There is a common belief here in Tunisia that an old person or handicapped person brings Baraka (benediction) to the house she or he lives in.. Even if it is hard sometimes to take care of them and satisfy them.. Our parents are our saviors in this life and in the hereafter..
Milka Rimel Take care of your parents is heartfelt. I place nothing above Jesus! When you have him first, all other things fall into place!! Because he is not the Author of confusion!!
@@kristopherkelton8 Greetings from Florida. I'm a Christian believer yet I have become confused lately about the identity of Jesus the Christ as revealed in the New Testament. Therefore I find myself with doubts. I do agree with you that Jesus is "not the Author of confusion." I hope God guides me to a better understanding. Peace
AllahuAkbar! SubhanAllah I'm at this position where I have elderly and frail parents in India waiting for me to come so that I can get them operated but the law in England is not allowing me to take my son for an extra couple of weeks after Easter holidays so that I can stay on and get them operated. I cannot leave my son and go and neither can I come back in 2 weeks. Flight itself takes 12+ hours. I thank Allah swt for guiding brother Paul to upload this video at the right time. I now know what to do InshaAllah!! Thank you Paul for putting in this video
I shall have to be more loving and respectful to my mother and more loving and kind to my sons. In sha Allah, I shall bring some flowers home for my wife to show my appreciation of her being in my life. I must learn to be a better Muslim. May Allah swt forgive me for any of my past misbehaviours with them. Aameen. A much inspiring video this is, Sir! JazakAllahu khayr.
MashaAllah Alhamdulillah.. Salam alaikum sir.. thank you soo much sir.. lots and lots of Duas for you and your family.. be blessed with all goodness and happiness and good health forever ❤️
I'm so blessed to be living close to my elderly parents so I can reap the rewards of looking after them when they need my help. Jzk for reminder brother Paul 🌹
Paul as an ex Londoner brought up in the 60s I remember the remnants of Christian values being taught even by those perhaps not religious but sympathetic to the British Christian traditions The permissive society women's liberation which certain has its place and the Godless society driven my the new age scripture of TV and radio and the new house of worship the shopping centre have turned GB into Godless Britain... Muslims need to lead by example and some do. Now it seems that it is Muslims who will offer a seat to my wife on a bus and even me. Further more Muslims are well placed to lead by example. If ever we need some form of moral anchor it is now
@@somatotrophin1535 why stop there, why don't you go on and tell me Mohammad was a pedophhile. I love earth shattering news. Don't know why you even bother looking at the videos seeing as your simply a troll, So glad to have made your day lol
Your comments on the situation of the elderly is on point. It breaks my heart that when people grow old, they're hidden away from the eyes of the inconvenienced...sometimes i come across the elderly, and the sadness in their eyes tells me they feel abandoned.
I have recently finished reading the whole book in arabic, Imam Bukhari started his book with collection of hadiths about honoring our parents, a very beautiful and Insightful way to start a book about manners and morality
We go over this book in our sisters circle! It’s very needed and I love the commentary and practical applications in our daily lives. I very good read. Very good video!👍 I have the hardback copy it was probably more expensive but I don’t regret the purchase!
The young and the old. The young will learn compassion if their parents and teachers practice compassion. That's us. Placing our parents in nursing homes is a, relatively, modern practice within western society. To the point that some grandparents don't want to be a burden to their children and even ask for it. I bet most would love to live to their end within their families. I know I would. Even gypsies find that shameful and mind their old ones at home, till death. Great, fantastic, profound Hadith. What a reminder. 👍🏽😘
I would love to have my mom live with me, as she is old and have Alzheimer. But, I don't have money enough to stop working, to be home with her all day. I found a wonderful old-age home for her, where I would like to live once I get old! I visit her every weekend. Even if I win on lottery I could not anymore take her home, as she don't sleep in the nights, she needs diapers, she walks out and gets lost if I turn my head. I would need a string to be attached to her 24/7 and I need to sleep in the nights to be able to care for her in the days.
