Jodi Arias / Travis Alexander Relationship Analysis | Weaponizing Sex 

I agree. Always found Travis to be highly narcissistic and weird. He didn't deserve to die but he abused her too verbally.

I appreciate Dr. Grande's speculation of Travis. Don't get me wrong?! However, he was a grown man, and he kept going for the sex.. He was a little full of himself about his "religious beliefs." He was being a hypocrite. His friends even knew, and lightly warned him. He was definitely using her, and probably understood that he was just taking what he wanted. I suppose no one saw a violent, overkill would be an outcome. Let this be a lesson, people. It could happen to either sex. I knew a person that wanted to be with me, and was married. He insisted vaginal sex was a no-no it was apparently okay to do just about everything else. 🤮 Luckily, I'm not insane or borderline personality or a murderer. I knew when he said that to me, what HE was all about. Excellent video, and speculation by Dr. Grande. Travis wasn't an angel. No, he did NOT deserve to be slaughtered.

@@zenawarrior7442 I agree. Thank you.

@@hotdyme86 Did you watch Dr. Grands video??

I don't think that he was "unattractive and shallow" at all. This was a young dude in his first ongoing sexual relationship and it's pretty hard to see things clearly.

Yes, and don’t have sex before marriage!

@@sunmoonstars0369 at least not with crazy people

@@holiboys you know whats more crazy trying to find a wife as quickly as possible with someone who had a boyfriend

@@sergf3624 and you know what’s crazier than that is losing your interest in the woman you love becoming your wife and devaluing her because she slept with you.

@@sunmoonstars0369 that's religious people for ya.

Totally completely agree. I had a gf once who was crZy. Lucky she lived 300mi away. On Saturday she said I can’t live without u. On Sunday she broke up with me, because I live too far away. I was happy.

@@PInk77W1 glad you got over her quickly

@@PInk77W1 Sounds like she maybe wanted you to move back.

@@Gmoney00718 very much so

@@ingrid_inthesky no we met when living far away.

He was human and she murdered him.

@@antoinettegeiselman1539 . If you think your comments degrades the comment of @Tara B. You are the one that needs to do a little more self accessing. Her comment was simply true.

@@williamlynnroden so was mine. What’s your point?

@@antoinettegeiselman1539 ngl she was hot. I can see why he kept going back

Very true. ..a person has to love mentally and physically...also emotionally..you can't get by...not being authentic person...she had mental problems, right from the beginning......she got by being pretty....only..

The dead pan way he says everything makes me laugh 😆

What is “dead pan”?

@@krystalroxX7 saying something humorous in a none humorous way and with a straight face

@@pj1995____ thank you

@@krystalroxX7 with a straight face; showing no humor or emotion

@Char Hutchinson YEP!! I do believe that she was pushed to snap.

Exactly.

Meh, she was and remains a drama Queen. She could have just as easily broken things off as he could yet she didn’t. She played him as much as he played her. As far as Jodie wanting a serious relationship that is speculation. Her idea of serious relationships seems to be drama fueled. It sounds to me like a regular relationship was too boring. Instead the highs and lows of the endless breakups and reconciliations is what she liked. Once the butterflies wore off the only way to keep the high is from relationship drama. And she found it with this guy. He was a jerk, no question, but she wasn’t being led down some primrose path.

"If you don't want someone, cut it off". Is that what they told Lorena Bobbit?

Totally agree 👍

I agree. What happened to Travis is horrific and I do not want to take anything away from her heinous crime. But to place all the blame on Jodi is perhaps a little unbalanced. Jodi was imbalanced. She wanted Travis and was sent mixed messages. Travis was using Jodi for purely sexual pleasure but Jodi still held out hope that she could somehow get this man to marry her. Neither one was able to be objective. Travis should have told Jodi he was only using Jodi for sexual gratification and ended things. But instead,, he led Jodi on and in her mind, she thought sex was the way into creating a relationship with Travis. The day Jodi murdered Travis, Jodi had sex with him believing she would change Travis' mind about taking another woman to Mexico. In Jodi's mind, hot sex had the power to control a man and when she found out this wasn't the case, she snapped and went into a rage. At that moment she likely felt used and felt she had lost any control over this man. She suddenly flew into a psychopathic rage and lost complete control. She wanted to destroy this object who she once had loved so dearly. And she did. This case is so sad to me. I think a lot of people demonize Jodi and that is understandable. The murder was brutal. But can a person be driven to murder? In some cases, yes. I don't think it excuses Jodi in any way and I think her sentence is just, but I can see there were a series of circumstances that led up to this. I hope, if nothing else, both men and woman can learn from this. I hope those in the lds church do not promote a culture where it is okay to use non Mormon woman for sexual gratification while waiting for the "right" virgin to come along. I hope that men and women realize a toxic relationship can become dangerous and will seek help before anything close to this ever happens again.

