There was a short on RU-vid of parents having the Grinch come in and steal their children's Christmas presents in front of them and leave out the front door. All the while, the poor children are screaming and traumatized. That will stay with those children forever. The parents are laughing saying well, you should have been good??😖 It's sick! Why would anyone want to traumatize a child?? I agree with you that we are living in very dark times and people's hearts have grown so cold and there is no concern or compassion anymore. People are so selfish and so self-absorbed. None of it is funny at all. Time to just unplug from it all.
And if you think your kid isn’t going to talk about you with the trust adults at school.. you’re wrong. And they absolutely want to make you happy and they feel so so deeply the pain that their parents cause them. They are in turmoil and then they grow up. It’s so fucking sad. Thank you for making this video!!
Well. If people stopped watching these videos in disgust, commenting on them, and sharing them to other to watch in disgust- their channels wouldn't have the engagement it has and it wouldn't be worth it for them to create the content. Stop interacting with this shitty content. Stop watching it. Stop commenting on it. Stop watching videos criticizing it, bringing more attention to it. Shtty parents have ALWAYS existed, we're just letting it be a monetized job in today's day and age by being shocked that there are parents like this out there. News flash, there have always been parents that bully their kids-quit paying them with your engagement.
These kids have NO choice or control over the situation. It’s a modern form of abuse, and my heart aches when I see these videos. Thank you for this, Kristy
One of the worst parts is an astounding number of people do not classify it as abuse. Its so sad. Its nice to see someone with a larger platform speak out on it.
Please don’t stop doing videos like these! We need more voices like yours on the internet. I love how fearless you are in addressing these topics. It’s so, so important for people to realize how social media is numbing us and how dehumanizing it is, ESPECIALLY to children.
From a clinical psych perspective - THANK YOU!!! Kids 👏🏼 are 👏🏼 effing 👏🏼 PEOPLE! My children are 18, 16, and 2. I never imagined how the world would be with my first two, but seeing these videos and having a toddler makes my heart hurt (and I’m not even a kid person). It’s just sad and wrong and heartbreaking. You are always a voice of reason, and your insight is comforting. Thank you for making these videos. They combat the f’cking horror we see daily.
I'm not even an expert, I took *one* college course on childhood trauma/ACEs and OMFG seeing how many parents are unironically ABUSING their children and think it's fucking FUNNY... i cannot imagine how you feel. thank u for sharing.
The egg cracking is no different than parents filming their children and forcibly getting them to disclose gender ideals. I'm ready for the internet to die.
As a Highly Sensitive Person, I have found TikTok is not the place for me. The only social media I can really stomach is RU-vid, because I can choose what I see.
@@aksez2u True…but you can also choose what you want to see on RU-vid Shorts. I’m very anxious and I’m slowly noticing the things that upset me. I never go to TikTok. I’m housecleaning my subscriptions. 😊✌🏻
I agree, I’ve stopped using Insta and Facebook (3.5 months now!) and only watch RU-vid. I don’t really see RU-vid as ‘social media’ because for the most part you barely interact with anyone (only on the occasional comment, like this) and you choose what you do/don’t watch.
I’ve been only on RU-vid for a while now. Probably about two years. I can’t handle the other ones. Everything is so obviously fake or just plain angering.
Not a mom here, but every day I find myself thinking ‘IS ANYBODY CARING/THINKING ABOUT THE KIDS?!?!?!” more often than not 😭 it’s like kids are currency. It’s insane.
Agreed 100%. I accidentally scared my 3mo old baby with a tiny burp the other morning and when I tell you my heart BROKE seeing him scared and upset… I don’t understand these people out here intentionally hurting their little babes. Their feelings matter so much, they’re so important, and you are so right.❤️
I genuinely wish I’d grown up with a mother as caring and empathetic as you. Both of my parents are completely emotionally unavailable and my mother was/is incredibly abusive. Knowing parents like you exist in the world gives me some hope in the world we’re stuck in
I saw a compilation of parents cracking the egg on their own head, making their kids laugh, and having conversations with them about how they'd feel if someone did that to them.. it was really sweet, I cried lol
Thank you for talking about this!! I left Instagram and tiktok over a year ago because I just couldn’t understand what we were all doing anymore. I can’t believe what it’s become. PARENTS PLEASE STOP IT. Leave your kids out of whatever the hell you’re on TikTok for. Seriously.
