*"The problem isn't that Johnny can't read. The problem isn't even that Johnny can't think.* *The problem is that Johnny doesn't know what thinking is. He confuses it with feeling."* _- Thomas Sowell_
i like the video, the problem is justice DOES requiring blaming not just yourself ... but bad actors ... our justice system no longer does that .............. that's a huge problem .... democracy and capitalism fail with a low morality society ... THAT'S THE WORLDS PROBLEM .... always has been
@@hardworker5588 a sign of maturity is being able to discern where the real problem lies. The point is to KNOW where blame is to be placed, if it is truly not oneself, then through discernment the source of the problem can be found.
@@TheLoscla05 --- I agree . . . lemme put it this way . . . our courts view ALL women as more virtuous than ALL men . . . women aren't stupid, they know this. They know that lying doesn't get you arrested if you are female. And if you are arrested, you ain't gonna get anything but a slap on the wrist from the courts. This is what I meant by a society with ethics challenges. BTW, the same exact thing can be said about people with wealth. You can buy your way out of punishment most of the time. THESE THINGS ARE MAJOR ISSUES that make people cynical and then angry and then eventually, societal collapse.
Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one -Bruce Lee Edit: Okay, it would seem some people takes the pray part WAAAY too seriously. As someone nicely put it, it's about "not to taking the easy path, but learn to endure the hard path".
Yes it's sad that we've come to the point were common sense and morality , not to mention decency and respect for ourselves and others are rare qualities .
I don't think most down vote people watch what they're disagreeing with. I believe they downvote based on the platform. If this was a leftist website they would be more likely to agree with it. On PragerU? Gotta downvote. Silly and shallow behavior to base your opinion merely on the platform rather than on its message.
Sadly what's supposed to be common sense and should be widely known is not anymore. Its come to an era where if you criticise a person for example on their behaviour or actions, and said person happens to be of darker akin color, or a different religion or culture, you're the bad guy for criticising their actions, not them for making a mistake in the first place. It's controversial in the sense that if you're part of a certain group, be it race, religion, culture, ethnicity, even a political standing or ideology, you may not have to take responsibility for your actions. You may not have to answer to any of your mistakes no matter how bad and morally wrong they are.
It is a mirror held to immature people. They are bound to be upset by the image it presents. Do you think they would lash out at themselves, or the one holding the mirror?
Don't know about "all", but I've never used media before son gave me this phone last Chrismas. Raising 2 grankids 13&4 I spend hours weekly waiting in line at school dropping off & picking up. Watching science videos and reading comments is better than staring out car window or trying to talk to 4 yr old asleep in back seat. Don't understand all animosity&name calling. As some love to bring Bible quotes into it how about this one.(paraphrased) The man who calls his brother a fool, is a fool himself. Applies to the ladies, too, of course. I ADIMIT TO BEING ONE MYSELF. As all of us are, but have a certain contempt for those who won't. As we said in the 1960s: Peace Out Man.
landon vinyard my dad is from Minnesota and he use ‘matoore’ whereas my mom is from California and she says ‘matchure.’ Could it be a regional thing? I’ve never thought about it!
@@DomainAspect Good advice to yourself. People like you complain about everything and tell others to grow up. Seems very smart and advanced... sad but true
The burden which you can bear without losing mental balance. If i have a job which is fairly easy i would get bored if it's too tough then i can't do it. Responsibility brings fulfillment.
"When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known. And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love." 1 Corinthians 13:11-13
Yanuardila Liwang According to Scripture Love is the greatest evidence of maturity. That is unconditional, sacrificial, love. Which is the love Jesus demonstrated by freely offering his life in the place of sinners. He said this, “greater love has no one than this ... that one lay down his life for his friends...” Come to Jesus Christ to know this love.
It's pronounced that way in many areas of the country. Just as the word "creek" is pronounced "crek" & "car" is pronounced "cah" . Sad people are focusing on something so ridiculous when it should be common knowledge of dialects & accents. The message is On Point & maybe those who were busy laughing should listen again.... they might learn something.
and perspective. It does no good for somebody to try to "Just take responsibility" alone if they can't even perceive the situation they are in. They are likely to be manipulated and exploited for their predictable behavior without perspective to better navigate said responsibility.
