Introvert girls flirting be like... 

Frank what is your meyers brigg type?

@@savvyvibes search it up

@@savvyvibes He’s an INFJ….same as my son, easy to remember.

me, a socially anxious introvert: why is the first one so relatable??

I really enjoy your process. From your early videos to this is a true witness of your growth into being your true self.

I'm so happy that you have this and I want that for myself!

@@saamahlouis-jean5413 It’ll happen for you. Maybe not in the way you expect it, but when you meet someone that makes you feel like anxiety just doesn’t exist anymore, that’s the person for you.

@@CaptivePuppet Thanks! I will definitely keep that in mind, especially because I'm anxious around everyone lol.

Wow congrats!

Do you realize that without your friend that forcedly put you two together, never of this would be ever happened?

This got me smiling as well 😃

I need this on a t-shirt!

@@julieb7044 "distance enthusiast" with barb electrical wire around it

🤣

I don't have a therapist but boy that "fear of intimacy" Just hit a bit too hard

lmaoo

Sheesh

LOL I'm an INTP too, and it definitely described me.

I have found some fellow INTP tribespeople

@@bequanis Welcome to the club!

Us bro

....r u my Twin... Cause....it's hard

Dude tell me about it…. 😳

I thought I was the only one 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 this burns

Same girl

😂🙌

I think we all agree! 😅

And it's been 10 years waiting for him to make move

Of course! You'd be surprised to find out, how many people with a proper sence of self-worth (called on the vulgar slang "too hight expectations"), have managed to find really good soulmates. BUT! They tried, - and tried a lot. It's like with everything in life, - one must invest a lot of effort in order to get the desirable result.

The good news: There is a guy who meets our high expectations. The bad news: He's fictional.

No

Yea and then you find him and he’s perfect and everything you want and he’s 20 years older than you… or gay

Bro I was looking for this comment!

Yes, exactly!

You're right. Also, your name is spelled correctly.

@@automnejoy5308 One time, someone spelled my name with 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘦𝘦 L's. An adult, too.

@@alison7989 I hear you. Even worse when someone puts a Y in there. My college English teacher actually spelled my name "Alsion" once. That was a new one.

@@automnejoy5308 My dad spells my name like "Ally."

I laugh at their jokes

yeah it's easier to be myself or act like a normal human being around people i feel safe around, but that usually means i don't have a crush on them because if i did i'd be quiet and nervous!

I am like that and i am not even a introvert but i am quite on the edge

Exactly this

I used to be like that UNTIL that one ENFJ appeared. I'm still awkward though.

To be fair one time I was reading at the beach and a guy was reading exactly the same book, and he looked my way, I looked his way, we both laughed about the books and had a great conversation. He was definitely interested, but I can't remember why we never ended up dating.

@@agnes8679 F whyyyyy!?

Nah hon you gotta walk quickly around a corner outside looking at your phone with a lidless coffee in a New England town just before the holidays and the right guy will just crash into you and spill your coffee. Make sure it's just lukewarm. It's a prop, after all.

But would it not be rude to interrupt someone reading? And therefore wouldn't the presence of the book actively discourages anyone polite from approaching?

I'd always be worried about interrupting you from reading.🥺😅 I always imagine you'd look up from your book and either be like, "*sigh* What?" or say, "Can I help you?" in that uninterested tone of voice that's subconsciously saying, "Get away from me." I'd die inside of embarrassment and just say, "...It's okay," and quickly try to leave. I'm an INFP btw.😅

Yea man. And it’s not rly a bad thing it’s actually good to take initiative.small talks aren’t rly all that bad either, you never know who could be into the stuff you are

My thing is I don't like small talk or even know how to talk small so I always ask Google but the examples are so..weird. plus I have social anxiety sooo 😭

I can do small talk, but what happens is that I don't feel secure enough to get deep with others and they don't really push for deep conversations either😅

@@fduncan8788 Same.

Small talk progresses really quickly into smg interesting. You can measure someone 's depth easily.

Shut the front door!🤣😂💀💀

@@Lost_Cohort.13 touché

That one got me😂

btw i was your 1k like 😌

@@gurleeeen5328 Sweet!

But don't be too nice !!

*gasp* You hussy!!!!

For me, I try to be funny, but then I am only funny when I am not trying... so.

@@farrex0 pain

@@farrex0same here

TBH I'm an introverted girl and I will find it kind of uncomfortable if a guy suddenly starts talking with me. But if I feel safe around them then I'll open up but they need to be patient and good listeners :)

yeah that! I think people want me to be making the first move and go strike up a conversation since I'm a dude (be it to start a friendship or a relationships), but like I'm also aware that people just want to go on with their days without being disturbed, everyone has things to do and places to be, girls too, so I don't *ever* talk to no one unless I want to ask something, the only (4) homies I have are dudes who came to talk to me first I'm dying single lmfao

The egg doesn't chase the sperm, so you are actually normal😉

Yeah when other girls encourage me to go up to guys and flirt with them I'm like, "What do you even mean by that??" Flirting is such a weird, awkward concept in my opinion.

