Tus me nus koj hais koj txoj kev tu siab yeej kawg lawm thiab tab si yog ua li cas thaum koj twb taus koj tus qub hluas nkauj los ua koj tus niam yaus lawm ua li cas koj ho tsi hlub ob leeg mag koj ua li koj ua ko mas koj tsua ua li koj lub nyiam xwb zoo koj tab si tsi tshua ncaj rau koj tu niam tij lawm koj yog ib tug txiv neej siab phem kawg nkaus li thiab txawm koj yuav tu los yog nej txoj koj tsuav xav txog koj tus kheej xwb ua li koj ne yog hais tias koj ho yog koj tus niam tij no koj ho puas tu siab thiab
Peb yeej muaj tej txoj kev cai phem2 li no. Kuv ntxub tej niag kev cai duam2 li no tshaj plaws li os. Tseg kiag txoj kev zij poj niam, yuav niam yaus thiab niam tij tsis kwv ces peb yuav zoo lawm ntau lau!
Brother!!!!!!! Don’t just think about you only!!!! Because she doesn’t have a choice either. Koj yog ib tug txiv neej yawg koj twb coj tsis ncaj li!!!!! Yog tias koj ua ib leej txiv es coj ncaj ces koj tsis tas yuav hais kom koj cov me nyuam hlub koj. Lawv yeej hlub koj lawm os!!!!!
I think he fails to u understand that she is also miserable and doesnt wanna be with him but she has no choice. Yes, maybe she could have fought harder and said no to the marriage, but if she walks out of the family with her kids, her kids will suffer. At least if she stays then the grandparents and that younger brother they will still love her kids, even if he doesn't love her. I hear too many stories about back in the days where the step dad/mom and step-grandparents are so mean to the new mom's kids.
Peb yeej tau taub koj tiamsis qhov koj txhaum yog qhov koj liam yog niam tim niam loj. Lub sijhawm ntawv pojniam tsis muaj cai li, koj tus Niam loj thiaj tau yuav koj. Koj yog ib tug txivneej. Tiamsis tsis yog txivneej yawg kho es koj thiaj tsis nti kom dim koj niam thiab txiv. Koj tus niam loj lwj siab tsaj vim nws tsis muaj cai mus yuav ib tug txiv yau. Ho koj tu tu siab tiamsis koj twb rov tau tus koj hlub hlub es koj tseem tsi koj tus niam loj siab ntsws ntxiv thiab. Nej cov txivneej siab phem tsuas Pov nej sab xwb.
Nuag nyob li xwb txawm siv hais tias nyuaj kj siab peb cov poj niam hmoob ua raug yuam yuav tus txiv yus g nyiam thiab yus tsis hlub tseem raug yuam yuav thiab yus yeej nyuaj siab thiab tu siab tshaj plaws li thiab koj nyuam qhuav rau me2 xwb os peb cov poj niam ma raug ib sim neeej yuam ib tiam dhau ib tiam g paub tag li na tu siab tshaj plaws li
Sorry to hear uncle. My parent are niam tij txis kwv too. I never hate my Dad for not loving my Mom with all his heart. I told my Dad once that if he ever married a second wife, I understand. It’s true, some ppl aren’t in your shoes and they will never understand your feelings. I feel sorry for my parent, they both didn’t have a choice then, but was forced to married each other. My parent had been married for over 42 years and still going on strong. 🙏💕
I AGREE WITH YOU BROTHER! NWS TAU KOJ MOS MOS ES UA LI CAS NWS TSI HLUB KOJ NO...VIM YOG KOJ SIAB ZOO DHAU LAWM ES LAWV SAIB KOJ TSI MUAJ NUJ NQE XWB MOG...
Pang Thao that’s so true, because in 2010 I almost hit that phase too, what I meant is that my SIL was mad because I didn’t allow my husband to take care of her after her husband died. Omg 😆 she fuckin hated me but I didn’t care. I’m like there’s plenty of widow men’s and divorced men out there, wtf would I allowed my husband to take care of you and besides she has grown kids that are in their fuckin thirty’s to take care of her and she has all of her husband million $$$$ money so go she get the other fishes in the sea. It’s been almost ten years since her husband passed and She still hates me til this day but I don’t give a fuck 😂😂 I have my own family so forget her seriously, my husband side of the family don’t like it but I don’t care, too bad I don’t share my husband with nobody ever.
