I love it too lol. I feel (ik this is bad) that he’s right though. She’s going to seperate from her husband, and that’s when she’ll be able to find someone new. Then she can have her moment
As someone who got married at 19 (divorced at 20), that was hilarious. I swore up and down I would not be the statistic. But I was. Fully aware that it can work for people, but with all those red flags... Shayne has a point!
2 things I noticed about the second story; 1. She had a bunch of gifts from her coworkers/employers which meant that this wasn't an impulse decision to quit on the day. If she got gifts she probably handed in her (at least) 2 weeks notice and she was probably a centralised member of whatever place she worked at and she just dropped that. 2. Not long after OP left he gets contacted by his son asking why they're divorcing and breaking up the family. She wasted NO TIME in telling their kids that daddy doesn't love them and is changing their lives forever. Manipulation at its finest.
This. I feel like they are missing the point in how manipulative and completely disrespectful she is being throughout this whole thing. She does not get to make unilateral decisions for their marriage.
@@jaylynn8630agreed. it feels like they think the blame is on the both of them. i don't think an impulsive wrong decision (fleeing from the house) is comparable to a thought out plan which disregards your partner's explicit wishes ("I don't want you to be a stay at home mom" "well, fuck you then"). they even went so far as to call him controlling for that, I disagree on that
@@fi592y’all are cherry picking what they’re saying hard. They’re saying they didn’t communicate what they wanted from the marriage. Also leaving your kids is nuts, and he didn’t even call them back after the message of the crying. Obviously she’s manipulative they even said this but the dude LEAVING his kids is an asshole for leaving his kids. Both are at fault for not communicating what they wanted out of a marriage she’s at fault for strong arming him and doing stuff on her own which Courtney said.
As an adult, you do not bring children into adult problems. She clearly doesn't have the children's best interests at heart. Selfish woman through and through.
45:26 - For people wondering about the update: Basically she stood her ground & told him no, & he slapped her, so she obviously left him - Said she left & was staying with friends - It was also 5yrs ago for those wondering Poor girl... but glad she got out early ❤
I got married young, to someone I'd known 11 months, and we've been together for over a decade and a half. My first thought was STILL, "That won't last." LOL
They even said it in the story, the problem wasn't that they married young it was that they rushed it. I think the op said it was after 5 months of dating. The reason being that op's sister wanted her father, who was ill, to be there. Which is understandable, but still a bad idea.
the trad wife story has a LOT more to it. He has a medical condition as well, and high stress makes it worse, he already works a lot and this is putting his actual literal health at risk. It's way worse then this bit you see here. The second update literally starts with: 'I suffer from a genetic heart condition that puts me at risk to stress induced cardiac arrest.'
This is what I was thinking, there has to be a reason why she can’t be a trad wife. She’s in the wrong but to me it was weird that he didn’t wanted her to when she “doesn’t” need to work. Now with his health issues males sence
@@marilishr5978he mentioned that he can support the family on his own but what he probably means is just they won't be going into debt but with his wife working also, they can provide a better life for their kids and plan family trips, nice birthday/Christmas presents, etc
45:20 update is basically just that she told him she didn’t want the father to check her and he slapped her. She then ended things after that and she was safe at a friends house.
@@kitsunite197 tbf I understand if they didn't want to read the real update for the physical abuse alone, they have covered some pretty nasty stuff on this show but maybe this is deemed worse
In response to the tradwife story - it could be 100% me, but I've noticed a trend in some of the reddit stories commentary that puts a lot of responsibility on a person to essentially have a "better" reaction to being wronged, and effectively taking heat off the person doing the wronging...like yeah, the kids did not at all deserve to be caught in the middle of that, but the wife immediately telling them that he's divorcing her, and having the son call him? That to me reads as manipulation, after she already went behind his back to quit her job.
ya i've noticed that too. I think the cast likes to play devils advocate sometimes because reddit stories are kinda like thought experiments and it can be fun to think through all the sides. However I do think in that story the husband should have made sure his kids were ok because as a parent your kids should always be your top priority and sometimes you have to put aside your own (justified) feelings to make sure they are safe.
