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Everyone who fears the Lord should really seek him in this matter because it’s a serious one as the Bible says that adulterers will NOT inherit the Kingdom of God! I would rather be on the safe side than trying to find fault in translations just to justify my actions and satisfy my flesh! This is why people really need to be sure that God chose their spouse for them and not rely on their own understanding or feelings! Many pastors have gone down that road too…
Nevertheless, God's chosen spouse for you is the one you marry, but be sure that, depending on what you are as a person, the Lord will use your spouse to discipline and correct you. Unless you see that as part of the blessing of the Lord to make you more and more righteous, you will have a very hard time (see Romans 1:21,24).
@@deanfry879 Yes and that’s fine because everything God does is for my own good wether I like it or don’t so that’s why I said ask God to choose for you and don’t trust your own feelings! Some people end up with narcissistic spouse or materialistic or uncaring but it’s too late they should have asked God because divorce isn’t an option!
Amen. Well said. It might be hard, but I will always seek to find out what God's will is over *my* will. And if I can't figure it out/haven't gotten the revelation, I'm going to play it safe and not go down a road that I'm not sure of. My salvation is on the line, and that's more important than any earthly pleasure.
Amen brother ❤ True, I would stay on the safe side too and not find fault in wherever people feel like they need to satisfy their flesh, I bet if you really go deep you can find loopholes in salvation by works, or that we are not sinners or whatever false doctrine. Pastors really are going astray.
So... you are taking the stance that we lose our salvation if we remarry? Was adultery the unforgivable sin? If you lust after a woman for even a moment you are an adulterer... have you lost your salvation at that moment? David and Sampson are condemned to Hell? Sin is an Engish archery term for "missing the mark". Jesus made it clear that no matter how legalisticly we follow the law... we are yet sinners in need of a savior. In the scripture about adulters, thieves, murderers wont inherent salvation, it seems to imply the habitual, worldly, unrepentant who are not believing. I know Gods ideal for marriage, and all things in life... I do the things I ought not, and dont do what i should, WRETCHED MAN THAT I AM... Apostle Paul
Reading the comments of all the remarriage videos are something. I predict a lot of folks essentially condemning folks have never gone through it. All they offer in their comments are condemnation no solution no verses of hope just pure. "Stay single, lonely earthly existance while we judge you either way" Imagine being the person who never viewed divorce as an option but the other person in the marriage does and does it. Litterly nothing you can do 1 Corinthians 7:15. People saying your not bound to upkeep the marriage but u gotta still live in your secluded hole for remainder of your existance. Years go by no contact. Sorry bro your a less than christian now relegated to less than status now. I guess due to my circumstances maybe it be better if a truck just hit me or something... At least it be easier than watching all the greater than christians live thier best lives
Im single and never been married and I had to break up with my girlfriend I was engaged to when I found out what scriptures taught. Her husband left her and married her best friend. She was divorced. If I had married her I would have been living in adultery. There are clear scriptures on this Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, Romans 7:2-3, 1 Cor 7:10&11. I would rather be single and obey God than in adultery with God's judgement on me. There is a reason 2nd marriage have higher divorce rates and kid suffer mental and physical and sexual abuse.
This video ignores very important scripture. Scripture says that whichever man marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Scripture says that a woman is bound to her husband as long as he’s alive but if she separates, she must not remarry. The Bible says that if a woman has sexual relations with another man while her first husband is alive, she is called an adulteress. This is just what scripture says. Matthew 5:32, Luke 16:18, Romans 7:2-3. Adultery is a very serious sin
Yes but there are 2 exceptions according to Gods word. You can’t leave these out, they matter and so does context. If you stay in a marriage when an unbeliever is literally divorcing you and refuses to work on it God says let that person go in peace and it’s done. Aka a fresh clean slate which is what you get on top of having a personal relationship with Christ where you repent for your every sin and the lord leads you exactly where to Go.
Reading most of the comments it seems that people think that God cant forgive divorce, it is a sin and God hates every sin and every sin can be forgiven except Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit, we are called to live in peace and harmony not in continuous anger, degradation of the spouse, abuse of children and so on , divorce is last option but sometimes the only one.
@@propheticprayerfornations ok read the bible God divorced Israel yet he says return to me For i am YOUR HUSBAND. EVEN IF ISRAEL BETRAYED HIM WITH IDOLTERY. MARRIAGE IS FOR LIFE NO REMARRIAGE PERIOD. REPENTENCE MEANS ASK FORGIVENESS STOP SIN CANNOT CONTINUE IN IT IT IS CONTINOUS ADULTERY
Separation is abandonment, which is grounds for divorce. Remarried couples ask God for forgiveness and He FORGIVES. The couple do NOT live in a perpetual state of adultery.❤
I don't understand why Deut 24:1-4 is quoted. Granted this passage doesn't mention adultery, however it says: "then, her former husband, ...may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination, etc.". Clearly she is defiled because she remarried. I think the only situation that allows remarriage is when the spouse was an unbeliever and left, and some add, neglected or abandoned the marriage in the way he/she acted without actually physically leaving. I am a divorcee and I really wish I could interpret the Bible as telling me it's OK to remarry, but if I m honest, I can't. I think we take vows very lightly today (incl myself). We haven't got a clue most of the time about God's holiness.
On the other hand, do not call anything defiled when God has purified it (see Act 10:15). Still, it would be well for you to act out of faith in Jesus (see Romans 14:23). Indeed, we do not understand God's holiness, but neither do we understand the kind of power He has to change what we are.
