I’m an INTP whom is married to an INTJ for over 20 years, and found that enjoy my husband’s rational approach and strategic planning, but will often find him too controlling and restrictive.
@@PsychologyRefresh Good question. It has been quite the challenge, especially during the early years of marriage, but greatly learned to stand by my ground and not allow myself to not be controlled, or pushed around and be a door mat. Remind you that he was also an unhealthy INTJ that had to deal with depression, anxiety and the narcism that he used as a coping mechanism
As an Intj Firstly, I dont care about them being introverted or extroverted ( I or E) Then, I would strongly prefer my partner to be N as well. I am also more drawn to the feel type (F) since it balances out, but T would be alright too. And lastly, they could be either J or P, but I think J would fit in more and less arguments lol So to sum it up the ideal ones would be INFJ/ ENFJ /INFP/ENFP/INFJ/ INTP / ENTP/
Well as an INTJ(male) i just love how an ENFP(female) is just so creative, energetic, supportive to my plans for the future and also so emotional and also wants to think for the future. If i find an ENFP i would definitely marry her 😂
I'm an ISFJ and my partner is an INTJ. We bond over the natural level of comfort as you have mentioned. I find we balance each other out well because we allow ourselves to see and experience the best of both worlds.
As an ENFP I can confirm I definitely appreciate the intellectual anchoring effect INTJs provide. I have toooo many ideas and not enough follow through, so my INTJ friends help a lot with all my weak areas. I also typically learn a lot from them 🥰 just gotta get them alone to nudge them out of their shell a little
im an intj who figured out the best way to plan a holiday is to not plan it, logically over planning your life has down sides, stressing out needing to be at a certain place at a certain time, not allowing for variables to occur..
INTJ Girl in the room! I've always liked INFP and INFJ! It's the introvert things that I like sharing common ground with. I'm often mistaken for ENTJ since my social skills are above average for a stereotypical introvert. But INFPs and INFJs for me are the best for me in my life.
This!! I've seen so many people say E or I doesn't matter, but I feel like it describes what we can actually do together for fun. Someone extremely extroverted might butt heads with me, since I'm (INTJ) not gonna be very happy in crowds for a very long time, or at all.
@@PsychologyRefresh Considering how we finish each other's sentences, I would say so. The animals that live with us would prefer that we didn't get along so well, because they're usually the target of song parodies that we make up together on the fly.
@@PsychologyRefresh Earlier in our relationship we would sometimes argue about feelings that we didn't trust expressing to each other, but we soon realized open and honest communication was the only way to resolve our issues when they arose and that bottling those feelings only led to blow-ups.
Intj female here, idk why but I am very attracted to enfps in every way. I found out all my close friends and crushes, even people and personas I like online happen to be enfp, not that I look for enfps first and then become their friends. I am just attracted to them like a magnet. Every person I like with an intense fondness I cannot explain turn out to be enfps.
@Night Owl leave the INTJ males for us ENFP gals pls thanks and we'll net and cage the ENFP Males for you INTJ gals until you arrive! Then he will be released. ENFP male all yours for life!
I've had INTP boyfriends but it never lasts...it always ends up being them being late for stuff that's important and can we talk about sloppy?? Ugh...just because I enjoy a clean living environment doesn't mean I enjoy cleaning...I merely enjoy the end result of it....I felt like I was shoveling snow in a blizzard while he sat playing video games. No bueno. I was not his maid or mother.
As INTJ, I am very attracted to such types as ESTP, ENFP, ENTP. I admire their irrationality and similar thinking to mine! Plus I like extroverts as romantic partner more, since I am a more emotionally open INTJ than the average one. Introverted types (mostly ISTJ and INTP) I find quite comfortable as friends or mentors. And types as ISTP or INTJ like me would irritate me 😅
I am an INTJ woman and I think the best match will always be similar types. I think a T type will never really fit an F type. With E and I you can argue about it because it depends on how big it is and how far the understanding for the other is. With the other things it is similar to E and I. But T and F is quite difficult to bring together, thinkers tend to use impersonal criteria based on logic, while feelers take into account taste and feelings in their decisions. To bring these two things together for a long time would be quite difficult. Also the arguing of both parties is completely different, F types take things too much to heart and choose their arguments not based on logical aspects but on how they feel in that situation, this illogic will be hard to understand for T types. I have already read more about the MBTIs, also a lot about the others, and purely based on the typical character descriptions I can say that the F-types appeal to me less than the T-types. Especially with the typical ESFJ and INFP I would probably have bigger problems. But I think also with the ENFP, where it is often said that it fits between ENFP and INTJ, I would have my problems. The only F-type I would personally still consider for INTJ would actually be INFJ, and even there it's questionable how it works.