I just think back to when I was my kids’ ages and remember how I felt when my dad or mom would tell a story about me that they thought was funny, but it was humiliating to me. But they were only telling a few people. Now these embarrassing moments are being broadcasted around the world.
Oh man that really sent me down a path of suppressed memories! I absolutely hated that SO much and my mom would do it all the time. I remember crying about it one time as it was happening and all the adults in the room just laughed harder about it. This shit real trauma, people! Geez!
When you showed the example with the kid and the chili and showing the perspective of that dad filming and totally ignoring their kid, really hit me like Wow that’s so messed up… 😔
I totally agree. It’s becoming inhuman. My boyfriend was watching TikTok live with me because he’s never seen it before and I was just scrolling through the different lives. After 10 minutes of scrolling through he says “that’s evil.. you should delete it.” I was kinda surprised but also I agree with him
This stuff always makes me cry. The old Jimmy Kimmel “we ate all your Halloween candy” bits used to make me cry. Kids need their home to feel as safe and predictable as possible. Thank you for speaking up on it ❤
Kids are going through active threat survival drills in public schools (important but still stressful), taught that strangers outside are dangerous (important but also stressful), get totally overstimulated by social media and games and advertisements, and are growing up in a world where they can be socially isolated because of social media content of themselves. The one single place that should be their safe, calming, comfortable, trustworthy space is with their parents. And then their parents hurt them to exploit them for internet points or money and those kids have no idea what they did wrong to deserve such a thing. Then they grow a few years older and their peers reject them because of that same internet content. It's absolutely wretched.
Agreed! I chose not to have children. However, being around my nephews, godson & friends children has really led me to realize how intelligent and vulnerable these little beings are. And everything they experience will shape who they are as they develop and grow. It is disgusting and emotionally abusive to expoit them!
Came here to say the same. I wouldn't have even known about this weird shit on tik tod with kids. I refuse to download it, I know I'd just be angry and irritated all the time.
Yes!! Me too I choose not to have them but they are real people forming their own personality and everything is so big and confusing to them. They deserve respect and autonomy too, they are people!
100% agree with you girl. The first time I saw an egg cracking video I was honestly heartbroken for this child. You can see the happiness and excitement in her little face to be doing something fun with family members and then gets hit in the head with an egg. You see her emotions immediately change to sadness, confusion and betrayal. She said that wasn't very nice and she was right, it was not. That's bullying. And it makes it worse coming from people she should be able to trust. It's sad and I hate it. I would never do that to my baby.
This has been going on long before TT -- remember on the late night shows when the parents would "fake" steal all their kids' Halloween candy? Har-de-har-har as the kids cried their eyes out. I've hated that kind of thing FOREVER.
Ugh the cheese on the head! Still irks me. I remember the people watching people sleep being a thing on here years ago, and on Twitch too. People can get weird and when money is involved, even weirder. I avoid tiktok, I already doomscroll reddit.
I 100 percent agree! I saw a 'short' of a mom and teen sister cracking an egg on a 3 or 4 yr old. They were laughing so hard, and this poor baby's feelings were so hurt by them. She was telling them how mean that was and how upset she was, and they just continued to laugh at her. I was honestly in tears for her. It really hurt my heart, and it disturbs me that these people are perpetuating cruelty into our world. 😢
@kaylabayever519 When I was a young mom, I had a friend that marveled that I talked to my kids like they were adults. I said that I just talk to them like they're people. They deserve the same respect as adults.
We’re normalizing extremely disturbing stuff surrounding children 💔 It’s really concerning where we are headed “do what ever makes you feel *good* “ is the mantra people are living by. No thoughts of what long term effects we will have on our lives. People using their children for profit in any way is always a recipe for disaster.
People no longer have boundaries or any sense of what is and is not appropriate for online. Not everyone needs to see other peoples children, and various other things that just open them up for mental health issues and safety risks. It’s scary
That's why I don't watch tic toc much at all, here lately what iv seen has seriously ticked me off, I love cats and I get alot of cat videos but it's the heart breaking ones that got me ticked, in my opinion they spend a little to much time recording the cats or kittens suffering before they finally help them. Every second counts when they are suffering so much 😢 and it breaks my heart, a couple seconds is all they need to show, an then rush the cats to the vet asap!!!
