The marriage vows in action! ❤ caregivers of someone with ptsd go through hell caring for their spouse. Much respect to you and others in the same situation.
@@TheWatcherxx99that’s ok, I’m by no means a person that thinks all landlords are evil, but they are certainly on average part of groups that require the least favor/protection
This is why Judge Cedric J. Simpson is the GOAT. My favorite. My dad died in 2018 from Frontotemporal Dementia. He couldn't talk, and he couldn't understand words. On occasion, he got agitated. He would escape the house and wander miles (once, it was in the dead of night, and he left the house in his t-shirt and boxers and walked several miles... it was winter, and Mom who is hearing impaired heard a knock on their bedroom window... that was the only indicator that he had gotten out of bed for her). I was the only advocate for taking his keys away. My mom and brother out-voted me. Daddy escaped the house unnoticed again, and drove almost to the state line. Luckily my brother had installed a tracker in Dad's truck, so he was able to intercept Dad before he entered Mississippi from Alabama. Finally, FINALLY, the keys were taken away and the truck was made so that it wouldn't crank. It was the saddest, scariest time. Daddy was a hero... a war veteran, kind-hearted to the core, and suddenly he was scared, confused, and his freedom was taken (for his own safety, but still...). To see a judge that understands, and refuses to let a dementia patient and his wife be pushed around and made to feel frantic about neighbor issues... Judge Simpson is the best.💙
Yes! I, too, love this man. He don't play, will give you what-for if he witnesses any oppression, but don't I swoon when those eyes sparkle & his face lights up with that beautiful, playful smile! What a big-hearted, charming man. Oh, to have been blessed to have done my paralegal Studies under him. Pssstt, Amy... may I sub for you next time you vacation?
So sorry about your dad. So thankful he didn’t cause a fatal car accident. I was wondering what the protocol is to get a diagnosis for Alzheimer’s? My friend that is 76 is having a hard time in general with confusion. She is very well aware something is wrong. Things are getting worse and finally she stressed her concern to her doctor and her ordered a CAT-scan or MRI for this week. I’m just wondering if it is easy to detect in brain scans when a person has dementia?
@@janicescott6569 First of all, if your friend hasn't been diagnosed, it's VERY important to have someone (close family member, or best friend) who has a Durable Power of Attorney for her. After the diagnosis, it's really too late to get it in place. A family doctor can start the diagnosing process. There's a standard test that is used. If that doctor needs further testing, a neurologist can do an MRI to see if there is significant brain shrinkage. The brain shrinkage can indicate the probability of dementia. My father went to a clinic with a geriatric neurologist, and it was amazing at taking us through the stages of dementia. If you have a POA, you'll be allowed to go with your friend through all this, and be able to make decisions that your friend won't be able to at some time in the future. A friend of ours got dementia, and since she was divorced, 3 of her friends got POAs to help Gail, and even helped get her settled into Memory Care when she could no longer live at home. I sure do wish your friend's situation all the best.
I think Judge Simpson gave Mrs. Pence a boost that she may have been needing so she doesnt feel so overloaded, overlooked and all alone...I kinda think he picked that up in real time as he spoke to her. Im thankful to have seen this hearing. I just wish the Pences neighbor could.
I wonder if the neighbor is a Karen? He knows loud noise triggers Mr. Pence, what was he doing to trigger him. That's why fences, especially privacy fences, are important. Mr. Pence wouldn't have gotten on the neighbors property to pound on the window and threaten him so easily. Trying to keep someone from his own property is a Karen.
Thank you Steve. You put into words what was on my mind. Every one of them right. It’s so very true. People’s pain, loneliness and feelings of helplessness are so often not addressed/acknowledged for fear of having to “get involved”. The most beautiful thing that any ONE of us can do is just that. Get involved. Trust me. It’ll make you feel good. I’m just sayin’, but me I’m just me…but that’s enough.🫶🏼🤗🌹
Apparently the neighbor has no compassion for a person with dementia or Alzheimer’s. Maybe he needs educating. Love this judge for recognizing a veterans needs.
I have a feeling the neighbor instigates this elderly man when he sees him in the driveway. Why else would he want him banned from his own driveway he's owned for 40+yrs and paid taxes on!