As an INTJ most of my friends that I make are mostly INFPs ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ and I always seem to like being around most INFPs for no reason. (But I tend to like IXFJ bc 🥺) I don’t really have real life friends just mostly online friends one of them is an ISFP which I have a hard time having a nice relationship with maybe the fact was that I became friends with them as like bc of a troll we came across online. My mother is also an ISFP and it extremely hard to bond with her too so maybe I just really can’t hang out that well with XSFPs. I do know some INTPs but I tend to prefer being friends with INFPs I guess it just fun to talk to them.
ESFJs are the polar opposites for INTJs so that would be the worst pairing possible, but INFPs are a lot similar to INTJs than you think, not surprised you'd think they're very different based on pure character descriptions, the character description is bullshit for most of us. It seems to be describing xSFJs and high Fe in general which some INFPs might fill the bill but most of us actually don't, we're more like emotionally inclined INTPs than anything. I could not relate to any of it and thought myself to be an INTP for so long because of such misinformation, just want to clarify that. Otherwise yeah I understand you have a personal preference for T types as F types do tend to do all of those things. Personally, I prefer mostly T types [IxTJs] to bring a good balance of logic and emotions, but I also like some other F types [ENFx].
You sound like my INTJ sister. She married an ISTP. 🙂 I (an ISTJ) actually prefer feelers for the emotional balance they bring. I see the value in being with someone who balances all your weaknesses, insuring blind spots are covered as you walk through life together. Perhaps that's why I was instinctively drawn to my husband, an ENFP.
i must disagree with you, im intj that unmatch with most people, they are all normal people with normal life and thinking. perhaps my standard too high that i feel them boring
INTJ-A married to an ambitious, charismatic and father figure ESFJ - I admire his inner handsomeness, loving efforts and patience and ability to actually make me laugh at times despite being an overall serious type
I'm INFP and my INTJ girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago after 4 years of relationship. It's difficult to move on 😅 I have this feeling that I'll never meet someone like her..
@@DionLYA INTJs are not like that.They may seem like that from outside . You just need to be patient, close enough and win their trust. An INTJ can give you the best care.
I have an intj sister as an esfp we usually fight but we can get along really well she doesnt want to talk most of the time she says im too dumb for her and that i tire her capacity to understand and process what im saying 😭
I'm INTJ female, has 2 female buddy, INTJ and INFJ. And they're the best 😆 ~ my INFJ buddy, we share the same interest. She's a good listener, but bc she is very concerned with feelings, this is where our problem is lol. When I wanted to do something crazy, she would "no, don't do that!" Or we separate activities because she feels bad with other people (that i certainly don't give a fck lol) I often feel I dominate our friendship too much, because I'm always the one to talk but when i ask her to tell me something... Yeah she's rlly suck there 🤣 And as INFJ, she never told her problems and kept them to herself, but once I know she feel depressed... Omg she's much darker than me 😅
As for my INTJ Buddy, she's my online friend, damn ... We both thought we're separated twin 🤣 same evil thoughts, same problems, same opinion, same humor. I always seek her for discussion, and we can discuss anything! But I'm sure when we meet, face to face, it'll be awkward lol but definitely She's the best 🤣 And I'd love to meet ENFPs, I wonder if they're really that attractive to us INTJs lol
I am INTJ dated every MBTI. (I or E) and (P or J) doesn't really matter. "S" are draining to me. My highest compatibility is "F" because they add something I desperately need. My recommendation would be "NF" is the highest chance of compatibility.
I'm INTJ and most of my friends are ENFP and ENFJ. I personally like INTP,ISTJ, ENTJ and ENTP because we can understand each other very well. I know few of them, on the other hand I can easily make friends with INFJs for some reason 😅
Really, you think an ISTJ is a good match? It is hell on earth. I could see this working in a professional capacity, but not at home. Aside from the fact that S types can become extremely dense when N types are trying to explain things, and the fact that the emotional support is pretty much non-existent (INTJs can at least intuit emotional cues and empathy even if we're not sure what to due with the information we're given, the ISTJs I've known have always insisted my emotional displays were only a pathetic attempt to gain attention -- they never were. I would be in pain, and had to rely on the dog to lick up my tears because the ISTJs in my life weren't going to bother with me) . But there's just the simple fact that when things go bad and we're stressed, our reactions are in direct opposition. The ISTJ starts cleaning and straightening everything in sight, while a depressed INTJ ceases to care about keeping themselves or their space neat and organized. So if we're in a bad place together, us at our worst will get under each other's skin in the worst way, just dragging each other down into a worse pit of misery and despair. The ISTJ will attempt to control the INTJ to get them to clean, while the INTJ will refuse and rebel and possibly create a worse mess to make the point that no one is the boss of them but them. Which the ISTJ will hate, and around and around the sucking whirlpool of misery goes. Not likely to have that problem in a work environment, so they might make good coworkers other than possible communication troubles, but life at home is bad.
