میرے حساب سے تو جواٸنٹ فیملی انتیہاٸ بیوقوفی ہے۔۔ ہم رہ چکے جواٸنٹ فیملی میں تو ہم جانتے ہیں اسکے کتنے نقصانات ہیں۔۔ ساتھ رہنا ہی جھگڑے کا باٸث ہے۔۔ بہتری اسی میں ہے کہ سب الگ رہیں اس طرح محبت بھی بڑھتی ہے۔۔ اسی جواٸنٹ سسٹم کا نتیجہ ہے کہ آج ہم سب ایک دوسرے کی شکل دیکھنا بھی پسند نٸ کرتے۔۔ ہماری فیملی میں ایک دوسرے سےاتنی نفرتیں بڑھ چکی ہیں۔۔
Its actually the space which is demand of every person. In combine system mostly this space is left no where. Thats y one gets suffocated by other. Respect n love everyone whether one is more or less financially stable than u. Life is simple we make it complex by our opinions. Sir its really glad to hear ur opinion which is solution of the problems every house is facing today but they take it very light due to their EGO n end their relation. May ALLAH guide us to R8 path.
Sir Wonderful explanation ....sir you should do programs on PTV so that your golden words reaches to every pakistani ....May you live long...you are diamond of Pakistan...
Joint family me reh reh k mera logical brain muj sy naraz ho gya hua hai r emotional brain r heart mil kr silent volgure galian dy ry hotay hn... R eyes me tears hotay hn 😂
Assalamualaikum sir ...!!! Ap na belkul sahi kaha ,buzrug he insaf k sath joint system ko better Chala sakty Hain but hamary idar buzrug he farq karty Han apni olado ma ...,,.that's the reason .now I am the patient of depression to...,,
جوئنٹ فیملی سسٹم اگر محبت ہے سلوک ہے عزت ہے تو جنت ہے اور اگر ایسا کچھ بھی نہیں ہے تو یقین کرین دنیا میں ہی جہنم ہے برداشت اب نہیں ہے لوگوں میں اور حسد کی بیماری عام ہے ایسے میں بہتر یہی ہے شادی کے بعد ہی محبت سے الگ الگ کر دیا جائے
Joint Family system is from Hinduism. In Islam there is no reason to stay in a house with everyone. Islam says to give separate house to every children or at least make portion of your own house and give them independence.
Maintaining purdah from brother in law is very tough in joint family system. When children grow up, they also struggle in maintaining purdah from cousins who are non mehrams.
Sir aj topic ko maine bht enjoy kiya yaqeenan ye ESA ak muzu hai jis py jitna bola jae or jitna ilkha jae kam hai meri shadi ko 12th year hai ye 2020.or abhi tak joint family system mai hi hun bal ak aam uorat k muqable kafi mukhtilf logo mai or mahol mai time guzra maine bas ye bat samjhi hai positive mind hona dosron se zada khud bande k apne liye acha hai or ak sub se ahm bat koi bhi rishta chahe wo behen ka bv ka bahu ka ya maa ka sub ko nibahten ve ALLAH ko razi karne ki koshish honi chiye insano ko nhi phir ap bht ache se sub rishte nibhaten hain mera Iman is cheez py hai kisi bhi insan ko us ki ibadat se nhi us k mamla karne se pehchanen or respect karen
People always talk about women suffering in joint family but even for men it is stressful and traumatic. Mostly there is just one male who contributes financially and takes care of parents, unmarried sisters and even families of brothers who are not financially well off. From medical bills to house rent/renovation to sister’s wedding he has to shoulder the whole burden. No one thinks of him
Sir, I have a question for you. I have seen a lot of joint family system around us and I have seen a lot of problems in joint family system. I don't think there should be a joint family system nowadays. People who are living in a joint family system and most of them suffer from a lot of problems and suffer from many diseases.
