Ladies, stop chasing the WRONG man

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If you are in this situation this video might be hard to listen to, even though it’s exactly what you need to hear.
I have been there, done that. I know how hard it can be.
But if you truly love someone, you’ll want them to be happy, even if that’s not with you.
If they don’t reciprocate your love, it doesn’t mean they are bad. It just means they are not the right man for you. That’s it.
You aren’t in love with a person, you’re in love with the idea of that person that you have in your head. That’s your focus, so you lose sight of the reality.
But trust me, if he wanted to he would. If he missed you he would call. If he wanted to be with you he would make that happen. Men are go getters, so if you’re not in his life it’s because you just aren’t the right woman for him. Move on. You are worth so much more than trying to please the wrong man. Stop it now!
You’re probably thinking that you just have to do more, give more, show him more love, THEN he will understand and suddenly fall in love with you and become that verison of himself that you have in your mind. But it won’t happen. I’m sorry.
The RIGHT man will chase YOU. Not the other way around.
You can’t manipulate or force a man to be with you. Sooner or later it will end in disaster.
INSTEAD:
Matthew 6:33 - Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and everything else will be added to you.
You’re not supposed to be the one holding on to the relationship or what you think might be a relationship. That’s something you both are supposed to do, as a TEAM.
Matthew Hussey once said: It’s not about how you feel about a person but how that person makes you feel. This really hit home in my heart when I heard it.
You might love this man to death, but if he’s not reciprocating that love, you are probably not feeling to good about it. Stop and think; How is HE making ME feel? What has HE DONE to PROVE HIS LOVE to ME? What is he currently doing to hold this relationship together?
If you can’t answer those questions truthfully, I think it’s time to leave. You deserve better.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. Psalms 34:18
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Much love,
Melody

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@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

You deserve the best! Remember that!❤💪 It might be hard to let go, but I promise, it gets better ❤️‍🩹

@Ch-ll5oi Месяц назад

You can’t help it; is on your biology to chase Chad and Tyrone while your friend zone is full of quality men !

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

A girl with integrity will choose a good man because she knows her worth

@ragingskeptic9753 Месяц назад

Hear! Hear! She has given some very bad advice here.

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

@@ragingskeptic9753 Maybe it hit a little personally? 😂😂

@ragingskeptic9753 Месяц назад

@@faithwithmelody Unfortunately not. This is simply the raw reality of how women behave today, and the reason men won't talk to them. You don't have to take my word. Ask other men.

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

@@ragingskeptic9753 Just like women need to stop chasing the wrong men, men need to stop chasing the wrong women as well 🙏🙏

@ErikAdalbertvanNagel Месяц назад

As a guy I can tell ya, don't create drama for us. That disturbs our peace. If you have low self-esteem and lack of confidence and constantly panicing about rejection, you might push away someone who would want you. Know your worth without being arrogant with it. Also this is for both genders. How many of you tell the other person how you feel loved? And ask the same question, how they feel loved? If they care, they will show then.

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

Thats an important point you made 👍

@ErikAdalbertvanNagel Месяц назад

@@faithwithmelody I'm glad you find it useful.

@joshb7326 Месяц назад

You will never convince these people. They will only ever learn through their own mistakes. Unfortunately the men who mistreated them will give all men a bad reputation. I have no sympathy

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

I still believe there are good men and women out there 🙏 But I also understand how hard it can be to let go, and also how hard it can be to believe in love again after a heartbreak. But Jesus truly heals the broken hearted 🙏

@ragingskeptic9753 Месяц назад

"The men should pursue you. YOU'RE the prize." This simple erroneous mindset is keeping women single and asking "Why won't men date us?". At roughly age 30, the dating dynamic shifts. Women are no longer the prize. The high value men have now become the prize, because women didn't marry them while young. Instead, women Friend Zoned the good men, and slept around with all the Chads in their 20's, amassed a double-digit body count, and usually some kids along the way. Then, when she realizes her currency (beauty) is slipping away, she wants a high value man to rescue her from all the bad choices she made in life. A high value man doesn't want a woman with a high body count and someone else's kids. This is why men no longer pursue women in modern America. Feminism and "Me Too" killed the dating game. After listening to the rest of the video, you're telling women that they don't have to do anything but "sit back and enjoy the ride", and that the man has to make all the effort and treat you like a queen. You're setting women up for abject failure with this utter silliness. If you're not making a sustained effort to get and keep a high value man at a young age, he's going to move on.

