Maybe you should focus on figuring out WHY you've had to rebuild MANY TIMES and why you are now doing it again at 39. This video has nothing to do with WHAT YOU HAVE. It's not about possessions, it's about MEANING.
@@awf80 to other people it doesn't matter...you are trying to bully a commenter and im the victim now hush up before I really gen z this bitch... btw I'm 40
@@awf80 im not a pussy I took lots of risks and im in great shape I got plenny of money ive worked hard and will always work hard im fine my point is your all scared
7 years clean and sober. Im doing marvelous things with my life. I love waking up EVERY MORNING ❤LIFE IS WHAT WE MAKE OF IT. Understand your dragon. You define it.
I'm 467 days sober. I don't love waking up yet. Feels like such a depressing grind still. Just coffee , work out, work just to feel like I'm not getting anywhere especially towards financial freedom. I dunno . It's night and day better than it was . Hope I start feeling happy again one day
Congratulations 🎉 3,285 days sobriety for me ❤all by the grace of GOD & 12 simple steps 😊on 5-10-2015 I surrendered my drunken life for SOULBRIETY ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Human brain requires down time, so to say, where it’s not under load from any external factors, in order for it to process things you are thinking about. That’s why it’s good to take a walk without headphones or drive in a car without the radio on because you resolve the conflicts that have an impact on your conscious and subconscious mind. It’s a form of meditation through solitude.
I pary for everyone on here! I pray for your strength, health and protection! In Jesus name AMEN! I love all of you and with Jesus you can do anything! Been sober for over 5 years but you have to let God guide you, not yourself!
I kid you not. About five years ago my life essentially fell apart at age 25. Everything was in chaos and shambles. I realized how stupid I was and that I needed to completely restructure how I live and what I value - Jordan Peterson was the main voice I listened to for how to go about this Five years later and it’s all worked. Life is enormously better and will continue to improve. If your life is in shambles - JP life advice is what you need
Bro, mine has splintered into absolute shards of catastrophe a month before my 44th birthday. I have selfishly relied on my partner for 14 years and not built anything stable for myself. I found out she was messaging another dude for like 2 years. She says nothing physical has happened but she's away for work conferences a couple of times a year, staying in the same hotels this guy stays in, I think it's obvious that's not true. It may have been my fault but I simply felt absolutely insecure and couldn't continue a relationship with the woman I know for sure is the best person I could spend the rest of my life with. It might be cliche but stuff like this may actually save my life over the next year or so. Absolutely terrified. But it's not just us. Be strong man.
@@bigwetsalmon1 it works. Trust the process. Is life even worth living if you don’t get to experience the absolute destruction and redemption of it? I doubt it
@@joenichols3901 I'm physically and mentally at day one of the process. I have a lot of addictions to face and give up. We'll see what happens. Thanks for your words dude 👍
@@bigwetsalmon1 keep it up, keep listening to jordan petersons life advice, ignore politics for now.... you're 44. Statistically you'll live around another forty years so you've barely live half your life. People at 22 in your position tell themselves its too late to change lol... such nonsense. Spend the next six years completely fixing your life (do what Jordan suggests) and you can spend decades a much happier man with a meaningful life It works. Just put your head down and work on yourself for a few years.
@@bigwetsalmon1 accountability is the first step to making changes. I've been in a similar situation before and I understand your pain and I hope you're doing well. It's hard to not have that feeling of regret but what's in the past can't be changed and you only have control over what you do. It's important to understand that cheating on someone is a cowardish thing to do and no matter how you feel about the situation, you need to at least know that in the back of your head. On the other hand though, take it as a learning experience because you want to at least take something good away from the relationship. Try to reflect on things you might have done to let something like that happen and what you can do in the future to prevent it. At the end of the day the blame is on both parties usually and can't be completely one-sided so it's important to reflect.
1. Ask = prayers and supplications specific to your goals. 2. Seek = knowledge acquisition, skills building and networking. 3. Knock = perseverance and endurance in the pursuit of your goals.
@@Ch0senJuan Except this is the formula Jesus prescribed. Are you more wise than Christ? I am not. Start at step 1. Prayer changes you. Specific prayers help you define your goals. Faith is essential to success. One man plants, another waters, but only God brings the growth.
