Introvert Tips for the Cheap RV Living RTR (or any Gathering of People)

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Introversion does NOT mean you don't like people or hide away alone in your house. The difference between being an Introvert and and Extrovert is all in how we re charge. Watch this video to learn more and for tips for Introverts to deal with high-stress gatherings and events
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@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

For those who don't understand the context of this video, a few facts: Introvert does not equal "Hermit" Introverts like people. Introverts can be around people, but need to be alone to recharge Yes I can be an introvert and make RU-vid videos -- -hence my boundary setting! Yes, I can be an introvert and go to an event or large gathering: I do like to learn, after all. And where else am I going to meet people? I can't meet people being alone in the woods 24/7/365 Yes introverts can be social - and enjoy it! AGAIN; THE ONLY DIFFERENCE IN AN INTROVERT AND EXTROVERT IS HOW WE RECHARGE OUR BATTERIES. We are not hermits or recluses or freaks who want to (or as you suggest - 'should' - avoid people, gatherings, shopping, social media, relationships, making videos, at all costs. Please educate yourself more and judge less. peace.

@deborahsibley820 6 лет назад

Hi Carolyn. I love your videos. Thank You especially for this one. Good work looking forward to getting to an RTR some time.

@eternitywithjesus777 6 лет назад

Amen, Sister!

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

I hope to meet you someday Deborah!

@kathyadam9932 6 лет назад

Thank you CAROLYN for explaining being an introvert. So many people don't get it

@deborahmcginnis8307 6 лет назад

A million thumbs up on this video. Appreciate you so much.

@ramahllama9804 6 лет назад

Introverts Unite! Separately

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

LMAO!

@anneirenej 6 лет назад

Ra'Mah Plays lol

@badb8485 6 лет назад

That's funny

@lifeinmotion1178 6 лет назад

I love that!!!

@carldemuth384 6 лет назад

Ra'Mah Plays amen

@lovelylouro 6 лет назад

I learn a lot from vids like these. My sister is an introvert, and me growing up an extreme extrovert, I never understood her. I thought she was sad or depressed. Lol. But now that we're grown adults, I married an extreme introvert (go figure) and now knowing one and loving one, it has allowed me to find my OWN perfect middle ground. Over 10 years or so I pulled further and further away from all of those friends, "acquaintances", by about 98%, and found my new self. I now enjoy just being with my family and engaging with the few "friendships" I've made with online people. But vids like these, listening to people more like my sister and hubby, I learn more about how I can respect their boundaries, and in my sister's case, understand she's not "sad", she's just being her. Great vid!

@LadyPenelope 6 лет назад

This is so nice to read. Being understood by extroverts is a rarity for me. I'll speak for myself in saying that being so introverted can be very depressing. I have spent my life looking in from the outside wishing I could be extroverted..so thank you.

@marieb8502 6 лет назад

I am in my early 60s and fully embrace being an introvert who loves people and will always have to get away from them sometimes. Looking back on my life, I could always find my true self in a book or with an animal and could be quite content with people around me as long as they didn't bother me too much. Of course, some found it rude. I did not and could not figure out what was so rude about it. I spoke to people and enjoyed their company for a little while and then found somewhere to sit and watch or read. This was not understood by extroverts. I thought something was wrong with me and wanted to change myself. Not anymore!

@marycollier8000 6 лет назад

Wow, Bob had quite an observation about you. Only a true friend would share that. As a retired therapist, your thoughts are spot on...thanks for sharing. ❤️

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

I just regurgitate what I've learned in many years of therapy.. My therapist is a genius!! LOL Thank you very much for your encouraging words!

@sandyparr8083 6 лет назад

Whew! What a relief. I have always thought of my introvert personality as being a negative trait. It makes so much sense why group settings take a lot out of me and I can't participate. You are so good at explaining things!

@a.swifty1081 6 лет назад

Thank you for putting words to this introvert thing, it is what I am. As a special ed. teacher, I'm able to do the people thing, yet I lose track of myself if I overextend; which leads to self-doubt, anxiety, etc. I will come back to this therapeutic vid. Shout out to your therapist too! Hope everyone is respectful at the RTR.

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

yes~!~ Self, doubt too! Glad you have found your way through this too and wish you all the best.. yes, my therapist rocks! :0

@belindamiller2206 6 лет назад

I live in a house and I totally understand! If I don't invite you, please don't come to my door!

@candysantillo3325 6 лет назад

Belinda Miller my adult children have keys If someone knocks I know it’s not them so never answer the door

@myozbubble 6 лет назад

I always text or call someone if I feel like visiting. Or, as with my neighbors, we call first and know that a no answer isn't an insult. It just isn't the right time for whatever the reason. When my husband and I went to Sturgis for the first time (he goes back yearly now, I just went the once), everyone was packing in rather close. However, I never have been around more courteous folks. Everyone was respectful, played nice and got along. Well, except maybe a drunk woman that talked too loud until 2 am, but...) Quite some characters and I love to take photos. I always asked first and I never have had such hams to photo!!! Strangers offering to help others to load or unload their cycle from their trailers, abundance of food being shared, etc. It was such a different experience than I expected and it was fun!

@mdelro726 6 лет назад

so totally me, as well. The doorbell rings and my stomach falls to the floor. My neighbors always tell me that I need to get out more. After 9 - 11 hours at work, the last thing I need is to go out and socialize with the neighbors.

@cathyray6030 6 лет назад

I was 55 years old before I could say "no" without feeling bad. Keep up the great work, you are awesome!!

