@@duckyduck1592 no matter how religious a place can be there's gonna be always people against it, in TikTok people from that college say they booed the speech
No? There are things you cannot say such as “i have a bomb” on an airplane or in an airport. Where i live we have freedom of speech which isn’t absolute which means you can’t go around saying things that encroach on other people’s lives and people’s beliefs because otherwise that’s a hate crime
@@ExposingTheLies360 it shows free speech isn’t absolute also the main point of his speech was to insult all the women graduating with degrees by essentially saying “all you’re good for is being a mother and wife” as if they didn’t work like a dog to get their degree and not only that he refers to the LGBTQ community’s views as dangerous which is insulting to them and not only that it’s dangerous to demonise a large contingent of people for no real reason
@meandtheboys8486 uhh that's literally the point of you having that right what are you talking about??? You're protected under the law to have free speech.
This is true. I don't agree at all with him, but in context he did read the room. But if you knew that it was going to be aired nationally and then shared on social media so worldwide you would think you probably would have chosen his words different. But he came out with a restatement where he said that he wishes for a time where women had more babies than thoughts...and I can't defend that at all
Yeah the Nuns of the school released a statement saying they don’t endorse this and don’t agree with what he said so even the Nuns of the school don’t support him.
I wouldn’t put all Christian’s in one box since this is extreme. He was in friendly atmosphere. A private Catholic school and they have become pretty extreme. However, I still defend his freedom of speech. That’s where hate lives and we should all show some grace given that we all have that right.
He's a devout catholic, speaking at a Catholic institution. It got posted online and people who are liberal are mad at him. This is what happens when you post personal beliefs online, an opposing group is going to come for you. That's all that happened. Nobody was hurt and he isn't forcing anyone to live like that.
He never said "Stay at Home" he said "excited about your marriage and the children you will bring into this world." Yeah he gave his wife as an example but he didn't say you should just be home makers.
@markstein2845 all three occupations you listed are the ones where I think you can more consistently observe women having nervous break downs 😂 As for being a homemaker, there's nothing wrong with it, but in this day and age I find the notion of spending time and money to go to college just to then do something you could do fresh out of highschool, quite ridiculous. If that's where life takes you, fine, but if you know from the get go you just might as well use the money for a down-payment on your marital home.
@@Poppy-zm2yhor they can educate themselves because they chose to? What if their husband dies.. they have something to fall back on. There’s nothing wrong with getting and education while knowing you want to be a homemaker. Paul’s being a homemaker often means being some type of entrepreneur, good to have education on that.
@@Sammiejammie521 sure, you can get an education for the heck of it, but if you plan to apply it, it's almost useless if you don't actually work. No one hires a 40 yo with a college degree they got 20 years prior and no work experience. At that point most of the knowledge you got is either obsolete or you forgot about it, and you don't know how to actually apply it either. And you don't need to have a business degree even if you want to build an actual business, so no, it's not that useful to spend tens or hundreds of thousand of dollars to get a degree to be an housewife, if anything it makes you a terrible entrepreneur who makes wasteful business decisions. And of course having a plan b if something happens to your husband is always best. It's called a job. You can easily work partime AND raise your kids and take care of the house. At least if something happens you already have some money put aside, and work experience.
@@Poppy-zm2yh college is obsolete in nearly every career.. but it’s a “requirement”. When you apply to jobs you are being thrown out before they open your resume if you don’t have a degree. So yes, it is still not a bad idea. It’s also up to a person on where they spend not only their money, but their time. Most people receive grants and scholarships to help pay the tuition, if they are smart. And you’re speaking from no experience with hiring. And also molding it to fit your argument. I also feel like you’re speaking with no experience on raising a family or being a homemaker. I could not do what I do at home and work twenty hours a week elsewhere. If you want to do it half way, that’s acceptable and your call… but to be a true homemaker means being on the clock 24/7. No breaks, no vacations. And we do have money “put aside”. All of the money we have as a family, is our money.
