My wife asked if I would stick by her if she ends up in a wheelchair. Of course I would, It's the deal I signed up for. And you'd do the same for me. Her reply.... No I wouldn't that's not what I signed up for. I said you're joking right? Nope. So I left her. I bet all these years later she is still clueless why I walked out a few month's after and when she tried to get me back I never replied to her calls or texts. Why would I waste my life caring for a woman who couldn't care less about me.
That's very disheartening. I went through some tough medical times. My woman took care of me. However, I have total control of all of my wealth. I don't like to think of What if...
@@Ace.0.0.0. she laughed at me like I was an idiot for saying it. ...Mother of my son was even worse. I asked her to marry me. Her reply. No you don't earn enough money. She didn't even hesitate rolled right out. FWard 10 years. She asked why I don't ask her to marry me. Told her because I don't earn enough money. But you do now. No I don't, there is never going to be enough of anything to ever make you happy. At the time we had everything we ever needed. I'd given her everything and she still wanted more ownership of me. I felt she didn't care to work with me to build anything. Gave me nothing but trouble all the way. So I gave her what she really wanted. I walked out with only the shirt on my back I took zero and started again alone. She lost everything in a short time. That's when the wife came. But you know that story. Been single twelve years now and wouldn't give up that inner peace for any of them. For the amount we go through and the very little we receive in return, practically zero. I see no worth in giving all of myself again. I walked both times took nothing. Funny thing is, I like having nothing I have always been able to build anything from nothing. The only way either of them shared that kind of talent was with me. They are both bitter old bags now with nothing and lost their only fall back. (Their good looks.) Now they are nasty and ugly. Outside finally caught up to match the inner. Hope it all works out for you brother surely they can't all be that bad. Surely some of them must have a decent moral compass.
@@tonymarshall9670 I think I found a good one. I vetted her for 5yrs, then in the mid 90s I made her an honest woman. We've had our ups and downs. I am willing forgive mistakes and the occasional bad day- all of us get them. But I have no patience left for disrespect. She knows about sunk costs. I have told her calmly that if I do not get basic respect, at the minimum, I will walk. I pay all of the bills. Her life is much better with me in it. We give each other space.
I broadsided a car on my motorcycle at 50 MPH, was thrown over 100 feet but due to my gear had nothing but soft tissue damage but I couldn’t move and due to my concussion had TBI. Three days after accident wife wanted to know why I didn’t cook dinner. 😂😂 Well my ex wife now
@@alfatir14 no, she told me this when I thought I had a cancer diagnosis. Literally while I was in the doctor's office. For me, that was the beginning of the end
@Martin-jk2ng I hear you. But that probably wasn't the beginning. That's more than likely when you first took notice. The blessing is that you found out how she really is.
Had an ex who was overweight, sweet, and broke. I helped her increase her income via grow her career path and after 3.5yrs she left. 9 months later she was engaged to a loser from another country that her dad hooked her up with. This dramatically changed me. I got incredibly fit, and don't treat women the way Disney wants men to do.
Yah.. this disney princess bullshit.. unless it like guy from alladin honestly haha.. cause all say they want it but think a bit of hogwash unless he rich
I hope that engagement with the other guy faltered, never has success dating again and her looks fade You deserved better my guy. What you offered her was priceless and it never meant a thing to her
This subject is really personal because my brother worked 2 jobs for 7 years to allow his wife to go to school full time and after graduating and becoming a doctor she left my brother even though he is the whole reason that she is where she at today
I know a woman my mother friend back in the , 70s did the same exact thing. She out him through school he became a lawyer left her for. A white and his wife was half Spanish
Y’all are the male equivalent of feminists, just generalising women and blaming them for everything. I thought you guys would hate feminists for that very reason?
When i married my ex husband he was broke, helped him get his visa to be legal, helped him start his dream business. When the business prosper he got a young, high maintenance woman and abandoned me and our child after 15 yrs of married. My point is, it is not about being man or woman it is the moral value of a person.
that happened with a cousin of mine. she basically payed for his law school and he graduated and became a lawyer because of her, but later left her alone with their disable child and stole disable welfare money from them and even tried to steal the child from her.
