@karlee ballard While “Gomenne, Gomenne” (I’m sorry, I’m sorry) is also a song by Kikuo Sorry if you knew this already. Or if you’re talking about a different song
Even in this song where the Mom clearly sucks and is treating the kid bad, hearing her sing that she's useless herself and that the child is gone makes me cry
yeah, i have a theory that the reason why she's saying all of this is because of generational trauma. basically, generational trauma is when someone passes down their trauma and releases it onto their own family, making it an endless cycle of trauma. maybe in her childhood, the mother also got called useleess alot, and she was called that by her mother (aka grandmother?)
@@kasanenees justo lo que pensé acerca de la canción, al final del día la madre estaba igual de dañada que su hijo solo que a diferencia de ella el decidió alejarse para romper el ciclo
It kinda like the mother take all of her negative feelings for example like her anger to her own child to clear her stress but when her child left or k'll himself and when the mother is left alone and realise that what she did was wrong and feel guilty of herself
@@nessa2226 no need to yell. usually, when you see styled subs on a youtube video (esp. on vids older than 2 years), it was made by a fan using the free softwares aegisub and ytsubconverter.
@@nessa2226 for some reason my last comment got removed by the spam filter? I just came back to fix that it was actually 3 (almost 4 now) years since community captions were removed, but my whole comment is just gone...
It's absolutely insane how accurate that is. Children really normalize for themselves what is happening in their lives, especially when their parents do it
As someone who's been through a similar treatment, I can honestly agree greatly to this. Honestly, it's not right for parents to tell their child that they're "useless"."you can't do it" or "you're a disappointment" especially for such a young age. It juat simply sticks to their brain and convinces them that they really are that terrible.
@@crystaliieleanor there are different situations, in my case, my parents are not even interested in how I live, why I laugh and why I cry I hope someday this question will not mean something bad for you, but rather an attempt to understand what happened to you
Parents: Why wont you just talk to us? Also my parents when I try to talk to them about something: Edit: My situation is definitely better now. To the all people sharing stories in the comments or just saying: "Same" or "Relatable", I just wanna say: Y'all stay strong out there. Life sucks and often sucks right from the beginning. The memories and pain will probably never go away, but it's completely alright. It does get better, in my case therapy helped (both for me AND for my mom, and my father is just meh, neutral). Also I can proudly say now that I'm fricking awesome now, and that I grew, and changed, and that's I'm an awesome person, AND I hope more of you can relate. This comment and most replies are now 1 year+ old, so I really-really hope at least some are doing better and even possibly escaped that situation (don't matter if by cutting off certain people or reconciling, everybody is different). And if not, PLEASE do as soon as possible. I do understand that most of the time the only solution is moving out and a lot of people out here can't do that, so I'm not gonna be a big smartie pants by saying: "Lol, if you are unhappy just move out/talk to them/stop doing that and this/etc.". Have a good time of day, remember to eat and drink water properly (unless you are fasting while reading this of course!), go ahead and take care of yourself, you deserve it! I'm proud of you :)
Hey if your reading this, just remember that this pain is temporary and will not last forever, and while your going through it your not alone we are all in this together doing the best we can, I'm proud of you for still being here fighting everyday, cus it's really not easy but you still strong enough to not give up, know that I care about you and I'm glad your here, your feelings are valid and I believe you'll get to a better place with time. I hope this helps, you don't have to accept my comment or like it but I just did it for the people who needs it. Remember to drink water get some rest and check on your loved ones❤️.
Even though these words did not come from my parents' mouths, I am very happy and grateful to you for saying this, this makes me more enthusiastic. If one day we meet, I will return the favor❤
small theory: so we all get the point- this song is about a mom who emotionally abuses her child by saying that he is a useless child, and he is abused up to the point when he is grown up. The writing when he is a kid looks colorful and uses hiragana. But when he grows up, it's less colorful, more neat, and uses kanji. I'm thinking the kid used to write down all the things his mom said to him in a journal or a notebook of some sort, and continued to write them down up until he grows up. The two figures, which is the kid and the mom, I think was also drawn by the kid. Furthermore, the title of the song that shows up in the beginning seems kinda messy, which could mean that he titled this journal of his "You are a useless child". Then, when he disappears, (died, ran away, or something) the mom finds the notebook he's been writing everything in, and as she reads them, she realizes she was the useless and terrible person all along. She reads what the boy wrote as a kid, so the writing is back to hiragana and it's more colorful.