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

Ok.... so I WILL get there, you're saying?!? thanks for the encouragement! *hugs

@cathyray6030 6 лет назад

Yes, you will!, No doubt about it!! I should say that I still have some trouble saying no to my grandkids 💕

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

Cathy, grandkids- well that is totally understandable. LOL

@cathyray6030 6 лет назад

Yes, I have 3 grandsons and finally my daughter had a baby girl May 14, on Mothers Day!! I have a lot of fun with all of them! The boys enjoy whooping me when we play video games! Anyway, I'm single after two divorces and am enjoying my independence. Like you, I lost myself with every relationship. My second ex husband is in prison. I was his victim. My kids and grandkids keep me going ❤

@Larry-herenow 6 лет назад

Cathy Ray.....never say no to your grandkids. Your job is to spoil them rotten, then send them home and let the parents deal with the aftermath. ( That's what I do anyway )

@DrivinandVibin 6 лет назад

Thanks for the tips! 🚐🇺🇸 As fellow RV RU-vidrs, we too are introverted folks and these gatherings can def intimidate & exhaust us!

@mmccance1 6 лет назад

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I really needed to hear this today. I am not an RVer (although I live in a mobile home in a RV/mobile home park) -- I've been "hiding" throughout most of this year, but am wanting to re-enter society again. Your advice is golden for me. It simply allows me to be me and be where I am and shows me how to take the first steps without going overboard. That was the best message for me. I'm going to watch it again and take notes this time. I've been watching you all through this year, too, and look forward to each one you post. Again -- Thank you! You're the best. You're a blessing.

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

I am so glad you found this helpful. Good luck and let me know how it goes!!

@grandmapatty1493 6 лет назад

I wish I could hang a "Do not disturb" sign. At 61 I had a 7,6, and 2 year old dumped on me. My last three years have been filled with counselors, therapists, psychiatrists, special schools, dentists, eye docs, pediatricians, hospitals, etc... I give up sleep at night just to have time to think. I'll have to die for "rest in peace."

@susanstoltz2555 6 лет назад

Oh my... I can relate Patty! I’m around the same age as you, divorced and loving having time to myself in my home. My daughter is 27 and on her own. I can’t imagine having the responsibility again of having to take care of kids. Been there, done that... now it’s time for me!

@lifeinmotion1178 6 лет назад

You are a good grandma.....

@loycemarch9603 6 лет назад

Grandma Patty I understand that. I have 2 seperaye families with 7 yrs between. Therefore 2 age groups of grands and greats. But when they come to me crying, want a hug or kiss...my heart knows this is right. Someday they will remember and give us credit. God keeps track.

@BeccaBullard8 6 лет назад

Thank you so much for this video...It helped me realize that I’m an introvert...people in my life have told me I must be depressed because I always stay to myself and I don’t like being around a lot of people. I never thought I was depressed but when I get around a large group of people (mainly my family) for several days afterward I’m so exhausted and end up sleeping quite a bit. It really drains me...so thank you for the tips on how to handle gatherings...by the way I think you’re cool!!! Hugs 🤗

@GlendaHayward 6 лет назад

You have helped me a lot to understand myself. Wow you hit the nail on the head. I live alone with my animals and get so anxious when I receive to many visitors or people staying over. I really get so uncomfortable.

@JJ-sv9kh 6 лет назад

Totally am an introvert here. After working 3 straight 13hr days in a hospital, being home alone and relaxing quietly is beautiful! Twenty years ago, no so much, but now YES! Enjoy your time out there with PHOENIX!!

@preachersdtr1 6 лет назад

Carolyn, I really appreciate you for taking the time to explain all this to the people watching, including me. I didn't realize, until I saw another video by you & Bob Wells, not long ago, that I too am an Introvert. My family & friends are used to hearing me say, "Excuse me, please. I need to go sit in my bed for a while." However, my daughter still is very annoyed that, instead of just answering the door when there is a knock, I alert whoever else is at home, by saying, "There's someone at the door, in case you're expecting someone." Then I go to my bedroom & close the door. When I live here alone (my favorite), I simply ignore the knocking, unless I'm expecting someone in particular; or, unless I have specifically invited someone to my home (a rarity). I loathe "drop-in's 'n' drive-by's." I've found that they rarely bode well for ME. I'm almost 78 years old, and there are some things I could use help with, but I don't hear any offers like that from the people who come to my door - just people who want to leverage that to THEIR financial advantage. So it's, "No, thank you." (Closes window or door) I've been burned too often. Yes, I have boundary issues, and the problem of "losing me" - definitely do - and I'm very very rarely lonely when alone. When I go out into my yard, there are so many little creatures, and trees and birds and plants, and the sky, I'm not really alone, at all. The only thing wrong, out there, is that I don't have the money for the 8 ft privacy fence that I so long for. If, when I bought my home, I had known then what I know now, that fence would have been my first expenditure. The second would have been the sign to nail to it, reading, "Visitors Seen By Appointment ONLY - NO EXCEPTIONS" !

@lucianchildress4035 6 лет назад

Very good explanation of things. Reminded me of all of the times I said yes to things when I really wanted to say no. Keep up the good work and videos. Really enjoy them.