@@kam0406 well said! I don’t blame lds or any religious group for any of the people’s actions. There are bad apples in any group. I’ve known a bunch of guys like Travis. Not excusing her at all, but he was emotionally selfish.

👍👍👍yes, She did what she had to do ...

@@No-nl8jn she didn't have to do it. But in a person who already is dealing with a fragile self image and uses her sexuality to get love, the rejection sent her into a rage. Travis should not have been toying with this person. It was cruel to do that. Still, no human being deserves to be murdered in cold blood like that. I can understand there was a dynamic they both created and unfortunately, Travis paid the ultimate price.

Agree. He of course should not have died but it is obvious he used her and led her on to think they could have had a future together. Not victim shaming, but he holds some responsibility in the situation.

And I am not sure, but any money she could've or would've had make, it was to go to Travis family, she was delusional.

Life in prison was appropriate. Despite her display, I mean.

Second hand embarrassment doesn’t even begin to explain how hard that was to watch. As Jim Can’t Swim said, she has possibly the most intolerable personality on the planet.

@@l.w.paradis2108 I agree. I am generally against the death penalty, but I did not think her case in particular warranted it.

Shameless and cray.

I agree. Travis was almost as manipulative as she was....

Exactly!

I disagree

his CHOCOLATE cake

@@DonPeyote420 😅🤣

MLM companies should definitely be banned

I agree

Agreed. Although he didn’t deserve to die, he was manipulative, and a corny salesmen. He seemed quite narcissistic. Both of them.

MLM is a pyramid scam, people who thrive in that business are crooks. Period.

I don't see how he was "manipulative". He was completely upfront and truthful with how he felt about her.

True ,Jodi was a psyco and Travis sure stringed her along and kept her for sex knowing they r not compatible ,don't want to have kids or marry .If its casual sex both people should be casual .Jodi was highly obsessed with him and wanted to be the only one .

Travis also overcame a difficult childhood, and seemed to have some kind of deep sexual conflicts. Jodi? Umm, her inner conflicts ended in violent retribution, it seemed.

Jodi had an obsession with a lifestyle - a lifestyle Travis didn't grow up with either but could give her.

Nothing he did justified being treated that way though. She was a monster who was eventually going to blow up on someone.

The mistake Travis made is the same mistake most single men would make. Even if you know the chick is a gold digger you'll still engage for the hell of it because why not? The real problem is Jodi, she spent all of her life chasing aspirations & never completing her goals. She thought by sleeping with a guy who accomplishes his goals maybe some of those attributes would rub off on her. Weird enough the only desire he encouraged her to accomplish is murder.

Dumb take, low-key empathizing with a psycho who murdered a guy with three three times over lethal means

@@WhiteMousse1980 she’s right but you are too. That statement both sides it. He may have been toxic for her too but what’s the point of saying it, right? He was brutally murdered.

@@WhiteMousse1980 how on earth do you come up with that nonsense? Not for one minute did it appear that was what Dr Grande was doing. He was presenting a non-biased well-rounded analysis based on facts alone. Sometimes it hard for people like you to understand that not all murder victims are perfect angels. They are normal people with shortcomings like the rest of us a lot of the time. Not once did Dr Grand come across like he was "siding" with the perpetrator, in fact he never does in his presentations, he is simply giving a professional opinion after many many years of study, research AND experience as a therapist. It amuses me when lay people make sweeping statements and think they know more than someone with Dr Grande's experience and credentials.

@@carriefawcett9990 Yes well said. So many people here jump on/attack you for making comments they don't like. The truth is the truth, regardless if murderer, victim etc. Dr G is 99.99% on target on most cases😉

Usually there is one toxic person. The partner is usually an empath and tolerates the emotional abuse, neglect and gaslighting for years

Prickly guy has prickly pets.

