+Luckeee Legz555 True, but when women realize (as they are finally beginning to) that they do not need to be "helpless victims" and begin to start fighting for their rights of protection from police by working together to change laws, and start fighting against this epidemic, it will slow down drastically. There are several different factors that all combined are helping this disturbing trend to continue and increase, but by fighting for new laws, women's rights, changing the stigma of counseling and mental health, fighting for government backing on these issues, I believe that slowly things will begin to change. But the change must first begin with the people. In this case, it must begin with women, like the Miss International woman, and men who support them, like the man who lost his sister. They can make Japan change. It will take time, but it always starts with the people. In every country, in every culture.
@@rafidi1692 No one is..... really... Most young men are simply too uninteresting und ugly to even consider them to become sexual partners. If I would be a girl I seriously would opting to be a lesbian, since the "10-20%" might be hot but boring as well and... Oh! obnioxious and superficial too... No.... thanks.... thankfully I belong to the 10% of men :P
All of your comment reply people make me uncomfortable. Are they intentionally white knighting, nice guy, and INCELs? I guess 123fort is just annoying.
It seems more like domestic violence, yeah - in the case of relationship breakups. I can fully understand why these men would do such things (to their ex's) it's something that should be worked out and talked over by both parties. Stalking a random girl on the street is a no no.
+ᚢᛁᚫᛁᚾᚷ Pure bullshit on your part, In Japan women have as much right as men do you idiot, its not the 1920s anymore in Japan. Time has moved on, but you seem to be stuck in the past.
Me and my friend were stalked when we were in high school. This was in Japan and it started in her family's bakery. We were 17 only and it was terrifying. We were both stalked since then for 4 months and the police did nothing. My friend had to move after high school because of the trauma, I ended up staying but I am paranoid like crazy. I don't believe we deserve to be living this way in constant fear.
@@qurere386 Thank you, I will. I hope you do too. Maybe it's my paranoid self but dont always trust any guy to walk you, of course there are always good ones but there are also cases in which they are creeps too. So always be careful and stay safe!
@@qqqcalls this is in Japan,, and even in the States harassment of women is weak and cowardly,, I believe of rule of law,, but I will say one don't ever break the law in Japan,,lol you learn how to speak Japanese, your family has to feed you... You don't have to get the chance to go home ..
@@qqqcalls Not as common as you think. Taking the amount of lets say, false rape allegations, are only 3%. Because many women are afraid to actually go out and report a crime. Most accusations are true, and believed to be over 90%. Very few actually lie about allegations. However, I do believe in innocence until proven guilty.
@@J3nnyp4nny From what I have seen the 3% number you mention is disputed. Also, it only reflects false rape accusations and not relationship related crimes (like stalking, harassment, etc). I think all criminal allegations should be taken seriously and pursued with the evidence that exists.
Japanese police are incompetent. They don't bother investigating a crime, they try to force a confession out of people. Al Jazeera done a video on this something like two months ago.
All these stalkers are delusional; most may actually be mentally impaired. To have those thoughts, to believe a human being is your personal possession, is unbelievable. How narcissistic do you have to be to claim entitlement over another human being?
They are not mentally ill, they are a product of society. They learn these behaviors from their parents...who learned them from their parents...and so forth.
scarletfluerr@I'm not sure about that. It's easier to blame the culture for everything After all, the huge vast majority of japanese males don't stalk and they all had japanese fathers and grandfathers to learn cultural behaviour from. I think we have to go further and analyze whether or not this is about matters of character, lack of limits due to poor education from parents, personality disorders and mental illness.
scarletfluerr It's a little selfish to put all the blame on society, hm? To say they aren't mentally ill and are just "a product of society" assumes no responsibility for the individual. Society is a key player, but it isn't the only factor. In this case, why aren't all Japanese men stalking and murdering women, I mean you know, if it's just a part of their society?
@Ruby Maverick: King Of The Hunt You can divorce a marriage. You also entered that willingly. You can quit an employment, you also entered that willingly. You do not enter slavery willingly. You cannot part without a fight, without risking your life. Idiot.
Having lived in Japan for 8 years in the 1980's-90's I found most Japanese men to be extremely emotionally immature... MOst men I knew got married for someone to replace their mothers as their care givers.... Also, misogyny plays a large role as well....
I agree. I was super popular when I lived in Japan and Korea (cause white girl), and my fellow foreign friends called me crazy for being so "picky" and not wanting to further date those "handsome boys" there. Most Japanese men in particular (all in their 20s) I met there were emotionally immature, just as you said. I felt like talking to 14yrs olds. There was nothing they could give me or enrich my life with by hanging out with them, and nothing that made me feel like they were fellow adults. It felt like I was their kindergarden nanny. The only thing missing was a napkin. Cause they already had their pretty flower boy baby faces.