Oh, kind and helpful internet soul. Your perfectly articulated analysis of your experience has opened my eyes to exactly why i find myself in this same situation. I thank you so much cos it all just clicks now. Please accept my warm wishes that you have a beautiful day 😁😁🙃🙂

Yeah, like I love talking to my crush but I'm always nervous and a tiny bit worried I'll mess it up. With some random friend it's not stressful at all because I literally don't care what they think of me that much. So, a lot of times I feel like I'm connecting way easier with the guys I'm not even attracted to at all. I should probably just loosen up and be myself around everyone... (easier said than done for THIS introvert.)

@@charmi3845 You are very kind, I wish you a gorgeous day too and hope you find a solution to your situation.

Being a good listener attracts guys who just want to talk about themselves all the time. ;)

This is exactly my experience, as well. Idk how to get around that either, because it would be out of character for me to not be that way… I just like listening to people lol

Same!🤣

Oh gosh, yes. Alexa have the conversation mode, it’s terrible and a work in progress. Also seems okay though. Haha

Same 🙋🏼‍♀️

I had a brief on-off relationship with Alexa before I got too paranoid that she was listening to me all the time, and decided to break up with her for some alone time - also an INTJ

I love this ❤️

INFP goals!!! 😍💖💖💖

And if I woudnt want to let the girl read in peace and not disturb her...

Just sit next to her with the same book, make eye contact, and pray for a conversation to start. 🤣 No, but best wishes!

@@didjaseemyjams1582 This is how me and my best friend met at uni. She sat next to me and we just sat next to each other in silence for a few weeks before she finally said something haha. Been friends for 13 years XD

I'm beginning to think we're all doomed.

@@dacksonflux us introverts and our chances at finding love or even friends? Well apparently not, the proof is right above your comment. Friends are way easier to find tbf

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😂 😂 😂

Me too, it sucks. The only time I have ever been brave is when intoxicated.

@@jerrenew.1557 Yeeah same, and that's when one makes even more of an ass of oneself 🙈

You described me perfectly. I'm 53 and I still haven't changed.

@@TheSouthIsHot I'm 39 and it doesn't look like I'll be changing either

My first BF literally asked "We've been dating for a year. Why are you still unable to look at me in the eyes properly" Hey, I can see you or keep my heart beating normally. Can't do both at the same time 🤷🏻‍♀️

And scenarios in my head

Same here

Yeah, this and cause they rarely will cheat on you

@@samanthasouza8213 faxs unless you make them lol

As a boy, I can also confirm imaginary love stories do be really nice

A lengthy, expositionary essay on your favorite subject. If he keeps responding, he gets a second date.

I mean you can always respond "Hey", no? The first "hey" is just to see if a person actually wants to engage in conversation.

Next time I'll start by sending a ppt presentaion on why I am a worthy suiter, that'll get them to respond most definitely...

It’s because countless girls didn’t answer when they actually put effort into an opening line on these social media platforms, so they’re left with messaging a lot of girls ‘hey’ one after another to spare time and see who is even willing to engage in a conversation

I KNOW RIGHT- like pls at least say how are you or something to get a convo going ahh

WAIT HOW WAS THIS COMMENTED A DAY AGO?

Wait what the hell. How was this comment a day ago?

@@O00O0O_ maybe patreon or something

@Detective Tringle dude😐

@Detective Tringle 😏

Me 😅🙌

This is my philosophy on introvert socializing!! XD Surely someone will notice the character on my shirt, bag, etc. and want to come talk to me about it...

So do I!

If I recognize it, I try to do it! But it just doesn't happen in an environment where socializing is super common too often

Hahahahahaha! I didn't have this in mind, but this is what happened. I was wearing this shirt that was available for purchase when preordering a game. This guy(very handsome) says to me, "hey, I have that shirt!" All I could do with that, was reply, "cool", then stand there for a couple of awkward seconds before walking away.

Same

Oh, yes! I do this all the time!

Right? Don't wanna waste my time and energy 😂

Lol, what makes this funnier is that I imagine them looking up to see a very clear sky.

@@fishnewt1331 that is usually how it plays out.

Oh man, I live to be on the other side of that situation. I'd think of something insane that the weather would be doing, like an interpretive dance depicting a dog playing polo on the back of a cricket. Something to hopefully break the ice and, maybe just maybe, the other person would join in and think of weird, impossible things the weather could be doing.

I'm wheezing. Lol! 😅

Ah you too? Yeah, I'm sorry.

Hah. His loss. That's funny.

@Tabitha Peña Yes, but he was so scared when I said this. I mean, I tried to explain but I don’t think he understood.

Ya don't wanna date a guy that thinks Frankenstein is the monster anyways.

Sounds familiar 🤔

@@nottechytutorials YES!

Sameee

I haven't even graduated to direct eye contact yet. It's more like brief glances at the face area.

Everytime I make eye contact with someone I feel like a tomato with googly eyes

Same lol.