This comments section is somethin'. So full of joy, so lacking in judgement, and just brimming with individuals who have actually lived through the hell that is divorce. They have all stood in the stark cold and faced the chasm, the question of remarriage, shouting into the immeasurable void only to hear a garbled and confused echo and be left frozen by the terror of future loneliness. Just a breath of fresh air, lemme tell ya'.
Right??! Even pagans and unbelievers are more empathetic towards divorcees!! Goshhh 😬 I pity any new converts who are being told they must divorce their current spouse (with kids involved) in order to seek salvation. Yikes!
Remarriage is not scriptural for any reason except after the death of one’s spouse, even if one spouse is guilty of sexual immorality. The exception clause is stated ONLY for the question of divorce, NOT remarriage. Plus Jesus was answering their question in regards to Moses’ law, not Christianity. Paul states in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 that separation or reconciliation are the only two options because you are BOUND TILL DEATH, 1 Corinthians 7:39, Romans 7:1-3. Remarriage is not part of God’s plan for forgiveness, reconciliation, or redemption. Remarriage, if your spouse is still living, is done purely out of fleshly and worldly desires. Reconciliation is God’s will and perfect plan, not remarriage!
This conclusion is just a fair opinion but not God's opinion. It is better to stay on the safe side and not get remarried if divorce happens for any reason. It is unwise to gamble on a fate in eternity. One should seek God with all the heart in this matter and be ready to do what ever it takes to be found in the right with God if he or she has remarried.
Exactly so this would be a single world then & tjeyd be fornicating then cause everyone has needs and desires. So they intend to never have sex again cmon now you have to have sex in a marriage & not be fornicators. And if someones ginna get divorce Then obviously they’re gonna expected to move on. If a person moves on & NEVER wants to return to another the other person has to suffer & remain single the rest of their life and never remarry???? Cmon now!
Not true!! The Bible says cheating is grounds for divorce. And remarriage isn’t an unforgivable sin. God doesn’t want you getting a second divorce. Once you are forgiven and you acknowledge what you did wrong, you don’t repeat it, you stay married. Don’t tell me children forced into marriages commit sin when they can finally divorce the pedophile.
@@Chief_Of_Sinners Go study your bible you more than likely with a second piece of sinfull flesh. I have learned from Priests and Docterates in Scripture more than 50 years ONLY DEATH BREAKS A COVENENT. good luck🔥🔥
@@grant2149 Pharisees are in need of repentance as much as homosexuals, but your assumptions about me are as wrong as your theology, which is why you don't comment on the Scriptures cited, but just make evidence free assertions.
By the way, there is no point in thinking what is right in God's eyes... that will lead you to many problems thinking this and thinking that in your perspective. You need to read the Bible yourself, pray and talk to God.
Amen amen!!! So many try to use scripture to condemn the divorced. I divorced as a Believer and am remarried to wonderful man who adores our Lord. I have studied it so much due to the devil’s condemnation. We are blessed as daughters of the Most High God, our loving Heavenly Father ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@donnagarcia4541 How do people use scripture to condem the divorced? You mean they just state scripture, the word of God and you personally feel condemned?
This is false doctrine. If you want to stop being a murderer, stop murdering. If you want to stop being a drunkard, stop drinking. If you don’t want to be an adulterer, don’t live in an adulterous relationship. You would be in sin, in needing repent. Living in an adulterous marriage is sinful. Look at John 4. “The woman answered and said, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You have well said, ‘I have no husband,’ for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly.” Your dispute isn’t with me, but with God’s word.
There's no remarriage with a living spouse. The scriptures is clear about this. It applies to the innocent party and guilty. Notice he kept saying "in their opinion." He's making the scriptures contradict itself. The scriptures says God can't lie. The scriptures have to harmonize. "The Creator" has one wife. The Church. The Apostle Paul said we grafted in. Look at all the backsliding and spiritual cheating believers do. But God is still coming back for his bride, (believers). If you repent and be reborn again.
YOUR FIRST MARRIAGE IS FOR LIFE. Only death anulls the marriage covenant, not adultery, not abandonment. Jesus was very clear! Even the disciples said " if it is this way for a man towards his wife, it is better not to marry then." Your first marriage IS NOT a sin you need to be forgiven of, it is a union of the flesh until the physical death of the flesh.
So what about David, what about Jacob on and on..? Is polygamy better? If it's vows and two become one then how are God's faithful men in the Bible, the father of Israel and it's greatest king not condemned?
This subject(divorce and remarry) is such a sensitive one, but this video makes a lot of sense. The part in the video that said something to the effect:"continuous" adultery makes so much sense! In my mind, the person would have to be willfully getting married, then divorcing, then remarrying, only to satisfy their own sexual pleasures and certainly not to glorify Christ! I am divorced but my spouse has passed away so I can remarry but if the person wasn't dead, it would be very difficult for me not to remarry because I love the institution of that covenant, I really do! Thank you so much GotQuestions ministry for this contextual and timely video. God bless you all. 🙏🏽
Did Jesus give us a loophole to get out of our marriages by saying, "except for marrital unfaithfulness," or was He acknowledging adultery cannot be caused by divorce if it already exists? If this is right, then divorcing our unfaithful partners is still hardhearted toward the spouse and toward God, who can heal all things. There is no command to divorce an unfaithful partner and there are many marriages healed after adultery.
