Just glad to see them happy together, my relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, Really love her so much, i can’t stop thinking about her. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life but to no avail, I’m frustrated because i literally can't envision my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..
your feelings are understandable, It's always difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation when my wife of 12 years left me, i couldn't just let her go. I did all I could to get her back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back.
I am a parent of two. I am the primary parent. I do most of the taking care of because my husband works long hours, I also do all the appointments all the extracurricular activities and anything else my boys might need. The fact that Shane would be able to help with the mental load of having a child is help! if my husband had the time to make appointments or do paperwork that would be tremendously helpful! I think people need to understand that raising a child is more than just the physical acts of raising a child. And my children are young four and two.
Very much this. The meal planning, shopping list, buy new shoes, make sure the neighbours birthday party is not the same day as the swim meet etc. The traditional "womans housework" that always is minimized. This is an extension of that. The part when the child is a baby is just a part of having a child.
Totally agree all of this stuff is on me while my husband usually works long hours and doesn’t have the time for any of this. I have three kids and I home school one with learning disabilities. I make appointments, make conferences and speak with the teachers, volunteer at the school, plan all of there activities, plan our budget, do most of the cleaning. I don’t think my husbands ever fine laundry. I do all the food shopping. I get any school supplies or clothes they need. Organize play dates and birthday parties. My husband says it’s not fair that he’s the only one who has to work which really upsets me because all of this falls on me due to the fact his job is so consuming. He also frequently travels within the state. I set up all the appointments for my learning disabled so who had tutors and therapists come to the house. But he is upset that I don’t do anything meanwhile I am exhausted and he wonders why I never want to go out. Oh, and I get up early to drive the kids to school snd I pick them up. He will only get up if I beg him to if I am super tired. All that stuff will be a big help
@3 Roach Kids DHE Sweetheart I hear you..I really do...but one statement u said alarmed me...ur too tired to go out with your husband...I know it's hard But find a way to go out with your husband..it's very important..find a way . I know it's not what u want to hear right now, but u need to keep that connection alive with you and your husband. I understand u are exhausted...cut back on some of these things you are doing. I was a single parent to my kids..it only gets harder on ur own. So nature, you're relationship with ur husband, spend time reaffirming ur love for each other. I think u will find that his attitude will improve significantly. GOOD LUCK 👍 I hope this advice helps and doesn't just offend. TC.
Your relationship is beyond healthy! Hannah knows her needs and what she wants! She’s a unique one for sure! She’s also soooooo lucky to have you Shane! Your heart… it’s what stole her! ❤
I've said it a hundred times and I'll keep saying it - Shane is going to be a great dad! He has so much to offer a child - humor, wisdom, guidance, grace. The list goes on and on. People with disabilities have children all the time, and you know what they do? Adapt. And from the marriage quiz results, as if we needed more proof, they're marriage is solid and their love is strong further lending to the idea that they've got this! Anyways! Loved the episode guys, I needed the laugh and you never let me down. 🤘🏻Junkyard Mayhem🤘🏻
The world would be a much better place if we would all have a marriage as strong as this. You guy's have this figured out and are a great example for the rest of us.
Me and my sweetheart have 45 years of marriage under our belt. I am pretty sure you young’uns will have a lasting love and will make so many wonderful memories together. You two have everything it takes to navigate the bumpy roads ahead as well as the smooth sailing. I love the couple you are and love the messages you are sending out into the universe. 😘
This was one of your best talks, and here’s why. Being a concerned Nana type, and wanting the best for any child of yours, I wondered how much thought you were putting into the potential stress of parenthood. Hannah expressed so thoughtfully, patiently!, and maturely how you two consider various issues of raising your child, that I, and the others who care about you, can feel assured that you’re on the right path. Your child will be “our” baby! Love, from Michigan
Your marriage is beautiful. Both of you guys have such good energy. I wish the best in the future for you guys! Being vulnerable is really hard and you guys do it every week. 🙌
I prefer wedding anniversary to Valentines Day. Also, I think it can be romantic when your spouse folds your clothes you may have left in the dryer, brings you a blanket when it’s chilly, makes you a snack, etc. Small gestures to show they care is better than one holiday.