It might as well be watered down Jordan Peterson. The more I actually learn about the subjects Prager discusses the less I find it valuable at all, they are so concerned with making these videos digestible for a young audience the videos always just strike me as insultingly simple. Young people may not be the smartest but they can handle taking their mental training wheels off if only for short bursts.
And not relate to your kids? I think it's more like time to remember what your childhood was like or at least try talking to kids with their parents because if you can't do that, you're not ready for kids
Fun idea: Before the Victorian age children did not adore their children or fawn over them. They were part of the family and were there to help the family survive and maybe thrive. Boys worked hard, no - real hard, and girls were given dowry to hopefully go up.
@@TheRadioAteMyTV You mean they considered them nothing more than tools? They're people too! At least they were taught how to do things or at least I hope so
Here is something every college student needs to hear: “If you can't take a little bloody nose, maybe you ought to go back home, and crawl under your bed. It's not safe out here! It's wondrous...with treasures to satiate desires both subtle and gross; but it's not for the timid.” - Gene Roddenberry Edit: This reply section got out of hand real fast, Yes I know John De Lancie was speaking from a script and no I don't really believe that Q (fictional character) exists. The point is the message being delivered is important.
@The Icon of Sin Nonsense; get with the times, bro. Marxism and Communism are big threats. Republicans aren't the only ones who can make serious mistakes.
@@GetOverIt75 There is a difference between what is correct and normal. If he is used to pronouncing it another way, then it can be off-putting to hear what the correct pronunciation is. I don't have a background in linguistics but I imagine it to be similar in theory to how the British spell "colour" versus the american "color".
It’s all about fine tuning the message. Would actually make for an interesting experiment to see if the video were to be reshot and simply changed the pronunciation of that one word would it result in a more effective learning experience.
i dont find it hard to believe that prager u has trouble finding a therapist with high ratings who will push their agenda. seems like any therapist with a brain would turn away from a video like this.
Though he may be a scam artist, I do agree with quite a few of the things that he says in this video, taking responsibility for one's actions is a big part of growing up. If people just kept blaming others for their actions nothing would bloody get done, and similar statements apply to the other statements made here.
@@bobwilliam3545 Yeah, that's true. I wasn't defending him lol, I'm just saying that what he's saying is right, not that it's anything new or revolutionary.
It should, however, several public schools changed their curriculum lately and not in a conducive way. Unfortunately, these days you would see more neo-Marxist indoctrination than useful life lessons. They produce the mobs that violently shut down campus speakers and the language police who enshrine into law the use of fabricated gender pronouns. If the true believers of the radical left become the professors of today, you have a serious issue in the future.
Isn’t containing emotions immature? I understand that there’s a place and time for everything, but shouldn’t people be able to stand up for themselves? If you’re in an environment where you’re being mistreated, you owe it to yourself to let others know you have rights, you cannot allow people to think they can mess with you just for the sake of being “in control of your emotions”. A mature thing to do would be to voice your issues.
Bottling up your emotions is immature, but containing them is mature. You should aim to only release your emotions when you need to. If someone pulls a gun on you are you going to lash out at them? No, you are going to keep your emotions to yourself to avoid getting shot.
I did try to grow up, it was called the US Army! Loaded guns in my face, punches, forced to stay awake for a whole 2 weeks with only 2 hours of sleep per night! Then they kicked me out, got a job, things were going okay, but didn't get paid good, so couldn't afford practically anything. Didn't have enough to buy a house so went from apartment to house to townhouse on leases with roomies. Then I got in bad credit situation, was scammed too, and basically it just killed most of my motivation to do practically anything. Tell that congressman's son who got a full ride to Harvard how easy it was to grow up before I get this video again. Growing up is expensive!
Yeah, sorry for you my dude. You gotta go through all that just to have some high-class toilet-brain tell you to grow up. I guess conservatism and psychology don't mash that well.