No, I agree. This reminds of a similar situation I've had recently with my friends. With some people like that, it seems like you can't do anything right. If you try to defend yourself you're a bad person and they try to pin it on you by saying you overreacted, but if you remove yourself from the situation in order to try and avoid arguments and to have some quiet time to compose yourself, you're still a bad person because you ran away from the problem and didn't give them what they needed in that moment?? I think what the Smosh cast said was understandable and I don't think they are trying to actively find ways to make certain people feel bad like some people are suggesting, I think that's just what they thought at the time, but you are valid in feeling the way you feel about it.
I do know what you mean, however, these are also more than anything hypothetical thought experiments in practice, and I think it's genuinely important to react well to these sorts of situations. Irl, I would absolutely understand someone not reacting well, and I would understand that that moment isn't necessarily the time to criticize, but understanding how one could have done better in a situation is valuable.
19:36 him asking what are you gonna do all day is totally valid, and Courtney tried to paint that as controlling? That was nuts and yeah sometimes these stories just aren’t that complicated
Rock in the hand and the snake in the bush. People will let go of the stable rocks in their life to "gain the loss" of negative value. Another way of saying, getting along with a toxic person is more important than having a stable relationship with a stable person. If you bet on the snake and it bites you, then it's understandable. If the rock grows legs and runs off, it's so shocking. People can't understand what happened.
It’s also just an aesthetic. It’s not actually what being a traditional wife is where your husband has little to no respect for you and you have no say in your own relationship because, traditionally, REAL trad-wives were just property.
Shayne is literally the nicest guy and when he said the line “She’ll have the experience of a real wedding the next time” was BRUTAL! 😂 I love it though.
On the trad wife story, in no way was it appropriate for her to convey to her child that daddy was divorcing mommy when he was out of the house for a day. That was emotional manipulation.
When I was pregnant with my son, I walked in on his father in bed with another woman and I left him. 30 minutes later he had his first son (not mine, but I treated as mine up until that point) and had his 4 year old crying in a voice memo on the phone asking me why I’m taking his brother from him. Really reminded me of that time in my life. I still hold guilt for leaving that little boy, but when it isn’t your child there isn’t much you can do
RE: The guy who didn't want to babysit his nephews on vacation. If there's one thing I've learned in my life, the "keep the peace" mentality just enables toxic behavior. Good on him for standing up for himself and the parents for changing their perspective.
as an aunt of 3 girls and a baby boy, i felt that story. whenever i go to my sister's house to hang out with her and her kids, i have to play this parent role. i have to change the baby, feed, burp, put him down for a nap, play with him, love on him, while my sister scrolls on her phone. its a lot, and he's a good baby, but she has a 4 year old daughter too. so now i have to play with her, make her dinner, potty train her, bathe BOTH of them, its a mess. her and her bf do nothing when im over. i dont mind watching them every once and a while, but im NOT their parent, im their aunt. i love them with my whole heart, the problem isnt them, its my sister.
2nd story. The father did not abandoned his kids. He was so angry he left. He was mad at his wife and it sounds like she enabled the kids to message him. He left his kids with his wife. Thier mother. Parents are only human and need space at times too. The wife sounds like a badd trip
@DannyT-is-free You’re missing the point. They basically arrived at the conclusion “it’s complicated”. This was 1000% the wife’s fault, especially once you factor in the updates, and they still ran damage control for her with the vague “communication” excuse.
