Leaving The Female Narcissist 2 Reasons Men Can’t Let Go 

I’m stuck in the same situation. And being a guy, you get absolutely NO sympathy. Everyone blames you, and they even claim you’re weak or even less of a man. You learn fast who your real friends are.

When I first got together with the female narc I had never felt so validated and confirmed. All I had to do was breath and she told me I was amazing. She did warn me in subtle ways that she had another side. Eighteen months later she was nothing more than an insane bickering demented five year old in an adult’s body. I got out, but the recovery is long.

The narc will only leave easily when they have someone else lined up.

Well guys I finally did it I left my Narc just now Michelle This video inspired me . I know I'm in for a world of hurt but the healing starts now

They say " Your a man, you shouldn't feel hurt". That really screws with your head in so many ways..

My son has been in a relationship with a narcissist and I saw through her right away. She’s very petite and drop dead gorgeous and she showed her extreme vanity right away, making it super obvious how much she values her looks and tries to come across as sweet by complimenting other excessively on solely on appearance. She would constantly tell me how pretty I am, which is also a way of fishing for compliments. Anyway…she’s been tearing him apart because she’ll all of a sudden turn on him, accuse him of some irrational bull crap and then break up with him, only to come back a day or two later and he takes the bait because he’s addicted to her sexually, etc. Yesterday he came to me in tears because she had picked him up and while she was driving, tore into him with the most vicious verbal abuse….hitting on all of his deepest insecurities and telling him he’s a loser, a bad father, etc and then actually slapping and punching him in the face. She really got under his skin and cut him so deeply that he was feeling like what she said was all true. That’s a level of evil that I can’t believe happened to him and really devastated him. He said he’s blocked her number and that he’s finally done and I’m just praying that he sticks to it because I fear for his safety if he sees her again.

My dad is married to my Narc mother, and it is so sad to see them interact now that I'm a grown adult. She constantly puts him down, to the point where he now just puts himself down. He has such a lowered self esteem. When she yells, he does nothing. He makes excuses for her and takes the blame. I love my dad, but I wish he could see this.

Damn this is so true. I'm transitioning out of a narc relationship. She put me on a pedestal, comforted me in my darkest times, turned me against my own family, needed my help, called the cops on me, Cheated on me, blamed it on me etc. It destroyed my self esteem and faith in ever having a decent relationship.🤐😣😨😰🤮😔

Spot on. They bring you into their world. Then use all your weaknesses against you. They play the victim when you leave, and promise to never do it again, but of course they do it again and worse.

“Stay in the present & focus on reality” Every guy should watch this everyday!!!

Even when things were going good with my ex narc girlfriend, I knew in the back of mind, the minute she gets angry about even the simplest thing or over an assumption in her head, then all hell comes my way. I’ve been walking on eggshells for ten months with this girl. She has gotten me out of my own character and it’s just too much stress every other day no matter what day, Monday, Tuesday, Christmas my birthday etc. Many bad times with her more than all my other relationships combined. I should start a channel and tell about my experiences. All terrible.

Never put yourself in a position that allows a narcissist to have complete and total control. All of your relationships they've destroyed along the way has been in preparation for this one single moment. To have you isolated, helpless and codependent on them. You were unknowingly doomed from the start.

My ex narc would instantaneously stop projecting and playing the victim as soon as I started recording with my cellphone. The personality shift was so incredible.

Well, sad but true. I've lived this. I never understood what was happening to me. I just lost myself. Breaking free after ten years. Healing is super hard. You don't realize all the damage.

Worst feeling in the world and the lowest form of humanity !. The pain from the experience is really hard to explain to someone who has never been in a relationship like this .....but the pain and the affects are real !!.

Sounds like an addiction to someone who hurts you.

My friend suggested i watch this video as I just broke up with my ex and haven’t eaten properly in 2 weeks/been thinking dark thoughts - never did I ever think I’d feel this way about losing another human beings presence. After watching this video I’m sitting now on my seat stunned. Every. Single. Thing. I can’t believe it.

I just had my revenge on my ex girlfriend narcisist. She gave me so much pain she gaslight me,destabilized me,devalued me,lied all the time,cheated on me,pretending after few months to be still available for her after she ia been with other 5 guys after me just for sex. Then she shown up pretending to give me the same treatment but me,tired of that shit i showed to her the photo of my current girlfriend. For her i had to be alone crying on myself waiting for her even if i tried so hard to go back with her but i have been discarded and punished with silence so many times.... enough is enough gents..now is time to heal!!

