I don't know why you need to disclose that but good luck being a doctor hope you have a long life (your going to need it) hope you have a good four to five years of pre-med preparation, another four years of medical school, and three to seven years of residency. It doesn’t end there, though.
No you should don't think like this how you will manage a whole life without a life partner This is the wise choice of becoming the doctor Iam also a doctor
It's their rotten mindset. They will spend money on wedding but they won't spend money for education. I'm unfortunate enough to have a couple of relatives like this.
Main reason why women's are going through this because people think they are not adding any value to the family....after seeing this women should start shaping their future....don't cry that you are women you can not do this thing that thing.....rise your voice for your self for your coming generation....you are not more or less than any one.....you are just perfect the way you are
Sadly this is mostly happening still in villages.... I have seen a 15year old at hospital getting scan.... when I talked to her I couldn't stop crying....she was not allowed to study further...n in such small age she was married to a man who was 15 years older than her...😔
There's no thing as perfect time for marriage. One should get married when he/she is mentally ready as this is one big commitment. Marriage should be a conscious decision.
Yup it should be a conscious decision ... but girls can marry only after 18 and boys after 21 ... not before that ( it's illegal before as most children don't know how to make decisions for themselves )
I've seen this in Kota (Rajasthan).. A family of 3 members (Husband (Age-26/27), His wife (Age-16/17), and her mother-in-law (Age-44/45) )used to be in my hostel as caretakers/workers.. The girl was 6 month pregnant with almost no medical heathcare and regular treatments.. She was married at the age of 14 and had faced most worst situations of human life.. Her left hand arm was partially burnt (when asked she told it happened accidentally while she was cooking food in her village home on firewoods).. She was very weak and pain and trauma she suffered in her so early age was visible in her eyes 😶😖😖
@Lannie Novelli Hoping for the same but the reality is far from the expectation! As told, she was there as a caretaker so she was made to do all the daily chores along with her mother in law. That includes cleaning and moping of hostel, and that's not a joke, like a 5 floor building with about 35 rooms, balcony, terrace plus cooking food for all twice! 😶
That's the reason why education is important for both men and women. In india parents have money or even arrange money for their daughter's wedding but can't afford for their education(like seriously🤷)
Instead of spending money on the marriage you can give her good education.if it is a boy you will not marry.but if it a girl you will marry her soon.and consider her as a burden o For the family.hmm girls join your hands up I have started already to raise my voice so you should do the same
Well agree to your some points But a paper can't make your relationship and can't break it Rituals must be followed Relationship can happen so many times
@@seven7enhypen only those rituals which helps in mankind is ritual those rituals which grab freedom of someone then it is not ritual but superstition and malpractice and child marriage is one of them 😏😏😏
I was so confused as to why this was in my recommended but all I know is I'm glad the mother got all that help and I don't think she'll force her child to go through what she did so I think it's a good new beginning so yaay!
I don't know how a supportive parents should be like but the only thing I know if your parents are educating you and if you are a girl then you have to be good at studies good at doing household chores be a good girl respect everyone even if they are taunting you and after completing your studies and getting a decent job marry a person (stranger) and from their you have to take care of your parents and inlaws ,doing job, doing household chores raising your kids and taking care of many other things that people won't notice .. In short you have to be perfect.. they say it's our duty to do this because we are women but nobody wants a controlling life half of the time your so called supportive parents will control you by saying that "in our time we didn't get enough options or opportunities" that doesn't mean it's my fault. Parents biggest mistake is that they didn't realize this thing that time was different and comparing that time with today's time will not gonaa work ...you have to build trust with your in kids and tell them yes I'm with you ... I'm addressing this topic here because even if your parents are educating you they will make sure that you should be good at studies every parent want this but that doesn't mean the problem is solved . Even after doing great in studies many girls face soo many problems that people won't address it They just randomly think giving education= freedom in soo many cases it's not soo true Many girls can relate with this it's 2023 and mental health is the biggest issue even if you are married or unmarried employed or unemployed educated or uneducated. (In short: educating your gir child doesn't mean that you're doing mercy on her ...by constantly telling her on every mistake that you should be grateful to us that we are educating you ..... it's her right you can't say this. They should have to change their mentality).
when i was married my wife age was 23.She conceived soon and we had a baby boy within 11 months of marriage.but after that she did not want second child soon.I supported her.Now my first child is above 5 years and she is pregnent again.She always said i am so lucky as u are my hubby.who understood me .I care her a lot and now we want baby girl
Whenever i see these 13 year olds getting married and giving birth at such a young age , i cannot believe that we are still lacking behind. For us who are getting higher education , freedom and support from our parents all this seems like a parallel universe or something . May be we are blessed .
