I'm so glad someone is talking about this! Whenever my gf's would go off b.c., their personalities would improve.. they just seemed more affectionate and increased their libido... This would come at the expense of less predictable cycles but was overall a huge net benefit! There are things a guy can do so you don't have to take this stuff!! Thanks Courtney!
Even if she gets off of it she can still have those hormones consumed through public water system. If you are not filtering it out or purchasing filtered water, she is still at risk at receiving those chemicals because the water plants only filled her out bacteria and solids, not hormones
After a few months of my wife coming off the pill, she decided she wanted to separate from me. Broke up a marriage of 11 years, and I couldn’t work out why. This starts to make sense.
Very sorry to hear this my friend. This was a great disservice to both of you as it destroyed two peoples lives even though only one person was taking the pill. Courtney is right about taking some responsibility for our actions. figuring out the ovulation time is not a bad method even though that may not be a fireproof method however it does present the opportunity for both adults to talk and make decisions together. A common problem with adults and having the sex but not the conversation. Just a suggestion. Wish you all the best. 10/12/2022
It's a real shame that so many pills, not just birth control, have so many negative side effects. If you pay attention to pretty much any commercial involving medication, they spend about half of the commercial if not more time telling you what could go wrong, and they only cover up the symptoms, not treat the root cause
They have to mention every possible side effect, no matter how rare. Consumers like you are bad at judging probabilities and risk factors. That's why you should seek an expert's advice, i.e. a doctor. They can help you understand what side effects, if any, are likely for YOU, and monitor your response to the drugs to take you off or adjust dosage as appropriate.
That’s why I couldn’t watch tv. Even since a kid - every commercial break they’d have at least 1 medication and it gave me anxiety hearing all those side effects. Plus, for some reason, the volume got way louder on the commercials. I’d stand up, and go outside every time. Little did they know they were so blatant with the programming and brainwashing that they deterred me completely lol. In the UK, there’s a commercial break at the beginning of a show, at the midway point, and at the end. Much more reasonable in my opinion.
I’m a drug/addiction addiction studies major and I can say genuinely that the most slept on and undervalued drugs on the market are the ones that tamper with your hormone profile. Gals hopping on the pill at the drop of a hat is not too different from guys jumping on a steroid cycle at the drop of a hat…which obvi a lot of guys aren’t doing
@Mark Lasco very true...but unless the national data has changed significantly in the last year, the percentage of guys hopping on trt is still lower than the percentage of gals hopping on the pill
As a man, I never knew any of this and it appears that most people didn't. This is honestly scary because of how early birth control is pushed on girls. My question is what are the long term effects that we have no idea about yet?
Problem is that younger teens are risky when it comes to sex and the consequences can be life-altering. Even the most i-dotting-t-crossing guy can have that one time where they get carried away.
I took birth control for 15 years!!!!! I stopped over a year ago and I feel so much better.. I finally feel like it’s working it’s way out of my body completely. I’ll keep spreading the good word for women to be informed! Love to see other women making these types of videos and sharing their experiences. I also think it’s important info for men to know too! Tracking my cycle has been soooo much better for me! Women should be taught this early on instead of BC being pushed by doctors. I was put on BC as a teenager by my gyno. My PCOS has actually IMPROVED since I got off BC. My mood, anxiety, libido, and everything have improved soooo much too.
Hi, thebirth control pill depletes the body of the mineral magnesium. If you take Chelated magnesium supplements, it should solve your PCOS along with various other ailments.
Based as hell. In all seriousness, this is just another example of the over medication of our society over the past few decades. The entitlement to have all of your problems solved instantly by taking a pill is not healthy. The first girlfriend that I was intimate with said she had tried birth control and she hated it. I didn't think much of it and accepted that maybe it wasn't right for her. My second intimate girlfriend brought up going back on the pill when things were getting serious. I encouraged it because what the hell did I know. I know a lot more and am significantly more based than I was then (that was only 3 years ago). I hope this coming closer to the surface wakes more people up. I will never recommend anyone I am with to take birth control and this makes me even skeptical to date anyone who is on it. Thanks for all that you do, Courtney. I learn something new in all of your videos and I look forward to them every day.