You can see from the comments that a lot of people don’t even know what maturity is, but then again I am 65 years old. Life has a way of growing you up.
A lot of comments discussing the subjects in this video are auto deleted within 30 to 60 seconds by RU-vids censorship. If they can control language, they can control thought. They are after the thought criminals.
A mature person takes on responsibilities, not obligations. Responsibility implies a mutual benefit. Obligation is to honor a responsibility in which the other party has changed their position. 'Obligation' is the 'guilt trip' manifested in a cultural form.
Really think about how both terms are used. When someone says, "it's your responsibility!" - it is always in response to you not holding up your end of a social transaction. When someone shouts, "you're obligated!" - they are communicating you owe to some noble social purpose to keep doing something to which you are getting nothing out of. - Words are important. Definitions matter.
@@eliford9826 You pose an interesting observation. People follow higher purposes due to callings from inner morality. An obligation is a forced duty, coming from a worldly external force. - That's the difference, and why 'obligations' aren't 'higher purposes'. - The same world that throws 'obligation' in your face, is most often the same world that would resent you for a 'higher purpose'. - Obligation is a 'serve the herd' construct. And higher purposes almost always rattle the herd.
@@coupage2836 I have no doubt logic is as foreign to you as Martian. - "we are all now dumber for having read your posts." You are the 1st person, in decades of being online, that I have seen copy that line and post it as if its original and clever. So... you got that going for you.
@@eliford9826 I hear you. I'm sure all logical thinkers are in the same boat. Inner morality dictates you will have obligations to it. But when people talk "obligations" like he is, they always are referring to some social duty that blows, and is more than likely antiquated. Hence, why they have to tug at your emotions to achieve your participation. - It's quite fitting that he used marriage as the example. And I'd bet he knows there's a difference between the words; and he specifically used "obligation" knowing damn well fellas aren't getting married BECAUSE there's nothing in it for them. lol - Be prepared for "obligation" to replace "responsibility" in all rhetoric. Left and right.
*Conservatives when someone says Happy Holidays:* NOOOO YOU MUST SAY MERRY CHRISTMAS REEE *Conservatives when minorities want equality:* Idk bro just grow up lol
@@Cuzican8071 You people are ridiculous. Conservatives don't care if you say happy holidays or Merry Christmas. We don't like it when other people try to tell us we can't say Merry Christmas because it offends people. You people really need to grow up. You make up so much crap about conservative people to paint them as horrible monsters when in reality you are the one blinded by your hatred of them.
@@GabrielTobing, sounds like your stuffing down your emotions. Letting logic inform your emotions means looking at the bigger picture and letting go of what you want because it's not logically possible. Think of it this way. Right now I want to by a house. I can't because I don't have the resources. So letting logic inform my emotions looks like this. I can't by it now, so I let go of the idea of buying now and replace with a goal to do so later. I plan to fulfill that goal by setting aside a small amount of my resources on a schedule that will make the goal attainable in a reasonable amount of time. This means that I take the time necessary to save the resources make moderate sacrifices to do so. I plan for setbacks emotional by recognizing the will come and delay my plan and by being willing to stretch out/modify my plan as necessary. Ultimately, I will win because I don't let emotions override my plan.
"I can't imagine anything we could possible strive for in our society that would make it into hell faster than 'Equality of Outcome'." ~Jordan Peterson
I don’t think there is anyone on any level of the political spectrum that believe in equality of outcome, it’s all about equality of opportunity here, the point of contention is that people on the right tend to believe we already have that
Idk, maybe a massive climate crisis that causes wide spread weather disasters, floods, drought, fires, famine, mass displacement, distraction of homes and infrastructure, loss of lives and untold human suffering... Oh what's that? We all need to clean our rooms before we can do anything about it? Okay Daddy Peterson, great plan, why don't you go on another benzo binge and leave this one to the kids?
