such a lovely wife standup for your husband. sadly this stereotype mindset already rooted deep in society... kudos for both of you! may your family blessed with happiness!
“She centers me, she keeps my feet on the ground” THAT is the secret of a healthy long-lasting loving marriage for BOTH to hava partner as such. Beautiful just beautiful. Both must feel that way about their spouse if not something is not right
I'm glad all the couples didn't let anything get in their way of being happy and settling down/starting a family. Bi-culture & multi-culture are a beautiful thing.
Proud of you Bro Asri. Frankly, Malay is not lazy in fact Malay is smart, is just the smart method was wrongfully used. You have shown a great spirit and example to the Malay community. With the combination of smart and hard work will bring eternal success.
All of these couples are so lovely, God bless! What I found really cute and hilarious is that the Australian husband grew up in SG and talked Singlish! So precious. We lived in Malaysia when my child was a toddler and he also started to speak English with a Malaysian accent.
I grew up in Singapore. During my primary school days we lived in Joo Chiat, there were many Malay people. I had Malay friends & I went to their homes to play frequently. That’s how I learned to speak Malay. In high school it was much the same I had friends from all ethnic groups & religions. There was no racial discrimination. Singapore is a multicultural nation. It’s a blessing to have all the different ethnic & religious groups living in harmony. There is some racism but it’s among a minority of Singaporeans. The government must make a law prohibiting discrimination (by race, religion, age etc), if the government has not done so. I left Singapore when I was 17 years old to study at university in Australia (in 1961). There was racial discrimination but, again it was among the lest educated Australians. I had friends at university who were Australians & also students from all over the world. Australia is multicultural & there is little racial discrimination. Don’t believe what you read in the newspapers.
I have but two things on my bucket list left to fulfill. One is to open a no kill animal sanctuary & the second is to spend at least 2 weeks BUT PREFERABLY an entire month in Singapore to experience all the country has to offer. I can’t tell you how many documentaries I’ve watched about this beautiful country but the more I watch the more I want to go!!! ❤️ Watching from Canada 🇨🇦
Hope you managed to go. I am an Indian born and raised in Singapore and although i have been living in Minnesota for the last 17 years, I am just as much as hooked on these documentaries about my Country of birth..:)
Don't let all these outside noises and gossip destroy your mutual love and trust to your chosen life partner. Surely 'love' can overcome these differences in due time. ❤🔥❤🔥
Yea you can even combine the two different cultural wedding to me that’s a gr8 idea. It’s creative, it surprises, leaves one in awe and very special and super unique. Takes much discussion about it of course, describing each cultural wedding and being super creative in which part of each marriage tradition to implement into the wedding 💒
16:13 - RACIAL PREJUDICES HAPPEN EVERYWHERE BUT I HAVE TO COMMEND FEISTY DEANNA AND HER HUSBAND’S CHILL ATTITUDE IN HANDLING PEOPLE’S MISPERCEPTIONS. THEY ARE LIKE THE YIN AND YANG COUPLE. THEY COMPLETE AND COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER 🔥🔥🔥
This is so much like my journey of interracial marriage. The loneliness and adjustment to a new country was sometimes frustrating but the people were kind and accomodating.
its not skin color or different culture (maybe to other ppl ) its you see something attractive in the other person regardless they have something inside of them that attracts you to them this is lovely doc congrats to all im dark australian my bfs white new zelander we get along great i couldnt of found a better love im 59 hes 68 been 4 yrs this yr sept we have been together i feel so happy relaxed content hope everyone world wide finds love like me an these beautiful couples on here God bless 😊❤🙏👵👴👩❤💋👨💐🌹🥀
I love all these story. And I wish all these couples love and happiness for there future. I am also in an interracial marriage my husband is white and I am black. Big Love From Canada 🇨🇦 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦
Sorry, I apologize. My original post was not meant for this video. It was my mistake. This video, however, was very interesting and I enjoyed it very much. Well done and tank you for a good documentary.
The chinese and vietnamese couple don't look interracial to me. I'm not saying they are not, just interesting how they look so similar but as humans we focus on differences.