@@mrsTraveller64 dear friend, my comment was only a general view of society as a whole, our attitude, how it has changed over time... My opinion is not a rule... I'm sure that you are doing what, in your situation is best for your beloved mother. Please forgive me for not having considered cases like yours when I spoke. Really hope you and your mother are blessed by Allah. 👍🏽😘
@@mrsTraveller64 I know, I'm a nurse... I was just generalising, I understand the few choices many people have in this and other matters. Please accept my apologies for being so rude with my words, to those that can't choose... May God bless you and your mother❤ 👍🏽😘
*Prophet Mohammad, Four Caliphs, and all Companions of Prophet, left behind ONLY written Quran; and Quran contains tons of Ethical Codes >>> Islamic manners and morality. Bukhari who has Zoroastrian Ancestry fabricated his book 250 years after the death of Prophet, and Truth is: tons of reports in Books of Bukhari not just contradict Law and Ethical Codes of Quran at 180 degree opposite but also many reports given in Book of Bukhari are extremely blasphemous, and such reports badly insult great man Mohammad PBUH, and attack Quran repeatedly. Fact is: this kind of all books must be banned and burned by Muslim rulers like Caliph Umar RA did. We have read each line of Book of Bukhari but 99% Sunni and Shia neither understand whole Quran in their life nor even they read their own concocted books of hadiths fully.* It is our principle that we do not talk in vain but only with solid proof, always. In order to learn that Bukhari was indeed a Zoroastrian hypocrite of Batni-Tehreek (hidden campaign); please read our following page: All Hadith Imams of Sihae-Sitta were Zoroastrian hypocrites
Being in my 70's myself, I appreciate these words of respect. However, much as we loved our father, my sister, brother and myself, were unable to care for my father once he was fitted with a catheter for his bladder, and his creeping senility. He kept pulling it out, and bleeding as a result (in the wee hours of the morning, causing problems for my sister and her daughter). We all worked, and very much needed that income, whereas my father needed full-time care. It was hard to enroll him in a home for the elderly, but we didn't think we had any other choice. (Mother having passed the year before.) He did allow as how he rather expected it. In an ideal world, sure, elderly parents should remain at home if at all possible.
Thanks for sharing. My mom had the beginning stages of Alzheimer's and I was working full time. One day I came home from work and my mom had fallen to the floor. I had no idea how many hours she lay in that position. It was difficult for me both physically and mentally. Eventually I also had to place my mom in a home for the elderly. My mom passed away in 2009 and I'm 68 now. Now I have my own health issues to live with. I appreciate your sharing. Peace to you...
the promised neverland of materialism 😑, let the mothers work, let the wives work, let everyone work, just go work, work, work and keep making stuff and happiness will eventually come. In the end no one have time for keeping proper families, because taking care of family don't make money and the elite needs to control everything like a big farm.
Exactly. We need to work and our parents can't be left alone and with my salary I could never affoard to have someone to be with my mom(altzheimer) all day while I work!!