@@Sammiejammie521 sure, college is necessary if you actually go into working fresh out of it. Otherwise whether you have a degree or not, you are going to be thrown out if you are a 40 yo who looks for an internship or entry level job with a 20 years old degree. So no, not such a good idea, unless you actually work once out of college for some years in a way that would have any value on a resume. And sure, it's absolutely up to you how you waste your money. I still wouldn't assume a whole graduating class had the same bad idea. I know multiple women who were/are homemakers. They all spent half their day either at the gym, at the park with their dog, doing charity work, etc. Kids well raised, warm food always on the table, house spotless, husband happy. It's not the middle ages anymore. You don't need to spend all day washing clothes at the river. And unless you have 8 kids back to back all homeschooled and a castle for a house, you can do all of it with a bit of time managment. And we are talking about having to go back to work after your husband dies. Unless you have enough money for you and your kids to survive until your own departure, no money put aside is enough, so having an extra income to feed an emergency fund is never a bad idea. With that said, you can make your own life decisions but I sure hope you are not counting on getting a job that would require a college degree in an unforeseeable future. Not many businesses want a middle aged rookie around. So for your own good I hope that's not actually your plan b.
@@shartzboy2000 Uh, that's a bit dishonest. They took offense with him saying a woman's highest calling was to be a wife/mother... they believe a woman's highest calling is to serve God as a nun.
@@bobbobbington3615 No sir, read the statement. They specifically point out their female students have great talents "through their God-given gifts in leadership, scholarship, and their careers."
Nothing wrong, but putting everything above Family is just Wrong. Everyone who has gone that route have spoken about it how miserable they are and how there children turn out to be.
I mean you can be a mother and a worker/entrepeneur if you want to. Or a mother an an artist, or a scientist. Or just a mother. Motherhood is beautiful and being one doesn't mean you cannot do other things if you desire to.
@@AndrewTheMandrew531 who says you have to do that?? My mother had a degree from UC Berkeley and chose to stay home and raise my sister and I and home schooled us. Just because you are educated doesn’t mean you have to have a career…. Maybe being educated means other things to other people.
Do yalk got a different bible in the us then we do here in europe??? I cant remeber of any pasage where jesus is talking about family models. Jesus preaches tolerance and peace✝️
As a career woman...i own 2 businesses and work a full time job...becoming a mother and stepmother has brought more joy and passion to my life than any job or business. My fiance knows this and has began searching for a job that will allow me to step back from my work and more into the role of "mom" Part of the problem is as women we are being told the absolute opposite....career first, family last....having kids ends your life, you cant afford to have children, men are trash...your son does not need a father in the home. Then at 42 women come to realize they want a baby because they missed out on that part of life. I.E. Paris Hilton. Lindsay Lohan. I do not see a single thing wrong with this speech. God bless this man.
As a happily married career woman I see plenty wrong with his speech. He told a graduating class full of young women who worked hard, missed countless hours of sleep studying, that their lives have no value unless they have a husband and she bears his babies. Further it is pretty sad that he said his wife's life did not start until she met him and provided him with children. This is a terrible message to send to young women. Women have valuable lives whether they marry, stay single, have children, go childfree, or if they are unable to have kids. Their lives are still meaningful and they should have the choice to decide what is best for themselves. You're statement about regret is fascinating to me. Many women are well over 42 and have zero regrets about going childfree. I am one of them, so yes we definitely exist. Since you mentioned regrets, I'd like for you to consider the other side for a moment. Just as there are women who regret not having children, there are probably more who regret having them, but don't have the courage to voice their true feelings.
@@AllergicToAshAndDusthe said that his wife said her life didn’t begin until marriage and children. HIS wife said it, he was quoting her. I happen to agree. I was raised on the idea that I must have a career first, then get married and have children. I had difficulty getting pregnant bc didn’t start trying until after age 30. Was able to have 1 biological child and adopt one (very expensive btw). I feel like I was sold a bill of goods regarding career. I was most happy as homemaker, no career can compare. I have career-woman friends who heavily influenced their kids to get advanced degrees and build careers first. Many are approaching 70(some over 70) and still waiting for grandchildren. It’s sad
@@sueseelie He is speaking for his wife, which is a huge red flag. She may love being a wife and mother. However, she may not even agree with the way he represented her. Stating that her life didn't begin until she married him and duplicated him speaks volumes. It negates her existence prior to him blessing her with his presence. The fact that YOU are happy being a wife and mother after trying, does not mean that is the correct path for all women. I am sure that there were many young ladies in the audience who have chosen a different path, and that is fine. There is nothing wrong with a young woman knowing what she wants in life. If that is being a c-suite leader, entrepreneur, housekeeper, homemaker, or Dual Income No Kids and traveling the world. Women are amazing and we can do so much. Also, there are some people who couldn't care less about grandchildren. Instead they prioritize their child's happiness over their own selfishness desires.