Great comment! 😂😂😂

Why won’t he cover the Ann Sacoolas murder of Harry Dunn?

@@deltanovember1672 the case is to prickly to touch!

😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

Pretty Much Guaranteed When A Guy Says~ ~I Don’t want Any Drama=Knucklehead Player=Drama Ensues

This applies to a lots of men.

I worked with a guy that had a crazy little sister. She was 14, and kept stealing his motorcycle. He hid the 🔑 to the bike, and so she plunged a straight blade screwdriver into the ignition and took off. The police called him from the side of I-20 to tell him they found the bike, and his sister was taking a ride to Juvenile Hall.

I like your pfp

Thx!

@@CC-fo7tr hahah that’s funny.

My ex husband used to disable my car by disconnecting the battery. So I still had my key but I couldn’t leave. 🙄. It’s a very very abusive tactic.

lol

So, if your kid did that, you can't think of what to do about it other than call the cops, risk ruining their whole life, and place them under house arrest, or cheer them on for their entrepreneurial spirit? Huh. I could think of other stuff.

@@l.w.paradis2108 i would let her smoke it until she greened out so the lesson is learned

Same

@jaep struiksma hell yeah bro, high five from the having chill progressive parents club lol :)

I knnoooowww..

Yeah 😔

😳

My teenage years. I was born in’80.

Shhh...I'm trying to ignore that lil factoid.

Yes and I find it very refreshing.

I agree. While he didn't deserved what happened to him he contributed to a bad situation. I've been married for some time but I can still remember those women who you realized early on were going to be trouble and you ran from them just as fast as you could. I'm sure women out there have had the same experiences with certain men. She was pretty and willing and he used her instead of realizing that she was unstable, or maybe realizing it but not caring because she let him do whatever he wanted to her. You avoid those kind of people, you don't take advantage of them, because every once in a while they turn a bite.

@@nowirehangers2815 she’s not well

@@nowirehangers2815 Well, no, she did something evil, but she was a desperate, obsessive mess. Name one evil thing she did before that? The thing with her brother? Yea, you can probly find that in many families. She nuts, Dahmer is evil along with a long list of others.

Yeah but she could have just shot or strangled him, even if he was a bit shitty it’s hard to feel bad for someone who was stabbed almost 30 times *and* nearly had their head sliced off

I know women don't have prostates so she was having painful degrading sex and no pleasure that's got to mess someone up psychologically.

@@nowirehangers2815 you have such a simplistic way of looking at it- probably how you (ans multiple others) look at the world: black/white, good/evil, etc etc.... to each their own

LOL

But Beeker is still MIA. I miss Mr. Beeker.

I like how you're not diagnosing the plants, only speculating on what could be happening in a diva cacti situation like this.

The palm plant is still missing. Just speculating if it is on vacation 🪴☀️

Toxic relationships are very common Happen all the time. The fact she nearly cut his head off is the crazy thing

He's a simp.

I think one of them was slightly more toxic...

@@gabagoolenjoyer both were. He pushed her to the point of insanity.

@@alos.h256 she was insane to begin with. I mean, she fucking murdered someone. Definitely a little more toxic lol.

Either way he did not deserve to be murdered. Keep in mind he tried to break it off with her but she kept on trying to pursue him. Most men will give in to sex with an attractive woman. There's a lot of men who use women for sex. Most women normal women move on and not murder them.

@James Rossi she used sex, but hoped this was the key for more. Sbe wanted a life with Travis. For her, she was trying to use sex to get a relationship and stability in her life.

@@MySweetAriane this is very true. But he reached out to her as well. It was both of them. She was using sex as way to get Travis to commit to a relationship.

I’ve replied this on several comments: Watch the Netflix movie! “Jodi arias - dirty little secret” (appropriately titled).

@@kam0406 He used sex! Sex is a bonding activity in a woman's brain. They feel more and more attached to a partner by engaging in intercourse with an excluding partner, continously. She probably understood that travis felt the same. She would be using sex if she had no feelings for him and were just after other benefits. Having sex with a person you are emotionally connected with isn't using sex to manipulate. If she wanted to manipulate she would withhold sex, not keep giving away.