It's just wonderful that despite all the challenges and drawbacks they had to face, love is the only thing that prevail in the end. Wish all the best for these beautiful couples, truly inspiring
Respecting culture especially on behalf of the family that raised your spouse is important. Otherwise there'll be a dark cloud hanging over your marriage because the family felt disrespected and you can't even change that attitude unless you do what you were supposed to do in the first place
Thank you for sharing loved the post it was very insightful and enjoyable to watch. Blessings to all the couples and their families of good health, strong bonds to continue in their relationships and changes in people perceptions of interracial love. From Aotearoa NZ
You can't stop interracial love, the more you fight against it the more pple are finding love outside their race or tribe. In the future, racism will be a thing of the past because more pple will be from interracial/tribal unions.
Makes me happy to see the good results in Singapore. we also lived in Singapore and had nothing but good feelings about my coworkers and friends. Though my mixed family is a bit of a cliche (military man meets Japanese woman......35 years ago)\
Hahahahahahah! Malay (all backgrounds) people are some of the most friendliest, kindest, humane people I've ever met in all my travels around the world! Singapore, not so much. Making fun of my dark skin that I got from extreme water sports that they themselves couldn't do. Malay have looked at me and asked "What kind of athlete are you?" Singaporeans have said "Why you so dark!" lol! The difference in attitude is very stark.
Fascinating documentary - thank you for sharing. Beautiful to see all these different cultures mix and get along so well. I find the situation in Singapore very interesting - it seems the different groups hold onto their traditions dearly. I'm Indian-American and frankly American society demands assimilation at some level (not in an imposing, authoritarian way) but it's just so easy to forget your original way of life and assimilate into Americana (my parents weren't spared of this either). That being said - it does feel like the distinctions between different groups of Singaporeans is a little more cultural - whereas in the US I do think there's less of a cultural difference between groups (at least is feels more topical than anything meaningful - perhaps with the exception of values) precisely because everyone assimilates to a large degree. So yeah - it feels like Singapore is truly multi-cultural (I'd use the analogy of a salad bowl) vs. America's melting pot (everything blends beyond distinction into one).
I almost met my biracial great great grandmother. I could have, but she died from cancer. My great grandfather was one fourth Abenaki. He was possibly part Canadian too. He died when I was eighteen. I remember that my mom was weeping very hard the day he died. I would weep very hard if my mom died. I don’t want my mom to, but we aren’t immortal.
I do not see white and Asian as a big deal in Asia because so many asians particularly women see it as a status symbol. I am always curious when Asians marry South Asians or Black since it is highly looked down on. Let's just be honest!
Erm the passport bros are usually white men who come running over looking for Asian wives to satisfy their fetishes. I hardly see any SA or blacks being passport bros, expressing interests or having yellow fever. Most female friends that I have actually don’t find white westerners attractive unless ofc if it’s Tom cruise LOL
They're actually less common in SG compared to other interracial marriages. I don't know if the statistics are still true, but when I was a teenager (late 2000s, early 2010s), the highest percentage of interracial kids are Chindians (the Chinese-Indian community in Singapore, and some other countries as well). Which makes sense because both Chinese and Indians are 2 of the 4 main ethnicities in Singapore. By comparison, the Eurasian community is the smallest of the 4.
Marriage is about you and me decided live together to build a happy family. Parents are paying respect for their love and care during the first day we are borne till adult and independent. In fact, every one love their parents, therefore is normal when there is minor obstacle during the marriage process. Have a properous and harmonious life time.
It’s strange seeing this as someone who’s never been to Singapore as it’s not obvious to me how the ethnic groups there view each other. So when the food-business husband was assumed to be a worker I didn’t understand why at first.
Inter racial marriage is not a problem at all if we all not racist. But I like to point out one thing, religion. This the most difficult and sensitive issue if inter marriages happen. In islam the rules are fixed. We cannot do others culture ritual provided it is free from syirik or polytheism.
Exactly! I’m interracial so Race don’t matter to me but religion? That’s different and very serious to me. I can’t be with sum1 that is different religion than me I just can’t tolerate that.
@@alecrosewell6959 As long as the couple are both Asians, they share the same value. Regardless whether they are Indian, Chinese, Malay, Filipino, Japanese, Korean. All are Asians.
Me too, if not partner and I love each other then religion is not essential. There isn’t a need for conversion. You just have to take other people’s gossiping with a pinch of salt honestly. That includes in-laws . Though as gen Y &Z becomes more open minded , they will be better in laws in the religion aspect
Yea religion is the main issue. That’s why you hardly see other races marrying into a Muslim family. A male has to circumcise, both female & male has to convert into Muslim too. A huge one sided change I guess
Spouses from different racial background must have a great understanding and tolerance. They must be really adaptive and have liberal thoughts. Both must be very nice people. How nice they have to be until they can attract a person from a totally different religion and racial background.