I wonder if stalking a stalker is effective in some cases. some guy stalked my friend for two years in h.s. and I stalked him, with an angry face everywhere he went to show him how creepy he was, lol. I guess it worked, cuz he transferred and we haven't heard from him since, but most ppl aren't so lucky to get rid of their stalkers. :(
Sometimes you have to turn the hunter into the hunted. I'm not in Japan but that is what I have done in the United States. I just get tired of it and very angry.
That "Hiro" guy, the one who says he's 80% 'cured', still has the wrong mindset. He says he'll be cured when his wife says he's cured. Is his goal to get back with her? What if she still says no? His goal should be to not want to stalk his wife anymore, not to get her approval.
Lee Lemon exactly op missed that they already got back together once after the stalking and she left once she started to feel unsafe. It seems like they're still working things out for better or for worse
@@ealvia5887 You're absolutely right. I hate those delusional people who consider a cat as a property they can own like their wife or a girlfriend. "My wife was the property I owned" was the stalker Hiro's utterance. I hope this guy won't have any relationship with a cat.
@@ealvia5887 Ok preacher. So you can preach to Hiro The Stalker against owning a human, not to a comment here. I wonder you actually watched the video. fyi 1:20
I'm a Japanese man and was stalked by a woman in Tokyo. Such a problem is not so taken seriously because by nature, women tend to be less violent. They usually don't end up killing their obsession. But if both men and women can be stalkers, what is the underlying problem? Parents do not give enough affection when their children are small. They are not really affectionate people and I guess you can see that if you visit Japan. They never hug or even touch their children here. The worst of all, they never tell their children (or anyone actually) that they love them. Japanese children grow up doubting if their parents are really their parents, because they lack the affection they need or entitled to. I thought so, too. And when I asked around, it seemed that that is a universal doubt that all Japanese people have. It was shocking when this became a classroom discussion and every single student shared the same thoughts! So when they finally are in a relationship, they tend to be extremely possessive. It doesn't mean that they'd be stalkers after they break up but they all seem to have problems. It's crazy to see your partner acting completely different in private across any culture. But I bet that that is even more different in Japan. Why? People are taught to not harm or disturb anything in nature and it's partially comes from Buddhist teaching. So in general, people act extremely polite in public in Japan. But that means they pretend to be someone else who is ideal to the society. They are really tired to act to be someone else (especially in modern society with all the pressures) so when they are with their partners, it's finally time to act like him or herself. In other societies, you can ask anybody what you need. But in Japan, they don't. In fact, they refuse to ask for a help or even express their feelings. Instead, they turn to their partners and ask them all their needs... But don't forget, he or she is the ONLY PERSON they ask the favor for! So when their needs or demands are not answered, they get really offensive. "You are mine and why can't you give me that?" That's what they ask. Why is this possible? It goes back to the problem of the parents not giving enough affection. Here, people do not know or understand what love is. Parents don't teach them what love is. They don't even act like they love their children so what normally is "given" and "felt" during the childhood is not present there. So the children grow up without knowing love and end up being really "thirsty" for love. That is why they become too possessive and obsessive. Just imagine children asking their parents to give them affection, and not receiving it properly. And when they are adult, they ask their partners the same but with the adult attitude and demands. It's worse than kids. I guess any society has its problems but modern Japan is having numbers of major problems. That's what happens when a traditional society adapts foreign ideas, system or/and "modernize" itself too rapidly. That is not a real evolution of a society. I hope people talk more (that is the most difficult part here) and confront the problems as unified power. I don't know if I explained the underlying problem here but perhaps you have a better idea why there are so many stalkers here.
Insightful. Do you think this problem is related to Honne/Tatemae split in Japan ? Maybe a stalker is a person who has issue to make boundaries between Honne and Tatemae.
To be honest, when I went to the police about my stalker they did absolutely nothing even though I had threatening texts that he was going to kill me and set my house on fire. In their own words they asked ' But has he actually ever done anything to you? ' .. and because my answer was no they took no further action. This was in the UK.. Police handling of these type of crimes is a global issue unfortunately :(
Like prostitution... A NYPD officer basically said, you have to be caught in the act for them to make an arrest... Caught in the act? They don't have time to stalk the stalker!!! Good luck. You are on your own... Take Charge! And Pray...
they wanted "proof", meaning the killing and your house in fire....In case it happen again you need a lawyer; do they know the existence of crime prevention?
these chauvinist beliefs that they should be able to own women may be why japan has a growing problem with young men holed up at home fantasizing rather than having real realationships with real women. as the video showed, re-educating the men is urgent if japan is to survive, let alone thrive in any meaningful way.