@AllergicToAshAndDust you people LOVE being offended on behalf of other people. This what college stress and sleeping around before being a wife/mother does to you. Speak for yourself.
Just gonna throw this out there : listen to or read the whole speech if you haven’t. His words are being twisted to make it sound like he said the opposite of what he said.
I did, and I agree with you. The speech applies to Catholics and the Catholic Church. There are some things I disagree with regarding the Catholic Church, but their church, their principles.
Wow. We live in a society where it’s controversial for someone to express an opinion that being a wife, mother and homemaker maybe more fulfilling than working a job or career.
Harrison Butker is a devout Catholic who gave a commencement address at a Catholic college. Good for him. He wasn't "railing" at anything. He was speaking according to Catholic teaching. As for his mom's career, he didn't criticize her job, but he rightly expressed that the vocation of motherhood is more important than a career. God bless him for not denying our Catholic faith.
As a Christian its hypocritical for him to just leave out that a FATHER is also more important than a career. Its clear hes just trying to to demean women wanting to pursue careers
In the last six of my mothers life the things most important to her were 1) her health, 2) family, 3) close friends, and 4) her religion, in no particular order. I never heard her talk about her career. His speech was meant to express that life does not revolve around a job.
Please watch the whole speech if you hadn't. He talks more about his faith, his role, and the family's role. Was a pretty decent speech. It's unfortunate that this is the only part that's picked apart as bad..
This is a private catholic university. He obviously spoke to his audience. U can disagree and even not like him, that's your right, just as much as what he says and think is his right and nobody deserves to be punished for peacefully exercising their rights.
His messaging.. I've watched feminist talk about not finding a man, or that they felt they were lied to.. So, is he wrong. That depends on how you viewed his speech..
If he had publicly stated that all women should cover themselves with a hijab, all of the same people would be angry at him plus all of the Christians that are defending him.
Finally a man with balls built with iron, us men have no time with all the weak men and women that will fail contaminating the pure hearts of the good ones. Thank you sir for such a great speech
Didn’t say anything horrible, I just don’t get why it was only aimed at the women. Men can also be fathers, so I don’t understand why the “I’m sure you’re excited to raise kids” thing wasn’t directed at everyone.
Normal men don't label entire protected groups of people as "deadly sinners" and openly brag about building their lives off the manipulation of a spouse to essentially baby them.
People, you need to realize that this is Catholic speech given to Catholic people. He is addressing the Women in the crowd, not the men and that is ok. This speech was clearly meant for the women in the crowd, not men and what is wrong with that? If you are offended by the fact that this was a one gender speech, then there are many many many more things that you should be worried about in life. Also, I would bet money that if you were to ask the men and women in that crowd if they were offended by his speech they would say no. It’s a big issue in this time and day with people feeling offended for a certain group of people when in reality they don’t. It creates issues and pulls the world apart.
Why is it controversial? Everyone else can have their own opinions (liberals) but the moment someone doesn’t share the same views at them it’s “controversial”? I love double standards.
I haven't watched the speech, so I have no context beyond this clip. But I can venture a guess that it is controversial because women have been pushing for equal treatment to men in educational and professional settings. So to do a commencement speech and state that women, and not the men too, should want or need a husband and children is kind of a hot take in a room full of people who just achieved a major milestone in their professional lives. I don't necessarily think the message is bad. Its not one I personally agree with, but I don't feel like it is inherently wrong for anyone else to believe it. I just think it was perhaps out of place for the context of the event he was speaking at.
Using the words women, homemaker and fulfilling in the same sentence is kind of controversial for women in 2024. You do realize it’s 2024 and not 1880?