Interracial marriages have been common among Muslims in Singapore for decades. Both my grandmothers were the product of interracial marriages for example. So was my maternal grandfather. Interracial marriages between Malays and Indians, Malays and Arabs, Indians and Arabs are common among Singaporean Muslims for decades. Equally common are marriages between Malays with Chinese women who were adopted and brought up by Malay families. As a matter of fact, Mr Yaakob whose story started @6:03 is the son of a mixed marriage. His parents were Malay and Indian @7:51 and @8:06 CNA could have used that angle well but sadly it did not. Sad therefore that Singapore thinks that this is a new phenomenon.
This has happened to me so many times. People have come and asked me how much the company I work for charges to take care of the grounds out side of my house, as I lived in a predominate Chinese neighborhood in Toronto Canada with my Chinese wife and extended Chinese family. I think they thought one of my wife's' brother must of been her husband . But I can understand because I used to work the night shifts which paid more and they would only see be during the day on the weekends doing the yard work or doing maintenance on the house.😁😁
Its wonderful to set up the interracial family sg and to see that 93families showed up. This is very common nowadays. You marry a good honest person who can gel with you long term. You don't marry a race. It will be nice if they can keep their own religion - say a Christian-Hindu partnership and the kids can choose which of their parents religion they prefer. It was nice to see Kunalan again. Kumaran please be brave. Seal the deal sir. It's not that difficult. You got to stand up once maybe for half an hour on both sides and all will be done. success sir. Please post the outcome here. Good luck. For me I take this for granted and dont need a program about this because its 50years since Singapire's independence and it has always been a.melting pot.
Aside from it being costly, some religion demands that they have to get 'converted' to their religion, which I think some wouldn't agree on especially if its very different in terms of beliefs like a Catholic converting to Islam etc.
BEAUTIFUL STORIES THAT BROUGHT TEARS TO MY EYES. I'M FROM PAPUA NEW GUINEA MARRIED TO GERMAN MAN. SOMETIMES I'M SCARED BECAUSE OF SKIN COLOR. WHICH I'M BLACK AND HIS WHITE . YOUR STORIES TEACH ME TO GROW MORE IN LOVE WITH MY HUSBAND NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES ... LOVE IS COLOR BLIND
Pretending nothing wrong does not mean is not there. And there is a bone inside the meat caused the pain. To me, religion and language always discrimination in the field. So human change as there grow older, which does not mean human don't grow extreme in religion or others field. So adapt or leave the changes, that's all. Stay safe, healthy and happy.
Buy a shirt collar button spy camera, record the treatment on video and publish on social media so that people will condemn the person who did that to you.
I have one boomer colleague who say one of her Chinese subordinate marry Malay wasted. Then another Chinese staff who marry an Ang mo so lucky can find Ang mo husband. 😑😑😑 and she herself is single even at age 50.
Marry Ang mo is lucky?! Please la.....all the white privilege these ANG MO get in Asian countries.Please la Ang mo are just like you and me no less no more
THANK YOU OUR FATHER FOR OUR DIVINE HUMANITY. THANK YOU THAT YOUR WORD IS YOUR SEED TO US IN DIVINE LOVE. WE LOVE YOU OUR FATHER AND WE LOVE ONE ANOTHER. MATTHEW 22:40 THANK YOU OUR FATHER FOR HUMANITY FAMILY AS WE PREPARE OURSELVES SPIRITUALLY. THANK YOU FOR THE THIRD TESTAMENT SPIRIT OF TRUTH FOUR BOOKS FOR THE NEW ERA. WE FEAST ON YOUR WORD.
Malaysian and Singapore Chinese : "Malay wedding are noisy and disrupted the peace" Also Malaysian & Singapore Chinese : Burnt firecrackers and hired lion dance troupe just during a shop/business launching.
Quite a stupid comparison, the lighting of fire crackers and lion dancing are usually done outside one's business establishment for only awhile whereas Malay weddings are held under void decks and would last about 1-3 days. Stop trying to stir racial conflict here. 🤦♂
@@espadac4746 what are you on about? Malay weddings only take less than a day and the noise usually last for awhile. Not trying to stir conflict but trying to reveal a truth that people are hypocrite and will make a small into a big issue.
