@@j1407bmoon they should delete vows saying “for better for worse…” And also maybe you can speak to pastors to stop calling us one flesh when joined. If you you are your own then I am my own. This means I can get sex anywhere and we keep it going. Don’t be mad at it.
I actually wrote a rebuttal to this. I'll be clear - if you don't show love to your wife outside the bedroom, if you don't remember to make her feel special, compliment her, hug her, but sit in front of a TV ignoring her until bedtime, what do you expect.
That won't increase her libido. The issue is that most women take the pill. And the pill destroys libido. So there's always a misunderstanding in couples.
As a woman who has never been on the pill, I can say to you that if my husband doesn’t show me love and give me attention, then there will be no action in the bed room. Even if we have the high libido, we need the emotional affirmations to even feel something. Women have sex with their emotions
@@Al-ok6xmwhat the hell. thats not what she meant. She said she needs emotional affirmation. If your man never shows you attention, and only approaches you for sex then how can you expect that she will have sex with you
@@Al-ok6xm She meant that if you dont show her affection except for when you want sex then she wont be in the mood. So its not because she sees it as a reward but because she needs to be emotionally connected and feel loved to even WANT sex.
@THEcomplainingCHANNELif he’s asking then he’s clearly in the mood otherwise he wouldn’t ask. you make no sense. and if he’s not in the mood then good no sex it’s not a problem lmao. with my ex we were both initiating and i had a bigger sex drive and i always accepted when he didn’t want. besides, he is the one who ended up cheating on me. i never even thought about cheating. cheating is about morals, leave if you can’t be loyal. or don’t marry.
Here’s how it goes: 1. She points out a problem 2. He dismisses it 3. She tries again but eventually gives up, becoming passive-aggressive 4. There’s no connection 5. She doesn’t want sex because there’s no connection. He still has ‘needs’ and he is ignoring all ‘her’ problems 6. She files for divorce.
If your wife is saying this: 1. She might really not want to. 2. You can't satisfy her. If it's the first option then you have nothing to do except respect her. If it's the second option you should learn how to please her. What is her fantasy?
It's not funny it's sad. In my book she is sending a clear message. Before I found a new lady I would have a deep, serious discussion about what she wants in bed and how to fullfill her needs.
… that also has an o,f,acct, no self respecting husband, 4 cats, a daily wine subscription, watches sex in the city shenanigans, all while thinking a real man will save them. Western women got me Applying for my passport
@@HayWhy_Pappy Yes, but that wasn't in the advertisement when we were dating. I was getting more ass than a cowboy's saddle in those first few years, then it started slacking off. About the 10th year, I was lucky to get laid once a month. It only got worse thereafter. Women tend to lie about how much they want sex in the beginning and will do what they must to keep up that façade. What she lacked wasn't a skill issue, even though she had no idea of what she was doing in bed most of the time, it was an enthusiasm issue. She just didn't make having sex with her an attractive option in those last years. My current girlfriend (half my age plus 7) keeps my stomach satisfied and my balls drained. She has enthusiasm.
if so, he should do what my husband did when we were first married- he brought me some paracetomol ! In fairness he wasn't a native english speaker so he didn't read between the lines..lol..
Can't be used as an excuse for not having sex anymore as it has been studied and shows that a man's sperm will actually relax a female and will help with headaches .
So, easy/unlimited access to that body is d reason for marriage?? How does that person inside that body feels?? Especially knowing full well that, that specific body is aging/changing/progressively getting worse. Which means, ur interest in that body will also progressively decline. Y should anyone accept that deal?? U want a person to love u for ur entire being. And NOT with a major focus on d body, exclusively. It’s not rocket science. Just takes humanity to understand such basics.
@RojaJaneman What I'm trying to understand is why exactly do you think that people get married ONLY for sex and attractiveness? Growing old together with someone you love, respect, honor, cherish, and obey us the REAL reason, to me, at least. Sex and all that other stuff is great, but secondary IMO. Personality, compatibility, and trust are the bedrock
It would be a different story if the husband would give his wife a massage and didn't expect it to go any further. Or if the husband pleased his wife, kissed her and said, "Tonight is all about your honey", good night, sweet dreams. This woman is a good sport; laughing along with everyone else.
