Tus tsis txawj xav ces koom niam koom txiv los yeej tsis paub sib hlub. Txhob tu siab. Koj twb pom lawv coj li ntawv tsis zoo. Ces qhia yus cov menyuam kom txhob coj li lawv xwb. Good story thiab hais tau zoo kawg
I hate blended families for this reason. I always say that if you can't love their children, don't marry them. I have a step daughter and I have never treated her any differently. She has her mom who's still here and that's where her loyalty lies. I treat her well and she treats me well. The thing about children is that they will reciprocate back how you treat them. Because she was your mother, you will never know how your siblings feel. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, try to put yourself in their shoes.
Don’t feel too sad. Even sometimes the ones with the SAME mom and dad don’t know how to love each other. There’s a shift coming to Hmong families too now that we’re in America. We make and have our own families and love those who love us. Don’t dwell on sadness.
Let me put it this way, as a parents if you loved and show caring to all kids rather they are your blood born or not they will love you back. Kids only know what you show them. Yus yog leej niam yus xub hlub lawv ces lawv yeej hlub yus xwb
8 against 1? Nah, them 8 brats wouldn’t want any women to replace their dead mother. Being that that step mother was young and father must have loved on her, them 8 kids would rebel and ganged up in her for sure
The problem is the parents of these divorce and widow folks. When you agreed to remarry and married a man or woman that have children you knowingly accept the whole package. You have to be able to accept the children and love them as yours and be a good parent to them as well as yours too. You expect your new husband or wife to love and accept their. You should do the very same thing too. If you cannot be a good step parent than do not marry that person. Go and marry someone who have no children but she or he probably won't love or accept your children either.
From other families and your father, your mother was not a good stepmother to your older siblings. It’s sad. I can understand they’re upset with your mom but they shouldn’t have taken that on you and your brother. It’s ok, don’t dwell on the past. Your brother and your children are your family. Love the people who love you and move on. It’s sad your half siblings treated you and your brother that way even though you had nothing to do with how they were treated by your mother.
Everyone has their own hurt and sadness. Some hurt can't be healed. Sometimes, it's best to let go and live in your own peace. Not all relationships have to be saved.
Dont blame ur mom. U will never understand a mother til u become one. It's not easy. Please understand your mother while u also understand ur other siblings who disliked ur mother. No one will love u as much as ur mom. 💓 Remember there are 3 sides to every each STORY, and life doesn't revolve around the siblings that disliked ur mother. Ur mother's side is also important too ok.
Txob tu siab, ib txia koom niam koom txiv ib plab kiag los twb tsis si hlub. Muaj tej pab mas sawv daws koom ua rau ib tug. Tu siab thiab los txob tu tag tag.
May aw ! Thaum peb hnov txog npis toj xeem txawj tsu lub qe tsw lwj lawm cia li ua rau sawvdaws tsis xav tuaj mloog thiab txhawb nqa neb tshooj RU-vid los yog mloog koj hais neej neeg ntxiv li lawm.
Dag ua luaj peb tseem niaj hnub mloog ne. Koj tsis mloog cas koj hos tuaj txog no. May txhob tu siab rau tus neeg muaj kev ntxub ntxaug no peb hlub koj heev os
Tsis thas tu siab lI os nyob rooj teb no lawm cesvleej twg hlub yus ces hlub xwb hos yog luag tsis hlub yus ces txav kom deb xwb mas. Hos hais txog qhov ua tus yau poob es yus niam muab yus ntaus ntawv ces tsis yog niam tshiab thiaj ntaus xwb. txawm yog niam yug kiag los yeej ntaus peb twb mag thiab nev yog thaum peb ua peb tus yau poob na.
Dont ever depend on your half siblings, different from your mom or dad they will never love or care about you. Sister, you did the right thing. Stay strong. You have a good heart. Forgiveness is the key. Its sad that your older brother forgives you and your brother because he's sick...thats not forgiveness but it a lie to care for him.
Tus me niam tsev aw ..lawv coob ce lawv yeej tsis hlub neb 2 nus muag o nawb .. Yus 2 nus muag hlub2 yus tus kheej thiab twj me nyuam xwb ..neb txawm yuav hlub lawv..thiab tsis hlub los lawv yeej muaj txiaj ntsim dab tsis o mog .
