I wasn't even 5 minutes in and I started to cry. I feel so inspired that people are so brave to come out... I'm not yet though; I'm slowly building my courage.
Everyone has their own pacing! Just remember that no matter the outcome, no matter what other people think, you are being true to yourself and that’s all that really matters. As long as you accept yourself then what can other people say against that? So don’t feel forced to come out (you can do it whenever you feel comfortable to) because honestly, it’s your life. Though it’d be nice to have supporters, on the off chance that there’s a negative outcome, it’s not like they can “change” you so don’t let yourself falter. No matter what choice you make, I’m cheering you on!
Sometimes people think they are helping by forcing others to make an unfair decision. Of course it is more likely that his actions were coming from a place of homophobia, but it's important to remember not everyone has hurtful intentions. For all we know he could have thought he was helping by getting rid of the dishonesty between parent and child so everyone could work on being more open about their opinions and experiences going forward. That is to say context matters and we don't know the whole story. However I do agree no matter what that person meant to do, it is wrong to force him without knowing what kind of consequences he could face after coming out. Luckily his parents seem to take it well. 😥
There’s things like that that make me feel grateful for being in a supportive country and surrounded by supportive people. I’m bisexual and only came out like a week ago, and everyone I’ve came out to has been supportive.. but I can’t imagine what it must feel like to be in that sort of situation.
Yea, that was really wrong for them to do that. Like most people has already said, everyone is all different when it comes to coming out. Most people who are in the closet needs more time than others.
As a Korean, trust me that commander was nice. He prob did that to save his own skin, just in case something happened later. I grew up half my life in the US. First day I was physically beaten with a rifle because I said '불끄겠습니다" instead of 소등하겠습니다. Later on when I was a corporal me and my peers were tasked in beating up a new guy because his father was a judge in a Seoul court. The beatings are done so everyone is eventually felt helpless and useless. It puts everyone back at 0.Strip them of ego and everything. Then the army builds them back up. The military is a different society, everyone is potentially trained to kill at one point and even sacrifice themselves. From a civilian standpoint its a unfair place, but as a Korean who has to go through, it is what it is. My advise? Don't try to understand it, it will only make you more frustrated.
Canada, USA, Australia and Western Europe are the most accepting (but there’s still homophobia there), everywhere else in the world majority of people aren’t accepting
@@star-kb9sf or it’s normally out of homophobia😭 my parents ignored that I said it because they couldn’t process what I actually said.. but when I reminded them a few months later when they brought up me “marrying a guy in the future” they went awfff and told me that I “didn’t” tell them in the first place🤷♀️
i came out to my mom as asexual and she was like "well i mean, you hate kids, you dress like someone’s who’s gay, and i won’t have to worry about you having kids. sounds good" she’s not wrong tho, i do dress like an asexual 😭
1:49 as a bi woman myself, this whole statement is so bi-phobic and so many people don't even realize. Maybe she was just joking but there's people out there who actually think like that, sexual orientation is not all about having sex.
yeah, that one really pissed me off. like, i'm sure she didnt ask her daughter "okay, but have you fucked a man? how would you know you're straight if you've never FUCKED a man?" they don't use the same thought process when it comes to heterosexuality
@@xion5182 it didn't seem like a joke. the mom was playing it off like she was just trying to be funny but i think she genuinely meant what she said. and her thought process is very harmful to bisexuals.
i’ve come out as a lesbian to my very conservative parents, but especially my mom because she’s vietnamese. she seemed to be accepting of it, but doesn’t view my coming out as my identity, rather she views it as a choice because she thinks i’m influenced by environmental factors (which is not true and doesn’t even make sense). she’s told me several times that i can’t tell anyone on my vietnamese side that i’m a lesbian, as they wouldn’t accept me and would tell me to stop liking women and just be normal.