*Brother Paul: you should give suggestion to Muslims to follow only that Book which Prophet and 4 Caliphs left behind>>Quran. But in Deen Islam, if you tell Muslims to follow Man-Concocted Books; we assure you: you are committing Shirk, and Shirk is unforgiveable Sin **4:48**. Placing Man-Made books beside Book of Allah Azza wa Jal is concomitant to make Imams, Partners of God, and this is SHIRK* Quran 4:48 إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ لَا يَغْفِرُ أَن يُشْرَكَ بِهِۦ وَيَغْفِرُ مَا دُونَ ذَٰلِكَ لِمَن يَشَآءُ وَمَن يُشْرِكْ بِٱللَّهِ فَقَدِ ٱفْتَرَىٰٓ إِثْمًا عَظِيمًا *God does not forgive the joining of partners with Him:* anything less than that He forgives to whoever He will, but anyone who joins partners with God has concocted a tremendous sin Quran 6:114 أَفَغَيْرَ ٱللَّهِ أَبْتَغِى حَكَمًا وَهُوَ ٱلَّذِىٓ أَنزَلَ إِلَيْكُمُ ٱلْكِتَـٰبَ مُفَصَّلًا وَٱلَّذِينَ ءَاتَيْنَـٰهُمُ ٱلْكِتَـٰبَ يَعْلَمُونَ أَنَّهُۥ مُنَزَّلٌ مِّن رَّبِّكَ بِٱلْحَقِّ فَلَا تَكُونَنَّ مِنَ ٱلْمُمْتَرِينَ *[say thou:] 'Am I, then, to look unto anyone but God for judgment [as to what is right and wrong], when it is He who has bestowed upon you from on high this divine writ, clearly spelling out the truth?'* And those unto whom We have vouchsafed revelation aforetime know that this one, too, has been bestowed from on high, step by step, by thy Sustainer. Be not, then, among the doubters. Quran 6:19 قُلْ أَىُّ شَىْءٍ أَكْبَرُ شَهَـٰدَةً قُلِ ٱللَّهُ شَهِيدٌۢ بَيْنِى وَبَيْنَكُمْ وَأُوحِىَ إِلَىَّ هَـٰذَا ٱلْقُرْءَانُ لِأُنذِرَكُم بِهِۦ وَمَنۢ بَلَغَ أَئِنَّكُمْ لَتَشْهَدُونَ أَنَّ مَعَ ٱللَّهِ ءَالِهَةً أُخْرَىٰ قُل لَّآ أَشْهَدُ قُلْ إِنَّمَا هُوَ إِلَـٰهٌ وَٰحِدٌ وَإِنَّنِى بَرِىٓءٌ مِّمَّا تُشْرِكُونَ Say: 'What could most weightily bear witness to the truth?' Say: 'God is witness between me and you; *and this Qur’an has been revealed unto me so that on the strength thereof I might warn you* and all whom it may reach.' Could you in truth bear witness *that there are other deities side by side with God?* Say: 'I bear no [such] witness!' Say: 'He is the One God; and, behold, far be it from me to ascribe divinity, as, you do, to aught beside Him! Quran 10:15 وَإِذَا تُتْلَىٰ عَلَيْهِمْ ءَايَاتُنَا بَيِّنَـٰتٍ قَالَ ٱلَّذِينَ لَا يَرْجُونَ لِقَآءَنَا ٱئْتِ بِقُرْءَانٍ غَيْرِ هَـٰذَآ أَوْ بَدِّلْهُ قُلْ مَا يَكُونُ لِىٓ أَنْ أُبَدِّلَهُۥ مِن تِلْقَآئِ نَفْسِىٓ إِنْ أَتَّبِعُ إِلَّا مَا يُوحَىٰٓ إِلَىَّ إِنِّىٓ أَخَافُ إِنْ عَصَيْتُ رَبِّى عَذَابَ يَوْمٍ عَظِيمٍ When Our clear revelations are recited to them, those who do not expect to meet with Us say, *‘Bring [us] a different Quran, or change it.’* [Prophet], *say, ‘It is not for me to change it of my own accord; I only follow what is revealed to me, for I fear the torment of an awesome Day, if I were to disobey my Lord.’* 50:45 نَّحْنُ أَعْلَمُ بِمَا يَقُولُونَ وَمَآ أَنتَ عَلَيْهِم بِجَبَّارٍ فَذَكِّرْ بِٱلْقُرْءَانِ مَن يَخَافُ وَعِيدِ We know best what they say; and thou art not one to overawe them by force. *So admonish with the Qur'an* such as fear My Warning!
"And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.” Your Lord is most knowing of what is within yourselves. If you should be righteous [in intention] - then indeed He is ever, to the often returning [to Him], Forgiving." Surah Al-Isra
7. Hadith Narrated by Abu Dawud “O Rasulullah, is there still a way of devotion to parents after they die?” He replied, “Yes, by praying, asking for forgiveness for them, carrying out their will, connecting relationships that can not be connected except their way and glorifying their friends.”
