"It's Basically Like I Went Bonkers" | BBC Scotland | Being Gail Porter 

no-one is born beautiful. babies are anything but. Also why should it matter? Beauty in the eye of the beholder is the last thing anyone should be concerned with. If your self worth is governed by how beautiful you or others think you are you need to take a look at your life.

I agree Ali as unfortunately feeling the need of the pursuit of perfection (especially with appearance) can cause mental health problems and never feeling good enough! We waste lifetimes worrying about this instead of just being our unique selves and feeling happy with that💚🙏💜

I don’t think he’s necessarily meaning beautiful in a physical sense. And I thought Iain’s comment was just gorgeous, and heartfelt. That said though, I agree that the focus shouldn’t be on « beauty ». When the word beautiful is used in relation to someone whose career was strongly based around looks, about which there is much insecurity, it feels like the wrong thing to be emphasising. I felt a discomfort with every comment hère that mentions Gail being « beautiful », as she already has so much unhealthy focus on physical appearance, when I’m sure there is so much more to her. Even the self deprecating humour feels very very sad. I hope she can some day love & appreciate her true self.

@@alimackenzie2168 remain innocent if you wish. Don't make anyone else's Life a trial ❤️

I think a lot of us do that in any walks of life. I was definitely out of my comfort zone at work, but I needed to earn money and it’s a case of having to force yourself to do it. I’m not comparing my life with hers, mine was an office job (!), but the anxiety, fear, ‘am I good enough’, was and is always there.

Absolutely agree!

@@louisemayb1 He is vile

so true,so much ancestral stuff

Our parents can screw us up.Period

JR well said 🙏 couldn't put it any better! 💚end the cycle x

@@janewright2800 thank you 😊❤️

"She has a personality disorder (which is not a form of mental illness)" Spits a perfectly good Chardonnay across the room. What? No. A personality disorder is a chronic mental illness. You don't seem like a bad guy and I'm not trying to be a dick, but no.

@@mikmook4781 Well, ultimately, it depends upon how you define the term "mental illness". I, and others, don't define a personality disorder as being a form of mental illness because a person literally *is* their personality. An illness should be, at least potentially, separable from the person suffering the illness.

@@patrickwhite8144 Fair enough. All about how you define it and I see where you're coming from. That's actually an interesting thought. Hope I didn't sound rude.

@@mikmook4781 Not at all! It's an interesting debate.

Because those things are so superficial and meaningless. There is such a deep pain and sadness in Gail. Her father is still judging, invalidating and devaluing her, and her experiences. I’d love to see Gail work with a really good psychologist/psychotherapist, and do some inner child work - especially around her teen years, which are such crucial years with regard to developing a sense of self. It seems to me that alongside being devalued at home, and made to feel bad and wrong for just being a normal, and I think probably energetic, enthusiastic, impulsive, fun-loving teen - that is, for just being herself (which always WAS more than good enough!), she likely then saw her only value as being in her looks and sexuality, as that’s where she would have received a lot of positive attention from boys, because she was such a pretty young girl. But placing your value in physical looks will never be enough. It sounds cliché’d but we really do need to learn to love, and truly like, ourselves, and keep becoming the person we really want to be. The person we can like. And that isn’t some perfect being, as we are all constantly growing, learning and becoming our best version of ourselves. And we need to be exceptionally kind, loving, understanding, accepting and forgiving of ourselves throughout that continual journey. And to learn yo humbly embrace and enjoy that journey. We need to really think about what values we want to live our lives by eg being kind, building others up. It’s important to have a clear idea of what really matters to us in our life journey. What we want to be able to look back on in years to come, and be humbly proud that we’ve been. Otherwise, we can just stumble clumsily and aimlessly through our lives, and have no clue what we stand for, or live for. Maybe we could do that each new year, for our WNY resolution. Think about what values, characteristics we want to work on and develop through the coming year. Gail seems yo have a gorgeously sensitive soul. That is usually accompanied by a great capacity to love, care and have compassion for others. I truly hope she can come to know her true intrinsic and infinite worth.

I don't think her dad understood/understands his daughter at all. And i think his daughter knows that.

Dad caused the problems in the first place, he has a narcissistic personality disorder +??? probably handed down to him by his parents. It runs in families like a disease, The parent doesn’t understand or see what There doing to the child, it’s invisible to them most of the time...........🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿😔

I encountered many many years with extreme hairloss too. It mentally breaks you when you don't get acceptable answers and treatment. I changed my clothing style too in that period, more freestyle and casual. I just wanted to feel comfortably and sporty and didn't want to draw attention; didn't care about dressing up and wearing high heels. Now I feel better and dress up more, but I maintain the same style as Gail has too, to feel at ease and dress younger, more sportwise, like a child who feels safe. People, well-meant, also said a lot I would feel better if I dressed up and got more make-up on.

Wow. She’s not milking it. She downplays it, if anything. But that’s all the media seem to want to focus on. I think she is still just looking for the approval and validation she didn’t get as a Terene from her family - like so many others. But she just happens to have at one time been in the media, so that’s her avenue to do that.

You need to have a word with yourself, if you’re so over Gail and her issues. Scroll on mate. A LOT of us care about her and are interested in her story.