Hey Courtney... Perhaps, since you are advocating a 'natural' approach to preventing an unwanted pregnancy, it might be a good idea for you do do some educational videos on this topic. This would probably be helpful information for many woman AND Men. - StayWell
Courtney, my boyfriend recommended your channel to me and I really enjoy your content! Thank you for talking about this. I was on the pill for 15 years to "treat" a myriad of hormonal issues, including acne and endometriosis. I believe the pill was a factor in my divorce after almost five years of marriage. I had another long-term relationship but it didn't work out and the things you mention in your video seem to match what I went through. I started seeing a functional medicine doctor last year and this March I started a protocol to heal my gut in order to be able to get off the pill without going through the dreaded "Post-Birth-Control Syndrome", and after only three months on it my doctor took me off the pill in June. I am amazed at the changes that I have experienced. I've lost 25lbs, I sleep better, I feel better, I look better, my body shape is changing, my depression, anxiety, and even suicidal ideations are all gone, my cycles are painless, my hormones are regulated, it's all very powerful to me. I feel like a butterfly that just came out of her cocoon and is experiencing everything for the first time. Interestingly enough, not long after going off the pill, I decided to start dating again and I have a wonderful man by my side whom I am sure I selected myself and not my brain fogged by chemicals! It's a scary thought to ponder! I'm so thankful I had the guidance to go off the pill in a way that worked best for me and I'm so glad to hear you didn't go through PBCS after stopping the pill! Please keep up the good work. Women and men need more content like yours!
Wow! 🥹🫶🏼 I am so happy you are on the mend and feeling like your beautiful self again! Thank you so much for sharing this and for your kind words. Hugs!!
Your relationship with the pill looks like a toxic relationship, knowing you need to stop but continuing and once leaving, realizing you're much better off. Power to you sis !
I love videos like these where very little known facts are brought to light, I had encouraged my previous partner to get on BC since we got together at a very young age and could not risk having a child but after watching this it is not fair to put women through such side effects specially if it can put a sudden strain on our relationship. Better to learn your natural fertility cycle, and men to use condoms.
I agree 100%! I also want to add the non-hormonal Gynefix IUD. It is not as known in the U.S as it is in Europe, but it is a non-hormonal IUD which is smaller and more flexible than the classic t-shaped non-hormonal IUD, and it doesnt increase the amount and pain of the periods like the paraguard does. Definitely worth looking into, the reviews are very positive. More people should be aware of that! People in the U.S usually dont know about that option because it is not marketed there, the doctors who apply it have to request it from Europe.
@@selintuncer5430 its messed up how much stuff isn't available in the US, the FDA protects company profits ahead of patient care. The history of the epi pen is a great example of the FDA repeatedly blocking other options simply to protect profits ahead of people.
I like you comment my ex who broke up with me 4 months ago we where together for 7 years when we first started dating he kept pressing me and telling me to get on birth control he said a couple the forced me to go on it one of them no s...e.....x until I was on it and if I became pregnant he wanted me to have an abortion and his ex before me he didn't make her or force her on birth control and got her pregnant shortly after they started dating he has a 12 year old with her and pretty sure the birth control messed up my system he dumb me and went back to his child's mother
Courtney, I NEVER comment on RU-vid videos. I've been saying birth control is terrible for years now. I dated girls and watched them go on and off birth control and would see them change in the ways you explain. My attraction to them physically would even change, the way they smelled and felt to me would change and the birth control would always cause issues in my relationships. Thank you so much for sharing this. People need to hear this, I truly believe birth control is ruining the world. Keep up the good work, thank you so much.
THANK YOU FOR SPEAKING ON THIS!! I stopped taking the pill 2 years ago and I refuse to ever go back. A week after I came off of it I felt like a cloud of sadness and anxiety had been lifted. I tried to tell my healthcare provider and friends about what I learned about the negative psychological impacts of the pill but I felt like nobody took me seriously or believed me. I’m so happy you’re life has improved so much and thank you for helping me feel less crazy and alone for avoiding synthetic hormones!!
I love your videos ..they are so informative ..helped me refresh my wardrobe ..also I feel like I could trust any word of advice you have to give out there.. you give off a very genuine vibe and not just someone who's spicing things up to gain more viewers
Thank you for bringing awareness to this issue. As a guy I don't have much direct experience here but its something I've always wondered about, to the point of worrying in past relationships if taking this little pill that seemed so normal and widespread could be harmful to us in ways we couldn't yet see or comprehend. We are conditioned to accept so many things in life without thinking and its never too late to question or change them.