@UncaDave 6 лет назад

Anyone that enjoys their time alone, like myself or as a semi-hermit type of which I have known a few, will gain much from your insight of this place (being an introvert) we find ourselves. The silence of my own noise and voice is the silence I am often most comfortable with. When I was 18 ( still hiking at 71!) I came up with a saying that I feel still holds true and I will give it to you as a New Year’s present. “Solitude blossoms the determined mind.” Having been in and out of the “quiet” place we find ourselves and having to work and make a living in that “coctail party” noisy life, we soon learn where we want to be. You have found it and how to keep yourself grounded venturing back and forth when it suits your life schedule. Good for you and as I have said before, thank you again for sharing. Being quiet and still is often the first step to turn off the noise. Having spent some time in Monastaries, I have found that the Monks there although they live in community have to have their time alone, in the woods, in the chapel, in their cell, where ever. Once we learn as you have so clearly described, the Monastary becomes wherever we are that brings us back to the core of who we are. I keep a cabin in the mountains and it’s no different that campsite you find, or that trail you’re on or just even that drive you make to the next “just you” spot. I guess this is why there is this neat niche for many of us to stay mentally healthy, traveling and doing the RV thing, either full time or as you can, by ourselves. Sorry for such a long comment but you hit the ball out of the park with this one. Happy days and blue skies and always a rub for Capone!

@skoolie_life3261 6 лет назад

Thank you Carolyn. I really needed to hear this today to be reminded that I am not alone in my introverted ways. After 2 hours or so in a group, even a small one, I am completely depleted of energy. I have had friends in the past who just didn't understand me, and would take offense when I turned down invitations often. It's always nice to hear from other introverts.

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

I believe awareness of self leads to awareness of others and can lead to kinder and better experiences for all. Congrats to you for understanding this and using it to be healthier!!

@anneirenej 6 лет назад

As an extrovert married to an introvert let me add set a time limit for events. I know my hubby generally has a 2 to 3 hour limit so you could camp away and just go to the events for the limit of your time. Then go back to your camp recharge and have more control over your need for alone time. This works great for us. I gget to socialize and so does he but he doesn’t have to get over stimulated. Happy hubby happy life. And happy me. And he can go home and i can stay longer if i want. It is all about respecting and supporting each other.

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

yes, as I was editing, I was wishing I'd said that. Great advice.. thank you!

@aikofujita2420 6 лет назад

Yes, you are a thoughtful extrovert! I've had to train my extrovert husband not to badger me into going to parties etc. Of course, I'll go because I love him, to a few important ones and he knows to not keep me there for hours or wear me out.

@Leglag724 6 лет назад

I am so like you. I am an introvert/ empath/ clairvoyant I easily get overwhelmed when in large groups. Sometimes I'll not only feel the emotions of another but will feel an instant drain and need to walk away. Going to the store without showering and getting dressed putting layers of lite between me and others will give me a headache. I enjoy being home and doing things at home with my very understanding wonderful hubby. Having people come over is a big thing for me since I do enjoy being in the kitchen and making food for family and friends, it just takes me a day or two to clean and prepare myself for others being in my space. I so enjoy seeing you live the life you are living and willing to share so much with others while still keeping your privacy. It's a fine line and you are doing it beautifully.

@revzef 6 лет назад

I so understand you, Carolyn, when you speak of thriving alone. I understand the need to be alone, and the pressure of not being alone, including changing to adjust to the lifestyles of others, and becoming "not you". You just have to get it. Thanks for talking about it. I love people. I'm a teacher. But I absolutely NEED time alone. Others don't get it, so I'm glad to see that you do. Thanks a million for sharing!

@Larry-herenow 6 лет назад

My favorite time of year to avoid Quartzsite.

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

I totally understand! :-)

@wallyjordan5060 6 лет назад

It took me foooorrrrrEVER to learn to politely and kindly say no. The most important thing I learned from this video was the segment on saying yes then becoming anxious/angry/overwhelmed. THAT hit the nail on the head for me. I'm a natural "appeaser". However, the best "result" for my psyche is doing something for someone and they never know who did it. I guess I like it that way because it gives me the opportunity to do it on my time, i.e., a want to instead of a have to. I don't know if that makes sense or not to people... Also, I have those times when I have the "urge" to socialize. Then, when I become quiet, folks think something is wrong. Nothings wrong!!!! I just need to be "the fly on the wall" but still around.... or its time to go back to my "comfort" zone to recharge. Why do folks seem to think somethings wrong when I do that???!!! I'm perfectly fine and happy!!!!!

@kellym6019 6 лет назад

Oh man, I started to comment changed my mind but hit the wrong button. Oh well, I'll say it. You are wonderful. I know it's hard to remember when the nasty comment are piling up on ya, please know you are a great and wonderful person and are and invaluable voice of reason to my broken spirit. Thank you, be well, you are loved.

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

Thank you so much Kelly!!! today, I am embracing the nasty comments... to be so triggered by what I say to have to try to berate and belittle means I am hitting a nerve. good! I appreciate your kindness. thank you!

@markedmonds280 6 лет назад

Thank you for taking on this subject, I am a 55 year old male who has been struggling with being called anti social for many years and that to me sounds as if it's a mental disorder, I don't tolerate crowds well and find a lot of comfort In my own company and that of my wife and kids so Thank you for giving it a name and a logical explanation.....you absolutely nailed how I've felt for decades and how I didn't see it till now is baffling to me...maybe I am crazy

@grimalkin5706 6 лет назад

When I listen to you I can only sigh and smile. You put into words how I feel exactly. I spent my life apologizing for my feelings or actions, or fighting them and trying to interact with people around me that didn’t understand at all what I was dealing with emotionally, and they would take it personally as a reflection of my opinion of them instead of anxiety just on my part. I prefer my own company, it’s as simple as that. I don’t hate people I just can’t interact with them without some level of anxiety on my part. I spent a lifetime trying to fit in, that didn’t work. Now I am just being me and doing what I need to without upsetting anyone else with my lifestyle and that works for me

@tag7592 6 лет назад

You are victorious and blessed with having insight into self. Many people search all their lives through unhealthy behaviors, and never find the peace that you have achieved. You've stayed true to self, and that's commendable and respectable.