Old testament not new testament. God still punished them. David lost 3 sons and his daughter was raped. 2 marriages have higher rates for divorce and kids are abused.
What Jesus said about adultery, in the Sermon on the Mount, being in the heart provides grounds for anyone to divorce, since He said it to convict us all of our need for His salvation. The covenant was broken long before any physical acts occured.
Just because it's grounds for divorce, doesn't mean the covenant is broken, so remarriage is not an option unless that spouse passed away, but you have to understand why that was said who it was meant for, unless you are a jew that statement would be more understanding, but if you are not, then that verse in Matthew doesn't apply to you, for every other gospel never mentioned an exception clause and Paul would've been contradicting himself saying that remarriage is ok.
@@325ariel Nonsense! Any material breach of the terms of the marital covenant would give the other spouse the right to terminate the covenant. Covenants can be voided just like a contract can in the event of a material breach of its terms. Paul makes it very clear that it is no sin to marry if you are unmarried for any reason, regardless of prior marital status. See 1 Corinthians 7, verses 9, 15, and 27-28. You claim that any and all remarriage after divorce is adultery. I wish to test that claim with a series of questions: (1) Was adultery lawful under the Mosaic Law? (Exodus 20:14) (2) If not, what explanation is there for Deuteronomy 24:1-2? (3) Was Esther guilty of adultery when she married King Xerxes after he divorced Queen Vashti? (4) If remarriage after divorce was always adultery, why was it ever lawful? (Deut 24:2) (5) If remarriage after divorce was not always adultery, when did it become adultery? (6) If Jesus abolished divorce, when did Heaven and Earth disappear? (Matt 5:17-18, Luke 16:17) (7) If Heaven and Earth have disappeared, why wasn't I informed? (8) In what Scripture are people in a 2nd marriage commanded to get a divorce?
@dh605x I'm an adulterer in my heart just being a single, very healthy, male. I desire a mate. Divorced my wife after 6 years of neglect and forced celibacy. I understand that it is not Gods ideal for couples to divorce, he allowed it through Moses. We technically sin in remarriage, but we do not loose our salvation! The legalistic ones here are the Pharisies making rules of no divorce or no remarriage... so people would live in sin even if forced to stay married! The scripture about not inheriting salvation seems to be about the unbelievers who live lives in continuous sin as their unrepentant, unsaved, lifestyles.
What is interesting about people justifying remarriage is that they fail to read Mark 10:11 Luke 16:18 Romans 7. What is even more disturbing is how pastors will use Matthew 5:32 that says fornication is the reason one can divorce and remarry. Fornication and adultery have different application though they both are sexual acts. Why is this so sensitive, is because people's hearts are hard. Jesus was so wise in that he always took the so called religious folks back to the beginning. If adultery is truly grounds for divorce and permission for remarriage, would it be fair to say then God have permission to remarry another nation though his covenant was made with Israel?
They also fail to include 1 Cor 7:11 and 1 Cor 7:39. They seem to turn a blind eye that John the Baptist lost his head for confronting Herod about his adulterous marriage to Herodias (Philip's wife) in Matt 14 and Mark 6.
Jesus shut down Moses law about divorce and remarriage. Jesus said if someone remarry after divorce that person shall be called a adulterous. Paul said the same thing in 1 Corinthians 7:39. Paul said only way to remarry is the death of a spouse. There are reason to divorce and separation but never remarriage. In Gal 5:19-21 Paul warn believers that works of the flesh can't inherit the kingdom of God. Adultery is one of them. Jesus called remarriage after divorce adultery. This is pretty plain in the bible. I found fascinating that Jesus (GOD) talked more about remarriage after divorce that any other sins. All the gospels and Apostles taught about remarriage after divorce. The Bible also, teaching about family and children. This subject about divorce and remarriage was a big topic in Jesus and Paul days too. But Jesus shut Moses law down that allowed to remarry and Paul did the same in Corinthians letters.I don't fully understand how can a unfaithful spouse cheats and the other spouse can't remarry for that person unfaithfulness but that how the bible reads. Thanks
Whoa there! That’s pretty harsh! Why don’t you pray, instead, that if the ministry is not of God, that God will show these ministers and those who work for them the truth and help them repent and change so they can still be saved? If someone is stricken down, that doesn’t give them time to repent and receive God’s mercy, does it? I know God judges but He’s also love and wants all people to know the truth and be saved. RIGHT???
Maybe try reading this verse before you comment: Romans 7:3, "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man." It's continual. You can not have stolen a car, confess to the crime, and then continue to drive that car. It must be given up.
Explain Queen Esther to me. Please? That was absolutely adultery. The King sent his queen away and made Her his new Queen after one night together. Queen Esther is in hell?
At the end, it’s YOUR SOUL. YOU will have to give an account. So you could not let go of that adulterous marriage for what? Sex, money, status, a house, the kids? Well guess what? You will have none of that in HELL.
Yes its Adultry. Romans 7 :3. According to Paul if a woman wants to leave then MUST remain UNMARRIED or RECONCILE and NOT DIVORCE. Paul said its a command from the LORD not to Divorce. This command goes out to all even to the unbelieving. All will be judge by the same way. Since the begining God created a man for a woman until death do us apart. Broad is the way that leadeth to destruction and narrow is the way that leadeth to life eternal - Matthew 7:13 -14. All who wants to live a Godly life shall be persecuted in this world - 2 timothy 3 :12. John the Baptist the GREATEST prophet lost his head for this very reason.....