If you are analysing it would be like hell in a romantic perspective, I don't know, but my mom is an ISTJ and I'm a INTJ and we are literally pitched perfect, we keep the house and family in order, succeed in projects, we are so in sync, the major problem is communication, as you said, most of it by my intuitive function interaction (or the lack of it) with her own way of communication, in moments of crisis even with opposites reactions we get out of it and are capable of helping the other in a very natural way, even sometimes needing to surpass our comfort zone, if you ever get the chance to interact non professionally with one in a casual way, by experience it is a really interesting compatibility
@@marianaalmeida8363 Been there, done that, and it is not. It was controlling and abusive. And I'm not generalizing from just one bad experience. I'm on three that I'm sure of. Though I'm glad for you that your own homelife was/is happy.
Let's really break it down. INTJ + ENFP works as well as it does because the dominant functions fill the gaps the other leaves behind. Ne can churn out tons upon tons of abstract data, but can't chisel it down well. Ni can refine abstract data, but can't produce it. Case in point, I can't come up with random stuff on the spot. It takes me several seconds, and it ends up being junk, because my mind seems to be untrained in the art of abstract output. Polar opposite perception functions don't fill in each other's cracks. Si doesn't refine Ne data, nor does Ni refine Se data. By contrast, Fe and Te are more similar to each other than they are to their respective introverted functions. The goal here is balance, however. This is not the collection and sortation of data, this is the issuance of judgements. Te, external rational judgement, needs to be anchored by Fi, internal value judgement. At the same time, these judgement functions should be near to one another on each partner's function stack such that they _can_ be anchored by the other. Te needs to not be so far ahead of Fi that Fi can still be heard clearly. The INTJ can still hear the feelings and values of the ENFP (and ENFP can remind INTJ of the INTJ's own feelings and values), and the ENFP can still be reminded and rooted in Te reasons. It's all about complementarian synergy.
I am an INFP and INTJ’s are my favorite type. Personally I think our two types are super compatible. A lot of people think that INFP’s are overly sensitive and super emotional, but I can confirm that that is just not the case. I will never cry in front of someone and I will not take things personally instead I will give them the benefit of the doubt. I have never met another INFP but at least for me I think this stereotype is very inaccurate. I think that INFP’s see the world through their values and emotions and that they can be sensitive but they will never tell you because it is a sign of vulnerability. INTJs are the most attractive to me because I am fascinated by the uniques and complexity of their type. My favorite part about them is how they are logical and thinking but they are still very creative and theoretical. Anyways, I just think that our two types would be very compatible and that it is super underrated.
Well it is pretty amazing you speak about compatibilities, exept you didn't conclude anything. I might type you as INFP/INFJ, you didn't offer any results.
@@PsychologyRefresh I'm getting to know one.. lol our bday is 6 days apart so it's interesting. .. you're married to one.. I'd like to hear your take on that
I’m intj and the worst types for me are esfp/enfp/esfj. They are way too bubbly, talkative, sensitive and outgoing for me. Their convos are soo shallow and dvmb. Nothing in common. I prefer someone who’s my type or istj.
@@PsychologyRefresh met tons of them in my area, don't really like them because they always seems a bit out of control and noisy though it's not bad to be a chatterbox. Plus, Idk why but they enjoy to gossip behind everyone, which I find boring as well(typical INTJ thought).
@@JAJAJAC_ There many reasons we both don't know. However I explained this behavior according to the need for beeing in a group/in the society. Kind of seeking acceptance. I am an ENTJ, by the way. P.s.: These people also like to talk a lot about themselves. Kind of a short-thinking, or? You have information about them..
@@ahistoryofviolence4902 honestly, I think this is a social behavior that if you want to befriend with ENFP, as they’re leader type personality, so ones who don’t enjoy gossip or shit talk, Nono into the ENFP world. I guess ENFPer don’t consider silent as cool but freak.
