If Tom would have just said I’m sorry I f’d up and leave it then everyone would have moved on. Don’t qualify it with what others did as in Im sorry but. It’s been a year so everyone should move on and I think they would have had you just shown remorse and apologized and did not try to blame others at the same time. And I’m not sure he’s getting it’s not the fact of the affair (everyone’s cheated in their group) it’s the fact of the lying to the entire friend group and never owning up to it when caught which is proven by Rachel’s last 5 minutes of the reunion when she reveals stuff Tom was still lying about.
I’d say just apologise without the excuses PLUS agree to sell the house. He should have moved out immediately but this is the next best thing. Sell, take your half and keep it pushing
Here's the thing everybody expects him to own up to his actions, right? So is Lala and Sheana not in control over their podcasts and what they say on them?? Did Sheana not make the decision to bring a guy on there to spill awful sexual private conversation with her? If ANYONE brought a random out to do that to them would set them off so hard. Come on. They cannot tell him to own up and then excuse this. They made so much money on a situation that was about somebody else's relationship. They should thank him, because Lala wasn't buying a house on merch from her split with Randall. The second they decided to profit off of it was the second they lost that right to speak on humility and question anyone's character. I can't imagine my excuse for my behavior being "well if you hadn't cheated on my friend, I wouldn't have brought that guy on my podcast to expose sexual encounters with Rachel. Look at her relationship history. Girl is lucky Rachel is too weak to invite someone like Adam or Brett. Then tell them to humble himself and not to blame others for his actions 😂 I mean the hypocrisy is real.
Why is Sandoval still talking? Schwatrz save yourself. They still don't get it. It's not about just the "Affair". It's about everything else he's done after at this point. I truly believe he would benefit from time away with professionals. John Oliver is hilarious.
I had an affair about 5 years into my marriage. Took my husband about a year to totally forgive me. But I was getting to that point of “if he doesn’t start letting it go I can’t continue”. It’s truly best to either move on or forgive. So thank ful he did, my marriage is honestly better for it. I def wish a better choice had been made on my part but the reality is what it is.
I'm glad it all worked out for you and your husband took you back. Lots of times people will get back together for a year or two but don't stay together because they can't forgive. I've been with my husband almost 35 years 10 before marriage and 25 married. I've never caught him in an affair nor do I have any reason to doubt him. But I've had a cheater in the past it was an awful way to live. I chose to leave because I didn't think he was done sowing his wild oats. But others can get thru cheating if they put in the work.
See here’s where ppl struggle. In one breathe Tom says “I don’t remember saying that” with the sledgehammer but then immediately follows with “I was trying to be funny I knew they were right there”.
@@charmcshane3517 within 30 seconds of each other? Yeah…I do lmao it’s not like it was days, weeks or even months in between. It was quite literally within a minute of each other.
Because she said he’s a bad dog parent and it’s his fault he had those bad behaviors basically lol. Like just admit yall got a dog and let it go nuts they can learn it’s not that deep. So I agree she should’ve just given him back to James he wanted him! Vs others wanted him if he’s good..cause he’s cute or a doodle but James just wanted him cause it was his dog lol
Because James was the reason he was aggressive to begin with. Could you imagine trying to train a dog and having James... A giant toddler with ADHD undoing all the progress. Lol
So are you going to talk about your lawsuit coming? You know for filming of perverted video without the other parties permission? Schwartz you need to look out too because that happened under your roof dude. Not cool
Anybody who has watched Vanderpump Rules from the beginning should know that Tom doesn’t have a racist bone in his body, made complete sense to me what he meant, man may have some issues, hate isn’t 1 of them!!!
Team Tom all the way! Great podcast. Sandoval does not deserve the rudeness and harshness towards him. Adriana has bigger ego than Tom ever had. Schwartz best friend ever! Love you guys! My favourite recap
The scandal will always be public, Its how you handle yourself around it. Everything comes back to attitude and flexibility in hard times. Do you want to sink to the bottom? or do you want to rise to the top? Edit: James needed two apologies 1. boning his ex-girl and 2. hiding your romance with her.
What does he have to do...your just feeding hate...He said sorry and people are loving feeding on EVERY LINE...why are people acting like their so frigging perfect to judge anyone! hypocrites!