okay a little update on the tradwife story if anybody was curious: the guy did end up going back home for awhile and tried to be comfortable with this new arrangement for the time being. his wife promised him that she’d be looking for a job, but she never did. she quickly started neglecting the household chores and her own children. so on top of being the only one working a job, he was now having to cook dinner and take full care of his kids once he got home. one day he came home to his daughter crying in the other room and his wife doing nothing about it, which caused him to finally snap. he told her he was going to divorce her and she absolutely panicked and only started looking for jobs once he said that. he told her that he wasn’t going to fall for that manipulation and that he was leaving her. she ended up telling everybody that he was going to leave her and fully neglect the kids (which is not true at all), so everybody is against him. his own mom is threatening to disown him and his kids refuse to talk to him. he’s going through a really hard time and is really close to ending it all. i genuinely don’t think she ever wanted to be a ‘trad wife’ i feel like she just wanted to stay home and do nothing. i really hope it gets better for him 😭💕
@@Rashadmckai think you’re right about these being filmed a month in advance (might be wrong) but even then that means they just chose not to read the updates because they were written about three months ago
It was seriously beautiful. I imagine them walking down the aisle, with this experience having brought them closer together. OP in her wedding dress lit up with the joy of her special day, arm-in-arm with her beloved sister in gold/silver.
In regard to the Tradwife story, the wife also told the kids immediately after, no waiting at all. She couldn’t just wait until morning to come up with a better way to break the news to her kids or try talking to her husband again? She did that shit on purpose. She wanted the husband to feel like the bad guy to guilt-trip and manipulate him. Huge red flags right there.
My hope is that the messages can be used a evidence of alienation or emotional manipulation to grant OP custody, but considering he didn't even text his kid back, I fear neither of them are going to be great parents moving forward.
well, the husband was the bad guy. A grown man who is a father doesn't just storm out and leave his kids behind because of a disagreement with his wife
Yeah, she did not care how much trauma this would put on the children. She wanted them to cry, to plead, to guilt OP into coming back. When my parents divocred (and it was a bitter divorce), they told me together, calmly, and never used the 'your mum is leaving me' guilt trip
@@rickyricardo9710the wife literally quit her job without discussing with her husband, thus leaving the entire financial load on the husband even after he told her his thoughts on that. She didn’t discuss any further. She literally gave him the silent treatment. And then after the fact, talked shit on her husband to their kids when they are at the age that they know what’s happening. Sure he shouldn’t have left, but his wife literally manipulated him and went behind his back for who knows how long.
Exactly. Like no one would assume instantly when Dad has to go do something that it means their abandoning them, it’s clear manipulation from the wife.
I went to comment exactly that. Could the father have handled this more elegantly? Sure, yeah. But the wife speedrunning telling the kids about the divorce is absolute garbage behavior.
with the house wife one why did the wife even MENTION that he wanted a divorce to the kids? she 100% told them so they’d get upset and try to convince him to come back. super manipulative.
The tradwife story boils my blood. The son shouldn't have even been able to leave that voicemail because the wife shouldn't have told him his dad was abandoning them. She's so manipulative, and from the updates I read, she didn't want to have traditional roles. She just wanted to be lazy, not work and live off of op which is extra shitty to decide solo especially while he hates his job too and has a heart condition. She's the definition of someone not being a partner in a relationship. What the fuck?! The hymen story is so disturbing on so, so many levels. So glad the reddit comments told her to run!
@davidorozco6989 I feel like they usually show bias against asshats actually, but opinions vary I suppose. Eta - by they I mean these 3 specifically but I do tend to agree with their takes most of the time. Obviously other cast members and guests have different views and your not gonna agree with someone on everything 🙂
@@orozco6989i think it depends on who’s in the video not everyone at smosh is gonna have the same opinions or bias’s or views of some stories and there have been some bad bias’s in these videos but thats just gonna happen when you put your immediate opinion out on the internet
I love how arasha is always so empathetic to the emotions behind people’s actions. Not okaying what they’re doing necessarily, but just understanding that the emotions are valid. She’s my fave on these
Unpaid domestic labour constitutes for over half of the labour that maintains the economy. It's delusional as per expected of male chauvinists to pretend domestic work is a gift of no labour.
@@I.X.N.S96 Wow what an intelligent creature, you sure showed them. What do men do all day? Because most employees are for sure not working every minute they are on the job, according to stats.
