The second part. May those ancestors open this girl's mind so she can understand that she's an adult and she's in charge of her own success in life. May she find healing and happiness.
@@shibumahlobogoane493 very true..some of us njengami grew up without d love n support of both parents n old as iam have never been with both my parents but was raised by my grandmother kodvwa ngafunda n went to university...the situation I grew under made me to be determined in my heart kutsi ngifundze n with God's help am independent today...so people should own up their mistakes yokungalaleli those who were guiding them..i feel pity for those who dropped out of school coz of lacking support
@@shibumahlobogoane493 Dude my Mom passed away when I was 4years 10months, I do not know where my supposed father is, and it doesn't bother me anymore. We need to make life of our own and stop blaming the absence of parents. Its up to an individual to make it work, life is not fair like that.
The girl must wake up, she's old to force people to love her, I'm 23 and I started looking after my self when I was 16, I never sow my father and I don't need anything to do with him... I can't force love from people who left me when I was still a clot of blood
Family is very important. No matter how old you are, no matter how rich you are, humbling yourself and giving your family chance to be with you is valuable
Aaaai the second show wow this gal is crazy xem u can’t blame ur father for ur stupidity...u can’t drop out to school because of that... here I am today I lost my mom at every early age and I ddnt knw my father but today I have my diploma and working..I am independent because I knew what I want...so sisi grow up and stand up for ur self
Is primary and high school education not for free in public schools in South Africa 🇿🇦,everyone who grew up without a father or mother we hear the very same story of a blaming culture to their failures. She’s still very young there’s more room for improvement she can still go back to school and pursue her studies. At least she had her mother some people will grew up without both parents but still make it in life. Against all odds
Mahali Selepe - that’s sad I have always thought education is free on government schools 🏫 thought one has to pay if its private which you normally call multiracial schools etc
@@brendonmartin9550 that will be nice but the go will be broke unless he get fundraisers , donations and most people don't do that in Africa far behind.
she dwells so much on the past , blames all the external factors for her own short comings , hopes she grows up and takes responsibility of her own life because wow
Being fatherless in the black communities of South Africa is so normalized now hence people in the comment section are repulsed by Nyeleti for being angry and expressing her hurt to her dad,Our parents have a duty to raise us,it's not a favour so she has every right to express herself,Stop invalidating her feelings just because growing up without a dad is your new normal!
tsk tsk tsk, l am sure there are successful people who grew up without both or either parents. let’s learn not to blame our failures to absent parents( still alive) especially if you are legally an adult. l know we are people who follow cultural rituals but most people on this show think if they appease our ancestors, life gets better. l would love to see khumbul’khaya do a follow up on some of the participants. l feel sorry for some of these people & wish they find “closure “ & happiness after this.
Weh sesi nyeleti ukurin sukel ku blame papa kuv utsikhe xikolo. Loko papa wehe avalo kuteka wahar tsongo sweswi awuta Rila u ku mhana weh vaku siyini kava papa weh.
One thing I have realised is that anger will never solve your problems , instead find peace and stop the blame game because it will never help you to grow and move on. Most people always put the blame on their parents yet whatever happened between the two has nothing to do with you. Find peace and move on with your life.
you don't blame the man for dropping out of school ...you should have been thoughtful enough to complete your matric and atleast blame him for staying at home because of lack of money to pay tertiary funds.
Abandonment issues a real. She truly needed her father. She had a dad shaped hole in her heart. Not everyone copes well with such issues. The pain of not having a father can be paralysing for some people. It affects them for their entire lives. It's not fair for you to expect her to react the same you did. You don't know how she grew up and what she faced just because her mother worked on a farm meaning she lived there most of the time and her father was not there. Her mother tried her best. She has every right to express her pain. Deadbeat parents who walk away from their children need to see that they leave behind broken hearted, living breathing human beings not stones.
Eish the second story inzima. This girl will cause trouble if she goes to stay with her father. She wants her own room, money, uku thwasiswa ahhh too many demands. She is so entitled and will not last in this home and yet her father is so humble and sounds genuinely sorry for abandoning her.