@Tidder T Japan is a very conservative society. Socially, for women, it's almost like the 1960s over there. Women are expected to stay home and be caretakers. It's why they prefer marrying Americans. They're allowed a life outside the home. Also, Japan has vending machines full of used little girls' panties, sooooo....
Then they shouldn't use the term men in their comment because they are belittling them. If I said it's great people are discovering their heritage it's different than if I say Blacks are getting in touch with their roots
I live in Japan. I had this problem with my ex, one of my ex managers, who started calling me at night saying weird things down the phone, and even a guy i went on a date once with...
I have never been stalked, but I used to receive obscene phone calls from strange men who got their jollies that way. I found the perfect solution: silence. Don''t speak, don't threaten, don''t cry, don''t blow a whistle into the phhone, don't hang up. Just sit there and wait. It's so funny to hear them run down into uncertainty, then "hello? hello" and finally hang up. The same man never called again. That method works for unwanted commercial solicitors too. They get tired hearing themselves talk and hang up.
I moved apartments immediately and left a few days later. I was on contract, so the timing worked out, and my employer was very understanding. Its hard to follow up having moved back though
It really sucks that you had to do all that because of a stalker. But thankfully you were able to swiftly remove yourself from the situation, you made a really wise decision. Imagining what could have went down is scary!
it is so upsetting that the police is not taking these stalking cases seriously enough that people are dying while others who are stalked have to resort to paying for their protection...isn't that what a police force is for, to keep citizens safe? What is a poor woman who is being stalked to do, just wait for her stalker to kill her? Shame.
Police in the USA actually have no responsibility to protect you thats a myth, the police' main responsibility is to protect government assets. Think about it like this, You get stabbed and a cop shows up, he doesnt try to save your life he runs after the assailant. I understand we dont want these people on the streets, but shouldnt the first responsibility be to save your life?
*I had to play body guard to my twin sister for nearly 3 years after she FINALLY left her abusive husband. It sucked and was exhausting but she was finally able to move on with her life, got remarried and had two more children. We’ve just sent her youngest to college!*
I'm sure your question was rhetorical, but I think it's because women have been considered the property of men since the dawn of civilization. First a girl is the property of her father, then he marries her off and she becomes the property of her husband, and in old age she becomes the property of her son. It wasn't until the late 19th century that this view started to change. We're trying to undo over 5000 years of a tradition in a few generations. The ideology is harder to break in heavily male dominated societies in the east, not just Japan. I hope we can see a change in our lifetime.
Emma Maryam That's really sad to hear =\. But that tells me that those men are not right for your friends. They should be with someone who treats them like a person, rather than a possession. When you fall in love, you aren't afraid of anything, so the fact that they have that fear is upsetting. I hope it's not the same case for you!
Hahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!!! I don't know if I'm laughing out of guilt or because you are pointing towards me. Haha. Anyways, from the very start you have explained it well. And it cleared my thoughts somehow. Thanks ;)
Haha, I swear I wasn't calling you out, rather just wishing the best for you :). It's okay and perfectly normal to have doubt about marriage, it's a big step, but it's definitely not ok to be wondering whether or not you will be treated like a person. Depending on where you live though, it might be hard to find a man who doesn't see you property, so I wouldn't blame you if you were in that situation. I'm glad to help! PS: Don't reply to Payhole Everdouche, you can tell by his name that he's just a troll trying to get you angry. Sad lonely men like him only feel happy when people pay attention to them. So they say things to make people angry and pay attention to them. Just ignore him.
it reminds me of honor killings in some ways. the family kills you or disowns you because you, the daughter, are the property of the family, and if you do not listen accordingly, you are murdered. why do people hate women so much?
The whole society needs to change in order for this to stop. I saw a video on how they victim blame women if they are molested. Another on how no one stops obvious "chikan" (men who try to molest and sexually harassed girls on trains) who pray on girls on trains. The society needs to learn to respect women including the women who don't seem to know their worth. They have a long way to go.
This comment shows just how entitled you are in believing that your society is morally superior to that of ours just because some things don't align. Not only are you arrogant enough to simply resort to a straw man argument and base your beliefs off of a few videos, you go ahead and willfully say "they have a long way to go". Have you not seen all the actions the government in Japan is taking to fight against this way of thinking? Have you not seen the lengths community leaders in Japan are going to just to promote the status of women in Japan? Not to mention all the changes big companies are making to their employment processes so that more women can have options in life. The new generations are bringing in a fresh mentality and are eager to change this way of thinking, yet you dismiss our efforts and stand on a moral high ground that clearly has no real basis. Shame on you.
@Happy Let's hear some facts from you. Show me anything in their constitution, standard education program (as designed by the Ministry of Education), or company laws that show how "their whole system is built to protect men and oppress woman". Give me documents or links to them. I can promise you that you will find none. The problem with the Japanese society is not its system, but the patriarchal culture. Fortunately, it's changing. Your failure to see past what is posted on RU-vid seriously disgusts me. Racist.