In reverse many men do that and due to the complex weirdness of women and their deep emotional and social problems, it's not enough. I love to pleasure my mrs and it's a one way street. Until SHE needs sex and at that point 2 orgasm's then a 3rd where we both do - she loves it and is more chilled but then has no appetite for several days. (I would ravish her more often if I could) Women are often selfish but then appreciate what they had once it's gone and regret but then ultimately never change based on deep Problems during childhood, or relationships with mum & dad / exes. Some people are just lazy (Men & women ) If men thought with an "I" before every excuse or reason to not do something, the WE and the family unit would not exists. Men biologically look at women as a mate who will produce healthy offspring and who is capable. Today many women are taught raising a family and having traditional roles somehow makes them sub servant or inferior. Career women with a trophy child are inferior mothers since other people are raising their child during the younger years. Going back to work later when the kids are older - no problem. Social and cultural "Group" think I feel also affects women more negatively than real men who tend to not GAF about what the "Crowd" thinks or does. They say "Communication" is key. Sure and I have invested a LOT of time in that area but while a Leopard can't change it's spots, if it's a lioness, then there is no need to change or try to change anything. She's an amazing mother and 3 kids later I still fancy the pants of her...the excuses are always boring and frustrating though. My list is about 3 times the size of this guy's lol
EVERY 10 days???? If my ex would have given me sex every 10 days we'd still be married!! She was adamant that once every 12 weeks was more than enough....😳 As soon as I said "I do", she said " I don't no more."
Maybe she had a reason, be it medical - physical or psychological; it all shows that she wasn't enjoying it. Did you tried to understand why she's not enjoying?
No he doesnt. The truth is, 40+ men arent that interested in ladies pushing 40. Its the husband who stop wanting sex, not the wife. Now enter the 23 year old Au Pair and said husband definitely gets interested in sex, 8x a day if necessary.
@@johndogaru5410 Right. It's actually a warning. He's very frustrated and obviously she's not attracted to him. He's got to improve his game though. Begging, pleading or using veiled humor/logic and calendars is not sexy. Divorce city for sure.
@@WayneStLouis-cy4ln As a woman, whose husband did this, let me tell you something. It's his approach. My ex would poke and grab me in clowning ways (he even honked my bre*sts) like a clown horn. Other times, he would get mad or plead. He brought out a calendar too. None of these are sexy, nor do they create desire. If he had been the guy I dated, none of this would have been an issue. A deep insecurity came out in him after we were married. If he had acted like a confident person (like he did while we dated), sure in his own worthiness and attractiveness (he was good looking), I would have been more interested, more often. Instead I felt like a mother dealing with a little boy constantly bugging me for a treat. You can't stop "dating" after you're married and women, whether you like it or not, need emotional intimacy before "good s*x". Joking and humor, while fun is not exactly the fuel of hot, steamy wild s*x. The poster of this video needs the book entitled No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover. It's a slim book, and fast read. He talks about this issue and how to have a satisfying physical relationship with an emotionally mature woman.
He needs to improve his game? what's the matter with the woman improving her game and maybe be more assertive? Woman want their cake and to eat it too. @@forapps9364
Dear Husband, I have asked over the past year to do home shores, to lower the toilet lid before flushing it, to not place an empty milk jug back in the fridge, to not leave empty water bottles around the house 😅😅😅 and the list goes on
@AnubisRoca I do 90% of "home chores:" laundry, home cleaning, and so on. I do put the lid down, I don't put empty milk jugs back in the fridge. I don't use bottled water. But it doesn't matter. I used to think by doing all that it would make my wife happy, but recently discovered I can't make her happy; that is HER job. Her happiness is up to her. So I now do those things because they need doing. And I find ways to make myself happy.
Husbands: Make sure not to be selfish lovers...no wam bam thank ya mam. Help around the house. Be manly but not macho or narcissistic. Help with the kids. Dont get sloppy drunk or high on drugs. Keep a job. Stay away from pronography ofcourse. Be respectful in and out of the home. Women just arent horn dogs like men are. We have expectations from you before we feel and want to be submissive.
SIMPLE solution: Get yourself a boyfriend, or several, as most of your girlfriends have done. ASK them! (And try them UNshowered. Why do you suppose women have MUCH more olfactory senses?
@@dabbbles Congratulations, you've managed to completely missed the point of what I was saying entirely and responded with something completely irrelevant to the actual meaning of my comment while superficially appearing to be contextually appropriate.... Who hurt you?