Never ceases to amaze me how many times Shane has almost died from something completely unrelated to his condition. Lol. His childhood was so exciting!
I ended a relationship of 5 years n was inspired to because I see the way y’all interact n I realized how defensive he is n that I was unable to be myself. You n another channel (Cody ko n Kelsey Kreppel) I started to realize they can have lighthearted banter n we couldn’t at all. I was always tip toeing n having to full myself. So thank you for changing my life for the Bette. I saw another comment on here that y’all’s marriage is a great example. Yes I know this isn’t all of it and of course any relationship has issues so I’m not trying to say oh you’re perfect, what I am saying is seeing how much fun y’all have n how well you compliment each other made me realize the relationship I was In was one sided and abusive. I am eternally grateful to y’all. And my momma for being honest when I needed it even tho it hurt. We broke up a few days ago n hopefully in 2 months this chapter will be completely over as I take over this lease. Thank you for opening my eyes & being so vulnerable. You’re teaching me so much!
I still can not wrap my mind aroud that some people question your relationship ( and spend time to create video's or write these crazy stories on internet). You have to be some kind of monster to not see and feel the true love that you have to each other. Like real, real love. When you are your best friend. Thank You for your work to show us your life, Shane and Hannah:)
You two are truly living your best life, and I appreciate that you share it with your Mayhem Junkers. Having been married (97.5% happily) to my best friend for over 45 years, it is fun to watch a young couple grow in their partnership. I find it very important to have common interests but also have things to do without the other person. Hannah, I totally understand that you pick Bagel Bites. My favorite food is pizza, which fits the perfect breakfast category every time.
Yes, it does sound less condescending. Whining can be terribly annoying, though. Shane are you saying you were the instigator of this lawn crisis? I'll bet you were. Haha. I bet you enjoyed every minute of it. 😁
Here is a story that I like to share that means the world to me: For me, 7th grade was in elementary school. I've known all of my classmates for several years. A month after school started, a boy I've never seen came into our classroom. He was introduced as the new kid. I'm sure he was nervous being the new kid. All the girls instantly crushed on him. A few of them actually dated him in the years to come. There was an empty seat next to me so he sat there. Over the next few weeks, we talked and became best friends. One day, I was supposed to go to an afterschool club meeting but it was canceled at the last minute. I had no way of getting home. My mom couldn't pick me up until hours later. The boy was still at school and asked me if I wanted to come over to his house. I was absolutely shocked. This was the first time in a long time that a friend WITHOUT a disability asked me to come over. I obviously said yes. We walked to his house, which was only a few blocks away. Once we got to his place, we noticed nobody was home. Which is fine since all we were going to do was hang out and watch TV... except for one issue: there was a steep flight of stairs to get into his house. Keep in mind I had a power wheelchair that weighed a few hundred pounds. What was going on in my head at that moment was we either had to sit outside or find an adult neighbor to help us. But no... he was determined to get me in his house by himself. Also keep in mind we were both 12 at the time. He found some plywood boards and placed them on top of the stairs. As I drove on top of the boards, he stayed behind me and pushed. He made sure I didn't fall off or tip over. After about a half hour, we finally got me in his house safe and sound. Then we just ate snacks and watched TV. At one point, I looked at him and that was when I knew he was a true friend and we were going to be friends for life. I can't remember a time before that when a non-family member has gone to such great length for me. Ironically, shortly after we got me into the house, his older brothers and mom came home. That's the first time I was introduced to them. Over the course of that year, I repeatedly went over his house (and vice versa). It got easier and faster to get me in his house as time went on. I became part of his family. His mother thought of me as her own son (and brothers as brother). Once we got into high school, he and his brother helped me. They all took turns. Towards the end of high school, he started dating this one classmate of ours. She did not like me at all. I'm not sure if it was because I was in a wheelchair or because he spent a lot of time with me. Shortly after graduation, they got married. Apparently, she was in charge of inviting people. She did not invite me. Once he got wind of it, he came to me personally and invited me. I did go to the wedding. My mom couldn't stay but his mom and brothers took care of me and made sure I had everything I needed. After that, he joined the army, had a kid, and eventually divorced his wife. He got married again to another girl a few years ago. We do keep in touch a lot. One of the bestest friends ever... friends for life. RJ
It's a shame that people who are listening can't see Hannah's face when Shane is describing the slip and slide adventure! 😆 You two are so suited to each other, I'm positive your marriage will last!