Why does this remind me of kids when they say they're depressed and the parents start saying they have nice clothes or they have a roof over their head, or others have it worse so they have no excuse For anyone who wants like clarification: I mean the parents who do and say all this stuff, and then when you mention you're depressed they act like they never did one bad thing in their entire life to you.
I honestly don’t understand why parents say this all the time like , bro I just want to tell you that I’m not doing well wether it’s me being stressed over homework or me being mentally exhausted due to the lack of friends.
my parents are the same, telling me to just get over it when I don't feel OK, and I hate how if I feel suicidal, or depressed, they just walk over it and pretend that nothing is happening with their child.
When I finally had the guts to tell my dad that the reason completing homework was so difficult for me was because I had no motivation because I knew that the moment I messed up even a little I knew I would just get yelled at and end up crying in my room or have my phone taken away I just felt like there was no point in me even trying anymore if I would just keep messing up and I still struggle with loving myself as a person even though things are going well so far for me but sometimes my dad will try to tell me that I dont have a lack of motivation or that what I went through couldn't have been that bad because he went through worse as a kid and he would keep trying to give me "motivational" talks to make me suddenly gain motivation to do work but that lack of motivation doesnt stem from a lack of thankfulness but it comes from a sense of worthlessness in me that's gonna take a really long time to get rid of but he doesnt seem to get that and when I try explaining how I feel he doesnt get what I'm talking about so he thinks that I just dont trust him because I know that what I'm gonna tell him he wont get anyways so I just dont tell him and I feel like that's just driving a bigger wedge between our relationship.
A child should never have to question if their parent loves them. Period. Edit: to all of you who commented, saying things like "my parents never cared" or "my parents don't love me", I'm so sorry. You all are deserving of love and happiness, and I'm so incredibly sorry your parents couldn't provide the love and support they were supposed to. Im adopting all of you right now, and you all will be happy forever. I'll make sure of it.
Now I realize something, the child is getting mentally abused by his mother calling him a useless child. Then growing up to be a man who is depressed (I think?) and I don’t know if he wrote this or something, then he was found covered in wounds, I think he died, ran away, or just disappeared. Then she realized the damage she done to him and realized he is forever gone, she called herself a useless child and probably mourning I’ve his disappearance. Kids deserve parents, but parents don’t deserve children. Don’t abuse your children, you had an opportunity to become a better parent and you straight up ruined it by hurting them. Children aren’t allowed to be treated like this, don’t mentally abuse your child, don’t rape, don’t do any of that please. It’s horrible and disgusting. I hope all children, teens, etc, are okay. This song kinda describes me but my teacher.
@Yunn Myat Nay Lwin all hiragana is considered childish bc it's how kids write (as they haven't learned much kanji yet) so him writing in kanji kinda represents how he grew up
Theory: at the end, when mother (not the child) says "I'm a useless child" might suggest that she was treated like that in her childhood, and now made her own child leave because she treated him the same way. She feels useless again.
this comment almost made me cry because this is exactly how my mom is. she abuses me because her father abused her and now that im leaving shes trying to use guilt to bring me back
Listening to this song while reading people's stories feels like being in a large group hug with people that also understands your troubles and worries
the ending where the mother sings to herself gets me every time. it shows that she was told these things when she was a child, and now history repeats itself. generational trauma
It's also a representation of the mother's guilt for how she mistreated her child. She was 'useless' towards them and now that child is no longer there, making her now the 'lonely child'
This is a good pov for that part, I've always seen it as the child *ffed themselves and the mother felt guilty so she was reliving what she said to the child in her own head
my interpretation is that the mother is now feeling guilt and saying how she herself is now lonely after her son disappeared, either offed himself or moved out without any communication.
Only in a Kikuo song can you start out so happy and end so disgusted. I mean this is the most complimenting way ever that Kikuo can portray the worst of the worst without issue. It is genius how accurate these songs are
@@iamwoke322 The song is about a narcissistic mother who constantly points out her sons flaws but never accepts her own, saying how great she is and how she'll take care of him because she's so great. Eventually he gets tired of her and runs away, so her insecurities and guilt catch up with her.