No one can say clearly that it’s okay to remarries again after divorce but some people tried to talking about 1 Corinthians 7: Matthew 19:10-11-12 but if you look at over all I still can’t find any option allow to remarries again legally my wife abandoned me 12 years ago she’s remarries again I am still single after she left I was turning to God with single father just focus serving God,
My husband went outside the marriage and committed adultery , he treated me very bad abusive ,he isn’t a believer also verbally never helped with anything financially everything was on me alone. I plan on filing for divorce as soon as possible there is no chance for reconciliation at this point.
This is a bunch of lies. Notice he uses a different translation with Matt5:32. The word is fornication and is different than adultery. Its the betrothed period in Jewish culture. Jesus said if you divorce and remarry you're in adultery ( Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18) and Romans 7:2-3 says its a covenant that only death breaks( 1 Cor7:39). You even say it in your vows. 1Cor 7:10-11 say to remain unmarried or reconcile, it never ever says remarry. Notice it's all their 'opinion'.
The modern church is complicating the question of divorce. The TRUTH is simple but not easy...'Now what I say to you is that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery!”' - Mattityahu (Mat) 19:9
Divorcing can't be a continual state, of course, but being divorced is. So I think they may be playing on words here 😢 My unbelieving spouse asked me to leave. I've been open to reconciliation for 7 years. Now that he's openly with another woman I think Biblically I should be free to remarry but I do worry they are compromising the word here for people who don't have Biblical grounds for the divorce.
Not always, there are two grounds for divorce in Bible. Sexual immorality (cheating spouse….can and usually should be grounds but God can repair that marriage if both parties are willing to work on it) and if an unbelieving partner wants to leave, the belieber needs to grant them the divorce. That’s it. 2 reasons. This leaves room for debate about abuse and such, however saying “always” is false
@@lyubovbochkareva7017bingo, husband was an unbeliever and filed for divorce from me. So I have a clean slate because of my personal relationship with Jesus Christ. That was 4 years ago and I haven’t dated and won’t date. However I know God will be sending me someone on his time I’m open to it but saving my born again heart soul mind body and time for that person. Out of something bad came something Good, I learned so much from this and it strengthened my loving relationship with Heavenly Father. I’m open to it, but only if God permits it and he will send someone my way I don’t go seeking attention and problems on dates. My spouse will be my best friend and has to be a Christian.
Divorce & Remarriage “But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband. But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 NLT “(But if the husband or wife who isn’t a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the believing husband or wife is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you to live in peace.)” 1 Corinthians 7:15 NLT “He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.”” Mark 10:11-12 NLT “But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery.” Matthew 5:32 NLT “Jesus replied, “Moses permitted divorce only as a concession to your hard hearts, but it was not what God had originally intended. And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery-unless his wife has been unfaithful. ”” Matthew 19:8-9 NLT “But that doesn’t mean that the law has lost its force. It is easier for heaven and earth to disappear than for the smallest point of God’s law to be overturned. “For example, a man who divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery. And anyone who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.”” Luke 16:17-18 “A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. If her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but only if he loves the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:39 NLT “For example, when a woman marries, the law binds her to her husband as long as he is alive. But if he dies, the laws of marriage no longer apply to her. So while her husband is alive, she would be committing adultery if she married another man. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law and does not commit adultery when she remarries.” Romans 7:2-3 NLT
Wrong you aren’t living in constant sin if you remarry. If you have no legal biblical grounds then yes. If you remarried you can repent of the sin. God doesn’t want you to get a second divorce.
@@christoprighteous8199 if you divorce your wife to marry another women, not if you were forced into a marriage as a child and you divorce because you never consented. Religion Brian washes you
Regardless of the other issues, this argument that it's okay after the initial sin is totally abhorrent and false! Beyond the issue of remarriage, if you say "I can have that thing without guilt because only getting it is the sin, and I can quickly ask for forgiveness from that", then you have no sense at all - are you sure you're not reliving and reigniting the sin in your *heart, mind and will* even as you continually go over how you're not really sinning now, like watching the TV you stole. Technicalities aside, this argument itself is harmful.
People forget restitution may be required. Nathan told David a story and David made a judgment the lamb needed to be paid for four times over. Over time David had four dead young or rather young sons, even though his sin was taken away.
@@jeremybickel6577 Your reference to watching a stolen TV made me think of it. Whatever sin a person may be doing, especially a believer, they are also stealing from God's glory. God will not allow His glory to be considered contemptable forever.
@@deanfry879 I sure am glad of that! Among other things, if His glory were contemptible, then our individual glories couldn't flourish, because it's enough that a servant should be like his Master. One day, we'll all say and do the same righteousness. "Lord, come quickly. Bring *Your* peace to Jerusalem. Amen."
For Matthew 5:32 and 19:9 you used an inaccurate translation to prove your blatant eisegesis. Joyce Meyer does this all of the time and she isn't a Christian. Read it in the Greek! This pertains to Deuteronomy 24 and it's about a woman who has committed fornication but presents herself to her husband-to-be as a virgin. Btw, Matthew was written to the Jews and there are at least four ante-Nicene fathers who have testified that it was originally written in Hebrew. The Jews knew exactly what Jesus was talking about and they understood that this escape clause was only written because of their hard hearts and for NO other reason. How hard is your heart? The Bible gives ZERO reasons for divorce & remarriage (though two are given for divorce only - with NO remarriage). Most Christians are unsanctified and worldly and homosexuals are correct in pointing out the hypocrisy. As an open air evangelist I have had to listen to homosexuals express anger at Christian hypocrisy such as divorce and remarriage (especially because some turned to homosexuality due to the resultant dysfunctional family life). HYPOCRITES.