Lisa was so kind and so thoughtful to want everyone to go beyond their personal pain for someone else. And Swartz needing his friend to see his importance was completely awesome. Being on the outside is like being in a pressure cooker, and acceptance releases the steam. True repentance is like that, because despite any outcome afterwards you’ve accepted the punitive consequences “whatever it will be.” I’m so thankful for forgiveness. Lastly, as with everyone “if they are blessed to witness,” that we’ll all mature ie, age, and look back on our life’s with some joy, but if you have a conscience, you’ll have many regrets too. The one thing I want to say about regrets is that they can eat you alive, if you’d allow it. Yes! it’s a blessing to have the breath to witness joy and regret, because later on in life, looking back, you’re given the chance to know the difference and be thankful, or sorrowful. The thing is don’t look back at the joy and regret on a un managed turn table, because it means you aren’t living in the now, but in yesterday. In life we have seasons of joy and sadness, war and peace , so let it be for a season and not let it or lust it, or define your whole existence by it. Love you guys, and I’m so happy the lid has been removed. Now restoration begins.
Tom I would leave all the haters behind, we see your good heart and most of us see what you went through and know you don't deserve all the negative scrutiny.
I wish people would just let it go. It was an affair - and it doesn’t even sound like he was in a healthy relationship with Aria. It happens. It’s not the end of the world. NEXT Also, I took his NYTimes comparison to be in terms of name recognition only. Stop beating the guy down FFS.
Tom Sandoval, you should seriously consider acquiring a different skillset with which to make a living. I don't think you will ever be able to work on yourself enough to not keep making these hugely bad decisions and statements so need to get out of the public eye and show biz. You become less likable and charismatic by the day.
Sandoval is a caring generous giving person.I love him and Schwartz. Stay in show biz Tom..many people love you and want to see you on TV. You were great on special Forces..amazingly handsome too. Come perform in Naples Florida!
I love Branson! We went for 30 plus years and always had a great time! We even bought into a time-share there for a while until they started jacking the prices up to double, then triple for yearly "dues." It was such a wonderful place to visit, so it was very sad for our whole family to let it go. With many other options of places to stay at, I'm sure we'll go back someday. 😊
In 1940, London residents were bombed for 57 days straight by the Germans and came out relatively unscathed. I think Tom is rivaling in them in terms of surviving annihilation attempts (via the press). It might your superpower. The cake interview was funny and campy.
Ya’ll are crazy! It’s beautiful at Lake Tahoe but the water is melted snow and ice and it’s FREEZING even when it’s 110 degrees outside. I was proud of Tom Sandoval for apologizing to James cuz he needed it and he really does love Tom and was heartbroken. Rachel was always a dingbat and I’m not sure why anyone ever got into her unless they wanted someone to make them look smart. I know she went to College but I went to College and so did a lot of my friends and some got degrees that were hard to attain and they aren’t bright. Just cuz you can read and get through College doesn’t make you smart. That’s for sure! I mean how she couldn’t even give a speech. WEIRD!!!!
Keep your head up Tom. You don’t deserve that treatment no one is perfect. What they are doing is bullying now. They all did the same thing at one point. Keep pushing forward brother. Went to Tom Tom two week ago. Awesome chill place. Can’t wait to visit Schwartz & Sandy's.
Team Tom from Cleveland Ohio, I don't know if these people deserve your friendship at this point, we all make .istakes, its getting hard watching the attacks and acapegoating against you....keep your head high, dude....This too shall pass
You all went through a crapton of trauma over this bc of the amplification of the media. Just bc you’re the one who makes the mess/mistake doesn’t mean you don’t experience trauma also. 😓
Please leave him alone. I was team Arianna. At first but have grown to love Tom. She has a very big head syndrome going for her now, just really tied of her.
@@donnachilders9003 Enough is enough when HE stops talking about it and playing victim. He is mentally unwell and needs to go away and get help. You are pouring gas on his forest fire and aiding in his ego continuing on sending him down the path of destruction. 🔥
Yeah, Tom that was awful. Worst than the affair! You always were the moral voice of the gang. What happened? I thought eating shrooms was supposed to give you insight and they seemed to warp your brain. Schwartz seems to have grown up a bit. So, I guess someone got something out of it.