Thanks for talking about this! I want to note that this is true for hormonal birth control. The healthcare system in the U.S. pushes individuals to get on hormonal birth control and it is prescribed for non-fertility related issues such as acne so easily! It surprised me a lot when I met people from the U.S and they are casually on hormones even when they are not sexually active. The non-hormonal options arent as wide as Europe. The t-shaped paraguard iud is the only non hormonal option other than condoms, which causes very crampy periods and increases the bleeding a lot, While better options like gynefix and copper ball arent in the U.S market. They should be introduced and doctors should stop prescribing hormons for everything!
Yeah, I found out about the pill changing what women on it are attracted to a few yrs ago on the channel Aydin Paladin. I did not know that was a thing but after learning that, certain things made more sense like the increase in divorce initiated by women and the declining happiness of women in the last few decades despite being the most free and independent etc etc makes more sense knowing that BC affects mood and causes depression. I think the last couple of yrs has taught us that we should be questioning all medications a lot more than we currently do. Keep up the good work with the videos!
Wow 😳 this is an eye opener I lost my gf of 9 yrs relationship just after she decided to get off birth control pills.. she didn't only end the relationship but literally call police on me when I tried to make things up with her.
@@theghostkillz8921 lol 😂 I became crazy with my ex not proud of it he was a good guy but I felt so trapped with him idk what I wanted (I was on birth control too) I couldn’t talk about my feelings and eventually we finally broke up and I fell into depression and more. Im still working on myself 6 months later 😂 and I jus hope it’s all out of my system soon and I can start loving myself again because I became so crazy. ( and I also gained hella weight with him i can’t even recognize myself even tho I lost like 20 pounds I still hate myself and I wanna lose more.. im never taking bc again that’s fs)😭
A lot of girls are told to start taking the pill right when they hit puberty. That is absolutely insane. The idea of 'temporary infertility' for men is horrifying as well.
The huge caveat is that, for us, it’s either surgery (which sometimes isn’t reversible), our reproductive organs are a lot more obviously vulnerable, and that it’s risky for male subjects in trials for The Pill for men since it’s more difficult to control.
Thank you for taking the time to talk to men and women about this issue. The more we can open up and empathize with people the better and that means talking about things that might be considered private. When I met my wife, she wasn't on the pill. Later she went on it, but she had a hard time taking it at a consistent time like instructed. That may have led to not as many of the negative issues as talked about here surfacing with her, but that's also my recollection, not hers. I do remember that I felt bad that she was the one that had to deal with that issue and I as a guy got off, "Scott free." It didn't and still doesn't seem right or fair especially when we got engaged and were trying to set up as equal of a partnership in our relationship as possible. Later she went off the pill and we have had success with other forms of birth control. I also think Courtney is right in that there's a big push for a seemingly "magic pill to fix all my problems," in health care. There is no magic pill. New meds come out all the time but there's no data about long term effects until years later when people have been hurt and class action lawsuits arise. My advice, speaking as a paramedic with 12 years of experience, is to do everything you can to take as few medications as possible. There are a lot of advantages to modern medicines, and they do a lot of good, don't get me wrong. But healthy habits like a good diet, exercise, and whatever form of meditation you use can have a lot of great benefits without all the artificial chemicals going into one's system.
This is enlightening. I am a single man currently looking for a long term relationship with a woman. My biggest obstacle is finding a woman who also never wants to have children. Children are not for everyone. I don't want to compromise on that, nor do I want to talk anyone else out of it. I could use advice on that. In terms of male birth control, I would much rather get a vasectomy than wear a condom. Perhaps more men should get vasectomies and taking responsibility in this area, rather than forcing women to be on birth control or even something more serious like tubal ligation, hysterectomy or anything else along those lines.
Just have to be open about not wanting them, there are quite a lot of women that just don't want them anymore. That said, be careful as around 40 they often start questioning the decision, but it generally will wear off in a few years. Multiple studies into couples have found that couples who intentionally remained childless were statistically more likely to report being happier in their personal life and as a couple at every stage of the relationship be it young or about to die of old age.
Courtney I applaud how you are really putting yourself out there especially with something as personal as using birth control. Side effects (short and long term) are way too risky for the pill. I hope commentators are understanding and sympathetic.
Yes, I have been saying this for years after my ex girlfriend broke up with me. She got pregnant and got an abortion and after she went on birth control. She was not the same person. Were talking about a 21 year old that was acting like she was 41. She wouldn't want to have sex because she said she didn't want to get pregnant, she would get mad at any little silly thing, and if I said anything hell would brake loose.