You are seeing firsthand just what Paul was talking about in Romans 1:21 and following. You could use this Christian hypocrisy to show unbelievers what God does with those who lack thankfulness, turning them over to their sins as a result. Sins though the acts may be, Paul implies they are also punishment to the unthankful. You have seen a lot in your line of work, see if this fits what you see.
Another thought. You are dealing with more than one set of hypocrites here. Going back to Romans 1 but starting with verse 18, along with Proverbs 22:14, we see that the sexual sins and divorce and remarriage result from God's wrath coming on the people who live like God is not, but with lip service (Isaiah 29:13). Yet these other people see God's wrath and instead of giving thanks God shows His wrath on the disobedient as an example to others, they double down on their own sin. Jesus was not a hypocrite, so their anger is only an excuse. You may need to speak to the people about most Christians the same way Jesus spoke to the crowds about the Pharisees. As a reminder, these thought are not useful to you until you think and pray over them. May the Lord bless your open air preaching so many will believe the promise of God for eternal life because of the death and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ.
@@deanfry879 I never hesitate to speak the truth to anyone. I have rebuked numerous church goers and their leaders. Here is God's firm stand on divorce & remarriage and the harm it does to children: MALACHI 2:14-15 "Yet you say, 'For what reason?' Because the LORD has been witness Between you and the wife of your youth, With whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion And your wife by covenant. 15) But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth." (NewKJV) God seeks GODLY offspring!
As immoral and reprehensible homosexuality is (needs repentance and a savior - they can be forgiven and cleansed), they are correct in that the church condemns homosexuality and yet turns a blind eye to the sin of adultery (divorce and remarriage - with covenant spouse still alive). It's no wonder why the church at large has no relevance anymore when it comes to sexual ethics.
I believe that in Gods binding of a man and woman in a covenant and letting no man unbind it, remarriage is a continuous state of adultery. I don’t think the unbinding happens until death, and that is when a person may marry again. So the “new different covenant” is not bound in Gods eyes, also adding to it being continuous adultery that leads to a different inheritance than the Kingdom.
@@Thomas116-m2n It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: but I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. Matthew 5:31-32 KJV Notice that it says fornication NOT adultery. The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? *Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.* They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. Matthew 19:3-10 KJV The same goes here. Check this out....but and if she depart, let her REMAIN unmarried, OR be RECONCILED to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:11 KJV The KJV has been proven to be the most accurate literal translation of the bible.
If someone falsley accuses their spous of adultery, divorces them, and remarries then yes, i believe that marraige is and will forever be a adulteress continuous sin
I THINK THE REAL ISSUE IS IF THE SIN OF DIVORCE AND ADULTERY IS COMMITTED BY SOMEONE WHO PROFESSES TO BE A CHRISTIAN ARE THEY TRULY BORN AGAIN? ODDS ARE VERY HIGH THEY HAVEN'T BEEN. JESUS SAYS THAT AN UNBIBLICAL DIVORCE IS CAUSED BY HARDENED HEART TOWARD GOD.
My wife of 13 years divorced me when we were both unbelievers and then glory to God I was saved a year later. Divorced almost four years ago now and I’ve been celibate ever since. I prayed and prayed that my ex-wife would be saved and shared the gospel with her and hoped we could be reconciled. But now she is seeing a new man with far more money than I could even imagine and they go on trips to foreign countries and all just the two of them. So I think I need to move on. I’m in the very beginning stages of pursuing a relationship with a woman from my church. She is also divorced and was a mormon as was her ex-husband but is a Bible-believing saved Baptist now. I’ve been struggling to find out if it’s allowable by God for me to marry this woman some day or if it would be a sin and I’d be living in adultery. From what I gather it would not be a sin.
Doesn’t matter - because of the mess of a life I have now this lady from church doesn’t want to be with me after all. Oh well I guess it’s God’s will that I should be alone the rest of my life. I’m just meant to suffer apparently.
Here’s the reality, unless you both ironically die in a car accident, the one who chose to remain in the adulterous marriage dies without never having repented and the surviving spouse realizes (by God’s grace) that they were in the sin of adultery all along and repent and inherit Heaven. DO NOT play Russian Roulette with YOUR SOUL.
You're talking about a last-minute confession? By grace are you saved through faith, not some last minute Hail Mary (no pun intended) prayer. Legalism is loading all cylinders of the gun and playing Russian Roulette.
What about these promises, Isa. 43:25, Micah 7:18,19, Isa 44:22 Heb.10:17, Psa 23:12 You saying ALL sin is forgiven except divorce and remarriage no matter the reason?
no sin is forgiven, if it is not forsaken.......stop this nonsense....if your idea were true, then a same sex marriage couple could....repent...and remain in that relationship...
@@philipbuckley759 it's not nonsense, it's a legitimate question and as far as same sex unions go, even if they repented but still live together as a so called married couple , that remains sin as God calls that an abomination . Thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind it is abomination. Lev. 18:22.