@@UnBesoDeCristal so? it doesn't matter if you're working every second of your work day or not, you're still getting paid at the end of it. if your kids are at school, your house is fine, then what ARE you doing the whole day? laundry will take an hour, cooking food will take 2 hours max, vacuuming will take another hour, what's next? the wife also lied lmao, she said she would do all the cooking and the child raising, and she did 0 cooking after quitting her job and also ignored her kids when they were crying. the husband came home from work and cooked the food and when he found his daughter all alone in another room crying her eyes out he told the wife they're getting a divorce
as someone who got married at 19 and our marriage is way better than i thought it could ever be. my husband is amazing and our relationship is amazing. we have been married for 6 years! no major issues. DO NOT GET MARRIED THAT YOUNG! even though it worked out for my husband and I, there are too many ways for marriage to go wrong especially at that age. my husband and I luckily grew into adults with similarly life views and wants. but I highly recommend waiting till you are older.
That hymen one is wild! Not only is it disgusting and horrific in many ways, but dude didn't bring it up to her until the day before their wedding?? I'm so glad she left him.
I mean technically OP said he mentioned it way earlier but she assumed it was a joke. these are the sorts of 'jokes' you need to clarify are in fact 100% jokes.
So if anyone wants to know the update. Basically she told him no. He said if she really loved him she would do it and accused her of lying about being a virgin and slapped her when she said no again. She left and broke up with him. And was chilling and eating pizza. Dodged a huge bullet there.
Shane saying the sister will get her moment at her next wedding 😂 when i was a kid, i went to my older cousin’s wedding and said “im not going to her second one” 🤣 and she did indeed have another wedding, and i definitely did not go 😂
And then they be like why are people saying Shane is bisexual lol he’s got good fruity style 😂 but all jokes aside anyone can present and dress however they want but it’s great to see their dress style 😭✨
@@alexvilla1443 Yeah, no, that's the weird part. It doesn't matter what Shayne is, people need to stop being so creepy about his and other Smosh members sexuality.
The update on Story 3 actually made me so emotional, the two of them reconnecting, and talking to each other and her picking her sister to be the one who walks her down the aisle because their dad couldn't be there. I was crying :_:
It’s intense. Fun fact Midsommar is an actual holiday in here in Sweden, was celebrating it last month. It’s not like in the movie though 😅 🌺☀️🐸🇸🇪 (Regarding the frog, if you know you know 😂)
😆 I don’t want to use the word traumatized lightly but, the movie came pretty close to it and I have experienced actual trauma. I was stunned for a few days afterwords.
All these reddit stories where the parents/families want the OPs to just endure poor treatment to "keep the peace" always makes me think of the Ultron quote from Avengers 2: "You're confusing peace with quiet." These OPs have already lost their peace in these situations. When their family members tell them to "keep the peace" they're really saying "suffer in silence" in a way that lets them feel like they're not being selfish and it's disgusting.
This is a reminder for people who have... distasteful family members. The quote is actually "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." Meaning the relationships you cultivate and forge are stronger, and more important, than the ones you are forced into through family ties.
This is a good quote to remember. If you like your family it might be because they (and you when older) cultivated a healthy relationship with good dynamics and respect. Theres no need to be just because theyre family.
Unfortunately no thats not the original quote the claim of that comes from like the 1800s the real quote is much much older That said the revised version is much better and more accurate
So it means the exact opposite? I used to think that "blood is thicker than water" meant family bonds are stronger than friendships. I like the new quote though, it makes more sense, reminds me of another quote "family are just friends you don't get to choose".
@@alistairmurray626 the old quote is the correct one but the new one is better The idea of this new version being the original comes from the 1800s compared to the og quote which is far older
This is the quote I live by. Chosen family > blood family. Always. Though I know I'm fortunate enough to be in a position I don't need to rely on my family, so I don't have a problem cutting then off if it comes to that. However that might not be the situation for everyone else.