There’s no need to generalize & stereotype millions of Chinese to having the same thought. Totally uncalled for with casual racism on your part. You jolly well know there’re plenty of racists of your own as well too, including you it seems
Honestly it’s not about race but religion. Chinese & Indian marriages are pretty common becus their religions are similar/the same (Buddhism/Hinduism). Whereas you hardly see Muslims inter marriage with the Chinese or Indians because Islam is more strict in a sense. In fact, it’s the malay families objecting inter marriages most of the time. A non-Muslim man marrying to a Muslim family have to circumcise, I personally think that’s a huge sacrifice alrdy, esp since they’ve to do it at such an old age. And they all have to convert to Islam most definitely. Very huge changes & tons of one sided sacrifices. Race honestly don’t matter. And for the guy with the Vietnamese wife, you honestly can’t blame those who were worried becus there’re a ton of cases where sg men have been scammed by viet/Thai women. It’s too common. Although I don’t doubt there’re true love & nice ladies out there but always be cautious
I used to wonder why the interracial marriages for Chinese men and Chinese women are roughly the same in terms of numbers, and yet most Sg media often shows interracial marriages involving Chinese women. 🤔 Then I checked their Instagram's followers list and noticed majority of them are Chinese women, then I'm like "ahh I get it now🙄". 🤣
It is good to see that Chinese women open up their mind to and get married with someone outside her own race. In the US there are millions of White women married to Black, Hispanic and Asian men.
@@Prometheus574 But it's not good that they haven't open their mind to accept Chinese men dating foreigners. I don't care about US, over there millions of women of all ethnicity are married to men of any ethnicity , just like how interracial marriages between Chinese men and non-Chinese women are on the rise too!
pls don't get angry if I tel u a real story happen to me,I was a assistant manager at Timsum restaurant to a Chinese shared bosses Restaurant BUT nearly 60 to % of customers insisting that I am the Owner of the restaurant(I myself is chinese too ) Even the Grap Driver that pick me n drop me daily insisting that I am the owner of the restaurant. Even when I was living overseas when I was sitting at the bar waiting for the dining table to be available,twice... people walk in to look for job n they walk straight to me n ask for job... even in other shops when I become friends with the sales lady n chatting with them,people walk in n look me in the face n ask for a job.... its the perception of the general, they don't mean to insult .... n I do have a children education toy shop of my one at one stage n I am having my own healing work that I work by myself.
Singapore n Malaysia so modern at the same time backward 🤦♀️ But this shows discrimination and racism happen everyday all over the world. I'm from Indonesia.. luckily City where I am from.. we don't find it strange at all about interacial marriage.
Married my wife in 1969 and still together. She is Chinese and I am of European decent. We have lived in many countries and experienced problems only in USA.
First chinese indian couple Mahendran and Deanna . Why they did not do both ceremonies like other couple at 11:00. Frankly that is so common for indian inter regional marriages. Infact in indian marriage discussion especially for inter regional marriage, all this is taken care so that no family feel their customs is disrespected during marriage. Deanna said both of them felt their own culture superior. Why are fell in love with someone whose culture you consider inferior. If you feel this way, you are not ready to be married. The problems will recur after marriage as well. See example Priyanka Chopra and nick Jones marriage. They had all customs from both sides. Frankly in indian marriages, bride and groom is expected to just take care of their wedding dress and inviting their close friends. Rest of responsibility is families. Bride and groom are treated as chief guest for the ceremony that why each of them has special entrance ceremony while entering wedding venue. Mostly we don't know what was happening in background because wedding is considered parents last important ceremony for their child. So bride and groom donot fight on wedding disputes and mature parent head can solve any disagreement peacefully. I agree like every thing , it do not work properly all the time especially if parents are themselves stubborn.but mostly it works .
Interesting insight. I am an Indian, married a Chinese and my in laws insisted on separate wedding dinners although both sides were Catholic and there were no actual cultural differences. It was a sore point for my husband and I as it represented yet another rejection of my culture per se as my MIL was extremely hard on me during our dating years. She would avoid looking me in the eye when I come over, sit in front of the TV during dinner instead of joining my husband and I at the table. Also spew out things like "What would people think of us if you date an Indian?" and discourage my husband from dating me. So, it was 10 years of courtship and it was extremely painful for us. We finally thought at the wedding, we at least get to showcase both sides of the culture and after the church ceremony, both families are considered one anyway. This is why it was disheartening for us when my in laws insisted on separate ceremonies. It felt like her rejecting me and my culture once again. Having said that, I appreciate your thoughts about it being one last ceremony they get to do for their kids. Her holding on to her Chinese culture by not allowing Indians in (she was fine with my BIL dating a white girl) could have been a manifestation of her holding on to her eldest son.
