There is a huge factor in self development but there is so much to be learned, grown, and blessed through our community, especially with our special life companion 😭😭
@@NameePark yes exactly. Like how do you expect to have a life together if you are constantly trying to live as if you are alone. I don’t get some people. I’ve been with my husband since I was 16. We have grown and learned so much throughout the years. FROM EACH OTHER, and on our own. It’s called love and support, and I think people forget what that is these days.
Your partner should absolutely support you and have your back, I 100% agree with that, but I think people are more saying you shouldn’t be so dependent on your partner to the point that it’s toxic.
namee 🥺 you're so strong and I'm sending so much love to you and your family. its hard but sometimes accepting the reality of your feelings and situation is much more freeing than holding on and wishing for change. its like that one quote: "sometimes holding on is more painful than letting go." you're a wonderful mother to your kids and tbh the way you interact with them is something i note and try to reflect in my teaching (mini update: graduted music and going to teachers college in the fall to become an elementary music teacher). i wish you nothing but peace and happiness as you navigate this tricky bump in your life right now 🤍 p.s. the bangs are cute 🙈 baby bangs always suit you
4:13 I relate to you so heavily here, dealing with the same issues. It’s hard having to parent yourself and your parents emotionally. Coming to terms and letting go of expectations has given me so much more peace and confidence.
I’ve never heard the term “folded your heart” and I love it.. so fitting. I’m sorry to hear about your father. You are so strong. Thank you for sharing 🤍
Hi Namee!! The bangs look super cute! Also, it makes me and I'm sure many many others feel happy and comfortable that you feel comfortable enough to share these things with the people that watch your videos, especially since people are going through similar things. We are all going through different things so it's relieving to hear what someone else is going through and knowing that we aren't alone!
Yay !!! I really like them !!!! Thank you for your thoughts here, it really puts things into new perspectives for me !! We definitely are not alone no matter how much we may feel or believe this- it’s so far from the truth!!!
You are already doing the RIGHT thing without losing yourself and your deep heart. I admire you being so beautiful and strong inside outside. Love you Nami chan❤
Thank you koko-nee I am really grateful for all the special mother and older sister figures in my life that I can receive feedback and support from in ways that I can learn and grow from !! Thank you for all of your wisdom and love and care, you are truly a blessing to all lives you touch ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
I don't know the truth and any nitty gritty of the relationship between you and your mum. But I feel like going through family therapy would be beneficial for both of you. I used to be independent, and I regret this. I lost my mum, and I wish I'd relied on her a bit more, just having conversations, and being nice together. I can't say about this relationship, but I feel that you want that mother-daughter bond, but you know you can't because of the way she is. So, that's why I think maybe fanily therapy may be good. I thank you for being so open to us, and at the end of the day, you are doing great already!!!! Don't doubt yourself, and take a break if needed!
Thanks for your thoughts Anna!! I’m very sorry to hear and hope your journey reflecting on your relationship has been transformative, nurturing, and kind to you. We did attend family therapy twice- once when I was in 3rd grade but it was an English-spoken group program and didn’t change a lot for us. The second time was with one of her contacts once but only to get a consultation on our family relational dynamics when I was in high school. My most recent therapist I saw for a year told me last year that therapy may not be for my mother and that is okay because there is people it works for and people it crushes. My therapist said that she must’ve gone through too much that even speaking about it may feel like falling off a cliff instead of taking two steps back like it would for some others. I’ve laid the desire to rest for good for my mom to change as a mother and have decided to treat the mother I needed as a child and need as an adjust as non-existent and just see her personhood as just a sister in faith. These days, I am focusing on and practicing gratitude towards my mother-like figures and how God has given me so much through them in both my times of need and times of joy. Thank you so much for being open and sharing your thoughts and suggestions as well, I feel I can really rely on you to give caring and constructive encouragements as well as practical actions. Thank you so much I love you so much
@Namee Park @Namee Park I see, so it clearly hasn't worked. I'm proud of you for stepping back and realising what may not work ever, and for knowing the limits. It's great that you are practising gratitude for the other mother-figures in your life, and I wish you the best with that!! Ill be here anytime! I love you so much too!! You really have been basically my older sister. I learnt makeup skills by watching the videos and just general entertainment and growth too. I would have never known I had tonsil stones if I didn't see that one video about your tonsillectomy, I now have booked a referal to an ear, nose and throat specialist. I've spent the past 4 years watching your videos, and it feels like we grew and progressed together!! Please do take it slow and steady and to not rush anything!! Sending big fat hugs over!! 🩷🩷🫶🏻
I hear you when you say you’re okay with not having a mother in your life anymore, emotionally. At 20 I’ve already accepted that I don’t really have a mom either. My dad is awesome but he’s not the best person to go to for emotional advice because bro grew up in the 60s and 70s and so has a different perspective on emotional health.
Yes I really agree with you in that we have to seek the people with similar values and mindset but with more wisdom to obtain feedback, advice, and emotional support from!!!