The rest of the updates for the brother removing himself from babysitting on family vacation are EPIC. They end up actually going on a vacation. OP gets his own room on a floor separate from his family and doesn’t let his family know which room is his. Sister tries the entire vacation to offload the kids on him, and he just refuses to let that happen. Finally BIL finds out that his wife has been doing this as well as the fact that OP never actually agreed to do the babysitting many times in the past. Sister had told her husband that she had been paying OP and that OP wanted to do the babysitting. BIL genuinely thought just this time OP wanted to enjoy his own vacation, but obviously found out his wife had been lying to him. BIL puts sister in her place and basically threatens to leave her if she doesn’t just take the responsibility as a parent to their own children. BIL and sister were fully in charge of their kids the whole time after that, and BIL is actually a very engaged parent.
@@MrJpaynebb they have to consider time. They would only be able to do one or two stories if they did the whole thing. They’d probably just want more stories rather than long ones
Man, when Shayne said “In families, if they’re single they’re treated like they don’t matter” hits home. I live 8 hours away from my parents, so when I take a vacation to go home to visit, I want to spend time with them and relax. But I’m always getting roped into chores. Last time, I helped my dad haul a ton of stuff to the dump, repainted parts of the house, and helped replace a ceiling fan. Meanwhile, my sister and her husband live less than 5 miles away from them, my parents cook for them and watch their son several times a week. I asked my parents why sister and brother-in-law don’t help and I got told, “Well, they are just so busy, we don’t want to bother them”.
@@reckless_herb, you will never know what real exhaustion is until you have kids. No single person will ever be occupied 24/7. Kids don’t switch off at night.
As a SAHM of 12 years with 2 kids, TikTok has glamorized it so much! I do not have that aesthetic home that is so pretty and organized. I do not take my kids to the park everyday. I clean and homeschool and cook and clean and help manage bills and clean and homeschool and keep everyone alive. It is a job. I’m the last one to bed and first one up. It has its beautiful wonderful benefits, but it also has its difficult side.
As a full-time stay-at-home mom, it's a lot harder than the "trad wife" trend shows it. I totally agree with what they are saying. The way Tik-tok presents it is so idealized and not accurate. Also, it HAS to be a mutual decision. The only reason I can be a SAHM is because my husband gives me the support and help that I need and I trust him to share my struggles knowing he won't judge me for not "working". It's difficult, and unless you are together on the choice, then it will break you.
Exactly, stay at home mom was already a term... just seems like a way to mask their true intentions which is "I dont want to work, i want to sit at home all day".
Exactly! As a SAHM, I'm drowning in my to-do list while also trying to give my kids the attention they need. I'm actually excited for my youngest to start kindergarten, so I can start to catch up.
My problem with the tradwife story is she basically said "I choose for you to support me and our kids financially 100%" which isnt right. Having an excess of funds is a good thing always.
@@orozco6989 More on the update, she did it to be lazy. She didnt even hold up her end of the bargian of being a "tradwife" that she forced. She was ignoring her kid. She wanted him to put in more than a 100% because working that much would kill him, and she didnt cook, clean, or take care her kids, which means he would to do his own chores himself while actually potentially working to death, while so contributes nothing.
Yeah i dont know why the smosh members were acting liek it was more "equal" than it really was. Yes, the dude was wrong for leaving but cmon what the wife did is super not cool
Also, i wonder why the smosh memebers go so easy on the women posters but kind of question the male posters. Like making more suggestions, saying oh he could have done this, or whatever, whereas for female posters they seem to be more cut and dry with the judgement? Not sure tho
@xxaavviieerrrrr yeah I'm not surprised at all divorce crossed his mind, major breach of trust and then a good bit of manipulation to boot. They'll be divorced in 5 years with this dynamic regardless.
Not me now imagining Shayne and Courtney at home sitting on the couch and Shayne reading her Reddit stories, and both screaming when there is an update lol
51:10 I’m a twin and growing up, my parents were exhausted with us, but they’d never force someone else to help. I had a family gathering with a bunch and I ended up babysitting (basically just entertaining the 3 kids so family could talk, parents were two feet away from me lol) but even that’s exhausting, having to take care of three triplets with no help from parents??? Insane.