The Qur’an Verses of Respecting Parents 1. Surah Al-Isra “And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Wheter one or both of them reach old age (while) with you, say not to them (so much as), “uff”, and do not repel them but speak to them a noble world.” (QS. Al-Isra : 23) “And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up (when i was) small.” (QS. Al-Isra : 24)
Both my parents passed many years back. May Allah have mercy on their souls and place them among the Mukminun. I wish I could've been a much better son to them, a more caring son and done much more for them. I can only make du'a for them now. To those who still have parents, keep being and striving to be the best children to your parents (and siblings and the elderlies too) before it's too late and live to regret it.
. Surah Luqman “And We have enjoined upon man (care) for his parents. His mother carried him, (increasing her) in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents, to Me is the (final) destination.” (QS. Luqman : 14) “But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in (this) world with apporiate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me (in repentance). Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do.” (QS. Luqman : 15) [AdSense-B]
Assalamu Alaykum thank you very much brother Paul for reading to us Hadiith and to reminding to us to act good behaviour and respect upon elder people despite of colour or religion .Islam teach us to be kind the elder people without conditions if they are Muslims or other people Islam say respect old people and other vulnerable.
Assalaamu alaikum my brother Paul. Thank you for all your beneficial videos. I just want to point out that Adabul Mufrad is not all authentic. Imam Bukhari didn't mandate strict authenticity with this collection as he did with his Sahih. May Allah bless you.
. Surah Al-Baqarah “They ask you, (O Muhammad), what they should spend. Say, “Whatever you spend of goods is (to be) for parents and relatives and orphans and the needy and the traveler. And whatever you do of good - indeed, Allah is Knowing of it.” (QS. Al-Baqarah : 215)
. Surah Al-‘Ankabut “And We have enjoined upon man goodness to parents. But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them. To Me is your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do.” (QS. Al-‘Ankabut : 8)
Shahihain Holy Book of Asma’ binti Abu Bakar ra In this holy book explained that when Abu Bakar ra asked to Rasulullah about his mother who is idolatry (polytheism), but he want to connect with her. “O Rasulullah, my mother came and want to connect with my daughter, whether I can connect a relation back with my mother?” Rasulullah replied “Yes connect it.”
This is actually an excellent translation from Adil Salahi. I’ve got several of his translated works may Allah bless his hard work in translating these books into English
With all due respect, any time I see any man trying to argue that the moral code of a society should come ENTIRELY from a religious scripture, I can't help but disagree, because none of these religious scriptures contain any evidence that they are actually from God, infact most are riddled with logical contradictions and scientific errors which dictates they are not from God because God is omnipotent and omniscient and doesn't make mistakes. In the off chance they were once the uncorrupted scriptures from God, the scientific mistakes prove that they have now been corrupted with by human influence, and since we don't know to what extent... There is no reason to think that we have the actual scripture of God uncorrupted in any religious scriptures. The only religious scripture on planet Earth that proves it is the only uncorrupted word of God due to unanswerable scientific miracles and scientific accuracy, are the Vedas, just ask Erwin Schrodinger if you have any doubt, and that scripture says... Morality should be defined upon the collective good of all sentient beings, not just of humans but all animals, any sentient being that is vulnerable to pain, suffering and death. Therefore morality should fundamentally be predicated upon the wellbeing and suffering of the mortak sentient creation of God, because morality as a concept derives itself from the vulnerablity and mortality of God's mortal sentient creation, morality doesnt apply to God who is already the omnipotent and invulnerable one, nothing can hurt him, or harm him or pain him, or destroy him, morality doesnt apply to a being like that. It only applies to his mortal sentient creation. This is why liberal secularism and secular humanism is the only logical basis from which human beings should derive their morality.
"Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour. And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood." Israa 23-24
Salaam alaikum brother Paul, nice reading Masha-Allah I like the explanation. Brother Paul just a kind word of reminder, please when you mention the name of the prophet Muhammad ﷺ to send salutations upon him. Jazak Allahu khayran. Since you know how to say it in Arabic, please mention it it'll be more pleasing to Allah that you remember his Messenger so Allah may bless you 10 times, your salutation reach the prophet Muhammad ﷺ and so we Muslims who follow you, be comforted and pleased by your salutations coming from you showing love to the Messenger of Allah as it is an obligation from every Muslim upon hearing the name of our blessed prophet being mentioned to send salutations of peace and blessings upon him. Salaam alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh wa Maghfiratu.