@faithfulheroine3657 6 лет назад

Put a big red stop sign on the door that can be seen in the distance when you don't want company and a big green go sign when you want to meet others and talk. That's what I'd do anyway. I'm not kidding! It's not rude at all!

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

that's actually a good idea! thanks

@leslieobrien4690 6 лет назад

I really appreciate these tips, being an introvert who is sunny and friendly enough that others deny my announcement that I am an introvert. The thought of going where there are large groups of people makes me hyperventilate - and want a nap! Lol!

@RenieinMN 6 лет назад

Oh my! You sound like me. I hate when my chest squeezes tight and my breathing gets shallow and off. Yet I hear the same thing about how friendly and outgoing I am. (Not) I didn't think of myself as an introvert but I have sure started to recognize it the last several years.

@indigoblue4791 6 лет назад

Such a quality video, a subject that isn't widely understood and effects so many thousands of us. It's wonderful to have someone on RU-vid that represents the kind of lifestyle and challenges that many of us face daily.Your honesty validates our experience and even helps us understand ourselves better. Thank you for sharing what would cost a great deal of money and time in therapy!! Love your channel Carolyn. 💞😍💞

@annieann62 6 лет назад

Good advice. I find that when I've been overextended I can't concentrate on conversations. Sometimes it can be as if my brain just says nope were not going to allow you understand anything anyone says to you. Time to step back and take a breather.

@gemba1911 6 лет назад

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@gemba1911 6 лет назад

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@candyislander3563 6 лет назад

OMG! I do that too! If anything, this prepping for the RTR has certainly had it's educational and theraputic benifits!

@janohare916 5 лет назад

Me too! Wow, it is so good to hear that someone else reacts similarly. I have mostly come to terms with my introversion, but there are times I still feel a bit unusual.

@cindymills398 6 лет назад

Wow. You are amazing. I come from a family of extroverts but I am true introvert. When I go somewhere with people for a few days I always remind them, that I always need alone time. I live alone so if I go out to eat, I quickly notice how loud everything is. I have to remind myself that I am use to quiet. Nice to know other people are like me. Love your videos!

@juliarushing1920 6 лет назад

I love how you articulated the needs and experiences of introverts. it's something I've struggled with all my life.

@lopezcameo 6 лет назад

Thank you ☺You have provided a mini valuable seminar for us not cool kids ....THE INTROVERTS 💟 I'm blown away. It is good to know one is not alone in being this way. Reentry, the signs, boundaries. ..Bless you.

@barbaramoore8344 6 лет назад

After listening to you I am an introvert. Not undertaking my pattern of loosing myself and not saying what I want and then regret it. Then I have times I say no and live with guilt. This is a great video and made me really think. You are really in touch with yourself. I love my dog and husband so much. He too is an introvert and does not need much from me. I really respect you.

@janeeley1604 4 года назад

Be happy be free and most of all, be kind. You are indeed a mentor

@dougsheets6201 6 лет назад

I like your tips for introverts. I was an only child growing up but had a large family of aunts, uncles and cousins. I call the alone time "Down Time" . I also learned that everyone has their own personal agenda to accomplish when you get together in large groups. Don't be afraid to set your own agenda to accomplish. If you don't you won't get your own needs met in the group.

@gypsyqt6904 6 лет назад

I know this is irrelevant, but wanted to share... My recipie for a great cleaning spray. Neccessity is the mother of all invention, so I created this cleaning (I call it shower in a spray bottle) for when I make my VA to CA trips across country by train. I am on that train for 4 days... Take an 8 oz spray bottle. Add the following: 2 oz Olive Oil, 2 oz alcohol, 2 oz water, then add a few drops of: A fave essential oil scent you love (I use pepperment or wintergreen - feels fresh and smells great!), Dr. Bronners Biodegradable soap unscented, unless your essential oil matches the scent of the soap, Melaleuca Tea Tree oil or Sol-u-gard disenfectant (for disenfectant). Shake every time you use it, and either spray directly on your self and wipe with a baby wipe or damp cloth, or spray on a baby wipe or damp cloth. This bottle will last you weeks (maybe a month), and is a great daily body wash until you get a shower. God bless your travels!

@beherenow5466 6 лет назад

Thank you so much,Carolyn. I started following you a short while ago and feel so much of what you share. I appreciate what you have learned. I too am learning to honor myself and to balance my energy in this world. I am thankful to you for sharing your strength and vulnerability. With much gratitude, Nancy

@roamingfree6968 6 лет назад

Before 20 minutes in this video, I had an aha moment. As an introvert, you explained it so well. Also respecting others camp, I've camped for 30+yrs with fellow motorcyclist. Step foot, ONE foot even, into anothers camp without an invitation is a huge HUGE no no. Thank you for all of your insights & sharing. And if no one has told you today, love you, appreciate you & am very thankful for you. Blessings.

@barbhayes5613 6 лет назад

Carolyn, for all the other introverts out here, you ARE one of the cool kids. Great video -- I'm benefitting from your years of therapy :-). Happy travels

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

aww. thank you so much Barb!

@barbhayes5613 6 лет назад

I don't know why I hadn't done it before, but your video today had a link to your blog 'Alone on the JMT' -- I've got to tell you, I'm riveted! After reading about your prep, I'm now on Day 4 and I just can't stop reading. Sister, you've got some serious writing skills! Heading back to the blog - happy trails to you!

