When I was younger, I’d relate this to my personal relationships. Now, years later, realizing it’s more accurately aimed at my mother.. these lyrics take on a whole different meaning when you realize the toxic patterns in your life
As a teenager, I cried to this song after being abused by my mom. Watched her abuse my dad. Put toxic ideas in my mind. Treated me like a little adult talking shit on my dad to me. This song hits different when you're 30 with your own kids and trying to undo generational trauma. Now it's my power anthem. I cry just like I did before but I know I'll be a better person and mother. My kids won't have the same life.
i remember blasting this when my parents first got divorced bawling my eyes out. for half of my life i endured the pain of a broken family & would never wish that upon anyone else.
I am so sorry you know that pain. Sadly I know it too, and I agree full hearted with each of your words. My parents got divorced when we were two and I grew up in a house with a single mother caring for triplets and her mother alone. On other days, we would be with my abusive dad who still haunts me, but is still present today and it hurts because I love him still. It is complicated, and I am sure we both have a million other parts of the story left to say; but I hope we can both heal from the pain, no matter how hard it is. I hope you never feel alone in that again.
It's been a long time since I was active on RU-vid and I was shocked reading different comments in this song lyrics it's so heartbreaking knowing that a lot of people have been through a lot of struggles in their life because of their rough experience. Sending hugs to all of you guys and thank you for sharing your story 💜💜
I am a Dad, and I wonder if you'd like to share what yours did to you so I can learn what not to do to my 2 girls? Breaking my girls hearts is the last thing I want to do whether unintentionally
@@JediMaster21 I know you did not reply to me, but I just wanted to say just by asking that question, you are already a very good dad!!! You want to treat them with nothing but love and protect them, and that is the best thing because everyone needs someone to look up to, rely on, and help them be strong just with your presence letting them feel safe. As someone who does not have that, it is so hard, and your girls are very blessed, just as I am sure you are with them. To answer your question, especially in earlier years, never yell at them, and have patience when they are learning right and wrong, and how to do things. Treat them as the love they are. Encourage them with the good things, and as for them, if it was a good thing when it was not so they learn on their own with a suggestion of what to do better next time. That way they learn on their own and do not feel discouraged or that they need to hide anything from you. NEVER EVER HIT THEM or hurt them in any way. Trust me and my word on that one. I don't care if it is for getting their attention, or if "It didn't hurt" If it is force, it is force. It is a hard answer to give for many people even though it is important to know, that it can be destructive for someone to share because of the memories and pain it revives. I won't make Marisol do that, so I hope my answer will suffice. My dad did terrible things and when I was two, divorced my mom, ran away from love, and had envy that we were not scared of her. He would take us on his days and disregard us, yell at us, and make rules that should not be made like no crying allowed, he did not want to deal with it. He wanted smart kids with unattainable goals he could one day drink with, or whatever, but he did not get that and sometimes would punish us like adults, expecting us to be one since I was five, but at the end of the day, I was still a kid who grew up to fast and would do something unpleasant because of it. The worst was that we still love him, and he has always been great at making us feel responsible or guilty for his actions. There is no way to say that in a way that makes sense, I know he did not hit because he loved me or anything like that, but I still try to make him happy. I had to be strong for my weaker siblings and that took a toll on me because not only was I frightened, but had to be brave and become a mother figure and fight at the same time until we went back home. That was in elementary school. My sister has hearing problems, and my brother has dyslexia and depression which to my dad meant he would never make it. Just one last thing to leave with that I still battle today in addition to the nightmares that I still have of it, never ever discredit the small victories, because each is important to your children, and when you make them have unrealistic goals, and expect you to become something you cannot be (billionaire,) Or something you don't want to be, (drinker, sports player, etc,) Don't ask for more than God expects of anyone, because my dad does, and it breaks me, especially with my siblings. If I could maybe get there to some extent, it would make me feel like I caused them more suffering with the way he would only say I love you on a card just to me or yell at them for example. You are a good dad, and this is me saying you are doing a good job, by accident or on purpose, I do not believe you would fail your children if you tried. Don't worry and enjoy every moment with them, bring out your inner child no matter how old you are and just live and love them. That's all. ❤
@@Lizzye33 hi, you may not realize it now but just maybe your honest, heartfelt and thoughtful reply will teach more of us, clueless fathers the standard how to treat our princesses with ♥️ I am reading your reply with tears, I am sending love to you and your whole family, prayers for your courage and wisdom considering what you had to go through. Thank you for sharing your light, may it shines to more people around the world reading this. Bless you, for a start, you've just made 2 girls in this world happier, I promise you.
"A girl's first true love is her father." Marisol Santiago. Yeah well I dedicate this song to the first man (well really he hasn't grown up at all). My dad. He left before I was out of the hospital, he then had a baby with another woman and did the same thing to her and their son. He now has a girlfriend and she already has 2 girls. So I am dedicating this to him in hopes of one day finding out what was so wrong with me that it would make him leave me. So this one's for you dad...😢😢"It was my father who taught me to value myself." Dawn French. True, he taught me to value myself because I knew he was never going to. Thank you for coming to my Jess Talk (TED TALK) and listening to what I have to say. I hope everyone has an amazing day and if you have someone who you feel doesn't love you, just remember that even though I don't know you, I love you enough for the both of us.