It doesn't, people just need to stop being on the app point blank period. "Talking about it" is literally just bringing more energy into it which then further exposes more people to it- thus promoting it. Ignore the insanity and the insanity dies.
So horrible that these people are traumatizing their children for “likes”. They’re betraying a vulnerable child’s trust in them. Reprehensible behavior. These parents don’t realize the harm they’re causing and how this could affect their child’s emotional development. I’m 100% with you Kristi.
I still overthink & am traumatized by things from my childhood from 30 years ago, all from significant feelings that I couldn’t verbalize at the time. I certainly can’t imagine how much more traumatic those memories could be if social media existed then.
I think this egg cracking thing is demonstrating a lower level of kindness and empathy. You don’t have to like kids to be kind to them. Some people don’t like pets but they wouldn’t abuse an animal in distress.
I probably won't have kids anymore and they annoy me most of the time when they have tantrums but seeing those videos just opens up a type of anger deep inside of me and I want to protect them at all costs and want to slap the parents soooooooo hard...
Well, I'm not a fan of kids and am childless by choice but it doesn't mean I enjoy watching them getting hurt or humiliated online ( I despise family channels like that). I just don't want to be around them, it makes me anxious (screaming etc).
OMG that egg thing is SO upsetting…I think about how OVERJOYED my toddler is when she gets to help me in the kitchen and “cook” with me. To do something like that to her, and laugh at her confusion when I, her mother, one of the people she trusts more than anyone to keep her safe and love her, has basically betrayed her trust like that…it is SO NOT funny that there are parents out there who think that is funny.
I agree!!!! The first time I saw that I was genuinely confused, then angry, then physically ill. The the fuck would someone do that to their kid? How would they feel if their spouse/sibling/parents did it to them, a fully grown adult? It’s disgusting and creepy.
This Omg. I would let my niece crack one hundred eggs on my head. I would not crack any on her head because it's too close to hitting her and that's the last thing I want to do. She trusts me and I want to continue to prove I am worthy of that trust
I couldn’t agree more! As a grandma of 12 (I am 60), I am so worried for our culture, our society, and ESPECIALLY my grandchildren (ranging in age from 19-4). Where have our values gone? People share so much that should not be shared. It is refreshing to hear someone in your age group speaking out. Fast forward 20 years…what will our society look like?? Sad and horrifying to see our “antics”. Life just isn’t valued….
I am so scared about this. I’m a mom and I’m trying my best to teach him good values and about God. It’s scary but we must have faith and instill good values.
You are, in fact, NOT a buzzkill you are a thinking human which unfortunately is becoming more and more rare. Love you and completely agree with you! ❤
I completely agree with everything you said! The worst I’ve seen is a child made to believe he was getting an iPhone for Christmas. His excitement was palpable. He opened it and began jumping up and down because he got what he had been asking for…only to realize the box was empty. To see the crushing disappointment and humiliation while his entire family was rolling on the floor was truly disgusting. What is wrong with people? We ARE living in the darkest times.
I refuse to download tiktok so I learned about this through the grapevine and as a preschool teacher, I’m infuriated over it. I’m so glad you did a video on this!
I absolutely HATE tiktok. I haven't been on in over a year. I found myself going on and crying the WHOLE time. Most people I followed I can find on here or fb. Getting off of tiktok was the best decision I have made in a long time.
The way you described how those poor kids must feel during the "egg challenge" legitimately made me cry. I can't imagine doing that to my daughter. What is wrong with those parents?
Also as a child who was subject to a lot of trauma and am currently doing a LOT of work to undo the BS, this stuff def has a huge impact on children and it’s absolutely gross what people are posting, what they’re comfortable doing now, what is starting to be considered “normal,” and the decline of real emotional intimacy and connection. It’s sad and very scary.
Oh my gosh. The people who put on really scary Halloween masks at daycare and film scaring the kids and making them cry absolutely blow my mind. How could ANYONE find that funny? Thanks for tackling this. It needs to be said...repeatedly!