After 18 years this is it. I knew she was sick but could never figure it out. The lies the never owning any of the things she would say or do. I was the blame for everything. I would address my feelings, it was like talking to a brick wall. She finally up and left me and my kids and of course she said that it was because I kicked her out. My oldest son told me he overheard her speaking with her mother about having her room ready months in advance. She picked the perfect time to go. I have started the no contact. I do care for her. But enough is enough. I will not subject my children and myself to this any more. Please pray for us... thanks

I stayed because I didn’t want to leave our child alone in that environment 18yrs it isolated me and just about destroyed me!

This is spot on! Exactly what happened to me. I met the most understanding, fun, cool woman, who fulfilled every sexual fantasy I ever had… but that was just the hook, then came the devaluing, then the discard.

You are 100% accurate! 4 years of the best and ended the worst. She's not normal.

So spot on, my ex narc promised to go to counseling and get hello for her "anger" issues. Then proceeded to go and completely project her actions as if they were my behavior and convince her therapist, and me, that I was actually a narcissist. Finally getting to a place where I'm on the outside looking in and not reacting to her behavior makes me feel so idiotic for allowing it in the first place. It's a long agonizing road I struggle with every day

Thank you. I’m 7 years recovering from destruction

its like they use you and get a kick out of the discard stages to see you get frustrated, ahhh its horrible dealing with these people.

Thanks for holding women accountable.

You have just described my ex perfectly. The worst part is trying to talk to people about what you're going through and not being believed because of the idea that "women are always the victim, never the instigator".

Be prepared for everything when you leave a Female Narc the nuts and bolts of their mind can't handle rejection. Things like faking pregnancy, abortion and even suicide attempts can run deep in your emotional loop. Remember what they do is on them. Walk away and stay away if she truly has cause to contact you (IE pregnancy) it will be an outside 3rd party that will advise you. Your job is to treat your wounds come closer to higher power and do good things in the world. Never forget you are important.

Absolutely 100% true. Its like you know her. So very scary. I'm freaked.

Thank you, Michele! Ever since I got discarded, your videos have helped me understand just who it was I was in love with...now I just need to overcome the sense of loss, and accept the fact that even as she lovebombs the person she cheated on me with, it's not real, the problem isn't with me, but in who SHE is, and that the discard is the best thing that could've happened to me

What else keeps men there is knowing the emotional and mental torture he will have to endure for leaving. The female narc will often harass him back into a screwed up arrangement just to keep him in her sphere. She really is a gypsy curse that has to be passed on to someone else.

I'm breakin down right now... you don't know how much I needed this video... Thank you

I haven't seen anyone, that totally gets it, when it comes to relationships with a narcissist, like Michele does. She has, and is a gift.

As usual Michelle, exactly right on every point. In the love bombing and hot phases, things were like a dream! The clouds parted and showed me a glimpse of heaven. But that changed. It always changes. She blows cold, disappears, and falls off the face of the planet. I hang on hoping things go back to the way they used to be. Hoping I'll be the exception. Hoping I can save her. Hoping I can guide her to silencing the voices insidr that tell her shes broken. Well, no more. I've taken back control. I deserve so much better than what she gives me. I deserve someone who NEVER stops choosing me. Someone who loves me as a person.

Wow you hit this one out of the park! Thank you for helping people like myself to keep focused in the here and now.

You people are very smart! I stayed with mine for 45 years. I feel so ignorant and stupid. But she would often tell me that I was a narcissist. I worked 7 days a week for 40 years and the only thing that I have to show for it is 2 wonderful children.

Yes! They will "bait" you time and time again! She will abuse you, when you want to walk away, she will pursue you with niceness to lure you in again. Crazy cycle!!

I've been stuck in this pattern for 20 years, but I was so screwed up from childhood trauma and abuse that I was in complete denial. All I knew is I felt desperately lonely, afraid, and had negative self-esteem. I knew she wasn't quite cutting it as a partner but I just kept blaming myself.

I'm just happy I got rid of my ex before it got way out of hand

You can't believe a word the narc says strictly look at her actions and you can see where she's coming from this lady is right on!

I was married to a narcissist for years. I did everything right (I feel). I was honest, loving, kind, generous, all for nothing. Yes, I was used. Ok I accept it. Live and learn. On to the next chapter. One day she will be someone else's problem.

