learn to be bored 

So true and I haven’t even watched yet.

I was testing my ability to focus on this video and found that after a few seconds of watching you, I'd immediately try opening another program on my computer, or checking something in my room. Thanks for this horrifying revelation.

I'm not muslim I'm not religious at all but i really like how empathethic you are towards others and your points are absolutely true, it's also extremely difficult to escape this kind of living rn, society and social media fuel a cycle of depression - too much dopamine that's so difficult to break even if you're conscious it exists. Your message of doing nothing and sitting with yourself, which I think we're the first generation at all who has completely cut out those moments, is incredible

Alright but seriously, who even remembers what they saw while scrolling? I remember NOTHING. Thats how important it is to you.

The exact reason why I stop using Snapchat, IG, and Twitter. I actually enjoy being bored and giving my thoughts the freedom to roam around in my head.

Thank you for uploading this video, I’m 17 and I’ve been trying to change the way I’m living my life , I realized how much time I waste on useless things, imagine that I’m 17 and I don’t even pray all of my salawat! Realizing how sad and miserable my normal life is, being addicted to dunya rather than working for my akhira , but I know deep down that I won’t stay like that , I will change for the sake of Allah even if it’s hard ❤

I am 100% addicted to my cell phone. I have a screen time goal of less than 1 hour and I only meet it about half the time. Your video motivated me to do better.

this episode makes me want to sit alone with you having more conversations about topics like this while sipping tea or something idk long story short it resonates with me and i truly thank you

You got me at pointing out how not normal it is to experience extreme happiness or sadness in less than a minute. Jazaki Allahu khairen 🌻❤️🤲

5:20 I've always wondered why Tumblr feels slow paced and not as addictive as other apps. I think it has something to do with its design, you don't really have algorithm, you only get posts from the people you follow, so mostly stuff you will like seeing. There are also a lot of long text posts compared to other apps, from random fun educational facts to book reviews to stories and ponderings. The whole app culture feels slower paced and the people there seem to have more patience. You don't feel exhausted from using it in my experience. It feels like all the university/college students, science nerds, authors, artists and geeks jumbled up in one place and it's great lol :) Though now what's happening to twitter and reddit tumblr has started to make changes to look more mainstream. Most users don't like the change.

You’re such a beautiful soul. I’m not new to this community but everyday I get to watch videos of people that I believe have the same mindset it makes me feel new. It’s crazy how RU-vid recommended this gem for me. Hope to learn more stuff. You really have a wonderful humour too. Have a blessed day.

This video is absolutely golden. This is something I've been really getting a larger understanding of lately and it's quite terrifying just how much we've been affected by all of this overstimulation. I love how genuine and real you come across in this, I feel like it's not seen as much on these platforms. I made a video about it myself but I gave the message with stimulative presentation while talking about overstimulation. I think it's amazing that you were able to give it purely. Please continue to make content! Subscribed! Thank you so much for speaking about this 🙌🏽

i recently went through a break up and i catched myself watching hours of videos on instagram just so I didn't have to sit with my feelings and actually work on it because it was a way of not having to think about what happened. this video actually opened my eyes about that.

This made me emotional as well, since us Muslim sisters we are really wasting our time other than doing something that is beneficial for ourselves, and it’s so sad how we waste our time in stuff that doesn’t really help us in life, thank you farah ❤️

you are so real I’m so happy that i sit alone sometimes and think of stuff literally media ruins our existing.

You caught me scrolling and now I can't go back. You speak so much to my heart. I already got some of my little moments back. Work in progress 💪 Thanks for the friendly reminder of that subtle addiction ❤

you're one of the most well spoken humans i've ever seen, made it so difficult for people who search for reasons to take offense at something to defend their addiction.

I'm Catholic, but your video really helped me to , I've been losing so much time with useless thing, and that makes me forget my real objective in life. Thanks very much and keep the good working!