Sir that was literally a hypothetical “?”; furthermore, why would you risk going to prison and jeopardize your relationship with the woman you so claimed to love? I understand it may be under certain circumstances, but you have to realize that woman is going to have a life outside of you. The same way you will have a life outside of her if the shoe was on the other foot.
Well, there are lots of amazing women out there who will do this. But the fact is, if you didn’t grow, she would have dumped you. She stuck because you grew. Women who dump their partner because he isn’t doing well aren’t bad women at all. It’s just their nature and we must learn to understand them for who they are
My grandfather came with me and my dad on a trip to Venezuela to visit family when I was young, my grandpa was 75 and bald but he had 25-30 year old Colombian women all over him at the beach, but he went back home to Iowa with my nana instead, couldn’t be me
Bro what you disagree with grandpa being loyal to his wife? I’m confused is there a point to your story or are u just saying that you would cheat on your wife at 75 years old
@@pavelmartinov4478 lol honestly I couldn’t imagine looking at my gpa funny because he didn’t cheat on my gma at 75 I don’t understand how 17 people like that it’s crazy
@@acp8106 idiotic take. That’s the point being made here. A REAL MAN wouldn’t leave for any stupid ass reason, ESPECIALLY if the love of his life is sick 🤦🏻 projecting much?
@@xx3astmanxx287 ok maybe you specifically wouldn't leave. But if you're honest with yourself you know most men leave when the wife or girlfriend gets sick... like really sick talking terminal. Bffr
Women can love men too, don’t let this redpill community fool you into thinking differently. Women can love men with all their hearts and will support and stay by them no matter what. It’s toxic what this community is doing to men and their attitudes and relationships towards women
Her value increase. His decreased or stayed the same she will leave. Just like the dude who worked two jobs. Put his girl thru college. Found her a nice career. Then she left him. Stating she makes more then him lol
Massive generalisation. And don’t pretend like the reverse isn’t true, plenty of men leave their wives because their value has increased and they think they can get better
@@rudelimit12 is it just men vs women now? That’s not productive. This is not a competition of who is worse, both are capable of doing the wrong thing so let’s not put all the blame on one side.
@@cailinbees4507Thats a fuckin lie, Men dont leave a woman just because his value increases, You are speaking of the very small minority, Men dont leave, Women do.
Very true. My husband is such a good person. After having a baby and post partum depression I gained 50 lbs. From having a very nice body. He's not mean or judging about it. So far I'm down 10 lbs. and working on the rest. I want to keep myself up for him.
Your husband knows that your weight gain is from carrying you and his baby. He'll continue to treat you well, and you should continue to do your part working on yourself as well. It's work on everyone's behalf.
Yo believe this man. I had a chick ask me if she was fataly injured would I stay in said of course I love you. The. She said what if you got hurt and thang didn't work. Would u be ok wit me tending to my needs. Y'all seen that meme with the African dude DO ME A FAVOR AND GET OUTTA HURR, GEEEEETTTT OUTTA HERE MAN.
I’m so glad to have had the chance to hear to the intelligent and traditional mind of Kevin Samuels. His words were the cure for the social cancer of Tom Leykis.
I know three marriages that ended where the wife was going to school while my friend worked and when they got their careers all of them cheated and divorced. Two cheated with higher status guys and one with a “yes” man.
Because for most men, it's not about feelings. Once you make a commitment to do something, you stick with it, and deal with the challenges along the way. It's the same as committing to a big goal. You could also see this as a form of LOYALTY! Most women don't have this level of commitment, and I don't blame them. They are just not made like that.
@@versatilelord8893 Look man, I don't try to change the world or change female nature. I just adapt and work to get what I want in life, that's it. Best of luck! 👍🏾
i knew a woman whose husband doesnt want her anymore because of another woman. the husband is 60 years old. his wife is in her 40s. and the husband's new woman is 30. i remember seeing her cry and she has children. The husband didnt have the guts to tell her. Her relatives told her because they caught him with another woman. the husband doesnt want to talk to her and just blanked her.
It does happen just like women divorce their husbands taking at least 50% of his wealth and then ho sleep with younger men. But the why is the most important part to your sentence. People aren't just born to be nasty to each other unless there is more to the core story.