Jordan Peterson rambles on like the thoughts in my mind! I love listening to him 😅. One day I will figure it all out and praise God for sending JP who has helped so many people.
2 minutes in and I have tears streaming down my face. I’ve been self destructing for a few years now. I see everything that I’m doing wrong but feel completely aimless and powerless to stop myself from continuing the decline. I have moments of inspiration and motivation, but they quickly fade. I’m lost.
I’m sorry and I know how you feel. Don’t give up trying and a tiny bit of progress is better than none and worth celebrating until it becomes easier and easier to tackle bigger chunks
Nah man you're just not listening to him the way someone who is deeply invested would, the ramblings of this man have so many spouts of hidden genius, enlightening as hell if you soak in what he really means, he's direct but interpret how you wish@@brandonhickman3477
Jordan Peterson is like the father I wish I had grown up with. I'm sure if I asked his kids it wasn't idealic but he is brilliant and so are his children.
Perfectly captures Jordan's roots from Northern Alberta while having that solemn sort of feel. Sort of like shower thoughts, but on that long stretch of road instead. It can be sobering, but makes me want to detatch myself from my emotions
I think I literally don’t care to make the right choices anymore. That’s the result of what I’ve experienced and my understanding of the world and what’s real and true.
Same. I have come to realize that everything is temporary in life so why would I do all the work just to obtain material goods I'm just going to eventually leave behind. They do say this life is just a school after all.
Ive started over from scratch 5 times...now im not starting over anymore...im just scratching 😅. Best to live a minimalist lifestyle because as soon as you accumulate something the wolves are at the door. As far as im concerned...the least attractive you make yourself in this world the easier life gets.
I have found this to be true as well. All a man needs is a quiet out of the way place to live, some tools, a pew pew, someplace to stash some cash, maybe a cheap vehicle you can work on, and don't attract attention to yourself.
.. as a German Biologist - we ALWAYS start from “scratch” this is about the Path to Mastery in the vastest sense like studying Music and an Instrument to learn to practise that diligently and respecting the Great Masters and their Works to engage lively with other Musicians and learn from and with them In Science it is far tougher - as we never can know what is “rigth” and what is “delusion” we are mostly locked up in Pre Judices and Delusions - and refuse to open the Mind to expand the Mental Band Width and learn from others who all go as far as Humans can to be ready to STOP any BAD attitude and behaviour to be Humble and learning with Gratitude and we never reach the Top of anything as our Minds are far too limited...
Yes I have heard that new discoveries and theories have difficulty finding acceptance in the scientific fields. People become very attached to their beliefs and can't change them easily. It becomes part of their egos and will be defended to the death. An unfortunate reality. A course on ego control should be part of the scientific curriculums. It may be very helpful in this regard as it is certainly a barrier to advancements. 🙋🏼♀️👍
I smoke daily since 14 years ago. Its addictive. Same as all dopamine boosters. Energy drinks.. porn.. cigarettes.. even food. Any dopamine thing is potential for addiction. And my doc wants me on adderall. A 20x dopamine boost. S m h
same, if I don't smoke I'm irritable and everything bothers me. Everyone says I should get on medication but I think I need to learn to love myself as I am without any outside influences.