I feel dumber listening to their opinions about the trad wife. The wife is in the wrong. Period. You don’t quit your job and tell your spouse that they’ll get over it.
@skintagathahotness8456 they've done this on several reddit posts that they read. The woman will clearly be in the wrong, but the group tries talking themselves into believing the guy must also be wrong somehow.
@@deviatetaco3757 Where are y'all getting that they made the guy out to be the bad guy? The worst they said about him was that he shouldn't have ghosted his kids, and that for some people being a trad wife is what both people want. It was overwhelmingly obvious that they thought the wife was in the wrong
huge respect for the sister in the 3rd story for coming clean the second she realized that what she was doing was wrong and hurting someone else, it takes a lot to admit something like that and the way that story ended genuinely made me want to cry just from how sweet it was and im not typically one to cry at just a story like that
The Tradwife story though, I can't believe nobody's pointed out that she weaponized their son against him. Shayne came close towards the end, "who knows what she's telling [the kids]", but didn't hit the mark. Yeah he bailed on them too, but how and why would the son be calling him saying the stuff he said, unless mom fed him some part of the story and put him up to it?
@@skintagathahotness8456 Yep. It's kinda messed up how often they'll blame the man if he's the bad guy but if the woman is the bad guy, they'll both sides it or come up with theories why he must be at fault too. Amanda did it a couple of weeks ago and it happens on Two Hot Takes too.
My mom was a stay at home mom/wife with 5 kids and she did so much. We had a massive back garden where my mom grew loads of different fruit and made tons of jams too. My dad had 2 allotments and grew all the veggies (he was also a gardener) and mom made her own pickles and chutneys etc. I don't know if you'd call my mom a tradwife or not as she did all the childcare, housework, knitted all of our jumpers and made almost all food from scratch, but she used to earn her own money too. She used to do alterations/repairs for the local dry cleaners, she'd knit and crochet jumpers and cardigans to order and she also made novelty cakes to order too. Either way, both of my parents were very happy and it worked well for them. It must be a two-way street and discussed openly and honestly xxx
19:36 yeah but what is she going to do all day? Imagine if anyone else was just like hey I don’t wanna work anymore. I’m just going to stop working and not have any income. You wouldn’t be like.“OK cool follow your dreams!”
The next to last story actually has a lot more updates. Op shared that the vacation was reinstated, his sister was actually holding back money that the husband thought he was paying OP to watch the kids and she was forced to pay him back. She then had a tantrum about op not watching the kids on the vacation, but was shut down by the husband for how entitled she was. Really crazy story, but I highly recommend people reading the full story 😁👍
Thank you!! about that story, everything was ok until they heard that the husband chose to stay out of it and then immediately think that he didn't take care of their children.. I meant it might or might not be true but they don't have enough info to make that assumption, it's unfair.
@@fameeful Yep! I run through the cmts section and notice that a lot of the stories have updates, but I think they left them out either bc they haven't seen them yet or they are too depress to read publicly... tbh non of them are happy ending.
@@CooperPhamkd54 yep, there was this one story they read few episodes ago, where a man posted AITAH for not letting my nephews push me into pool..... man THAT story had ao many further updates that smosh didn't mention.... that story had BEST updates
Yep! I came to the comments to see if anyone else knew about the updates before commenting myself. I first heard this story on Redditor's channel, and he read all the updates. I highly recommend checking him out!
Idk how Arasha could say there was ‘so much fairness on both sides’ in story 2, when it seems that the wife was consistently pushing her husband and being unwilling to negotiate, then gaslighting him about the no sex thing which is insane, and then straight up quitting her job all of a sudden without telling him which is a HUGE deal when u have kids to support, and then immediately try to get the kids on her side telling them about him wanting to divorce her instead of even waiting a moment to inform their kids about it. It doesn’t seem she spent a moment considering her kids, who could use the money to go to school which is so expensive, she only thought about the lifestyle she wanted.