Almost a hundred people watched the first three seconds and decided they didn't like the video. If only they realized it was actually made JUST FOR THEM
Sounds like something else a wise man once wrote: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Galatians 5:22-24 They're all important. But that last one especially, self-control, is vital to maturity.
Yes. Self-control is so important, but to tell the truth, it's kindness that keeps coming to my mind. Is it really a kind thing to do? Haunts me. Ooooo who's being led by the spirit now?
@@tealicecream actually it's scientifically, historically, and logically sound. I've been studying it for years and it's constantly been proven verifiable by multiple sources. If you'd like more evidence, I have some books I can recommend.
@@ashleypenn7845 God's perfect wisdom has always lead to good. Which is why we must live by them, and preach them to all the nations. Live by the gospel, preach the gospel.
Some people keeps acting innappropriately time after time again, and I don't think it's immatue to get enough and say STOP (acting out) in a firm manner from time to time. Being polite and patient is not the same as weakness!!
2 star, but when people have already bought the narrative of us living in a perfect meritocracy that should go unchanged it becomes impossible for them to escape the propaganda loop
Take responsibility for things completely outside of your control and forced upon you is mature but fighting to change those things to make a better world is immaturity
Nicholas Meyer Holding up a paper sign isn't going to stop global climate warming change. But you can clean up your neighborhood and do well in work/school. You can donate your time and volunteer.
I wouldn't agree about "containing" emotions, but more learning how to heal trauma to learn emotional balance within self. Different people have different abilities and can't maintain inner emotional balance based on what they've learned in their lives. Emotional intelligence takes a lot of building and commitment. 🙏🏻
“Everyone wants to believe they’re chosen, but if we all waited around for a prophecy to make us special, we’d die waiting, and that’s why you need to choose yourself.” - Eda Clawthorne, The Owl House
Saw this as an Ad. Stayed till the end, came here to find the video and save it. This advice helps with everything. My business, my relationship with my family, and societies views on my persons. I started sitting at the table eating with the family. Wasn’t easy, but it was overdue. I use to coward away from such things, not realizing that doing such a thing could actually have a negative affects on my families psyche. I’m mature now. It’s great feeling, but sometimes overwhelming because you wish the best for everyone and hope that we all can understand life at this level.
(I'm watching it for the second time.) There are several issues with this video; one of them is that it takes being mature as an intrinsic good, which I don't agree with. For example, acknowledging your mistakes to other people is good because it promotes better relations with them (and this presumably will make you happier), but not because it contributes to your being an idealized version of a mature person. In general, his focus on "being more mature" or "growing up" is the main problem. He should focus instead on the real benefits or advantages of living your life or behaving in certain ways. If he happened to be my therapist and if he took this same approach in theray as well I'd be very disappointed.
The comment section is revealing. These 5 standards of maturity are true psychological states to attain. But few people are successful in fully attaining them. Fewer still are willing to rise to the challenge. The comments section clearly illustrates the latter.
I suppose a good analogy for the comment section is "empty barrels ring the loudest." Be mindful of that, and you can learn to consciously soften the excess noise. As well, text is not a form of direct communication we're designed to use.
Also keep in mind RU-vid censors a lot of comments. It's difficult to discuss subjects in this video without the comments getting auto deleted 30seconds to a minute later.
@@Bopperann I'm sure people can adequately discuss it in a calm, respectful manner without using expletives and/ or personal invectives, if they so choose. We are doing so. And our comments aren't being deleted.
5 characteristics of maturity: 1. taking control 2. taking responsibility 3. containing your emotions 4. having perspective 5. achieving deep understanding
@Cool Dude Imagine if everyone around you kept calling you a woman or called you by the wrong name. You'd be very upset by that, right? Misgendering anyone is psychologically harmful to them. Knowingly doing it constitutes harassment. You would want your workplace to have standards of conduct and to enforce them so that you don't get harassed, right?
Cool Dude refusing to do something that someone is asking of you politely kinda makes you a dick. It’s not like trans people get offended if you nudge see them at the first meeting. They’ve likely asked you during a greeting or a later conversation and you chose to disregard them.
