fr my parents got divorced when i was only 4, i was crying so hard and yellingb"please daddy dont leave!!" and he left. Alot of ppl say "ur so lucky ur parents divorced, u get 2 holidays" no... Its not cool its hard.
no, family doesn't come in all shapes and sizes. That's just reworded better so it makes us feel better. Truth is, divorce is the end (most of the time). I rather be alone than stay with poison.
What to do when life gets though 1. Allow yourself to feel bad 2. Don’t ever feel like it’s you when it’s not your fault 3. Be generous to yourself don’t put yourself down 4. Don’t ever compare yourself to others 5. Remember great things take time it’s a process 6. Forget what people think about you because you know yourself no one knows you better than YOU 7. Remember you are stronger than you think I Believe in you got this !!! No words or no one can put you down. I hope this helps anyone or just gets a good message out there.
The kid acting as a daughter is an amazing actor! Complements to her! (And the guy acting as brother but the girl has been doing acting for longer so I wanted to especially complement her:
This was a hard story for me to process. As a Christian, I find the idea of divorce difficult but accept that it should be allowed in cases of adultery, domestic violence, and criminal behaviour. The parents deciding to break up at the end over arguments seems pretty trivial.
It's really not if you're constantly arguing and can never agree on something. If you and your spouse were consistently arguing, especially in front of your children divorce seriously wouldn't sprout into your mind?
I thank God every day for the parents He gave us. They were together until my mother passed away first, and years later my father. I am the youngest of seven and I had my parents until I was 40 years old. Thank you Lord!!!
OMG I'm so sorry for your loss everyone who are losing a member in your family exspesly people who are closer to you is hard losing families members I understand the value of losing someone who is closer to you i lost my grandfather almost there years ago and I'm still pretty sad
"We're better off as friends." That's better than not being on good terms. My parents have been separated since 2006, and divorced in 2011. They've not been on good terms. But in 2018, I went to Paris as an exchange student. Both of my parents helped me move in. It meant a lot to me, seeing my parents put their differences aside for the first time in years.
My friends parent has a divorce not gonna name him but I feel him me and my parents fight a lot it feels like they are not married but I feel you I am so so sorry
I had felt like my parents were on the brink of separation before. For now, they're fine at least. My dad said earlier that it was for the best because it makes them happy. Thanks for the video, Dhar Mann!
When your parents are seperated. They still love their kids, but not each other anymore. And even if your parents are separated, they are still your parents. There is no such thing as ex mother or ex father, because you are born with those.
The quote: “Families come in shapes and sizes.” There are times that families could have a decent future. However, there are times when families cannot have the best quality of their lives. They must figure out what is best for them. Thus, those families can have a great future. Thank you, Dhar Mann. God Bless You.
I wish my parents didn’t divorce when we were younger. They divorced when I was 9 and when my brother was 6. We didn’t get it at the time because of how young. Now that I am older I understand it more. It is very hard switching houses every weekend having different rules and expectations. But I still love them both very much!
That’s good thinking on the kids part because the parents always make the two kids work out their problems by sitting there forcing them to to sit there and talk about the problems that was a smart one smart thinking
Thank you Dhar for this vid. My parents got divorced last year when I was 12 turning 13, and it was really tough on me. All me friends left, or didn’t help at all when trying to console me because they had no idea what it was like. Everyone thinks divorce is great because of the “2 Christmas’s” thing, but it’s actually not cracked up to be anything good. It’s a big change to not have your teddy bear of a dad there in the morning coming to wake you up on Christmas with his coffee in hand. Holidays honestly just aren’t as magical anymore. I still love Christmas, it’s just hard to look across the table and see his chair missing. (We live primarily with my mom) I’m now 14 and doing a lot better, and thank you to whoever read this whole thing. If your going through something similar just know your not alone, I’m here holding your hand the whole way, and I promise I won’t let go. Edit: thanks for the sweet replies ya'll! Don't forget this is a safe space. If anyone wants to vent to me, I will be checking my notifications! 💗
This divorce is a lot nicer than the one My parents and us are going through. It’s a lot worse when your parents hate each other and try to convince you that the other parent is bad, abusive, doesn’t care about you, and whatever. There’s a lot more I can say but I won’t. If anyone is going through the same thing remember to respect both your parents no matter what, and pray, because having your parents life is like having your whole family torn apart, so stay strong
Broken families are a major problem in America. It takes forgiveness and unconditional love from both sides to have true reconciliation. It hurts the kids in deeper ways than they or the kids themselves realize for the parents to separate.