As a teacher, I know kiddos are the MOST sensitive with their emotions as they grow and are learning to even understand WHAT emotions are and dealing with self- awareness and trying to understand what they're feeling and why. I mean full grown adults don't always understand and deal with emotions well. I also think about those sad egg moments when you can see the confusion, hurt and even anger at times, on their little faces. I imagine there is also a loss of a that sacred trust a kiddo has for mom/dad as a protector. Maybe even thinking inside, did I do something wrong to deserve that? It is so complicated and precious. And all for what? Indeed very dark and disheartening times.
You’re so on the money with your assessment of all of this. Anyone who challenges you on it, or challenges anyone who calls out this BS is just acting out because they’re being told they shouldn’t do whatever they want to do online.
100% there’s a reason why so many of us need therapy now, I can’t imagine what the next generation will talk about with their therapist. We care more about ourselves than anyone else. Dark times for sure thank u for this
I don’t even have children and I feel that everything you said is 100% spot on! Parents should be a safe space for children, they shouldn’t be your first tormentors using your humiliation for chuckles. It’s all so weird and pretty repulsive.
We must protect kristi at ALL COSTS! she saying what a lot of people haven’t even taken into consideration, myself included. We can all agree abusing children is bad, but I think social media has dimmed this line of what’s okay and what’s not okay and what’s full on abuse. And let’s remember abuse isn’t always physical, it’s emotional too. I’ll be the first to admit that I have scared my son a few times but not in a “I’m trying to scare you way” we will be playing hide and seek and I’ll jump out of my hiding spot if he can’t find me. We all laugh and he enjoys that part of it. But again there’s this line people are choosing not to see and using the “we’re just playing” excuse when you can clearly see the child is unhappy. I agree with what you’re saying 100%
Amen Kristi. Tik tok is demoralizing and boundaries are lost. I don't watch and I don't support it. Social media has ruined our morales and our kindness for each other.
that’s true. before the internet, some parents bullied and humiliated their children because they thought it was just funny. some people really shouldn’t be parents.
I'm so afraid of people (kids AND adults) getting "Tiktok brain". Already seeing a bit of it in my sister who's in her mid 30s. This shit needs to stop
You are spot on. Our society does not value children and it shows up in so many ways, from undervaluing parenting, lack of day care, not properly funding education and treating kids like objects for our entertainment. I remember feeling ill watching those videos of parents telling their kids they ate all their Halloween candy. Some of those kids reactions were just so heartbreaking and it was clear that what those kids felt was just not valued. Throw in social media, which children cannot consent to and it is awful. Thanks for talking about this.
This type of content is needed today! Thank you, Kristi, for being a voice of reason and sanity. The posts like you were discussing are exactly why I deleted the app.
As someone who was heading into the "mommy instagramer" life and came to a severe halt after coming to this exact realization, you saying this is SO important. The Internet can be safe place at times, but also dangerous as hell and intentionally exploiting your kids for money just feels yucky. Especially while they are learning to regulate their emotions and thoughts and feelings. It's a huge developmental time for them and shoving a camera in their face is so unkind. Thank you for this video from one mom to another ♥️
I couldn’t agree more. It’s truly disturbing the lengths people/parents will go to to gain clout. As a mother it knocks me sick. How can these people think this stuff is entertaining. Thank you for voicing this; it’s a topic that needs a lot more attention. PS I hope you’re being kind to yourself. Much love to you and yours xx
Right there with you Kristi. I have deleted all my social media apps except for RU-vid and Instagram (which I don't even use that much) because I just CAN'T deal with the videos I see involving children and animals that people think are "harmless" but they're actually horrific. People are off their rockers.
I AM SO GLAD YOU MADE THIS VIDEO. As a mental health professional and a mom and a former CPS worker, I am BAFFLED by what these parents who do these think their kids will form their identity and attachment aaround. This is not going to end well. Also, my son also LOVES TRAINS. Like we watch his favorite train the Union Pacific Big Boy videos because that is his favorite train at the moment. He just loves it. Yay for the train lovers!
I am thankful to not have grown up during TikTok. My dad used to take videos of me and threaten to send them to loved ones and friends in order to get me to behave. It was so traumatic, but to think of my dad actually posting online for clout is unfathomable. Those kids are going to harbors so much resentment toward those parents. I’m voluntarily child free, but there has to be some level of sociopathy to think subjecting children to intentional trauma is funny. That’s so disgusting.