Not likely, a top official there said seeing two men kiss is more distressing than a woman being molested on a train. That's the society we're dealing with.
@@ShammehoOohoOo Exactly and well said Samuel. I'd choose to live with these issues over mass shootings from the US any day. I've been in Japan 19 years, talked to many people, met many people and still haven't come across anyone with this issue or guys with mommy issues. It happens...just like any other country. There are stalkers everywhere in the world and I'd wager there are just as many or more in the US.
Yeah.. That's why they put their dreams and fantasies into anime.. :D School girls, yanderes, submissive defenceless girls, list goes on.. Lol Those stalkers need a 2D waifu.. :D
bob burger that's where it becomes even more ironic, because so many foreigners want to go to japan BECAUSE they believe anime and manga are somehow true to life.
japan has a communication problem, they teach the kid to get good grades and get a good job but not how to socialize and communicate and that is one of the problem. and the kids live what they learn !
After watching this and the show Obsession: My Dark Desires Ive learned three things... 1) The Police are useless 2) No one ever believes the victim 3) the identity or feelings of the Stalker are always protected. SMH 🙄
1) Having no laws against or ways to prevent stalking or any crime, doesnt mean that the police or the system its useless. (In Japan I think its illegal to have a taser or mace with you.) 3) The identity of a perpetrator is protected because people might look into the family, relatives or friends of that person and retaliate in a vigilante manner. Also, to protect people with the same name, in asian countries is quite normal. Your 2nd point, I just dont get it. "Believe", is such a strong word when it comes to judge a situation that could change a party's life. Just to put an example, insurance fraud is a pretty common thing in asia. According to your point, every person that claims that they are the victim of an accident or they demand benefits because they were negatively affected by something at work or while being in a hospital; ALL these claims/victims should be 'rewarded' with justice,money or the accused get years of jail for something they didnt do? Do you see how counterproductive that statement is?
Tezca Franco I understand what you are saying regarding insurance but what evidence do you recommend getting to be believed. If ladies are turning in voice messages, emails, witnesses, photos, etc, what are they missing?
Yeah nobody believes the victim until they're dead or injured. Then they're like "Oh no if only we could have helped her! We should have done more!" Then the next victim comes along and they're like "Okay but he just cares about you tho."
@@Evettecord why dont women ask questions before getting into relationship ? - why do women make wrong choices - than they divorce - I agree most of the MAN are WRONG - but what the MAN who really LOVED but is betrayed ??? so Man who are betrayed - have these choices - Man should Forget - Man should forgive - Man should find some other partner - but some STALK - thats wrong
Because it's extremely hard to Date in Japan. It's really expensive to live and you have long hours which makes relationships hard. So losing a relationship is like losing a job and pension. When people lose their long term jobs the go postal. It's the same thing. Only in other countries it's easier to start over. There it really would feel like your life is over. I'm not justifying it. I'm just explaining why it would be worse.
@@whiskerbiscuit6674 Well I dont think so - its just how person Thinks - I had been to Japan they are very good people - I disagree - what you say applies to whole world - All men are same - bit differences are there
FS Japan does have a low crime rate even with all the unofficial reports it's still deemed as one of the safest countries in the world even with the large amount of people that live there especially compared to other countries
FS From what gets reported it is relatively low. But compared to other countries it is safer. I would still be cautious. Every country has their problem. No country is 100% safe.
Yes, sadly those stats are deceiving. For instance women rarely report sexual assaults. Most of them time, just like in the US, the detectives would be men. The victims would have to be willing to identify the suspect and describe the crime in detail to a man shortly after the incident which can be very difficult for the victim.
I am the CEO of a private investigation firm in Japan. Stalking is an issue that cuts both ways and is a frustrating issue for those of us in the PI industry. These stalkers are likely to hire us without telling their true intentions. We also struggle to determine if the customer is a stalker because the identity of repeating stalkers are always protected in Japan. The obsessive human rights protection policy in Japan may be the source of a problem in this matter. Additionally, many stalker victims are young females who are not rich enough to hire PIs. So they can’t get the protection they need. When it comes to parental child abduction matters, Japanese mothers often make fake Domestic Violence accusations against the fathers to simply justify themselves and separate their children from the father. In such cases, females take advantage of the social issues on their benefit. In short, stalker issues are complicated, a hazard to the Private Investigations industry in Japan. Goro Koyama CEO, Japan PI Inc.