You can be a homemaker and have a job. Quit getting butt hurt over him saying that women should be good moms and wives and men should be good husbands and dads. Thats kind of a fundamental function of a family.
@@cipycipycipy being a good wife and mom has left women behind? So parents shouldn't raise their kids? You don't have to be a stay at home parent to be a home maker it's about what you do to benefit your family in a positive manner.
In his new statement he said he wishes for a time back when "women had more babies than thoughts" he basically said "I don't want woman think, I want women listen to me"
He missed his MOM because she had a career that I'm sure she needed to raise him. My sons missed me growing up because I had to work, But y'all not ready to hear that. I needed to work to survive and raise them. But I know for a fact that all they wanted was mom in the audience at their play or games. Or go on school activities instead of grandma
True dat & I’m thankful that I was blessed by Yashua to be able to be there for my kids while dad was waking hard to make a better life for us than others who didn’t have that privilege. But I do also sometimes regret not going after my other career goal/dreams sometimes but like they say “You can’t have it ALL or your 🍰 & eat it too” which sounds kinda dumb bc many literally have 😋❗️😇👼🕊️
Why is this speech controversial? If people want to live a devient lifestyle that is their choice but it is also our choice to uphold and defend our beliefs as well! So proud of this young man who is not afraid to be a Man.
Is being a woman and having career that brings second income to a family deviant now? How is her husband suppose to pay for the mortgage? Single family Houses with like 2 bedrooms are like 300- 800K now. It was hard for working couples to pay for mortgage before the boom. Where's the house for the fam if there's only one income?
I think the controversy is he’s sending off a bunch of young people that just finished their higher education with dreams of having successful careers and he basically tells them their highest calling is to be a stay at home mom lol. It’s tone deaf given the context imo. Like why would you go to school if your vocation is to be a wife? Im not ignorant to the message being given and it’s not bad, I’m Catholic who went thru Catholic school from grade school to college. But it doesn’t belong in a commencement speech IMO
@@rashelelashley he said verbatim, "her life truly started when she began living her vocation as a wife and as a mother[...]my success is made possible because a girl I met in band class back in middle school would convert to the faith, become my wife, and embrace one of the most important titles of all: homemaker." This is the source of the controversy for many. It's just not the message a university should be sending new grads off with. People get college degrees to go into the work force or pursue a passion, not with the intent to be a homemaker. Whatever his intentions were, they missed the mark for a commencement speech hard there.
@@ogmaamgo8970Who said it is bad? That is your conclusion? Most people do not have careers anyway. They have jobs. And even then, building a family, making a home, being a wife and a mother, being a husband and a father are waaaay more rewarding than slaving yourself away 60hrs a week for a boss who will get rid of you the moment you don't perform according his KPIs.
The criticism itself tends to attack his freedom of speech which makes it wrong. Disagreeing is one thing but telling him he can’t say those things is another
@@charliescott2810 agreed. We pray for those people. Each group has its bad apples that are quick to judge rather than take the time to understand that god doesn’t make mistakes. I still love the close minded and confused catholic members. Hopefully they read the whole bottle and not just the lines that feed their fears
He literally cried when he talked about his wife and how much he respects her. Different priorities for different people I guess. I could only hope my daughter finds someone like him.
@@CncrndCtzn And he then openly admitted that he's built his entire life off her servience. You literally couldn't get any further from respecting a woman's autonomy and personhood.
Butker a good advisor of moral values where God given to human being since the beginning of creation to maintain good relationship of creature to The Creator.
My father and grandfather would join you on that. he doesn't know how many fathers or grandfathers who worked hard to see their girl grow up, get an education and have a successful career and hope they find a person who respects them in every way possible and wants to be a life partner and not just a martial title
So controversial those students cheered and aplauded his speech, you can start to hear it because whomever edited their clip was sloppy and didnt get it all cut out.