@@AutisticAthena If I "missed the point of what you were saying" it's probably because 'your point' was about as incoherent as this latest post. Incomprehensible! As for my 'being hurt':- I have no idea what you're on about. But will assume you're referring to some sort of sexual scenario. If that's so then be assured that I never have nor ever will be so "hurt". Sexual relationships abound everywhere, free for the asking; and despite the 'classical'-romance 'man is the hunter' fairytale you can take it from me that women are in reality internally and eternally the sexual predators. (particularly married and/or older women/bored housewives.). I don't know whether you're just another dopey victim of our Women's-Magazine/Psychobabble world or genuinely stupid. But I repeat: There are several BILLION ripe females available out there; all competing with each other from about the age of three ('Daddy's Girl!': ever seen a boy behaving like that??🙄). And the competition prevails until about a week after they've died! AND I LOVE THEM ALL! And they KNOW it: never overlook the genetic built-in predatory instinct. And USE it!
@Doctoroflaughter1975 I never got it that often, either. And now it's been 18 years since the last time. Oh, there have been very legit reasons for her to not want to do the horizontal bop, but other times, nope. And now at 69 years, she says she is too old.
hehehehehehe. Look again! He DOESN'T say he 'wants' her. All he's doing is fulfilling his 'social expectations' by ASKING. He'd fall off his perch if she was keen 365 days a year! She, on the other hand, by reading it out and PRETENDING to laugh is subtly bitching about not getting any, and trying to goose him into just 'TAKING' and ravishing her!. Which is what the marriage-contract is all about: she can DEMAND that he does his duty. Note that although (traditionally) men ask women to marry them, the proposal is ALWAYS engineered by HER. (and often along with her friends and family.) I watched 'The Taming of the Shrew' on TV last night; and although it wasn't to stunning Elizabeth Taylor version it reiterated all the engineering elements involved. Shakespeare was one of the world's wisest men ever. But most people these days prefer to read 'Women's Weekly'. And it shows!
As a USMC, always deployed , overseas, CONUS, she (I think unfair) counted wifey a Legal Beagle. "Pulled the Calendar", oh dh*t. Yup..like an a Junior Lawyer..or ACCOUNT, "Counted WHEN I was HOME" days as when I was there when she went to bed/sleep & I was was there when she woke up!?" Unfair! I had to be on base at 0430hrs! I negotiation, kitchen table to buy points ,baby, I made you breakfast,left love notes, cleaned all the dishes, dogs fresh water, lunches for the kids, prepped the coffee maker? Left "LOVE NOTE POST IT STICKIES!?! I should get some points for "days at home outta 365!?" I lost miserably, I say it was unfair, the JUDGE was biased against Marines, & there's A LONG wait to appeal to her & get a re-kitchen table appeal for her to be leaneant. Accused me of "TAMPERING with the Jury, my two kids"Bribes & influence/intimadation. Claims I told them Mommy would have our dogs (ShelterRescue German Shepherd) Parole from doggie jail recended & Deported to Germany!?). I don't like Lawyers.😞😶😔
My left hand doesnt talk, doesnt complain, doesnt buy $hit online, doesnt tell me what to do, doesnt tell me what not to do, can make me last 30 seconds or 60 minutes, always cleans up after me when im done. 😎
@@lisameyer8289 she and I have a solid relationship. My reply was meant as humor with some truth mixed in. Our kids are taking priority right now for various reasons and sometimes all we have left in us is the ability to give each other a kiss and assure each other we will through all of this and of our love for one another. Not every relationship that lacks in intimacy is derived from not knowing or being connected to one another. Thinking so is pretty presumptuous. Just sayin'.
There must be good communication for a successful marriage. Also most men fail at foreplay and thus she is not satisfied and so she loses any desire for sex. Also premature ejaculation which he fails to see a professional about. If she was always satisfied as he is there would not be all these excuses. MEN, THINK ABOUT.
I get your point, but you do realize that men are more easily pleased then women are down there. I mean that on a biological level. Not on we are just more laid back. So actually comparing the two as if they are no different is a bit dense.
In Kamasutra Vatsanya has classified women as Rabbit, Horse & Elephant. Rabbit is someone who is spritual and has very low sex drive. They also feel guilty about sex. Usually short. Horse is a woman who has very high sex drive. Elephants are size queens. They just can't enjoy average size
So don't cheat, get a divorce. And it's not anyone's obligation to feed you, you're not a baby, and to have sex with you, choose a partner who has a similar sex drive as you, deal with the house and children because they are yours and you won’t have a problem.
Lol at the comments... "He needs to do this.." "He should do that..." She's gonna end up alone because it's not his job solely to make sex happen. She is just as responsible and if it isn't happening there's gonna be issues .