Why ? She used sex as a weapon ? Most of these men are in sexless marriages for whatever reason an these women expect thier husband/ long time boyfriend to accept that…He’ll 2 NO 😂
I will stay with my husband until the day I die. We made our vowels and I will live by them. We have been through sickness and poor and it didn’t break us.
Men have served divorce paper to wife in hospital battling cancer.My friend suffered a heart attack and stroke during csection.She and her husband were in the military.He dumped her and the baby instantly. Her mom took the baby and her and cared for them.He bolted!!!.These were young family.First child.I have lots of recieptsKevin.Where are yours?
a woman goes further in her career and her income goes up. Her man is no longer suitable. She will feel she needs a man that makes more at that point in time. She will say we are growing apart...They really aren't. she is looking at him different because her income increased and now she feels he doesn't deserve her
ain't no way in the hell I would leave my wife of 40 years for the junk and debris out there now. she has never worked a job. she raised my 2 children to be great adults. And she keep $100k in her simple purse all the time. I'm greatful to my spouse . thank you.
I definitely feel that… women feel like if they surpass you financially, you’re no use to them, regardless if they were there while you were the bread winner at first and going thru hardships… the moment they pass you, immediately… they start looking elsewhere
Men are good people…but men are more likely to leave if she gets sick and every 5 to 6 hours a black woman loses her life at the hands of her partner…but men are good people
Women are good people...but women are more likely to cheat on their partner if he doesn't make a lot of money or is not providing enough for her...but women are good people
He ain't lying. Happened to me. I got laid off and it wasn't too long after that we started having "troubles". Her medical career kept rising and I found it difficult to get back to my pre laid off level..
her value increases and his decreases- she's outta there so fast - I've seen this happen. It's happening to me right now- There is some solace in hearing Kevin speak this truth, not matter how ugly it is!
Disagree. One of the age old stories is a career man with upward mobility trading in a long time partner/wife for a younger conquest, usually a secretary. Men move on in a heartbeat. Too many non career men went out for "cigarettes" and never came back.
What kind of woman was she to those men, there are three sides to every story, his hers and the truth!!!! So I say, what was the reason why they the men left left?
@@cailinbees4507 women need to learn to cook clean and stfu. then nobody would leave them. all that talking makes someone want to get out of there asap
@@cailinbees4507pe, men don't change as long as you are holding up your end of the agreement. Let's just focus on the main reasons that don't involve violence in the relationship. Men aren't the ones who change 9x out of 10 once a ring comes into play but women do. THE SAME THINGS YOU DID TO ATTRACT ARE THE EXACT SAME THINGS WOMEN HAVE TO DO TO KEEP HIM.
It’s so true though I gotta admit it. Before I was healed I don’t know how my husband handled my issues from trauma but he handled them and his feelings and love for me never wavered. He taught me how to be a better person because his grace for me was so effortless.
I have seen so many cases in which men send women to school to increase their earning levels by working hard and sacrificing, in return she gets her paper and leave the man.
This man always paints woman in a bad light, basically says men are better, more loyal and do more for women. I know more women who have been loyal and wronged by men. A lot of this is this man's opinion. Sure there are bad men and women out there but he speaks like women are one way and men are another. Most people don't even know he was divorced 2 times. He'd probably tell you it was their fault. If he had 2 failed marriages do you think he had any fault in it? He makes comments to women about them not being married. The hypocrisy
Actually he has openly talked about his divorces on several of his shows and not once did he blame his ex-wives. In fact, he took responsibility and said he wasn't the man he needed to be. I agree that this is a general opinion backed by anecdotal experience but I see what he's saying. And he's not saying ALL women would leave. The key word is general which I would agree. For the most part, because women are hypergamos, they would be more likely to leave if they increased in value with age. But since women don't, we won't really know for sure, even though this opinion makes a lot of sense to me and a lot of men because it's based on the fact that women date men who are "better" than them (height, finances, intelligence, etc). So if they do increase in value, they would satisfy their natural instincts to get the best option they can get for FOMO(Fear of missing out). Ive seen it with women who lose weight or earn significantly more money than they used to.
Women always say they were wronged by men, even if you catch them cheating. She'll say he went crazy and ACCUSED me of cheating. Accountability/agency is kryptonite to women.