This is a Bangladeshi ad. It's so sorrowful that these things still happen in 2021. In this lockdown that started from march 2020,many girls like this in the villages got married. Education was stopped,a perfect chance to get rid of the "burden". even two of my classmates who were barely 18 got married off. Really most of our friends was shocked to hear it. I feel so sad for them...people and society always pressure women to get a baby,if they do,then women are congratulated. And if they don’t wanna,they are heavily criticized. And it made me so angry,that she suffered a miscarriage,for fuck's sake give her a break,but no..she got pregnant again in that very year.They treat woman as children making tools. How pathetic
One time, my mom told me that she and dad will find a perfect husband for me in the future but I already had a love interest for a boy who was different from me, he was American and I was Indian-American and Mom once said that it would be difficult because of the cultures. And to be honest, if I were to have to force myself to marry, I would just run away.
Marriage has nothing to do with age . It's about physical and mental readiness of a person I've seen women in 30's acting like children and i bet they can't handle a marriage properly let alone pregnancy and ive seen young adolescent girls with good commitment towards relationships and they can hold easily any responsibility . It all depends on one's maturity not age.
Allah.....mayeta r koto dream chilo.....kichoo somoyer jonno mayeta r dream ekbare bhenge gelo...kintu glad that her husband is very sensible and loving that he is caring her wife. .I wish mayeta r husband jodi oke orr biyer somoy jodi bhujate parto arr....biye ta cancel kore dito
Yeah, so it’s okay to marry at a premature age against your will, forced to get pregnant and tortured as long as your family is ‘supportive’ and you know how to bear a child? Wow!
In sri Lanka, it's illegal to get married before 18. It's illegal even have sex before 18. If they do and get caught, the boy will be thrown to jail and girl will be sent to a rehabilitation centre.
so we just gonna ignore the fact that she married at 13, like it' not a problem??? This video kinda makes child marriage seem fine if the girl is taken care of, and I don't like it this way.
@@aliya4012 Zakir nalayak unk video lectures me kehta tha -- a girl can get married as soon as she attains puberty !!! accha hua, india se bhaag gaya saala. warna kitne log unk baato me aake child marriage karwa dete the 🙄
Being 16 I can't mange the house chores alone, forget being pregnant. It's very difficult in such situations. We can educate and hope for the society to think better.
Now a days some girls wish to marry at the age of 15... Is this good??? At this age acc to to studies the chances of divorce is high... And absolutely thats her choice M the only one to guide
The fact that we're relieved by the fact that her husband was supportive and doing the bare minimum shows the lack of respect and support women get after marriage. Truly devastating.
@@serena3673my grandma still has this mentally. Being handled by the mother in law. I found it ridiculous but now i feel sorry bc this is what she really had to deal with. My grandma is like "learn this bfr ur mother in law teaches u the hard way". Im like which bish? Bish in law? Let any witch wrong me once I'll put her in place. And who says im getting married? I might, I might not. Im glad we grow up in a time we are free to do whatever
Noor Asma no it’s not. It depends on the girl and boy. There r a lot of ppl who get married earlier or later, and they r happy. So it entirely depends on the person.
I bet ruchita you're 10 year old... Don't be afraid, it's not like that, both men and women seek company, it's natural... Nothing nightmarish if she consents
No.....I didn't mean that....its so harmful for a little girl....girls 'offspring are at increased risk for premature birth and death as neonates, infants...that's why I wrote that....