@Cool Dude Refuse to "teach the controversy" in evolutionary biology, and the religious right will claim to be oppressed by the education system. Vaguely imply a character is gay in a cartoon, and the far right will claim this is indoctrinating children. Say happy holidays, and it is taken as an attack on Christmas. Suggest that capitalism in its current form has some flaws, and you are labeled as a communist. Complain about systemic issues, and they tell you that you just aren't MATOOR enough, and should ignore these issues. Yes, both sides have cancer, but the right has a lot more cancer than you might think they do. They are not the lesser of two evils.
My only reservation is that I have BPD, which is also known as Emotional Regulation Disorder. I struggle to contain my emotions without being flat & cold. I’m not using it as an excuse and yet I am. I am taking this video as a sign I need to do better so I can live my best life and make a contribution to society.
I’ve been living this way my whole life. I’m a wildly successful man who retired before 50 and have total freedom. I was always responsible and worked hard.
@@thegipper6535 yeah sure not literal inheritance like from a family member's will or something, but that's not the only way to benefit from the position of your parents. I am extremely doubtful that any rags to riches story ended with retirement before 50
Im 22 now still live at home with my pops. I have not gone to college yet. I need to grow up. I recently became a consecutive or officially anyways lol. I grew up with what my dad showed me and it was all wrong. It always felt off and there were so many holes in all the logic. I want to go to college get married have kids a house ETC I have to Branch out and take a leap of faith. I am almost ready
I'm 23 and still live with my parents, too. I'm glad you already learned you need to grow up, like I learned. Trust me, what you need is to learn a trade and stay out of university, dude. Seriously. I already left college and I couldnt even stand to finish my second year without nearly going insane from the revisionist history and other subtle indoctrination. Tons of debt already. Im supposed to start working with a plumber/electrician friend of mine who wants to teach me to take over his business, if COVID ever let's up, that is... Start networking, man. That's how it happens, and I will pray for you to succeed!
Planning to move out to the states at 21 to complete a Business degree, get an employment based green card and become US citizen! I’m aware it will be difficult, but the American dream is never guaranteed. The only guarantee I have is the pursuit.
@@CJamgochian I tell my kids and their friends that all the time. I got married at 19 (NOT bc I was pregnant I just knew this was "the one my soul loves") neither one of us went to college just trade school. We have 5 kids (although we help take care of our kids friends too... you would be surprised how many teenagers are walking around without either parent), we're considered upper middle class, nice house, we are extremely fortunate BUT neither one of us have that horrible college debt! We'll be married 19 yrs on Halloween. I'm pretty sure not having all that debt was a big factor in keeping our marriage. Debt can make a person/marriage crumble if you allow it! NOTHING'S perfect and a lot of times not even close BUT the fight to keep it together is TOTALLY worth it! Good luck on your trade! Your on the right track! ❤🛐❤🛐❤✝️
@@CJamgochian as far as collage debt I am ok. I am mixed with native American and I can basically get in free. It's sad that I can get a free pass in life but Ile take what I can get. Ile give it a year and see where my mental state is at
It can take 50 SECONDS to get over the first 20 years IF you care enough and haven't been told repeatedly what a helpless hopeless hapless victim you are. All you need to do is identify a belief that is holding you back by asking yourself "Is this true?" You can't assume that just because you believe it, that means something is true.
@@amax1229 A man shall be able to pronounce the word of his knowledge, not be incapable of correctly saying the very thing this 5min video is about. Even worse if the man in question has speaked English for what seems to be over 60 years... Questioning a man's lack of knowledge isn't immatooooority, speaking out against those who do is the way of the left-wing.
@APassersby If PragerU lets them speak on their platform, then PragerU endorses them and their views. Hence the members and participants of PragerU are hypocrites like that.
"When I was a child, I used to speak as a child, to think as a child, to reason as a child; but now that I have become a man, I have done away with the traits of a child." - 1 Corinthians 13:11
Ezekiel 23:20-21 20 There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses. 21 So you longed for the lewdness of your youth, when in Egypt your bosom was caressed and your young breasts fondled.[a]
@@toericabaker dang, yup that's in the bible. The bible is describing you leftists, thats how you leftists are. Its exposing how perverted you leftists are!!!
