The Church of What's Happening Now Episode 634 Joey Diaz, Lee Syatt, and you got it! Steven Brody Stevens • The Church Of What's H... #JoeyDiaz #Madflavor #Tremendous
That's right. Being ALONE can indeed be very beneficial. As an INFP and long time Depression battler, I know only too well how it can help recharge me or give me my much needed thinking time as I am by nature a very ruminative person. But LONELINESS? That's a whole different beast altogether. And you know that you can be lonely in a room full of your favourite people in the whole world (happens to me a lot). But what Joey says about walking and getting outside and out of your head? It's pretty much gospel.
Wow as someone who lives alone this really resonates with me. The not leaving the house. The procrastination. It sucks. So hard to break without anyone around.
You just have to accept that doing things you don’t want to do is a part of life. You have to choose to not just sit around and do things that give you instant gratification all day.
I have lived alone for 7 years now and love it. When my roommate left in 2016 I orgasmed. I hangout with my friends and girlfriend but that living with a person shit is done.
I get the walking thing. Back when I was a teen, I would pop the earbuds in, turn up the music, and just walk. No destination in mind, no curfew and no plans. As a loner it was my form of therapy, and it worked. It helped me process everything in my own way, on my own terms.
This is such true advice. I'm an introverted single male who lives alone. I have two close male friends and we grab beers every thursday. Friday is the earliest day I have to wake up for work but I never miss that thursday night gathering because I need those 3 hours of interaction, talking about my week, laughing, etc. and I know it. Also, I'd recommend other single men like myself live in a populated area and go on runs and walks. I go on runs and will have short, brief interactions with people, but often those short interactions leave me smiling for 10 minutes, and the run makes you feel great. Know there are other lonely people out there and put yourself out of your comfort zone to interact with strangers. Be present and ready to talk when the time comes. Too many times I've missed what could be a new friend because I was in my own head and when someone approached me, I didn't reciprocate the conversation and they left.
Yo this is exactly how I’ve been feeling lately. Being in my head way too much and destroying myself. Never heard it explained like this, and it’s honestly a blessing I decided to watch this video. Joeys the homie
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There's a lot of truth to this, no one can deny the power of just being active, getting out, and socializing. For some, including me, it's like walking a tight rope though. And I'm always falling off the tight rope. Some people want to never be alone and others need it to recharge. Being alone all the time isn't good for even the biggest introvert but I need to just sit in my house and do nothing sometimes to stay sane. It's hard to get the timings down. Too much social interaction I get exhausted, too much alone time I start spiraling.
Sogonzo I love being alone but I agree we can’t be alone %100 of the time since we are social animals and need other people around the isolation will tear your mind
Sogonzo your right that's why we have these incel problems. i to never got my social skills up as a teen n half my adult life. and i thought i could handle being alone heelllll naawww! Luckily little by little im gettin the hang of things.
Joey I can relate to this I’m in my early 20’s depressed as fuck but I’m starting to jump back on the horse again and my family has been supportive. Thank you for this, much love brotha
Had to retire from my Job way to early in life, because of health reasons. Became very depressed, suicidal , anxiety worsened, finally took up walking a few years later. Now I walk at least 6days a week for 2-4 miles. Outside of god, this is the only thing that saved my life, it's now as simple as this, if I don't walk I easily fall right back in to the darkness. At this point in my life, walking is all I need, Thank god!
Man I know i'll feel better if I start working out again, but I come up with excuses every damn time. I'm 6'2" 285 pounds. My natural weight is like 215. Scotch and cigarrettes every night doesn't help. Thanks for posting this. It may just help me.