Thanks for making this video, I experienced the same thing when I was 19 plus a whole slough of other issues and stopped taking the pill even tho my doctor kept recommending it. I took matters into my own hands and learned about My natural cycle/body and over the past 12 years I have gained more control on my overall feminine health. This is not to say that the doctors don’t know what they are talking about but I would often lean the gyn with more questions than answers/solutions. Everything is an experiment and needs to be tested and studied, and I was not comfortable being the subject. I do have many friends who have had unplanned pregnancies while they were on birth control or as soon as they stopped taking it and I do believe this is due to the lack of learning how their own cycle and fertility works.
I had a friend who's wife got off birth control so they can try to conceive and she not only lost attraction to him, but she realized she was actually attracted to women. They ended up getting divorced.
Translation: Without birth control, women would go for men that offer them long term potential rather than short term "pleasure" and hook-ups especially cool dudes and deadbeats.
Back to front. On birth control they look for someone to raise the kid their body thinks they are pregnant with and off birth control they are looking to get pregnant by the most dominant and successful males.
I always talk my exes out of taking pills because I'm a firm believer in not altering the human body's physiology with artificial pharmaceutical products that we're all been profiteered by the pharmaceutical industry, but rather let your body correct itself with natural remedies.
I've had a fiancé and a girlfriend who stopped being attracted to me once they took it. It was like their love was turned off. They both lost interest in me. The fiancé dumped me first semester of grad school, and the other found a guy with a sailboat on tinder while I was away.
Derek (@More Plates More Dates) has been talking about this for a few years. Many people do not realize that hormonal birth control is effectively a mini-steroid cycle, so it is not surprising that it has many of the same symptoms of guys when they are on a cycle. Regarding the male birth control: the first round of testing got shut down because they found it left several of the subjects permanently sterile. I think it is fairly safe to say that we really should stop trying to trick our bodies into doing what we want them to do as it is just leaving people with massive medical problems down the road.
I had the exact same experience as you! My periods are bad and my friends keep trying to tell me to get back on it but I’d much rather suffer for a few days a month and be normal the rest of the time!
Thanks for sharing this, Courtney. This is all really good to know. I'm so glad you found out the pill was causing you all those problems and that you got off of it.
I really do think the best option is to follow the Catholic Churches teaching on this. Even if you don’t subscribe to the church and you don’t think it’s immoral to use contraception whilst having sex. As it turns out the church is also just plain good at giving advice that leads to more general happiness. Why not give the church a try?
I just love you, Courtney. You're 100% taking this channel in the right direction. You educate both men *and* women. And I think you should keep it up! :)
Could this be the reason why married women cheat so much when they start going to the gym? I feel bad sometimes but men, if your woman is working out without you and you happen to be out of shape, your marriage is in huge trouble.
My girlfriend of 5 years was on birth control for 4 of those 5 years… I’ve mentioned my fears to her several times about the hormone differences and how it affects attraction and how that would affect our relationship… after she got off birth control, her attraction literally dropped by like 50%… and maybe it was a self fulfilling prophecy because I personally was concerned about it… but her behavior patterns and libido basically disappeared… she was no longer the woman I used to love… I’m sure it went both ways… but I had very much had this experience and it sucks…
This video has been a real education for me. As a guy, I was aware of some of the side-effects, but I didn't know how deep the impact of the pill has on a woman's body. Thank you for this video!!!
I was put on the pill at 14 when I started getting mild acne. I was told to remain on it to ensure I wouldn’t get acne again and years later I became sexually active so was told to remain on it for that reason. I would get migraines so severe that I would lose my peripheral vision, sometimes faint and vomit. Still told to remain on it. After being on the pill for a decade I noticed anxiety and depression being part of daily life. I took a break from the pill for a few years and immediately felt better. Once I got into a long term relationship again I took the pill again for the last time and stayed on it for two years…..zero sex drive, volatile mood swings, anxiety. So I got off it and got severe acne for two years as my body was struggling to balance out my hormones. Other than the acne, I felt so much better coming off the pill. Like a dark cloud had lifted. I was definitely disappointed in myself for not taking the time to learn about my cycle and how to track it. I think this should be part of the education curriculum as studies have shown girls are starting their periods much earlier now.
@@CourtneyRyan honesty a dark cloud is the only way I could explain it to people! I really love how you delivered this content and it’s so nice to see men in the comments not realising the effect BC has on women, watching your video and being so receptive and changing their own perspective on it.
Some women even get cancer from long pill usage overtime. The good news is since your not taking it you save a bunch of money in the short term and long term overtime.