... sex isnt the most important thing... but if you remove sex from a relationship entirely, it becomes the most important thing. Thats the issue. This idea that sex should hold no importance is such a dumb take. Sexless relationships build frustration, which in turn affect the couple's mood, dynamic, day to day... its all connected and statistically its virtually impossible to have a happy marriage without sex. Only when the couple reaches an age where both parties stop valuing sex completely it starts to work without it. Most sexless marriages are miserable and self reportedly so.
@@brunolopes2205 no one deserves any form of luxury if you cannot go without it. If sexless is miserable, then sex is priority. It doesn't get simpler then that. People can do still make a choice, but making excuses for choices or to not feel bad for choices is just that, excuses. If one cannot go without sex, they don't deserve it to begin with. Your hand isn't enough, then neither is your mind and soul. If one is worthless, you'll still be worthless even with another. If a reason is selfish, then it's not a reason at all. Sex is a selfish choice unless you go without. There is no way around that. People that disagree only have selfish excuses to rely on. Being frustrated from no sex means many lessons have yet to be learned. Sorry, but a person like that isn't worthy of anything but to be alone. It hurts when someone uses logic against selfish desires. What people who disagree with it get mad about is finding others or meeting others that can accomplish what they cannot, without outwardly acting out and clearly showing they have no control. That's not everybody else's fault. Don't get mad people have better self control theb others, and selfish people want to blame thise with self control for their own lack of! It's selfish to assume anyone is demanded or deserving of sex.
@@SeriousSara1 sex shouldn't be selfish If you really love someone and want them to be your spouse, then sex is a natural desire for deep intimacy with the most important person in your life. Both people should desire intimacy with their partner and both should be able to enjoy it. When people care about eachothers needs and want to maintain closeness, then they will naturally also care for sex and make space for that. It would be selfish to lead your partner on and marry them without having any intention to be intimate with them once you're married. If you don't want to have sex, then you should be the one who should remain single, unless you pick an asexual partner. It's selfish to avoid connecting with your spouse and it's even more selfish to expect them to give up their natural biological functions and emotional needs and still remain committed to the relationsihp. Someone who sees sex as a natural part of life and as an expression of deep love, has no business to remain attached to a person that isn't equally attracted and enthusiastic to make love. No healthy person likes a cold and dismissive partner, if the connection isn't mutual, the relationship will most likely end in divorce or affairs.
@@SeriousSara1Jesus how ignorant can someone be?? If you're in a relationship with someone and you think gatekeeping/keeping hostage your and your partner's sexual intimacy is okay ... then you're in for a treat. In a relationship, it's not about what you have the right to do (in this case physical sovereignty, the ability to say no), it's about what is actually healthy and reasonable. You have the right to not speak to your partner for the rest of the year, ou have the right to not f**k him for the rest of your lives, to abort all the children you conceive, to never lift a finger in the house ever again. It's part of your freedom but a sane person wouldn't do any of these. Somehow when it comes to sex any extreme seems acceptable to women. Its feminist-heightened stupidity most likely
@@Seamannon its not selfish in telling people up front. But someone saying sex is natural is no different then someone whose emotions strike them to commit murder. That is also natural. However, humans are supposed to have self control. It's okay tonwant to share that experience, but if one will not choose a partner for no sex, then they aren't seeking anything beyond physical realm. If one can't love beyond that, they don't deserve the bare basic. You expect people to not go off just because of something you said, via by law or just being able to be deasant. Same goes for everything, including sex. The only reason one finds its selfish is because of their uncontrollable lust. Lust is not love. Natural biological functions? Again, you proved my point. It's not like someone is saying to stop going to the bathroom. You can't live is that doesn't get expelled, but one can live without sex. One can live without internet, but just becsuss it's become the norm is why so many find it mandatory now. It's not different. You're trying to use something to support being selfish and calling those that CAN have self control selfish because it doesn't fit into your selfish desires. If you need or expect sex, you have yet to learn the meaning of a relationship. Yes. It is a way to bond, to get closer to express love. But using it for more then that is where the wrong and selfish part comes in. There is no logic without supporting selfish desire around that.
Comment section is somewhat disappointing. Often, as women, we don't want to have sex. Often, as men, they also don't want to fulfill their martial duties. But we do them. Because love is about sacrifice. Am I always really into it? Nope. I do it because I love him, and sex is incredibly important to a man. In a way women can't understand. But what do I know? I have only been happily married for 25 years.
