She’s only sending a message to her evil cheating husband. All I hear is “kuv tu siab.” If you are sad, then let him go and stop waiting for him to come around. The problem is not the poj nrauj or black magic, it is your husband. He doesn’t love you, accept it and move on. Loving yourself also means letting him go. Lady, you give good advice but you don’t follow them. What’s the point? 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
The message is that love yourself and take care yourself first before you take care of others. Also when you have money that is when your life will be broken. So save some and spend some. Majority Hmong man face get thick when they started to have money and they forget who was the one that make them who they are. That is why it’s not good to have a lot of money.
So sad sister. At the end of the day, love yourself. Your kids will one day leave you. Your husband has already done so. I’m going through the same things but with my kids leaving and I’m no longer their first choice. So just do you. Live your life the way you’ve always wanted and die happy. That’s all I can say for now.
Your story is a heart breaking! I was once a substance’s abuse, domestic violence and Marriage and family therapist. I learned that, It runs in all cultures and races. The rule of thumbs are love yourself and take care of yourself first before others. Care for others who care for you with the awareness that any thing can goes against you or wrong. Learn to be independent with out others. There are lesser and lesser of good people or husbands and wife. Choose wisely! “Qoob tsis zoo ces rau chiv, poj sev txij nkawm tsis zoo ces nrauj es mas xaiv ntxiv!”. This is the rule now….
Nej cov niam tsev xav kom tu txiv hlub yuav tsum xyaum ua khaw koob meka mi ntsi thiab thaum nw ua nej yuav tsum nthawv ciaj nthawv tuag sab hauv tuaj thiab ma zoo nyob hv tu txiv thiaj hlub nej ua txhua thaj li nta mus ua poj laib paub paub aim txhua thaj thiaj nyiam ua poj laib dua
This is a very sad story and I can only imagine the heartbreak this aunty and her girls are feeling. Honestly, Like this aunty said, Hmong women need to support one another.
Forget that dog, Ntuj will punish him one day. He will get his turn and he will regret losing you and your kids. Sit back and watch. Be happy and love yourself, forget him. Blessing to you 🙏🙏
Hmong women. I understand it’s easier say than done but there are helps out there. You don’t have to put your self-worth so low that you forget your worth. You don’t need your relatives’ approval to leave your husband and you don’t have to listen to their force to go back and live a miserable life. They don’t live your life and you don’t have to do what they think is best for you. Know your worth, use your brain and listen to your heart. Be happy Hmong sisters 💛
Keej tas los keej thiab, zaum no zaum twg los kho siab dhau li lawm and zoo nkauj txaus los zoo nkauj tshaj li. Thov kom koj tsuas tau ntsib txoj kev noj qab nyob zoo, ua tsaug.
The reality is that our HMONG culture is EXACTLY like what this lady said!! Woman are enslaved and men just sit around like kings. Reminder: This is the 22nd century and we do not need to follow any MAN MADE rules anymore. Live the life you want, be happy, be content and please yourself first before pleasing anyone else. YEs, there are comprises if you're married but ladies, you do not have to lower yourself to anyone else. You don't need to stand up for what is right and fight for your rights when needed. Sometimes, we gotta learn the hard way before learning the easy way. Good luck to all women out there.
I think only in certain families, not in mine or those who are closed to me at all. It is quite surprised and disturbed to hear that some Hmong people treat their wives like slaves and dirt. If her story was so true then I would not totally blame on the husband. It was her very own fault too that she couldn't leave him but rather be his slave for so long.
That is why we need to start treating our children as equals. Boys are not better than girls. Girls are not lower than boys. I teach my boys to treat their sisters as humans. How our boys treat other ppl's daughters is up to us. How long our daughters put up with bs is up to us.
@@tswjntug2346 Well, in her defense, she was kidnapped as a preteen and forced to marry, serve and obey him. She didn't know anyone other than him so I can see why she's afraid to leave. I'm actually more surprise that you are surprised to hear that some Hmong people treat their wives like slaves. You must live a very sheltered life to not see that in our community.
Sorry to say but if you marry a non-Christian get ready for the "party every weekend" life, make sure you have a good apron and shoes. 90% will always follow this path and worst if they become Pathan or some clan leader. Good luck to all you sisters, make the best choice for your life.