Right bhai meri sister in law meri cheezen chori krti thi or bs poochny ki dair hoti larai ho jati saboot ho in pata that siwaye is k k unko kmry sy nikalty dekha. .... Bht kuch gawaya akhir thak k ilzam lagaya to mujhy divorced dy di joint family system ny mera ghar barbad kiya;(
Raja Zain No problem, brother, don't worry, just live your life in silence and don't argue anyone it, leave your matter to Allah Almighty alone, insha'Allah you will live a very good life in the times to come.
Allah pak har orat k nasib achy kry or naik susral mily jahan bahu ki b izat ho beti ki tra wrna larki ki zindgi tbah hojti hai thik kaha dunya m ho dozah hn jati hai life
آپ معاملات کو بہت اچھا سمجھاتے ہیں ماشا ٕ اللہ۔ اللہ پاک آپ کو اس کا اجر عظیم عطا فرماۓ۔ بہت سے لوگوں کے مساٸل آپ کی باتیں سُننے اور سمجھنے سے حل ہو جاتے ہیں۔بالخصوص میرے جیسا بندہ تو آپ سے بہت کچھ سیکھتا ہے 😊😊😊😊😊😊
You have a point. Even if family does not observe Prada, men in general do not respect women who are not mahram and may lead to quite harassment and abuse of women specially young girls.
We have strict parda protocolz in house and outside. And the summer season is just very very hot for us. Alhamdulillah we have ACs in home. But kitchen and lounge are like hell.
@@mrsumar5358 exactly.. what is the purpose of parda in home.. why women are forced to live with na mehram.. atleast saudia mein women ghero mein toh sakoon sy rehti han
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Ji aap ne bilkul theek kaha , bardasht ki kami main reason hai. Sub se achi baat solution start se separate kr dena hai mgr hamari society ka yehi rule hai k larro marro magar sath raho.
Nodoubt joint family system is problematic on many grounds but at the same time those sufferings which u face in joint collaboration makes u experienced as u live with many people ,u read their psychy which helps u in future to tackle different situations peacefully,humbly.
Koi b larka ya larki shadi ka tasawar b na kre agr woh khud nhi kama skta..aur ghr nhi afford kr skta!!YH SIRF APKI LIFE NHI APKI OLAD KI MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH ka b sawal hy...inlaws ki interference aur ghr k jhagre bachon ko zehni mariz krdete hain..
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Joint family system bhut kam kamyab hai kyunke aj kal sb ko privacy chahiye jo k joint mein nhi hoti jo bhi reh raha hai majboran reh raha hai, purane logo main sabr, darguzar aur ikhlas hota tha aj bhut kam logon mein hai is liye join rehna bhut mushkil hai
Joint family system with separate kitchen/portion is good but if you Don't You have no privacy your life become hell Jo jhuk raha hy usy jhukatay raho Jo piss raha hy usy peestay raho 🥲
A lot of people are just too poor to live independently. Their kids and wives have no idea of financial issues. Family members should be transparent to each other and discuss these matters. Fake pride is a killer! 👪
True...if a man cant provide a seperate space than he shouldnot marry both mian biwi should b earning and better if of same field..always b4 marriage one should clearly discuss this stuff without hesitation! Yh pori generation ka mamla hy bachaon ko b nafsiati issues hute aise mahol m reh kr
Asal wajah hoti hy personal mamlat main dakhal dain. Aik dosray ki personal sapce ka khiyal rakhaun. Limits ka khiyal rakhain to joint family is a blessing. Room aik
Combined family ... Joint family... House wife ... useful... Halat are changing 🚼... Combined family break due to women working outside... Solution.. اکٹھا بھی رہیں اور علیحدہ بھی رہے ۔۔۔ No interferes... Nuclear family... میرے جیتے جیتے یہ نہیں ہو سکتا ۔۔۔ But this is ... Imotional... Imotinall intelligent ..fore brain... جملے میں مفہوم ۔۔۔ نکالنا یہ بہت بڑی بات ہے ۔۔۔ Imotionally stable...