I am only 25 minutes into the video, so maybe more information will pop up, but I believe we shouldn't judge too fast on this neighbor. He may very well have his own issues that he struggles with and just can not be tolerant and accepting towards a confused, boundaries crossing neighbor that yells at him or bangs on his doors any more. And simply suggested not going on the driveway as a suggestion to resolve the issue for now.
I hope that no one has to go through what the lady is going through alzeheimers and dementia are no joke but the neighbour wants to thank his lucky stars that it's not someone he cares about or even himself because I'm sure his wife wouldn't be there for him like his neighbours wife has been for her husband and for her to even think about leaving the home she and her husband built together and will be the place full of memories when he leaves this planet Judge Simpson for President or even put him up for a humanitarian award of some sore Judge Simpson i give you my full respect 😮
My father had dementia with delirium at the same time my mother had Alzheimer’s. Bless this poor man and his wife’s hearts. Took me back to all the times we had to try and control my father’s outburst and agitation. He was combative while my mother was just happy forgetful. I love Judge Simpson for having such a big heart.
My son had a brain tumor. The first sign was aggression and anger. He tried to fight people and I feared for his safety and others. It was so hard and I am sending prayers to all involved with this case. I feel for the neighbors and the family. There are no easy answers.
My mom had dementia. In the early stage she became aggressive and actually hit me. Was it criminal? Oh hell no. As it is in this case. Shame on this country for treating elderly like they are expendable. These cases are more common than ever, and unless they go before a reasonable Judge, like Judge Simpson, they end up in jail not even knowing why. Thank you lone wolf for shining a light on this problem.
The way they treat the elderly is a national shame. Everyone who is alive will one day be OLD...if you live long enough you will be old... people need to remember that...😢
My grannie was like that, an absolute hell-raiser, slapped my mom (4 inches taller than grannie) and knocked her to the floor etc. Passed away at 90 after a six year struggle.
As a 30 yr veteran, that watched dementia steal my Grandmother and my mother, Hope and pray that more people see this and learn compassion. Thank you Judge Simpson
I am in my 40s. A retired veteran; served in OIF and OEF. I used to get into really dark places where I would close myself off from the world for months and months at a time. I’ve stayed at the VA before. I had insurance and other options to stay elsewhere, but they knew what I needed most, so it was the best place for me at the time. Pray for this man. Everyone deserves dignity, even when they are struggling. And this neighbor needs to find a little compassion. It’s not hard to placate a person who will forget within 30 min why he was even mad. Seems to me this jerk next door just doesn’t have any empathy. But he better find some, because God tends to humble those who don’t. I know he humbled me. He humbled me GREATLY. And I praise His name for that each and every day. I am now a better person for it.
Be strong💪live where you are comfortable. My husband was in the USN & suffered nightmares, The Navy sent him to engineering classes & he was in charge of amazing projects for the Navy. He never spoke about the things that gave him nightmares unless he was with his buddies he served with. The dark happens to lots of guys. When he left this world with kidney failure there was a male nurse or physician asst who knew about my husband & his work. It helped make him feel comfortable even tho it was a very bad time. Sending you a hug & a prayer. 🙏
I already love Judge Simpson. As a fellow veteran his sympathy, compassion, understanding and humanity has made my respect for him grow even higher. He is right. We do not honor and have compassion for people like we should. Be a neighbor. Talk to him. Get his wife. Be humane!
Kudos to Judge Simpson, the defendant and his wife for their grace in this matter. The neighbor needs to grow up and act like an adult with compassion for those who are coping with things the rest of us cannot even begin to imagine.
When you are the caregiver you dont have the luxury to be a sobbing mess. That comes later when you are alone when no one, especially her husband, can’t hear which sometimes means not at all. In her case, she is trying to make sure there is respite care so she will have time to rest and recover. She is doing a great job but personally I’d tell the neighbor to go screw himself. She is strong in juggling care for her husband but with my parents I found you have to be strong in a different way when dealing with others you interact with in regard to their care. Essentially, be firm and dont take any crap from anyone.
Judge Simpson is brilliant!! This man deserves to live the last of his days free!! Free to come and go. Live in his home till he passes. He served his county so we could have these freedoms and that means the neighbors who forgot this!!! What have THEY done do make this country free???? How about the neighbors stay out of HIS way?? Think about that one!
