Kidnapped by Mom, a Twilight Birthday & Loser Siblings | Gianmarco Soresi Stand Up Comedy Crowd Work 

Oooh... That 'no' came way too fast :D

come to orlando

is 5/3 standup?

No London again. We are not friends anymore

They could be bully’s.. you’re making assumptions

lmao right

@@jamesongogoleczko5932 ok

@@jamesongogoleczko5932 He said his siblings don't go out much because of health issues then said he calls them losers. As someone who doesn't go out much due to health issues, he's a bully.

right lmao he doesnt see the problem in his family because he is the problem

Please not with the armchair psychology, there’s so much nuance to these dynamics. It makes no sense to assume, for all you know they may be assholes or have “narcisstic” traits and he’s just equally and asshole or maybe isn’t and just was taught that tough love will help people. There’s various ways that who social setting can play out,l Yankees always want the most simplistic understand of human interaction smh

You guys are dumb as fuck. You don't anything about that family.

@@jamesongogoleczko5932 Still execution is garbage. Imagine you have disabled siblings and you say such things?? I don't see an excuse of insulting someone if that someone has shutdown after health problems. It doesn't matter how you've been tought, I had narcisist family with "tough" love and I looked at them, figured I shouldn't do it. Especcially to disabled or mentally difficult people no no, if you wanna be there for them be there for them if you don't want to cut them out. If you can't, be minimal with comminication and look forward. Not being direct or insulting people no matter what is a red flag for me

@@jamesongogoleczko5932 As someone who is a shut in due to health problems, I already tell myself I'm a loser everyday and feel terrible about myself cause I'm not physically capable of doing anything as much anymore. To be told that by someone who's supposed to care about me would break me. It's not tough love. It's bullying. He said it was because they had health issues and yet still calls them losers.

That’s typical family behaviour around the world

@@jamesongogoleczko5932 No it's not, actual tough love is common behavior around the world, but this man's wording is just straight up hurtful and shitty.

​@@jamesongogoleczko5932 no, that's abuse.

@@jamesongogoleczko5932 oh boy james, that's a loaded statement

@@jamesongogoleczko5932 If that's "typical" then that's a problem.

I love when I assume the horror exists in my own head because I'd rather be fucked up than the world being fucked up

see i was thinking that too because that whole "it feels like an infirmary in here" comment was sketchy. but i think we're probably just reading too much into it, right?

ngl I think he’s oversimplifying for the comedy show. esp as he led with “they’re pretty great”

@@koschei4716 tbh for my own peace of mind when I truly have no way of confirming a situations facts I try and assume it’s me just thinking the worst until proven otherwise but I’d be lying if I said the infirmary comment didn’t come off super sketchy.

@@caitie226 That’s honestly a reasonable conclusion too, it’s a show, it’s edited down and some people do just phrase things very poorly

Felt that as well

I'm currently dealing with a low point in my social anxiety and depression, luckily my parents and siblings never kick down, they actually make me feel like I have a lifeline, I'm lucky for that though.

Exactly. Tough love means not enabling the harmful behaviour out of niceness. Like, when someone is trying to quit drinking, not giving them a drink is tough love. Tough love is not an excuse to abuse a person "for their own good". In fact, there were a series of studies in the 1980s and 1990s that thoroughly debunked this idea of berating people under the pretence of tough love, and showed that it was utterly ineffective, if not actively harmful. So, whenever you see people saying things like "we have to shame obese people so that they get off their asses and lose weight", know that their opinions are scientifically incorrect. People need support to help themselves. You can't berate someone into bettering themselves. And here's the most important part: Even if you somehow succeed, and the person does introduce positive changes in their life because you yelled at them, in doing so you have created a new problem. A person must change from within, not out of shame. If a person changes because of your yelling, then that yelling became their motivator, and so they will continue to need a drill-instructor hovering above their head to do anything else in the future. (They could also develop resentment for their past self, which could contribute to lowered self-worth. You can't call someone a loser for years without it affecting them in some way.) This is precisely why therapists refuse to outright tell you what to do, because if they do, then you will become dependent on them to do anything.

It definitely reminds me of how I was a very shy, introverted child (still those things now lol), and seeing extended family was a major source of anxiety for me. So them teasing me for it when I did see them did NOT help. In fact, it made me want to see them *less* to avoid the possibility of them doing that to me.

"It's pretty hard to believe someone loves you when they are attacking you at your lowest." OOF, well said!!!

Yeah they're not cutting contact because of them, it's cause of the mom. It's a happy thing that they're free.

Same!! ​@@nj.7325

Yeah most kidnappings are actually family members. It's kidnapping because we can't just let kids be with unsafe adults, parents or not.

Even if the parents share custody, one can still kidnap the kid if they take them away somewhere without the other parents' knowledge and refuse to let them meet or goes no contact.

Yep there was one in my area several years ago where the kids were kidnapped by their father during a custody battle, and he killed them to "punish" the mother. It's truly scary.

@@rossherndon4548 omgsh that is terrifying

I think you'd be surprised by how common crazy people/situations are, just in the fkin wild 😅

At this point people probably go to his shows specifically to get an opportunity to tell their story.

There are a lot of crazy families. Just think, every Republican has a family.