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

Interesting thought 😂😂 I still stand on what I said though. Keep in mind this is for women who are chasing men that are NOT good for them 💪💪

@AR7271 Месяц назад

@@faithwithmelody you have a lot to learn, young Skywalker! What Raging Skeptic wrote here is very true. Dating for the average man is NOT easy street. Due to changes in society (namely, dating apps/web sites, an economic recession that never quite recovered, social media and income disparities) the dating "market" has become quite lop-sided. Men who were snubbed in their 20s get used to being alone and by the time many women want to "settle for the nice guy" in their 30s, men are either checked out from dating or are attempting to date younger women who have less emotional and physical baggage. Good video overall and congrats on your first semi-viral video! Nearly 700 views in 3 days for a small channel is excellent.

@celestialexistence3014 Месяц назад

Why do women need to be desired? When we chase after them they simply ghost us. So why do you panic when the roles are reversed? Do you even want relationships? Is it because of fear that you will be lonely or just some guy had the guts to ask you to be his gf?

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

The wrong girl will ghost you. It goes both ways.

@galhardipalmeirense123 Месяц назад

Hi, I'm Brazilian, I'm single, I know what a relationship is like, I'm alone but I intend to renew my life again and try again, I know it's not easy, I already understand you for many things

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

Best of luck!

@jacobmathew710 2 дня назад

🙏 🙏 🙏 🎉

@faithwithmelody 2 дня назад

@@jacobmathew710 🙏🙏🌟

@brooksroscoe2699 Месяц назад

Fantastisk raad! Min fru er Danska (31 aar tilsamma). Jag haabe min son can forstoraa din raad!

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

😄🙏

@galhardipalmeirense123 Месяц назад

You are right we need God without us we are not for everything to work out we have to put God above everything in our lives

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

Agree 👍

@peterdoe2617 Месяц назад

BullS**T

@sraitama9412 Месяц назад

I can agree with most cases, but dont even try what love is or what isnt, its to subjective for you to say what it is, because there is ko definition ,,if he not puting efford,, do girl put efford:? What they do that is part of them putting efford?

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

Love as a definition is found in 1 Corinthians 13, and love is sacrifice (John 3:16)

@sraitama9412 Месяц назад

@@faithwithmelody Ye, but it isn't going well with what you said about love tho... becasue you came with idea that somone isn't in love and that was only him/her thinking he/she is in love + there is no way to say that somone is in love, becasue in times like this we can't know if we would rly sacrifice ourselfs for somone we think we love ( if going with this ,,definition '' of emotion, but you can't define emotion tho, becasue everyone feeling them differently )

@gunshyam-nw1vu Месяц назад

A God-fearing girl would not have opted for a situationship. Pretty sure, she still misses the situationship guy. Funny, most western women gather all this baggage and then go for the nice guy. And I don't understand the psychology of the nice guy who says I got the girl and not him. Dude you get the spoils, the leftovers.

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

Well, sometimes a God fearing young and insecure girl grows up and becomes a strong confident proverbs 31 woman who knows her worth and ends up attracting the man of her dreams. Have you ever thought about that? 💪😂😂

@gunshyam-nw1vu Месяц назад

@@faithwithmelody I am glad if she did then. What I was trying to say is that, she doesn't need these experiences (hook-ups, ONS, situationships, multiple short term relationship) to then become strong and find the right person. In my opinion, women turn resentful, bitter, depressed, transaction-minded with a lack of innocence and femininity after these experiences and most men wouldn't want such women for a life partner. Sadly, feminism teaches women all this crap and that is why I expect more from god-fearing women.

@faithwithmelody Месяц назад

@@gunshyam-nw1vu I completely agree with that! And I actually made a video all on that topic that'll be out next week after this 3-part series.