Koj xa tias koj tu saib tshaj. Muab hais los mas koj tus niam tij tseem tus tshaj koj. Koj tias yog tim nws es nws Tsi hais kom dim qhov yuav koj no. Koj twb yog niag haus tsev es Koj twb hais Tsi dim nes. Nws yog niag nej tias muab nyiaj Sawm lawm ces nej yuav hais li cas los tau. Nws ham yam Tsi muaj haus kev. Koj tias Koj nim tu tu saib tiam si Koj twb tau tu Koj hlub lawm nes Ua niam yau. Nws nes Nws hos tau dabtsi no. Koj tsuas xa txog koj tu kheej xwb. Koj YEEJ Tsis zoo kiag! I don’t feel sorry for u!
Pab koj tus niam tij tu siab tshaj koj 10000000000000 Npaug lawm thiab os niag ntsej muag txiv neej siab Dub Chim koj niag qhov huam os cas siab dub siab phem dab tuag tshaj li Sib ua ua dab tsi naw cas tseem muaj cov me Nyuam tom qab no thiab Liam tshaj tsiaj lawm thiab os Cas tseem kab hais rau me nyuam thiab niam loj thiab os Mob koj niag qhov quav xwb os cas ntxim ntxub ua luaj
Thaub koj yog tus phem xwb tsi yog koj poj niam yog tus phem os koj yog niag neeg phem peb tsom kwm saib mas koj yeej yog tus phem koj poj niam yeej zoo lawm teeb meem yog koj tsis xwb koj txhob hais lo lus hais tias tu siab tshaj koj os lis lys no ces txhob muab haus tawm txaj muag heev li os.
She has no fault. If you love her then don’t accept your Dad’s demands. Your wife or Niam Tij has no choice. It is your responsibility to take care of her. Why don’t you let her go, if your isn’t with her. Everything is your fault. Now you already has the person you want, then start love both of them. Don’t play favoritism and stop complaining.
Choonvg Hant she has fault just as much as him maybe even more. If she has no choice then he has no choice either. She was older so she should have refused but she didn’t refused. Not his fault she didn’t refused. He already warned them that if they force him to marry her he will do as they wish but will not going love her and she still agreed to choose him of the three brothers knowing that. Why blame him only? He was just 16 years old, she wasn’t.
Koj kuj xav qhov uas txiv neej muaj ob peb tus niam es tseem ho mus yuav cov me ntxhais mos2 los yuav es tseem tsis hlub thiab mas es tsis txhob ho cem2 koj tus niam loj thiab os vim koj niam koj txiv yuam xwb hos txiv neej laus xav tau ntxhais mosmas yog txiv neej tus kheej yuam yuav kiag lub txim no ntshe yuav tau ntiav muam phauj tsawg thiab os yom
Everyone is Mad at this man but it’s not all his fault . Before you say it’s all his fault, don’t forget he was forced and threatened by his father at 16 years old. He refused but they wouldn’t let him refuse. What do you expect a 16 year old to do in a situation like this at that time?! With no way out he unwilling do what they want but he did warn that if they make him he will marry her but won’t ever love her. She knew this and still agree. She was older and should know better so she should have refused but she didn’t and agreed to marry him knowing he said he won’t love her. You cannot force yourself to love someone when you don’t. Back in those days kids still respect their elders. He is just as much of a victim as she is. Have a heart and try to understand the bigger picture. People are So quick and easy to judge others. Walk a mile in his shoes before you judge him.
Txhua txhua tus txiv neej ces niam yau yeej ua qab Dua es tsawg tus txiv neej Los thiaj li hais txog niam yau xwb mas thiab pom xeeb yog niam yau diam es nws thiaj li ua qab Dua mas thaub aw
OMG dude this happened in the old land like anybody had a choice? If you didn't go to Thailand you wouldn't have got a second wife, that was your old girl. She should have Married you years before. She only Married you only after making her mistake (ha ha). When you were still in Laos. So your not being fair to anyone one of them period, especially to all those kids. I hope your happy after venting.
Im so thankful that this and the bridenapping are no longer practice at least here in the states. Its such a sad life however as a Hmong man you still have the right to marry another wife that you like. Unlike the kidnapped brides who have no choice...😢💔
There's definitely 2 sides to a story. Please don't force marriages going forward. People should have the right to choose who they want to be with. Life is too short so please let people live with their own happiness.
Yog lawm, yog yuav Thov muam phauj tsawm mas yus yuav tau thov yus li ko thiaj tsis txhaum neej. Tsis yog tsawm qhov hlub tsis taus luag tus ntxhais tsawm qhov kom txhob muaj kwv Txis niam tij lawm. Hmoob lub neej nim no nyob mekas no twb tsis muaj kwv Txis niam tij lawm mas, txawm koj tus muam tsis kam tuaj tsawm los tsis ua li cas yog nws ho tuaj tsawm ntxiv mas kuj haj yam zoo.