I feel you bro, actually I just started this past July, but really revved it up in August. For 4straight years I drank Jack Daniels and sat around and ate really bad foods. It was when I came home with groceries one day, and could barely make it up the stairs, and had to wait to go back to my car to get the rest. Scared the hell out of me, felt like crap cuz when I worked I was in good shape, due to the work load. I kept a chart of my activity on the calender, and realized I didn't weight s and squats for only 1day a week in July, cuz I was still stuck in my head. Then on August 2nd, I said fuck it, found a nice track close to me and starting walking. First day I did half a lap and was gassed, few days later I could go 3laps, now I average 12-14 laps and go 16-18 just for extras. Trust me brother it only takes one day, and you'll feel phenomenal and that what will make you wanna do it more. To be honest, I'm only 5'2" and was at 165lbs. and what really pushed me, was when my sis in law made fun of my weight, kinda pissed me off, cuz we don't get along anyway. kinda really motivated me, lol. Walking , fresh air, a rocky movie here and there, really helped. it's a daily struggle , cuz I deal with depression, anxiety and IBS, and degenerative disk disease, but the walking, drinking enough water, and eating sensible ( not everyday, but most of the time ) keeps me winning the battle. Peace and God bless You Brother!
@@davidbanner9344 Hey man thanks for the support and motivation. I played basketball and lifted weights along with running track when I was younger. I was in really good shape until my ex cheated and I started drinking every night just to sleep. And I want to stop smoking too. When I used to work out it made me not want to smoke or eat like shit because I felt like I was wasting the workout. I notice on weekends when I go do things, evn like grocery shopping/haircut, I feel so much better than if I just lay around until I start drinking in the evening. I KNOW I'll feel so much better, but I suffer with the same kind of mental block you mentioned. I just gotta start and then I'm good and it seems so silly to have ever been so stressed about it. I appreciate your reply and hope to start this Friday after work. 20 minutes on the treadmill or a 30 minute walk with my dogs would be awesome.
start jiu jitsu. seriously bro. if joey can do it, YOU CAN DO IT!!! at the very least its a great workout and you'll meet some cool dudes. and if you cant afford that, run. its free. all you need is running shoes. start with just a couple miles a few times a week. you'll feel so much better bro. you got this!!
Isolating will kill you. In my experience do something productive, workout, learn something you've always wanted to learn ex) guitar. You're smart enough to see it, just don't ignore it. I have lizards, they require a lot of attention. When you're responsible for the life of another all the time, because as a dad even though I talk to my son every day yet sometimes I feel helpless in the sense of being a force in his life daily unless he's staying with me, but these lizards need me every day and they are a lot more "emotionally driven" than people would ever think the more you interact with them.
i live alone and the loneliness could sometimes be overwhelming. It sucks when anxiety & depression get a hold of your life and derail you from living like a person. You really do have to find some kind of purpose and just go for it.
As a teenager i was fortunate to have my cousin who was the closest thing to a brother and we would get up together and walk and talk for hours that was our balance we created as brothers especially going threw rough times im very grateful having that this past july i found my cousin dead in his room it sucks cause i lost my brother who i used to walk and talk with so i have my son who i started the same tradition and hopefully he can benefit from this as well i miss my brother don
*Incredibly TRUE I noticed that* even some minimal exercise goes extremely far and long ways keeps your mind healthy keep yourself healthy but also it’s important like Joey stated it’s important to eat healthy to to be able to function right
Joey obviously has a strong personality for confessing that he's been alone. Ive felt this feeling that was very unpleasant knowing your with people but in your mind, the room is empty. Many people can't fathom, speaking about this. This is why i respect you joey.
I might be 18, but i have experienced this enough in my life. You get to a point where you have no friends, no job, and no motivation. You don’t want to get up, its a mind state. Forcing yourself up early in the morning, staying up all day and getting moving helps your mental state. Doesn’t matter if I have nothing to do today. Im up and ready.
You know the real reason why we love Joey Diaz is because there was a person in our lives that talked to us for real and cut the bullshit. For me I'm thankful for my mother cause this is how she talked to me. Don't just thank Joey. Go tell that person who shook you with the truth thank you. It's alot of how it is you connect with Joey. Just don't forget that personal "Joey Diaz" you got in your life.