Your video was eye opening for me , i am 14 and i am not good in studies, i have trouble sleeping(insomnia), my parents are disappointed in me, your video helped me so much, i am gonna join tuition tomorrow and study hard. Thanks from an indian muslim 🤍

You're so right! It's really scary to look around and see everyone on their phone. I feel like we're becoming robots without minds and the only thing we know is social media 😭. I'm concerned about the content on social media. How do people even post that awful content? Why do they post it? Why do others like it? I once read in a book that people ignore and want to forget their problems and not deal with them even though dealing with them is easier than ignoring them. I think social media makes it easy to ignore problems and feel happy. People are addicted to it because they "can't" find happiness in their life.

I wait for you every jumuah , it’s almost like a jumua’s lecture ❤ it speaks to me and i love it. Thank you.

I feel your sincerity. I'll try tomorrow to limit myself using social media but I also wanted to spend my time watching your podcast at least one episode per day. Love this.

I can really relate to this. I think the biggest loss, of the many, is how quickly time goes by when you spend so much of it on your phone. I struggle a lot, between ADHD and the brain fog from long Covid, I need my phone to direct my actions. Between email, my calendar, my NOTES where I write down EVERYTHING. I basically found a way to make my life work, but it comes at an expense

This video was extremely insightful, and I am really grateful that you are spreading this message! Social media and short term gratification has plagued a lot of minds, and this video is a reminder on why sometimes the best course of action is to sit in silence and reflect on yourself.

It’s tricky because we learn so much from social media, yet as they say, too much of anything is a bad thing. Learning how to balance screen time and spending time with the self is important. I struggle with excessive screen time and constantly needing to feel mentally stimulated, and I think this stems from “if I’m not on my phone, I’m missing out on information.” I’m working on shifting this idea.

I needed this. I feel so disconnected from myself and am always on a chase for dopamine. It's no surprise I'm struggling with depression or that I feel restless all the time. It's not natural.

I really love the energy I'm getting from this video

This is what I needed to hear today. Alhumdulilah. May Allah reward you. Love your personality!

Yk I’ve always wanted to have a podcast or do a channel and talk about all the topics you’ve been talking about. But I don’t want to appear on camera nor post my voice so seeing this makes me so happy! Because I know if I start and make a pod or whatever and share these reminders people will benefit from so thank you for doing it jazaki Allah khair

Girl. I'm so happy i've found your channel and this video. I love how natural it is. Just the whole 30 mins video without any disturbing music, cut parts and etc. It's just like if i were sitting with you and discussing some topics we are both interested in. Especially for someone recently converted as me, you give extra motivation to spend time doing good for my religion instead of wasting time of non-beneficial stuff. Thanks for your work 🤍 May Allah (SWT) bless you and all other people.

I absolutely love this video: informative, from the heart, no editing no annoying music...Just Farah crying because she wants us to be better❤ May allah accept your good deeds🥺❤

this message is so important, and your explanation was clear and so well worded. it is in the last couple of years that i have been slowly realizing how beneficial it is to be able to sit with myself and be at peace, and watching your video i finally saw how much of an improvement it has brought into my life. everything feels brighter, lighter. i am an aspiring writer and everytime i take a moment to just be with myself i feel words flowing out of my hands with an ease i didn't know could be possible. thank you. (sorry for my English, it is not my first language :))

I really like how coherent and constructive the facts are that you laid out in this video; hope it passes a million view threshold because more people have got to watch it.

This reached me in the right place and time. Thank you from the bottom of my heart

Its the kids I feel sorry for the most. You see them out in a pushchair when theyre clearly of walking age, playing on their tablet and having no interraction with their parents. They're missing out on the world and I cant imagine how mentally ill theyre going to be when they grow up. As for us, we are also spending too much time missing out. I have nothing to do tomorrow so Im going to have a day off my phone and see where it takes me. I really needed this video, thank you❤ But most importantly, never apologise for crying. Just how we've lost our way through technology we have lost our way trying to be emotionless super humans like robots. Crying is an important emotion and we need to do more of it as a society instead of pretending to be all fun and happy all the time. It's good to see someone showing true emotion online, speaking at a normal volume at a steady pace and saying something real.