There have been only TWO wars that we Americans fought that were ACTUALLY for our freedom or "FREEDOMS". The first, we were not yet Americans and that was The Revolutionary War and the second was The Civil War. That war was fought for the ACTUAL freedoms of a segment/population of Americans who were denied EVERY freedom imaginable- EVERY FREEDOM. (WW1 and WW2 were geo-political wars) so NO OTHER WAR SINCE THEN was ever fought for OUR freedoms. All other wars after that were fought for economic and or political/geo-political interests that benefited and lined the pockets in very big ways a small percent of Americans and the ones who end up with the dirty end of the stick paying for the TRUE PRICE of war are the soldiers and vets- not the war mongers and war hawks. Unfortunately, people keep falling the the myth that soldiers fight for our freedoms when they are fighting to protect the economic interests of a few Americans and Corporations or causing turmoil in other countries so they can take and advantage of that turmoil and "take over" resources that again, benefit only few. The truth is the truth.
My thoughts exactly 💯. The neighbor showing some compassion would've worked out well! Let the damages be paid for and taken care then let it go! Someday his wife may be taking care of him!!
Master class on patience, empathy, , discernment, compassion and understanding. Judge got into deep water not just the surface. Having a mother with dementia and is just now showing some signs of agitation, I understand why this loving approach is needed more than ever. Thanks judge Simpson!
If it is Alzheimer’s, veteran or no veteran, ( my dad a veteran, my mom a librarian ) the time is coming where nothing but trained caregivers and a secured area will do. My experience as said caregiver was that I could not stop my loved ones from becoming violent or roaming where ever they wanted. Especially at night. ( known as sun downing) . Sadly, it’s why we hear about lost adults, found dead from hyperthermia. We all want to live as our ancestors did, all together in our long houses, working in the garden or wrenching on the old wagon. I offer a challenge to the readers who think y’all can do this and keep your life and sanity. As sad as you may feel ( or rather, uncomfortable) try taking care or simply visiting a facility. Visit the warehouse. And imagine your children living with the all nighters, the yelling, swearing, the inappropriate comments. My sibs spent two days at my moms house and she was in the care facility on the third day.
If you really think about it people didn’t live long enough to have Alzheimer’s back in the day of “old wagon” . I sorry you had to experience this horrible disease with your parents.
My sister works in a memory care home and you are right that no layperson understands the challenges. Luckily, this man’s wife knows it now and is getting him in a memory care home. That’s the best place for him and best for everyone involved.
Within noise ordinance hours and as long as he isn't being threatening he should be ok, but if it goes on too often there are protections we have about quality of enjoyment in our own homes the neighbors could call on
@@GrouchyDragonthank you. I feel for the man or ANY human going through this , but, NO, you just cannot yell however and whenever. There is a reasonable expectation of quality of life and if that someone who is dimishing that quality of life is an elder experiencing what old people go through then, yes it should be dealt with ...but dealt with compassion and dignity for that elder.
Oh my gosh! Have people in this country become so disrespectful that they can't deal with this poor vet in their neighborhood? Instead of suing, they should be offering assistance.
Easily said... We had 2 neighbors that screamed and hurled vulgarity whenever anyone was outside. For almost 20 years my wife couldn't go in her yard. Sometimes people making your life hell isn't helped because they have an excuse. Not hearing both sides does make assumptions easy.
You can’t really live and let live when someone starts screaming about using guns to take you out. He’s lucky he had no actual firearms as this situation could’ve gone a lot worse
@@GrouchyDragonWere they veterans with alzheimers or dementia or just ignorant people? Were they screaming threats? Did you report those threats? Could a fence have helped? Not hearing the whole story here either but I can understand how rough that probably was. But it still took you 20 years to move. Just reading your comment from the outside.