Well you have answer to that - America wants Black and White - Asian Religion Dominates - Japan - govt wants these PROBLEM to remain there - every RULE has PROS and CONS
Truly it cuts both ways and I have to say that I have had my share of experiences since I was in High School, in the job place and as an adult. Obsession is a human thing. Not just male or female.
any male that wants a female located or followed must have his name registered to the police for such a request; and a police record must be initiated before any such location case is taken on.. if the person hiring the PI has any police record; the hiring fee is forfeited and a report from the PI to the police must be done to show the police a pattern of stalking; the client shd b jailed for attempting the PI locating service.
sexual health and consent education issue? teach them from young (jr high~high school and college/university) it's wrong and there will be less, most likely.
Shimakaze Tennyo and also teach ways for people to be safe like when they're out clubbing like always watch ur drinks. And what behaviors to watch out for and like what to do if u think ur being followed or in a dangerous situation
+Jenis Darling Women don't need even more people telling them how it's their fault if they're attacked, genius. Consent education is proven to lower sexual assault in areas where it's implemented. Guys don't want to be treated like animals then they need to take responsibility for their own actions.
i wouldn't say it doesn't matter, cause it does, and so does defending yourself... both matter to bring down the amount/percentage of people who feel entitled to some one else and can't be cordial after rejection... of course there will still be a few but if the gov and police are on board to actually punish ppl doing it and schools enforced that the behaviour is bad and will get you a record and jail time i think more would opt not to do it. while knowing/ seeing behaviours will help you report it like some of the stories the police didn't help after the men were reported. after that what else is there to do? ...on a side note (i feel) their idol culture doesn't help, as well, where the same kind of mentality seems to be perpetuated (with fans).
This isn't a women-only course though, it teaches women and men to avoid abuse and to avoid being abusers and its the most correct way, so instead of ruining the name of feminism find somewhere else to hide Nothing is here
I think Japanese girls are raised to be nice, sweet, and polite. Never wanting to hurt someone's feelings....which makes them easy targets for these psychopaths
This happens because masculinity is pushed further and further into the shadows, which inevitably produces a dangerous kind of masculinity, and strength being projected in the wrong context (for both men and women) instead of having a strong mental and emotional capacity that is built on good morals and self-control, coupled up with the effects of modern technology where people lose social skills continuously drastically, as entertainment/social media keeps providing more and more forms of unnatural beauty and unnatural sexual fantasies.
Yea they can be easily manipulated bcs of their naive personalities but that isn't the true reason. It's simply because some men cannot tolerate rejection. A strong and outspoken women can also be stalked and killed.
I grew up in Japan. I was 13 years old when I moved to where I am now. One major reason for my move was a fellow class mate who made my life very hard to live. He would stare at me during class through a reflection in the ceiling, show up to my fathers work and ask for me, and take part in many other stalker-like behaviour. When I asked my teachers for help, they just made light of the situation. I had not heard or thought about him in over 7years, until two week ago; when he tried to add me on Facebook. Stalking is a big problem in Japan. The authorities normalize stalking, and there are not enough support systems for victims.
Raymond Flores that’s messed up man, making a joke of literally people getting murdered over this. One day you will lose a loved one, don’t get upset when people make fun of your situation. You won’t have a right to get mad.
My heart goes out to the man who’s sister was killed, I completely understand feelings of guilt but he has to know it wasn’t he’s duty to deal with the stalker it was the duty of the police! If he would have taken things into his own hands he would have probably been the one to get in trouble with the stalker being free to continue with he’s horrid plans. More needs to be done for both the victims and the stalkers, mental health help is crucial for both parties.
I think they are explaining the mentality of some men. Understanding what's going on in their minds is important if you want to take action against them.
Snot Nose The Goblin Oh look a white knight beta male projecting himself, find something better to do with your life. Also quit excusing stalkers, stupid bleeding heart liberal.
MetaKnight964 My experience was, that fightig them without understanding only makes it worse because he will be angry at you then; and this anger leads to violence.
"1/3 of Japanese women are victims of domestic violence." I had no idea the situation is so bad! Japanese people always look so calm and restricted and polite, but inside the walls it is different then.
That seems in line with the nature of humanity/society. The citizens of lawless societies tend to incur a lot of abuse, but so do those of societies with tons of restrictions or unwritten social rules (fundamentalist religious societies and/or cults, eg)
SuperEohippus Japanese men will, for the most part, fear messing with foreign women because we know our rights and will stand our ground whereas Japanese women are not really vocal, from what I have witnessed so far.
Raymond Flores Check you facts. Catholics that are republican and those who are democrat are almost evenly split which is around 50% democratic and 49% republican.
I don't understand why some men think that women are their possessions and not humans. I have never viewed another person as something to own or control. Could someone explain what leads to this belief? Women are just people too just like guys, we're not that different...