I never considered with the egg cracking how let down the child would feel thinking they are spending time with their parent only to be essentially smacked AND the time spent together be over all at once. That may be a double smack. I agree that we are too comfortable with social media and ya know in 2003, we never would have agreed with how things are now with social media. Thank you for bringing it up and starting this conversation, and I agree with you!!
KRISTI!!! Please never stop being real. That’s become so rare, when I find others who feel like you do, about literally everything you said, I feel like I’m seeing a unicorn. Normalcy is become further and further from shore. And raising a current 3 year old, in this climate, has me afraid to leave my homestead sometimes. Thank you for being the real thing. Having never strayed from being the real thing. And for always ALWAYS coming back.
Thank you! I’m not on TikTok but friends have sent me the egg videos and every time I’ve said why are we laughing at physical/emotional child harm. As a pregnant teacher it makes me sick!
You're absolutely right. Some states are passing laws to prevent kids from being taken advantage of on social media. The laws are like child actor laws, the kids have to be paid, there have to be breaks, and some even have clauses that allow them to request the media be removed once they hit adulthood. Even the government is agreeing.
I agree 100%. I’ve been saying this for months. I just saw a instagram reels of a mom creating a thumbnail with her son, after the son lost his dog. He didn’t even want to be on camera. If it was me I wouldn’t even thought of making a video at all. I would be consoling him, making sure I’ve done all possible to recognize his emotions. As you mentioned these are little humans with true feelings, and a real crucial time in his little life. We should be molding these little ones into becoming the best version of a person they should be, not creating ares in life that they don’t know how to deal with. Like loosing a pet like this one. He broke my heart. Since when did it become ok to exploit true feelings to get even one like?? People like this make it harder for people that actually need help seek help. Because then the real people that need help, to everyone will be called attention seekers, or another worst term liars. I’ll stop here before I continue my rant. Thank you for sharing. Love your videos by the way.
Social media gives us the inside look at how some people really are. And its so horrible to see how , especially parents out themselves, of being not kind to their kids. And it also really speaks at how desperate online people can become for validation . It’s insane.
Thank you for talking about this. My husband and I chose not to have children, but every time I see adults harming their children like this it throws me into a rage. I don’t know what I would do if this happened to ME as a child. Who thinks shoving a camera in their child’s face while they are crying or traumatized is acceptable? Children should be protected first and foremost and this is worrying and wrong. You are not a crybaby I feel the same as you. It’s too much and people are just too OK with it.
I think it’s wonderful that you are talking about this on your platform because you reach so many people. I have a degree in Psychology and Child Development and it is truly a dark time. Parents really don’t understand the damage they are causing their children. This is unnecessary and ridiculous. Kids have enough challenges without adding to it. I don’t have children but it infuriates me to no end when I see this type of content. A lot of people really shouldn’t be parents or educate themselves prior to conceiving. Thank you Kristi for talking about this. ❤
After i took my first childhood growth and development course i decided that i think it should he mandatory learning for everyone. We should all think twice about the way we treat the people of the future. They deserve respect.
I honestly think that a lot of these “jokes” stem from toxic relationships between children and their parents. Like for me, as the oldest of 4 children I was parentalized, I helped raise my younger siblings. So now here I am 24 and I struggle with the parent vs sibling mindset. I taunted and teased my siblings and now I have to change my mindset from sibling to parent with my own child. It makes me wonder how many others feel this way and struggle with the switch. For me it’s very important to break the cycle. My child will always feel loved and empowered. I refuse to break her spirit too. Also, misery loves company and parents who are miserable or unhappy well… you know the rest. We have people cracking eggs on their babies and making their lives a docuseries. Just my $0.02
I agree absolutely 100 percent that this stuff is getting out of hand. We’re supposed to be protecting our children, not exposing them and humiliating them for random people who literally don’t care about you or your kids lives. It’s so crazy to me
Yes!! I 100% agree! I can't believe the things parents do to their kids and think it is ok. It's disturbing. Sometimes, I think I'm the only one that is bothered by this. I'm glad I'm not.
I think you are absolutely on point. Social Media has become disturbing. I have 6 grandchildren that are growing up in this, and it terrifies me. Thank you for being the brave one to say it out loud.