@@Comeback180 I’m from the U.K. so there is no cost to me taking birth control and I think that’s part of the problem. It’s the first solution from the doctor and is incredibly accessible. If you go to a family planning clinic you can get a years worth in advance and so skip having your blood pressure taken along with height and weight that would be routine at the doctors office. I remember being encouraged to overlap my pill packets and not take the 7 day break if it was inconvenient (say I was going on holiday as an example). There is no education offered when you start the pill and no explanation of side effects given. Just a few basic questions to answer and you’re set. When my migraines got so severe I was nearly in a car accident, they just changed we to a different pill with a lower hormone level. Coming off the pill was never really a discussion.
@@Comeback180 it can also reduce cancer risk though. There was a long running legal case for Catholic nuns to be able to use birth control in order to stop having their periods. Reason being that as nuns generally never get pregnant they never get a break from regular periods and the risk of various reproductive related cancers increased (ovarian, uterine). Having a period is a pretty heavy strain on the body and in the old days when women would get pregnant every year or two they would spend a lot of their life not having them. The idea of fertile women going for over a decade without getting pregnant is a relatively modern issue but the negative effects are already becoming clear.
My mom was super against me starting on BC, at that time everyone started taking it for cramps, acne etc and I kinda felt a lil left out but didn't think much about it. Now I'm extremely thankful that she was so against it. 😺
"Don't take those Anabolic Steroids, they'll shrink your 'bits'. Make you go into a rage." People half joking, half serious about Anabolic Steroid abuse while in High School (2009). "...." What I heard in school about Estrogen and Progesterone use while I was in High School (2009).
My mother (in her 70's) wondered the other day why so many young women now were on anti depressants or anti anxiety medications. She wasn't being condescending but was genuinely confused. After seeing this video, I have to wonder if there is a connection. And you're right, we certainly are all guinea pigs today. I am now 47, but as an 18 year old with acne my doctor prescribed me Tetracycline, which did work, but has a lot of side effects including anxiety, and many long term which I don't seem to have. A responsible doctor should have told me, "Son, you'll be done with this in like 2 years, let's look at some natural solutions that might help." Great video as always. Very helpful. Thank you.
Relationships? Oh, that was back in the day. Pre-2000. Sorry, we've now moved on to a strictly financial transaction between men and women. Takes a lot of the give and take out of it.
I have a brand new answer to, "How are you still single!?" On a serious note, I do have a personal experience with this. Without sharing too many details, out of respect to her, a doctor prescribed birth control to my ex for various common ailments. I told her to stop taking it and work on a natural solution like eating better foods and getting more nutrients and vital minerals along with exercise. We actually had a pretty good relationship after that so I don't think it was the birth control that ended the relationship but other compatibility issues.
I commend you for speaking about this publicly. I've never heard a woman say anything negative about the pill. Hopefully it will help others question it. Now I encourage you to look into how abortion affects women. You will be shocked.
Not just birth control affecting women's hormones causing a lot of infertility&depression, what I find to be extraordinarily scary is the fact that water filtration companies only filter out bacteria&solids, they do not filter out hormones so men and women that drink tap water are exposed to even more of those birth control hormones which can cause a lot of men to develop cancers as well as a massive loss in testosterone. Yes certain estrogens can prevent cancers but a wide variety of estrogens can also cause cancer, like having plastic in your food can lead to clotting as well as cancers in organ tissues. Isn't it alarming to anyone else that men are developing breast cancer? That should be scary to any man that is highly estrogenic that has female breast tissue in place of skeletal muscle that is phenomenal for the immune system as well as the hormones of a man
I would never mess with my male hormones like this, and I would never want my future wife to go through it either! Worst case scenario: we have more kids. Oh no, building and raising the next generation for the flourishing of human society, whyyy!
I'm very happy that you talked about this topic! The health of our generation is getting worse and worse because of all these hormones and chemicals we are letting our bodys getting exposed
In my experience in my mid 40’s, this explains a lot. I’ll be sure to bring up the topic. Thanks this information is incalculable It’s unfortunate that women suffer in silence, I hope this can shed a massive light on the matter. I always wear one.
I could never stand birth control, after I took bio and realized how hormones work. My ex took it because she thought it's what I wanted (I actually told her not to and she did anyways), but messing with hormones is never a good idea. It's like steroid treatment for women, and I don't think anyone wants steroid treatment side effects
I am a Catholic, and my Church is against birth control of any kind, NFP excepted (which is technically _not_ birth control ). Yet, it is very interesting to hear about the negative biological effects of the the pill. Thank you for sharing this, Courtney.