Dedicated this to my dad also the first to break my heart, and messed up childhood. He took life from me. And also my mother who let him do it. I'm 32 now with two children. Still listen to this song today.
This song reminds me of my older sister. She used to play this song every morning when she was about to go to work. Now I’m away from her due to life and it’s missions but I miss her.
I am so sorry for your loss. I only knew one grandparent in my life which was my Grandma on my mom's side, and after to many painful things we moved in with her and started taking care of her for 12 years since I was five until she passed. She was as close as the best parent I could have and filled in the blank when my dad couldn't. I love her and miss her everyday. I only heard she suddenly passed when I was outside during school and running through the woods as if I could turn back time or get there to do something. It was a very hard time, and I can tell you both loved each other very much. She must be so proud to have such a wonderful granddaughter!!! I feel everyday like I could have done more for and with her, and even regret not being old enough to ask her things I would today while she could, no matter how twisted it might be to think that way. I am certain she is with you, and loves you no matter where you go. Though I know we both want to be half the woman they were, I know they are proud of who we have become, and are becoming. 🤗❤️
Im sorry for your loss. I can relate to that too I was 12 in the room when they found out she was gone and I've forever cant walk into that room without thinking about her. i understand how you feel.
Love this song I think of my 2 former friends who basically emotionally abused me when I was in high school and I have good memories of our time together
Eh leído muchos de los comentarios y me rompen el corazón 🥺no puedo creer que madre/padre abusen de sus propios hijos 🥺😭 está canción apenas la voy escuchando y la verdad es que yo no eh pasado por nada de esto pero me parte el corazón que en este mundo hayan personas así.... Mucha fuerza a todas la personas que pasaron por esta terrible crisis... bendiciones ❤️🌟 ustedes son personas fuertes ❤️🌟🥺 y es algo que admiro mucho porque si yo hubiera pasado por esto yo ya me hubiera matado soy una persona muy sentimental... A dios le doy gracias cada día por darme una familia que me cuida y me proteje ❤️ ojalá y todas las familias fueran así, así muchos de ustedes no hubieran sufrido 🥺🥺❤️ por eso la frase dice “hay personas que no nacieron para ser padres/madres” Bendiciones a tod@s ❤️ a lo mejor unos ya dejaron de pasar por esto pero habrán otros que lo están pasando en este momento y espero que cuando lean estos comentarios esas personas sean fuertes ‼️🥺❤️🌟
I’ve always known something was wrong with my relationship with my dad but I didn’t realize how far he would break me emotionally until I lived with him he is emotionally abusive and I’m emotionally drained this song is so relatable
I’m struggling with friendship trouble, I cried to this song so much because it makes me think of a friend who uses me as her therapist, she throws all her isssues at me, without knowing I struggle with life too, and I can’t tell her she hurts me, because then I feel like a bad friend, it’s a vicious cycle... 💔
When I start listening to this song I just imagine singing it to my mom. She wasn't the greatest mom I had. I remember her leaning on me when I was growing up, probably withholding visitation from my biological father, and at 15 years old losing my stepdad to death and getting raped by my step brother. She got upset with me for telling her even hours after telling her, her and her best friend said I sounded like someone on the news or in a ad. Funny thing is, her best friend was raped by her own uncle. I started to remember and realize that I was a punching bag mentally, verbally and physically. My brothers physically hurt/abused me and my mom mentally and verbally and emotionally abused me. Because of her I'm scared to open up. Because of them I'm scared to defend myself even tho I want to.... I cut her and my brothers out of my life after she texted me a month ago, she texted that she never meant anything to me, that I didn't say happy birthday and mother's day and a hi. But the thing is, she never texted me back since February while trying to get my birth certificate that she supposedly have. My little brother showed where I belong in his life as he made excuses for her and got mad at me for telling the truth. I just never meant anything to both of them... Probably never have.... I still love them sadly.... I want to let go but.... It's hard to let go.... But at least I have my fiance, his family, my friends, my biological father and my grandpa. At least I have people that actually cares and loves me.... But I'm scared to be a mom because I don't want to end up like my mother and mistreat them.... I want to be a mom but I'm terrified.....
Jen Joe I haven't heard this song in years I'm so glad I m hearing this I've got to subscribe to you noe I'll be listening 💙🎧💙 for more of you my friend love it thank you
Katherine Cajulao favorite song is Because of you it's remind me thinking about my favorite people is Filipino it's part of me about Jodi sta Maria this song for her 👍
This is so much like my moms relationship with her mother. My mom is so strong and it’s so rare to see her break. Her mom is the only person who’s ever broken her. I don’t even consider her my grandma anymore because my mom only keeps her around because the Bible says it. It’s so sad to see because Mary (grandma)quilt trips everyone. I can’t wait for the day my mom is free of her, maybe not death but I think that’s what’s gonna be the breaking point. I love my mom and wish her only the best
Wow when I was young I didnt understand these lyrics like I do now. I feel like this is my sister that died from alcohol poisoning after seeing me go threw heroin od's, my life wont go back
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