Very fascinating. Hope to hear some good ideas from the viewers how they solved this problem as in current age it’s more important than ever to live in joint families. (Late marriages, kids quiet young etc , no pension facilities etc)
Those who have been living under the joint family system but intend to get rid of it are the most unfortunate creatures as compared to the ones living separately as a single family. But elders of the family under the former system need to shoulder the responsibility of giving due importance to each individual on the basis of equality. This is how its possible to live together.
Your advice is very good for one party. What about the other party. Please give some advice to them also to coordinate their both the brains. Jazakallah khair
Assalamualaikum Aap ka bahut bahut shukriya sir Sir mera aap se ek drkhwast h ki aap "Human Temperaments" pr video bana dete to aap ki bahut mehrbani hoti
ساس آپنی جوانی میں جواینٹ فیملی میں رھنا نہیں چاہتی تھی مگر اپنے لڑکوں کو ساتھ میں رہنے کی نصیحت کرتی رہتی ہیں اور بہوؤں کے خلاف اپنے بیٹوں کو پھڑکاتی رہتی ہیں.
گُل رکھتا ہے محبت خار سے دُشمن بھی ہوجاتا ہے رام پیار سے اُٹھتی ہے خلقت مُرغِ خوش نوا سے پاتا ہے انسان ہمت اپنے ہم نوا سے آبِ بر نہ ہو تو کھیت بھی ہوجاتا ہے خُشک دہقاں کی محنت کا کھیت سے بھی آتا ہے مُشک تنفرِ بشر سے انسانیت ہوجاتی ہے فنا کَدورتِ قلب سے کوٸی پاتا نہیں پناہ (گلناز)
Sir i am sorry but i disagree with you. Joint family system was not part or Arab culture. This culture came from sikh families. In arab culture every person had his own separate house. I maybe wrong but job is not the problem of domestic issues.
Sir g AP ki batain to Buhat achi h pr sir g buzrgo ko change krna Buhat mushkil h un ki soch k against bat ho to woh apne hi bachon ko apnq dushman khayal krte h na sirf khayal krte h bulke badduaye b krte h ab is masle pr b kabhi bat kren
In today's world no one values your patience, tolerance, your silent suffering goes unnoticed and your sincere attempt to avoid conflict in the house is never valued. They will take everything for granted -your patience your silence- so plz guide how to deal with such people
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The same solution for polygamy families. In pakistani dramas they show two wives living under same roof… very, very bad and sad situation for the women of the house and children. The man should provide seperate hoyse to each wife where they have full privacy. Please talk about this issue and help those men understand the damage they are causing to both women and children. They are causing Mental and Emotional damage which will lead to physical health as well. Please read research papers as it mentions that muslim women suffer both mental and emotional abuse in polygamy marriages. They luve 24/7 in a very challenging and negative environment.
They are daughters of zun mureeds, these issues dont arise in arabia and the middle east wher the mind set is different, pakistan has bad mothers raising hindu daughters and the cycle goes on
Mare shadi ko 16 years ho ge he ..joint family system insan ko khtum kar data .physicaly .mentally..bachon ke tarbeet ka to kse ko khayal he nhe hota...sirf apne ego..nand ko divorce ho jae to sara gussa bhabi pe .chae us ka qasor bhe na ho...bhai ko kuch ho jae to sara booj ...bhtttttt muskil
First of all parents should give equal respect to their all children and dont do inequality in their house 🏠.this is the big responsibility of parents in joint families
معاشرے میں سب سے زیادہ سب سے زیادہ پریشانیوں کا باعث مشترکہ خاندانی نظام ہے سب کا الگ الگ گھر ہونا چاہیے چاہے ایک مرلے کا ہی کیوں نہ ہو سب کو چاہیے کوشش کریں کہ شادی سے پہلے اپنا الگ گھر بنائیں ایک کمرہ ایک کچن ایک باتھ ہو ماں باپ بہن بھائیوں کے ساتھ آنا جانا رکھیں لیکن اپنی زندگی کو الگ الگ گزارے اپنے بچوں کو الگ رکھیں مشترکہ خاندانی نظام میں اکثر بچے احساسِ کمتری کا شکار ہو جاتے ہیں