So for everyone who suffers from actual anxiety and panic attacks are immature?? Wow this RU-vid channel is a joke. I’m sorry my brain process information different than yours it’s how I was designed I didn’t choose these chromosomal abnormalities. But go off sis.
You can either man up, accept the reality of things beyond your control and work hard to better yourself or you can curse god and complain life is unfair while refusing to anything to do anything to make it better. Judging by your comment your captaining your own journey straight to misery.
Joe duffy that phrase “man up” is sexist and leads to men having much harder lives due to mental illness by not acknowledging their real emotions. You obviously don’t suffer from anxiety it’s not a “calm down” moment, it’s a panic attack of some sort that is completely out of a persons control. I’m very much in control of my life and I acknowledge I can’t control everything. I just can’t believe this video says something so ridiculous about anxiety which is a real problem people have to take medication for and seek professional help but it’s apparently just immaturity. Like I said. Go off sis.
Joe duffy Or you can get help clinically or from your social support system. Who told you the only options are “man up” or “curse god.” Humans are social animals. Judging from your comment you’ve been lacking that realization for a while.
What exactly does this video have to do with being a corperate slave come again? Like I disagree with quite a lot of the shit these guys say in their other videos, like claiming America is the greatest nation in the world, but to dismiss this entire video just because of who made it seems foolish to me.
@@kerbehklobbah5790 dude look this guy up, he's a therpist with a 1.9 star rating. now why would PragerU hire such a terrible therapist for advice? It's almost as if they're trying to convince their audience to "toughen up" and deal with injustice (both economic and racial) instead of confronting it.
same thing happens with other words as well like "crayons". focus on the word and say it correctly and it just sounds wrong because we English speakers are lazy and butcher words so much that the wrong way sounds right.
@@mikiaization So true. I had been noticing that trend for a long time, but it totally crystallized for me when my daughter was first learning to write and spell words. I walked past the refrigerator and she had used the magnets to spell "budderfly"
Some of this I agree with and some I do not. I found it curious that at 1:05 the video uses a game board and its random dice throw when it talks about controlling how life unfolds. We each have lives full of decisions, but out of our control is the access to the ingredients that go into making the most wise decisions.
That's the trick. Finding ways around a situation out of your control. Not to give up even when you feel powerless or are powerless. At least that's what I could understand from it.
@@chocobossxii9457 You do not seem to understand what is meant by "out of your control". It goes to a person's both current and past environment as well as a person's innate psychological make-up.
@@jimm.1013 Your environment (past and current) and your psychological make-up will never force you to do something. They might make something easier or harder for you to do, but they will never be the things taking the action or making the choice. You choose what you do today. That's what you have control over, yourself, your actions, and ultimately your outcomes.
@@kennethjones3768 Your environment, past and present, and your genetically composed psychological make-up are the ingredients that determine how a person makes his choices. And those ingredients are out of the control of the person.
Hi, I only just started my psych course recently and I can assure you that you shouldn't be a psychologist. The amount of victim blame in this is horrific and according to reviews I have read, this isn't just in this video.
Where's the "victim blame"? He's not saying "bad stuff that happens to you is your fault"... he's saying "yes, bad things will happen, but YOU get to choose what to do about them". That's not victim blaming, that's victim *empowerment* ... BIG difference.
@@Tocinos I'm sorry, but you'll need to explain that to me in smaller words, because I honestly have no clue what you are suggesting I do. Regardless, I'm only commenting on what I observed here. If he said something else elsewhere, I honestly don't care because I'm commenting on his words in this video, not his larger body of work.
There are videos from the 1940s and 50s where middle school kids are being taught this and they get it. Times have changed. I’m not saying “the past was better” but I am saying that kids used to grow up and mature into adults earlier, and in many ways, society benefited from it.
