Very well said Mufti.Good explanation.Marry a man/woman who you see everyday.Solve a lot of problems.People get married to be together not seperated.Just an opinion.😊☺😉
Mashallah tabarak Allah jazaka Allahu khayran brother mufti menk..May Allah grant you Good health and Goodness and highest place in Jannatul firdaous Ameen...
Masha Allah .... Very nice... Explanation ... Not be used or abused.... trying keep it open ... be brave enough to say let the world know so what... Be with reality... .
The women whom such men marry are not the one abused. The wives which they have in their home countries are the ones who are abused by them and their families, whom they visited for a month after one or two years and they were treated as slaves by their families and also gave birth to their children. If they do not need them, why do they marry them. These are the brides living like widows
Nothing is a secret for Allah knows all and at some point the truth all ways come's out in to the light for all to see,all so remember the conceived child position of the secret,May Allah guide us all and keep us all on the straight path and forgive us for any wrongs we have done and grant us ease,Ameen.
What about situations were parents give approval but want to "wait" 2 years to make it official - problem with this is cultural marriage and weddings - this is differnt to Nikkah.. from what i found on Al-Islam and other sources, if the wali's excuse does not meet reasonable Islamic criteria then the wali can be an imam at mosque - 2 witnesses can be family members who are supportive and protective Muslims. Im in the possibly small circle that i think socially, only tell those who you can rely on and trust in terms of witnesses.. lots of idiots love drama and gossiping etc, avoid such fake people from knowing. Allah knows best, ameen.
@@maheerghaffar3897 u need to have a wakeel and witnesses (2 males or 1 male and 2 females) whom you can trust! You are an adult, if you can convince your parents that’ll be great if not then it’s ok you can do nikah!
Secret marriages are forbidden in Islam In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful It is a condition of a sound marriage that it be announced and attested to publicly. A secret marriage, which is only witnessed by a few people in private, is disapproved (makruh) at best and unlawful (haram) according to some scholars. It is potentially harmful to those affected by it, as it almost always involves deception or at least gross omission, especially if a man marries an additional wife in secret and without her consent. Allah said: فَانكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ Marry them with the permission of their families and give them their due as is good, chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses. Surat al-Nisa 4:25 Scholars have said that this verse prohibits secret marriages without witnesses, by drawing an analogy between a ‘secret mistress’ and a secret marriage. Ibn Taymiyyah writes: وَمَالِكٌ يُوجِبُ إعْلَانَ النِّكَاحِ وَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ هُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ نِكَاحِ الْبَغَايَا وَقَدْ قَالَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ فَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ مِنْ جِنْسِ ذَوَاتِ الْأَخْدَانِ Malik obligated announcing the marriage in public. A secret marriage is a type of prostitution. Allah Almighty said: Chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses. (4:25) Thus, a secret marriage is a type of secret mistress. Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 32/102 Scholars also refer to the statements of the Prophet (s) commanding the announcement of marriages in public. Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: أَعْلِنُوا هَذَا النِّكَاحَ وَاجْعَلُوهُ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ وَاضْرِبُوا عَلَيْهِ بِالدُّفُوفِ Announce this marriage publicly, conduct it in the mosque, and strike the drums for it. Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1089, Grade: Hasan Muhammad ibn Hatib reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: فَصْلُ مَا بَيْنَ الْحَرَامِ وَالْحَلَالِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ The difference between an unlawful and lawful marriage is the beating of drums and the raising of voices. Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1088, Grade: Hasan Abdullah ibn al-Zubayr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: أَعْلِنُوا النِّكَاحَ Announce the marriage. Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4066, Grade: Hasan Based upon this evidence, it is said that a marriage conducted in secret is invalid and annulled, even if it has two credible witnesses and permission from a guardian. Abu Bakr Abdul Aziz said: نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ بَاطِلٌ؛ لِأَنَّ أَحْمَدَ قَالَ إذَا تَزَوَّجَ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْنِ لَا حَتَّى يُعْلِنَهُ A secret marriage is invalid, as Ahmad said: If he is married with a guardian’s permission and two witnesses, it is not so until it is announced publicly. Source: al-Mughnī 7/83 This was also the opinion of Imam Malik. However, most scholars said that a secret marriage is valid if it meets the condition of two credible witnesses and a guardian. It is in legal effect and will not be annulled, although it is disapproved to do so. Ibn Qudamah writes: فَإِنْ عَقَدَهُ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْن فَأَسَرُّوه أَوْ تَوَاصَوْا بِكِتْمَانِه كُرِهَ ذَلِك وَصَحَّ النِّكَاحُ If the marriage is contracted with a guardian and two witnesses, but he keeps it secret or conceals its attestation, that is disapproved but the marriage is valid. Source: al-Mughnī 7/83 And Ibn al-Qayyim writes: أَنَّ الشَّارِعَ اشْتَرَطَ لِلنِّكَاحِ شُرُوطًا زَائِدَةً عَلَى الْعَقْدِ تَقْطَعُ عَنْهُ شُبَهَ السِّفَاحِ كَالْإِعْلَامِ وَالْوَلِيِّ وَمَنْعِ امْرَأَةٍ أَنْ تَلِيَهُ بِنَفْسِهَا وَنَدَبَ إلَى إظْهَارِهِ حَتَّى اُسْتُحِبَّ فِيهِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ وَالْوَلِيمَةُ The Lawgiver has set conditions for marriage, in addition to the contract, in order to cut off any suspicion of promiscuity, such as announcing it, the guardian, and preventing a woman from conducting it by herself. It is encouraged to publicize it, even recommended to beat the drums, raise voices, and hold a banquet. Source: I’lām al-Muwaqqi’īn 3/113 This disapproval should not be taken lightly. The important point here is that the legal ‘validity’ of an act does not mean it is ethical or morally sound. If some scholars accept the validity of a secret marriage, that in no way implies they are endorsing or encouraging the act. Nevertheless, many scholars said that such a secret marriage resembles adultery despite being legally valid. Umar ibn al-Khattab was particularly strict about this matter. Abu al-Zubayr reported: Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, was presented with a marriage which no one had witnessed except one man and one woman. Umar said: هَذَا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ وَلَا أُجِيزُهُ وَلَوْ كُنْتُ تَقَدَّمْتُ فِيهِ لَرَجَمْتُ This is a secret marriage and I do not permit it. If I had known of it beforehand, I would have stoned them. Source: al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1136 This was a rhetorical threat to indicate the seriousness with which the matter should be taken. If there were no witnesses at all, the consensus of the scholars is that it is an act of adultery. Ibn Taymiyyah writes: وَأَمَّا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ الَّذِي يَتَوَاصَوْنَ بِكِتْمَانِهِ وَلَا يُشْهِدُونَ عَلَيْهِ أَحَدًا فَهُوَ بَاطِلٌ عِنْدَ عَامَّةِ الْعُلَمَاءِ وَهُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ السِّفَاحِ As for a secret marriage, the attestation of which is concealed and witnessed by no one, it is invalid according to the prevalent opinion of scholars. It is a type of illicit intercourse. Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 33/158 In sum, secret marriages without witnesses are unconditionally forbidden in Islam as they resemble adultery. If a secret marriage meets the minimum legal requirements of two credible witnesses and permission of a guardian, then at the very least it is morally disapproved if not unlawful. Believing men who fear Allah would be wise to avoid contracting a secret marriage, especially if they are marrying a second wife behind the back of their first wife, her family, and her children.
Assalaam may I ask can a man give a text saying talak without any witnesses and can and can he say the word talak even if he says it only once no witnesses is it valid please I need answer for my knowledge and understanding jazakAllah
Todays polygamy: So many Muslim brothers are married and have girlfriends and call it Islamic polygamy marriages from Quran SubhanAllaah. A wife and girlfriends aren't polygamy from Quran. Muslim brothers dont want responsibility for wives so they have one wife and girlfriends so they dont have responsibility for the girlfriends SubhanAllaah. Some brothers have 2 girlfriends and say its halal because Allah said polygamy in the Quran. Ya Allah Wife and children are a responsibility but brothers dont want responsibility, they only using women for lust/sexual desires nowadays and dont want responsibility. Some brothers think I'll have one wife and girlfriends so I dont get punished by Allah for the second girlfriend because the girlfriend isnt a responsibility so he dont have to Answer to Allah swt because she not a second wife! Fear Allah swt when you have mothers, sisters and daughters because what goes around comes around and what goes around comes is from Allah swt. Never, never and never ever break someones heart! Never
And if we do nikkah again in front of our family then what is this bcz our nikah is already registered in the court.. then the papers we sign in front of our family what does its means..plzzz guide me sir..?