Shayne‘s exceptional insightfulness, Arasha’s well balanced ability to see things from other perspectives, and Courtney’a strong emotional energy and depth of feelings make this an amazing crew to watch heavy stories with. The whole Smosh crew are wildly entertaining and have great takes on these stories. I’m glad these videos continue and can’t wait till next Saturday for more.
I'm pretty sure that in the trad wife story, the mom was the one who told the kids that their father wanted a divorce and put them on the phone to use as tools of warfare. I think it's unlikely that they'd be knowledgeable enough to know why he left or that he was going to be gone for a while.
For anyone wondering about the update they didn’t want to talk about summary is that he didn’t trust her when she said she was a virgin and after she said that if he respects her to trust her and he slapped her. She broke it off right there and that was all that was written.
Man wanting the woman to have her hymen checked by his family is literally asking her to be sexually assaulted by his family. Disgusting, horrific, and unacceptable.
These stories keep getting crazier and crazier omg 🤯 also glad that Courtney and Shayne got to be together on the reddit stories episode about family ❤ so cute and wholesome.. even if the stories weren't
These Saturday videos have become my "cut off" to start chores 😂 Shayne reads me stories while I do laundry, dishes, etc. A nice way to get in the groove
For the hymen story- i think the wifes mom and aunts should stand around him and analyse the size of his ‘member’ to decide if its suitable for the wife to be😂
This practically irrelevant to any of the stories i just wanna say, Courtney's hair this episode is gorgeous, it looks like something out of a drawing.
EXTRA CRUCIAL CONTEXT FOR TRADWIFE STORY: OP HAS HEART ISSUES AND SUFFERED A SILENT HEART ATTACK A DECADE AGO HENCE WHY HE CAN'T WORK 100%. WIFE KNEW THIS AND STILL DECIDED TO BECOME A "TRADWIFE" Except, she didn't actually become a tradwife. She just started neglecting EVERYTHING SHE WAS MEANT TO DO.
Son of narcissistic mom here: tradwife story is very similar to how my mom would use me to get money out of my dad. The fact that the kid left a voicemail asking if he's leaving shows that the story is being twisted in her favor
@@literaltrash5189 they definitely go about it in a way that gives everyone grace and empathy, which can be misinterpreted as them defending that behavior. if the updates were read i feel like they would've done a 180
I like to go through the description to see what kind of stories I’m about to get into, I was NOT prepared for “My fiancé wants to check my hymen before we get married.” So now I get to watch this with whatever horror that’s going to invoke looming over me
Story 2: Guy should definitely divorce his wife. She withheld intimacy and used it to leverage her point. She ALSO put their family in a financially vulnerable position.
@@rmslefttoe9024 exactly what i thought and i'm surprised none of them noticed/pointed that out. how does a kindergarten kid send a voice message begging daddy to come back and asking why he's divorcing mommy... that's manipulation by the wife
I also don't think leaving that first night is abandoning his kids. It's creating space to not blow up more and pull the kids into the immediate fallout even though they will inevitable be effected and I think that's fair.
@@wombat4583yes! maybe he could've hugged them bye but if they were actively fighting i understand wanting to get out asap. one night isn't abandonment. the wife def put that in the kids' heads
the hymen checking family gave me some sort of cult vibe, imagining em checking young women's hymens in a candle-lit dark room filled with people in red cloaks, what the friggin hell
Stay-at-home mom here (of a 2.5 year old and a 1 year old) and the Trad Wife trend is absolutely glamorizing it all. Before we even had kids, my husband and I agreed to me being at SAHM because that’s what we BOTH wanted. I just really appreciate that you guys acknowledge that being a SAHM is a lot of work (especially when your eldest has a rare genetic disorder who needs to see specialists often) and it’s rarely ever aesthetically pleasing. I absolutely love what I do every single day and it’s hard work that I wouldn’t trade for the world! My husband even is in full support of my little Etsy shop on the side to help raise awareness for my son’s syndromic disorder (Cri du Chat Syndrome) and that donates to an organization (5p- Society) that does a lot for the community! It’s just so important to talk with your spouse especially if you don’t agree on something. There’s always a compromise somewhere!