@@philipbuckley759 Two different issues that cannot be compared. There was never same sex marriage in the Bible at any point in time. There were people who had married a person who was divorced. It has to be a sin first to be forgiven. Not all people who were once divorced and have married are in sin as it depends on the situation. 1 Cor 7:15/abandonment by a non-believing spouse means that the believer is not under bondage to that relationship; it has been dissolved. For adultery, which is porneia, meaning sexual immorality (don't mention your Erasmus theory as you've been doing for the past several years-it's been debunked), the innocent spouse can remarry as the marriage bond is dissolved. Now, forgiveness by the innocent spouse is preferrable in each case but not required.
@@sharonmcgillivray2119 So are you saying that adultery is not an abomination to the Lord? Adultery becomes OK after you confess it, remain in it and move on?
@@EdwardThe2nd. Adultery is a sin no matter the reason. Homosexuality is an abomination. Both God will forgive, when repented of and not comitted again.
In the context of the scriptures, specifically within the Jewish tradition, the terms "putting away" and "divorce" often refer to two different concepts. Putting Away is commonly used to describe the act of separating or ceasing to cohabit with a spouse without legally dissolving the marriage. It can imply a physical separation or a temporary break, but the marital bond remains intact. In some cases, "putting away" can refer to a form of separation due to a variety of reasons, such as adultery, abandonment, or irreconcilable differences. The purpose of putting away is to allow for reflection, reconciliation, and potential restoration of the marital relationship. Divorce, on the other hand, refers to the legal dissolution of a marriage. It is the formal process of ending the marital contract and releasing both parties from their marital obligations and rights. Divorce permanently terminates the marriage relationship, allowing both individuals to remarry if they choose to do so. Divorce can be sought for various reasons, including adultery, abuse, desertion, or irreconcilable differences. It's important to note that translations that refer to the word fornication as being the exception of when a man is allowed to 'put away' his wife is infact correct. If there was fornication it is because the couple were betrothed to be married but not yet legally married. In Jewish custom and law, an engagement period was called the 'betrothal period' and it was the first part of the two part process of Jewish marriage, which creates the legal relationship without the mutual obligations. This is why it reminds us that we need to remain faithful until Christ's return as the believer saved and redeemed is also like the betrothed. Beware of idols lest we too fornicate during our salvation and Christ returns and 'put's us away' Pray and seek the wisdom of God on this matter and I hope this helps all those seeking clarification.
“Irreconcilable differences”, unfortunately, goes against the nature of scripture… Jesus said that we are to forgive 70 times 7 and to live our neighbor as ourselves.. A husband is commanded to love his wife AS Christ loves the church, and a wife is to respect her husband.. Unfortunately, “irreconcilable differences” stems from selfishness and pride in the marriage, which neither are grounds for divorce.. We are to die to our flesh, take up our cross daily and follow Jesus.. The fall out of unrepentant pride and selflessness can lead to the act of adultery.. But the root cause is pride and selflessness.
@@sparker1414God is also able to forgive 70 times 7, so if such a thing is done and if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just and will forgive us and put us on the path. I should also be clear I totally agree with you.
For all the attention given to adultery, it is only like a third level sin. Two other commandments at minimum must be broken first (see Matthew 22:37-40). Get right on the first one, and everything else will come around. (see Romans 1:21 for the same command from a different perspective.)
Exactly however it makes wonder how does this apply to David? He committed adultery with Bathsheba and on top of that had her husband killed so he could marry her! While God took away their first born and Christ still came through their lineage. Will he be in heaven? Or is it continuous adultery will it inherit the kingdom? If David is in heaven could it be cause his continued repentance heart? Will that type of repentance still allow us access to heaven?
What about all the wives king David had? Jesus said in the beginning marriage was between one man and one woman in the garden of Eden but yet king David had eight wives or more.. i’m sure king David died with many wives, and he still inherited the kingdom of God. I’m asking for God’s mercy as well. My wife abandoned me and I remarried.
A serious question. If Marriage is a Covenant, then when its Broken, you are free from the Obligations to that Covenant. And the Covenant no longer exsists YES? OR, if you choose to leave with out the two qualifications for BREAKING THE COVENANT. You are still under Covenant with that Person, and the covenant CANNOT be broken, .....so you cannot remarry? If this is the case then Breaking Soul ties and Renouncing covenants a Myth.
According to Genesis ch1: 24 Your first marriage, the two becomes one flesh. According to 1 Corinthians ch.7:39 Only death can break the marriage Covenant GOD Bless
I believe there is forgiveness for past present and future sins. Of course this is no reason or excuse to get divorced, marriage is working all disagreements out.
The covenant marriage is not a SIN to be forgiven of, nor is divorce a sin. Its the 2nd marriage that is the sin,. The only way to be forgiven is to come out of the adultery.
Ah yes. Yet conveniently ignoring what Jesus Christ Himself said in verse 8 from Matthew 19:1-9. Jesus said divorce except for sexual immorality is an adultery. Period. No further 'excuses'. Please don't bring 1 Corinthian 7:15 to add another justification (or negate it as not a sin). I can imagine Christians asking to Jesus, "But Paul allowed divorce between a believer and an unbeliever". Perhaps Paul, just like Moses, allowed it because "hardness of heart"? People need to take their marriage and marriage vows (to God) seriously.