Is nikah valid if Wali recites khutbah nikah over the phone for husband and wife without physically being present and two witnesses or also not physically present?? Is it sunnah ?
I had a problem my brother is married 12 years and has done a secret nikkah but told the new wife. He doesn't get on with his wife which at the time he didn't so his new wife thinks he doesn't get on with the old wife and the old wife doesn't even know his married and he has 3 kids
my cousin's parents do not approve her nikkah because the guy has a lower cast and they don't want humiliation. the guy and his whole family is muslim and approve the nikkah but my cousin's parents don't agree. what should she do? she's trying to convince them from 2018 and has faced a lot of humiliation. they even humiliated the guy and his family just because of cast. Can she do her nikkah if the wali is her cousin?
the imam could act as the wali and host the nikah and have other witnesses there if the family won't approve. Because disapproving someone because of race is discrimination and that is strictly forbidden and wrongful in Islam. So the Imam could act as the bride-giver, because in that case, Allah has given the Imam the permission to marry them. Hope that helps.
@@humayra6670 either your very trusted muslim friends with good heart, or u coudl ask people in the mosque who are very close to the imam to be your witnesses
Aoa am a divorced n having a son of 3 years i wnated to get marry with some one he also want us to get marry asap coz i dn waa contnue hram relatin but due to case of my son custody we are delaying that wot if my x husbnd get to know he will snatch my son ..am waiting for my son custody ...n wante to do nikah secretly later on we will do nikah infront of our parents again will it b valid ..coz am just doing it for the sake of Allah cansome one tell me is it r8?
My humble opinion, he is a black man and want to marry a non black, but her parents may have a bad view on it, because they wouldn't want a black men as son in law.
What if there is no wali?...the 2 male n female are self dependent n.their perents are not willing for the marriage n they arrange witnessess n they marry ech other
my friends husband got married second time bk in his country only problem his looking after second 1 better than the first 1 ....his first wife works runs the house yet her husband is ungrateful he don't work yet he lives off her earnings and sends his savings bk to his second wife and kids plz can you explain...is this allowed
First wife needs to leave the husband. Islamically, of course, a woman's earning is her own and the husband's duty is to take care of the family expenses. If possible, she should be contacting the mosque to drive some sense into the guy or leave him if all else fails.
But there is a very IMPORTANT point!!! For men who are already married and living abroad the secret or open nikah is not allowed and valid!!! As they will be with the one they marry at the time that he doesnt see his first wife for a quite long time and this is of course injustice towards first wife.
That's why the Shari'ah Prohibits a husband, to stay away from her for long time. A husband is ordered either to take his wife with her or change his job and settle down in his own town. So that, the husband wife will be with eachother
What if his parents and our friends know and witnesses our marriage but my parents and family dont know about it ? ( Its because they wont agree ) ... please let me know ...
we are both 16 and want to get our nikkah done as soon as we can in'shaa'allah but we both know her parents will not accept so we feel we have to do it secretly for the sake of Allah to avoid falling into sin. We are of course willing to have witnesses to our nikkah but is It permissible without parents if we are doing it to avoid falling into sin for the sake of Allah?
I got engaged and my marriage time was 3 yrs but b4 that only I got married to my fiance without my parents now our parents wants us to do nikah 2nd time is it okhy for us ?we did nikah with 4 witnesses but they were frnds and we are above 21 what about doing nikah 2nf time for parents happiness?
If your witness are your friends or any human being Muslim and you did get nikkah and you didn't inform your parents is that nikka accepted ye or no? Please answer me?
I want to marry with a girl but my family is not ready just because of she is my choice without them, same her family is not ready because I'm not their choice. Should we leave each other? Are we doing something wrong in Allah eyes?