Kasi why vanhu va tshika xikolo in the name of bcz my parents (mom or dad) was not there, not to say that a father is not important but to my experience when you have a mother that strive for you and support your vision you have everything. Stop blaming people and take control of your life people , you in this alone just thank God that somehow you survived.💔 mo' gurl go back to school you still young ani se vo mba wena uva kumile🤗
Life gives us different experiences and we each respond different to those experiences, no two situations are ever the same. We shouldn't group people based on our own experiences.
@@muhlekazi3498 i agree with you there....khumbule ekaya is my fav show and 80% of people who come here are drop outs. All am saying is that your life doesn't have to stop because your dad or mom abandoned you.
I agree with you Kellz if you not positive about yourself first noma ungaba nabazali some people haven’t made it in life there are kids whom we grew with rich having everything but they grew to be something
E swiyimo swa vanhu ni mahanyelo yava manana aya fani...guess wena ur lucky to hv a good mother bt unfortunately the same can't b said bwt other mothers...dnt b narrow minded look at it holistically
Heish dis gal shi talks too much shems...My real dad hi told mi hi left mi when i was 4 months n hi only saw mi dis year April 2019 n um 26 n i was happy to c him ..All glory belongs to God..Its heartbreaking but yu need to dust urself n keep walking to ur destiny if hi is willing to help yu hi will definitely do to yu not forcefully demanding
Abandonment issues a real. She truly needed her father. She had a dad shaped hole in her heart. Not everyone copes well with such issues. The pain of not having a father can be paralysing for some people. It affects them for their entire lives. It's not fair for you to expect her to react the same you did. You don't know how she grew up and what she faced just because her mother worked on a farm meaning she lived there most of the time and her father was not there. Her mother tried her best. She has every right to express her pain. Deadbeat parents who walk away from their children need to see that they leave behind broken hearted, living breathing human beings not stones.
This second family the dad is a nice and humble man but the girl is talking so hushe of which the dad is trying to explain to her in a very good way please girl you're lucky to see him still are life
Ones Success is not tied to any person! This girl is uttering blame and not taking any responsibility. Her father explained his reasons, we cannot justify his actions but if she keeps this up their relationship will be hard to build
I'm interested to know what happens after filming Khumbulekhaya because the young lady in the 2nd Story is too demanding, too talkative and borderline rude as well
Yes if u don't have food on ur stamac ur uniform u look different from ather kids ur uprbing might affect u questioning ur self u won't understand really athers were depending ekubolekweleni uniform kwabanye Ababantwana 🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆
@ Londiwe n Edith, we are eating in the same plate. I was one of them and ges what? I am a teacher by profession now. And u know what! My uniform looked different from other kids
Bruv both of my parents are alive but they can't afford to pay for my fees so I use NSFAS, I've used different bursaries. Not having money is not an excuse here in South Africa.
First story this guy is hurt and the person with all the answers is no more, his looking for answers but your uncle probably had his own problems than to be busy looking for children his brother left.
She must learn to accept situation and be responsible of her life.because she can't force someone to love her.dropping out of school is her decision,she must stop blaming others.she is old enough to take care of herself.
Abandonment issues a real. She truly needed her father. She had a dad shaped hole in her heart. Not everyone copes well with such issues. The pain of not having a father can be paralysing for some people. It affects them for their entire lives. It's not fair for you to expect her to react the same you did. You don't know how she grew up and what she faced just because her mother worked on a farm meaning she lived there most of the time and her father was not there. Her mother tried her best. She has every right to express her pain. Deadbeat parents who walk away from their children need to see that they leave behind broken hearted, living breathing human beings not stones.
Abandonment issues a real. She truly needed her father. She had a dad shaped hole in her heart. Not everyone copes well with such issues. The pain of not having a father can be paralysing for some people. It affects them for their entire lives. It's not fair for you to expect her to react the same you did. You don't know how she grew up and what she faced just because her mother worked on a farm meaning she lived there most of the time and her father was not there. Her mother tried her best. She has every right to express her pain. Deadbeat parents who walk away from their children need to see that they leave behind broken hearted, living breathing human beings not stones. She craves what she never had like any child who didn't have a father growing up.
The 2nd girl should go back to school. Go back to school, and make something of yourself. Build a relationship with God and seek Him with all your heart, He can fill the void in your heart. You're too young to settle for such a life.
Take time to heel the more u block it doesn't go away I will rather him talk, cry, puch the wall whatever will let the anger go . I know people wants to block the past and move on believing me the wound will ne very sensible if u choose that way.