Age old saying, people are people. No one size fits all, as long as people disagree with each other on what is what things will remain divided. The key is to get as many people to realise the rights and wrongs as possible.
The majority of people these days mature somewhere in their 20s or maybe early 30s. A small amount mature early in their teens & a few people NEVER mature. When maturity is reached, appreciation for conservative ideas naturally occurs. People start caring more about family, law and order, appreciation for history & self governance. It is easy to see that maturity is directly linked to political leanings, mature people tend to be more conservative or on the right end of the spectrum and immature people tend to be left leaning. I know this is true because I lived it myself. When I finally matured in my late 20s, I naturally became more conservative, in my early 20s I was a left leaning, bernie supporting democrat that although thought he knew everything, was actually pretty ignorant to history & the entire reality of the democRAT party. If you really want to red pill someone, just help them mature.
This video came on as I was looking for the remote to hit SKIP but couldn’t find it for 5 minutes and after hearing a few words of this message i sat down and started to listen closely to the video and it was meant for me during what I’m going through. What good timing!! Thank you.
@@azazel166 It's pretty ballsy for a RU-vid channel that devotes most of its time defending policies that are based on a lack of empathy lecturing us about what it means to be an adult.
The five main points from the video: 1. Taking control. 2. Taking responsibility. 3. Containing emotions. 4. Having perspective. 5. Achieving deep understanding.
I love how becoming a better Stock Trader has taught me all these lessons. #1. everything is your fault, nobody forced me to buy the stock. #2. take responsibility, nobody forced me to buy so all loses are a mistake made by me. #3 Containing emotion : revenge trading/doubling down and losing it all.... etc... learning to trade has really matured me
Dear Doctor Stephen Marmer, I appreciate that you are trying to prove a point, I have a few burning questions I wanted to ask. For instance, Have you ever thought how your responsibility statement can be applied to collective events when you said, ”The first way is simply to acknowledge that you’re responsible for what you do.” (Marmer) For example, there was the Great Recession where according to investopedia.com, ”The subprime mortgage crisis was the collective creation of the world's central banks, homeowners, lenders, credit rating agencies, underwriters, and investors.” (Hall) So this brings up an important question who was responsible for the event the lenders, bankers, and investors or the people who were participating in the subprime loan market? Is it both or neither? Another question I have is about your statement about the characteristic of taking control where you stated, ”The only way to achieve maturity is to take charge of your life. Nothing empowers you as much as exercising that control.” (Marmer) How does this idea applies to people who are in the position of political and economic power. Because being a leader of an organization or a country would be considered the ultimate form of taking control, however, there have been individuals in the past and present that acted in ways that would be considered the opposite of maturity. For instance, there was Jeffery Epstein where he was in a position to make decisions due to him being a businessman and having connections with other people in power. However, there have been many times that he acted in ways that should raise eyebrows of many people. For example, according to the Associated Press, ”Under a 2008 non-prosecution agreement, Epstein pleaded guilty to state charges in Florida of solicitation of prostitution involving a minor and another similar prostitution charge. That allowed him to avoid federal prosecution and a possible life sentence, instead serving 13 months in a work-release program. He was required to make payments to victims and register as a sex offender.” (Klepper) I also have a question about your statement about containing emotions when you said, ”Mature people express their emotions in the right place, at the right time, in the right way. We are emotional beings, but we should never let go of the steering wheel; that is, we need to learn how and when to contain our emotions.” (Marmer) What are your views about crying? Because many people view crying as a way of expressing emotions while at the same time it helps contain emotions. For example, according to Medical News Today, the act of crying helps to reduce the person's distress and containing emotions. (Burgess) And finally, can I see your sources? I wish to do further reading and examination of your research. Sincerely, Connor Compton Sources used for research: Klepper, David, and Jim Mustian. “Who was Jeffrey Epstein, and what’s the impact of his death?” apnews.com, THE ASSOCIATED PRESS, 11th of August 2019, apnews.com/d4eba0e23c374057bc4a76e9282ffbc8. Hall, Mary. “Who Was to Blame for the Subprime Crisis?” Investopedia.com, Dotdash publishing family, 12th of January, www.investopedia.com/articles/07/subprime-blame.asp. Burgess, Lana. “Eight benefits of crying: Why it's good to shed a few tears.” Medical News Today.com, HEALTHLINE MEDIA, 7th of October 2017, www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/319631. Bias check of sources used for research. Huitsing, McKenzie. “Investopedia” Media Bias Fact Check, Media Bias Fact Check, LLC, 19th of August, 2016, mediabiasfactcheck.com/investopedia/. Huitsing, McKenzie. “The Associated Press” Media Bias Fact Check, Media Bias Fact Check, LLC, 6th of July 2017, mediabiasfactcheck.com/associated-press/. Van Zandt, Dave. “Medical News Today.” Media Bias Fact Check, Media Bias Fact Check, LLC, 1st of April, 2018, mediabiasfactcheck.com/medical-news-today/.