Parents: you can tell me anything, I won't judge. Kid: *tells everything* Parents: Stop faking, others have it worse it's the phone ungreatful brat I/god gave you a (list a no. of things that are the general necessity for living). You have nothing to be depressed over. It's just a phase You were literally smiling yesterday! Grow up
Parents: express your feelings. Be yourself. Tell us when you have any problems. Child: states that they’ve been feeling down, depressed, and tired of everything. Parents: *its the phone*
And this is why I never wanna tell my parents anything. Their not bad I just don’t wanna be told whenever I tell them something that happened that I’m lying and that I’m just making it up
It’s cute (at some point) because the mom was just trying to protect his boy but she didn’t noticed that she was making damage to her son, so she calls herself “useless” Good song
Eu costumava ouvir e cantar bastante essa musica para mim mesmo, passei muito tempo depressiva para problemas que nao deveriam ter acontecido e nem começado tão cedo em uma infância normal. Eu tentei me m... diversas vezes (ainda bem que nao deu certo), cheguei a um ponto de nao ligar mais para nada. Eu nunca tinha planejado uma vida, só quando seria meu dia final... E adivinha? Tambem nao tive coragem de fazê-lo. Continuei viva por dizer pra mim mesma que tudo ficaria bem/melhoraria e por relacionamentos toxicos. Eu me sentia um lixo, sozinha e podre. Eu me odiava, eu me xingava, eu ouvia uma outra voz na minha cabeça ( que era eu mesmo )que me xingava e me torturava 24h por dia, eu desenvolvi crise de panico e ansiedade, chegava a ficar paralisada chorando na cama no meu proprio catarro e lagrima. Acontece que depois de tudo as merdas que passei, eu falei pra mim mesma que nao passei por todo esse sofrimento atoa e que ia ate o final 😂 Hoje em dia estou melhor, nao vou dizer que nao fico mais depressiva, porem a maioria do tempo agora me sinto feliz, estou fazendo terapia e tenho um relacionamento saudavel com uma pessoa que eu amo demais e quero casar e viver ate meu último dia com ele. To meio perdida em questão de futuro, ja que nunca planejei nada, mas estou aos poucos seguindo meu caminho. Obrigado se voce leu ate aqui, espero que minha historia te ajude a perceber que por mais que estejamos no fundo do fundo do poço, a gente pode lutar e conseguir melhorar. Um amanhã melhor pode vir pra todos, e por mais que seja dificil, devemos lutar todos os dias para poder alcançar a felicidade e a paz. Você não está sozinho ok? Vai dar tudo certo, acredite em você mesmo ❤
My interpretation: a mother is not doing so well and wants to feel wanted and loved so she tells her son that he is useless and noone else other than her wants him. The boy leaves her or commits suicide, depending on what you prefer, and the mother is left alone. Once that happens, she realizes what she has done and understands that she is useless mother. And she commits suicide. n o i c e
In my opinion. This song is about a parent that nags and abuses their child. But still says sorry and like "but i will protect you forever" is like the parent still loves the child but cannot really express it.
I find it scary how listening to the song, the parts where the mother says stuff like "Come here I'll protect you" and "Oh sweet child, good child you belong to me" I actually feel love. A sense of belonging. It makes me question if I'm actually more naive than I realize I am, as someone who suffered emotional abuse from my own mother. I melt too easily to praise. Edit after 6 months: Looking at this comment section and it still feels all too sweet. I'm still so glad to be given this much comfort over the internet 💕 Thank you all so much 💞
I've suffered the same thing as you. I fall in love too easily so my heart literally melts into the smallest acts of kindness no matter how hard I try.
I've suffered from something similar٫ my mom mentaly abused me but instead of feeling happy and cherised by any praise it has the opposite effect٫ it feels like they're lying and makes me sick to my stomach and i think is because my mom used praises as a way to keep me close to her so i wouldnt leave and now i hate praises yet desprately look for them.