@@candibeam9059 Why would anyone or myself be jealous when these two especially these are in a NDA , LCC business open relationship agreements. It's that obvious. Lol!!!
@@candibeam9059 You do know Hannah Aylward never did change her last to Burkaw and yet you'd think that would hurt Shane Burkaw a lot or little yet makes him feel more smaller than he is . Either way these two are both dip shits .
That's like saying Hannah Aylward took Shane Burkaws virginity card and yet technically he can't take of baby or child or teen kid or even himself . Lol!!!! Shane Burkaw is a baby himself .
You two are the best! You have a better relationship than most other married couples. I don't want this to come off the wrong way like most of these nasty comments, but it is so incredible seeing a loving inter-abled couple. As a physically disabled person myself, it is so nice to see an inter-abled couple. It is something that is rarely represented in media, and you do a beautiful job of representing us and deconstructing bs myths about how a couple should operate. Thank you so much for everything!
I see you both as very romantic. It doesn't have to be a date or a gift. It's the way you look at each other. The way you smile at each other. That is very romantic. It reminds me of how my parents were🥰😍
Shane... a little parenting tip from me to you. Once you have kids ANYTHING is considered a Thanksgiving side so your kid will eat something that day 😂 Ours was mac n cheese. So Hannah can have Thanksgiving dinner with a side of bagel bites.
witnessing (admittedly parasocial) y'all's relationship dynamic has been very healing after a very emotionally abusive connection i previously had. i'm so grateful you two get to share in a beautiful loving safe healthy fun fulfilling life together. may it flourish in all the ways you hope for it to
It is my dream to have a healthy, loving, and stable marriage like yours one day❤️ On the other hand, that slip n slide is the most chaotic story I’ve ever heard and I feel bad for all the adults affected😂
Maybe you should consider making your own RU-vid channel to become an inspiration for others! Congrats on your success, I hope to be there someday as well. 🤞
@@danparish1344 patience,communication, trust and honestly the grass is never greener on the other side, something draws people together, I am a cowgirl, he’s a metal head! I looked at that butt and Bronco 2!
@@danparish1344 I thought about it, but people are mean on YT! I also am intuitive! I could help so many.,, I’m a feeler? But my heart can’t handle meanness! These two are are beautiful!
@@zenjamin6262 Fake scheme and in a NDA, LCC business open relationship agreements love . Those no strings attached between these too it all a out dark greed and fame of business fraud.
The only thing I would be worried about with having Shane's child, is his wicked sense of humor. Between the two of you, that little kid of yours will be so smart and get into SO much trouble. Shane will just bat his innocent eyelashes at you, and you'll say, "Oh Shane". You two crack me up!
Soap and detergent are very different. I get the impression from the start of this chat that they are classed together in the USA. It is a minor point, but I am now a very proud proud grandfather of an American grandaughter, so these little things will matter more to me if I am ever lucky (long lived enough) to interact with her on a chatty basis.
Oh your marriage is so going to last until infinity. You're so adorable, you communicate, you care for and about each others wants, needs and desires far more than my marriage and we've been married 20 years last October.
Because you two demonstrate your love by routinely putting the other person first, you don't need the artificial construct of "romance" demanded by Valentine's Day.
You guys keep doing you with your marriage..that’s all that matters…those tests and surveys are a bunch of nonsense 😡 I have cerebral palsy and epilepsy. We’ve been happily married for nearly 28 years…together for over 29 years. We’ve seen dozens of family members and friends’ marriages fall apart where both of them were not disabled. Don’t listen to anyone who speaks negatively about your relationship and marriage❤️
Absolutely! Grew up with dishsoap on a tarp. 100% My abs were hurting from laughing so hard. As soon as you said "My wheel hit the corner.." 😂 I am dead!