Spreading such a good message. So hard to put down my phone when it feels like my friend

This video found me at the perfect time . I’ve been so overwhelmed on my phone . Way too much info , it makes my head hurt , I grab for my phone at all moments , when I’m bored , anxious , happy etc I hate that I’m addicted to my phone

I have been telling everyone to embrace boredom....... thank you for sharing,I am not the only one that sees the damage of life online

Ive watched these videos a lot but seeing the same perspective from a Muslim girl in a Muslim country is really fascinating. Im secular but i respect the hell out of u! Just subscribed :)) greetings from USA!

Excellent and thoughtful video! I took notes, and I totally understand why this topic made you emotional because this is impacting people globally, it's sad. Thank you for this video and your awareness, you're awesome ♥

I’ve always told myself that I need to use my mornings wisely - this gives me motivation

I agree that all this tech things we have been forced to use on a day to day basis when there is no need is one of the biggest negative that has come out. Look at all the trouble social media causes 😢😢😢. I find it so sad that people don't and can't spend quality time together anymore.

I thought it was just me being Autistic, but I've been thinking these things since I've had social media. I honestly thought it was me not getting it or something. I realised I used it cause I wanted to be physically alone but needed something to keep me constantly doing something. You're right, silence, stillness, feels so so uncomfortable in today's social media/tech age. I stopped using all social media for over 4 months and experienced everything you spoke about. All of those things I was avoiding popped up. My interests changed, my view on life and myself changed. I found out I was decent at painting, I started playing my guitar every day, I started writing...a lot. A lot. I cut people off, I gained new people. I have a valuable offline life and I really don't enjoy social media. I feel now that it's performative. It forces you to be performative and makes you feel like you have to live this life that's valid of posting. You see others perfected versions, you compare. You see something great followed by the worst thing you've ever seen, that you'd never have seen if you weren't scrolling. People aren't their real selves online. We get the worst parts of humanity on there because people feel safe behind a screen (whether people admit that or not). It's not real. The thing that always kills me the most...is social media relationships. Or people who post every second of their relationship. That's not what relationships are, they're supposed to be something that you share with the person you're with. Not a performative action so you look good next to your friends engagement pics or new baby pics or their relationship. Same for parents. Why are they posting every private precious moment of their innocent child's life? Babies have 0 privacy from the moment they come out of the womb. It's not just that, but predators are smart and they are evil. Does no one care anymore about protecting people they love? In all those moments you're not thinking of your child or your partner, you're thinking 'i need to show everyone how good my life is on social media'. That's putting something fake above what's real and right Infront of you. We are teaching kids that life looks like that. When real life doesn't even come close. Real life is so much more beautiful and nuanced and messy. To me social media feels like the worst parts of highschool. It's social climbing, fake validation, bullies, mobs, my tribe Vs your tribe on steroids. You've got grandmother's arguing in Facebook comment sections as if they're on the playground. It's a whole mess.

i appreciate how this talk is laid back asf. like we all here to hang but get deep. here for it

Honestly, i love the way you talk and your videos really help me to think of life in a much different perspective. Im only 14, and in the 8th grade, and next year ill be in the 9th grade (In Sha Allah). I feel like this whoke year has been really great for me, i went to a lot of dofferent places and really bonded w my family in a way I've never bonded before. I guess its just the realisation of how grateful i truly am to have everyone in my life. But ever since my finals started, ive started feeling a bit weird. I studied really hard for the subjects i was bad at and yet i still did terrible on the exams. I constantly feel like time is going slower. I dont do anything anymore since i have exams now and i know i should be studying, but sometimes it just gets too boring. Im constantly in my room either laying down or looking at my reflection and trying to "perfect" my flaws and what-not. Its become so frequent, i know that itll end once my results come in, and I'm hobestly really scared i might not di well. I even started praying and focusing on my Deen, obviously not just for my exams cause that would be selfish, I've prayed to Allah for manu other things. Idk where im going with this but all im trying to say is that i feel like im in constant boredom and now even my phone isnt helping😭😭