This video is reasonable to some extent, but seems to unintentionally assumes that romantic relationship is isolated from other close bonds - I think that happens to all compatibility theories. Those theories work most when assuming the INTJ's (or anyother type) ONLY close bond is their romantic partner and, their romantic partner is the only person whom they can rely on and learn from, which in reality, mostly untrue. No matter how introverted you are, it's inevitable for you to "get socialised", simply because we need to survive, NTJs are even focusing on thrive. In this case, we all are doomed to have our personalised hard lessons, and a lot of times, they are far beyond related to a romantic partner. A simple example: An INTJ may be shunned by others and fail to one goal/ opportunity that they originally deem to be 100% victorious, due to their low social ability. Then, even without a NF partner, the said INTJ may still have other people to cultivate their emotional intelligence, or the hard loss itself would be pretty much enough for them to reflect and penetrate the reason why they lost and what they should improve (Ni dominate). Like I said, other bonds, like mentors, family members and close friends, are the external resources that can stimulate us to grow, to develope our weakness. They aren't necessarily to be our partner. Humans are dynamic and, really complicated. Also, there are too many factors other than personality type to determine whether a couple could work. The compatibility theory can only explain things AFTER a couple works out/doesn't work out in a personality-wise perspective instead of determining our romantic choices. For example, if an INTJ-INTJ couple really works (I've known they existed), then the theory would explain "they belongs to the same planet"; if not, then, the theory would be like "identical couple lacks chemistry and compensation!".You'll find both theories make sense, because the MBTI is just a tool providing us a lens to understand people. It's just a lens, an angle. Personally, my INFJ best friend already has done a brilliant job to help me grow emotionally while my ENTP close friend often stimulates me with her Ne-Ti. Yet in romantic relationship, I want someone who's very similar to me. The one who's from the same planet and we develop together through our "speak in the same language", as well as our very personalised experience from other aspects of life. A healthy couple are connected, yet they also never stop their individual journey.
I've heard alot about compatibility. Long term compatibility for XXXJ, will always be XXXJ's. We cannot stand the rudeness of XXXP's , so you'd really have to explain to me how the lack of innate respect for polite company and a polite deportment, is meant to grow a truly close and long lasting connection to XXXJ. *EDIT* I mistyped. I'm INTJ 😱😇
There is no such thing as "most unique". First of all, what does unique mean? It's definition is "there is only one". Therefore a thing can only be unique or not unique. There is no most or least or even more or less unique. Furthermore, every type is unique. IF you want your video to appeal to INTJs it would behoove you to employ language properly.
INTJ + INTJ = awkward disaster. You want functions to line up with their opposite extraverted/introverted version in their ego (top 4 functions) to fulfil each others needs. The only thing you'd gain from a person who shares the same functions in your own ego is to learn painful stuff about yourself. You would not want to spend your whole life with yourself, so keep such people at a shoulder length at best. To determine a type by dichotomy like P VS J, I vs E... Is flawed and extremely wrong and harmful. You have to look at interaction styles + temperaments to figure out your own type. The MBTI test is too weak to bias and is also dichotomy based. Though, I can agree with much from other vids, the ones about compatibility and cognitive functions are not near being above 50% accurate. For example: 4th function is about insecurity, as in Se 4th function you fear people not being loyal to you at the very surface, therefore they are afraid of giving someone a bad experience. The thing about experiences is somewhat tied to Se, but is in reality directly tied to Si being the bottom priority across all 8, which is the most toxic role. INTJs are extremely toxic with their own experiences and past memory; a tendency to only remember bad things about a person, especially if they confirm the fear of betrayal. INTJs go as far as perceiving betrayal in cases when it's not true at all and shutting a person out of their lives as a result. More on compatibility: introverted functions are internal and extraverted functions are external as in that they need someone who has that function internally. Te prone to becoming stupid if the people around them are stupid better explained by lacking logic, which is Ti. The gold pair of an INTJ is the ENTP and worst match is an INTJ. We fit together like puzzle pieces when it comes to cognitive functions in terms of close relationships. INTPs and ISTPs are good sources of logic (Ti), therefore someone with Te in their ego would benefit a lot from being around one of those to improve their own intelligence and strengthen their beliefs and morals.
No se si alguien vaya respondes mensaje pero soy un intj que busca una pareja inteligente curiosa buena pero más que nada inteligente porque tiendo a manipular la gente y me sale natural pero pienso que con una inteligente no pasaría eso porque se daría cuenta, curiosa también porque si es curiosa seguro conose muchas cosas y no me aburro pues es muy fácil que me aburra alguien que no sabe nada o poco y buena porque no quiero andar lidiando con tonterías la verdad estoy bien estoy mal hay algo que se me está escapando
@@PsychologyRefresh SFJs are too illogical. They are the opposite of rationality ad can be easily manipulated by virtually anyone who manages to give a good first impession. Also, it's essentially child abuse to breed with an SFJ and have kids.