Dude, almost every family has something fucked up. I have a fairly stable family, but I collect friends with sever family trauma like Pokémon cards

Me too 😂

Yes plz come to ireland! The crowd work will be ridiculously good! So much family drama/trauma 😀

You don’t know what his siblings are like, they may equally be the problem or even bigger assholes than him and he just gives what he receives or cares for them and thinks that’s how you motivate them

@@jamesongogoleczko5932 But that's clearly not how you motivate someone. There's been studies amongst depression/addiction/eating disorders/other mental health struggles showing that shame simply does the opposite. It sounds bad because it is bad, no matter how those people act. It's their ultimate responsibility to work on themselves, yes, but when it comes to mental health struggles it's just too complex to simplify to that. The effort your loved ones make can make a huge difference. These types of people are the ones who stop talking to their family for their own peace of mind (avoiding the ridicule and shame) and then the rest of the family acts surprised.

@@OldObscureUnpopularGames to add on to what you said, not enough people are talking about it maybe being MORE than just mental health issues. didn't the guy say they had HEALTH problems? not mental health problems specifically, but health problems? at least in my experience, usually people using that term mean someone is physically disabled - and if that's the case, they may legitimately be housebound, even if against their will. my own chronic illness has been worsening lately and I feel somewhat housebound. I barely ever leave the house even if I desperately want to, because it saps too much energy from me and makes me too miserable. it literally is not my fault. I cannot help it, no matter how much I wish I could. someone telling me I'm a "loser" for that, and that I should just "get out and get a job already", is flat out ableist, bigoted, and a terrible person. my hope is that the dude was joking around and his family is all in on it and they can all laugh about it, and he was just playing it up for the comedy show and isn't actually an awful guy.

Yeah that's hard because most of his best stuff isn't his routines, it's his responses to the crowd.

Aren’t Twilight movies like 2-3 hours each? What a first date, not talking!

@@martafiord You are right, we barely talked

This is why I love Gianmarco. Most "dark humour" comedians just use their jokes as a front to spew bigoted rhetoric. Gianmarco makes dark jokes _to_ make fun of bigots and bad people and he's more than happy to hold his own audience accountable.

Right, he was more respectful of these two guys than their own brother. Happens a lot sadly, that family members misunderstand and judge mental health issues in the family, and it can make things way worse.

@@virtheoni agree. And he shows them how it’s done. I’m tired of misogynistic, racist, etc comedians complaining that there cannot be comedy if they can’t touch all subjects. They wished they could still say “women be shopping” and everyone agreed with them, for example.

Agorophobe/fucking loser here, that dude would be the main reason I point to as to WHY I don't leave the house lmao Also anyone catch he said it seemed like an infirmary in their house... Maybe its because they have OCD, or maybe an ACTUAL high risk illness and rational fear of the horrific viruses that are floating around right now that people don't seem to realize those of us with health issues can't risk contracting such diseases, but whatever... At least I am a justified shut-in cuz if I was given Gianmarco tickets I would find the nearest plastic bubble and be in attendance

Sincerely hope you keep making good progress. I have been in a place when I've had to force myself to be able to get out of the house. It felt harder each passing day, and thankfully I realised that it would get worse if I didn't do something about it. My sister is currently in a very dark place and can't even get outside the door. I have a neighbour who is agoraphobic, and needs a helper to take her out. A friend's son is house bound due to a long term illness involuntarily desocializing him. Good luck and all the best to you!

Or, if you're visual, you can look at bad movie content from Danny Gonzalez, Drew Gooden, and Kurtis Conner too! They have DCOMs and more!

@@OldObscureUnpopularGameslemme add ‘pretty much it’ as well. they make commentary tracks about mostly bad movies and tv and post highlights on their youtube

@@OldObscureUnpopularGames oh, can definitely recommend watching the DCOMs before each podcast, double the fun

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I hope your situation gets better and your sessions get more consistent 🙏💕

@@Fluff_Noodlesplease stop enabling this kind of Yankee entitlement, this is exactly why people in you nation are self obsessed with themselves while your government is helping fund wars and genocides around the world.

😭😭😭 are they all named Tammy

Indeed but cold weather is actually good for ticket sales!!!

Agree!

Googled it cause that's what I initially thought too. It's more or less a broader term for unique families of step-parents and/or step-kids.

I first heard the term when the media was describing Kamala Harris's family in 2020 so I also assumed it meant mixed race

It means two or more different sets of kids, like if your mom marries my dad and then all of a sudden you and I are siblings.

i first learned about the term from the actual film Blended (2014) with Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler

divorced

Unless we’re physically disabled, we run, like anyone else. There is such a thing as mental illness and it can get very, very bad, there’s even a chance, bullied at the wrong time, one of us might delete ourselves from the planet. But I guess that’s ok? I’m getting a a bit salty about it because too many, NOT ALL, of the comments.

the term blended family has nothing to do with race though so no

@@alisonfields4688 Clearly most people aren't aware of the 'correct' meaning, that being a family with children from multiple different partners. You can say whatever you want and claim you mean anything you want, but if people don't understand what you're saying, it doesn't matter what the words actually 'mean'. He's doing the same thing in the clip, taking 'blended' family and equating it to a messed up family. FFS.

@@jbc5099 you’re not understanding his joke and that’s fine but you can chill tf out lmao. you’re just making shit up

​@@jbc5099I'm surprised it's not common knowledge to native English speakers what blended family means in terms of two divorced parents (or widow(er)s) with kids from their previous marriages blending into one new family unit to be raised together. Like Brady Bunch Style.

ill answer with phil hanley: comedy might not be for you ;)

@@allitupsar2065 people who need to make fun of others to be funny aren't actually funny.

@@amandasunshine2I get it, I’m pretty much a “shut in” because of mental illness. I’m super grateful I have family (not all of them) who understand. *too many typos rn, stress, ya know. :)

Nuh uh