judging people for fun (r/AITA) 

Or she just hates women different than her. If you hear hoofbeats, think horses not zebras.

Yup Why reply to that story was how to shut the SIL up for good by going "you think I'm a sexy baby? Why do you think babies are sexy? Are you sexually attracted to me cos you think I look like a baby? Why are you sexualising babies?" And just keep going lowkey pdf shaming them until they never say a single word to you ever again

Could be she is just jealous of her.

I think even if OP knew it was on her list, I don't see anything really wrong with it (unless she really only had that *one* boy name on it). The sister doesn't own the name and if OP likes it too, why should OP bend to sister's will and not the other way around? Does OP have to avoid every single name that is on a close relatives baby name list? And as you said. It's a list implying that are more names on it.. plus it's not guaranteed that sister will ever have kids or have a son in particular. OP's son is here now and therefore has more right to the name than a child that might never be born or gets a different name from the list anyway.

I wish I didn't have similar stories from when I was 18, but the amount of moms of 5yo who have special needs who will leave them with literally any 18yo.... its a pattern for sure. You can't be mad at an untrained babysitter for not knowing how to handle these situations.

I know, those were my exact thoughts too. I don't think she was at fault just for asking the babysitter to pay attention when the baby cries. However, if they knew the babysitter had school the next day, the parents should've hired someone more qualified for that level of responsibility

unrelated, but this comment is written beautifully.

Seriously! Like, I.....apologise? for being 5' tall? What am I actually supposed to DO, go back in time, use genetic engineering techniques that _didn't even exist yet_ on my unborn self, and then show back up as a 5'6" woman? Like WTF? It's almost as if human beings are different heights, or something....! (Also if this SIL knew just how LITTLE I _care_ about my "value" in the "sexual marketplace" or the patriarchal pecking order, I think it'd blow up her brain. Not all women are constantly thinking about men, if they're attractive enough to men, and what men think about them. Some women are just trying to get through their damn day.)

That's the sign of a kind hearted child, you and your husband did a great job in raising him

babysitter guy is an ah for hiring a 16 year old in the first place

@@theMyRadiowasTaken he probably hired her because her wages are cheaper than a professional babysitter/nanny who IS equipped ot babysit at night.

All women get infantilised tbh, but yeah it's worse if you're short or neurodivergent. It's disgusting and wrong in all cases still

same here. it really makes me uncomfortable

this 😭 i’m the same height but i’m trans ftm, and it’s an absolute nightmare- no one ever takes me seriously

NTA, it's indoctrination to baptise babies so you're just seeing this as it is

not defending the practice, but different branches of christianity/catholicism call for baptism at different times in their belief systems. some think they have to do it in the early youth (the branch i was raised in but rejected as i got older baptised me at less than a month old, for example) and some choose to do it later. if im remembering right, some want it to be done after/during confirmation (the thing where kids get allowed to take communion after passing), and some branches just dont care and you can get baptized whenever you feel like it. youre definitely not in the wrong for seeing it as weird, i agree with you, but to say it should be entirely banned is a little much-- its part of religious belief. if youre baptized in youth, and the event was before you would be able to remember, its very easy to just pretend it didnt happen and you were never baptized :)

I'm an atheist and pretty anti-religion in general, but I don't know a lot about baptism or the culture surrounding it. (I grew up in a Muslim household.) I'm opposed to getting baby's ears pierced or getting your child circumcised, but that's mostly because it's an unnecessary physical change without a baby's consent. A baptism doesn't physically change a child nor does it make them Christian (?). Is it supposed to give your child salvation before they can really choose to pickup Christianity? I think it is so much more impactful to choose to be baptized when you're older, but I don't see a problem with getting it done as a baby as long as it is appropriate to get baptized more than once. I also don't think you're an ahole for thinking it should be forbidden. They can always get in the future when they can consent.