Okay 2 months post discard, and it has hurt every single day. The best advice I have for getting through it is not to use reason to help you but rather, emotion. Reason is powerless to change an emotional bond; the heart wants what the heart wants! The solution is to use a contrary emotion to counteract your paradoxical desire for the narcissist. That emotion is the fear that they will hurt you or your family far more if you let them back in to your life. They may ruin you financially, or legally, they may slander you, accuse you of abuse etc. Narcissists don't have empathy and they want to hurt you, as such they are people who ought to be feared. That fear will be your salvation from the trauma bond!

Everything you have been saying has been exactly what happened in my last relationship. It is so gratifying and confirming to hear that I wasn’t the Narcissist she claimed me to be. Thank you!

"My body never felt such pleasure, my heart never felt such pain, and you, you leave me so confused". - Lisa Lisa

Let’s be frank: Narcissistic Abuse is Domestic Abuse. As men, we do not self-identify as victims of Domestic Abuse. We are taught to identify ourselves as perpetrators, but never victims. And when we realized that we are and have been victims of Domestic Abuse, it’s psychologically devastating.

The biggest thing I struggle with is how all the people in my life believe her and it's very lonely, even more so than the normal loneliness. I'm the bad guy even though I'm not. Friends and family that I thought would stick by me believe her lies. I've lost so much in this but I've gained my peace and I'm very slowly recovering my self-worth.

Mine begged for awhile and I shut her out of my life . they lose control when they lose power. Then they end up back on a website looking for more victims!

OMG...you are just telling my 4 years story with my still wife. we split 1 year ago...I feel sad knowing all this but at the same time i feel good knowing there's people who understands what you're going thru with this kind of people...I though she was going to finish with my life, for a while I lost hope, but I'm trying to recover now!...thanks

I love this video. You're right. We hang around trying to get back to the past or promises of a potential future. Focus on today's reality, and notice the patterns.

I have watched a lot of Narc videos after being destroyed by one. This is the most useful I heard and that is stay in the present to make your decisions. Thank you so much.

My ex narc did the bait and switch! She adored me and made me feel like a man. She was so appreciative to the smallest gestures . A few mons down the line over a small disagreement where logic was applied vs her emotions and that’s when I saw the “other side”. Things went downhill with such disrespect I couldn’t believe it was the same woman I had met. Half hearted apologies and hurtful words thrown my way. Once I realized what was going on I left her! So glad I did.

You have totally described what I have gone through. I lived with this false hope that things will improve or get better. It never does.

amazingly spot on. I wanted to help this poor girl so badly.. we had everything we ever wanted.

You nail it. I spent 25 years with one. The first 3 were fantastic... bait. She moved in with me, and the the romance was OVER. I kicked her out after another 3 years, but she always reeled me in... got me to fix and make things for her, constantly. Intimacy got weird by year 22... I cut it off because I could finally see how I was being played. It's been 8 years since I've seen her, and I'm finding myself doing things she trained me to do, and feel. Consciousness is a beautiful thing... I'm free at last.

I'm noticing and remembering more and more about this. My ex did this. I was soooo sure that we were going to have kids. 10 years into the relationship, she had a job with the best maternity leave I've ever seen in any job that anyone I know of has had. She then kept talking about having kids but kept pushing me away emotionally etc. Also we had agreed on moving in 2 years from there but she used it as a way of making me stay because she knew that I wanted her to have the best options for the pregnancy. 5+ years go by and I am finally just p!ssed of that we're 3+ years past our agreed upon deadline and the whole marriage she just kept acting like we had $0.00 to our name. She kept throwing fits about the budgeting and every single time that I tried to just do the budgeting myself she threw fits and cried saying: you don't believe me, you don't believe that I am a good wife. It made me feel like a total jerk and a douche. I couldn't do a single thing right according to her. I still have love for who I thought I was married to but I wasn't really married to that person because she doesn't exist. I realize now that I was in love with a figment of my own imagination and I never actually met the real person until the end. We've been divorced for over 1.5 years now but there's still this ridiculous game of victim that she plays then she turns it around on me every single time. I literally ended up homeless and she was manipulating people at my job and I still don't know who the new person is and I can't get closure from the relationship etc. I decided that I need to just delete her and block her entirely because no matter what I do or don't do now she plays a victim and acts like it's all on me and worst of all she tells everyone that I was abusive and a narcissist and cruel etc. But the last time that I talked to her she admitted that she had done stuff that was wrong but then cut me off again and blocked me. Then (friends of mine) are contacting me to talk about narcissistic issues. This is so sick, I can't believe it and what is the worst is that she's trying to manipulate the situation with my friends and family in order to make me feel and appear crazy and narcissistic. I literally don't talk to any of her friends or family and yet somehow I an labeled crazy 🤷‍♀️😬🤷‍♀️🤨🤦‍♀️. Gotta love it.