Definitely a nice reset. The best of all the cast members on this trip showed thru. I especially liked the interaction between well meaning and accepting Brock. So many years Tom Sandoval steped up as the big brother and it was great to see Brock step in and do a one on one big brother dialog with Tom. That photo optic that Lisa had with those beautiful creatures was beautiful. I don't know what breed of dogs she was with because I've never seen wolves with such a sweet demeanor but what ever breed they were gorgeous.. Lisa bringing Graham also added to another element of sweetness.
They ARE WOLFS!!! There are tons of youtube videos of people who rescue wolfs and their relationships with them show just how sweet, loving, loyal and intelligent these amazing creatures are. They are still wild animals, the unexperinced should NEVER OWN ONE!
Thanks for the information. Beautiful creatures that deserves to be respected at a distance, so it was interesting to see how close Lisa was to them and I even noticed that one of the wolfes was smiling at her. The pictures turned out beautifully.
Poor Tom you can’t catch a brake! Your only human people make comments like that every day you just in the spot light. I didn’t think it was a big deal!
Love VPR! I've been watching since episode 1, so I've watched ALOT of horrible behavior. Scandoval was horrible, I agree, but it's getting way too much publicity now. This didnt happen to you, so let it go, and if it did, then you know what you need to do! I'm switching the subject. What really makes my jaw drop is when people like James and "Lala" 🙄 are bashing others for something exactly of what they have done before. Sometimes even worse! Im not a violent person, but I've wanted to slap the shit out of them several times when they talk. I guess every show has to have some phony, delusional people on it to make it interesting, right?? With "Jax" and Kristen getting kicked off, they had to keep James 😵💫 and Lala🙄lala🙄lalalalala 🤪 for the crazy 💩 that comes out of their mouths. It does make it funny, though! 😅❤ I only have a hard time is when I think about 🌊. Poor baby doesn't have a chance with her 2 narcissistic parents. Hopefully, James will keep working on himself, and then when the time is right, have babies with the beautiful, normal girl he has right now. LOTS OF LOVE VPR! ❤️
Missed you Tom 😊 I’m so over generation sensitive thinking they’re perfect and they don’t mess up. Before the words came out of your mouth I already knew what type of comparison you were trying to make. Everyone is just waiting for you to “mess up” again so they can have new material to talk about when it comes to you. Love you and you’ll always be a great person no matter what strangers and gf that was over you think.
Love you Tom!! TeamToms!! Keep your head up - you are a leader not a follower! We see your good heart and your cool sense of style too! Stay true to you! Forgive yourself and move on with Schwartz and your new friends! Sending love from Florida and see you in Clearwater 🤍☀️🎊
We'll be seeing you guys soon at your upcoming shows and figure out which one's we're going to go to, love Tom's Good Lovin' (we give them to our clients as closing gifts) - Bill loves the Rye
Jesus how many times does he have to apologize? He already has a 100 times but it’s never good enough for everyone. He had an affair, he didn’t kick a puppy or kill somebody. Yet people are sitting there judging his mental health and his suicidal intentions. Shame on all of you! I was there, not for the same reasons, but everyone was like well she was always partying and laughing. She was a bitch. She didn’t seem depressed. That was my mask, my facades. I was to proud to show how broken I was. How much I despised myself. How far down that black hole I was. Then something was my tipping point and I broke. I had the pills ready. I had the knife ready. I was sobbing and I called someone. So do not sit there and judge someone else’s mental health! It could quite literally mean there life Rant over Stay strong Tom. There are lots of us that do care 💕🌸💕
All of what you just said can and should be applied to Ariana too. He blew her world up and then blamed her for HIS actions. Remember all of what you just said to him, while you are watching this season and make sure you keep it in mind while producers continue to push the “Ariana’s the villain,” edit.
@@AmandaJohn-k5m is there a reason you’re trying to get me choose sides? Did I say anything against Arianna? You’re exactly the type of person I was referring to though obviously. Judgemental. Here. Let me type slower so you can understand better ….. do not judge SOMEONE’s mental health …. If Arianna is someone, the message would be the same, would it not? Non-judgmental regarding anyone’s mental health is a caring humane thing to do IMO something you’re obviously lacking
@@AmandaJohn-k5mdid he really “blow up” her world? She got a new man 11 days after the affair. She was most likely cheating on him for months as well, just not with someone from the friend group
The masses will keep demanding Apologies if you keep giving them. You owe nobody anything. No more apology tour. Screw them. Don’t let anybody tell me you’re light Tom. Missed your show last week and I hope you don’t stop doing them because of pressure from idiots.❤
We all say things we regret. Sometimes things make sense in our head but once it’s out in the open you realize it’s not how you meant it. I hope people approach you with grace.