Well i dint have a father to suport me becuse of MS = multiple sclerosis, so Joey have been the father and the speaker i never had.Toghter with a copule of other cut the bullshit podcast (Y)
Lived alone in an apartment states away from family and it was definitely a challenge feeling alone. All I did was work, clean, and sleep. Some days I wouldn’t leave unless I was getting food. But I learned a lot about myself and did a lot of self reflecting. Now I’m the best version of myself and in a very healthy loving relationship. If your alone just learn to love yourself, after that things get much easier
It's different to enjoying solitude, that's a good thing. But being isolated it's something else and it can really affect your mental health and slowly you don't want to go out etc. But solitude it's a good thing to be able to pass time with yourself....
Thinking about this chat and what happened to Brody, makes it hit that much harder r.I.p. Uncle Joey has some great advice here though. Getting out of the rut spending time alone and depression can be difficult. The first step is always the toughest. But you are worth it.
Joey's point about not going over to Lee's apartment was self explanatory. Lee is a guy who likes to stay alone, and even if he's gracious to his guests, he's also squirming inside because he'd rather be alone.
I worked for 3 years on graveyard shift in a data center solo. The $ was really good but damn my mind would wander to some bad places. When I would see a morning coworker entering the building I'd be in a such a better mood every time. Uncle Joey speaks the truth, people need people.
It’s all about balance. I used to be the one who was out every weekend with friends or in a social environment. But then I realized i wasn’t truly happy with myself. So, I closed my circle, stayed in more, started working back out. It changed my whole perspective on friends and who was really there for me. I quickly figured out I don’t need 50 friends, but just 2 or 3 really good ones. It’s all about balance. I go out once a month now and keep my healthy routine with gym, and my close friends. And now I feel amazing. BALANCE...
I’ve always done best living alone, helps me process everything I’ve been through, refine it, and truly apply it. Always so much growth for me when I’m in solitude.
My good friends nagged me about being his gym partner for a good year before i finally caved and started going to the gym first thing in a morning. Ive found having someone to hold me accountable has really helped me. I’m guilty of letting myself off the hook too easy so i’ve found training/having some fitness goals with a friend gives me that extra kick i need. I hope you’re doing well man. Feeling slightly better is only one positive decision away. ❤️
Fantastic podcast Joey and Lee. This one really hit home as a self-employed musician who's riding the rollercoaster of success from big tours to bouts of sitting at home by myself for days. Getting out is super hard and draining but always rewarding after. Greetings from Asheville, NC... come play here guys! Peace... Brian Turner
I know how you feel. I'm so independent and self reliant. I can enjoy my own company, but there comes a time where I get tired of being alone yet don't want to be sociable. I get anxiety before I have to be somewhere to enjoy myself with friends, but afterwards I feel great that I did it.
@@teo5836 I can't stay in though. Sometimes I have to escape. Get out of the apartment. Have you tried to practice on being comfortable in social situations?