It really gets me how people talk in absolutes like we're all the same with the same desires and reactions to certain things.. he says men are good people. I think we all know someone we consider to be an asshole. Others say women are all the same, this to is BS. There are no absolutes and everyone needs to be evaluated on there merits and on a personal basis, not lumped into a group and judged accordingly
Not all men are good people. That's a surprisingly naive thing for him to say. There are loads of cases where middle aged men divorced their wives and married younger women. It's practically a cliche.
@@darrellholmes2880 Three main reasons: 1. Despite both the husband and wife working outside the home, the wife is expected to do the bulk of the cleaning and childcare as well. Husbands also experience psychological distress if their wives make %40 or more of the income they make, often leading the husband not to support the wife in her career goals, leaving her to feel abandoned and alone. 2. Women take on more of the emotional burden in the family, often becoming the sole emotional support for the members, which takes an increasing toll over the years. 3. Women no longer tolerate consistent bad behavior. There was a time when a wife was financially dependent on her husband and was helpless if he cheated on her, physically or emotionally abused her. Now wives have their own income and can leave if their husbands indulge in hurtful actions that damage her and the relatioship.
If she gives you her best years, her youth, stay with her forever. If she gives her youth to everybody else, everybody else can have her. I am not paying for what everyone else got younger, better and for free.
When a man is in love with you… few women would stick around like this but trust there are women out there caring for their paraplegic husbands and some husbands who abandon their wives when they get cancer so I’d say well affirmed and committed men and women would stay “for sickness and in health”
He's telling you facts because when my ex-wife lost her good-paying job it was no problem but when I lost mine that's when the shit the fan and that's exactly what she did
Nope! I wanted an average man even though my parents would have preferred I married a doctor from one of the hospitals my dad worked at. I already paid attention to that lifestyle and it definitely wasn’t for me. I’m great where I’m at with my husband. I’m very comfortable. I’m not living in a ridiculously big house or having maids and a chef. I don’t want anyone handling my unmentionables and I’m extremely funny about how my food is cooked. I’m decorating my back and front yard myself because I know exactly what I want.
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If a good man married a woman, and her value either decreased, or rose to a point that was still less than his, he would still remain married. Because he doesn't view her as being better or worse. A woman will leave a man if she feels her value is greater than his, even when it's not
I’m happily married. I can’t imagine a more perfect woman than my wife, but here is the reality of the world we live in. If we divorced, we would both leave the marriage multimillionaires because we have done well, and my wife is very successful. Even as amazing and attractive as she is, in her 40’s with two kids, she would have trouble finding a high value man. Meanwhile as I’m approaching 50, I would have my pick of young attractive ladies because of my financial status.
Sorry to break it to you. You said you could both leave the marriage as multimillionaires right? She can find high value man because she has a lot to bring to the table as a multimillionaire herself. Your kids included.
@@trueblue5336 I hope you’re right because we won’t break up, but if I died I would hope she could find someone great. According to people like Kevin Samuels, men wouldn’t care about her having money. He argues that the kind of guy who has high value and his own money can get a young girl with no kids so why would he choose a woman in her 40’s with some other guy’s kids? But then again, every guy I know is jealous of my wife and joke with me about it. They’ll complain about their wives then look at me and say ”You’re lucky. Your wife is awesome!” 😀
@gstathos75 Kevin may have been right but there are exceptions to the rule and single mothers/ widow do remarry. All I can say is don't take her for granted. She has a lot to bring to table for another guy if you slip up.
After 30 years of marriage, in feb 2022 I was diagnosed with blood clots in my legs and had to retire. My retirement wasn’t as much as I used to make 6 Months later wife filed for divorce. Wife took half my 401(k) sold the house turn my kids against me
And then men turn 45 and go through midlife crisis, end up leaving the wife for a younger woman who makes them feel young and potent again. The wife sacrificed her life, youth and beauty, raising children and caring for the family and she's being disposed of. This was the status quo of my generation. I see your point too though, the pendulum seems to have swung the other way.