My mum seperated from my Step dad (he hit me and screamed at me and that stuff) and OMG i was SO HAPPY like a MIRACLE happend! Once my step dad said "they are gonna get married" and i started crying o-o thats how truamatic my life was XD
For me, the divorce of my parents happened when I was younger so I didn’t think about it so much. I was 8-9 at the time but I’m glad my mom thought about me, my younger sister (7-8), and my older brother (10-11) even if we were all of younger age 😌 Come to think about it, I do remember my mom arguing really loudly with my dad at times and I’d cry because I just didn’t like it. My dad didn’t want to stay in the area and wanted to move back with his own family over seas so we’ve never seen him in about 4 almost 5 years. We do call him here and there and he still calls to wish us a happy birthday
Can't imagine how hard it must be to find out that your parents are getting a divorce because it's like a mix of emotions, there's sadness and frustration and anger.
My Dad was cheating on my Mom and she initiated the divorce. My mom said something didn’t feel right and she was crying to get his love. He just kept leaving in the night. We as kids didn’t know what was going on and no one talked to us about what a divorce was. My dad disowned all of his kids. I was the oldest at 17 and the last to get disowned by my own father.
My mom and dad actully were fighting for like 2 weeks straight and it wasn't always easy because, they would ignore each other, at night my dad would say reasons why they shouldn't be together any more but like thanks to God I've been praying they don't break up and it actully worked out. So then my parents at night my dad was talking to my mom and my mom tried to tell my dad that she loves him and he lover her and they are Now back together ❤️ but my dads gone right now because of something but we still really miss him honestly!
My parents are divorced and I’m cool with it. But I was young and I don’t remember it. I normally wish I could stay longer then the other but I normally want to give both of my parents equal love. Thank you DHAR.
GREAT MESSAGE!!! Was worried the parents were going to stay together, but sometimes it is best for parents to go their separate ways for a better home life. Once my parents got divorced, everyone was so much happier. It was hard at first, but in the end it was the right decision. ❤
My parents divorced but me and my brother didn’t take it that badly:,) We did struggle but it was mostly financially and selling the house. I guess all of us could tell this was for the best
'Family comes in all shapes and sizes, sometimes they can't stay the same. Sometimes it may need to change so everyone can be happy'' Amazing Message Dhar
My parents had a divorce and i cried almost everyday for a year it was hard but i got over it. It really hit different watching this video, good job and god bless everyone reading this ❤
@@neymarlema596 if my parents did this this which was super close I would disappear with my siblings and won’t return them until they become a real man and women not going easy on the weak would leave them weak
Dhar Mann is so inspirational to me and I love his videos so much. I've been subscribed to Dhar Mann for about 2 years. Please keep up the amazing work. ♥️
Some of us could relate to this, divorce(s) are very annoying, terrifying and sad to deal especially when you love your parents with all your heart and must pick one of the parent in the end(if required). I feel extreme sorry for those children(s) who experience this.
Being someone with divorced parents, I can say that its not easy on anyone; yourself, your parents, your siblings, nobody...but sometimes, its not the failure of a marriage that's difficult, but living in an illusion that things will work out and turn out for the best; when in truth, sometimes the best thing is to accept the fact that the marriage isn't working out and that its for everyone's best interest to get a divorce. That was a lesson that took me a while to learn, but ultimately I did come to terms with it; because in the end, divorce and all, I still had my mom and dad...and that's all that mattered to me.
As someone who's been through my parents getting divorced. It was hard. It happened when I was in elementary school. And from then on my life sucked. Instead of talking to someone I bottled everything up I took my anger out on everyone by getting in trouble a lot. It took me a YEARS to understand and finally open up. It wasn't until high school when I finally chilled out. Basically, it's better to talk to someone about how you feel and not bottle it up. It's not your fault about stuff like this. Have a nice day yall
Me too. I just wished if mine had delayed their divorce for 10 years minimum. Because me and my siblings would have been young adults who just finished high school and not still in elementary school and still be traumatized from this day.