It would help if people regarded the marriage vows as to God in regard to each other rather than vows to each other. It is better to ask God to give one the spouse they need than to demand of the spouse to be what they want, which is quite hardhearted. Paul spoke as one considered faithful by God, in whom the Holy Spirit resided. While he talked about letting an unbeliever leave, he did not permit a believer to initiate a divorce. Paul's goal is peace, and he expected the believer to submit to the Prince of Peace in their marriages. Not much of that happening is there. Paul never says anything that allows divorce if there is infidelity. Jesus talked about divorce causing adultery, which it cannot do if it already exists. So maybe we have latched onto a loophole that is not really there because of our sinfulness.
You are wrong. They are living in a lifestyle of sin daily for God considers the very act of flesh on flesh as adultery not the vows. Ceremony is not marriage . You consecrate w flesh on flesh. That act is forever adultery. Sin is sin don't sugar coat .
I was wondering if I could seek your help with a subject in my life . The subject of remarriage. The person who I'm currently in a relationship with we want to marry he is divorced was divorced by his ex wife after she was unfaithful. I'm still currently married to a man who was deported over 10 years ago because of abuse of alcohol and drugs. He was a mean drunk and it was a bad marriage with infidelity on his part and yes now mine because I've had a child with the person that I'm currently with. We are try to seek God now together and we want to do everything right even though we realize that we have done wrong in our past we are still living together but want to marry before we sleep together again but we don't know if it's against God or what to do we love each other very much but we also love God. It's so hard ! I want to divorce and marry him is it wrong to divorce my first husband I don't even know where he is exactly somewhere in Mexico. This is a crazy situation we just want to move on with ours lives but we don't want to do anything against God . But what is the right thing to do if we have a child together?
The guy you seeing has a covenant with his first wife unless she does, if you pursue marriage or even a relationship with him that is adultery. Even though your husband is no longer there, he is still your husband, the best I can say is seek the word, alone and allow yourself to grow in Christ, rather than be in a state of wondering if God is ok with my sin.
“But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:2-11 NIV
@325ariel we have been together for 6 years his wife kicked him out over 3 times 9 years before she was committing adultery with several other men and is still sleeping with several men . And they have had a divorce for awhile but I was never able to divorce. This guy I'm with and I have a child together as well who is 4 . We have been seeking God together and now that we have been seeking God we have found all this stuff out but I know that there is stuff in the Bible about abandonment and about how you can divorce if there were in fact infidelity and I was abused in every way imaginable by my so called drunk of a husband and he also cheated on me many times even with my own sister. I was loyal until I couldn't take it anymore and now I'm with someone who treats me well and I him and his ex wife is still just selfish and only cares for herself. So I guess none of that matters? Even what Moses said about divorce? I keep going in circles trying to seek what God wants. But what of our child ? They are already divorced it says that once you are divorced you should never go back. I can't remember where in the Bible I read all of this. I do want to do what is right.
Sister, you are already married to the new man spiritually. You have had a child by him and have already joined yourself with him. Do you even think your deported husband will take you back with someone’s child? And if you really cared about the first marriage that much, you would have moved back to Mexico with him or find a way to legally bring him back. Continue your second marriage because you are already married spiritually with a whole child from the union.
Why get married if marriage is no longer holy to Americans??? It scares away those women who are wife material! Why divorced singles want to remarry again if marriage is no longer HOLY to them??? Why third party like mistresses want to get married when they don’t believe on marriage holiness??? Now I understand why Monica is still single because she don’t believe in marriage holiness!
Matthew 19-9 The term Christ Jesus used was "fornication." He was referring to the Jewish custom of the betrothal or engagement period. He didn't use the term adultery because He was not speaking about marriage. There's no justification for divorce. You can not remarry another. Be reconciled or stay single praying for your ex spouse salvation if they divorced or walked out. A pastor must be the husband of one wife.
here we go, again, with false teaching....a non believer leaving means the believer is not enslaved or not under bondage, which is different from not bound....something that was stated, just above...
I amdivorced because my ex committed adultery. My current partner is the one that committed adultery and divorced his wife. No we both in the Lord and we believe we were blessed by God to marry. Is it permissible?
Matthew 19:3-8 KJV - The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but "from the beginning it was not so." It means Gods heart has no thought of divorce. If anyone commits adultery continually(without any guilt) he or she not saved God said about saved family. Gentiles can do whatever they want to do because they are not saved or no salvation. And another thing u should not marry at age of ur children marriage age. U have to overcome sex flesh if wife dies after 45 age Moreover marriage is not only for sex its God given responsibility ( if he becomes impotent u should not have sexual relationship outside its sin, its God allowing situation u have to pray or use medication. Pls like if u agree praise the lord 🙏
the term "innocent party" is used as the cornerstone of this biblical argument. I know the context is causing the divorce, but it brings to mind "he who is without sin throw the first stone" Just as much as the devil may try to convince some people their evil at times he's also there whispering in your ear that you're innocent and deserve more, deserve happiness and all your dreams.
yes, for abandonment (not just adultery), if you faithfully kept your marriage vows yet your spouse divorces you, you are allowed to move on and are no longer in "bondage" (as found in 1 Corinthians 7).
@@tam1729 That's not really what 1 Corinthians 7 says. Some are to stay single after divorce, but those abandoned or with a cheating spouse are no longer in bondage (as in the former marriage bond). Here are verses 8-15 (NKJV) : 8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
It doesn't say we're to remarry. It simply says don't kill yourself to hold onto the marriage if the other person wants to leave because God called us to live in peace.