You nail it... over 20 years of pull and push... nothing I did was enough... except in the beginning. As soon as she moved in with me, the hook was set... and she kept me doubting my competence... and without her, I couldn't survive... the verbal abuse was intense. We split/made up many times... after it began costing me thousands to "help her out" to find a job, I realized I was being played, to support her while she spent all day in front of the computer, smoking pot, being a recluse. My being the "caring guy," I bailed her out scores of times, classic white knight... but it was never enough... Glad I finally walked. She was such a beauty at first, but the stress of her ruse took it all away... I'm slowly getting my confidence back, but I'm still healing... and wonder if I ever will recover...

I stayed with my narcissistic ex wife for 31 years because of marriage vows. I would have stayed longer, but she found a new supply after I just quietly stopped caving to her never-ending demands. Apparently it took quietly saying no to one demand. Five years down the road, and the recovery continues.

A female narc is a time machine, she either send you to the past or to the future...When finally you are discarded you are suddenly sent to a miserable present time.

I've heard this 'hook' story from women also. In two stories the switch occurred during the honeymoon. In others on their first time away together. It is a bit frightening to know that a narc can hold this facade for a very long time, even tricking your family into thinking they are great.

Watch for these steps guys …1. Warmth, praise, comfort 2. Now they can pry into mind 3. Next the manipulation of your emotions and they demand, demean, belittle their partner for their superiority 4. Temper tantrums when things don’t go their way 5. Repeat, and start with step 2. Step 1 is only to get you hooked.

I just woke up and seen this video. I listened to it and this woman pretty much word for word described my relationship. It's never going to change. It's time to go

She gave me confidence then stripped it all away with interest.

Michelle you really hit the nail on the head with this video. I was that fish nibbling on the bait and then after I was caught, the abuse started. Initially with indifference, and then little digs with a half smile (as if to say "just kidding"), and then full on abuse using everything I told her in trust and love about me to then make my life a living hell. I was in shock (and paralyzed) frankly by how radically different (ALL about her), cruel and attacking she became versus the kind, supportive, and loving person I thought I knew and joyfully planned to spend the rest of my life with. I've seen a number of your videos and recommended them to others dealing with the same issues. Keep doing what you are doing...its important work that saves lives and it helps folks begin to understand they are not crazy, but got involved with someone who might be but certainly they are people who cultivate crazy as part of their method of abuse.

It's a disheartening and most dangerous thing ever happened to me.. at first she acted to be everything I needed, very loving and caring., All of a sudden, She changes color. I did everything possible to get back those loving moments back but in return I got hurt and she's about to freaking destroy me. Very very evil. Thank God I'm done with her. Demon jezebel bring back my heart💔😟😤

Michele u hit the nail on the head!! I had to get away from what used to be my wife and left this other woman after the divorce of the ex and realized that life is way to short for the shit they’ve given. It’s been a very rocky road upon both of the slimy crap 💩 now it’s smoothing out, but not out of the woods yet!! These people can make your brain 🧠 like watered down oatmeal!! If you’re dealing with one get the hell out, for it’s mental abuse

My ex narc girlfriend tried to take my daughter, tired to put me and my parents in Jail.... I tried to work it out AFTER all that and she still was playing me. Almost destroyed me

If I ever get involved with someone I have a new rule ,, Friends first then intimacy