@@mariek8578 Police couldn't do much, fence already existed, threats, vulgarity, and anyone who tells you nobody is violent on pot... lol but I didn't move, I waited the bastids out and when the bank foreclosed I bought the house. My only comment about this case was that patience its easy from the sidelines, but sometimes its harder than perceived. :)
The respect I have for this Judge Simpson... It's beyond belief. I have family members, and yes members not member affected by dementia and Alzheimer's. I wish more people could understand what this does to a person and their family. Imagine your mother looking at you and saying... Do I know you? Imagine having to ask your mother or your father or your brother if they know who you are? Sometimes they do... oftentimes they have no idea. Imagine moving your mother from one house, which she has lived in all of her life, to another family member's house... in order to be able to care for her better. Think of her not understanding why she's not at home. It's beyond belief how it pulls at your heart and brings tears to your eyes. Thank you Judge Simpson, and thank you to all the others who have commented here.
WOW! this Judge has restored my faith in the American Judicial system! Not all super heroes wear capes.... some of them wear black robes! I was crying so hard listening to this loving wife. I wanted to reach out to hug her and thank her husband for his service!
My thoughts EXACTLY!! IF the neighbor has SO MUCH OF A PROBLEM WITH THE DEFENDANT, WHY NOT APPEAR AND SAY SO INSTEAD OF THE SECOND HAND DEPICTION OF AN IRRITABLE PROSECUTOR! 🤭
My husband has dementia headed towards alzheimers disease. It's a horrible thing to watch. My husband is a retired fire cheif and their is no place to put him. Unless I give up my home. Taking care of him us taking a toll on my health.
You are a queen. Know that someone has heard you and I’m sending prayers your way. My prayer is that you are able to find the helpers in this world to lighten your load. Love and peace to you.
I completely understand your situation. You can’t place him in a Medicare bed unless you are destitute. Can I recommend hospice care? We’re here to help at the last 6 months or longer of life by helping with services that allow your loved one to stay home. Please call a hospice organization to get an evaluation. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
I just love Judge Simpson... he is a wonderful man and a blessing to so many that need him...may he continue to be on the bench for a long time to come...🙏🙏🙏🙏
So if he was YOUR neighbor, and he was screaming at your kids, would you still be ok with it? Your comment is completely ignorant. The wife herself said he goes and screams at the neighbor. Why should HE have to suffer? And it wasn't the NEIGHBOR'S decision to put that stipulation in the order, that was just the easiest solution to the problem
Bless this family and thank you to Judge Simpson. My parents both have dementia, my sister and I do full time care, as well as working ourselves. My heart aches for this situation
As a wife to a fully disabled older Vet, I know this is coming my way too. We know what's coming when we marry into it. That neighbor needs to understand, this is their home. I know there's resources, VA homes, etc.; its just...hard. It's all hard. I love her for doing everything she's doing, and i love His Honor for understanding and validating her and speaking to her needs. May they both maintain their health and love for as many years possible. ❤
I live in a residential area where everyone owns their own home. Over the past 10-15yrs there have been 2 separate incidents where elderly neighbors were arrested & held in jail over altercations with neighbors. First was a WWII Veteran who had lived in his home well over 50yrs. 2nd a Korean War Veteran who had lived in his home for 25yrs. Both had Alzheimer's. Both were placed in long-term care facilities after their release. Both have now passed on, but sadly both were left with criminal records.
This is sad and it is so important to keep up the care of our vets, especially the older ones. I am thankful that my father was not like this at the end. Until the end, he was in full control of his mind. It is heartbreaking that his wife is going through this and heartwarming that the is not shipping him off.
Judge Simpson is amazing. I work with the elderly and my dad had Alzheimer’s, it is a devastating disease that I wouldn’t wish on any family. In Canada the wait for a space in a care home is so long, to get private care is paid by the family and it’s expensive. I hope the wife gets support too.
Judge should issue a no-contact order on the neighbor and instruct him to ignore the old man. Should he have a problem with him he is to call the wife and let her handle it... They should not have to sell their home. Man should not be in jail either. He shouldn't even have a bond.
this is so sad but at the same time I feel like that man fought for us and now he can't defend him self and this judge is going to do it for him is amazing would like to see more judges doing what is right not what is expected💯
This Wife is God's Gift to Man. When I get into a relationship, I want my girlfriend or my Wife, to look at me, the way she looks at her Husband. That's the definition of true love at its best. I'm tearful just watching this because this is the type of relationship that when you get married you want. Love, caring, trust, and everything to ensure that the marriage remains strong and survives the test of time. Thanks for sharing this video.