But wait, be careful with that logic....everyone signs up voluntarily. So perhaps all of their personalities should be looked into?

Recently met someone in that "line of work"... Fast - talker, very superficial, ended up exhibiting extreme controlling, oppositional, and aggressive behaviors. Life goal seemed to hinge around a certain obsession that was very self-gratifying and sensory by their own admission -- no, it wasn't sex. Put on good theater of "wanting to care/love". Also, thick pretense of religious piety but stated, "God knows I am a man with needs, he will give me grace" regarding pre-marital sex. Extremely manipulative, relished in double-standard arrogance/entitlement bc "he is a pious man.". I realized in the end given his lack of ability to manage his emotions and lack of social-emotional intelligence, plus verbal & physical aggression to me and extreme acting out (dangerous driving) that he is a toxic mess.

Yes!!! Please Dr Grande, please do a personality analysis on this!

That's not twisted. That's just ... Human nature. You don't have to be twisted to have sex with someone you don't want to marry.

@@Preservestlandry Not if you are up front about it in the beginning, which we know men never do.

He should have told her to not convert to mormonism because he wasn't going to marry her either way, but he wanted to play her. I don't feel sorry for him.

According to Travis,anal and oral sex is not "real" sex. Only vaginally sex. I know, I can't figure it out either

@@deeandrews7051 Look at his autopsy photos and tell yourself again you're not sorry for him. His throat was cut from ear to ear, you can look inside his throat & 27stab wounds & 1 gunshot to the head. Nobody who did what Travis did deserves to die because of that & especially not in that manner. His MLM job and religion concerned me much more than what he did with Jodi tbh.

Seriously! He rocks every shade I've seen so far and you're so right about this too!

tbh, I think his best colour is salmon. he's obviously a spring...

Signed Jodi

I wonder if she used drugs at all- something that could make her snappy and emotional and violent

Give me a Freaking Break in Life! " amazed and horrified"... I'm amazed and horrified that you would use those lame adjectives, then kiss up to Dr G in the same post. Weirdo...

the other girls also appeared to have more values

@@patrickwontor2061 of course! This is the narrative because none of them slept with Travis.

We don't put value on women based on their sexual history.

@@DrHellcat well you don’t and nor do I but unfortunately the majority of men do.

@@patrickwontor2061 and Travis was then just as bad as Jodi right? It’s not like he was being raped.

Yes I agree...they both had narcisistic and cruel tendencies ... ....obviously he was playing with fire..l ..and I agree some people are bonkers .. They knew they were bad for each other .. ..but lust , ssx and adventure survived . ......except Travis

I am not a doctor, but I am a daughter of a father who was diagnosed with Narcissism. with my lack of formal psychiatric medical education/knowledge in mind, I would speculate that this could have been a potential possibility.

Yes I was thinking the same thing. She stalked him and his fiancé. She would break into his house. Many narcissists don’t respect boundaries.

Yeah, that made me a little sad. His friends seem pretty rude

@@ronnie8984 honest friends are the best friends you could have. if he had listened to them about the red flags, he'd still be alive.

If there his friends I like to know what an emeny is 😳🙄 there all out fir themselves

@@uui219 yeah I agree, but they were confused because she was “too attractive” for him, which I don’t agree with. I think he was an attractive guy, and I think it would have really hurt my feelings if my friends said I wasn’t pretty enough for my potential partner :( Overall they were totally right about her being bad news, though. She isn’t a good person and I think they saw that soon after they initially told him she was too pretty for him.

Did y’all see the Netflix movie? “Jodi arias: Dirty little secret” - check it out if you haven’t. They definitely took a lot of erm, “dramatic Hollywood liberties”, but it *seemed* (for the most part) to be slightly more accurate than the tabloid sob stories painting Travis as this perfectly innocent Saint that was “lead astray” and corrupted/taken advantage of by this Jezebel succubus of a woman named Jodi...

Thx for being open about what really happens

Thank you for your honesty. I hope your pain is gone

Unfortunately this is true of many Christian denominations.