I think, in a way, it's because it's genuine and you can tell. The biggest misconception about abuse is that it's an act totally devoid of love. That abuse and love are two opposite ends of a spectrum with no overlap. If you love someone, you would never abuse them. If you abuse them, you must not genuinely love them. It completely ignores that parents that genuinely and earnestly love their children can still be absolutely horrible and damage that child beyond repair. People want clear dividing lines between good and evil, but the fact of the matter is that it's not that simple. Not all abusers are master manipulators where every kind word out of their mouth is an attempt to deceive you The mother in the song loves her child. She degrades him, humiliates him, and openly talks about how useless he is, but she still loves him and wants to take care of him. In fact you can argue that it's not even that the child can't leave, but rather that she doesn't want him to. She genuinely has this twisted, warped love for him where she wants to take care of him even well into adulthood. You respond to that because you can sense the love. You can sense that she's not just saying that, she believes it too. She is a horrible, irredeemable parent, but you see that sliver of love and respond to it. When you're in a frozen tundra, it's only natural to seek out warmth where ever it may crop up
Kikuo, you are truly an artist. You are so talented. I've listened to this song a billion times and it still makes me cry. You are capable of encapsulating feelings like fear, redemption, and joy like no other.
this song for me is abt generational trauma. The main chorus is “you are a useless child” which is the mother saying that to her child (obvi) but at the point where the child leaves the chorus changed to “i am a useless child” which is probably them reflecting on their parent/s calling them that and its approaching back to them, and they start to repeat it to themselves since they have realized they have now fit into the mold their parents put them in. but right before the original chorus changed, it stated that “even tho the child was wounded he left my side” which probably means that she has realized only after her child left that she affected her child the way her parent/s affected her which is why she phrases “if only i can turn back time”
I think you're dead-on. That was my impression too. It also sort of reminds me of patterns of abuse most common with the Narcissistic and Histrionic Personality Disorders, which involves a lot of manipulation, mind games, backhanded compliments, flat-out lies, embellished and invented stories, and, of course, a dearth of both empathy and self-awareness. Unfortunately I've had quite a bit of second- *and* first-hand experience with that. The whole song, the mother seems so cartoonishly cruel and her kid sounds like the most dysfunctional burn-out ever, but if you consider that she might be an unreliable narrator to begin with... 🤔
To me it's about how when the child is so traumatised, he commits suicide. The mother is left alone and laments about how she never took better care of him, and wishes she could turn back time. She is useless because she couldn't take care of the child.
Yeah, my thoughts exactly. With the added tidbit that she could have also been treating her kid worse. Using him as a surrogate for her parents and how she wished to treat them.(which in hindsight, is what generational trauma is)
This song does an excellent job of portraying the cycle of abuse. Either her son left her to improve his life and the mother is self victimising him leaving her , or a more darker option, the son ended up killing himself. Then it’s revealed at the end of the song the mother also went through similar abuse and was unknowingly repeating the cycle with her own son. The song also gives a accurate portrayal of manipulation and gaslighting. She degrades her child and then jumps to praising him, presenting herself as a saint for taking care of such a ‘ useless child ‘, and that he’d be dead without her and he should should never leave her, clearly to be controlling. Then when he finally leaves, here making the assumption that he left her to find a better life and heal, she self victimises herself about how he left her. But then goes on to degrade herself showing that she may have gone through similar abuse herself and is repeating the cycle. Or, as I’ve already said, he committed suicide, and she have may of came to a realisation of what she’d done to her own child, or even sadder, she may have not even seen what she’d done and then compared this experience to one she had a child ( example: everyone leaves me, even my own son, I’m worthless ).
@@wisteriaaconite1132 yea u right tho there's mistranslating in english, it sound they tone down the meaning-- in English they translated as "ran away from me" "tobitata" means up then down, it can means as jump too (Tobi)-- her child leave her by doing sui/de jump
its funny how parents think that taking away things that make u happy will end ur depression and will make ur grades go up. No mom. Its not my friends fault. Its urs. U made a depressed teen who cant socialize AT ALL. My phone is the only one thing left that make me happy. Cuz my bf is here. My friends are here. My fav games are here. My fav animes. And ur trying to take away the only thing that helps me socialize and helps me thru my depression times. No mom im not just growing up. I know u were a teen and u were a perfect teen. No skin problems, every fucking guy fell for u instantly, u were popular. Times change. Its 2021. Teenagers are more hopeless and depressed. And just stop telling me to go outside and socialize. Its hard cuz u hate every person i meet over the internet or in my neighbourhod. Thank you for being an amazing mother. Weylin OH MY GOD guys thank you so much for 1 thousand likes! And im glad that most of you guys were helping me and understand me. That is just amazing and it makes my heart flutter :D Thank you so so much but remember to stay hydrated, to take care of yourself :) mom get the camera im famous