Yea I mean I cut my hair super short recently and she started trying to convince me to grow it out. One of the reason she stated was because it made me look like a lesbian so I started asking her if that was bad. Which was stupid to do but it was really late and I wasn’t thinking clearly. In the end she changed the topic. Now I’m even more scared to come out as bi. I’m also Vietnamese btw.
Ahhh yes, the "choice" argument. Just had this conversation yesterday, sigh its just sad that most ppl are still not aware that sexuality isn't exactly something someone could choose...
I decided to be accepting of LGTBQ community. Since Sexuality might not be an intentional choice to some people but being open minded and emphatic is a choice to straight people. Thus I will be accepting to all those who are struggling about there sexuality in my conservative indian society. I hope more people who have choices become more accepting and stop giving a hard time to LGTBQ community.
I came out a year and some change right when the pandemic was starting and I told my friends first after man sleepless nights going back and forth if I actually was bi or not. I told my sisters about it later and they just knew, they accept me and it's no big deal. My dad, I believe he knows bc he's asked me before but I was put on the spot and wasn't out yet, I don't think I'll ever tell my parents, especially my mom. She is very conservative Christian and would act like it's the end of the world. Not to mention the homophobic jokes my parents make all the time and asking me questions about the LGBTQIA community. Like if they cared they wouldn't be out and proud about it. But some ppl always have an opinion. It is def a constant struggle but I am proud, went to my first Pride this year and I feel free in my sexuality now.
I have kind of a similar story to yours hahah, I am also bi (figured it out a couple months ago), and the only person I am fully out to is my best friend who is so supportive of me. Also, my mom kinda knows and is chill but hasn't fully acknowledged it (like I haven't talked to her directly but I have dropped hints here and there) but my dad and the rest of my family on his side are the type that make those homophobic jokes so yeah I don't think I will come out to them, at least not yet because I haven't had any experience with homophobia first hand yet, and it would absolutely break me if the first time was coming from my family, not that it would hurt less tho
honestly, i don’t think i’ll come out to my parents. they’re not like religious but very traditional. so i don’t think they’ll be able to understand. i’ll have to hide my whole life 😀
I wonder about that sometimes. What will I do if I end up falling for a woman? how can I hide that from them? Even if I marry a man (I'm a bisexual woman), I wonder, would I be able to live with myself if my parents died never knowing such a big part of me existed? how can I just accept that lie?
@@SalamanderMagic right? i have the same thoughts almost everyday. i don’t think i’ll be okay living my life and hiding my sexuality from them but at the same time, i’m really afraid of their reaction. i’m afraid that they won’t be able to accept me for who i am. that’s literally my biggest fear.
I'm straight but I'm the person who dosen't wanna marry in a godamn conservative religious family. I'm 20 and already heard a tons of time about marriage.
i came out as pansexual. my parents are very conservative and christian. i am too, (not conservative, lmao) my mom was super homophobic at first, but she's slooowly coming around. my dad is not accepting at all. he once said "i wish i had a normal daughter." that line hurt so bad. ouch. i haven't told them that i still identify as cis, i am just going to start using they/them pronouns because they make me more comfortable :)
Hey there, I just came to remind you that you ARE normal, you are okay, and most importantly, valid, doesn't matter your sexuality, pronouns, or gender identity. (Or any other characteristic that makes you, you) [I hope my comment makes sense, I feel kinda dizzy by medication and by being sleepy]
Same here, just me being bi with my parents being Conservative religious but none of them are accepting. I have told no one in my family about my sexuality except my cousin (she's pan :3). And i really should not tell anyone because i overheard my mom saying "she should have beat her more" when i showed her a video of a mother beating her daughter because she was lesbian. And on top of that, im atheist which makes everything worse, guess im never coming out to my family-
@@Omnisci33nt 😬 that's horrible. And I get you, I will never tell my truth to my family, (because they are trash) and they will not support me. The best decision for me it's to wait until I can cut them out of my life and then I will be free of living my truth every day and not pretending that I'm a "girl" and that I go by "she/her" pronouns or that I'm heterosexual. [I'm agender and don't use labels but I would be like bi/pan if I did use them to describe my sexual orientation] I hope that you know that even if you don't tell those related by blood to you, this doesn't mean that you aren't supported, loved and valid, you are those nevertheless. Please don't forget that 🧚🏻♀️
I'm so thankful for the fact that my parents are so accepting. Ever since I was little they would go "something something something if u get a boyfriend in the future, or maybe a girlfriend, who knows?" Always making sure to let us know that it's completely normal to like someone of the same sex. Even tho I'm actually straight, I'm glad that they would do that.