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

aw. thank you Barb: Spoiler, it isn't finished!!! I have 3 more days to write!!! So you'll get to day 23 and it ends.

@SC-gp7kt 6 лет назад

Grounding yourself before going around others really helps you keep your boundaries and energy in place.

@ShaktiJ 6 лет назад

Excellent video! It was only a year or so ago that I began to understand the difference between introverts and extroverts, especially regarding how we each recharge. That made all the difference to me in understanding my own introversion. Society definitely favors extroversion and at times shames and guilts introverts. Also, you seem to be walking a path of healing and self-discovery, which I think is awesome! Keep those boundaries and keep having fun. I hope to be out there in a year too. Much respect to you.

@jenaebeck2873 6 лет назад

Thank you! Ive been told I'm a Empath. You are so sensitive to others. We really do have to protect ourselves and be introverts. Looking at it differently now. I get it. Good luck. Your amazing!!

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

Thank you so much Dan and Jenae!!!

@lindalou4629 6 лет назад

Me too, on that one. There came a time in my life, when I was in my 30's that I finally had to learn to say "No". Friends were sucking me dry with their neediness. I put others needs before my own and, yes, began to develop many of those habits of which you spoke, Carolyn. When I divorced my second husband, I decided living alone was the best thing for me. I've been on my own for 20 years now, happily so. Here comes the HUGE boundary blunder I made recently. A friend of mine from the 80's contacted me thru FB. Long story short, I let her move in with me for a few weeks, which turned out to be 3 months. Adding to that frustration was the fact that I quickly learned she was addicted to pain medication and when she got them, she couldnt control how many she took or how often. I finally told her I couldnt do it anymore and took her back to where she was living before. I've blocked her number on my cell and refuse to answer ther text messages. When I mailed the cell phone she lost in my house (having taken 25 oxies in 2 days) I included a letter telling her the friendship was over and I had no room in my life for toxic people. A difficult thing because I did love her, I just couldn't let her be a part of my life. The point of this story is that YOU know yourself well enough to protect your boundaries. I made the mistake of letting mine slip and I paid for it with anger and frustration. Keep on doing what you need to do, lady, and don't let anyone tell you it's not okay. If I had the finances to do what you do, I'd hit the road tomorrow so it's nice to live vicariously through your adventures in freedom. Thank you for putting yourself out there.

@geekbabe100 6 лет назад

New subscriber here, this video is 5 months old but I needed to comment. I too am an introvert, who spends my work week surrounded by people. On my days off, I kind of stay to myself just to recharge. I like people & care about others but am very comfortable in my own head & have zero problems finding things to do on my own. This video really helped me feel normal & I thank you for it!

@laurasmith4478 6 лет назад

This is fabulous, whether you're a full time traveler or a person hanging in the city. I get so caught up in being with people....I do love people, but in small doses....and certain people. Thank you Carolyn for being honest about your limitations. It's something I need to work on.

@gonewiththekale 6 лет назад

You're rockin' the tank👍 I'm not sure about introverts, but when you are an HSP, events like that can be crippling (it's part of having the intuitive gifts empaths possess- so outside energies easily become overwhelming; like a tsunami, swift and fast) so these tips/ideas are very helpful and healthy- thank you for sharing, Carolyn! It makes a lot of sense because _easing_ into things works well in all areas of life👍👍 And like when we learned to dance- instead of having our partner lead us, we need to lead ourselves.

@aliceandtheninjacats 6 лет назад

I’m an empath and have synesthesia.. it’s a pretty complicated life.

@TenderHearted3 6 лет назад

Gone with the Kale I wondered when/if someone would refer to the Highly Sensory/Sensitive Person (HSP) empathic personality traits that are legitimate and worth people looking up in order to better understand the special needs and requirements of our type of individuals. By the way, this HSP took responsibilities so seriously, I spent 35 years working high-stress, well-paying jobs that nearly crippled me emotionally and health-wise, until I truly understood my unique make-up and began to better care for myself. Thanks for sharing...it's been a process and I'm doing much better these days because I've embraced my true self.

@naturesfriend812 6 лет назад

Triple thumbs up! I am so connected to your advise and the awareness you share.

@LadyPenelope 6 лет назад

I have found that extroverts in general don't 'get it' and actually can't 'get it' which makes it very hard. They are the ones that get butt hurt, judgmental, and even angry when their enthusiasm is denied. The worst are the extroverts that think they are introverts, call themselves introverts, yet endlessly look for ways to be around people. Being shy or reserved does not make you an introvert. I have a saying that still rings true for me: 'society was made/shaped by extroverts, for extroverts' and everyone else is made to feel like there is something wrong with them if they don't comply.

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

Lotus, in my experience, self awareness, whether and introvert or extrovert seems to be a very rare trait these days... If we all looked at ourselves more and others less (myself included) we'd all be happier, healthier and KINDER (again, myself included)!

@phoebesweet3664 6 лет назад

Boy are you good. Self assessment is so healthy. Believe it or not your video is helping me and I live in the city with my husband and son. My men know my limits and don't question my alone time too much. Thankyou for helping me, you have no idea how big this will probably change my quality of life and probably many others. One other thing, I think you are very eager to help and when you know you can it has to be difficult to have to say "not right now" or "cant"

@jeanharville3960 6 лет назад

Thanks for sharing this today. I am an introvert and have the same overload triggers as you. Your info is so helpful to me. I quilt with 6 or 8 friends a week and the rest of the time I like to be alone. Every word you said fit me to a tee.