Wow Courtney, what a good topic! I have some random, disjointed thoughts that I'll share here. One, hormones regulate the body's functions; mess with them, and you mess with your body's functions; it's only common sense. Two, WRT birth control, the only 100% effective contraceptive is abstinence. I'm viewing this not only through a Christian lens, but my own life experience with drama, unnecessary worry, and so on.. Three, if your acne re-emerges, consulting a good dermatologist will help. I had bad acne as a teenager, and a good dermatologist worked winders! Four, thanks for talking about this. Finally, I'm glad your life is going so much better! Have a nice day... :)
Interesting. As a guy I’ve been seeing women on TikTok blame men for the effects birth control but I didn’t know what the side effects were. Thanks for this video.
Thanks for being brave enough to put this information out there. It’s taken me more than a decade of dating women to notice this trend. It’s bad and nobody is talking about it. When I finally met my wife and got married, my wife confirmed everything I had suspected and basically told me everything you told me. Men don’t know anything of this for the most part.
Wow you just made me realize a lot. I was taking the pill when I was with a guy. I stopped taking it after. During our relationship I was very moody and my hormones were insane I wanted sex 24/7 and got mad without it for a day. I never was like that before and I’m not like that after. I thought it was just cause it was sexual relationship but I’ve been in one before without the pill and I wasn’t like that. I feel so much better I’m never going back again.
@@CourtneyRyan Thanks for your video! Honestly now I think of it the pill ruined our relationship. The mood swings and sex problems that were caused by the pill were big reasons on why we broke up and I never realized it was the pill.
My gf and I had a great sex life and the moment she got on the pill she seemed less interested in me, and now she's completely ballooned in weight. I've suggested getting off the pill, as I assumed there must have been a connection there, but she says it helps minimalize her period symptoms and doesn't want to get off it. I'm afraid we're likely at the end of our relationship as this has gone on for too long now.
Such an underrated topic and I'm so glad you brought this up. My ex would go through crazy mood swings and deep levels of sadness and I truly believe that the pill caused a lot of it. I hope that someday there will be something more reliable for both individuals
I heard this pill is 95% effective and 5% she can still get pregnant. Thanks for sharing this on what a woman goes through when she's on the pill. It's unfortunate that this has to happen to her. Men can now have a better understand what she is going through.
This is why you should always use at least 3 forms of birth control, each time, every time you have sex. Then, if one fails the back ups give you better odds of preventing accidental pregnancy. With the pill, a diaphragm, and using a condom, the odds of pregnancy drop to about 1 in 50,000. 👍
@@marcmays48 i cannot agree more, i ended up pregnant with a condom. appearently there can be micro holes in it, unseeable for the human eye. traumatizing experience..
@@WitchOnABroomstick Sorry to hear that. Condoms can break or leak, and are only about 90% effective at best. If you use at least 3 forms of birth control, then (according to Bayes' Theorem), your odds of unintended pregnancy drop dramatically. It's even more important now, with the recent Supreme Court decision overturning Roe v. Wade.
@@marcmays48 You are totally right! And i very much agree with using at least 3 forms of birth control. Its obviously my own fault nontheless. The relationship i was in is over now, so now i don't ''have'' to have intercourse anymore. It feels like im free now💜
Really interesting topic. Not being a woman I don't think about this stuff unless a woman makes me, and even then I don't really understand it. The idea that it changes who a girl's attracted to really gets my attention.
It definitely had an effect on my relationship with a former partner. They took the pill 6 months into the relationship. They did this of their own accord. I was perfectly happy using other methods of contraception so I didn't understand why they did it. Things really changed during this time. Her libido dropped and she had lots of mood swings. She eventually came off the pill and things didn't improve.
These subjects require more discussion: Roe v Wade Number of single parents in the US Number of people that have children that can't afford them Number of men that opt to get a Vasectomy Continued discussion about all the forms of birth control
Roe vs Wade was a bad ruling that got over turned by the SCOTUS. It is not the federal governments job to regulate abortions. That is voted on at the state level. A lot of people that are pro choice agree it was the right decision.