I was looking for this video, so much appreciated, جزاكم الله خيرا

You’re very eloquent with your words and I can tell you have a very rich soul. I have a very bad phone addiction and I hope to break it soon I’ve had plans to do so many things for years like learn a language, read my bible more, clean my parents basement, and complete my UX design certification. I am so behind on everything and I know it’s because the phone sucks away your time and motivation

Productivity is not being all the time. It is about having a plan and achieving it with your insanity intact. Peace helps you reach your goals. 💯

9:27 THIS PART REALLY OPENED MY EYES OMG😭

She’s so right, we need more people like you

Taking 30minutes and watching this video at its on pace made my day

i've never saw one of ur videos without be a better version of myself and i literally mean it

“Never before has a generation so diligently documented themselves accomplishing so little.”

you are speaking TRUTH! this is why i just can't get any projects done nowadays if it's on the computer, mainly b/c i am so addicted to twitter that i just HAVE to check it every few minutes, & then the compulsive scrolling sets in! i just don't know how to stop but i also can't delete the app b/c it's the one app i use to support BTS 😭

I haven't finished the video but I just want to give a take on the whole "knowing what someone is doing is not useful, not mindful*". Like sometimes I don't want to be mindful about things and I think that's fine. We don't have to be intentional about everything all of the time. I get why you talked about this kind of habit on the video but I personally think that if you're not spending way too much time online it's ok to just check and see what people are doing just because. You know? We don't always need a good reason to do something, we can just chill from time to time and that's fine!

I've never seen you before until now when I clicked on this before going to sleep. I listened to the whole thing and I just wanna say you are so so smart and great at speaking . thank you for sharing your wisdom on this topic! I could also talk about this for hours. Ive felt the exact same way you described about it but couldn't seem to do anything about it because I thought it wasn't as important. but it is. I feel like people like you and i were meant to be born in a different generation. The concept of just existing and actually living mindfully sounds so foreign to a good amount of young people these days. It's so easy to pick up the phone and mindlessly scroll. This week I've fallen victim to the scrolling again due to starting over and moving. I'm just noticing all the negative impact it has had on my life , my attitude, even my relationships others and self. It does more harm then good just like a drug that I don't want to relapse on again. From here on out I plan on detoxing from social media. whether that means cutting back slowly, or stopping all together. because i know i haven't been giving myself my fullest attention or energy. I'm going to hold myself accountable starting now. Thanks so much again 🤍🙏

I come back to this video again and again

I felt your words and thoughts on a really deep level, and it opened my mind a lot as these ideas were always in the back of my mind but have never been or have seen anyone express it so well. Loving your podcasts keep it up

I just discovered this channel. You offer some excellent lessons that yeah, I should do too. I mean, I could be knitting instead of doomscrolling like I do. Thank you for the advice and oh--don't apologize for getting emotional--you're fine 😊

This video was so obvious but yet necessary for me to hear it coming from someone else. It's like my brain was already screaming those words to me, but there's a real screen addiction problem going on with most people including myself

You are so easy to listen to and understand, I hope you become a teacher

Not me... because when I see tomato, adrenaline rush is happening inside of me.😊 Anyways, the whole point of this video helps me a lot. Thank you.❤

Farah, you're such a comfortable and lovely human. Now I'm going to call you Farah sensei. Thank you so much for this talk.

The ending 🤣🤣🤣 you are so hilarious. Thank you so much for your spirit 💚🙏🏿

There are studies that have shown that mindless scrolling on and being on RU-vid/TikTok for hours in end quite literally decreases your awareness of your internal and external world

I can't stop myself to say damn in my mind after every sentence you said.

I don't wan't my mind to wander! That's why I fell into this in the first place. To stop the thoughts. They're really exhausting, repetitive and honestly useless. Writing it out doesn't help.

"Productivity is reaching that goal with your sanity intact" PLEASE THIS IS SO FUNNY I haven't agreed with anything more than I agree with this sentence, or farah in general

you influenced my life in a good way with this video.