@@sheldonstrong895 it didn't happen to me personally, but I've seen it happening so many times, beautiful wifes falling in depression because they have been discarded, not cool. I am not bitter, I don't want this fate for myself
The men didn't keep the women in the book of Malachi. During biblical times, they were ALWAYS putting women away BECAUSE they were old. They even took multiple wives and cheated. lol
Unfortunately, that is NOT true in all cases. Some men DO break promises. BOTH sexes are NOT perfect. As it, it is written, (KJV): Romans 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. 2 For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. 3 For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin in the flesh: 4 That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. 5 For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit. 6 For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. 7 Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be. 8 So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God. 9 But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his. 10 And if Christ be in you, the body is dead because of sin; but the Spirit is life because of righteousness. 11 But if the Spirit of him that raised up Jesus from the dead dwell in you, he that raised up Christ from the dead shall also quicken your mortal bodies by his Spirit that dwelleth in you. 12 Therefore, brethren, we are debtors, not to the flesh, to live after the flesh. 13 For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live. 14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God. 15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father. 16 The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:
I will stick by my husband till forever i said to him if you became unwell would you think I would look after you he said oh yes you would care for me like no other 😊 … he knows me. So not all woman are the same and not all men are the same 😊
I'm not mad but my stepfather died last year. I own everything in our marriage and he helps me to keep it. I'm not mad. He works pays bills and helps me when I ask. It's true.
Going to jail is irresponsible for the children. You want to be the provider then you complain xuz you lost your job? Anyway it's not true, women have been the main breadwinners for many years only their job is usually an "unskilled" one which means they don't get pension, thy don't get shit
Older men leave their aging wives every day because a younger woman has made them think that they are 21 again. Even if they know that she is lying, they convince themselves that it is true. That wife does not have a chance. I have seen it many times, and so have you. That senior crisis is serious.
Men are good people as an a man not a boy, but that being said it depends on the person because if you love someone you’re not gonna get rid of them because of their age, if you love someone, you’re in it for the long-haul
"Men will keep their women.." - you have had 2 women, as your 1st and 2nd wife, what happened, those women wasn't yours, or you didn't make them yours?
@@cailinbees4507 yes..u are right but I don't khow the back story behind it.. But eventually it led to something that is making change in people's perspective.. How important are the gender roles in family..the coming generations need it.. So im thinking about it positively.. Am i wrong for that sir ?
@@mogli1256 sure, gender roles can be very important and they seem to have been disappearing. But this man does not talk positively about traditional gender roles though, from what I’ve seen he puts all the blame on women for everything. This is the pendulum swinging the other way from feminism (where men are blamed for everything). This “redpill” community that claims to value traditional roles yet spreads divisiveness and contempt of women, certainly not a net positive & certainly not strengthening the relationships between men and women and family
@@cailinbees4507 yep feminism and redpill are both going to the extremes..but finding a middle ground for me and my partner in future that's the education and wisdom i would like to have... blaming and criticizing either side this much will eventually lead to establishing loneliness throughout.. What i have got to khow is u have to become a man that ur women can respect & depend upon and women should learn to think for herself without putting her family to side ! Something like this..i dont khow the strong and correct words to explain my thoughts.. But i need to improve to live happily in this changing world that's what i got out of it..! 🤜🤛
Sometimes I believe that this man just only had opinions NOT facts (God rest his soul) but if that was the case then why did I prosper more than the guy that currently left ME?
He had a lot of opinions based on facts. Just look at your female friends. How many of them left their husband? How may of them single at 40? How many had kids out of wedloc? Multiple babie daddies? Then look at the men they reject.
And y'all not answering MY question only his...... I'm still lost because I had a guy previously just stop talking to me when I got my own place and continue to grow while he still live with his mom but I gave him a choice to come with me....and one day I woke up and chose HONESTY. I didn't like the way he spoke to me one day and ever since then POOF he left ME...🤷🏾the only reason why I'm still lost is because the feelings/emotions are still fresh and I still care and love him so I'm trying to figure it out BUT I will NOT stress myself about it. It's still some women out here who don't judge a man for what he has but for who he is...well I thought who he was lol🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾
This is a serious eye opener I wish I would have known about this brother afew years ago yeah,he says some funny stuff sometimes but he's extremely sincere about his message for us to get it right Thank, Kevin Samuels 🙏