@@rachybaby72 Scripture says we're no longer under bondage, and not much beyond that. Different interpretations are possible, and the most straight forward interpretation is that any bondage from the former but now broken wedding covenant has ended. If there is no present wedding covenant (per scripture), than the innocent spouse is "at peace" and allowed to re-marry.
This is a false teaching. There is only one reason a believer is allowed to divorce, and that is in the case of marital infidelity during the betrothal period. We see this example with Jesus’ own parents. The way Joseph was going to put away Mary is the only divorce that is allowed in God’s eyes. If you do a word study of the Greek word infidelity, you will get this true meaning. In God’s eyes, sex is marriage. That’s why the only divorce that is allowed is divorce before marriage, i.e. during the betrothal period.
You are assuming the greek word pornea means fornication when in fact it is much broader, pertaining to all sexual immorality. When you confine the greek word to fornication alone, then you can possibly make your case; but that word encompasses all forms of sexual perversion so as not to restrict the innocent party from divorcing someone who commits adultery through other means.
I tend to agree, although I believe the Old Testament adds the situation when a spouse neglects the other so much that it's equivalent to a physical abandonment. However the New Testament does say that if the unbelieving spouse leave, the believer is free. Free to remarry in the Lord? It's not said in so many words but seems to be implied
@@realjasondaniels That’s inaccurate. Sex is only appropriate for marriage and it consummates (completes) a marriage, but it does not make a marriage in and of itself.
Now here is the issue with remarriage. We become one but that’s a contradiction to become one if we let’s say divorce and get married again 3 times. You can’t be one with 3 people can we ?
I've been with two men have children with both. First married by virginity but our child comes after the second married & divorced by paper. What one do I have to be reconciled too as I didn't even know the Lord until after
@@fire4myChrist what do you mean married by virginity. Now what I would say is marriage through the church meaning Christ. Is what determines marriage. If you’re speaking about legally married you were never married under God.
@@fire4myChrist your first husband you were married to, that's who you reconcile with. But definitely, id says go to God for peace and restoration for your own peace, repent of your sins, and be baptized in the Holy Spirit.
What about a married couple that never consummated their marriage? They said their vows before God, but they never had sex (2 becoming 1 flesh) to consummate it? Is it still a marriage even though it has not been consummated?
This is pretty much the story of Joseph and Mary, and Joseph considered a divorce. Though my opinion on this instance is not that anyone though Mary sinned, but that Joseph was considering stepping aside for the special purpose God had for Mary. Still, it is instructive to your question.
According to Genesis ch.2:24 When one marries their first spouse the two become one Flesh. See or no sex the two becomes one flesh. Sex or no sex you are still One flesh
I really appreciated this teaching on the 10 Virgins which has puzzled me for years. I am still unclear that half of those 'virgins' were not Christians at all. I'm still wondering why Jesus called all of them virgins - which as far as I can figure, relates to purity. And purity as in a true Christian. Interested in more on this!
The parable of the 10 virgins is best understood as symbolic of the soon upcoming rapture. All 10 virgins are akin to those that claim Jesus as their lord and savior, but only 5 were ready for His return.
Sometimes the word "virgin" was used to mean any unmarried (or never married) woman. The parable had nothing to do with sexual purity. All ten virgins claimed a relationship with Jesus, but only half of them really knew Him.
yes it is. the bible says so. i married a divorced woman after my christian wife left me for her christian boss. so im guilty of adultery. reality sucks and though none of us get out without screwing up i know i did by marrying a divorced woman. i didnt write the rules i just have to live with them.
Forgiveness is 70 times 7. Jesus Himself forgives that much, really more. Because of that we are healed in our hearts. Many times Jesus said, "May it be done to you according to your faith." May you find faith to believe Jesus is such a healer.
@@325ariel sadly no, but its kind of you to say that. :) i suppose i had to choose between being alone in this life or lost in the next... and i'm here now so...
This is so sad! People are looking for excuses to get remarried. Marriage is one time till death do you part. You take one vow before God not two or three vows (marriages). What a sick and perverse generation.
@@AgentBeans I may not know the exact reason for the laugh, but here a few guesses. The gospel may be foolish to the person (I Corinthians 1:18), or it may be Christians who say one thing and do another, or it may be we take ourselves too seriously.
If you want a divorce but the other party has not yet committed adultery, live apart (dont see or talk to the other person) and usually, given enough time, the other party WILL commit THAT SIN, then you can get a divorce and go on with your life and remarry. been there, done that, worked for me.
That's totally hypocritical and cynical: you actually put the other party in a situation hoping they would commit adultery! In other words, you set them up. You are as responsible as they are for this adultery, if not more.
God knows the thoughts and intentions of the heart (Heb 4:12) and we will all be judged according to our actions by Jesus on the last day (2 Cor. 5:10). If you did what you’re describing in your comment (especially if it was purely just out of lack of desire for your marriage to continue), you abandoned your marriage and manipulated your spouse. They are responsible for their own adultery, but what is described here is just as evil and completely against God’s heart for marriage.
Interesting. And why did you want a divorce? Because you stopped giving thanks to the Lord for your spouse. See Romans 1:21. Your spouse only had and affair, you are the adulterer.
@@deanfry879 bc i stopped giving THANKS to God for a physically abusive emotionally abusive spouse that was a cheater, before, during and after the marriage? um...ok....NOT!!