It's now a known fact that many women on the pill trend toward attraction to men who cater to them rather than a true balance. Once off the pill ... the attraction trends to the more masculine man
My ex girlfriend of 7 years went off the pill and 4 months later broke up with me and never looked back...tbh this is exactly what i was looking for. I always connected the two and even brought it up to her during our ending stage but at the end of the day i try to tell myself not to use this as justification. regardless,The experience of being a man on the opposite of the issue, I STRONGLY encourage any women to communicate with their significant other if you are in this same situation. If not, you may end up hurting one of another deeply without even knowing. :)
Here’s a story for you. In my first LTR my GF cheated on me and detonated our relationship as she cycled onto the pill with, ironically, the stated intent of wanting to fully consummate OUR relationship. She had a weekend away at a music camp and met a guy there she had an instant strong attraction to. I’ve often wondered if her messed-up hormonal state had a role to play in that, it seemed way out of character for her at the time, she was sexually pretty reticent in fact, with a real fear of getting pregnant which not trusting condoms and going on the pill was supposed to solve. Tough to know of course, there were other issues in our relationship, some of these again caused by her not wanting to fully commit sexually, or maybe that was the symptom of a fundamental lack of attraction on her part?. Who knows? It really made me feel very small at the time that’s for sure. I’d been super respectful for a YEAR to this girl and 24 hours with another guy was all it took to undermine that. Part of being super respectful was it also beta-ized me in her mind over time I suspect as I sought validation for the lack of sex (penetrative - we did other stuff), but maybe messed up hormones played a part too in her infidelity? I’ll never know.
A Massive Eye Opener! Huge empathy for those women suffering unnecessarily. Happy to wear a condom if it spares women from these horrific side effects!
i stopped taking the pill too and ended up pregnant even with condom.. be carefull cause there can be micro holes in the condom, cant see it with the human eye.. traumatizing experience for me
This is actually insane. When I look back to my relationship with my ex, we wanted to have sex with each other badly, and we both agreed to have her take the pill to have “better sex.” after two months, her sex drive tanked, and I was too immature to ask why or ask her to stop taking the pill. Whenever I enter my next relationship, I’m just going to stock up on those Trojan condoms lol
I can relate to your experience. Although we are older my previous GF was on the pill for 20 years and she would have bouts of depression, very low sex drive and low energy. Two months after she stopped taking the pill she had lost ten pounds, much happier on a daily basis and her sex drive soared. She never had acne or difficult periods when she was younger and only went on it for birth control. Well no sense on being on birth control if you’re never interested in sex! Night and day difference in her libido after going off them.
i stopped taking the pill too and ended up pregnant even with condom.. be carefull cause there can be micro holes in the condom, cant see it with the human eye.. traumatizing experience for me
I was on the pill from 16 to 24. I was okay the first 4 years on it. Starting around 20 was when I started getting chronic yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, experienced vaginal dryness, low libido, I am an emotion personal so I can’t say if it made me more emotional or not. The yeast infection would not go away. Every month for like 5 years I got them. Antibiotics didn’t work, only thing that worked was getting off the pill. And after getting off of the pill I developed PCOS august of 2022. It took me a full year for my period to go back to normal. I am on month 4 of getting my period in a row and I’m really happy. My sex drive feels normal now. When I was on birth control I barely wanted sex and my brain like told me don’t have sex. It’s weird and doesn’t make full sense but like I wasn’t interested. Which caused issues in my relationship. I got off of birth control in October 2021. I came out to my boyfriend that I am bisexual and I feel like my sex drive is back to how it was before the pill. Me and my boyfriend get a long better now that I am off the pill. It’s weird but I feel more attracted to him now than I did before when I was on birth control. There needs to be more info on the side effects of all birth controls. I had 5 years of hell and the a year of hell trying to get my body back to its normal state. But now since I have PCOS the weight won’t come off. But my testosterone levels are finally at a normal range for a woman.
I remember a study where they found that women on the pill preferred men with a beard or stubble, while women off the pill preferred men who had no facial hair at all (or other way round).
my gf and i have an amazing sex life and she's on the pill. i wish men had the option to start taking it too though. it adjusts your hormones so i'm sure in extreme cases it can alter your mood one way or another. but i'd personally do some more research after this video to see how common these side effects are vs questions like how often you're stressed, etc
you are crazy to think that altering your mood happens in extreme cases, no, that's a very common case. That's what hormones do, they affect you. The pill is a hormone.
@@renenetatm8222 correct, but they contain the man-made/lab synthetic versions of the naturally derived hormones. Not the exact hormones made through the body, they’re analog isomers Here’s a link to look into further: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4827491/
Thanks for making this - my last girlfriend I noticed a big difference in her personality, and I’m so glad my current girlfriend doesn’t take BC because she knows about the side effects Also, weird take, but I like that my gf has a regular and healthy period
This channel is getting more an more interesting. It went from being a generic blue pill channel to a channel with actual interesting content that goes against the mainstream narrative. Keep going, I like it!