Strings 1043 well Im naturally social as crazy as that sounds, I love talkin to pple joking etc its just that every now and again Ill be talkin to some1 or they'll be talkin to me n outta nowhere I start sweating and my face turns red etc and my heart beats fast and I talk as if Im out of breath. I used to love going out and doing stuff working out going out with friends but now I just dont. Ive grown fearful of things like driving( ive had my license for 11 years and have barely drove a car and I fear making mistakes, and or being seen as a bad driver etc). I wish I had a solution so that all these issues would basically vanish man
I've been severely mentally Ill since I was 21 and I was disrespected and scrutinized by the world because of my appearance and behavior. My situation is a double die: if I'm not around people eventually loneliness and yearning for a life will eat me alive, but when I'm around people I can't really tell what's someone's actual intentions or agendas because I hear audio hallucinations everyday while people also gossip, insult, and talk about me and it's hard to tell the difference unless it's super obvious. I didn't even trust my family+ all my friends stopped talking to me even though I wasn't violent or irate. I go through a cycle of reclusiveness and trying to get my shit together and I probably failed seven times. In the years since, I've talked to people only a small fraction of how much I've talked to myself. I took meds and that significantly helped my condition. It helped me be able to hold down a job and socialize more, but I don't like people that much because deep down I resent people because they went from cruel to back to normal and I can't help but think people are full of shit. In the last six months, I've stopped taking my meds partly because I got 60 lbs. heavier in 6 months of taking them and them shits was going to kill me, eventually. I couldn't even reciprocate emotions with people I would pretend to. If I talked to a person nothing would probably light up in my head. Besides, I wanted to know if my condition was temporary or life long. Probably, back in August or September I started to get some symptoms back like a little anxiety, milder mood swings, crazy amounts of energy, a few audio hallucinations, and priming. The crazy thing is I feel people are starting to look at me how they once did. I was mildly manic at work for a few weeks while also out doing myself performance wise, but I feel like I could lose my job because I probably looked weird as fuck. I hear gossip about me all day. I try not to let it get to me because I don't know if it's real or not because I've been wrong several times. I left my BJJ gym I was fine at for almost a year because I didn't know if people were insulting so I joined a MMA gym because I need to release energy, but I'm getting the same results. I've been a nomad at about 6 or 7 martial arts gyms. I don't expect things to go differently, but I can't stay away from martial arts so I say fuck it and train at a place for 3 to 6 months and leave. I feel like the only way I'll be able to manage symptoms without meds is if I find a place I can socialize with people who could understand me or at least not judge me too quickly. I wrote all this on RU-vid because I hate therapy and have no one to talk to.
I can relate to a degree. I've come to realize that my internal insecurities of people judging me and thinking less of me as a person is for the most part all in my head and not reality. I think it just is result of me being a loner and not socializing as much as I should. For instance whenever i'm at work and in the public eye I'd feel that everyone was staring at me and criticizing me however whenever I'd look up there would be no one even looking at me confirming that it was all in my head. I'm sure that your case is more than likely the same. Sometimes our minds can be our own worst enemy but we can be stronger if we try and realize that most of what we fear is all in our heads. Stay strong my friend, this battle is ours to be won.
I grew up in an ultra violent home and when I was a soph something happened and I didn't have parents anymore. I felt so different from everyone I would meet it really started to fuck me up. It sounds like you are in a cycle of thought and actions that cause the reactions you may be getting. On top of that a lot of people do suck. You have infinite potential and the ability to be anything you want. I don't walk around judging people and most people would be happy to have you as a friend. It has taken a lot of work and now I realize that everyone is crazy and don't care what people think about me. Once you don’t care about being judged then it will come easy. If someone gives you shit. Smirk and low key spin their bullshit around. You seem like a cool person and will be fine. We have one life, dont let anyone ruin your existence here. This is the mean RU-vid comment section and look how many people gaf. That's pretty cool and shows you connect with people 😎👍
@@wendigodeadpatterson2514 no worries, life is about helping each other. We are spiritual beings with a human condition that is not for long. Take care and accept Jesus in your heart and I will high five you on the streets of Glory! 🙌
It’s so great to hear this message, I can super relate to being a loner. That’s not a bad thing either and don’t let people tell u it is. Being a loner for me also means I haft to keep an eye on the internal monologue cuz that shit can git dark without me even realizing it and by the time I realize it I have fallen deep into depression. I had to catch myself recently with that. Going through a recent episode I realized to be cautious about putting your heart on a finicky foundation, not something sturdy. You run the risk of it falling and breaking. So I am just picking up the pieces and trying again.
One of the realest and most relatable videos I've seen...as someone who has been alone a lot. Just get yourself out of the house/apartment for any reason is so important.
I can relate to this so much right now. Been bed ridden from stomach issues and shit. The depression is real, its like no traction, I don't feel like going out anymore or seeing friends the emotions and memories get wacky and I got comfortable in the weird isolation. Hearing this cheered me up, made me want to see s few friends even if for an hour or 2, because I know it will help. Much respect Joe. It's good to be able to Identify with another. I work from home, I think I'm going to start working out again when I have a slow periods of working. Thank you Joe. Words can't express how this helped motivate me. So much respect to you.