That trad wide story I disagree she did something heinous and he removed himself from the situation. He didn’t run away from the kids and abandon them. What happened is the wife recognised the children and after seeing her husband upset told them prematurely about divorce and set the kids on the husband, which is so unfair, it was a day. Give him some space. Let them process. What’s the problem and be the mother and protect your children if you are getting divorced then the kids together or whatever you decide but don’t tell the kids you’re getting divorced after a threat because you did something outrageous.
One thing people don't often talk about with the trad-wife trend is how dangerous it can be. These women are entering relationships where the power is all at the hands of the man and they are "supposed to submit" to them. It can straight up lead to abuse (financial, emotional, physical, etc), like, one of these famous trad-wife influencers recently came out telling her story about how this dynamic is super romanticized in social media and she ended up in an abusive relationship because of it.
It boggles the mind that people would willingly give up financial, social and emotional sovereignty because someone on tiktok said it would be fun and easy and sooo 50s Americana, ignoring that the 50s was rife with normalised domestic abuse and giving up that sovereignty is a really massive deal. Being entirely beholden to someone else's employment is bonkers. What if your husband gets made redundant or let go in an at-will state? At least in a two-earner household you've got a mild level of protection against that, with the other partner still earning whilst the out-of-work partner looks for a job.
There was a reddit story about a woman who was with some guy for like 30 years and he always refused to get married, and then he proposed after 30 years and she broke up with him and she seemed absolutely clueless to the fact she was completely dependant on him and had no work experience or money.
Internet literacy is very important. Those woman often have jobs that aren’t just influencer jobs, one of them was even a parralegal and most of them don’t have kids.
The people who enter these dynamics are the type to not thinking will happen to them. I feel like she was banking on him sharing completely (and not abusing his power) so she can have the "benefits" influencers presented to her.
You would not believe the number of people who keep falling for it despite how many women have been abandoned and left with nothing. Men are very fickle and the stories of them abandoning their families are NUMEROUS. They don't even care about their kids or the situation they put their wife in they just move on and nothing changes for them.
The tradwife theres an update. OP reveals he has a hearth problem one of the reasons he avoid conflit and why he don't want to work more, for health issues, and also wanting to expend more time with his kids. Them he was pressured to try the tradwife with her, she did nothing in the house and spend all day on the couch. He then initiate the divorce, the wife manipulate the kids against him, now they dont want to talk to him, his whole family is against him. Dont know why they did not read the update.
I knew I wasn’t crazy! I remember this story, there are multiple updates. My memories kinda foggy but I think the wife continued to be abusive, leaving the husband to do house work as well. The OP, I believe, had to record her saying she didn’t care about him or the kids to reveal how abusive she really was.
Bro really tried to steal his sister’s home & wound up a homeless, penniless, orphan. He didn’t even have to steal her home either. She was already happily sharing it with him. What a doofus.
There’s actually many more updates to the story with the brother and sister with triplets. If I remember correctly they go on a trip and the brother pays and travels himself. He doesn’t tell anyone which room he’s in or even what floor, the staff are told to not give out his information. Sis still had plenty of tantrums and was miserable because no one babysat.
It all comes out and he keeps posting everything every time they are brats to him. They see the posts and get upset that he's posting. He agrees that he won't post if they don't give him material. It calms down. Turns out sister is just a brat and her husband HAS been helping the whole time.
The sister even spends hours following OP to find his room. Also the mother's manipulation comes out, how she always got OP to "keep the peace". I think the husband ended up forcing the sister to pay OP all the money she kept for herself.
For those curious about the update they didn't read: OP told her fiencé she wouldn't do it, he got angry at her, accused her of not being a virgin and slapped her. She left him after that. There's nothing more of the update.