We are in the world where quick fixes are so common we don’t stop to think if it’s the correct way to approach a problem. Great video Courtney, I think more men and women need to watch this video. It’s a great explanation into why relationships/dating is so tough today
That's why the call it the divorce pill. Women take it when dating but then go off it after marriage when they want to have a kid and next thing they know she hates her husband
Actually, I disagree with condoms. I think that a big part of the problem we have with relationships today, especially due in part to hookup culture in general, is the idea that sex is primarily for pleasure. The ideas people have about responsibility when it comes to the idea of parenthood are so horrible compared to what the were even 40 years ago. Sex feels great when it’s with someone you’re committed to, and it may be hard and a long time before you find that person, but we need to make the family unit great again. Just look at the statistics regarding fatherless children. It’s disgusting, and I myself am in that statistic. The damage my parents did by fooling around without being with someone you want to commit to, and are compatible with, reached much further than their immediate troubles after they found out I was on the way. I have to deal with the consequences of their actions for my entire life. So please, consider how big a deal sex and relationships are, and try to look further down the line than the following morning, when you find out if she actually has eyebrows.
Well, your parents clearly didn't use a condom so that's not really an argument against it. And folks have used condom like devices since ancient Egypt. As far as arbitrary "responsibility", there's no obligation to have kids, they'll probably be miserable anyway.
Sex is valued more or less depending on the person, l had an overweight friend who was raised in a very religious way that didn't value it much(then again he lost his penis for awhile due to the amount of fat surrounding it and his lack of size). I on the other hand being fit, healthy and well hung lived for sex in my younger days. It was the most important thing to me, often involving sleepless weekends of non-stop action. Just because you put a low value on sexual interaction doesn't mean everyone will. It does suggest that you have/had a low sex drive which often is due to either poor health or feeling or being very low in terms of desirability and thus having limited options. It may also stem from low hormone levels or the messed up concepts that you learnt growing up. At the end of the day, people are just animals and procreation is the most important factor for any animal after survival. In a young healthy human the sex drive should be extremely strong and if it isn't then there is likely something wrong, be it physical, mental or social.
100% agree, Casey! Wish people would be more responsible when it comes to sex. I think most people aren't considering at all the long-term consequences of their actions.
@@Jake12220 I disagree. People are much more than just animals, and procreation is a gift from God. You can argue against it, and I'll go back and forth with you if you're open to changing your perspective, but the evidence for God far outweighs people's everyday perceptions. As a Christian, I understand that people are human, and all of us, myself included, are capable of committing terrible actions in our own interest. But I also know God moves in everyone's hearts, drawing them to Him, and I believe we have the capacity to do much better; we just choose not to.
@@caseychupinski7553 oh dear god l hate people that believe in a benevolent god. Like how stupid or obstinate must you be to ignore all the incredibly messed up shit in this world? People will argue about the actions of mankind and blame it on us, but you just need to observe nature to see how completely psyco the bastard must be. Wasps that paralyse animals before laying eggs in them that slowly eat them alive from the inside, killer wales that playfully toss live seal cubs around like a ball for fun, pests that destroy whole ecosystems and animals slowly dying in the most hideously nasty ways. There is so much nasty crap in this world that isn't necessary, so much stuff that makes the world horrible to live in that serves no use other than to make it suck. Malaria, mosquitos, every nasty messed up disease you can think of are all the creation of a benevolent god? Seriously? Have you read the old testament, the guy was and still is a psychopathic asshole. At least l respect Buddhism and Hinduism where suffering is considered part of life, but the Christian idea of a god that loves you is just a freeking joke.
:( I know. I wish sometimes things were different. It's so hard to imagine people not taking it with college, careers and material goods have become so important to most people now.
I appreciate the information you provide here, Courtney, and I don't want to be seen as contradicting any of your points......but I have to say, the opposite side of the coin is an unwanted pregnancy. (I know, duh!) The course of my life was basically altered and ruined when I was eighteen and my long term girlfriend was seventeen, and "we" became pregnant. Abortion was VERY difficult to obtain back then (1970), and so we did what was considered "right" and were married. Sadly, it was ultimately a disaster, and my daughter suffered the worst. Children raising children is never a good situation, and my daughter, at age 52, STILL suffers extreme trauma because of it. There's no medicine on Earth that doesn't have some side effects, but too often, the alternative is even worse. Thanks for an illuminating and provocative video.
