Kierkegaard's Either/Or - Do we only have two choices in life? 

Illustrating my point, please consider this quote of his: "I cannot quite place her impact on me in a purely erotic sense. It is true that the fact that she yielded almost adoringly to me, pleaded with me to love her, had so touched me that I would have risked everything for her. But the fact that I always wanted to hide from myself the degree to which she touched me is also evidence of the extent to which I loved her… Had I not been a penitent, had my vita ante acta not been melancholic, marriage to her would have made me happy beyond my dreams. But even I, being the person I unfortunately am, had to say that without her I could be happier in my unhappiness than with her - she had touched me deeply, and I would so much, ever so much, have done everything."

One could also say he had an "avoidant" attachment style and couldn't tolerate the intimacy of a "real" relationship. In his book "Repetition" he explains his love to her and how it ultimately - if consummated - would have made both of them unhappy, but not for a lack of love but due to his dreamy and melancholic disposition and her - of course - wanting and deserving a "real" relationship which he couldn't provide.

Yeah agreed

Does it mean either way, he didn’t love her enough to marry her?! So, whatever reason it was does not really matter, doesn’t it??

Yeah I was pretty surprised to hear that. Kierkegaard was very much in love but felt called to celibacy.

A huge insight i might say.

I am reading this book right now, and for such huge and complicated work this was very shallow video tbh, almost as if he didn't bother to read it.

Exactly! However, from reading his biography ("Philosopher of the Heart") and "Repetition", I wouldn't say it was insecurity, either. More like he wanted to be alone with his "melancholia" and his thoughts and writing and not have to bother with the needs and emotions of another person.

Two or more generations before you did all the hard work to create societies the world is envious of, at least from a distance. Now you can afford to top the drinking chart because the infrastructure is already built by that Protestant work ethics.

Thanks for suggesting but I don’t have a Chinese bank account. I think Kofi page (PayPal) is the best way to donate.

Be careful the CCP..

can you explain why