I feel like before I even watched this, the answer is “yes, your marriage will last” you both have honesty, communication skills, romance, you both have a great sense of humour, you both work hard to enjoy your lives together. Of course it will last! I can’t wait to see you have a baby and enjoy many more years of adventures together!
Question for both of you: What fictional TV show, movie, or book characters do you see yourselves (or each other) future parenting styles to be like? For example, I see my parenting style similar to Loreli Gilmore from the Gilmore girls with a bit of Danny Tanner from Full House. My kids are all my friends, and we are all brutally honest with each other, but we do have our full house moments where we deal with hard issues.
Hey, Hannah and Shane! As always, you both make me giggle with your banter. I can't wait to hear when you are expecting a little one. You will be absolutely awesome parents ~ your child will be blessed with so much love. ❤I miss seeing Chloe, your fur baby!❤
Sometimes I wish these events were live so that I could ask questions to make the stories more relevant. Sounds like the story about your brother and his friend on a rainy day when you were kids were getting into content you’ve most likely shared before, yet I’m just not yet familiar with about your background. Also sounds like you were three kids having fun! Love that about your parents in about your neighborhood and whatever else is part of that. Goes along with what you’re talking about today of defining “ability” All of this is reminding me what assumptions we make just because we have four limbs that work.
Hannah… never too old to slip and slide. I just laughed so hard,… ok maybe you made me laugh so hard I peed… yep…in my pants…😂…. Thanks!!! Love you 2! ❤😂
It’s funny when Hannah pretends to look at Shane with disdain. Lol 😂. Hannah is right, the ground is too ruff under the plastic. I tried it. You guys are good. ❤
You guys are so funny I did enjoy this episode ,Thank you I think some people have the misconception that you are constantly doing something for Shane every minute of every day ... Obviously you do have to do somethings for him but you also have free time which a child would fit right in.
Looks Like a pretty healthy marriage to me. The mutual respect, acceptance of different viewpoints and the deep love is obvious. I love Shane's stories! There is a reason "No Trespassing" signs appear. Kids (or irresponsible adults) who don't see the neighbor's lawn in the same way the owner's do... I can't decide between baked stuffed shrimp or fried calamari for a forever food... You two "normalize" my thoughts about life. The World is so negatively bent online, I appreciate your channel more than I can say. You two were made for each other!
My husband and I have been together for almost 30 years and we are still in the honeymoon stage! ❤️ He is the love of my life and you guys sound so much like us. Our Valentines Day, the romance and passion are right on! It is all about the relationship and how you express! You are so right Shane…communication is so important! And we embrace each other’s weirdness! Lol Keep it up guys! You guys are awesome!
When my husband wants me to get him something to drink out of the refrigerator so he don't have to get off the couch he says, "hey get me a Mt dew"😕😳 I say, "will you ask" and he says he did ask lol🤦♀️😂😂 I've learned it's just how my husband talks, he's not being rude. You guys have a great love language. That's not something I thought ab years ago but have learned to let it go. He's so good to me where it matters. Love you guys!! 🙏❤✌
Aww! I can see how concerned Hannah looked when Shane was first talking about if their Marriage is healthy. Just by her response you can tell she genuinely loves him because she seemed concerned.
We had a Slip an Slide growing up too!! No hill was needed. Just the Slip N Slide, hose and dawn dish soap! That dish soap was the secret ingredient to going the fastest that led into catastrophe and laughter every time 😂
Shane's childhood would make a fun sitcom/drama show while teaching about issues surrounding disability and accessibility without preaching about it. Shane should get someone to pitch it to TV or a big streaming service. Really!
@@hannakinn truly!! There’s so much to explore when it comes to children living with disabilities, there’s so much infantilization & misunderstanding when it comes to how/ when/ what ways play should be implemented with different abilities & diverse personalities
I have to think that perhaps those who comment on these videos without understanding are maybe just misguided folks with physical touch as their main love language? People who don't understand the importance of someone to carry more intellectual loads like doing the bills, goal planning, cracking jokes at the right time to turn your day around... and some are maybe even people who have been hurt by cheating, or stereotypical man/woman roles in the past. Yes this couple will encounter different struggles than an able-bodied couple, but that doesn't mean they are better or worse. They will also encounter many of the same wild joys and wonderful days. If you're someone who doesn't believe this is real, I have to think its because you've never looked at someone (or been looked at by someone) in the way that Hannah and Shane look at each other. There are so many different factors that go into a relationship. How people can question this comfortable, very secure, very naturally attached couple is beyond me. When I look at them, I see the same admiration and respect I feel in my own marriage. Please don't look at everything as having a notorious, evil agenda behind it guys. The world isn't always so dark.