It is nice when parents can co-exist. My Mom and Dad, for the most part, got along fine, but there were too many differences in their personalities and their activities to make it last. Dad likes camping, Mom doesn't. Mom likes the beach, Dad doesn't. I don't necessarily think they couldn't stand each other, but I'm not so sure they'd want to spend a full day together. There was one occasion about 12 years ago where both sets of my parents and I stayed at my brother's house. They didn't really talk to each other much, but it wasn't because they didn't want to talk to each other. I found they spoke to each other when I would bring up a happier time. Then, they might recall happier moments in their lives. For example, Mom wanted "one piece Christmases". Nothing to put together and having a lot of pieces that could potentially be lost or broken. I asked Dad if he remembered that, and without hesitation, he said "Yep!" Mom also likes going to Dad's house on Christmas (If she's invited instead of just "barging in") because he decks out all the decorations. Again, I guess it triggers a happier time.
0:55 Exodus 20:7 reads: Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD thy God in vain; for the LORD will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain.
I have to say Dar Man, you actually got the video you hit a nail in the head because you know the family is trying to stay healthy for the kids and kids want the family to stay together and yet the two kids realised - maybe their parents been married was in such a great idea. I must say I like that Jenna in this video is played by Sophia and I’m subscribed to Sophia and I think she is an excellent
If your parents are allergic to one another, it is more difficult. While my parents can't stand each other, at least their parents referred to themselves as a family.
I wanted to take the time to thank you for making these videos. My parents divorced not so long ago and I'm 10 years old and your videos and lessons help me learn in different ways. Thank you - Aiden
I was close to your age when mine split up 22.5 years ago May of 2000. My folks asked what me and my siblings what we wanted for dinner. As kids we said Carl's Jr. They left together and my eldest sibling inquired why they were leaving to get the food together without us. Because we found it awkward because this was the first time they did this. They grew frustrated questioning their odd behavior and told us," do you want a decent meal for dinner or not?" We decided not to question them further and let them get the food for us because they all ready knew what we normally eat from Carl's Jr. And after we were all finished with are meals. Then told us to report to the living/family room that they had an announcement to make. They broke the news and told us that they were no longer going to be together. My eldest sibling was the first to cry. Followed by me mistakenly believing this was me and my siblings fault. My youngest sibling was somewhat the bravest and did not cry one tear. She did however not talk to my mom for a month after permanently kicking our dad out of the house forcing him to live as the loner in a divorced man's apartment. When the month ended my yougest sibling who didn't cry instead told my mom off telling her that what she did to our dad and us was wrong and very mean. Well she is not wrong because that was basically the most important day of my life that would affect how or who I would be during my adult hood. A wreck.
Hello There Dhar Mann So Great to watch This Video I know how hard Divorces are My Parents Got Divorced When I was a Kid But it’s ok it happened when I was a Kid but I love both of my Parents Dhar Mann have you Ever Had Chili ? Before like the food ? Because I have and it’s Yummy I appreciate how much you put into all of your videos and Glad you Make Videos On Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday and Friday Have a Great Weeknd
You know, watching this video reminds me of the time when my parents got divorced. You see, that had happened to me when I was a little kid. My parents tried to make their relationship work, but it just doesn't go well; it's kind of a long story. I've ended up living with my mother. It's so hard not to see my father more often; at first, my relationship with my father went rocky because of his new wife whose I have trouble getting along with so that's another reason why I don't get to hang out with him more often. Then, as time passed, I'm beginning to visit my father less and less until I choose not to having to do with him anymore mainly because of his new wife. But after a while, I've decided to give my father a second chance and make amends with his new wife; that's when I beginning to hang out with them. Sometime later, my father and his second wife divorced too. Today, my father now have a third marriage and I have a nice relationship with his third wife. So you see, I may not hang out with my father more often, but I stay contact with him by text messaging and he'll always help me with anything; therefore, I must stay connected with him because I never know how much time I'm going to have left with him. So I don't want to take him for granted because eventually, he won't be around in my life anymore. This is my story about how my parents got divorced and how I came to terms with it.
so true…some people are better friends than couples and it is better that children have come from a broken family than to live in one. Maybe some kids don’t see that, but its very much true! By the way, just because you are blood related doesn’t even mean you have to deal with that person if you don’t want to. Everyone should carefully chose who they consider a family. I say it is MUCH better to see someone much less often with a smile and actually enjoy the time together than see each other every day and be miserable all the time because you are constantly arguing for sure. Thank you for an amazing video!
Some people are just over it. My sister divorced from her husband few years ago. I don't know how to explain it but some people just don't want anymore.
When my parents told me they’re divorcing, I was completely fine with it and I was also happy that I would have 2 homes. I go to one home for a week, and another for a week too. Why can’t people just do that? If the part that hurts most that their parents don’t love each other anymore, I don’t see something wrong with it. Also most divorced parents still talk to each other and even hangout!