@dsbruening 6 лет назад

There are so many areas I can relate with you on. I always thought I was an extrovert because I’m super friendly and great at communication with people. I work with people every day and I keep my friendly hat on all day. When I walk in the door of my home all I want to do is make my cup of tea and decompress. I don’t want anyone stopping over, calling or bugging me. Lol. I also quit drinking about 7 years ago. When I was a teen I found alcohol a great way to reduce anxiety. I didn’t understand myself for years. I now realize I can’t overstimulate and put too much on my plate. I hope to get to the RTR once I have a vehicle to camp with. Loved your video!

@markd5067 6 лет назад

Great tips Carolyn. Our boundaries fluctuate as we go through the growth process, which includes areas that appear "weak" but are most likely not, as long as we are health building. These processes are cyclical and include situations where we allow those boundaries to move in and out with different individuals and are "testing" grounds with which to prove out trust between individuals, and are different for each relationship (I don't mean that in an intimate context). This is part of how we choose friends and/or mates in a healthy way.

@kellydoyle 6 лет назад

Wow. Spot on. SPOT on!!! My first RTR this year- I crashed and burned hard and am STILL recovering! Lessons learned though. Great video. Nice to hear others feeling the exact same. Especially the losing ourselves. Thank you.

@jkhawk1967 5 лет назад

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you, Although I wouldn't call myself an introvert, I do need my alone time . It took me years to give myself permission to be alone, and I wish I had been able to hear your words back then . I could have saved myself a lot of needless guilt, and self recriminations. Stay Happy, Free and Kind, you make the world a better place just by being in it.

@sunandskyandmoon 6 лет назад

It's nice to have validation for what I'm feeling. Sensory overload is how I described my feelings when I'm out and about, but wasn't sure if I was being too sensitive. Thanks for this video Carolyn. It brought relief. : )

@cherylanderson3340 6 лет назад

It was good to hear your thoughts on needing time alone & the importance of consciously observing yourself, while seeking ways to strike a balance with others. Now that I've lived on my own for many years, it's what feels normal. So, though I'm not antisocial & do like people, I notice social anxiety at times, which has worried me. Thanks for reminding me - others may have some of the same issues.

@cynthial6713 6 лет назад

Carolyn, thank you so much for these tips on self care. So many people do not understand others' need for space/peace time.

@jillrudolf3483 6 лет назад

Oh my goodness this was such a great video! Lots of good info. I really didnt realize I was an introvert until I started listening to everyone's videos. You totally nailed my signs of overload!

@TheReberedd 6 лет назад

Carolyn, thank you for this video. It has answered a lot of questions/doubts that I had about myself. I have always felt that I was different or weird and now I know better. Again, thank you!

@lindagailsch 6 лет назад

Wow Carolyn. You make so much sense of things I struggle with but couldn't identify or express to others. When you want alone time people see you as snotty or antisocial when they can't understand where u are coming from as a. Introvert. Thank you so much for the tips & great info. You don't know how much you have helped me.

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

Linda - exactly!!! I get called a snob all the time (for reasons other than my desire to be alone, too, in all fairness . ies; some of my videos about the places I travel). Thank you for the kind words and understanding.

@chrisr.1803 3 года назад

It’s so good to hear someone who ‘gets it’!! Thank you!

@carolnarramore4448 6 лет назад

Your points hit me square between the eyes! I’ve been so overwhelmed for several years. Caregiver for my elderly mother and my husband. I’m pretty depleted. Thank you! I really enjoy your videos. We’ve got a Class C and love the heck out of it!

@SonjaMercedes 6 лет назад

Carolyn your point on finding an escape and "smoking more, eating more, etc." Can be applied in normal life as well. I like this point and I think its a good thing to keep in the back of your mind.

@s.lee1313 6 лет назад

hi Carolyn, I am half way through this and I can so relate, being retired and living alone, and being severely allergic to perfume, fragrances, some food smells, fumes, smoke and many more things. This disability is called Multiple Chemical Sensitivities (MCS) also called Environmental Illness (EI) like being allergic to the world sorta and you can't be around people that much. many don't understand my boundaries about not going in their homes or cars. So I totally understand!

@patriciamartin9896 6 лет назад

s lee I also have MCS. For the past 36 years. We all should be able to live our lives in the manner we need to in order to feel well.

@euphegeniadoubtfire5825 6 лет назад

I have this, as well. It has made life very difficult. I wish people understood. 😕

@tinaavery7567 6 лет назад

I have been dealing with this as well and it has gotten worse in the last 20 years. I have lost count of the number of times I have had to leave lines I was waiting in because someone comes up covered in something I am allergic to. It limits where I can go and when I can go. I have had people get down right hostile when I can not leave and have to ask someone to back up so I can breathe. It is no one's fault that the perfume they love and smells wonderful is also causing my throat to close up and is giving me a blinding migraine. You smell great and it was very expensive...I get it...but your killing me. So sorry to bother you because I am literally fighting to live.

@seanocana4816 5 лет назад

Absolutely f***ing brilliant. Carolyn has just become my favorite person in the whole world!!!

@newcreation2521 6 лет назад

I hadn't realized it before I saw your video but this really does need to be said-- loud, clear, and often. Great job!

@ConnieGMarie33 3 месяца назад

Oh my gosh, I am the exact same way! Thank you for sharing this video. I haven't had counceling. But I feel like I just had the best counseling session ever! What I find interesting is when people meet me they wouldn't think that I am introvert .