1. Es yog koom niam g koom txiv ne peb hmoob puas txawj sib hlub ma.. 2. Es yog lewj txiv yuav niam yau yeej ib tug tub lo sab nrauv lo g koom txiv thiab g koom niam li ho puas sib hlub mas lo
Seems like everyone is just misunderstanding each other and just shoved it under the rug to ignore the problem. You didn’t understand the drama but to them you betrayed by snitching to your mom and your mom is upset to call them out. Both sides are not willing to walk you through what the problem is. You should just let the siblings know that you don’t know what their problem is but as their half sister, you love them no different than if you have the same mom. Whatever drama they have with your mom is between them but don’t involve you who love them regardless.
Niam ntsuab teev tus me niam hluas puas yog lawd cem cem koj los yog koj khwv khwv es koj nyuaj nyuaj siab cas tau ib ntus no koj hais neej neeg dab neeg yuam kev rhua lawm os tos maj mloog koj txhua lub sij hawm tab sis tshwj koj tus kheej zoo es kom koj tseem yuav hais tau story entertain peb kom peb qab siab ua hauj lwm thiab sij hawm mus sai hnub txhob ntev7 nawb mog nyob zoo Xyoo tshiab rau koj thiab koj tsev neeg
Your older siblings pretty did it to themselves like you told your older brother! Even if your mom didn't care for them, if they really wanted a relationship with you and your younger brother, they should have step up, be the mature ones, and love you both! Shame on them! SMH!
It all starts with your mom. If she had loved and teach them well they wouldn't be so tu siab. But what your mom did, you and ur brother paid her debt by suffering after she passed. At this point, let bygones be bygones and move forward is all u can do
Don’t ever marry someone with kids if you can’t love their kids wholeheartedly. Why bother? Save yourself and those innocent children from a lifetime of trauma and bad karma!
Peb yog niam loj yu thiab tas lub sij haw peb xa tau kev pab lo ntawm peb txiv cev yeej thov g tau li os tas sis niam tau cov me nyua cev xa tau a g lo tau tas nro g nyua siab da g lo yeej muaj tas noj g nqe leej twg hna g txhaw leej twg oh peb cov yog niam loj tus cev xav tau ma mus kwb2 nyiaj lo mus yuav lo rau tus xwb kv lo yeej xav pau tias cas niam tau pheej qia nws cov me nyua tau niam loj cov me nyuam ua a g ma phej hais tias so g pau nej pab now tij ko a cev li no rau niam loj pab me nyua xwb os.
I don't blame the older step-kids. Most step-moms never love the kids except her own flesh and blood. At the end of the day, u will pick your mom over your half-siblings anyways so why be sad that they don't love u? Whatever they tell u, u go gossip to your mom and she gets mad at them. That's already a sign that u pick your mom over them and that u will never be faithful to them. I think it's good they keep their distance from u bc i honestly don't think u would love them as your own siblings too.
You may have been to young to understand the dynamic between your mom and the other siblings. From what your story tells, I can tell the siblings didn’t care about you guys much either so your mom had some truth to what she said. Especially not calling you guys for little and simple things. This goes to your mom too, she didn’t care much for her step kids.
Neb 2 nug muag ces yog DEV xwb luag twb ntxub yus ua luaj los tseem niaj hnub ua DEV mus saib lawv cov neeg paub hlub neeg thaum yuav tuag tsis musj nqi tuag tsuaj tsuaj kom tag thiaj tsis musj cov lim hiam li tus tij DEV ko
Same dad and different mom, the kids will hate each other because it's neither the step mom is evil to the kids or the step dad is mean to the kids, but if same mom and different dad the kids love each other more.
I'm pretty sure that if other people see it then its true. Your mom probably didn't love your older siblings, but your older siblings shouldn't divide you guys. They probably did that because of jealousy and all the hurt they hold for your mom. Don't feel too bad. Even siblings from the same parents don't get along too.