@@okaminmbr9 take mushrooms bro youll find that happiness. ive smoked every day since i was 14 and im 20 now and finally taking a break for the first time and it feels amazing on the other side. Don't take the medication bro I promise there's natural ways to go about it and in my opinion mushrooms are the best for self love and empathy
@@okaminmbr9 just be cautious though, they can be strong. Make sure you're in a relaxing environment and have the mindset going into it that you're not afraid but you're going to let it happen and learn from the experience
The thing is you have to want to change and leave your past self behind. You don’t want to do that. Or else you discover the bigger and deeper problems around your life
It sounds like you are very unhappy with your life. You are where many people are rn. I'm my opinion, once you have found a way to have a roof and food, you have to find a purpose for living. That is the hard part. You have to find out what it is that you really value in life. An example is, if you love horses, get a job around horses. If you hate the results of the oil and gas industry, don't work in that field. I found purpose working for the City maintaining parks. I was willing to get up at 5:30 am and work 10 hr days because I felt good about my contribution to the people of my city. Work in an area that you have an interest in. Then when you learn as you work it will more fulfilling. Many sports stars stay in the sports field after their athletic careers because that is their main interest. It is hard to figure out what kind of work can give you a purpose but it is worth figuring out. Sometimes you can find it by deciding what areas you are NOT interested in. Then you are left with only a few to chose from so it's easier to chose one to commit to. With a purpose, you then have a direction to move in to find fulfillment and meaning in your life. They lifestyle that is reflecting your lack of purpose will change without much effort because you will not depend on it to give you the tiny bits of joy you need to face another day. I think this is the key to a good life but no one really tells you this. They just tell you to follow your interests and that doesn't pay the bills. My interests are watching TV and reading. I love animals but I don't want to care for them full time so that's out. I didn't know I liked horticulture until I started working for the city. Now I know there is a limit to what I am willing to do to climb the ladder at my job. I'm on to the next job in banking. I want to know more about how banking works. I will have a reason to go to work besides my paycheque. I'm thinking about a student loan to study archeology. I love that stuff and would love to spend my days digging in the dirt to find artifacts. I think I will be required to do that right away in school so I would find a lot of fulfilment doing that. And if I ever managed to find an ancient artifact that had been buried for thousands of years, I would be thrilled. Anyway, I think that is the way to a build a meaningful and fulfilling life. Add in a wife and family and you will also find the joy that it can bring. You can have that too. Best wishes for a good life dear. 🙋🏼♀️💖🌈
@@SkitzoBenjamin yeah it’s possible to quit drinking. I drank a bottle a bottle of vodka a day at the end of my alcoholism. Go walk into any hospital or detox center and tell them you’re an alcoholic and need to stop drinking. They give you meds to help. You stay there for around 5 days, then go to a 12 step focused rehab or AA meetings.
Nothing in life that is valuable comes for free. You will sacrifice/pay the price now, or you will sacrifice/pay the price later. Unfortunately, or fortunately, depending how you view it, the sacrifice is required.
This is absolutely amazing I love this man he’s completely given me the confidence to overcome ANYTHING ❤🙏🏽 Jordan is a blessing to humanity thank God 🙏🏽🫶🏼
The best newest buzzword I've heard to describe Jordan Peterson was "toxic positivity". 😂 If that means identifying my bulshit and being honest with myself I guess I'm toxically positive.😅
This feels like my driving by myself. Snow, voices in my head and the future behind me. I love Subaru and Canada , what combo for enjoying this crazy marble. Have an excellent day whoever sees this, I love and I'm proud of you.
I admit my mind can get muddy and I find it hard to live my purpose. Since I really concentrated daily on making one important thing better and was consistent with that I have had vast improvement.
I’m a liberal feminist and Peterson is supposedly my “enemy” but I admire him (save in social media where he’s an idiot like everyone). His rule “never make anything worse” transformed my life 8 years ago. For that I’m eternally grateful. Edit: what a mind blowing presentation of these essential ideas. I’m extra amazed - I lost my life partner suddenly 2 years ago. Today is our anniversary and it’s time for me to look at how much I’ve been hiding behind my grief. Thank you for making this video.
I also cringe at his online persona, but he genuinely gives incredible life advice that can be applied to everyone regardless of their political leanings. It comes from his years as a psychologist helping people. I’ve always found him to be fascinating when he talks a psychology and self-help.
Incredibly most things, I've dreamt of, I channeled myself towards it, put in the effort and bingo! Things happened and suddenly I was living my desires. I've had set backs also, things thrown at me from external forces, poor choices I've made, back to square one again, oh joy! Rather than beat myself up for poor choices whatever, I pick myself up, dust myself off, think ok am I going to continue on this path? I've learnt one thing. Seems evolution comes not only from good choices but from failure and embracing it! Failure is a blessing if we learn from it.
These traits raise your vibration so that you have the bandwidth to be greatly receptive --> above others, to the information that is streamlined to us, yes.
If you show the "wrong" highest aim to the world, some will try to stop you. Many choose the broad road to hell, not only for themselves, but for you as well. You got to know when to hold them, know when to fold them, know when to walk away, know when to run.