My twin acted cringy when I said to my family that "I'm a lesbian." Guess what she is a closeted bisexual. I love who I am regardless of who accept me or who don't. I will Always love woman. I'm with the LGBTQ... community.
@Mea Leiswall lmao pls- anyways its fine if you have a hard time accepting but atleast those people should have human decency and not hurt lgbtq+ people mentaly or physically!
I love how they just calmly enjoy and relish in each others presence. I feel like that most fundamental expressions of love is so underrepresented and undervalued :((
I’ve been fortunate enough to have an lgbtq mother as a gay and trans person, we’re the type of family who’ll randomly yell things like “I’m GAY” and make gay jokes 24/7. I really hope more people can have family like this someday in the future, me and my mother went through so much but we’re finally happy being who we are and that’s Whats most important in our eyes.
I actually told my mom 6 days ago about my girldfriend and that I was a lesbian. She told me we need to talk to Jehovah but 3 days later shes telling me stuff I should bring and give to my girlfriend when I visit. Luckily I got a nice mom and im sad some dont. Be strong Be brave Be you and tell on your own time.
I wish all families would be accepting and understanding 🥺 everyone deserves to not hide in fear for being who they are, everyone deserves this freedom. 🏳️🌈💕
That one made me emotional personally because I am a Christian. So I think any lgbt+ person who grew up religious or wants to be religious would love to be reminded that God is still there and will always love them no matter what.... That would be a massive comfort.
i hope they live a long and happy life together. i hope the dark haired man can find acceptance and peace with his family. at least with his brother and i hope the red haired man is ok after that traumatic experience of being forced to come out. i hope their families accept who they are.
The way they were holding hands during pretty much the whole video was soooo cute. Also I really hope the guy with grey hair (don’t remember his name sry) will be able to come out to his family. Again they were really cute!!!
@@isna2435 you better watch your mouth. When you go to hell and when Satan burnt you forever you say Jesus forgive me😭😭 but when you are in hell Jesus don't hear you and don't support you but know he is beside you you better follow Jesus bro or sis
I came out as bisexual to my mom and she said I couldn’t be that way while I was living with her. I think she forgot honestly but every now and then I give hints and make remarks to me liking other girls and finding them attractive. And she doesn’t seem to notice. I think it’s hilarious tho lol
I'm very thankful that my parents are very accepting in this way. I never had to out myself. It just naturally came up in a conversation and then the conversation moved on without being weird or forced. I really hope that one day this will be the norm and no one has to suffer the trauma of being rejected after coming out.
I came out to my mom with a cake and she didn’t even understand what my sexuality was. She kept asking how I knew that I liked women if I’d never been with one before. I was baffled because she never asked my straight brothers how they knew if they liked women before they’d been with one. She asked me “do you really think this is something to be proud of?” And kept talking crap. I was honestly ready to get kicked out of the house. I cooped myself up in my room for days because I was afraid. I was embarrassed when my family looked at me. I honestly couldn’t understand why my mom reacted the way she did because one of her own brothers is gay and she seemed to be pretty accepting of that. One day, she came into my room and gave me a hug. She told me that she was never going to judge me and that she would just deal with whoever I was. Those words never sat right with me. She never tells people what my sexuality is, she’s embarrassed about it. She’s embarrassed about me. She used to tell people how good of a daughter I am and how I was a good example for my little brother. Now she brushes me off when people ask about me and finds every excuse to complain about what I do.