I'm with Shane: I never tire of Thanksgiving foods. In fact, I make them (turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, green bean casserole, and gravy) 3 to 4 times a year. However, I've never tried Bagel Bites, but now I want to. I think I'll plan on having both meals next week.
Today was my favorite episode!..I have to acknowledge the little man standing proud on the floor on the right side of Shane. I do anticipate what will be in that spot next podcast. I’m now going to put Bagel Bites on my grocery list.
Some people can be mean with a jealous heart especially when they see people like you two who has proven that LOVE has no physical barriers, challenges perhaps but that's ever relationship. i truly wish you two all the best... Mahalo.
Your Q&A at the end made me think... Hannah could do a dumpster dive on what caregiving/accessibility looks like in prisons? Never thought about it but now I'm curious...
You guys have the best dynamic for your marriage! And you guys are absolutely adorable 😁 I wish you guys nothing but the best for the future! Shane, you hit the jackpot, Hannah...his sense of humor is going to keep you laughing for years..."I'm so sorry" 😁
People who think you're not prepared for Parenthood couldn't be watching too many videos or they'd catch on how intelligent the two of you are and how self-aware you are. You two are the last people I would worry about being prepared. What could they be thinking ☺️. Carry on ✔️ (LOL, jail by proxy 😂)
Absolutely love you two and your content! Question for y'all: in my speech pathology grad program, we often refer to caregivers of adult stroke survivors as "care partners" in an effort to show how providing care is not a one-way street and living a life together is a collaborative effort. Is this a term you've come across? If so, do you have feelings about it, and would you use it to describe Hannah's role in the relationship?
I mean, I get how silly it sounds when Shane describes getting home from walking the dog and immediately romantically dancing with your partner (30:14), but that's genuinely what I want in life, lol. I'm an excited person who thrives on expressions of love, and I'm the person who wants that relationship. 🥰
What will make a valentine dinner more unique compared to other times is the WAIT for food because everyone is doing the same thing in the name of Valentines day! LOL
I wanted to say I am very happy I found you guys again and I am subscribed again. I mostly wanted to say I love you guys and am truly happy you two are doing great
I think they need to recall slip and slides so many people get hurt with them. A family member ending up breaking a arm using a slip and slide. I agree with Hannah I have no desire to throw my body on the ground haha
I have a slip ‘n slide story from when I was about 7. My friend brought her Twister game over and we proceeded to put the plastic game sheet on the living room floor and did NOT play Twister. We decided to add some water and played slip ‘n slide! We were having a blast! Water everywhere on the carpet. All fun until my Mom walked in. She was not pleased for obvious reasons. Never occurred to us to just put the game outside on the grass and use a sprinkler. 🤷🏻♀️
Wishing lots of luck with having a baby you seem to have a very strong marriage and you deserve a family just as much as everybody else lots of love xxxx❤💙
The first at least 14 minutes... Shane 🤣🤣🤣 Also Hannah sounds so much like me with the flat slip n slide, kinda afraid of things most kids are so ready for! Love her for it!
WoW! I haven’t seen you guys for a bit. 😯It’s like RU-vid keeps eliminating some of my subscriptions. 🤔 I don’t understand why. Anyway, nice Podcast guys! 👍🥳🥳🥳I do have to say it’s clear that one particular one of you does have to be the moderator of the content from time to time 😂👍 Great job you two! 🌷👍😁
YOU GUYS!!!! Ive never laughed so much as i do when i watch your videos! i want to binge watch them all now! you guys are the HEALTHIEST Couple of all time and enduring and genuine and so darn CUTE i want to SCREAM lololololololololololol God Bless