One of the most critical stages of development and learning is from birth to five years old. The first five years of child development are crucial to their health, well-being, and the overall trajectory of their lives in various ways. Parents shoving their phones in their kids faces, exploiting their children for money/views, the way kids develop this people-pleasing nature at such a young age, it's all going to affect them in a negative way.
I think that …that feeling, when you’re little, from darkest childhood memory that often just a shadowy impression, of being helpless, powerless, intimidated, and completely unable to stop something from happening that you didn’t want to happen- THAT core memory drives a lot of angry adults to behave abhorrently. The memory of that feeling is so strong that it is the wellspring from which abusive behavior towards others or neurosis or disorders come from. People lock it away and don’t acknowledge it but oh yes, it finds a way to bubble up.
This is the best video you have ever done Kristi! I cannot with social media in general… but TikTok is the absolute worst… we literally have not even seen or dreamt of the worst ways that TikTok is affecting this up and coming generation… and I am terrified
I appreciate you standing up for kids cause kids don’t have rights and I think this stuff should be talked about more! I was one of those kids and I have lasting effects of this I salute you for keeping your son offline!
Kristi, I could not have said it better myself! Thank you! I have been a mom for almost 30 years. When you call this "the darkest timeline", I get it. I am grateful I did not have social media in highschool (school in general), or my children's formative childhood years. I hate social media. I have several channels I like to watch on RU-vid, but that is it. I am so sick of the clutter online, everyone's noses stuck to their cell phones and people who use their children to create content. I don't find the egg cracking thing funny. It is tacky. None of those moms stop themselves and think of their children first. No. Their focus is "get the likes".
I’ve been thinking about all of this for months now, and I’m so glad a person with your platform and viewership is talking about it. I’m so weirded out with being a part of this version of humanity right now.
Please, please, PLEASE, more content from you like this. We need people to start bringing recognition to our downfall, our horrible behaviors and our inhumanity. PLEASE, keep speaking truths and fighting.
@@Aprilmaytd5tr Oh get over yourself. If you take my use of the word "our" that personally you need to check yourself. OUR as in our society, our collective whole. Just because some of us aren't doing it, doesn't mean we aren't falling as a whole country, we are. Get outta here.
This- about the kids- is heartbreaking. I’m not on tik tok, so I wasn’t even aware. I feel sick to my stomach. I too have two toddlers and I can’t imagine exploiting them like this. Disgusting
This is SO important!!! We have to know the line before we post our kids. I love posting cute lil pics of my daughter but never in a vulnerable moment or trying to exploit her. The eggs videos baffle me.
You are NOT too soft. The first time I saw it and the little girl started crying, the mom laughed and I wanted to crawl through the phone I was so upset by it. The thing I learned as a mom is everything you do matters. Every. single. thing. So when I see parents dismissing kids feelings or laughing at them when they are upset it hurts me for that child.
Love this! Also Kristi parents are doing this not even for money. Many of these parents film their kids and don’t even make a penny, just hoping they will one day at the expense of their kids. So sad
I genuinely think it should be illegal to post videos or photos of children under a certain age online, period. Maybe 13 or 14 at least. If they're not old enough to have a conversation about the dangers of the internet and online privacy and safety, their parents have no business putting their face or information online without their consent.
This egg trend made me think a lot about pranks content and you helped me put my finger on why : it's always about laughing at, not laughing with. And that's so hurtful, especially for kids, because you're at the mercy of your parents, and you literally cannot leave or anything? Also the lack of empathy and the "but i didn't mean to hurt them so it's good" mentality angers me so much :') i'm out there explaining to my teenage students it doesn't change shit if you meant well, you still harmed someone, and there goes tik tok lmfao
Totally agree with you. The world is so weird with what is supposed to be funny. Also, we are modeling for our kids how they should behave, so what happens when they go smash a toy or something in their friend’s face- or their parent’s face?!
Lmao at “do you think I’m being too soft? A crybby ass bieeetch” 😂 But seriously things have gotten weird. Thank you for speaking about things that should NOT be normalized!!
I cant express how grateful i am that you addressed this. I can only hope you got through to people who do this to their kids. Its not ok to humiliate your child!!!
I'm child free, and I agree with you on all of this. I hate tik tok, I had to delete it because it was crushing my attention span and so many things are just too weird and not funny. Watching those little babies look so confused and upset at what their parents did makes me so upset.