I had a narc girlfriend like this and she would constantly pick fights with me, criticize me for hours over the smallest issues or wrong perceptions she had, and she would publicly embarrass/ridicule me. The more "understanding" and tolerant I was, the meaner, more dominating, and abusive she became. One day, I had enough and I started giving her a taste of her own medicine. I hung up the phone on her when she got out of line with me, I up and left her alone with even the slightest disrespect from her, I criticized her own physical and psychological flaws to the point where I left her broken and crying, and I publicly humiliated her just like she did to me. For the record, however, I never hit her, pushed her, nor did anything physical on her; but I did break her spirit and I turned her into a timid little woman who constantly walked on egg shells around me. She never dared raise her voice to me nor open her mouth in an inappropriate manner towards me again. The irony here is that she became a total pussy cat towards me and was all too ready to please me any way she could. I then dumped her for another (and better) woman who later became my wife. This now ex narc girlfriend did everything she could to try and win me back to her. I flat out told her that she was simply a mentally deranged poor excuse for a woman and definitely not marriage material. I even told her that the only way she could get any affection whatsoever from a decent man was to become a prostitute. Before you judge me on this, I would simply ask you to keep in mind the history and chronic abuse I went through myself at this ex narc girlfriend's hands when she thought she had me under her control. I have also been married 19 years now with no major issues between my wife and I. Experience has thus taught me that the best way for a man to handle a female narc is to be strong, don't tolerate any disrespect from her, and then to treat her like crap. Then once you break her spirit, dump her and then leave her all alone to the lessons you taught her; and then move on to one of many better women out there who will treat you decently and with respect! Never take any crap from any woman! There are simply too many good women out there for you to choose from than to settle for a pathetic narc woman type that I once had. As that 80s song goes: "If your girl starts acting up, then you take her friend!" Best wishes to you my friends!

Its been a few years, and I still feel the effects of a relationship I had with a narcissist. It wasn't until today, with watching this video, that I started to feel something change inside of me. I truly feel the empathy I have needed to feel for so long now. Thank you for this video 🙏🏻

This is SO accurate and described my experience perfectly. I was both guys in this scenario. It's been a year this week since she discarded me while also using every avenue to abuse me over the course of that year... and I still feel like I miss her and it still hurts but won't contact her because to contact her I'd have to HATE myself.

Mine was very high on the narcissistic spectrum. Very high. I caught on after about 6 weeks. Never knew what narcicissm was but she took care of that when she said all her exes are narcs and I read into the matter. Why I stayed two more years, even after massive cheating, blame shifting and constant gaslighting was her daughter. Her daughter is now 7 and already had 3 father figures. The biological dad wants to be in her life but mommy always manipulates her way out of visitation. It's sad, in court he broke down crying and said he doesn't want anything to do with me mom anymore. Anyhow, early in the beginning it should have been a red flag that my ex introduced me to her daughter on our first date. It also should have been a red flag that early on the daughter asked me if I was gonna leave like everyone else. I asked why everyone leaves, she says usually everyone argues with mommy. It didnt trigger a warning because mommy told me her exes were narcs, so arguments and discard didnt sound inconsistent with that story. When I left the first time after uncovering her cheating, I remember her daughter standing there, begging and pleading whether that she could move out with me. Mind you, I wanted to sit down with mommy and daughter and talk about the break up and move out when the daughter doesn't have to watch. But you know narcs, when you end things, they one up you and so she said I had to leave immediately. It still brings tears to my eyes, that the daughter gave me her most favorite teddy and said "Take him with you so that you aren't alone when you sleep." I succumbed to hoovering multiple times. And I did, just like the previous men, try to establish a consistant visitation schedule with the daughter. And as expected, mommy interfered with that quite heavily. What surprised me is that she was able to paint herself as the victim to CPS, say the unstable visitation schedule is not good for the child, despite be being able to prove I was up to repeat weekly meetings but mom blew them off minutes beforehand. With things like "I saw a girl liking you're FB posts, you dont deserve to see my daughter, have fun with that s1ut." One year after the breakup. And visitation would usually work out when mommy had a date. It's mind boggling because CPS already had the same with her and the biological dad. But I guess crying fake crocodile tears and telling them we're abusive helps. Despite the child voicing her own opinion. Despite mommy having various criminal convictions for filing false police reports, aggravated assaults on household members and fraud, despite being in a psych hospital and the child having to live with grandma temporarily a few times a year, namely when mommy loses supply and nobody listens to her sob stories anymore and she seeks supply there, they find all that totally cool. Nobody bothers to check the police records or her medical records. They believe her stories of false convictions, how she was just defending herself, how others pushed her to do it and so on. Again, still brings tears to my eyes, cause there is nothing I can do for the little one. She told CPS that she thinks I am her daddy and that she is sad cause I don't come to visit anymore. According to her, mom told her I dont come around anymore because I don't love her. This was put off as "Well, kids that age don't remember things right, she probably misunderstood"

Thank you, thank you, thank you. It is amazing how accurate these videos are. Guys. I promise you, they will NOT change. They are incapable of taking any accountability. They will be the perpetual victim and EVERYTHING is your fault. EVERYTHING! If you’re experiencing this you have to get out. They will destroy you. Trust me.