An idle mind is the devils playground, even more so for some of us predisposed to mental health issues. My first year living alone was a dark dark time and the only way to fight it was with exercise, interacting with people and faith but it’s a hell of a battle
@@GSG-io8zp thank you kind person. A year later and still here. Sometimes you gotta chase that 🐉 dragon but these days its mainly good herb and psychedelics. Peace n Love from South Mississippi.
@@jcsimmons1035 I got a year off Heroin too ... OMG the money I’ve saved, the muscles I’ve gained, the re alignment with my mother etc... It’s truly amazing . Keep fighting the good fight
When i was suicidal i would always take a walk it would help me so much It made me feel so much better I would walk 6 miles and i lost a lot of weight from it isn’t always affective but it got me out of the house and distracted me from those thoughts
Glad I clicked on this video cause I’ve personally felt that way for a while and it’s glad to hear someone describe it so similarly with a solution to end it. Thanks Uncle Joey
I listen to this every now and then knowing Brody is gone and Joey went through what he did during the pandemic. Its a reminder to keep cool and try to keep oneself going. It's scary. That fear and loneliness can consume you. It takes you to a dark place. Its hard. 1 year into the pandemic and it's like I'm glad I saw that dark place and am doing everything in my power not to go back their. People need to be able to live their lives
Legendary advice from uncle joey much needed for my situation.....you're the truth in the booth! Thanks for those wise words! I emphasize with this on so many levels!
As a person that enjoys alone time, I can totally tell a difference in my mental state when I dont leave the house all day. I have worked a full time job all my life and now have a great job with tons of vacation time that I have to force myself to use near the end of the year so I dont lose it. If I take a week off of work and stay in the house all day, the next morning I feel so down. Even if it's running to the store or other BS errands, it makes me feel better to get out and interact with people.
Joey Diaz is the best advice giver and philosopher ever! He's been through so much and seen so much that you can use his life like a reference book to learn from!
I Hate be bothered by people. sometimes I would just want to be alone..... and then about an hour or two later I'm bored out of my mind. Strangest double edge sword
On the week of Halloween I decided to attempt suicide, and I knew if I went through this plan no one would find out for a long time, because I'm always by myself. I'm introverted, and comfortable being alone but after a while it catches up with you. After my mom died, I just kept isolating, until I couldn't stand the thought of someone seeing my apartment, seeing how messy it was, and how I lived. Depression does fucked up things to you. I ended up having to spend 4 days in a psych ward after I made another attempt at suicide, but when I hit that bottom I finally got help. It's scary, but it's ok to seek treatment. You're not weak or a bad person if you do. We all have our reasons for feeling sad and isolated, but that can be a prison. No one should be afraid to seek help if they need it, even if you know it's gonna disrupt the routine. No one fights alone, and you don't have to let this stuff eat you alive.
Amen, similar history. Anyone thinking bottom of the pit/dark thoughts shouldn’t hesitate to get help. Treatment and/or therapy can make the difference. taking it one day at a time can make the difference. and anyone who for whatever reason “frowns” upon treatment/professional help/therapy can go fck themselves.
I've just realised walking helped me through some really tough times, and I has no idea at the time! I was getting back into shape to get back into the fire service... 4 days a week I'd chuck on some good tabbing boots (I think "rucking" is the US army slang) and walk 12 miles North to South across London with a 33kg/72lbs backpack on, as fast as I could. Even without hills, better than just jogging on a treadmill... 8 year relationship ended, badly and I was in a really black place, stuck a long way from friends in a place I didn't want to be. I'd made this habit out of part walk, part physical training, and I wasn't close to where I needed to be, so I forced myself to carry on. In hindsight, I'm 100% sure it did me SO much good, just the walking part alone. I don't know how I managed to keep going, but that walk kept my mind ticking enough to get through... even though you know you'll be basically back to normal within 12 months, the day by day is all the matters.