A girl been told after takeing khula from the mosque shes beenntold to wait forbidah periods 3 months 10 days but she only waited 1 monthly cycle and done nikkah again as she been told by her currunt parntnee that she needs to only wait 1 month, is her nikkah valid,
So if i do a secret nikkah with just two of male friends as witness without telling my wife tomorrow what if the sons and daughter of both my wife decide to marry and i along with my two friends die in a car accident what solution allah has for this kind of situations
As sallam alaykum! What if they had the iman, the 2 witnesses in the mosque and the bride and groom wasn't there in the mosque and no nikah was signed at all is this legal?
Sandra KB Are you trying to sound stupid for attention? You certainly got mine because your question is a troll comment or just the dumbest question ever
Alot of Muslim brothers use polygamy to cheating on the wife, when the wife says "why are you cheating on me?" The husband replys "it's part of Islam" SubhanAllaah
i married with two witnesses i told my family we performed nikah but wen problems come i dont feel like i can approach the imaam of our town cos we didint include the imaam now my husband has left me what do i do he blocked me on social media and textx and phone calls. do not marry like this
did you do it in secret from your parents? my spouse and I are both 16 and want to get our nikkah done within a weeks to avoid sin but we both know her parents won't accept but for the sake of Allah we have to do it in secret
Cirkaa Noojira Cabaar Hmm shahid ku wa muhim, dad Anan waliyi ammar lahayn aya jira diinteenu meela badan aya Allah ka yasiray, Lkin Suaal sha hada la weydiyey w mid Anan wali maqlin,,,, lkin Imam iyo Shahid ayey u bahanyihin markaysan ehel haysan
What if the wali is not present of the woman ? Is is not either like the wali agreed or disagreed... They just don't know about it... We had tow adult male witnesses
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته يا شيخ كنت اضنك عالم حتى سمعت هاذا الكلام الذي لا يمد للإسلام و لا للشريعة بصلة و للأسف الشديد ! الزواج سراً و خاصة للمرأه لا يجوز الا بموافقت ولي أمرها و كما قال الرسول صلى الله عليه و سلم لا نكاح بغير ولي ! او كما قال صلى الله عليه و سلم عليك توضيح هاذي تلمسألة بجدية اكبر جزاك الله خير
My dad wasn’t present for some reason at my nikah but he gave me permission to get married.. and he told his close friend to be my wali and there was one of my distant uncle from my father's side was present...was it valid? few people says It's not.. I'm paranoid now..there were total 9/10people in my marriage..
I know muslim person who married a women secretly ,got two children and married another women, here also two children. Is this halal? How many times can a Muslim man register his marriage without breaking any relationship?
A woman has to have walk even if you aren’t from this county then the Imaam shall find a walk for you there’s no excuse. GO INTO MARRIAGE WITH THE FULL BLESSINGS OF ALLAAH
Yes! I dunno about other countries. But In Singapore we have marriage certs (even for civil marriages) and documented in govt marriage registry. Will have signature of bride groom wali n witnesses i think.
Oh I also got secrets nikah bt there is to witness men one maulana n denmahar of 21 thousands n me n mah husband told about marriage most of frndz some relative of mah husband too, bt i didn't tell to mah papa n sis mah mom is no more m younger sister mah elder sister is not married so I m waiting for her marriage den I to Tell mah Papa n also my husband didn't say anything about our marriage to his mother n brother his father is also no more but his mother literally wants that we get marry very soon his family know about me very well I wish I get marry very soon INSHALLAH plzz dua for me
I think it's shouldn't be valid if done on basis of cheating for money power or postion...if cheating done covering true identification of that person who claims to be fake in any kind of relationship...is it haram or halal...when something wrong doing is done unlawfully then you differentiate as haram or halal...next in case of secret marriage...if both parties are not living together and do not know who is who then in that case ..what is the marriage named...secret...one more question... if family has taken money and family members know who is that person but kept unaware to the women...and maybe they are witness to the marriage without bringing the presence of the women into the agreement without any legal notice or documents therefore signed in ..then in that case what kind of validity does this kind of marriage hold...I mean without consent...or by force...what is it named....