Just want to wish all the men in here to stay strong, i am currently going through healing process after my wife cheated me 1 year in to marriage and 5 years together. If it wasn't for these video i would probably heal 10 times slower as i would of been lost without answers and probably break my wife and her new supply's neck. We become wiser, stronger, and also we see our dark side so one day perhaps we meet the right person and we will be a better people as well.

Very true- first 3 months was so amazing that, I hardly use to sleep for 4 hours. After I realised something wrong but I was hocked with guilt n then may be I can help her . These narc r beyond what we think. One day she told me something abt me, I never shared with anyone. I just wonder how she knows that. It’s been 6 months n she contacted me few times in between n did same thing but thanks to Online videos . Guys they amazingly insane- no contact is the best.

When you stop seeing a narc that is step 1 toward selfhealing. It is just the now that matters in life. Yesterday is history and tommorow a mystery

Almost been away from my narc 3 years i thank god ever day she nearly destroyed me mentally financially you name it she did it and she's had more victims since me these people are sick and Evil

I've been binge watching your channel and I have to say it like listening to someone describe my life for the past 20 years. This video for example she treated me both ways. She was everything I wanted at first. When it stopped I stayed trying to do whatever it took to get that back. I left her 7 months ago but I struggle every day with how she made me feel. Please keep making your videos I swear I'll keep watching.

#1. So true #2. So true - nobody has ever explained it this way before. That is 100% correct. There is always something to look forward to. Even though she doesn't know she'll be served with divorce papers any day now. She almost has me thinking that it might change one day. But, I know there is no hope. I can't wait for my 10 year Sentence (marriage) to finally come to an end. People always ask, "So, why do you stay?" Subbed.....

They will leave it broke. They’ll take everything from you and laugh u

I wanted to end my life after I left my narc. I got help ...I can't say that im over her because I can't look at a woman with her name or say her name...but its a work in progress I guess.

OMG thanks for this video. This describes my last relationship exactly.

So mad at myself for falling for it. Blew off some amazing women for my narc wife.

tbh, the physical chemistry I had with this girl had me completely hooked. I could not help but be addicted to the passionate intimacy we shared. We were on a different level. I'd like to find that type of energy again with a trustworthy girl who actually has integrity.

You are so so Wright i am so stuck for the LAST ten years , i lost my dream, my entire energy, intimacy is the hook when she wants to use it. SHE plays Guilt Trip

Wow. So accurate. I was the first guy, too many insecurities and unresolved stuff. Not glad it all wasn't real, but glad i learnt it now not after marriage, children, etc. To heal, one must see the mental illness in oneself. Co-dependency, insecurity, apathy, morbid empathy and unrealistic optimism. Setting feeling good in the present moment keeps me grounded. It also a revelation to be free of my own narcissistic delusions. Just because you don't have a cluster B disorder, doesn't mean you are healthy in your mind. "normal" isn't all its made out to be either.

I went through my female narc relationship from 2014 to 2016, barely recovered by 2019, but it's still a nightmare that I believed changed the person I was supposed to be, they're soul suckers for sure. - this video is dead on too. Thank you Michele

Where are you out of? You hit me on the head. I'm trying to break it after 8 years and a marriage. Everything you said is spot on. I need you in my life!

This is so true..I think I was unconsciously looking to fix my narcissist mother injuries.

That's exactly what happened to me. I cant thank you enough, you literally saved a few years of my life... your videos have been very helpful :)

Every single statement you make is facts. The opening statement is 100% proof you know exactly what your talking about. I grew up in a broken home . Never knowing my father at all , not even what his name was or what he looked like. My mom was a full time drug addict so she was never a mother. Because of a childhood full of nothing , no love or affection and never fun or happy. As a kid I learned that nothing good comes from exposing yourself in a vulnerable way. If your scared of something you never let that show because you will be exploited for it. I never opened up to anyone for any reason for 31 years of life. I met a woman who is a malignant narcissist and before you know it I told her things that if she wanted could drastically change my entire life. So she did ! A narcissist who only wants information to manipulate my feelings and my future actions. She swears the relationship between myself and my sister makes us incest. The only person I’ve ever trusted , she was who would cook me food or give me a bath as kids , she was my friend , she would comfort me when my mom was wasted and unresponsive. My sister was the only person I loved but since meeting the devil I have shut her out of my life ! I’m 33 now and I’m considering killing myself to escape this woman’s rage and cruel intentions. I’ve tried every other way to escape her but she finds a way to get back at me and she wastes no opportunity. Pray for her to find another man so I can live !