Lilja Grönrus being a man myself I understand why men are possesive.Its our ego. And mostly because we hate to see our girl being with other guy. Even if that guy is her own friend. We also viewed girls/women as a people just like us. It is just that sometimes I think, without a sense of 'owning' that woman we wouldnt even mind being cuckolded. And we (possessive men) also hate being cheated on. Some of us would rather killed the woman we loved so much than seeing her being with someone else.
MyBikeKnowsNoSpeedLimit s Do you personally see that mindset as acceptable? Could women live freely as people not property? Is there a deeper issue in mens psychy such as low/excessive self-esteem? Childhood issues? Poor education in self control or respect bewteen genders? Do you as a man see this as something to be fixed? What would you think if this abuse happened to you by both male and female? Would you dislike this happening to your loved ones? Does this action matter more if it happens to you or yours?
Most women detest being cheated on, too. It's about dishonesty, not ownership. I sure wouldn't like it if my boyfriend slept with another woman but I sure don't feel a sense of ownership over him. So no, you don't 'need' a sense of ownership over another human being in order to appreciate and value the covenant of a monogamous relationship. If what you say is true and there are loads of men out there like that, then what women need is a much better set of lessons in how to avoid these men like the plague. Because you cannot simultaneously love someone and feel ownership over them.
Us men need to understand and learn to let go. Don't be afraid to look inward. Explore your own feelings. Don't listen to people labeling all men or all women in singular narrative labels. Mediate among all the noise.
Women will never win this They either report it to the police, get their claims dismissed and eventually get killed by their stalker. OR If she harms her stalker due to self defense or even worst kills him, she's immediately thrown to jail. So then whatafuck!!?
Sadly, even though there are quite stringent stalking laws on the books now in the US, the police are still reluctant to act until the stalker does something to his victim.
Second amendment, dude. The natural way of things is for individuals to defend themselves. Not call another person and wait for them to come do something.
I'm in awe of the therapist who tries to help the japanese women in the only way she knows. Such a wonderful and brave woman, meeting these dangerous men to convince them to leave them alone. She shows that women should stand up for each other, each one in her own way and with her own truth. We're not all politicians but small people can make the difference too
The people who decide to hire bodyguards/ investigative people like the Police Old Boys are really wise. It's sad that common civilians now need extra protection, too.
Hi4069 I will give you a goal to make you stronger, hammer a nail on a piece of wood with only using your hand pal. I saw it on RU-vid crazy but funny stuff
This reminds me a few years back, I read about a woman reporting that she was stalked and in the process a police officer sniffed her underwear in her home while taking a statement.
I went to Japan with my family a year ago. And I notice one guy who kept on following us. He looks really young maybe around 18-19 years old. I noticed him following us in Universal Studio. It’s about 4-5 hours that he kept on tailing us. I din’t even told my mom and my older brother about it. What really scared me is when I entered the gents toilet he also entered and while I was washing my hands his just starting I avoid looking at him because I don’t even know how to speak Japanese.. so Japan is number one now when it comes to case of stalking. What I’m trying to say is this don’t just happen to girls..
Sounds like there need to be places that teach on emotional self control. Maybe it should be part of the criteria. What makes someone think that threats will make someone love you? It's sick.
Its japan social conformity is necessary. They are emotionally repressed and the shame of a divorce is pretty bad. In the west its bad as well but its seen as things that “just happen” in just japan things dont “just happen” someone forgot they were a cog by showing people like ur spouse can go off on their own
im sorry, why does the stalker ask that we respect his privacy and hide his identity when he had no respect for the privacy of his ex and daughter, thinking he's entitled to own them or else he might as well kill them if they weren't his property???
As sickening as it is; the reason why the media respects the privacy of stalkers by having their names withheld is to keep the family members and friends of the stalkers from being targeted for vigilante retribution.
I had a few stalker in my life time. I mostly show them no fear and told them straight out I'm not interested. Usually they try to get my attention but I mostly ignored them or told them I'm busy. I show them no fears and just mostly ignored them. No emotions, no aggression. Just straight out ignored them until they are bored. I walked pass them, and go on with my daily life and they get bored and the move on. What I notice stalker harass you if you are angry or scared. They feed off of your emotion and fears. They want your attention they want to control you in someway. If you go into hiding and get scared they control you. Even a couple of time some stranger was stalking me in a store I circled around just to make sure if he was following me. He was so I turned around and stare him straight into his eyes and and ran away. These predator feed on fears. And if they know you are scared they will stalk you.
So you choose to make fun of the seriousness of this?? That's not ok..it would be different if God forbid one of your female family members were stalked and killed. Let's hope that never happens.
I don't think that Hiro guy is near to graduate. He still thinks his wife is going to have him back, he's calm because of that. What if she's still afraid and say no? He'd get mad again ...
A female acquaintance used to say "If a man loves you, he will be jealous" I think that's an early red flag. No One is property of their couple, parent or relative.
