries with idiots. both are important. What we refereed to is to look where this pain is originated, and healing, using the external trigger to do the healing work that it's so important for healthy living in a community, and in many cases the expression of healing is to set boundaries
I'm just now embarking on the chance to live in community, and really appreciated your sharing your insights and experiences! It will help me a lot in the near future! Many thanks!
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I'm not sure about anger belonging to the past only 😅 I was yesterday angry at my visitor for taking his socks off and exhibiting his naked feet all over the place 😅 I don't like naked feet strangers in my house hahaha, I think my anger belonged fully to the present 😅
Thank you for sharing, what we mean is that not all your anger is actually at the guests but on the fact that your boundaries have crossed. And this mostly belongs to your childhood. And if you process that you will probably have some anger but it won't be a lot and you will be able to handle the situation calmly. I hope this made it clear, much love ❤️🙏
I'm curious, what point made you think that we suggest you should be super social? In fact, I myself can be quite introverted at times. I think there must be a misunderstanding.
@@NewEarthlings Hippie communes almost always fail because you only get one type of person going there (they lack real diversity). 25% of people are introverts, they don't want to be surrounded by people all the time or take part in lots of communal activities. I bet you don't have spaces for them and i'd bet they get excluded same for people who like to work a lot or work alone.
Actually, you might be really surprised to hear how my typical day in the community looked like: yoga and meditation in the morning (by myself), a bit of gardening (sometimes someone might feel inspired to join), then doing online work on my own, in the evening some people eat together if they feel like it, someone might make a fire and people join if they feel like it. Some days we cuddle, but all members were taking space for themselves every day, and we only spend time together when we actually feel like it.
@@NewEarthlings Hmmmm ok if that is true then your community is different it sounds much more balanced. I find it interesting that a community like the Amish have lasted for hundreds of years and grow in numbers every year but hippie type communities always seem to die due to fighting or lack of children, why do people look at the Amish as weird losers if that is true?
Hey guys, I remember you were planning to create a new community somewhere in CR , I can not access my facebook and see the updates in the CP group, how can I contact you on this? Thank you
It just sounds like the Manson family to me. unfortunately I cannot shake that feeling. I do respect the fact that you are trying to find an alternative form of living, which seems so impossible today, specially after the collosal failure of the counter culture and religious institutions of the twentieth century.
It's very possible and we say many healthy examples of people living it. Nothing like a cult or what you referred to as Manson family. I believe this is the natural way to live, in small groups self-sustaining and connecting to each other and other communities around us. Check out our last video.
Yes,the past failures sometimes makes us feel cynical about the whole thing. But it can be done,not easy but still possible. One very important thing is to have people that are minimally functional mentally,not nuts like Manson. Not 100% perfect people (dont exist) but basically healthy
Most communes fail, because most of the people attracted to these types of arrangements are emotional and spiritually very needy. But that doesn't mean that that they don't ever work. They can last for many decades.
Well it depends what you mean with failing, if they last for many decades that's a great indicator of growth. Even for few months. People change so quickly in this field and grow quickly. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us
@@NewEarthlings Failure is when a community becomes, exploitative and abusive. This is extremely common. Often it's because people have naive view of human nature, which leads people to remove healthy boundaries relating to sex, family, money and space etc...
The numbers are more along the lines of 97% fail. The only way a commune can truly survive is by implementing the following: 1. Vet all those who come in, a commune must consist of like minded people with the same goals. Communes that share the same beliefs (mainly religious ones) tend to last for decades. When you pack a bunch of people into an area with conflicting views (religious, political, etc) it is doomed to fail. 2. Only permit those with reliable work history and ethics to join. A commune is like a clock, all parts must put in equal efforts to function properly, your only as strong as your weakest link. Lazy people hinder progress and become a drain on resources. 3. Access to water, power (whether it solar, wind, etc) and waste disposal, food production. If you can't sustain the communities needs it will fail. 4. Annual income, you must have a way to make money to pay for property tax, medical needs, etc. I own and operate my own private commune 84 residents, since 2006. I'm currently starting a 2nd commune using opod tube housing as residential homes. That commune will have a YT channel devoted to it and will be based on the 1st commune.
I personally would never live in a religious community. Too much stiff conformity for me to accept it. Its good to have basic values,principles and rules, nothing wrong with that, but without being too rigid,square,cultish
@@latitudeselongitudes1932 I agree, it doesn't have to be a religious community it just has to be a community where all members are of one mind set (the reason why religious communes are so successful is they all have the same mindset). If everyone in the community shares the work load, responsibility, etc equally it can thrive. Yet it's hard to find those willing to.