This would only be an unpopular comment if the audience is predominantly Mormon

@@christystewart4567 Not really. Sexual Morality is taught by all the major Abrahamic Religions. Without sexual morality being practiced you cannot hold together a marriage and a family. Which is God's purpose for sexuality, to establish families and marriages in a state of stability and love. Worked for my forefathers. Enduring marriages, with a closeness rarely seen in modern relationships.

What does personal preference have anything to do with it?

He looks better than her. She looks wack

@@jordanc6249 he is not attractive at all totally not my type...maybe to someone else, but I think she’s really hot (pre prison).

I agree but personal preference is individual. I met my BFF new man and I think he is really gross and she finds him the hottest man on the planet.

Jodi was a fake bottle blonde, why are her eyes so black,it’s scary.

As if, "the nerve!"

How dare him defend himself? She’s a sick freak. PERIOD

@@alishavaldez5359 "Killed him four times"? How is that possible?

Yes! That catnip blend of objective factual information and entertainment! He works hard so we can relax and enjoy! Thanks Doc!

I love that too!

Me too. When I start watching my utube videos at night I go to Dr. Grande's first!!!

I love iced coffee

@@carolbenson6524 and others what who else do you recommend to watch on youtube pls?

The moral of the story, be careful how you treat others.

No. Shame on you both.

Exaclty.

He was using her for sex and playing with her emotions. Most women would just walk away. Unfortunately, he messed with the wrong person.

She was trying to get blood to her brain to make up lies.

Jodi wasn't playing with a full deckof cards.

Relieves stress usually they walk around

@@thereal4113 playing with a full deck of Jokers maybe...

@@annedolan3050 Good one!!! 🤣 I think Travis had a few screws missing too. He obviously wasn't thinking with his brain 🦧

Travis sounded like a serial dater. I wonder how many women he told could be the one👰🤵

Absolutely no way she was borderline. Way too controlled. Also can’t be borderline and psychopathic, they contradict each other.

I was waiting for Todd's analysis of pathology and personality because I like to compare impressions. She seems to demonstrate traits from all the cluster B disorders, but most of all BPD. From what I can tell she seems to be mid/high in openness to experience, low in conscientiousness, high in extraversion, low in agreeableness, and fairly high in neuroticism. But it would be interesting to see Dr Grande do a video on how mental illnesses are influenced or effect the presentation of personality. Especially cluster B ego disorders. I could see how they could compromise the integrity of someone's "true" personality.

He did a video on Jodi going over the theory of Jodi being given a diagnosis of BPD (it was one of her diagnosis’ given during her court ordered evaluations by the states expert psychologist) Dr. Grande essentially says that bpd doesn’t really fit. Says there is an old joke. Have three psychologists interview one person, and you’ll obtain three different diagnosis’. State hired psychologist: bpd Defense psychologist: ptsd/ personality disorder NOS

@@onetwothree1806 To be honest, I think PD-NOS would probably have been the most likely to be accurate. Those NOS diagnoses are used when it's pretty clear that there's some kind of PD but none of the specifically defined PDs really fits.

Unfortunately weak men have been conditioned to blame the woman instead of taking responsibility for the decisions of their small head.

@@lesliecas2695 it’s truly our weakness ahahaha

I never thought he was blameless, especially after hearing those taped conversations.

I mean, when a woman dates a guy that ends up killing her we don't say things like "Not blaming her but she was aware that he had insecurities and was obsessed with her. She was playing with fire." We just say "what a piece of shit that guy is; throw away the key." And nobody thinks it's appropriate to discuss what sexual positions the victim enjoyed in open court.

@@jayteegamble I’ve said almost the same thing about Jasmine Fiore and Ryan Jenkins. So no double standard for me.

@@courtneycallen Fair enough.

@@jayteegamble I think I understand what you were getting at even though it doesn’t apply to me. Do you mind elaborating on your point? Are you trying to say that men who kill their partners are immediately judged and locked up whereas women who kill their partners aren’t? I genuinely want to know because I do think the double standards are very interesting.

@@courtneycallen Yes, although I think the even bigger bias is that it is so hard for us to see men as victims. Our minds have to constantly empower male victims and give them some agency. This is from us all living in a patriarchy (yeah, i'm a pretty-serious feminist). The result is that we don't feel much empathy for male victims, instead we focus on what actions they took that led to their victimization.