Definitely red flag. Somebody who is secure in a relationship/themselves and is mentally stable should not be jealous. Could turn out to be a narcissistic control freak. Of course if your partner is overtly flirting with somebody else, that's entirely different.
Sadly, stalking happens everywhere, and it's not taken seriously in America either. 9:30 this woman is very brave, and amazing, hope she keeps safe and continues her good work.
I think it was pretty obvious what this person was saying. The media likes to portray Japan as an almost perfect society in terms of safety of it's citizens.
If he is not actively going after her then he's not a stalker, but there is nothing wrong with him hoping that one day they could get back together as long as he does not act on it
I had a really good image of Japan thinking it's one of the safest and smartest countries where even little kids are independent enough to travel alone. I didn't expect this from Japan.
@@delilah28100 it happens to dudes too, and if you get convicted at all you will be mentally abused by the cops for days on end. You will be forced to confess to your crime and then you will be put in jail.
This is so incredibly sad. It's depressing to see women so vulnerable and oppressed as second-class objects, when they are just as capable and respectable as any person. Hopefully Japan will succeed in providing more security and peace of mind for these women and girls, and teach boys that females are not possessions! One can see the trauma and sadness this mentality brings.
Little Talks This documentary is a bit misleading. I live in Tokyo and Japan overall is very safe for women. At night I see women and even school girls cycling around on their own. Japan is a very safe country for women, especially in comparison to western nations. They do have other gender issues - it is still a male chauvinistic society. Japanese men generally prefer submissive women. It is one reason why white men are very popular with Japanese women - we are from places where confident women (and female empowerment) is far more prevalent.
@@raymondflores5176 Man you have a random mind! How did we go from "...raising little boys to respect women..." to "...the left want boys...", and now "...grown men showering with my daughter in the gym..."? (rhetorical) At least your tendency to generalize is consistent.
I've been stalked and assaulted - no one helped, so I had to unleash my fear and and learn to toughen up. The last time I was stalked, I walked right across the street directly towards him - I was mad and mean, and he never bothered me again. I helped a friend the same way - she was so innocent and didn't even know how much danger her young daughter was in - I literally came in between them and scared him away. Problem gone.
Mam I salute you - I respect you - I am with you - Great - you dont need any MEDALs or Cerificate if you did that - you are Great - May God Bless you with Strength
Yeah its like their power is that the victim they are stalking is afraid of him that fuels his stalking, until the end he/she does his move. They are real cowards mostly, but the power knowing that his victims are afraid of him is the key to break the trend in "Most" cases.
Bring peppers spray or take an ants with you keep a colonies of ants if any stalkers approaching throw to him see what happened that my father told us what to do
this was a shame for Japanese police and I think her parents could have done more about it the sentences the murderers got were a joke it was one of the most horrible crime against a human in my understanding, and it went almost un notice and these inhuman monsters got away with it( f--- the yazuka)....what a shame even for the whole world!
I didn't know anything about this case so I googled it. 😳 What exactly is wrong with the Japanese Criminal Code that these sick f**ks didn't get the death penalty? Those 4 men & the rest of the estimated 100 men that raped her are beyond redemption & should have been given the death penalty. Truly, there is no justice. For anyone.
It is absolutely disgusting how lenient the Japanese legal system is towards juveniles. What these monsters did to poor Junko Furuta is appalling and the perpetrators are quite honestly beyond any type of rehabilitation.
That's why Japan is developed.a society will gain nothing except a gender war in gender equal society that aims for equal representation of men and women in every field.
I was on the metro in DC and saw a japanese girl being harassed. As I got on the train car I saw that this girl was already crying. The man would not stop. So I approached the seat and forced him away saying as I pushed him away.... Konichiwa tomodachi! Genki Desuka? I gave her my elbow and I of course sat on the outside to keep the man away. The man lost spirit and went away. then we unlocked arms
@@bigfootswatching9986 Nope really happened. I'm a very big guy and have learned at time of my growth spurt that most people do not mess with big guys so I used that to my advantage. I am sure you wear size 4 shoe anyway.
I lived in Japan for two years, I loved it there would love to return someday, but the one thing I didnt like was the "for the good of the group" mentality. It seems most of Japan's social ills stem from that.
Like seriously my friends and family, even my boss actually blame me! Saying stuff like oh well you shouldn't have put that on the Internet. Well how was I supposed to know that I was going to get a stocker whenever I posted that!?? Or they told me well you should just get off the Internet for a while.... Our world is nothing but technology and the Internet! Everything revolves around the Internet! So to tell me to get off the Internet is ridiculous. On top of that it's been over a year, am I suppose to stay off the Internet until this is over??? Who's to say that it will ever end? So somehow it's my fault, even though I have done nothing wrong. Even though this person is constantly harassing me, somehow it's my fault.