I saw a review on Schwartz and Sandy’s and it wasn’t very good. Saying a lot of cocktails were not available and the sliders No buns available!! Wth! Said not very crowded so you both need to be there more often and make sure everything on the menu is available or this restaurant will not make it..
Sent you a message on Instagram but it says you'll never get it. I said that the pictures on your nyt article where amazing! You look like a Greek God! Those of us with a brain knew what you where trying to say! Stay strong you are loved and all this will pass. ❤ lots of love
The bullying is worse the affair itself. Also I think it was tacky to have Andy his after shows it's tom tom etc. Really just come on Andy is a crap stirrer. Sat night who cares. It is not all that good these days. We all loved u here in roseville ca.
Tom just know that no matter how many times you apologize some people are still going to hate on you but you apologized and that's really all you can do. You will not be able to please everyone so don't even try.
You spent waaaaaaaay too much time on talking about SNL. Jesus Christ LET IT GO! It was stupid anyway. Please stick to recapping the show and personal stuff. That's interesting!!!!!!!
Omg Katie and Ariana are mean girls after this scandal! Used to love them but since the scandal they changed and so snobbish! Disgusting roll eyeing behavior. Everyone move on by now and if your friends are scared to be friend with you because of her that’s manipulation!
I would love u know matter. U said enough sorry to last a two years. Death treats to you or the other tom. Sorry this last trip with all but two. Blew me away. Especially shenas husband. All them do not need all these do this tom do that tom etc. They are not special. Ariana is crazy is she thinks friends of yours like shena if talks to you she is not her friend. I think take sorry now out of any sentence unless to Ariana. Its done. Raquel if you are reading text tom don't ghost him. You know he went out on a limb over you because I can tell he did and does love u. I want you two to have a chance together. Who knows he maybe your person. Tom I love u. But get off this show. Work at the bar, your band new stuff. But really it's going down the tub. Also tom your friend you really need to stop telling him how to act. He is a grown man. If u are his true true friend. Then be one dude.
Wishing you both all the best. We learn hard lessons while experiencing our worst times. The trick is, to learn from it. Being humble is the way to go! Understanding friends talking badly about you and Rachel was wrong. Still be humble defending yourself at this point, isn't going to be a good look. About what's happening, on the Bravo Network: All I am going to say is I said," its just the beginning" many months ago. I have feelings about things and tried my best to warn the Network over a year ago. Nobody would listen nor acknowledge anything I said. From changing the way shows were produced to bringing back Kim D. As well that Rachel is the missing link on VPR. I am sad because I am a big fan but also a published writer. I am not a well known writer. I was totally disregarded. Sometimes when you're not in the thick of everything, you can see things much clearer. From my heart, I truly did my best over a year ago to prevent what's now going on. I have proof from the letters I sent to my comments, all over social media for over a year. I just wish they would have taken me seriously. I just feel that with all the lawsuits, people going to jail as well serious allegations, that things are definitely crumbling. We need to get back to yrue friendships as well innocence. As much as it can be for reality TV.
I mean.... youre not wrong for what you said. The fact that your "affair" was on national news is just ridiculous.... yeah it was a big mess up on your part.... but there are FAR worse people out there.... Thats another reason I dont watch big news outlets. Its ridiculous. As far as your actions... youre an "actor" you are entertainment on a reality tv show.... its staged, and they sensationalize the stories, which is why we watch. I was bored with Arianna way before poeple started siding with you in the new season. As Tom schwarz says, you are not the queen. You also are not the only person to be cheated on like this.
Tom I would love to see you and Raquel together as a couple if your ever both single. Not sure where everyone is at. Ariana would be the worst darkest abusive nightmare to have a relationship with.. Shes not my vibe in any way..
Katie's tom come on over it. Find some other stuff to talk about. That wall I loved it when u were naming stuff like mustash , and just everything u were yelling I was yeah give it to them james included. His so called dj is not all that.
Sandy has got to stop apologizing to everyone. The only person he truly owed an apology to, doesn't want to hear it anymore. Stand in ur person Sandoval, u can't please everyone all the time. You will always b taken out of context, if u don't mind thn it doesn't matter so let it go