@jonny blaze I shouldn't comment because the creator isn't going to reply? That doesn't even make sense. The point of leaving a comment is to feed the algorithm on channels that you enjoy. It's not about expecting a reply from the creator.

Hilarious though that the creator loved the comment. ❤ Dontchya think? 🤘😜

@@OccultDemonCassette Kind of embarrassing for you..he DID respond.

​@@justatexasgirl5583 did you mean to reply to @Jonny Blaze's comment?

@jonny blaze Dr grande liked the comment... it may have made it day a little better. Spreading positive thoughts are not bad.

@@spiritmatter1553 Same.🙂

Well said!

That quote tells you all you need to know about Augustine!!

@@TheTam0613 Augustine became a saint Augustine became a doctor of the Church. Augustines mom is St Monica

@@PInk77W1 I know Augustine became a Saint. I spent 12 years in Catholic school. I have read Augustine's writings, and I find him less than inspiring, to put it nicely. I find him very problematic and many of his attitudes go to the core of why the Catholic Church has not ever held themselves accountable to the standards by which they judge others. I didn't know that St. Monica was his mother. I appreciate you telling me that! Thank you 😊

Great video! Definitely recommend and agree

'Like a sea lion peeking over a rock'

@@folkloreofbeing omg, i've watched that vid a couple of times and every time that sea lion pops up on the screen it makes me a laugh...embarrassingly.

Not really. It gets annoying to people to hear the words 'victim blaming' when a bpd or some other sadist gets murdered, but with Travis suddenly many of those same people suddenly are more ready to point fingers.

he was, as close to a saint as a human will get

Good for you & Thank God you removed yourself!!! I feel for you & I am Happy you’re doing better!! 😃❤️👍✨🙏💯

I was also in a mentally, spiritually, psychologicaly and physicly abusive relationship in my early twenties, where I had fears of my thoughts that I could have killed that person, but I moved city, then country to escape and started a new life. I was also at fault. It takes two to tango. I thank Jesus I have met my loving, kind, beautiful husband 11 yrs of loving peaceful marriage, 17 beautiful years.

Borderline and Narcissistic and Sociopathic combination. They come in clusters.

@@maidenmarian1 you're so right and it's like making a personal and interpersonal bomb

She reminds me of Diane Downs. Her chit chat runaway mouth talking non stop through her interrogation, along with her evident emotional disconnect, especially when she asks for crime scene photos of Travis' body to satisfy her "morbid curiosity" all whilst she's still denying any involvement! Sheeesh and she thought she was gonna walk on out the cop shop as she'd charmed the pants off the Detective. Crazy deluded woman, good job she's locked up for life. Shame someone lost their life for that to happen. 😞

During the trial the psychologist dx her as that

LUCKLY MY SON GOT OUT BEFORE ANY THING WORSE,

And sliced his throat. Yeah, he did not survive😟

A small percentage actually survives stuff like that

It's funny that her story was that she shot him in the head in self defense, but he still came after her so she stabbed him 27 times in self defense.

@@anaisabel2956 And dragged his body back in to the shower

Rasputin probably thought it was amateur hour hearing this

I attended BYU-Idaho in Rexburg. I met many young men like Travis. They like to have a behind the scenes chick while courting an LDS girl publicly. Some of them purposely pick converts or girls who aren't serious about the church to have on the side. I suppose it's easier to talk a girl into sexual activity if she doesn't come from a solid LDS family. Travis absolutely did not deserve to be butchered and I hope he and his family find some semblance of peace. However, guys like Travis are fairly common amongst that scene and he picked the most wrong woman to be his "side piece".

Stringing a person along just for sex , no matter the gender is a vile thing to do.

@@cassiemontgomery45 I have heard that. Thanks for confirming.

BS, she called him from the LA area on her trip, knowing he would invite her over, she did not show up uninvited. He wanted to bang before his cruise. Even after she would cut his tires and whole list of other shit, he would still call her for pussy or take her calls, so no, you're flat wrong, she wasn't a stalker, her presence was very wanted.