@@ranajitgoswami6993 aww yeah.. I'm sorry :( I just can't stand this video like the way it ended I was hoping that someone will help her to get the fuck out but the ending was disappointment :(
Child marriage is a common problem in Bangladesh even when I was 15 years old I used to get many marriage proposals but no one can marry me for my mother's support. Today I am 19 years old and now I going to Getting my university admissions preparation ☺️☺️
The mother-in-law though....she is responsible for the miscarriage Being an adult she should have known asking a child from child could be very disastrous and even though the birth was due to happening she didn't even told the daughter-in-law to rest or gave her proper nourishment or still find a skilled midwife .. she just went on telling the DIL to do heavy works and tiring the pregnant girl more and more which is not really healthy for her and the baby.. It's a pity that the most human thing to do don't even exist in the MIL. It's like the girl is just the servant of the MIL... I hate this
@gandam sheeba My mom had been married off at 14 and well let's just the real shit is not that but the shits after the wedding ... so yeah....its really common in india and other parts in the world but still a real messed up and suffocated life for the Young Bride or Young Groom..... I can just say I Hate This old "tradition"
People are blaming the parents I agree they are wrong But think deeper That's their education That's how they were brought up The same way we've been learning ABCD It won't be easy to automatically adjust to another way of learning the alphabets The same way Child mariage is in their culture, it's their education, that's how they were brought up and that's how their parents married them off The change will come The case of this girl She's been educated She won't choose the same for her daughter She knows the risks and dangers She knows it's wrong What's important is education Baby steps add up These practices will take time to be eradicated But with the proper education, it will
After seeing this ...I will never ever complain abt my life to God ..coz He gave me a good life which I was not aware of it before....Thank You God for this beautiful life that u have given to me...I wish all the female who is living on this earth live a good and prosperous life bless all ur child God....Amen🙏🙏
Imagine this: You go through pregnancy and birth. Exhauseted but glad you survived, you are breast feeding for the first time while looking down on the most precious creature in your life: Your baby girl. ... and knowing that the only thing that awaits her in the future is a life of abuse and hardship. Now you start to feel that cold emptiness inside, the complete absence of any emotion, like falling inside a black hole. This is how my grandmother described the birth of her first daughter to me, 11 years old. I felt like suffocating, I still can't imagine how helpless she must have felt. That was the same day I swore to myself to never have children of my own. When I grew older I wanted to adopt as many girls as I could. Today I am supporting MICROFINANCE CHARITIES instead. Adoption is one of the best things imaginable, the sexual orientation of the parents shouldn't matter to anyone involved. If possible, children should grow up knowing their biological parents/mothers. Change always begins with mothers. Women knowing how to support themselves and their children are most likely not willing to endure an abusive marriage. An independent and headstrong mother is the best role model every girl can have. More important, the only way for a man to respect women is by learning it from his mother as a child. Fathers are also important, don't get me wrong. But all over the planet and throughout human history most women were on their own. Men started wars and then forced other men to fight in those wars. Leaving behind mothers, sisters, wifes and daughters. And there was/is the "hit it and quit it" type of course. Even with men around, raising children has always been a domain for women, not because women were particularly eager to change diapers and breast feed all day, but them having those two dairy farms and stuff - you get it right!? Because they are good at it, they are stuck with it for eternity. Not to forget every woman's god given purpose in life. Then not to forget the obeying men thing because of the whole rib thing and being a servant thing et cetera. Just giving women some money won't change their lives. Those institutions are helping women from all over the world to build up their own small business. By paying back the micro loan they received, they help financing other women and their small businesses. A global network of helping hands. Every country has it's own list of trusted charities and their international partners. Just contact any of them to make sure your money will be put to good use. After two decades of research I can assure everbody: This is by far the best and most sustainable form of "welfare".
My mom's grandma got pregnant at 14 . We are not allowed to pursue higher education.The rule of my family is that girl should get married at 19 yrs old. And after marriage Washing dishes ,take of children .
You don’t understand in India it’s their culture (Sirine your right) they are sometimes forced to have children it’s just their culture and it would be against it if they wouldn’t so he probably does feel bad impregnating her at this age.... but besides all of this he seems to care for her for example he seemed to care for her rest and he was very kind to her
well its common in bangladesh ..my mom got married at 15 , had me at 16 and my brother at 18 ..even though my grandpa was a highly established person but to him daughters are nothing but a piece of product to sell ..