I was the second type and thought I could help her. You're soooo right Michelle, by being in the present would have saved myself almost 3 years of futile efforts on my part.

BAM HIT IT AGAIN RIGHT ON THE HEAD, OMG, thank you some much, I was love bombed in the beginning, I am over the GUILT and on MY way to loving being Discarded

Listened to this 3 times in a row. I only discovered what narcissistic pd is 4 years ago. It explained my mother, my ex wife and many other women in circles of my life. I hope all women arnt like this but I think a narcissistic presence in societies women is higher than thought. Michelle said it herself ‘most of my clients are men’. I wonder why.....

I swear I’ve my ex and I seen you together in Adrian. She turned out to be a covert narcissist. I have my own issues possibly bpd but the way she discarded me has been brutal after over three years. I’m in shock. Thanks for the videos

So true!! The moment I started to look at the now and rejecting her once she started to give me what she thought I wanted. I was stuck for 30 years with a covert narc. You are so right! I was so addicted to the emotional and physical connection when or if we had sex. Once I decided I no longer wanted to play the manipulation game to get my addiction fix was when I got discarded. I started my healing process before she moved on. I did it without these videos and was making a lot of mistakes at first. Once I started watching videos on the subject I knew I was on the right track but was making mistakes. Now I’m still not perfect with it. But I’ve healed so many of my other relationships that my narc tore apart. I had such a hard time sleeping when I was with my narc. I was on several meds. At one point I was on 11 meds a day! But I am excited to report that I do not take one single med. I sleep like a baby. I’ve lost a total of 110 plus pounds and look and more importantly feel great! But now I see her trying to work her way back into my life because she truly believes I am nothing without!? I have a stronger relationship with our sons which has been pissing her off something terrible. She even shamed our middle son recently in front of our oldest sons birthday party with her new boyfriend there. Our son drove 55 minutes to find me just for a hug! He was such a mess. Now that I’m not around to be the buffer between her and everyone else she is starting to lose her shit! These videos have been extremely helpful! I do my best to follow them. I wait at least 2 hours to reply back to any of my narcs texts. I never reveal any personal information about myself to her. I don’t show her any emotions. I never post anything negative on my social media accounts. Our sons report back to her that I am a changed man and I’m no longer a prick. I tell them it’s not that I was ever a prick. But I was the buffer between them and their mother and it was the most frustrating thing I’ve ever gone through. She is showing her stripes now to them. It took over an year for them to start to see it. The one thing I had the hardest time with was not telling them how their mother truly was. I had to allow them to go through some really rough shit to see her true colors. We have 3 sons and the oldest is yet to see anything like that from her. But he is also married to someone just like his mother. So it may take years and years before he actually see it. I have to be very patient. Thank you for your videos. They do help!

i have/had a HORRIBLE addiction to female narcs. i'd find the sickest, most demanding narc and would fall in with them. only recently(when my psyche was completely crushed and couldn't interact with the larger society) have i recognized my sickness and been working on my issues. these videos on narcissism help me immensely. seeking narcissists is a sickness. i've also learned that part of my problem stems from childhood trauma. oh, well, this is tough, but do-able. thanks, again

I went through it,you're right on and explained everything I felt. She divorced me after 6 years. Thankfully.

One thing I’be learned and just heard… NEVER EVER EVER fall in love with potential!!!

2 months since I stopped chasing her and stopped accepting her abuse and I’m losing my mind now, literally. She’s truly the best con artist in this world. She’s accomplished to destroy me, she knows how to put a spell on any person by the tone of her voice, smile, etc. I can’t even describe, this person is from some kind of historic witch tribe and has something different in her core. I’ve never believed in spells or witchcraft until this shit. I’ll never insert myself in anyone again. (Is how I feel right now). I keep having flashbacks every day after a period of doing ok, she’s literally a hollow shell who is only able to respond with anger and hatred now so I stopped trying to get closure. She was able to undo 3 years of being together with a snap of her finger. It’s absolute insanity and she’s even already going out to clubs meeting new guys. I just can’t grasp the reality of this

The connections ended on her side and they were slow, up and down and left my heart a wreck. Back up and trained a little better now. Ty.