+John Square yes you forgot to mention the gender bias against men/boys and fathers in most family court system laws in most of the western countries as well...
Al Jazeera is going after Japanese culture tooth and nails because Japan refuses to allow floods of immigrants from the muslim world to come in; very tight restrictions. So they get even by tossing mud. No matter how bad it is for women in Japan, it is 1000 times better than in religious muslim lands.
this program called 101 East, its about east asia culture, if you want to know about KSA go to main yutube channel.. you will find news about KSA everyday
Stalking as well as assaulting women on the trains is such a huge problem in Japan. I wonder what's going to happen to affect real and perminent change.
Van-S X Be serious dumbass. Haha funny rape joke haha. No. This isn’t the time for your jackass unoriginal dark humor. Japanese men and women get violated and killed in reality and you make some random unfunny joke? People who joke like you need to get an actual life, you have a brain but use it like trash or maybe you don’t have a brain? I rather watch Boku no Pico than hear these dumbass “jokes”
Elena B. A little girl can walk in the deserted corners of Tokyo or any other Japanese cities and not get harassed or raped in japan. The same cannot be said in countries like Brazil, Mexico, India or even the United States. There are far worse countries than japan for women.
I experienced stalking on a small and temporary scale but it was terrifying. He stayed in the same block. We met while waiting for the lift and he offered to carry my box, i let him carry it thinking maybe he just being nice. Then he put it on the floor in the lift. Im like wuuut?? I had to pick it up again. Later he found my number and sent me a picture of my car and himself to me over the course of a few days. I literally ran back to my unit after reaching home because i was scared id see him again. Luckily i was friends with the head guard of the condo and told him about it. He knew the guy and threatened him that he will call the police if he doesnt stop. Later on the stalker moved out of the condo.
Thats just awful. You should never have to fear something like this. This is evil. You should be treated with respect and dignity. The same way Christ teaches us to treat our wife. Many people misunderstand biblical teaching but fact is the husband is to lay his life down for his wife. He is to love her the same way Jesus Christ loved His church and sacrificed His life for her. I am very happy to see you are no longer living in fear. God bless you from America.
Soon, Japanese men will stalk robot women instead of real women. And if real women find themselves being stalked, they can just send a terminator to stalk the stalker.
This happened to me. It still affects me to this day. I'm afraid to make friends; I'm afraid to go anywhere alone. It's debilitating. By the way, my stalker was a woman.
@123fort andbree but someone who uses gossip or playing people out against each other can have a devastating effect on your life too. With some people you don't know what or when to watch out, or whom they have incited against you
Rudolph Rudolph and every country has its own context why certain problems come up in the very first place, so to learn each country's background story is humbling experience where we can't just be judgmental towards countries we perceive having harder times than us.
Those unresolved stalking cases are indeed horrible... I was stalked by 2 men strangers in the past when I was in middle school, but it was for a short time. (I don't live in Japan, but everyone knows that there are people in other countries who have/had that problem)... I'm not being stalked right now, luckily. But I still hope to never get that experience again... ^^'
People have always thought that. Think of the traditional Western marriage ceremony. First the man approaches the FATHER of his intended and asks "for her hand in marriage". Then if he agrees, he walks her down the aisle and gives her over to her new husband.
I have had stalker problems also.. but I never turned to police nor authorities. My step-father is a cop and most of my family is retired military. I was raised to be fiercely independent and dealt with a lot of abuse growing up after my parents divorced and my mother started dating another man. Because of this & my desire to break out of my own chains of fear and doubt, I began studying self-defense and even used my anger at being betrayed & hurt by those I had loved most to fuel my fighting instinct. Now, stalkers and violence no longer have any power over me. In fact, many violent men and bullies avoid me. What I have learned is that being afraid of them gives them power over you. In learning self-defense, cultivating a fighting spirit, & now studying Wing Chun Kung Fu.. I have managed to cultivate a warrior's spirit within me that seems to mitigate the same terrifying scenerios I once ran & hid from. I feel that if more women were to cultivate within them a warrior's spirit and learn to defend themselves, such over-bearing men would have less power over them. I am not stating this to say we should meet violence with more violence.. but if one's life is on the line I feel it is better to know how to fight and defend oneself than to simply depend on others to protect you. I am sorry to hear that this is becoming an increasing problem in Japan and it pains me to know that many people have died as a result of this.. I truly hope that an answer can be found. Empower the victims. Rehabilitate the perpetrators. No one is below anyone else.. We are all equals. It is wrong to believe that one "owns" another.. and I am certain that there are male victims of stalking as well- I wish I had the power to solve all the world's problems.... but alas... I only know what works for me. 😢