@@tashaculus4582 as I said , although I have seen this working easily in my extended family. It depends on maturity of parents which we assume. But I have seen challenges which my cousins faced as well and how they came out triumphant. I can understand pain which you and your husband would have faced. Especially if there is no cultural differences. Did your husband ever asked reason for separate dinners? It might be something silly. We men are usually useless in asking emotional reasons especially with our parents and look for logical ones. As in they donot wanting you to marry her son, it stems from fear of unknown and family/society Circle . they forget to think of your feelings in process. They may not have seen a inter ethic marriage with a indian or heard of horror stories of same. I would hope that is only reason otherwise sister , alternative is very bad. I hope after marriage,they have accepted you and you have made your place in family.
an asian marrying another asian from different region of Asia isn't technically interracial, asian + caucasian or black or hispanic, etc. is more like it.
While they are all asian, the difference between a south Asian (indian) and east Asian (Chinese) or even SEA are as huge as they are with Caucasian. Remember asian is only referring to their continent and Asia is huge and widely diversed
@@sentryion3106 Agreed. Chinese and Indian are two different race. That's why your Singapore Pink IC got stated your Race as Chinese, Malay, Indian or Others. They cannot put your Race on IC as Asian. People will get confused. Especially when trying to find a criminal, it will be harder for the Police to crack their cases.
I once used to hv multiracial relationship with Chinese, laos, Tai, and Malay. But all relationships were over. Now, I enjoy solitude just as I came alone to this strange world. I wanna reborn again😭
Azri being confused as a worker and Hema being bullied at school and many other anecdotes don't really have any corresponding relevance to the topic on hand of inter-marriages. I am sure people in non-interracial marriages also face similar racist and bigoted attitudes. It would appear that generally people in Singapore are very accepting of interracial marriages judging from the success these interracial couples are having in their chosen careers and businesses. And to the bigots who may have a problem with inter-marriages I challenge them to make better looking babies then mix-children.😝
I don't think it's necessarily racist. Just an honest bad judgement. I mean if you see a skinny south asian sweeping the floor on the corridor you would assume he's the cleaner right? But maybe he's just swipping his own corridor outside his own home. I look like a malay and when i enter a chinese restaurant, there was once they thought I'm the delivery rider. Can't fault them for that when food delivery riders have more malays compared to their population percentage in sg
There is no such thing as an inter racial marriage! WE ARE ALL ONE RACE! ONE RACE! ONLY ONE RACE! THE HUMAN RACE! There are INTER CULTURAL marriages but no inter racial anything. Words Matter!
@@Ccb88888 Should you bother to read my initial comment, you may take the time to notice I never said there was no differences in ethnicities, nor did I say there was no diverse characteristics between cultures and ethnicities. What I said was, that there is only one race, the race of mankind, some one of a different ethnicity, culture, colour, language, health factors doesn't make them a different species. We are one race/species, diverse in aspects. There are no inter racial marriages, there are inter ethnic and inter cultural marriages. I am bi ethnic, I know about differences. There are profound differences between men, and women as well. In fact there are the exact same differences between male and female in all ethnicities. they are both human beings one race. In the same way there can be conflict between a man and a woman in a marriage, there can be conflict in a bi ethnic relationship, that doesn't make one a different race than another. Maybe if we dropped the concept of different races, and understand that ethnicity and culture don't make you racially different, mankind might have a better balance in this journey we call life. Acts 17:26 "And He has made from one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth,"
@@greyciousme We are broadly the same species (homo sapiens), but there are varying admixtures of other hominid species in the DNA of the different ethnicities (homo erectus, Neanderthal, Denisovan etc.). So we are therefore not 100% the same species across the world....We used to think were were all 100% homo sapiens, but sequencing of the human genome (and other hominid species genomes) is revealing more and more that we are not the same. If you don't believe me read the latest scientific research. By the way, I am bi-racial as well....
Mix races is the answer to eradicate racism in long term. Where more people are educated and become liberal to accept progression and cultural changes.