Thank you I really needed to hear this I get confused about what I want and my self esteem gets in the way 😊 want to set some goals which I know what they are and I need to ask for help I know what I want but afraid to pursue it but know if I don’t I’ll be sad and have wasted my time on this new Endeavor people say your old now you can’t do this kind of stuff at your age I, 61 I’m not a spring chicken but if I try I can do this loose my stupid ego
14:00 This speaks directly to me. I'm an extremely logical thinker(self proclaimed of course), but I have trouble looking at myself objectively, mostly because I don't like what I see. I'm a grown baby, and part of me wants to blame it on my lack of suffering. 20:05 More questions that I ask myself every single day. I feel so lazy that I cannot even do the "pointless" things that I want to do like playing video games half the time. I feel like most of the time I'd rather mindless scroll YT or even worse watch twitch. I would love to spontaneously dive into something that takes no "effort" on my part to pursue, as in I don't have to go out of my way to WILL myself out of bed just to do it, I actively want to do it, and the world would benefit from me doing it. I know. It's naive.
My father in law recently passed away. His wife is going through the process of preparing for his funeral. She is also in the process of mourning, as well as her family. Yes, his failures and mistakes were brought up, but that’s not what people will remember him by. The photos of him that people have are of him smiling, on the beach, arm in arm, and laughing. When people go, the ones who love you will love you, despite anything. We are not perfect and good people know that and won’t be so strict, as long as you struggled for good.
Don't forget that Jesus was crucified. The world doesn't like Jesus. He is too good. They didn't understand him and accused him of things He didn't do or say. Be careful. If you are burned out you have been giving too much. You have to find your limits and communicate them to those around you so they don't demand or expect more from you than you can deliver. You have to develope boundaries that protect you from being over worked or taken advantage of. You may have to start fresh at a new job to be able to establish new boundaries because the last place got used to you doing more than you should be to sustain your health. If it's relationship responsibilities that have burned you out, you must insist on getting help. Either your spouse or paid support is available to take the load lighter. I broke up with a guy because he refused to do household chores. We could have just hired somebody and that would have solved the issue. I didn't know that option was available at the time. 🤷♀️ Live and learn.
@@leanne123 Everyone's dead except my mother. She rented me to child porn producing pedophiles when I was a kid, because she was a cocaine addict. She's an actual psychopath who groomed me into only living to serve psychopaths. My ex-wife is one too, she poisoned our child twice and nearly killed him, got away with it because her dad is a retired cop now turned retired politician. I'm completely alone in this world. I've heard the advice, none of it seems to have much effect at this point. It's like asking a dog to be a cat, "just try this suggestion", nope, still not a cat...
Have you considered the possibility that what you want may not be a specific person, but the feeling of loving and being loved by someone special to you?
Gratitude. Just be appreciative of every goofy thing. Sunsets, trees. Good coffee. Breathing. The interconnectedness of EVERYTHING. Gratitude helps a lot. It helps overcome the victimhood mentality which is a lot of ego.
Dad was just gone, was 13. Shipped from Conn to Oregon. One yr later it was Denver. Start over, start over. Then after struggle of immense immenseness, a month in motel then studio apt. All I do is work. Years of this, like 20. Finally the odds of some headstrong but just as lost female sees I'm a positive to add to her life. I'm a good Entitlements candidate, of course I learn this the hard way. 25 yrs of hard work we are in this barely successful rental house endeavor. Have three, with down payment for fourth. It's Entitlements time. She goes of with this destitute sweetalking Metro Taxi driver. His pattern is helping wives take as much as possible, then live off her winnings. Now it's struggling again. These laws caused this, again.
I sounds like you were doing well with or without the woman. If she gets half then she got half the debt too. If you had to cash out to pay her off then do it again WITHOUT her. You know how to do it now. It he bank also knows you would be successful except for the divorce. They can help you get started again. You lost a disloyal person. That's a good thing. You are in a better position now without a person who would hurt you like that. I'm sorry she deceived you. It's not your fault you trusted her. Don't blame yourself for falling for it. They play the part well until they don't. It happens alot. She'll regret it in time. 🤷♀️💖🌈
Guess I fucked up pretty badly ... I constantly live in a state of thinking of past and people who I used to see ... pretty annoying are they and I do have them as reactions to present moments ...
45:45 - 46:03 August 29 2005 Wasn't the happiest i ever felt, It was THE Freest. And it dont last before your covered back stuck with all missed manages time stoves darkening over arch back shadowing fastly past days fulfilled tensions.