A psychiatrist, telling someone to CONTAIN their emotions is one of thee worst possible things you could ever advise to any person. That is literally coping 101. You should NEVER do that. MAYBE in a professional setting where you dont have much of a choice, and even then, that is still toxic to your own mental health. As a mature person, you are supposed to CONTROL your emotions, or at the very least, control your actions that follow afterwords, not bottle them up as if they aren't happening. Recognizing that you are feeling a certain way, accepting it, and taking steps to minimize the severity of what might come as a result is what a mature person does. Even if you recognize your emotions but chose to contain them, often warrants for some very dishonest communication skills. They do something to help them relax, they write, they COPE with the problem, they talk about it. They don't ignore them, or bottle them up, or however you would like to put it and then explode as a result. When you are faced with a difficult situation that is centered around gauging your emotions properly when responding to someone or something, containing your emotions can be very dangerous because you are not doing anything to minimize it internally, and thus conditioning yourself to ignore them. This guy is SEVERELY out of touch and needs his licence revoked. Its no wonder he has a 1.9/5 rating. Good lord what a mess.
This is why Christianity is inherently right wing. God directly commands us subvert institutions when we grow up. If the government legalizes something evil, does that mean that you should do it?
I compare this with my current situation of having difficulty in getting a job in the career I want to do for the rest of my life, the interviews I had were all in failure, but I did not fault the interviewees in not see me as the perfect applicant. Instead, I asked them for feedback and I learnt more about what type of person they want and which factors I lacked to discuss. I am slowly figuring out what type of person they want, what they want to hear more of and which companies are more suitable for me. Most importantly, I am learning more about myself and I am not giving up.
@@brettwiedel3544 In todays time it's not about the truth anymore but whose truth rather. It's really sad honestly. The truth has been reduced to it being just an opinion or you just being racist, bigoted, white supremacist, xenophobic, transphobic, all sorts of phobic etc. People can't reason like adults anymore
@@brettwiedel3544 It isn't. But the way it is presented is. The video about framing, which only gives examples of "the left" using framing, for example, which this channel made, is factually pretty alright as far as I can remember, but it clearly has a political agenda. Also, I don't think that PragerU always tells the truth, but I'm too lazy to provide any examples. This second part may be untrue and I acknowledge that, so don't try arguing against it
The message about not being a victim really resonated with me. I realized how immature I was being and I'm ready to move forward and take responsibility, and recognize that other people aren't responsible for my situation. I was a hardcore Trump/MAGA follower who used to blame China and immigrants for my problems. I used to think I was the victim of a war on Christmas. In the past I thought that I was the victim of certain books being in my kid's schools. I used to believe that as an American I was the victim of the election being stolen and the president I voted for not being in office. One time I remember hearing Trump say "“We are all victims. Everybody here. All these thousands of people tonight. They’re all victims. Every one of you.” That was the moment I knew I needed to grow up out of the victim mindset and do the hard work to build a little maturity. I'm happy to say that any time I hear Trump say something like "I'm the most persecuted person in history" I can't help but just laugh. Thank god I've finally taken the advice in this video, and grown up.