Honestly just never get a gf and work on yourself. If you're in a good head space and ready, things will work themselves out. Too many people including myself WANT marriage, a family, the entire structure. The thing is life has a way of working out when you don't expect it and not working out when you hope it does. Just roll with the punches and work on being happy for yourself. The cards will fall as they may.
One of the big problems of living alone is there's no one there to check you on your behaviour. You can develop some really bad habits if there's one around to ask 'what the fuck are you doing'. Especially if you're not working.
I’ve experienced both sides pushing myself into social situations and also just not interacting at all either, I’ve gone through a hell of a lot the last past years but I can say there is light at the end of the tunnel. The most important thing I believe from over the years is to become content and to love yourself and to deal with your flaws when you fully believe in yourself you can be whoever you want to be, go anywhere, be around anyone good or bad but they won’t put me down or effect my purpose, We are human beings. Because I am ME!
I lived alone for 3 years, and most of it was spent completely isolated. It's a terrible, terrible thing for your mental health Needing solitude is one thing. Shutting yourself off from the world is something much worse
I'm a loner...introverted.... the cat guy that drinks beer and smokes. We all have a story what's yours let's connect if you think your alone your not...
I’m 19, and for the past 4 5 years I smoked my life away. All I did was wake up, smoke some weed and play video games sun up sun down. No interaction besides my friends online. It was fun as fuck in the beginning, but I realized all I did was smoke and stay home. In the beginning I would go smoke in places I never went to, and that is where I went wrong. I started smoking near my house, or on the balcony. Then it became me dabbing in my room. That’s when I got fucked. I was just in my head and something in me was trying to break out. That was in sept. I finally decided to let go of the weed a week or so ago. Now my main goal is to make a new habit that I will stick to, every month. 1 habit every month. For example. I’m gonna start going outside and walking where ever the fuck I can go. I live in nyc and I’m takin this bullshit for granted. Thank you for letting me vent
@@TheRand0mR3tard i smoked too with bad friends mate just stay sober lot of times go to the gym make contact with mates get a fun pay job get ur mind set correct
Struggling with this. I've realized I'm actually an extrovert who has thought he was more of an introvert his whole life. Being comfortable being alone has made me more creative and fun to be around but it comes at the price that you may not be aware how much of the time you are spending by yourself.
Being alone is a weird one because you start to not want to leave your comfort zone and you start to feel lonely and its sometimes like you’re stuck in the middle, you need balance otherwise you will become sad on ur own, well that’s from my experience🤷🏼♂️
Dropped out of college this semester during add/drop period in the beginning of Jan. My mom passed away in July and this led to me also not having a car and just being stuck in my apartment from the end of July all the way up until December. I'd walk to class and home and sometimes the cafeteria. I tried starting a side business in September but I was just such a noob. I tried an ecommerce product business in Decemeber and had some results. Now since dropping out, I've been working and planning around the clock just walking and smoking joints like how Joey says. My work consists of web development. I dropped out of my computer science major and I've been dedicating myself to building full stack complete huge projects to land some freelance jobs afterwards and I have one lined up. All in all, going monk mode and staying inside to plan your next move is great if you are disciplined enough. I could really relate to Joey's cabin fever talk. I went home (to an empty home) in December and just seeing the city for the first time in months made me realize how isolated I was and I started grinding hard.
5+. Years living remote with my lovable Mutz and minimal contact with people, car accident started this new life. We are so lucky now to have a permanent roof over our heads. People can be sooooo mean, they broke me but still getting from a to b. Being alone is not that bad, actually good after a few years.
i can relate 100 percent to this, trying to find the right way out and the right people, self reflection and knowing whats best for you can lead you out of this.
Joey, deadset the man. This is exactly what I did to cure my depression. small steps like wake up, make the bed, have a shower, clean up every day blah blah blah if you dont just do those things you feel horrible, depression is still lingering but its so much better now! Living alone has never been better.