Cas koj thiaj yuav hlub koj tus thaub laus no npaum no nas poj hmoob koj tsuas hlub li hlub tau xwb tsis tas yuav hlub koj tus taub npaum li koj ua rau ces tsis ntev yuav rauc los nyoo koj kiag xwb
yog tshaj plaw li o niam lau aw ntiaj teb no ce sau 6 txiv neej hmoob phem thiab tsim poj niam xb o yu txhob hai xb yog yu hai tseem muab yu ntau thiab tu siab 6 txiv neej hmoob tshaj plaw li o
cov niam tsev hmoob mekas aw nej nyob mekas teb nej kav tsij ua pauj thiab mas txhob ruam ruam os peb nyob thaib teb peb peb ua tsis tau chim siab tshaj li os hmoob aw
Hais rau cov txiv dev laus nas, laus tas lawm tsis txhob xav xav ntsoov txog nej rab niag qaus laus zoo nyob xwb nawb tsam ces nej tsis muaj lub chaws tuag os
Nrog tu siab kawg Tus niam tsev no, tau ib tug “Yuam Yij” vim yog zij, yog yuam yuav xwb. Tiam 21 no, cov “Yeem Yij” yog cov coob lawm, txheej no vim sib2 yeem mam sib yuav.
Txhob tu siab os zoo siab hlo tias nws mus lawm hnub no mus ces yus dim kiag ib tug mob lawm xwb yus twb tau khov zoo tas lawm cij hnub no mus ces tus tov cuas tau khov paj xo pob tw lawm xwb os
Kuv rog ,qig taub,laus tshaj li lub noob nyoog ,kuv tus txiv kuj tsis complain kuv .Nyob ntawm tus txiv txawj xav Siab zoo xwb os. a good husband will love you unconditionally .
She has a point, love yourself & take care of health & fitness while your husband still one heart with you - once they have a taste outside they might think Resturant food is better than home cook. Make sure your home cooks is as good as possible & they most likely not go eat out
sisters, learn to cater food, don’t worry about saving money, worry about your health. I’ve been slavering for 20 years myself and I’ve learn to use other resources and not myself.
Kuv mas dhuav cov txiv ua cawv quav Beers tub nkeeg xav muaj suab muaj npe tab sis xav kom tu poj niam ua qhev log chiab xwb hos tus txiv mas ua huab tais xwb ntxim ntxub kawg .
tus me niam tsev aw hlub koj tus kheej hnub no koj laus phem qias neeg lawm … koj tas nqis lawm txhob wuav ntsej ib tug txiv tsis hlub koj vim koj ruam dhau lawm, tseem nws los lus koj tsuas tau ib tug dev laus tuag aws lawm xwb… cia nws mus nws txhob yuav nws lawm nej cov niam tsev hmoob no yuav tau hlub nej tus kheej.
Hmong women need to wake up and value themselves, love themselves, respect themselves. Instead of teaching your daughters to be a good daughter in law it's ok but most importantly teach them to be self independent and to not have to live a life like yours. Not to let their husband control everything. Sister you choosed to still stayed and you are still waiting for your husband to come home. He comes when he feels like it or when he wants or need money from you. You need to canceled him out of your accounts. Changed your house into your children name. Do not let him have access to your bank account. Don't know why you don't just divorce him but being you are you and you are still holding onto hope that he'll come back to you. Best thing and the smartest thing was listening to your children and changing your life insurance to your son's as the beneficiaries. See how quick he got onto you about that. He's expecting to collect your life insurance policies. Your ex son in law hopefully your daughter pressed charges of attempted murder on him. Evil man. They'll killed to get rid of the old and in with the new. She should've reported him for pedophile especially knowing that that girl isn't of age.
Cov niam tsev zoo2 nkauj ces tai diam twb tsis kam ntxhuav yuav ua abtsi mas xam tus txiv ua xwb. Cov txiv neej ua hais phem2 rau cov poj niam tsis txhob xav tias yuav tus hluas2 yuav zoo heev duas tabsi tsis paub nwg twb yuav kiaj ntawm koj mus sai2.
Ladies, love yourself! There is no need to work this hard for others who don't even appreciate you. Instead of teaching our girls to be good nyabs we need to teach them how to be financially independent. When they are independent they are less likely to stay in an abusive relationship because they have the means to leave. I hope this lady can leave her husband for good and divorce him. Sadly, sounds like she's still secretly waiting for him to stop his affairs and come back to her.