I'm really sorry thatd happening to you and I hope you get out if that situation or she comes around eventually. You are so strong and so brave for coming out.
I'm glad my parents came to terms that I'm a lesbian. It's not like they support me, but i've never had a strong relationship with my parents in the first place so it's not like I cared what they think. But they at least accepted that this is who I am and I'm never changing. I think it helped my situation that I'm pretty hard headed and that me & my parents aren't close. Because even if they don't support me, I'm at least glad they don't try to get to me to change because they know I'd cut them off in a heartbeat without any remorse or regret. I fully intend on cutting them off when I leave for college, I just want to make sure they never deny that their daughter is gay. As asian americans, I want to make sure there will be my other countless cousins who want to come out who have courage by coming out. Even though I'm still the 1st generation who was born in the US, I come out for myself and the many more generations who come after me. because i want them to understand, the US may not be our home land, but we can still be who we are. if I don't set the example, no one will. I don't even have any openly gay relatives, so when it comes down to it, I'll have to be the one who comes out first.
It's okay, people told me the same when I came out as bisexual. About a decade later many of them still think it. Not much you can do about what other people think.
Loved everything about the video. Mad respect to the people who muster up courage to come out,who are still struggling and also to the closeted ones. All of you need strength and courage to do it. One thing that caught my attention was how they were sitting normally while watching the videos where coming out was perceived well. But at 2:29, when the video with negative reaction popped up, they held hands, and that's so fucking beautiful. Much love to you guys and everyone out there❤
I came out as panromantic to my parents 3 years ago and they still not really accepting it. They know about me but they just don't want to see or hear anything about that or even want anyone to know. Also I'm asexual and they just don't believe in me about it and think I'm weird lol
These videos make me cry, I am so happy that some people are lucky to have a family that loves and supports them no matter what. I’ve come out to my parents so many times and they keep pretending that it never happened, they find it disgusting and it breaks my heart
I came out to my mom as a lesbian and she don’t know nothings about lgbtq+ so I have to explain it to her! She just said “love who u want but Have you ever slept with a girl ?” I laughed so hard 😂 I said “no mom but while you and dad went shopping,My bsf came and we lay on bed watching Netflix” she laugh and said “ok ok I’ll accept,idk about ur dad but I’m sure he will accept you too” My dad was confused but he accepted lol
This came up randomly on my RU-vid and honestly it was so bitter sweet to watch. So many people are so accepting while others still aren't. If I could just say something it would be...do you, do what makes you happy and be whoever you are.. life is too short to be hurt or worried over silly opinions. Also for every 1 person that doesnt want to accept your sexuality, there are 5 more who are accepting and cheering for you. Be happy everyone 🏳️🌈💜
i asked my mom what if i am gay what would be her reaction. although she said its okay and she'll just accept it, she still firmly believes that i'm not. for her its impossible as i didn't act the other way ever since i was young. how could i let her see when i know she's too religious? i still couldn't find the courage to tell her directly that i am not straight so i just always end up giving her subtle hints from time to time.