I appreciate your comments below the recording. The initiation of an event can be started by the other party. God help the wife to help her husband. Putting him in a nursing home is expensive. The longer the husband stays at home with help, which getting help additional services is expensive, the better.
I love Judge Simpson. ❤. My own dad was a ww2 veteran, he started to get bouts of dementia late in his life. He one day found a box of love letters & thought my mom had been having an affair while he was overseas. He failed to realize those were the letters he sent to her & she to him. They were married almost 68 years & died 6 months apart. We need to protect & cherish our elderly especially veterans 💙.
This is a heartbreaking story. Having dealt with different levels of dementia and Alzheimers. Seeing the different stages has opened my eyes a lot. There is a book called the 36 hour day that helped a lot. Making sure the caretakers have such huge burdens, it is important for them to take care of themselves which is found difficult due to guilt. My heart goes out to everybody dealing with this awful disease. May some peace and comfort be found.
Judge Simpson is so amazing; I really wish that the wife would truly "hear" that she has and continues to do the best she can - not to feel guilty at all.
Sounds to me like the jerk of a neighbour deliberately antagonizes the Veteran because he knows good and well that loud noise is difficult for the Vet to tolerate. If he cared at all he would check in with them beforehand to ensure that the Vet has time to put on some noise suppression ear plugs or a headset to allow everyone to go about their normal routine without anyone unnecessarily being upset or affected by it. It’s not that hard to be caring for your neighbours wellbeing as well as your own. LOVE this Judge ❤❤
Judge Simpson is an amazing man. Many judges would have just signed the order that both parties agreed to. But I applaud him saying that there is no way he is going to put his name on an order that legally binds a man from stepping in his own property whenever he wishes. Especially more so when that man literally protected that very land, and those very rights with his own life. I’ve seen lots of political arguments in courts, and a lot of people who lost empathy; especially when I worked for the U.S. Courts. However people like Judge Simpson is why i still believe it’s a good system.
I'ma paraplegic vet confined to a hospital bed and i dread the day i loose my caregivers and have to go in a home.. i don't think id let them take me alive..
Wow respect, this relates to my own life, my father was a WW2 vet who lost his mind in his 50's, a very intelligent man (aerospace engineer) who thought there was a conspiracy against him for the rest of his life. Sadly he lost his family, but remained in society, only to live in paranoia til he died at 84. No one ever helped him, he traumatized my mom and the kids and it has had a separate effect on us but major. Now I'm 58 and have had profound issues because of his treatment of myself. Plus never having any relationship with my dad for 30 years until his death, he was alone in a mobile home. I remember at 13 my dad telling me "war is hell". Sadly, wars have this major effect on not only the soldier, but many times the soldiers family. My mother is long gone from cancer (stress), and his 3 kids including myself have had major issues, homelessness, mental depression, etc etc... He was right war is hell...It ruined his life and ours unf... I feel sorry for this lady, and kids??
Why does the Prosecutor look so disheveled? Makes me think of Judge Boyd - "If you are tested today what will the results be? And before you answer - know that you will be tested today."
This case has me in tears. I wish I was their neighbor, I would show compassion and understanding due to this man's declining mental health, especially where he is a vet. Even if he wasn't if I was aware of the situation I would just try my very best to be understanding. If the loud noise is upsetting him, turn it down to calm him. Let him have his dignity.
Judge Simpson is such an amazing man given all the evil he’s seen im sure being a judge he always leads with compassion and grace. Such an honorable man.
Oh this hits close to home for me. I’m a nurse that just happens to work in geriatrics. The agitation and anger is common in the beginning. Some families start to see their loved one change to angry for no reason, all the time. I feel for the wife because she sounds like she’s trying to tie up loose ends because of her spouse.
This case 😢😢😢. My grandfather had Alzheimer’s. When I look at the totality of this man’s circumstances, I’m appalled at the neighbor. It sounds like the defendant just yelled at him and while what he did is not okay, I would have, given my knowledge of the defendant’s health, ignored him and spoke to his wife. Instead he chose to call the police on a veteran with Alzheimer’s. Good job to Judge Simpson for recognizing the injustice happening here.