@Goodgrief7811 6 лет назад

Excellent reflection of how to monitor your own being.I’ve always and still run my emotions on other people’s energy and try to have fun.Im realizing I do need more alone time to energized.The all in or nothing no in between.

@420Chooey 6 лет назад

What a great phrase ( Check in with yourself) So much that you say rings true with me like the perfect pitch that makes a fine glass sing. I feel it, I'm ready for the road life again.

@TheNoonie50 6 лет назад

This was really helpful to me. Maybe I'll be able to do it next year. Right now, my only self taught tip was #1 Find out where the gathering is #2 Pack van and head in the opposite direction! :)

@ChanelThomas248 6 лет назад

I think this is the best video you've ever done. I loved it! I like seeing this side of you. You have quality thoughts, well expressed. Thanks for sharing with us!

@janstess86 6 лет назад

Great info..This is exactly why I like the idea of living on the road. You can just get up and go when ever you feel the need..

@karenbehymer3634 6 лет назад

From all the comments looks like we introverts are not so rare. This lifestyle is especially well-suited to us. You and Bob and Debra have been very helpful to me. I watch some favorite extrovert's videos as well - but have no desire to caravan with a big group. I can feel more alone in a big happy crowd, than around my own campfire with 1 or 2 others sharing our thoughts or projects, then returning to our own campsites. Walking alone with my dog without the chatter of the group (so I can tune into nature) is why the nomadic life is good for me. May decide to carry some bamboo roll-up low fencing to define my campsite when in a populated area to define my physical boundaries. At the same time, I especially enjoy meeting new people and learning their story. I love people. Just tend to "lose myself" in a group. Thank you for this video.

@moreda3 6 лет назад

Thank you! Very helpful info about living as an introvert. Was starting to feel more comfortable going perhaps going to a big event such as the RTR. But then -- had not idea people would just walk up to one's motorhome (at event or I guess anywhere) -- imagining putting up a huge "do not disturb" sign so that they don't need to come close to read it... Anyway, those were really helpful comments you made. Thank you again.

@ritag439 6 лет назад

You covered how you identify as and respect and protect your needs as an introvert, in a very open and honest way. I thank you for sharing and gained some ‘take-sways’ for myself. Bless you stay strong.

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

Thank you Rita.. I am working on my communication skills and will continue to improve so that I can reach more people with my message of self care and the importance of boundaries, while giving ourselves to others. thank you!

@Mvn4Wrd 6 лет назад

I appreciate your tips for Introverts.Thank you! I can definitely relate. Listening to you was refreshing to hear my 'normal'.

@stacytruhlar8815 6 лет назад

I can relate, I loose my boundaries too! Thanks for tips! Although I do spend time with people, I'm not usually comfortable in large groups. But I've made a lot of progress in my healing, so we'll see how it goes. Grounding is also a great way for us empaths to find our zen. Some people use crystals, but going barefoot on the ground or soaking your feet in water with epsom salts is also very grounding.

@SC-gp7kt 6 лет назад

When I heard this I thought it was excellent advice: "when you do what's best for yourself, you do what's best for others"

@jimc.6127 6 лет назад

Doing all the homework I can to prepare for 'my' next adventure and I think you have the best and 'real life' videos. I will also be solo and this video was was a good lesson. Thanks for your candor.

@misfitgypsy6669 6 лет назад

I'm on my way to the RTR. I made a stop at my parents place (actually I'm still here) in Phoenix. It really has been a good visit and I get along with them well. But, last night my dog got sick suddenly and passed away in the night. I found him this morning. So needless to say it's been a rough day and I'm a little bummed out. My plan is to leave Sunday morning. This morning though I was thinking about staying an extra day. But, after thinking about it, I'm staying with the plan to leave. I could sit around and mope but it does no good. The point is, I need the solitude of being alone for a few days before the RTR now more than ever so I can gather my thoughts and deal with my emotions before going to an event that's a happy time. Safe travels everyone! See you all in Quartzite in a few days!

@auntgrumpy517 6 лет назад

The word no is like a muscle, the more you use it the stronger you get. Thanks

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

I like that. ty

@kbean5338 6 лет назад

Great self assessment and analysis. Knowing your needs is half the battle.

@BDX2BDX2 6 лет назад

Thank You for being so open about yourself on a deep level. I think it's the first time someone has shared how I feel as far as being an introvert in such an honest, encompassing way. What we need to do to take care of ourselves. It's been a rough morning and I really needed to hear the things you touched on. :) :) :) Peace !!!!

@CarolynsRVLife 6 лет назад

Thank you for the support and encouragement Joe. I'm glad you found it helpful!

@kimunicorn 6 лет назад

I needed this. My Mom passed away. Her funeral was today. I am a deeeeeep introvert. I need my time to rest and recharge.

@lifeinmotion1178 6 лет назад

I get it. My sister used to explain to others "Don't mind her, she just goes off in her own little world" like I was some kind of freak. I guess it made her feel important, but it made me look like something I didn't want to be. So I know better now, (I have for some time) and I have no idea who my sister is making excuses for these days. Great video. It has lots of good insights and ways to cope. TFS

@shantolion1576 6 лет назад

Wow i dident know i was an introvert i used to think something is wrong with me as i choose to be alone most of the time...i feel i am to much of an empath and so my energy gets drained really fast. After years of being used by others ppl just taking advantage of my kindness and generosity and repaying with a slap to the face i became even more withdrawn but i just feel good being with my pets... I like quite i dislike nose... I dident know there are other ppl like that. Its great to know there are other lone wolfs out there and its ok to be who we are. Thank you😘

@carldemuth384 6 лет назад

Shanto Lion sane here

@sandyparr8083 6 лет назад

I can so relate to your comment! Thanks for sharing.