Cia siab tias tag phauj laus no peb hmoob mekas los kuj yuav tseg txoj kev yuam neeg no lawm.. feem ntau nim no yeej tsis pom muaj tim mekas lawm tabsis tim nplog mas tseem muaj coob nawb!!
It goes both ways cause she don't eve want to marry you too. She was also forced too. So don't be to mad at her and show her some kindness. This Hmong culture religious belief needs to stop. Even when you get your own lover half the time it doesn't even work out too. GOOD LUCK
I get he's hurt, in pain, and upset by what happened. I hope Hmong men understand how Hmong women have been treated and continued to be treated. Men still have options in our culture. Look dude, you have a second wife now. Our Hmong women have been brideknapped and forced marriages for centuries against their will and with NO options. Some women are married without their consent, against their will as young as age 13 and 14 to men two to three times their age into a polygamy lifestyle. Think of this!
Ntuj aw niag thaub laus aw koj twb tau koj niag qub hluas nkauj maum dev co tu lawm es koj tseem muaj plus tuaj piav koj lub qe luj thiab os tsis txaj muag li los. Koj tus niam tij twb tsis nrhiav dua dua txiv dev li koj es tsis paub tsaj muag li los tsej muag thaub laus
Honestly, this tradition in the Hmong culture is just as taboo as marrying the same last name. I agree with the boy, that there are other ways around this then having to marry his sister in law. So glad this isn’t much practiced anymore.
I feel you and understand your story very well tus me txiv ntxawm. I was once suppose to be in the same shoes before. I hate that kind of rule in the Hmong community.
I am glad and hopefully that Hmoob tradition of giving the sister to the younger brother in law is lost and stop by these century because it is wrong way, no human rights and is very cruel to do that to another human.
Yeej yog tim koj thiab koj tsis kam yuav ce koj txiv yuam khoos los koj xum tuag ua kom lawv txhob khoo tau ,niam tij los ib yam thiab vim koj txiv lawv khoos kiag li thiab yog yuav mus ua neej tom ntej es me tub me nyuam nyiaj kub nyuj twm vaj tsev los lawv tsis pub ce kawg yuav xwb thiab mas ntis tsis dlim lis koj thiab xwb os
Tus txiv tsev no nws yeej tsi pom hais tias twb yog tim nws thiab, nwg tseem muaj plhus qhia txog nws qhov kev phem thiab. Koj twb yog koj txiv tug tub es koj twb tawv tsi dhau koj txiv es koj yuav kom koj tus niam tij tawv kom dhau. Mloog xwb yeej yog tim koj tsi hlub nws.
Tus me txiv tsev aw koj zaj dab neeg no pauj twb tsis Tau cov txiv tsev lau 2 los tseem qis tsev yuav cov nkauj mog, thiab cov tub laus phem nraug es mus zij tej ntxhias mos thiab zoo2 nkauj xwb , tsuav yog txiv neej pheej zog uas ntag ,yuav tau tsawm cov no thiab os.
Koj yeej yog neeg lim hiam, koj twb paub hais tias koj tuaj tsis tau tsis lhub luag hos yuav tuav luag los qha qhuav ua dab tsis ua cas tsis nti kom dim koj twb yog ib leej tub cag koj twb muaj cai. Mhoob txoj cai yeej phem tiam sis zam txim tsis tau rau koj.
Tus twg los tu siab li os thov txhob sib yuam lawm peb cov me hmoob niam hmoob txiv ruam awd. Peb cov niam cov txiv mas tau u txhaum ntau heev lawm ov.
Txhawj yog li los kj yuav tau hlub Kj tus niam Loj thiab txhob xav tias yuav hlub niam yau xwb hlub 2 leeg kj thiaj li yog tus zoo hos niam loj los txhob mus cem 2 kj rau lwm tus xav tias nws tus twb tuag lawm ,niam loj los yeej lwj siab qhov kj tsim nws hos kj los yeej lwj siab qhov kj yog kwv txais niam Tij neb 2 leeg zoo ib yam yog li kj los yuav tau hlub nws ,nws los yuav tau hlub Kj thiab
Niag ntsej muag koj tu siab ces tu rau koj cov niam cov Txiv xwb lawv puas xav yuav koj thiab na vim luag yuav mus los nej cov niag kwv tij pheej yuav theeb luag tej me nyuam ne thiab yuav koj tiag kuv xav tias yog nej muab txhua mesic koj niam tij mas koj yeej g tau nws tiag