I respect you for taking control of your life and try to be better in everything you are doing and for cutting ties that are bad for you. You need genuinely support and positivism not clowns that try to make a joke of everything you are going through. Also, you look so beautiful with micro bangs!!❤ I hope everything goes smoothly for now on in your life and remember we all have episodes and that part of learning and it's okay, we need to learn how to control them step by step. If you don't feel good today voice it, if you in a couple of minutes feel great voice it also. Humans are not mind readers so always express what you are feeling so others can help properly.😊 I would never understand how other people get off with others suffering. Depression is not a illness to take lightly or make fun of it like if is just a show to enjoy. They need to educate themselves before talking nonsense. There's is people that can be independent and do thing for themselves and there's is others that needs a system support and both of them a okay! We are all different and we don't process life situations the same way, even though it can be the same or a similar situation.
Giiiirl! I feel the exact same way about how my mother still tries to mother me! Like I’m 2 years away from being 30! Stop trying to be the parent you weren’t when I was a child 💀💀
i have the same relationship with my mum like how u have with your mum ):.. *hugs* I’m always happy that u have friends, michael n the kids to lean on at all these times ❤️
I can relate to this well. My dad is emotionally unavailable (and he's very selfish and a narcissist) and my mum has brain damage that she's had for most of her life (but we weren't aware of until last year) so she's emotionally immature and requires parenting. I can relate a lot to that feeling of mourning the loss of being a parented child, especially when you look back on your childhood and see the loneliness and those unmet needs you had, and then you have to grow up and learn to parent yourself. It's hard to not be resentful and instead understand where your parents are coming from, especially when you know that they don't do anything for you. But it makes you the most emotionally intelligent and caring person and so I like to tell myself that I can use my empathy to do great things
Hello!!! Long time no see! Love ur bangs!!! Nami don't cry again!!! I saw ur last video with popsicle stick!!! My Grandmother passed away on easter. It sad but she's now in a better place!!! I believe in an after life too!!! I'm sick right now.
Oh Namee we have such similar stories with and feelings towards our parents... I'm sorry you have been through this. We are strong, loving people and deserved better... Hugs!
Ironically and sadly it’s comforting to know I’m not the only who suffers from a broken mother-daughter relationship. My mother had me very late. Shes had 3 other kids before me. At that point, she was done being a mother and resulted in me being neglected. My dad did not partake in raising me. I felt as if I had to fend for myself my whole life. I would cry and drown in self pity. When I turned 18 I told myself I needed to stop whining (even though you’re barely an adult at that age). As I got older I realized that is far from the truth. The trauma of being neglected sticks and your inner child will cry out.
Namee! We found each other through our experiences. Also 100% it is Michael's job!!! You're on a road that is pushing you to the top and the saying is that at the top its lonely but that's because the closer you are to the light, the more exposure hits those who are uncomfortable with themselves so they project onto you to escape the light
The "Could have" and the "Would have", mainly the "What if'"s are painful. I've been grieving those for a long time. Dear Namee, wasting time in the past possibilities is weaking and debilitating. I did it for 30 years. I am about to turn 31 and cannot express how liberating it is to let go and to love the now and the beauty around you. My situation is nothing compared to yours, but I also have had a difficult relationship with my Mother. But let me tell you that when I stopped seeing her as my mother and as a wife and only saw her as... well, her, my relationship changed. Because for the longest time I forgot that she is also many other things than just the tittles of "Mother", "Wife", etc. She is a person who I had not given a chance to meet outside of those. Please don't let go of joy, hope and definetly, don't let go of God througout this process, because if it wasn't for His love, I would't have made it this far.
Sending so much love to you namee!!! been following you for years silently, you are such a sweet soul and I pray healings and blessings over you and your families life!!!!
If we lived in the same state I would so comfort you and be an honorable friend! I know how you feel with a mother who won’t change, my father passing away when I was 17, and having awful depression. It’s awful and really ways you down. You are my comfort youtuber Namee! Been so since 2017! God has so much for us in the future I guarantee! I wish you and your family the best! You honestly saved me when I watched your channel, saved me from ending it. Keep being your lovely self! Andi from The state of Georgia! ❤
Hi Namee! I'm sorry if I missed it, but is your mother terminally ill as well or just an older woman? Also are you and Euodias still friends? I remember enjoying the content you both made together a few years back.
She is not yet however she is already emotionally dead to me as my mother and I have cut the relationship off outside of her grandmotherhood towards my children due to many factors within our history and dynamics.. Thank you for asking Lyndy! We are not- I also enjoyed the old content as well 💗
You seem like a narcissist.. talking about how your father will die with stoic calm but then crying because your mother won't provide for your needs? this video seems like you're just justifying betraying your conscience
Or maybe…she was hurt and overwhelmed and the more she talked about it she couldn’t hold back. She has candidly spoke about not feeling the support she needs and now she is dealing with an important figure dying and her mother not being a source of a support, while having 3 children and a job? Some of us don’t get emotionally initially talking and that is on purpose we know that talking sometimes turns into a downward spiral and we don’t have time to do that when people depend on us.