@@haninm583 I see 🤔 hair like that is common here in South Asia, that's why I found this comment a bit striking... Well, I know though, the secret to that hair is sea foods, because the region that the actor belongs to has that as its staple diet, fishes basically
Its so sad and heartbreaking. I almost cried watching the girl suffering through so many things.. How could their parents be so heartless that they married her at young age 13 ...
What fictional,this is what these young girl children has to go through,this is so wrong on many many levels.When is this going to changeI HOPE TO GOD THAT IT IS SOON RATHER THAN LATER.MY HEART BLEEDS EVERYTIME I SEE A VIDEO LIKE THIS.
The good thing is that despite having been ripped away from her youth, she got to marry a caring man who actually wanted to learn and help her out. Most girls who are forced into such childhood marriages never get the proper education nor the proper care and therefore are abused and even die in such unhealthy conditions... The truth is that we need more companies like (Image plus) who go to rural places and try and teach these people the right way to take care of one's health when in this kind of situation. Really powerful video!! Side note; People need to learn to let their children be children, IF YOU CAN'T BEAR THE BURDEN OF HAVING TO PAY FOR A CHILD'S LIFE AND TUITION DON'T GO ON AND HAVE 20 CHILDREN!! EDUCATE YOURSELVES!!
Everybody is talking about the situation in India. But this short film portrays the real scenario of rural Bangladesh. So let's acknowledge that. Thank you
I was forced to marry at the age of 15 if allah Blessed me with a baby girl i will make her an educated and i will let her free what ever she wanted to do............
This makes me so sad, I don’t know how can your own parents sacrifice you at such a young age. The part where the girl was telling her mom that she didn’t want to get married and her mom didn’t even said anything or stop the plans for the marriage and acting so cold like her child was nothing, breaks my heart, I wouldn’t stand it having a mother like that. I really thank God for the mother I have she’s everything to me she’s the nicest and forgiven and most loving person I know. We people that have everything we need to be thankful for everything we have and for our families, and I really feel bad for all the girls that have to go through this, this is so unfair so disgusting I won’t ever agree with this, I would give my life for my children idk how these mothers just sit there and act like nothing’s happening like it doesn’t matter it’s unbelievable.
Awww this is sad that my country is so behind (due to theiving colonisers) so sad😢 that ppl still marry off theor girls due to poverty My inlaws are living like queens 👸 whilst we are like servants earning & paying for their lavish lives. They should see how their neighbours live!
@@sunaynananiwal5028 Neither. You're comment is just very... weird. Most people here understood the story by reading the subtitles. It's nothing new or special. It's like me saying "I watched the video with my eyes."
Can we talk about how she shouldn't be bearing children or being married off at 13 years of age? I know that you should protect a mother and child, but this feels like it's just glossing over the whole problem. If she'd stayed in school she wouldn't have the issue of poverty and SHE could provide for her parents.
@@gorillagripcoochie631 Does not make it ok to sell off your daughter. If she had gone to school and stayed home, she could have had an education. It's why these poor countries stay so poor.
@@gorillagripcoochie631 well then, as harsh as it might sound, those countries need to put educating their people first. It might not be easy but a country which does not educate their people will always have huge financial disparities. That's been the stepping stone for nearly every developed nation. Forcing your uneducated daughter to wed at an early age doesn't make you any less poor and only perpetuates the problem.
@@gorillagripcoochie631 Its the people living in these countries that dont stand up and you know, they have such big populations it wouldn't be so crazy to think they could force some real change. It's sad. But the thing about advertisements like this, is that they normalize something that, uneven in their own country, should be seen negatively by the people.
@@gorillagripcoochie631 As someone who comes from one of these cultures, excusing their actions just keeps them going. The adults who’re abusing their own children don’t require sympathy or understanding, but the innocent children deserve and need a loving childhood. Obfuscating the abuse by calling it “normal” helps no one and simply continues the cycle of abuse.
@@draphy7026 I’m embarrassed. I wrote my comments a year ago and my view has definitely changed. I agree that excusing the culture is being complicit in it