Idk why you came here for that but I don't think baptisms are that deep anywhere outside the usa. Like, in my country most kids were baptised in the past and none of the atheist I am surrounded of seem to care. I am agnostic and I just don't careabout it. Parents started doing it because they were afraid their children would be stuck in limbo, which whatever, but now in most christian communities around the world it's pretty much a cultural practice that is just falling out. It's become a social celebration that just feels ajward. Honestly I think it's just a husstle to do it when you are older for whetever reason. Almost nobody converts to christianity in my country, but honestly sounds so akward. I just wouldn't do it. It's a 30 yr old celebrating a quinceañera. Who do you invite? Besides that, many kids that weren't baptised but were still raised in a religious environment still did it later to get gifts in a first communion. If you are an atheist don't do it cause your kid won't convert, but at least in a catholic environment you are gonna reach a first comunion moment and most I knew in that situation baptised for the kids and regretted doing that effort for something they didn't care about. In my opinion, americans are way too passionate about the worst parts of religion and that may lead to people, idk, feeling too Christian because of the baptism when they want to detach themselves from that. I mean, later you have comunion, confirmation, religious marriage, etc. So where I live if you become an atheist you just don't do those. I didn't have a confirmation and honestly I do not feel the baptism flowing through my veins. Maybe in the USA at least it should be, since it's so significant. I've actually heard this in the usa, but not anywhere around where I live, even if most of my friends are atheists. Personally, it feels like people prefer it when it's not their fault. If you wait to 12 most will pick without knowing shit abt their religion still and then feel like idiots if they regret it later or somewhat bound to their choice. In my experience, the people that baptised later that I knew did it because everyone was baptised or for gifts and later on regretted it more than anyone I've ever known that was baptised as a kid and later on became an atheist. Even when I was a Christian I was as neutral to it as with having been born. It just happened.

in orthodox christianity, at least the russian wing, the baptism is literally submerging a baby under water. youre not the butthole, but im biased as you see

Same, Lmao. I couldn’t get the bottom part, so thanks! Totally cross stitching this on a sign.

@@ErutaniaRoseyou can see it for a little bit right at the beginning when her arms are raised :)

Thank you!

Yup My reply to that story was how to shut the SIL up for good by going "you think I'm a sexy baby? Why do you think babies are sexy? Are you sexually attracted to me cos you think I look like a baby? Why are you sexualising babies?" And just keep going lowkey pdf shaming them until they never say a single word to you ever again

as gross as the term is, i DON'T think someone can be arrested for it- especially since apparently it's a reference to a character from a show called 30 Rock. It's still an increadibly weird and uncomfortable term.

lol… you’re gonna get someone arrested for calling you a weird pet name??? Good luck I guess?

I want a shirt like that! It’s awesome 👍

Same I want this shirt as well

I have a first cousin with the same first name as mine, and it's never been an issue. I don't understand why these people get so worked up about it.

Haven't gotten to that point of the video yet, but I'm pretty sure a plaster is a bandaid. Edit: Yeah, I'm right.

Plaster means a bandaid

lol, HOW old are you??

Short women who get treated like kids and us tall women who get treated like men in drag need to band together against the real menage of insecure average-sized women! ;)

@@ttintagel literally though. i love tall women :(

There was a woman that i was friends with as a kid and we kind of became friends as adults. When i was pregnant and found out i was having a boy and announced the name on fb, she went off her nut. She wasnt even pregnant at the time. She was like you stole my baby name. She ended up having a boy as well and named her kid the same name as mine, but the first letter is different. We stopped being friends after that

Damn thanks for this I needed to hear that

i found the post on r/aita (whew, had to be SPECIFIC when phrasing that google search) and apparently the (WEIRD) term is in reference to a specific character on a show called 30 Rock who essentially fetishized herself through self-infantilization. Talking in baby voice, etc. Still, weird to accuse a grown but short woman just trying to be an adult of that. I wonder if SIL is jealous of OP's appearance and is trying to shame her into associating dressing in anyway feminine or attractive as inevitably being the """"""sexy baby"""" that she's not allowed to dress in a way that makes her feel attractive because her appearance is just doomed to be that of a child's....again WEIRD

yea. i'm 156cm (which is about 5'1") and have a small chest.. i always get mistaken for being WAY younger than i actually look and it's really frustrating. sometimes i feel like men only find me attractive because i "look like a teenager". i even have been called a "loli" by one guy in my old class, which by the way is not even a joke. those people really exist

I agree tbh

She’s a child… they’re in the wrong for hiring a literal child to save a few bucks. She doesn’t understand her limitations yet because she doesn’t have the experience to and she’s probably just doing this on her own, not with an actual organization with insurance and training.

Absolutely - this is the kind of thing that needs to be phrased very thoughtfully and carefully or it can easily end up sounding like something you didn't mean it to sound like..

They still shouldn't really hire a 16 year old for that. The parents should be more mature than the 16 in the situation and should realise she'd be unequipped to look after a baby. Chances are they chose someone 16 to get away with paying less.