@KathieGross 6 лет назад

looking forward to this event. I know I will find my space away from center stage to camp for my "me time" to recharge but the opportunities for learning from others is exciting to me. You are amazing

@lnljemyl 6 лет назад

Carolyn, I am not sure whether I am an extrovert or an introvert, mainly because I used to be a "leader" in some social situations. I think the balance is actually tipped toward introvert for a couple of reasons. I have done art and crafts for most of my life. In a crowd, I am uncomfortable so have been known to find somewhere to sit and sketch or make or "fix" something to "help" our the others there, My mom once got very exasperated with me while we were cooking for a large group and setting up a hall for that dinner for the group . I started to get frazzled so to escape the noise and chaotic stuff going on, I sat down and began folding paper napkins into baskets to hold the nuts we had since I had been told we didn't have enough nut dishes for each table. I happen to have the ability to shut out everything to calm and concentrate on one thing. It works for me because it takes me away from the noise as everyone can certainly see that I need to concentrate to do the art or craft correctly. I really don't, but I use my ability to focus to take me away from the madding crowd and chaos to a place of serenity and slow, usually, focused and determined action. After a few minutes of this, I can rejoin the group without taking someone's head off or any such lost it behavior. In school, they called it daydreaming or doodling. For me, it was centering, though I didn't learn the formal term for it until I was at Santa Clara studying counseling. LOL Thank you for sharing such great tips. It's too bad that they don't make a good, easy to set up and store fence for RV camps.It would surely make it easier to communicate one's boundaries!! I am going to send you a picture of what our sky was like here this morning ------please know that it is sent with tongue firmly in cheek! I love blue sky too -----and the West sure get more of it! Peace.

@rvlee8577 6 лет назад

It really helps me to focus on a constructive task when in a group. There is a travel companion out there for you, someone who knows and respects your boundaries. Too bad your therapist didn't full time rv. It is sure nice to have someone to help with decisions and troubleshooting. A 2nd rig helps in emergencies too. Take care and safe travels.

@NWINSteve 6 лет назад

You're doing your best to pass on the "lessons learned" along life's highway/travels knowing darn well that no one has all the answers (least of all me), keep up the great work!

@kellym6019 6 лет назад

Oh my God Carolyn, this was so incredibly helpful. Thank you so very much!

@marieb8502 6 лет назад

Helped me too and I don't live in an RV.

@deborahmcginnis8307 6 лет назад

One of your best videos ever concerning an introvert. This one really hit home. I plan on watching it again, probably a number of times more. For years I've thought I needed to get some councling or therapy for my "weird" ways. While I love people and desire to be with them I can only "do people" in small doses for short periods of time. Then wow, about a year or so ago I found out I was quite normal after all, just a different sort of normal :-). It took me nearly 60 years to get there so that is why I'm hoping (sincerely asking ) that you will continue to talk about this subject and so many others you have opened up to us (your friends) about. You make a great therapist for a lot of us who might not ever get it any other way. Again, appreciate you so much.

@rubyleeburch5085 6 лет назад

Wow, after all these years.!! I'm an introvert - not just "anti social".....big awakening... THANKS.!!!!

@elisastewart3541 5 лет назад

Carolyn, maybe one of your friendly's can make a cute plaque to hang in your camp, letting people know when you're open to visitors... maybe with a green light or something for at night? Would that help? When I was in college, we had a sign on our door that let people know if we were open to visiting or if we were doing homework, etc.

@SandraLC7 6 лет назад

Thanks for this video. I'm an INFP who over the years has actually become more of an Introvert so I understand what you were saying about needing to protect yourself from being over exposed to too many people. What's interesting about this personality type is that we can appear to be gregarious at times, it just comes out in us naturally - but it doesn't last long. Soon that need for our solitude becomes overwhelming. It's one of the issues I think about when I'm debating getting myself a "rig" of my own and at least traveling part time. I would guess that you are talking about the Myers Briggs Personality Profile or something similar. When I took the test for the first time and read up on the traits of an INFP it was like "Wow, that's me and I'm not crazy." :-) This video and your explanation help me to understand I can do what I've dreamed about since first watching "nomad" videos. Thanks again.

@christinetaylor5726 6 лет назад

You brought up some good points. I recognized some of these things in myself...that I had not recognized about myself before. Thanks for this.

@janeeley1604 4 года назад

You describe being an introvert beautifully Carolyn

@theresaburr909 6 лет назад

That is the catch 22 for some of us introverts..... we like people but can only handle so much before we lose ourselves. The hardest life lesson for me to learn about myself. Also the most freeing lesson for me. I now have no guilt when I tell family and friends no thank you to invites and parties etc. I simply tell them I need to recharge and rest my soul.

@JamesSmith-wg9qt 6 лет назад

Thanks for the honesty and insight. It really hits home.

@naturegirl5681 4 года назад

Wow best video ever!! Thanks Carolyn!!

@TW-ym4vg 6 лет назад

It'd be great to create a "common practice" of tying a yellow flag on an antenna, a stick, your door handle, or pretty much anything in your camp to signal others that you are taking private time alone & wish to not be disturbed. It seems this would make it a lot easier, not just on you but many that do want to camp around people, but may want to simply lay down for a nap w/o being disturbed, get some work done, or just "re-charge" before a gathering or event that evening.