I've been in the same position as jodi, I was a side piece while he was looking for "marriage material" ladies. I wasn't even aware because we lived in different cities and i worked full time while he had no fixed job and lived off his parents. When things started to get fishy and i tried to get away he would pull me back and then drop and then comeback while trying to convince that my anxiety was overtaking and I was "imagining things". It was horrible, every other week would have confrontations where he would try to gaslight me and i would start another week of work drained. He messed so much with my head that i ended up sick, lost my job, my apartment, and on my way falling down he discarded me like shit. Unlike Jodi I became severely depressed and suicidal, locked in a mental ward and kicked out of his country and guess what? They wanted to give me a BPD diagnosis. It's a horrible feeling to be used and lied and played just for his entertainment because for some reason i wasn't good enough him, but enough for his emotional and sexual needs. People have feelings, emotional pain hurts as much as physical pain and this case could have ended with my own death, but he definitely ruined my life, my self esteem, my sense of reality. with jodi and travis case both lives were lost. He's dead. She'll spend the rest of her life behind bars. Don't use people and their feelings

I completely agree

‘attract a mate’ i-

I thought so too. I followed this trial too.

Some of the psychology youtubers I watched turned out to be idiots but this guy seems fine as far as I've watched his videos

@@majlordag1889 hi , really that’s interesting , this man seems genuine what I found interesting is That he does not make Travis a saint, nor Jodie completely cold and inhuman, it’s like he has the ability to see both sides , even though Taking a human life is clearly as wrong as can be. We have all been hurt , we never did this. But he tries to understand.

Yeah, I think somebody has a crush on Jodi. Typical weird doctor... I mean, Travis is better looking that Dr. Grande.

This shocked me, too. This was Inaccurate and unprofessional.

Travis was chunky and had floppy legs when they met. Theres a video of him doing the chicken dance and i feel embarrassed, definitely not attractive. We just see his face photos and he's ok and when dressed hes well covered, but as doctor mentioned he started working out and losing weight to have more options. When he met Jodi he wasn't considered an attractive dude. Jodi was his ego boost to the point he cheated one girl he was dating...ahh not a good guy.

Automatic +15 point bonus for comment using the elephant man! 😂

Agree with both comments

with us borderlines it's all about the sex and the boyfriends

Lynna you’re single aren’t you ?

@@anhedonianepiphany5588 Excellent point.

@@andrewcruz1931Even if she's single whats your point? It's better to be single and be in peace then with someone that brings you nothing but drama and heartache in your life case in point the relationship of Jodi and Travis. Having a relationship is not everything.

I agree with you, Jennifer - an emotionally healthy person would not have got involved with either of these people. I learned this the hard way....!

Right, I: 100% Agree, He is not here to stand up for himself

Just imagine what all her ex boyfriends think!

@@jillellen2631 Yep...crossed my mind too. Especially after she murdered him and then drove to Salt Lake City...to meet another guy.

@@SouthernCal1317😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

You have to get to know a person. Looks are deceiving.

LMAO, I guess he missed that part.

Each time I heard LDS I kept hearing and seeing LSD so ..... mind is dyslexic but, yeah I thought the same.....

Look up "LDS soaking"

Its a sin by most religions and God also.

he said what ive been thinking, and its the truth.

He did not deserve to die, yet in Jodi’s mind he did. I’m ashamed to say I could not summon up much compassion for him.

@@knitter4years I know I might get some hate for saying this, but i don't feel sorry for Travis ONE BIT, and I think Jodi should have gotten a shorter sentence.

@@alicecarroll2007 Killing him was a heinous act. No one deserves that. We are all full of imperfections.

@@gigi9301 We are all entitled to our opinions but she was savage and cruel to Travis in the murder and in the courtroom.

Same. I think it's because it has been rehashed so much. As another example, the Elisa Lam case keeps resurfacing.

I remember being 20 when it happened - it was the first real case I got into. I was obsessed. I even went through her whole MySpace page back then because it was completely public. 'Went through her posts and everything. It wasn't until I got older that I understood from experiance what exactly was dangerous with Jodi and Travis's dynamic. It's almost Shakespearean.

It's kinda the same thing.

Mormonism is a cult though not the same thing as a religion

@@Sombre_gd I was thinking the same; it's a large group of people/acquaintances that you guilt into buying some crap, and then pressure them to buy more....under the guise of friendship/fellowship

Exactly!! Just sit your fanny down and watch a few episodes of ANY true crime series. I just wish she had had Enough premeditation to get a life insurance policy on him, wait it out, then of course ditch the camera properly, or just not use it at all. Dammit, Jodi!! You should have called me first, girl!