What about Christians ✝️ families 🤔 so they don't have Christians values? Golden rules of etiquette has been around for years. I agree that some values are being lost? Jesus is the key, to a GOD centered life! It is HE that we obtained Eternal Life!!! Nothing else can get you there. Hallelujah!!
@Master Expert What? Jesus said, Don't call any man father except God! Mother and mom are fine? Some mothers prefer being called by their first name, why I don't know? Jesus said, who is mother? Who is my father? Who is my sisters , who are my brothers? But , the one who does this Will of the Father!!!
brother Paul , did you say at the end of this clip “ all authentic “ , if you did then I would say : the authentic collection is inside the “sahih” , this book is separate that is why it is called “ almufrad ” , not all of it is authentic..
I almost cried watching this video thinking about my parents n my young ones. May Allah protect u from evil n may Allah reward u immensely brother Paul!
Salam Paul May I suggest that you moderate a discussion between Bart Erhman and Ali Ataie on the topic of crucifixion. Bart vehemently believes in crucifixion of Jesus and Ali goes with the Quranic narrative. It would be good to discuss this from a historical perspective.
A short while ago, there was a case in the Saudi courts that a brother brought against his brother in order for his elderly mother to live with him. Everyone wants to honor their mother The Saudi judge chose the brother who between them would be better able to take care of his mother
Shahihain Holy Book of Abdullah bin Mas’ud “I asked the Prophet,” What is the main deeds? “He replied,” Praying in time. “I asked again:” Then what else? “He replied,” Devote toward parents. “I asked again,” Then what else? “He replied,” Jihad in the way of Allah.”
In the holy book of shahihain by Abu Hurairah, there is a man asked the Prophet: “O Rasulullah, who are among all human beings should I interact more properly?” Rasulullah replied, “Your mother” He asked again: “Then who else?” The Prophet said : “Your mother” The man repeats his question: “Then who else?” The Prophet replied: “Your mother” He repeated the question again: “Then who?” Rasulullah SAW answered: “Your father”. From that story, it is very clear right that the command to respecting parents, especially mothers has been ordered since a long time ago by Rasulullah. For so many of their struggles that we can not repay even with the entire earth and its contents.
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "When a man dies, his deeds come to an end except for three things: Sadaqah Jariyah (ceaseless charity); a knowledge which is beneficial, or a virtuous descendant who prays for him (for the deceased)." [Sahih Muslim]. for any Muslim whose parents have passed away, pray for them.
Absolutely love you and your channel brother. you’re a wonderful voice representing our Ummah. Huge fan! Also a fan of your new camera framing. Lovely Golden Ratio you’ve got going on. Keep up the amazing work and may Allah reward you for all your sincere efforts.
Salam alaykum dear brother, I love that you chose this topic. Elderly should be cared for and respected. Allah sends barakah (blessings) to communities where elderly are respected and cared for. Sahih Muslim 2569 Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: Verily, Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, would say on the Day of Resurrection: O son of Adam, I was sick but you did not visit Me. He would say: O my Lord; how could I visit Thee whereas Thou art the Lord of the worlds? Thereupon He would say: Didn't you know that such and such servant of Mine was sick but you did not visit him and were you not aware of this that if you had visited him, you would have found Me by him? O son of Adam, I asked food from you but you did not feed Me. He would say: My Lord, how could I feed Thee whereas Thou art the Lord of the worlds? He said: Didn't you know that such and such servant of Mine asked food from you but you did not feed him, and were you not aware that if you had fed him you would have found him by My side? (The Lord would again say: ) O son of Adam, I asked drink from you but you did not provide Me. He would say: My Lord, how could I provide Thee whereas Thou art the Lord of the worlds? Thereupon He would say: Such and such of servant of Mine asked you for a drink but you did not provide him, and had you provided him drink you would have found him near Me. - I love how Islam teaches us to do good and watch our toungues. For example, there is a sahih hadith where the prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to Aisha (may Allah have mercy on her) that her word would have polluted a sea when she said that one woman was very short. I love how he (peace be upon him) was very passionate about making people think about their words. There are many hadiths about it. He (peace be upon him) said that one woman would go to hell because people around her did not have peace because of her tongue even though she prayed regularly and fasted even more than shs was obliged to and gave charity. May Allah unite us upon The Truth.