Overall, I hear him trying to express that ppl should feel the need to be proud of themselves! We are who we are! No one has ever had the opportunity to ask who they're going to be born as!❤WE ALL BLEED RED!❤
Feel your own feeling. It's who you are! Never take it personally when ppl don't understand your feelings, not everyone is or has the capacity/capable of understanding everyone freeness to express themselves! If we all just listen and try to learn another personally/perspective, would that not be the love or wisdom we all seek? We all are just seeking attention or something to validate ourself. Please ask yourself why do you wear what you wear, say what you say, think of morals you learned as a child. Who really are we, or what are we here to do.... but to learn all we can in a positive attitude. Before we engage with social media/ society have you accepted that we can't control anyone? Have you considered when watching things in a negative attitude will change your perspective. Does anyone ask themselves if they're mentally healthy enough to entertain new ideas? Do you have the energy to stay positive?
Controversial saying that being a mother is one of the greatest gifts after the dude legit cries with joy talking about his wife yea let this man say what he wants to a CATHOLIC crowd. People are stupid and I’m not even Catholic.
For something to be controversial there has to be a large group of people with a strong opinion for it and a large group of people with a strong opinion against it. What do you even mean by "controversial to the majority of americans"? That doesnt make sense
I hate it when people are offended by a persons personal views, let the man think his own thoughts and have his own views. This country has too often canceled and squashed conservative men when they speak their thoughts on masculinity and how only a woman can birth a child.
Did the government prosecute him for this speech? No? Then his right wasnt violated whatsoever. Other people have the right to strongly disagree with him, too. You genius.
I didn't hear anything controversial. I find it a bit suspect that they chose to put his mother's info out there as if she had anything to do with this.
John 15:18-20 If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before you.If you had been of the world, the world would love what is its own. Yet truly, you are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world; because of this, the world hates you. Remember my saying that I told you: The servant is not greater than his Lord. If they have persecuted me, they will persecute you also. If they have kept my word, they will keep yours also.
freedom of speech protects you from being punished by law for what you say, hes not being arrested. it cuts both ways, people should also have the freedom to express their thoughts about what hes saying
@@stvtorres75 cancellation is a use of free speech, i dont agree with it but its still free speech and as far as his job, the nfl isnt government run and has every right to either keep him as a player or fire him. what im trying to get across isnt that criticism is the only consequence but that the only consequence free speech actually prevents is lawful persecution - it doesnt mean you can say whatever you want without considering consequences
I wish people would stop using “controversial” to describe this speech.🙄 So far, only Right and far-Right media described his speech this way.🤦🏾♂️ I agree with the Left, mostly calling it “out of touch”, or “indoctrination”, but that would describe most of his audience, also.🤷🏾♂️
he gave a speech about conservative Christian values to a conservative Christian church. so how is indoctrination? Pride, lgbt and pro choice now that's indoctrination.
@@masonkarr4329Ok so it's indoctrination when it's a position that you don't agree with. Telling women they should stay home and have babies like in the 1950s is fine.
@@masonkarr4329you just realized that you said choices are indoctrination. You don't know the definitions of the word you speak so just please stop speaking and feel free to just stay home and never go out and just pray to Jesus that somehow food will show up and that because you're so devout that you don't actually need to go outside and go to the store and talk to people because he talks to you and he's your best friend and he will give you everything you need apparently. Or am I wrong about that? Does praying not work? I thought it did? Well tell me if it does work because if it does I'm just going to sit home and pray that I become a millionaire and that my wife just comes knocking at my door who was already in love with me that I never met and that food will just appear on my table and if it does I will promise to say grace before eating it. So what should I do?
These free speech mf 🤦🏾! Yes you have a right to free speech, but the public also has a right to interpret and react to what you say in a public setting. So yes, you can say whatever, but you’re not free of the consequences of that speech.
There should be no consequences for saying what is self evident, but that’s how sick the public and society at large has gotten. The left will destroy themselves. They have no children. Their ideology has no future. It’s a dead end.
One shouldn’t be dogpiled on for speaking what is self-evident. The left will destroy themselves. They have no families. No kids. Their ideology promises no future, only an endless purity spiral. It’s dead weight.
i see absolutely nothing wrong with what he said. he spoke up for what HE believes in, and you criticize him because it goes against your own beliefs... wow how pathetic.
@@shartzboy2000 lol he didn’t say that tho, you’re twisting his words. Pretty typical of people nowadays tho. It’s always how can I whine about something