@@gettingpolitical Yes, i agree with all your points about work ethic and food/energy issue. Very important aspects of a community. I just think that the social,cultural aspect is also equally vital. For me religious communities are just boring. I like to interact more with artistic types and people in general who are slightly eccentric(not nutjobs like Charles Manson of course). People with interesting lives,conversations,hobbies, activities,travel experiences. You dont find that within Amish farms for instance. Thats just my opinion and personal preference
@@latitudeselongitudes1932 Indeed, yet with community's of multiple personality types they have a small margin of success (take the hippie communes, there are only two such communes today that I'm aware of that still exist (New Zealand has one and Canada). Yet what they are today is completely different than what they were. The generation who occupies them now are nothing like those who occupies before. It's good several groups around the world are working towards similar goals of creating communities of various cultural aspects and social constructs. Experimentation is the guiding facit to success.
Thanks for making this video. I know that I have read books that focuses only on the specific points you said starting at 9:29. But your video concisely highlighted how to be a mature person for the self and for the community, or at least for me it's very concise and intuitive framework for how I want to develop myself. I'm not the person interested in joining intentional community, but I want to watch more of you videos just so I could learn from you. I'm curious of how emotionally and self aware you both are.
This is a really good video, for every day life, not just in some sort of community group. I have been getting triggered a lot myself lately, and also recognise a lot of what you have described in others too. One big one is I find a lot of people have unspoken expectations, and get really sulky and difficult if you fail to meet them, yet they refuse to tell you what they are. I had some friends like that, they always seemed annoyed with me but would always refuse to say why and instead would deny being annoyed which felt like gaslighting to me. It became very draining and miserable so I left the friendship group. I really like how you've framed this in a way that doesn't make anyone necessarily 'bad' or 'wrong,' it's just about different people's needs and the importance of expressing those, and moving to be around more like minded people if you find yourself in groups where the needs of others conflict too much with your own needs.
Welcome Kate, I'm glad you resonate with what we shared and find validation and answer to your life challenges. I totally feel you as we both have been to similar situations. Unfortunately not many people have learned how to clear projections and share expectations. People who don't know how to share it usually end up with big disappointment and people leave them. We have used a method of clearing projections and it was very helpful for us, we called it the puse process, we talked about it in the last livestream. Check it out it might be helpful
What is a community? I mean is it that some people own land together? Where do people live? Is it people living all in the same building, in tents or even an area of a normal residential place? Is money all given to the collective? How does it exist and function physically and materially?
All of this depends on what the members of the community decide. Usually it is people living close to each other, sharing resources, cooperating, with shared values and vision.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful energy! Hahahaha, that was fun! So glad I came across you in this way. This is totally a Teal Tribe group, and I love it! Are you at all taking in new people? It'd be great to connect further soon. Ram has me on Telegram already. ;)
We are not in one place at the moment and it's a long process. but im sure you will find your community and where you feel belonging if not maybe you meant to create it :) Much love
Intentional communities probably shouldnt form unless its headed by someone who owns a large chunk of land and either has construction knowledge or even better has members that can aid in construction, so you can build good homes for everyone. make a village not a dormitory or summer camp
Please stop using stock photos. I would much rather look at your faces while you are talking than some superficial stock photos. You guys are too real to use them.
Oh wow it means a lot to us to read this. 😍😍😍 Thank you dear. We read your comment while ago and we reduced the stock photos since then. And I just got a chance to write you back and appreciate your feedback. So much love to you 😊❤️
Thank you so much for this video, I look for resources to start a community from a screech in Poland, any advice on where and how to start, thank you so much for being so awesome! Mila
Hey there, it's great to hear how many people are looking to start communities! I would say that the most important thing is values, vision, people. Being clear about your values and vision will help you to find the right people. And having the right people is the foundation for any community. All the best 💖
Thank you for the feedback, it makes me so happy to read that our video had a positive impact on you dear Rozynmike ❤️ We have a list of community videos check it out here. ru-vid.com/group/PLFaXh8ZO-aQyUXH0sqgquYQV8QpsCKDfg And here is a list about self healing ru-vid.com/group/PLFaXh8ZO-aQzFAQqeNrQaKaE06utGua2v
Members of my aging family are trying this. I invited my cousin to join us because he was struggling with health issues. On day 2 and 3 and 4 he was raging about hating it here. I guess love has to conquer all. We gave him space to process the changes. I don’t know how it will work out but I’m hopeful. He was given a job to do that was pretty easy. Everyone needs a purpose. He hasn’t begun to be part of anything yet. 2 weeks in. We have to be patient. Thanks for this video. It’s very helpful. 🧚
Thank you for sharing, that must have been a tough experience. How is it now? Sometimes people need to try out enough in the city life, to be able to appreciate alternative life. It helps to have a talk about needs and boundaries. All the best for you ❤️ 🙏
@@NewEarthlings Once someone is IN it’s tough to get them OUT. So, my advice to others is: be very choosy about who you bring in. Or make up your mind to love someone in spite of their shortcomings. (We are doing the later.) Poor health makes being a decent human difficult. Hoping time can heal him and it’ll work out. 😁💁♀️