Hadith Narrated by Snad Jayyid Someone asked to Rasulullah, “O Rasulullah, I want to perform jihad but I can not do it.” He replied: “Are your parents still alive?” He replied, “Yes, my mother is.” He said: “Meet Allah in state of devotion to parents, when you do that, its equal with you have performed hajj, umrah and jihad.”
“Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good, and to relatives, orphans, the needy, the near neighbor, the neighbor farther away, the companion at your side, the traveler, and those whom your right hands possess. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are self-deluding and boastful.” (QS. An-Nisa : 36)
Surah Al-Ahqaf “And We have enjoined upon man, to his parents, good treatment. His mother carried him with hadrship and gave birth to him with hardship, and this gestation and weaning (period) is thirty months. (He grows) until, when he reaches maturity and reaches (the age of) forty years, he says, “My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to work righteousness of which You will approve and make righteous for me my offspring. Indeed, I have repented to You, and indeed, I am of the Muslims.” (QS. Al-Ahqaf : 15) “Those are the ones from whom We will accept the best of what they did and overlook their misdeeds, (their being) among the companions of Paradise. (That is) the promise of truth which they had been promised.” (QS. Al-Ahqaf : 16) [AdSense-A] “But one who says to his parents, “Uff to you, do you promise me that I will be brought forth (from the earth) when generations before me have already passed on (into oblivion)?” while they call to Allah for help and said, “Woe to you! Believe! Indeed, the promise of Allah is truth, “But he says, “This is not but legends of the former people.” (QS. Al-Ahqaf : 17)
I'd like to share these reminders from surat Al-Isra, Ayah 22-38: "22. Do not set up another god with God, lest you become condemned and damned. 23. Your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him, and that you be good to your parents. If either of them or both of them reach old age with you, do not say to them a word of disrespect, nor scold them, but say to them kind words. 24. And lower to them the wing of humility, out of mercy, and say, “My Lord, have mercy on them, as they raised me when I was a child.” 25. Your Lord knows best what is in your minds. If you are righteous-He is Forgiving to the obedient. 26. And give the relative his rights, and the poor, and the wayfarer, and do not squander wastefully. 27. The extravagant are brethren of the devils, and the devil is ever ungrateful to his Lord. 28. But if you turn away from them, seeking mercy from your Lord which you hope for, then say to them words of comfort. 29. And do not keep your hand tied to your neck, nor spread it out fully, lest you end up liable and regretful. 30. Your Lord expands the provision for whomever He wills, and restricts it. He is fully Informed, Observant of His servants. 31. And do not kill your children for fear of poverty. We provide for them, and for you. Killing them is a grave sin. 32. And do not come near adultery. It is immoral, and an evil way. 33. And do not kill the soul which God has made sacred, except in the course of justice. If someone is killed unjustly, We have given his next of kin certain authority. But he should not be excessive in killing, for he will be supported. 34. And do not go near the orphan’s property, except with the best of intentions, until he has reached his maturity. And honor your pledge, because the pledge involves responsibility. 35. And give full measure when you measure, and weigh with accurate scales. That is fair, and the best determination. 36. And do not occupy yourself with what you have no knowledge of. The hearing, and the sight, and the brains-all these will be questioned. 37. And do not walk proudly on earth. You can neither pierce the earth, nor can you match the mountains in height. 38. The evil of all these is disliked by your Lord." * the clear Quran 17:22-38 *
May Allah SWt bless you for shining the light on the morals and ethics of Islamic teachings towards the elderly. The west significantly lacks this and hoping as the years go by, the west invests in granny flats and incorporating families to make a place for there elderly loved ones. We need to show patience and love for our parents because one day we will be in there place.