This is honestly the best advice. Thank you very much.

I have no issue sitting alone in a room, doing nothing. I do it every day. I just stare at the wall. empty. spaced out. disconnected. It's not a good thing. A healthy brain seeks out stimulation.

im so glad to see more people delate social media

We are living in a hyperreality in the sense that our fundamental symbols and ideals have been replaced with false ideals and symbols not rooted in or derived from 'actual reality'. We are no longer able to distinguish between what is real and what is a simulation of the real. Simulacra and Simulation is a great book if you like this topic.

Sitting still and doing nothing and letting your thoughts flow …. is doing something it’s meditation .

Thanks lovely. So true. I like your take on things

what a blessing to find this video

Farah I don't usually comment on videos but I have to say you really inspired me to be more cautious with my time and not only that but to also be a better Muslim. Thank you so much for your amazing content.

I've been watching RU-vid since it started and I've noticed i slowly stopped using the search bar, sure i use it every now and again for more specific videos but now i mainly watch what i the algorithm shows if it interests me then pretty quickly i just get stuck for a hour or so scrolling watching videos of pointless crap I'd never watch a few years ago. I also have to stop myself from commenting on the pointless videos which is addicting too.

today when i was at the gym i was reading this book (atomic habits) and now watching you explain it from your point of view is just intreasting and amazing how you realy affect the people from your point of view. keep going ur legend !

I agree that your phone can be a huge distractor and turn you into a zombie: and I've noticed it myself. I've been thinking for a couple months now to switch to a flip phone and just use my laptop for learning and texting.

Thank you ❤

Last night I went to a restaurant and there was a large group of friends sitting beside me. I kid you not… all on their phones the entire time. I barely heard them say one word to each other. It was insane

“If you scroll after this, you’re an absolute psychopath” had me rolling on the floor😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I've seen you on Instagram . But I'm sooo grateful To Allah that I found this vedio of yours and channel on top of that . Since last month I've been trying to bring my life together and I didn't know how to but I still kept trying . The one thing I noticed in this vedio is how sameee and exact our thoughts are but I could never describe them better than you . 🤚🏻😭 I'll keep watching every vedio of yours from now on In Sha Allah 💗 THANK YOU SOO MUCH

Lady, your video popped up and there are some of us who have never had social media and I have not watched television for 20 years 😊I only like RU-vid so that I can learn some good things 😊and meditation is a practice that many have acquired to discipline themselves consistently with ❤

I feel like you are speaking directly to me, like we're in the same room!! instantly subscribed

I am so glad I found this video and your channel, thank you. I am big time struggling with stuff right now

47 seconds in: “word.” *closes phone and sits quietly for 15 min*

You have some great points. I think that the brain numbing effect can be a bit refreshing(in a sense) after a long day of work/school/etc.

The fact that i can’t sleep without the air conditioner sound is very scary

Farah the things you said in the Last Minutes of this episode were sooooo beautiful

I have a friend when we go out for a walk or sitting in a cafeteria he is just sitting there exploring TikTok veds or Play a game on his phone , literally every time we go out i take a picture of him doing that while everyone else in the gothering are talking laughing story telling

please boycott lays!!

I tried to sit down and just see what my brain was saying and thinking, just for 30 mins. I literally fell asleep 🤦‍♀️

"And if u scroll after this, you're honestly a phsycopath" Bestie made me die of laughter 😂😂😂

other than social media having a factor in this i think it’s also important to realize how much capitalism pushed the narrative of being busy 24/7 and how that’s the only way to be “productive” more than it jus being a human choice i think it’s also the fact that there’s many systems and things that we’ve been taught at a young age that leads to us living this plugged in and always on the go life style

damn cant belive she escaped hassan and started making youtube videos, im really happy for her

Jazak Allahu khir for this!! I really needed to hear this reminder, very eye opening! 😭

Im losing it 😂 when you say people rather electrocuted than sitting lonely with own thought. Like that phrase exactly describe people really hates doing nothing