Sometimes we gotta set our differences aside and love each other because at the end of the day we only have each other regardless if your half or full blooded I come from a family of niam loj niam yau i understand
@@monkeybanana9269 I can understand that my mom is niam yau i will tell you my dad has not been there for my siblings from my niam Loj side and i understand how they feel they said they have no father back in Laos my dad was with my siblings and my step mom but when we came to USA my dad just stuck with my mom for the last 30 years it’s sad because whatever event my stepmom has my blood siblings and I attend but not my dad but my mom forces him to go for the sake of his kids he has with my step mom
This is very sad. My parents are divorced and I have 2 half siblings from each parents. Recently, one of my younger half sister asked about why things are the way they were with her mom who’s our step mother. She said she acknowledge and see the things her mom did that was unfair to us. It’s best to talk and make sure there’s peace within the siblings. Our parents have failed us, therefore we should do better and be there for one another. We are the ones who can stop the toxicity parenting life style and do better.
Nej niam tsis hlub lawv los lawv yuav tau to taub tia vim Tsis yog lawv niam lawv txhob muab lub Txim pov rau nej nws siab phem zog lawm os Tus niam laus.
Well, I agree with your mom. Depends when your mother remarried? How old the other children are? If the other children are small then yes your mother is wrong, but if she remarried and the other children are grown then is hard, they will never care, love, like your mother. I completely understand your mother when the children are grown already and especially children nowadays they will not respect the step mother.
Vivncaus koj paab niam nus siab phem npaum ko ra nb ob nus muag es cas koj tseem yuav k txog thiab mus pab ua dabtsi na. Tsis tas quav ntsej li lawm os siab phem lim hiam li ko ces tsis txhob mus khiav lawm os Vivncaus aw nyob teb chaws no nyias khwv tau rau nyias noj lawm os tsis tos leejbtwg hlub yus lawm os.
Your other half siblings phem ib yam nkaus li koj niam thiab. They are bad as your mom. U both shouldn't feel bad that they take u both. U let them be. Lawv los phem kawg kavliam xwb.
Hmoob ces yeej siab loj tsis tau. hlub tsis tau tej menyuam tsis yog nws yug. Tej teeb meem no ua ntu zus ib txheej dhau ib txheej. It's a karma that recycled in Hmoob families.
I am sorry this happened to you. You don’t deserve this type of treatment. Your half siblings need to get therapy. It doesn’t make sense that their grudges lasted a lifetime. Thank you for sharing this story.
I believe that your older siblings are the bad ones. Your mom might of tried to love them but because there were many of them, they just didn’t care. Just like how they didn’t care to love you and your brother.
Tus niam tsev aw... tsis Church nas yog Funiral home nas kuv tsis to taub tuas cas nej pheej muab hu ua Church no twb tsis pom daim side tias Church nyob ntawd li ne lod...
Cas neb yuav muaj kev tu siab ntau ua luaj luag hlub yus los yus kuj hlub luag rov xwb luag tsis hlub tsis nyiam yus los yus kuj sib hlub xwb cas pheej yuav mus ntshaw cov hlob kev hlub ua dabtsi kuv tsis to taub koj li os
Haub yau, mi viv ncaus aw, los yog mi Ntxhais, niam Ntsuab Teev aw, zoo li koj twb paub lus Hmoob zoo heev sa, yog los ntawm koj los yog los ntawm tus tswv neej neeg no? Leej twg qhia koj tias koj tus txiv tuag es koj ho mus hu koj tus dab laug hlob/dab laug yau tuaj ua qab tu rau koj tus txiv na?? Tsis paub tab tsuas yog koj xwb los pos, cas koj tus txiv neb pab tseem ho tsis paub tab thiab los? Tsuas yog hu tuaj ua txiv dab laug zaum rooj xwb os!!!
Sister, your mother did not love your orphan siblings. Their mother died. I blame your mother for not loving them in the first place. It’s sad but as a woman and mother, she should not put her pride above the kids.
Im opposite. My dad died instead. When my siblings and us were small, my step-dad never loved us. When we grow up, we adapt his attitudes, too. We didn't love him either. Peb lub siab twb tus siab tag forever. I guarantee you that if you love them, they will love you back.
Why people expect others, who have nothing to do with them, to love them? That step father/mother married that mother/father of yours, NOT you. Why are you expecting them strangers to love you? 🤔 it would be your lucky life, if he/she care a little. But, if he/she doesn’t, it’s not his/her responsibility to.
We care and love those who cares and loves us. Why does it bother you so much about those who don’t matter? 🤔🤔🤔 You came alone and will die alone, your half bros and siss won’t enter the same graveyard whole with you, so why bother. You didn’t need them half siblings then, why it matters now?