The person I'm attracted to has noticed me looking and CONSTANTLY looks at me to try and catch me looking it is very embarrassing

🙌😂

Yes! Thank you Frank!

That's a nice suggestion, doing it right now!

He should make a boy version as well so we have something to send to friends and relatives too if needed

I'm so glad to have missed THIS PART of being introverted...

My favorite part of flirting rehearsal is when I do find myself in a place to interact I forgot everything I’ve practiced and I just talk normally…

YES OMG

Shhh don't give away our secrets for free like that

Agreed. I don't flirt, I either ignore my feelings if I do develop feelings for someone (rarely happens) until it goes away or logically talk to myself to remove any feelings for them, as it's not logical/does not fit into my plans. Yes, I'm an INTJ. Strangely however, I do find I get guys/people randomly coming up and talking to me in public and tell me I'm 'nice'. 😂🤨

why state the obvious

idk some of us watched this RU-vidr dude grow up, from early videos to later ones

Woah that's bold of you XD

Omg for real. I’m like thanks for the compliments but what else do I say 😭

So true.

Bring out gentle sarcasm, “I worked really hard on that” type stuff. If they don’t get it, drop and move on

You're being very brave !

I've always wanted to do that. You're an inspiration!

god bless the friends who like doing matchmaking

My husband was the super premium upgrade from his roommate. 🤭

"My method, if I did have a crush on someone, was to avoid contact with that person at all costs because to engage was certain humiliation." OMG this is so me. If I actually am interested in someone, no eye contact must be had and I will (sometimes literally) run away ahaha.

😒🖕🏻

this must be an INTJ thing because I'd rather stay home and read the book, but there was this one bookshop where I used to just ponder the titles, staring at the spines as if they were artworks in a gallery

Smoke some weed and take a beer works all the time

@@themuzer1301 don’t encourage them to do drugs or drink because that will only make their situation worse

That's hilarious and adorable. I would have laughed if someone said that to me. I figured out that when it's the right person they will love your awkward silly jokes. instead of finding it weird they find it endearing.

@@bunny_0288: Not wrong. I would have felt the same way. It is only ever comes off weird or creepy if they aren’t feeling the same way. Or have a different sense of humor.

Yeah that would have also worked on me, of course my immediate foot in mouth response about cucumber being technically a fruit might have ruined it anyway.

@@bunny_0288 🤧

@@KarlJeager 🥺 but CUCUMBER IS NOT A FRUIT even though it is botanicaly🤧.

Me too! 😭😭😭😭 Thanks for putting a name to it ❤️

Amen to everything you've just said hahaha

Me three! I haven't sat down yet to officially read about narcissists to see if my father is actually one, but I suspect he is to at least a degree. From a lot of things I've read/videos I've watched about my own issues, it sounds like he is. I'm an INFP too. What a mess! 😊

Fellow INFP here, sorry to hear you all deal with this. Stay strong. 💙 There's a channel called Pysch2Go that is great at shedding light on this topic and other mental health things. I highly recommend it. 😄

Nope. I'm that incompetent all by myself, without any help from outside :)

Omgosh, if that happened to me, I'd die right there

yo i would’ve moved to mars if that happened to me

Happened to me with a girl and i asked her , "Do i have something sticked on my face?" , and then she never faced me again. Too bad :(

gosh i would faint right there

Omg. In middleschool had a crush on a guy at the bus stop and i was trying to take a picture for my bestie but the flash was on. I died on the spot.

Stop! You're attacking me! 🤣

@@emyf9197 🤣🤣

how did you meet?

@@Eirliss His sister introduced us. She and I were college friends and we were having a sleepover one night, and I started talking about how much I wanted to be married. And she said that she thought I would be good with her brother. So she invites him to come hang out with her and I to celebrate his birthday a little early. He had been having a really hard time, lately, so we took him shopping for some new clothes and got him a haircut and the 3 of us hung out all day, and it was really fun... And after that day I had the weirdest feeling. I had this deep knowing that he was my husband. It totally freaked me out, and I tried to ignore it or tell myself I was crazy lol. After that day, we had several weeks where we both secretly liked each other, but didn't know if the other liked us back. So we had weeks of awkward flirting as we tried to feel each other out 😂. Obviously we did like each other a lot, and he finally told me on a spontaneous camping trip I invited him to go on with a bunch of my friends over New Year's Eve. It was so sweet, and he was so cute and awkward about it. Ahhh it makes me smile just remembering it. We got married 8 months later and will celebrate our 12th anniversary next month! So that weird feeling I had when we met was totally right! 😂 I've never experienced anything like it since. I just knew.

@@bunny_0288 , wow, thank you for sharing the story! It's so cute :) I wish you and your husband all the best!

@@Eirliss Awww thank you! It was fun to remember back to those early days with my sweetie! 🥰

I am happy for you God is good ♥️ I hope these kind of good things happen to me too Aameen

Cause this is a very INFJ or INTJ (Ni dom) topic and well... we stay home a lot lol. That's why you weren't approached. - intj

That really hit the nail for me...