1:36 i wish it was like that. i just told my mother while holding back my tears in front of her and she said “well i knew it” then quickly went to my room to cry and text my crush. then she came back to me and said “hm i think it's just a phase”
As an openly gay man who grew up in a Christian household I can honestly say that my life was always full of nothing but heartaches and bullying….and I won’t lie up until the beginning of 2021 I was battling with what I believed was right and wrong and what I was taught/forced to believe….so I always had this ongoing battle of who I really am and what my family wanted me to be and it really sucked and caused me to have a lot of anger and resentment towards everyone even my own self…but now I can say that I’m slowly but surely figuring myself out mentally and emotionally and the biggest part in helping me live a happier life was to stop worrying about how other people see me and think of me because if we live our lives solely to please other people even if it hurts us in the process we’ll NEVER become truly happy and free…but that’s just my take on it😅☺️
I've always told my kids I don't care if your gay, straight,bi or lesbian I still will love you no matter what your still my child and my love for you will never change and if your happy with that person then I will be happy to
It's beutiful seeing 2 gay people, like I don't mean to sound wierd I am bisexual and I had no representation infact I have never met a gay couple, like ever i think i have seen like 2 but thats it and it took me a long time to figure out my sexuality ecause of it so seeing a happy gay couple makes me happy
I'm from a relatively conservative country and my parents are quite religious. But I grew up watching western media and personally don't view the lqbtq community in a negative light. I hope they won't be discriminated against. It's heartbreaking to see esp the guy in the white tee talk about people's perception of them. Not being able to express yourself to the full extent, whatever that is, is sad.
It doesn’t matter what sexuality or gender you are, but just put your future in front of getting a partner, You are more important than a person you may break up with.
Videos like these give me the courage to come out - and I have. The problem is my dad is understanding but my mum just doesn’t get it. I’ve come out to her 4 times now and all she says is “you’re only lesbian once you’ve done it with a girl”. It’s really frustrating but one day I’ll make sure she knows.
Not even a minute I was crying 😢😢😢 I'm mother to a beautiful daughter she came out 6 months ago 😅 she's still my baby. She has a son from previous relationship relationship 😊 deep down I Knew, ❤❤ has my baby is happy I'm proud mother to have beautiful daughter. She hasn't told her older sister but her middle sister knew too, I quote mom if she happy I'm happy ❤❤❤🇬🇧
The more gay couples come out in Korea the more it’ll be normalized through time. Acceptance has to start somewhere and it’s making Korea a better place ☺️ love is love🥰 though it’ll take time, it’ll get better eventually
wait, i dont understand, what does his squad commander have anything to do with his choice of coming out or not. in the immortal words of jessi - who do you think you are. welp, i wish the best of luck and happiness to this beautiful couple. may the people you meet be loving and accepting of your truth
i love both of you. I am very thankfulful to Gays, Lesbians, LGBTQ because there are too many abandoned kids out there from straight couples & living on street with sadness condition. gays, lesbians, LGBT definitely help reduce the number of stray kids abandone kids.
It was hard for me to come out as bi cause I felt like my family would be disappointed. See my brothers and mom understood but my dad was like...surprised he said he accepts me but always makes a face when I mention me being bi. I am now poly but...mom don’t accept that part but my brothers do. I haven’t told my dad..and never plan to. I’m happy too see that I’m not alone Thank you too everyone who supports and more, love y’all
I know when I was younger I had no choice but to accept LGBT+ because in 6th grade one of my old friends nonchalantly came out to me and said "oh yea I'm bi" and keep in mind I had no idea what that meant at the time so I just said "okay, I'm not totally sure of what that is but I'll accept you cause I love you". All my life all my friends have been some form of LGBTQ+ so I've had no choice but to accept but I'm cool with it cause I love my friends no matter what they identity as. I may not be apart of LGBTQ but I support anyone who is
I was lucky, my grandma's sister came out (lesbian) well before I was born so my whole family had plenty of time to work through their issues on the subject before I had to deal with any of that. When I wanted my family to know about me I told my brothers and my grandma and then just let my grandma tell everyone else. By the time I saw everyone else at the next holiday it was already old news which was exactly what i wanted.
If I’m being honest I really didn’t like the way that I came out to my mom It happened during a argument about my first sister (who’s a Lesbian) and then she made me as an example but I looked away and started crying and my mom looked at me in disbelieve that her "perfect daughter” is bisexual but now I came out to her again about me being non-binary and she took that well but my sisters didn’t which I almost cried in the mall but my mom told me to be confident about who I am and my sexuality and don’t worry about what people say about it