@@gigi9301 sus

@@gigi9301 Weird comment...but you make a good point about the camera. I have always wondered what she was thinking throwing that in the washer instead of taking it with her. Pretty sure they would not have been able to convict her of pre-med murder otherwise.

It is for sure 👍

Very true!

They need to upload again for real

@@robyn8482 don't think that's going to happen sadly.

@@folkloreofbeing Omg they've uploaded dude

His childhood was tragic, unfortunately, I don't think he was trying to overcome it, he was just taking it out on others: women.

Elizabeth Bathory but you’ve named yourself after an abuser of woman/girls?

I agree. I felt sorry for Travis

​@@elizabethbathory6144 Like Nicole Brown destroying another woman's marriage knowingly

There's a few people who believe she's innocent. After watching the whole thing, what do you think?

@@dingosmith9932 only watched a few clips and found that she’s a psychotic cold-blooded killer.

@@krystalroxX7 it seems so obvious and yet, Jodie has her staunch supporters!

@@dingosmith9932 I still believe the only truth she told was the gunshot was first, but not the way she told it. I believe she shot him in the shower.

Was that trial not riveting?! I’ve spent sooo many hours watching and rewatching it. I even bought the Juan Martinez’s book, it’s so good.

yeah, really not. i realise that in the context of this video, this is not the meaning of that phrase, but "weaponised sex" sounds like rape as punishment, rape in war etc etc. very not cool.

@@jonnylumberjack6223 Wow....you read way way too much into the Joke based comment.

@@SKY-wt2pp aye, probably 🙂. Just immediately had really nasty connotations to me, which says quite a lot about my mind I guess.

@@jonnylumberjack6223 Welp....um hope you are ok.

I think that’s kinda the point of the band name joke. It’s supposed to be off the wall and crass.

Well he can't refute you,as he is dead. So many relationships are like this,not healthy but not worthy of ending in killing.

@@Elcapitaan5 right. Killing him is above and beyond.

Girls like that are irresistible

It’s Bpd. He was a narcissist and as soon as he hooked her with the sex then he began to look for other chicks for marriage and he and his friends began the devaluation process, that’s what set off her bpd, we are incredibly sexual, that’s how we bond. I avoid sex with my partner now as it’s unbearably painful emotionally, the wrong personality type (fellow cluster b such as narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths) are drawn to us like bees to honey.

Travis never stalked and broke into her house

Yes sireeeee......

Just guessing, but probably people with the gift of gab/small talk, and a large number of shallow friends?

No one joins an MLM when their life is going well.

Agreed . Not an excuse to harm or murder someone, but still trash behaviour on his part.

She had plenty of sexual gratification too

@@infamousla815 Absolutely, but , I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say she was hoping for more...

@@jasminebelcourt8211 agreed. But maybe she intimidated him too much to be good "wife" material...who knows. He probably did love her

That rhymes!

Happy birthday.

@@Americans4Israel4Ever Ty I'm like the Queen I have 2 a year. :)

Happy birthday!!

Happy Birthday! Have a great one! 🎂😃

Omg it’s my BD too!

Try to look for "travis Alexander chicken dance". He was chunky and had floppy legs when jodi met him. I think he improved his physical appearance by losing weight later on and started to feel holy awesome. Jodi was an ego boost for this dude.

Thanks for clearing that up! 👍 I knew Catholic friends when I was younger that believed in such myths, as well. While not a theologian, even as a teen I generally imagined such "loopholes" defied the spirit of the guideline and made no sense. But hormones can be deceiving...

All “TA” wanted was a wife & family.. the women he choose were not suitable… he was a victim

Tjena!

We need to revive Ottoman Turkish

She also slit his throat.

Holy hell.

I don't think he was that good looking tbh with you but I see Jodi as just slightly above average

I think he’s ugly but I find Jodi beautiful while they where together"

He looked like an overgrown 6 year old, like Scott Peterson

I agree! I was so confused about that. Like.... The dude was pretty average looking... Why does Dr. Grande conclude he too unattractive to get a girlfriend?

@@kmdn1 my thoughts exactly. Very average looking. Also we all know charisma and personality also have a lot to do with attractiveness.